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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Toys thrown out of pram. Makes them feel a bit better. Not a mature or helpful response, but if they were capable of it they wouldn't be in the pram.

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

The virtual 'having a tantrum', must make them feel better x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No need for people to be rude on here .. It's against site rules anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Toys thrown out of pram. Makes them feel a bit better. Not a mature or helpful response, but if they were capable of it they wouldn't be in the pram. "

Its getting worse I just don't get it surely people realise you can't reply to every message!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The virtual 'having a tantrum', must make them feel better x"

Its tantamount to bullying if you look objectively at it.

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By *969BewitchedWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

or call you names and make snide remarks when you say no thank you.

I can only assume their little egos are hurt. No need for it but hey ho, happens often here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No need for people to be rude on here .. It's against site rules anyway "

They still do it though.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Toys thrown out of pram. Makes them feel a bit better. Not a mature or helpful response, but if they were capable of it they wouldn't be in the pram.

Its getting worse I just don't get it surely people realise you can't reply to every message! "

Or the increasingly common message on statuses "I reply to all messages because I'm not ignorant like people on this site. Manners cost nothing".

They don't realise how much time and aggravation it would cost. And even if they're perfectly lovely, the least lovely people here are pestering through to abusive/ stalking/ threatening/ worse. Manners as defined by them are incredibly expensive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it? "

That is (fab) for you.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"The virtual 'having a tantrum', must make them feel better x

Its tantamount to bullying if you look objectively at it. "

It might work for them in real life, sadly. On here I don't have to consider my physical safety so much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it? "

useful filter to suggest you were right to ignore them, imagine being potentially trapped in a room with them if you changed your mind about playing...

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it?

useful filter to suggest you were right to ignore them, imagine being potentially trapped in a room with them if you changed your mind about playing..."

Definitely. Every step engaging here is a test on whether people understand consent...

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it? "

I dont know what it is about the Internet, but it seems brings out the worst in some people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No need for people to be rude on here .. It's against site rules anyway "

Some types of rude can be plesant

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"The virtual 'having a tantrum', must make them feel better x

Its tantamount to bullying if you look objectively at it. "

It is. I've had first messages that have been nasty and abusive too. Delete and block x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find the irony amusing, they send you abuse for being rude and not replying when in fact they are far more rude for going out of their way to be nasty!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can only assume their little egos are hurt. No need for it but hey ho, happens often here.

This would be my bet... pointless in the extreme, but some people are just that insecure

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Its like you haven't replied in the 5 mins since I sent you a message so im going to be really nasty and abusive to you because you haven't!

Is that really going to make someone want to meet them?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"The virtual 'having a tantrum', must make them feel better x

Its tantamount to bullying if you look objectively at it.

It is. I've had first messages that have been nasty and abusive too. Delete and block x"

Oh for sure. Unsolicited abusive messages are just lovely. Hi, person I don't know, I'm going to say horrible things about you!

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Its like you haven't replied in the 5 mins since I sent you a message so im going to be really nasty and abusive to you because you haven't!

Is that really going to make someone want to meet them?

Just because you're the only thing going on in their Fab world right now, doesn't mean they're the only thing in yours. But that would require them to understand that other perspectives exist.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you haven't replied to their other message surely the answer is simple, do what you did first time round?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

worse still is people who just dont reply, a "No thanks" is all it takes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"worse still is people who just dont reply, a "No thanks" is all it takes"

Some women get abuse for sending polite no thanks messages so this, and the fact some get 100's of messages and couldn't possibly relpy to them all is why many don't.

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By *airyfatmanMan over a year ago

by 'ere

Yes it’s frustrating as hell when you finally pluck up the courage to mail someone when you’re already telling yourself you’re “out of their league” to just see it read and deleted, or even get blocked, but that’s how people filter on here and it works for them. That’s life unfortunately. No need to get abusive then though

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If you haven't replied to their other message surely the answer is simple, do what you did first time round?

There's a massive difference between message one, "phwoar babe u so sexy" and message two "I didn't want you any way you (insults), (possibly threats)"

It's unpleasant at least, and depending on the contents, can be disturbing as well. I'm glad you don't understand, you don't want to.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"worse still is people who just dont reply, a "No thanks" is all it takes"

Delete without reply means no thank you. Per the rules.

I tried replying to everyone when I first joined, and learned quickly not to. You might be able to take a no thank you. Many people cannot.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Their ego feels better

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place "

When you get 30-300 (or more, those are my figures) messages a day, many of which are inappropriate or disgusting, and after you've tried replying politely and are abused, threatened, or reported as thanks, and then tell me how well that works for you.

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

It gets you to the point you block people on mass. Sounds like one of fabs petulant ones.

