Hi, my wife and I are planning an MMF for her and we met a great candidate today. He also lives in our neighborhood and is cheating on his wife (it’s complicated). Am I being paranoid by suggesting that perhaps we shouldn’t host him at our house but should use a hotel? |
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"Hi, my wife and I are planning an MMF for her and we met a great candidate today. He also lives in our neighborhood and is cheating on his wife (it’s complicated). Am I being paranoid by suggesting that perhaps we shouldn’t host him at our house but should use a hotel? "
It matters not if you or anyone else thinks you're being paranoid. If you're more comfortable in a hotel use one  x |
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"Experience has led us to never give our home address to anyone unless we know them quite well."
My wife thinks I am being paranoid. Have you ever had a problem in your personal experience? I have no problem with couples coming right on over and I could care less if they live close by. |
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"Experience has led us to never give our home address to anyone unless we know them quite well.
My wife thinks I am being paranoid. Have you ever had a problem in your personal experience? I have no problem with couples coming right on over and I could care less if they live close by. "
We've had a couple of incidents that have made us trust people less. These involved couples and single men.
I think it's up to the individual really. Is your concern that his wife will find out where you live? |
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OP is it the fact he is playing away and if his wife finds out she could come knocking on your door the reason for your apprehension?
The phrase "don't shit on your own doorstep" comes to mind. If you are willing to risk the potential shit storm of his wife finding out then have a great meet. If not look for someone else who is not local and/or not attached. |
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"Experience has led us to never give our home address to anyone unless we know them quite well.
I think it's up to the individual really. Is your concern that his wife will find out where you live?"
Yes, we have to live here and it’s a relatively small community. At least if she tracks her husband down at a hotel with us, she won’t know where we live or our names. I’m a teacher so being outed is rather detrimental to my career path. |
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"Experience has led us to never give our home address to anyone unless we know them quite well.
I think it's up to the individual really. Is your concern that his wife will find out where you live?
Yes, we have to live here and it’s a relatively small community. At least if she tracks her husband down at a hotel with us, she won’t know where we live or our names. I’m a teacher so being outed is rather detrimental to my career path."
Understood. You're not paranoid, you're sensible to be cautious in my opinion. |
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"Hi, my wife and I are planning an MMF for her and we met a great candidate today. He also lives in our neighborhood and is cheating on his wife (it’s complicated). Am I being paranoid by suggesting that perhaps we shouldn’t host him at our house but should use a hotel? "
because he has a wife and he's local I wouldn't just in case his wife has a private detective following him taking pics through living room and bedroom windows then reporting back to her  |
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"OP is it the fact he is playing away and if his wife finds out she could come knocking on your door the reason for your apprehension?
The phrase "don't shit on your own doorstep" comes to mind. If you are willing to risk the potential shit storm of his wife finding out then have a great meet. If not look for someone else who is not local and/or not attached."
I like to think that a little caution is reasonable. The wife showing up at the front door would obviously be the the worst case scenario. (Impossible to happen with a little caution.) That or her making some sort of stink in a public forum. |
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