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By *tarbeckCouple over a year ago

york

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it? "
Thats what the block button is for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fab should take away the ability to see what the recipient has done with your message, it causes too much angst. We just delete our sent mail as soon as we've sent it then forget about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I often get abuse for not replying to all. yes I’m on here but it doesn’t mean I will go with anything though but some don’t get this so I block now x

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By *airyfatmanMan over a year ago

by 'ere

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place

I wish I could get that many

On second thoughts, it’s bad enough when you get 3 or 4 from guys who show as straight asking if you “wanna meet now and suck them off” at 2am when you’ve just got in from work

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Fab should take away the ability to see what the recipient has done with your message, it causes too much angst. We just delete our sent mail as soon as we've sent it then forget about it. "

I can just imagine the rise of "have you read my message yet? Have you have you have you oh please!"

People just need to stop feeling entitled to a reply.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Word soon gets around about people like this and not in a good way.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place

I wish I could get that many

On second thoughts, it’s bad enough when you get 3 or 4 from guys who show as straight asking if you “wanna meet now and suck them off” at 2am when you’ve just got in from work

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fab should take away the ability to see what the recipient has done with your message, it causes too much angst. We just delete our sent mail as soon as we've sent it then forget about it.

I can just imagine the rise of "have you read my message yet? Have you have you have you oh please!"

People just need to stop feeling entitled to a reply. "

Yep, or this

I, Miss F, on my single profile, used to go thru my messages, save the ones I was interested in replying to then mass delete my inbox. This obviously showed as read/deleted to the sender so sometimes got abuse for that when in fact they had no idea I'd saved it and was interested, well, until they kindly showed their true colours and saved me the bother!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people just dont like rejection no matter how polite you try to be

Cant be everyone's cup of tea just move on.

I'd normally just ignore but some are just absolute cock wombles

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By *airyfatmanMan over a year ago

by 'ere

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place

I wish I could get that many

On second thoughts, it’s bad enough when you get 3 or 4 from guys who show as straight asking if you “wanna meet now and suck them off” at 2am when you’ve just got in from work

Multiply that by ten or more, and you can see why I have a problem. Yes I'm looking for guys! Doesn't mean I want all manner of message from all manner of guy. Or that there's anything wrong with me for doing what I have to do to protect against the worst of them. "
I completely agree with you. I never expect a reply from anyone I message, and as I said earlier, it’s disheartening when you don’t get one from someone you really like, especially when you’ve put effort into the message, but that’s just the way it is. I’ve actually done it and ignored messages - mainly from new people only a few mins onsite saying “lush pics” (so obviously need specsavers too haha) whonthen delete profile within the next hour lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cathartic probably.

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By *uma69Man over a year ago

stockport

Tbh ive given up messaging to save wasting time on someone who cant be arsed reading or replying to it so i just wink and send an invite then if someone is interested they wink back and then you can start to chat and yeah I do get a lot of blocks but that helps to cut the numbers down of people who aren't or worth my time xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can take a no reply or even a no thank you.Thats how it is on fab. There's no need to be funny with people fab is like a box of chocolates. We can't all like the same things.

As a single guy I get abuse too if I reply with a no thank you you're not for me .. Believe me some people get really offended by that. At least I replied

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place

I wish I could get that many

On second thoughts, it’s bad enough when you get 3 or 4 from guys who show as straight asking if you “wanna meet now and suck them off” at 2am when you’ve just got in from work

I often wondered though why those that get so many messages, just dont put up filters and only message those that they are interested in that way they would be unlikely to get so many unwanted messages.

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

Got a couple of single lady friends on here. They often send me a Screenshot of some “nice guy” Incel losing his shit over his lot in life.

Tis amusing to see but I bet not to receive.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place

I wish I could get that many

On second thoughts, it’s bad enough when you get 3 or 4 from guys who show as straight asking if you “wanna meet now and suck them off” at 2am when you’ve just got in from work

Because the search capability only goes up to 300, so searching for men is extremely difficult/ frankly fails in a more populated area. I've tried. There are way less women, so searching for women is easier. I do occasionally message men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Frustration mainly drives them to lash out is my guess

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Got a couple of single lady friends on here. They often send me a Screenshot of some “nice guy” Incel losing his shit over his lot in life.

Tis amusing to see but I bet not to receive. "

When I landed in hospital last year I got an untold amount of abuse for causing guys I'd politely said "maybe but not yet because I've just landed in hospital" to. Oh the pain, horror and blue balls. The result of my hospitalisation still hurts me every day and will burden me for the rest of my life. I'm sure they've wanked since then and thus solved the terrible tragedy I inflicted upon them

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By *uma69Man over a year ago

stockport

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place "

why? they didn't ask for you to message them, they're clearly not interested in you, so why would they waste their time entering into dialogue with you? Would you really prefer an inbox full of rejection from every previously unanswered message?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Bah. Need more coffee. The pain I caused those guys.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it? "

It's like when a guy asks a girl out and she's gorgeous then she says no and he replies I didn't like you anyway.

What's that all about ?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Frustration mainly drives them to lash out is my guess "

This and lack of self confidence and respect. Its sad they lack the maturity to just take it on the chin, as others have said, no one is for everyone.

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By *airyfatmanMan over a year ago

by 'ere

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place

I wish I could get that many

On second thoughts, it’s bad enough when you get 3 or 4 from guys who show as straight asking if you “wanna meet now and suck them off” at 2am when you’ve just got in from work

Definitely less women so easier to find them, but much more difficult to get a reply (from a man’s perspective at least) as so many other men messaging. I’ve got into the habit reverently of adding people I like the look of to my hotlist and checking the profile a few times over a week or so to see if anything changes or if I’m likely to be of interest before I message. Still doesn’t work though haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place

I wish I could get that many

On second thoughts, it’s bad enough when you get 3 or 4 from guys who show as straight asking if you “wanna meet now and suck them off” at 2am when you’ve just got in from work

It still doesn't mean they owe the people they're not interested in a reply...

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it?

It's like when a guy asks a girl out and she's gorgeous then she says no and he replies I didn't like you anyway.

What's that all about ?!

Happens to me every day. I delete a message declaring that I'm the most beautiful woman on Fab. Oh sorry wrong person, I wouldn't fuck you anyway you fat ugly slut.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

They get the immediate 'pain relief', that soothes their ego. They may end up with longer-term pain, as it impairs their ability to meet others. They must typically have issues relating to relaxation and letting things go and also externalise responsibilities for their own life and results, rather than accept more of it, as their own.

Typically such people are blown along by life's circumstances, somewhat like a human drift . It could be thought of as a little like the emotional maturity level of a child, who stamps and screams, when they don't get what they want and haven't grasped that there's an alternative. Who'd want someone who takes a back seat role in life, on a meet anyway?

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By *uma69Man over a year ago

stockport

"Frustration mainly drives them to lash out is my guess "

It's just wrong to send abuse

Toys out the pram id say and yes it can be annoying not getting a reply but that's life but still Pam is always around to sort your needs lol

The main problem is the lack of genuine women who actually meet in my opinion

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

'like a human drift ' - it should have said

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

"'like a human drift' - it should have said"

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

"a certain element of the word isn't appropriate for the forum"

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By *OXO2018Couple over a year ago

Norfolk

If that happens to us I’m always happy I never replied because I don’t want people like that in my life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"worse still is people who just dont reply, a "No thanks" is all it takes

Delete without reply means no thank you. Per the rules.

I tried replying to everyone when I first joined, and learned quickly not to. You might be able to take a no thank you. Many people cannot. "
i understand that as it prevents

others from messaging again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you haven't replied to their other message surely the answer is simple, do what you did first time round?

There's a massive difference between message one, "phwoar babe u so sexy" and message two "I didn't want you any way you (insults), (possibly threats)"

It's unpleasant at least, and depending on the contents, can be disturbing as well. I'm glad you don't understand, you don't want to. "

It was meant as a tounge in cheek reply...

Please don't tell me what I understand and what I dont. That's something you cannot know.

However I do agree that some here may be abusive from behind a screen, but there is a core reality, unless they know you, they are just someone behind a screen, making noise, with probably a sense of frustration, just how many threads do we see about that on here?

Some people forget there are other people behind any message sent or received. That works in two directions.

And no I don't think it's right that anyone should be made to feel afraid because of any message they receive, but perhaps a little perspective is called for?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If you haven't replied to their other message surely the answer is simple, do what you did first time round?

There's a massive difference between message one, "phwoar babe u so sexy" and message two "I didn't want you any way you (insults), (possibly threats)"

It's unpleasant at least, and depending on the contents, can be disturbing as well. I'm glad you don't understand, you don't want to.

It was meant as a tounge in cheek reply...

Please don't tell me what I understand and what I dont. That's something you cannot know.

Some people forget there are other people behind any message sent or received. That works in two directions.

And no I don't think it's right that anyone should be made to feel afraid because of any message they receive, but perhaps a little perspective is called for?

Well no, because we've also had threads mentioning people finding other Fab members out shopping or with their kids. The line between online and Fab exists, but it's not impossible to breach without your consent.

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By *piritsonfabCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"Frustration mainly drives them to lash out is my guess

It's just wrong to send abuse

Toys out the pram id say and yes it can be annoying not getting a reply but that's life but still Pam is always around to sort your needs lol

The main problem is the lack of genuine women who actually meet in my opinion"

Loads of women in clubs all over UK every weekend would tend to disprove that.....

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By *uma69Man over a year ago

stockport

"If you haven't replied to their other message surely the answer is simple, do what you did first time round?

There's a massive difference between message one, "phwoar babe u so sexy" and message two "I didn't want you any way you (insults), (possibly threats)"

It's unpleasant at least, and depending on the contents, can be disturbing as well. I'm glad you don't understand, you don't want to.

It was meant as a tounge in cheek reply...

Please don't tell me what I understand and what I dont. That's something you cannot know.

Some people forget there are other people behind any message sent or received. That works in two directions.

And no I don't think it's right that anyone should be made to feel afraid because of any message they receive, but perhaps a little perspective is called for?

Wow if users go to that extreme i can bet there not genuine and would only have the basic account

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By *uma69Man over a year ago

stockport

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By *uma69Man over a year ago

stockport

"Frustration mainly drives them to lash out is my guess

It's just wrong to send abuse

Toys out the pram id say and yes it can be annoying not getting a reply but that's life but still Pam is always around to sort your needs lol

The main problem is the lack of genuine women who actually meet in my opinion

Loads of women in clubs all over UK every weekend would tend to disprove that.....

Are we talking standard night clubs here x

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If you haven't replied to their other message surely the answer is simple, do what you did first time round?

There's a massive difference between message one, "phwoar babe u so sexy" and message two "I didn't want you any way you (insults), (possibly threats)"

It's unpleasant at least, and depending on the contents, can be disturbing as well. I'm glad you don't understand, you don't want to.

It was meant as a tounge in cheek reply...

Please don't tell me what I understand and what I dont. That's something you cannot know.

Some people forget there are other people behind any message sent or received. That works in two directions.

And no I don't think it's right that anyone should be made to feel afraid because of any message they receive, but perhaps a little perspective is called for?

Wow if users go to that extreme i can bet there not genuine and would only have the basic account "

Uh. I'm not sure paying a fiver a month or less proves anything!

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Frustration mainly drives them to lash out is my guess

It's just wrong to send abuse

Toys out the pram id say and yes it can be annoying not getting a reply but that's life but still Pam is always around to sort your needs lol

The main problem is the lack of genuine women who actually meet in my opinion

Loads of women in clubs all over UK every weekend would tend to disprove that.....

Are we talking standard night clubs here x"

... Swinging clubs?

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By *uma69Man over a year ago

stockport

"If you haven't replied to their other message surely the answer is simple, do what you did first time round?

There's a massive difference between message one, "phwoar babe u so sexy" and message two "I didn't want you any way you (insults), (possibly threats)"

It's unpleasant at least, and depending on the contents, can be disturbing as well. I'm glad you don't understand, you don't want to.

It was meant as a tounge in cheek reply...

Please don't tell me what I understand and what I dont. That's something you cannot know.

Some people forget there are other people behind any message sent or received. That works in two directions.

And no I don't think it's right that anyone should be made to feel afraid because of any message they receive, but perhaps a little perspective is called for?

Wow if users go to that extreme i can bet there not genuine and would only have the basic account

Uh. I'm not sure paying a fiver a month or less proves anything! "

Good point I suppose.

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By *piritsonfabCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

Yeah....I meant swinging clubs of course;)

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By *uma69Man over a year ago

stockport

"Frustration mainly drives them to lash out is my guess

It's just wrong to send abuse

Toys out the pram id say and yes it can be annoying not getting a reply but that's life but still Pam is always around to sort your needs lol

The main problem is the lack of genuine women who actually meet in my opinion

Loads of women in clubs all over UK every weekend would tend to disprove that.....

Are we talking standard night clubs here x

... Swinging clubs? "

Ok ill have to get to one then and find out for myself and I bet id end up going home and seeing Pam anyway

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Frustration mainly drives them to lash out is my guess

It's just wrong to send abuse

Toys out the pram id say and yes it can be annoying not getting a reply but that's life but still Pam is always around to sort your needs lol

The main problem is the lack of genuine women who actually meet in my opinion

Loads of women in clubs all over UK every weekend would tend to disprove that.....

Are we talking standard night clubs here x

... Swinging clubs?

Ok ill have to get to one then and find out for myself and I bet id end up going home and seeing Pam anyway "

You're spoiled for choice around here. There are heaps of them.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

It's the internet, makes people brave

They wouldn't say half the stuff they do if they were face to face with the other.

Miss

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By *uma69Man over a year ago

stockport

"Frustration mainly drives them to lash out is my guess

It's just wrong to send abuse

Toys out the pram id say and yes it can be annoying not getting a reply but that's life but still Pam is always around to sort your needs lol

The main problem is the lack of genuine women who actually meet in my opinion

Loads of women in clubs all over UK every weekend would tend to disprove that.....

Are we talking standard night clubs here x

... Swinging clubs?

Ok ill have to get to one then and find out for myself and I bet id end up going home and seeing Pam anyway

You're spoiled for choice around here. There are heaps of them. "

I only know of one or two but still a bit awkward you in on your own id rather go with someone

How much for a single bloke any ideas

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By *piritsonfabCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"Frustration mainly drives them to lash out is my guess

It's just wrong to send abuse

Toys out the pram id say and yes it can be annoying not getting a reply but that's life but still Pam is always around to sort your needs lol

The main problem is the lack of genuine women who actually meet in my opinion

Loads of women in clubs all over UK every weekend would tend to disprove that.....

Are we talking standard night clubs here x

... Swinging clubs?

Ok ill have to get to one then and find out for myself and I bet id end up going home and seeing Pam anyway "

Quite likely.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Frustration mainly drives them to lash out is my guess

It's just wrong to send abuse

Toys out the pram id say and yes it can be annoying not getting a reply but that's life but still Pam is always around to sort your needs lol

The main problem is the lack of genuine women who actually meet in my opinion

Loads of women in clubs all over UK every weekend would tend to disprove that.....

Are we talking standard night clubs here x

... Swinging clubs?

Ok ill have to get to one then and find out for myself and I bet id end up going home and seeing Pam anyway

You're spoiled for choice around here. There are heaps of them.

I only know of one or two but still a bit awkward you in on your own id rather go with someone

How much for a single bloke any ideas "

Look on their websites, read the reviews here, do your homework. Single guys usually pay a high premium.

I don't think "I don't want to go on my own" often works to get someone to go with you. When I go with someone, it's someone I know and trust.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just had one ourselves as we didn't message straight away. Got the why haven't you messaged I think it rude not to reply. We reply with "go forth and multiply" and blocked

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By *taceylacyCouple over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

Just block anybody who sends abusive messages or posts on forum. You never have to bother with them again until they set up another profile, you get to notice traits in vindictive people by their messages so simply block them.

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By *uma69Man over a year ago

stockport

"Frustration mainly drives them to lash out is my guess

It's just wrong to send abuse

Toys out the pram id say and yes it can be annoying not getting a reply but that's life but still Pam is always around to sort your needs lol

The main problem is the lack of genuine women who actually meet in my opinion

Loads of women in clubs all over UK every weekend would tend to disprove that.....

Are we talking standard night clubs here x

... Swinging clubs?

Ok ill have to get to one then and find out for myself and I bet id end up going home and seeing Pam anyway

You're spoiled for choice around here. There are heaps of them.

I only know of one or two but still a bit awkward you in on your own id rather go with someone

How much for a single bloke any ideas

Look on their websites, read the reviews here, do your homework. Single guys usually pay a high premium.

I don't think "I don't want to go on my own" often works to get someone to go with you. When I go with someone, it's someone I know and trust. "

Me saying I don't want to go on my own wasnt a me asking and having that 1 you know and trust is great but if people don't reply theres nothing to build on really

So maybe paying premium rates and settling for a wank is the way to go xx

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

With an attitude like that, honestly, I'd save the time and money.

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By *uma69Man over a year ago

stockport

"With an attitude like that, honestly, I'd save the time and money. "

Haha lol attitude none intended x

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By *piritsonfabCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

Honestly it sounds so babyish..."I don't wanna go on my own"...

I hear it a lot. It's indicative of a character that probably won't have much success no matter what the platform...

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Honestly it sounds so babyish..."I don't wanna go on my own"...

I hear it a lot. It's indicative of a character that probably won't have much success no matter what the platform..."

I sort of get it. Clubs are intimidating for newcomers, particularly guys, and for guys they're expensive.

But if you're not able to get over that hurdle, you won't enjoy clubs.

As a woman it also feels a bit like, I want to use you to get in on the cheap and hey now we're here, let's fuck! So not down for that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They are almost as funny as guys that call you a time waster because they didn't read your profile before messaging, then find out they aren't what you are looking for

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"They are almost as funny as guys that call you a time waster because they didn't read your profile before messaging, then find out they aren't what you are looking for

Or the ones without pictures or verifications calling you fake for deleting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had abuse from women for not replying.

Find it highly amusing really.

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By *uma69Man over a year ago

stockport

"Honestly it sounds so babyish..."I don't wanna go on my own"...

I hear it a lot. It's indicative of a character that probably won't have much success no matter what the platform..."

That's starting to get slightly abusive in a polite way well done you

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By *piritsonfabCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"Honestly it sounds so babyish..."I don't wanna go on my own"...

I hear it a lot. It's indicative of a character that probably won't have much success no matter what the platform...

That's starting to get slightly abusive in a polite way well done you "

Not at all. Abuse is usually personal - I get messages like that on a daily basis, so that's what I'm referring to.

The people we play with are already at the clubs having fun, and are fun to be with. Or course there are people who stand around wanking who don't get so much .... Shrug.

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Honestly it sounds so babyish..."I don't wanna go on my own"...

I hear it a lot. It's indicative of a character that probably won't have much success no matter what the platform...

That's starting to get slightly abusive in a polite way well done you "

Can you be abusive in a polite way?. They are right however.

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By * AND R 777Couple over a year ago

Teesside

We got some random abuse the other week from someone who had not even been in contact with us before

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had abuse from women for not replying.

Find it highly amusing really."

You love a bit of abuse!

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By *piritsonfabCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"We got some random abuse the other week from someone who had not even been in contact with us before

They just got in first lol lol

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By *uma69Man over a year ago

stockport

"Honestly it sounds so babyish..."I don't wanna go on my own"...

I hear it a lot. It's indicative of a character that probably won't have much success no matter what the platform...

That's starting to get slightly abusive in a polite way well done you

Not at all. Abuse is usually personal - I get messages like that on a daily basis, so that's what I'm referring to.

The people we play with are already at the clubs having fun, and are fun to be with. Or course there are people who stand around wanking who don't get so much .... Shrug.

Probably because they have gone on there own

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By *piritsonfabCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

Nope. We play with single guys. Hence we often go on Fridays. I also go to clubs on my own. Takes a few deep breaths and some grit, but hey ho;)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place

Basic manners, maybe. Not being rude, also.

Understandable if it’s a rude message but a general hello should get a reply

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Honestly it sounds so babyish..."I don't wanna go on my own"...

I hear it a lot. It's indicative of a character that probably won't have much success no matter what the platform...

That's starting to get slightly abusive in a polite way well done you

Not at all. Abuse is usually personal - I get messages like that on a daily basis, so that's what I'm referring to.

The people we play with are already at the clubs having fun, and are fun to be with. Or course there are people who stand around wanking who don't get so much .... Shrug.

Probably because they have gone on there own "

I know plenty of guys who go to clubs on their own, have for years, and have a great time. My two most recent veris are from guys who went to clubs on their own.

The ones who end up wanking don't want to talk to anyone, don't respect women, feel entitled to a shag, and don't obey basic social norms. You may or may not get laid at a club, but avoiding being part of the Wanking Dead is mostly a matter of basic social skills.

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By *piritsonfabCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"Honestly it sounds so babyish..."I don't wanna go on my own"...

I hear it a lot. It's indicative of a character that probably won't have much success no matter what the platform...

That's starting to get slightly abusive in a polite way well done you

Not at all. Abuse is usually personal - I get messages like that on a daily basis, so that's what I'm referring to.

The people we play with are already at the clubs having fun, and are fun to be with. Or course there are people who stand around wanking who don't get so much .... Shrug.

Probably because they have gone on there own

I know plenty of guys who go to clubs on their own, have for years, and have a great time. My two most recent veris are from guys who went to clubs on their own.

Exactly.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place

Basic manners, maybe. Not being rude, also.

Understandable if it’s a rude message but a general hello should get a reply"

Why? When you get too many to reply to and the hello reveals they haven't read your profile?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes it’s frustrating as hell when you finally pluck up the courage to mail someone when you’re already telling yourself you’re “out of their league” to just see it read and deleted, or even get blocked, but that’s how people filter on here and it works for them. That’s life unfortunately. No need to get abusive then though "

Its only sex. You shouldn't take things so personally. I'm sure you dont find every single person attractive. Well neither does anyone else. We all have our types.

Also there's the point of site rules. Which clearly state no reply means not interested. Every one is to accept that as our answer/reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had abuse from women for not replying.

Find it highly amusing really.

You love a bit of abuse!

I can take it, broad shoulders

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman over a year ago

Hampshire

I had a message this week from a guy telling me to "fuck off you miserable cunt" just because I asked for an explanation as to why he sent me a message containing a question mark??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place

I wish I could get that many

On second thoughts, it’s bad enough when you get 3 or 4 from guys who show as straight asking if you “wanna meet now and suck them off” at 2am when you’ve just got in from work

Hey Sharif hope you're well. Any how... I have my filters on to the max. I still receive timewasters messaging me. My profile isn't long and I'm not asking for much. However, I still receive many time wasters messaging me on a daily basis. I do on a semi regular basis search and message guys first. Again, been a waste of time because they aren't who their profile suggests they are.

I don't think there's a set way to make this site work effectively for individual needs due to how much some people lie on their profile.

Or those who act entilted by messaging others without bothering to read their profile wishes first. You just can't win!

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By *ames Hannah 40Couple over a year ago

bow street

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place "

If we reply to every message we got even the one that just say hi or sexy pic we won't have any time to do any think else

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Bad from people to send abuse when you don’t get a reply, but also bad from people to not reply when someone has made the effort to send them a message in the first place

Basic manners, maybe. Not being rude, also.

Understandable if it’s a rude message but a general hello should get a reply"

why should it?

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By *airyfatmanMan over a year ago

by 'ere

Its only sex. You shouldn't take things so personally. I'm sure you dont find every single person attractive. Well neither does anyone else. We all have our types.

Also there's the point of site rules. Which clearly state no reply means not interested. Every one is to accept that as our answer/reply. "

Exactly what I was kind of trying to say. There’s no need to start getting rude just because someone hasn’t replied, regardless of how frustrating it is. Just move on and get on with life.. lol

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By *atindollTV/TS over a year ago

edinburgh

I just toss those messages out into the field where I grow my fucks,its pretty fallow just now so I have no fucks to give.

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

If you ignore you get abused if you reply with no thanks you get abused its a no win situation.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If you ignore you get abused if you reply with no thanks you get abused its a no win situation.

Obviously the solution is to fuck them, then at least they win, right?

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By *anana JoeMan over a year ago

Sheffield

Its easy to see why so many don't reply reading this its sad really there is so little respect for others.

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I don't think there's a set way to make this site work effectively for individual needs due to how much some people lie on their profile.

Or those who act entilted by messaging others without bothering to read their profile wishes first. You just can't win!

I'm good thanks

Yeah I guess I hadn't considered that side of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fuck 'em.

Not literally.

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By *arex2Couple over a year ago

Bradford

Exactly! Just had one on Kik. Complete idiot. Thinks the whole world stops for him! No fucking idea!!!!

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I have, for the first time in for ages, been insulted by someone I politely declined. I don’t usually decline (I just ignore). I shall go back to just ignoring.

Of course I corrected his grammar, please if you are going to insult me use the correct “you’re” and I believe it’s fatty, not fattie.

I’ve not blocked though. Although he’ll probably block me. I won’t lose sleep.

V x

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By *inkycreamCouple over a year ago

manchester

It’s funny some people send something, you wind up a little and bang the true colours come flying out.

Sometimes a push gets the response you need to know stay clear

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By *piritsonfabCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"It’s funny some people send something, you wind up a little and bang the true colours come flying out.

Sometimes a push gets the response you need to know stay clear "

Good point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"worse still is people who just dont reply, a "No thanks" is all it takes

Some women get abuse for sending polite no thanks messages so this, and the fact some get 100's of messages and couldn't possibly relpy to them all is why many don't. "

Your so right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it? "
they gain nothing it's born from frustration and that solely comes from the need to message first

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it? "

It annoyed you enough to start a thread about it. Their job is done

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By *airyfatmanMan over a year ago

by 'ere

"I have, for the first time in for ages, been insulted by someone I politely declined. I don’t usually decline (I just ignore). I shall go back to just ignoring.

Of course I corrected his grammar, please if you are going to insult me use the correct “you’re” and I believe it’s fatty, not fattie.

I’ve not blocked though. Although he’ll probably block me. I won’t lose sleep.

V x "

I’ve just got home from work and decided to catch up with what I missed here and this has seriously cheered me up. Thank you very much for that. You should do it more often lol

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By *essica jamiesonWoman over a year ago

edinburgh

Bad form for not replying to a msg! Lol do u even realise how many msgs many females recieve on here? And then theres the abusive ones too if u dont reply! No one owes anyone anything on this site, if u choose to reply thats great if not its ur choice! I personally block if im not interested as it saves the abuse that many men send if ignored!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Toys thrown out of pram. Makes them feel a bit better. Not a mature or helpful response, but if they were capable of it they wouldn't be in the pram.

Its getting worse I just don't get it surely people realise you can't reply to every message! "

It's not even about can't reply it's effect of sometimes I just don't want and I have no problem in saying that.

Nobody should have any sense of entitlement regarding receiving a reply. you often see all "it's so rude" or "just bad Manners" but what's bad Manners is expecting someone to reply to an unsolicited message!

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By *xelf787Man over a year ago

Chorlton, Manchester

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it? "

Some in their twisted deluded minds may think that being offensive will get them a reply, not maybe the type of reply they want (ie I want you so bad!) but any reply as they as desperate and are craving attention.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it?

You could have a point I guess it's the old saying if some people think "bad attention is better than no attention".

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By *oolstewieMan over a year ago

Southampton

"Toys thrown out of pram. Makes them feel a bit better. Not a mature or helpful response, but if they were capable of it they wouldn't be in the pram.

Its getting worse I just don't get it surely people realise you can't reply to every message!

It's not even about can't reply it's effect of sometimes I just don't want and I have no problem in saying that.

A woman the other day who wants to meet but is also nervous said she was worried because in the past people have ranted at her publicly if she Changed her mind. So she is now so scared that will happen every time. Trying to reassure her not everyone is like it and life is to short to rant.

This is meant to be fun not stressful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's pride! They want to put you back in your place because they think you would be lucky to have them

rejection can be hard for some egos to take.

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By *oolstewieMan over a year ago

Southampton

"It's pride! They want to put you back in your place because they think you would be lucky to have them

rejection can be hard for some egos to take. "

Very true. For the person they gave the abuse to it is probably a lucky escape. Although might not seem like it at the time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not even about can't reply it's effect of sometimes I just don't want and I have no problem in saying that.

Exactly right. Nobody needs to justify the fact that they simply don't want to reply. It's not rudeness, nobody is entitled to anything. Everyone is allowed to reply or ignore as they see fit. Not wanting to is just as valid a reason as not having the time, etc.

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By *ennonoMan over a year ago

Wolverhampton

It's a shame there isn't an auto reply function saying no thankyou, which then blocks them from contacting you for 3 months

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it?

I dont know what it is about the Internet, but it seems brings out the worst in some people. "

It's because it's easy to abuse someone who does not know them or they will ever meet. Cowerdice that's all it is

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By *adyJayneWoman over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it?

useful filter to suggest you were right to ignore them, imagine being potentially trapped in a room with them if you changed your mind about playing...

Definitely. Every step engaging here is a test on whether people understand consent... "

Preach!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fortunately most of us are intelligent enough to realise that couples and single women will get in undated with messages. Yes it's disappointing not to get a reply but I take it as either not interested or my message just didn't stand out from the crowd. Move on, try again, be nice.

I have however been abused and threatened on a previous profile for giving just over 24 hours notice to cancel a meet. A family member had been rushed into hospital and I really wasn't in the mood. Did what I thought was the right thing and cancelled as soon as I knew. The husband threatened to track me down as nobody does that to them etc etc

There are idiots everywhere if you look hard enough this site just seems to bring the worst out in a few people.

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By *reenleavesCouple over a year ago

North Wales

We had a message from a couple last year who we liked the look of. We always wait until we've both seen the profile before we reply.

Before we had chance to reply, we received a snotty message saying we were up ourselves for not replying and too ugly anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Clearly I give people a bit too much credit band some just get a kick out of being abusive. Just be content in the knowledge it's them with the problem not you.

"We had a message from a couple last year who we liked the look of. We always wait until we've both seen the profile before we reply.

Before we had chance to reply, we received a snotty message saying we were up ourselves for not replying and too ugly anyway

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By *eliciousladyWoman over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"Its easy to see why so many don't reply reading this its sad really there is so little respect for others. "

Imagine getting 50-100 messages that simply say ‘Hello’ or ‘Hi’

Would a reply be expected? (It’s rhetorical)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've not had an abusive message so difficult for me to gauge how frustrating that is really

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

"Its easy to see why so many don't reply reading this its sad really there is so little respect for others.

Imagine getting 50-100 messages that simply say ‘Hello’ or ‘Hi’

Would a reply be expected? (It’s rhetorical) "

Or Wat u up 2!

You would loose the will to life if you had to reply to all the junk messages sent.

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By *iavoloCouple over a year ago

Bexley/Buxton

Thankfully as a couple you get a lot less of it.

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By *adyJayneWoman over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

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By *adyJayneWoman over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Or Wat u up 2!

You would loose the will to life if you had to reply to all the junk messages sent."

Or worse wuu2. They can't even be bothered to type out that much *faceplam*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One guy hounded me and after I politely said "sorry hon but not my type"

He calls me a frigid tight bitch lol

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"One guy hounded me and after I politely said "sorry hon but not my type"

He calls me a frigid tight bitch lol"

I thought guys liked us being tight

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I wasn't online for a couple of days, logged on last night.

Looked at my inbox

Mass delete.

Due to some family issues, I'm taking time out, changed my profile.

Today, several messages, obviously from people in the mass delete.

According to several I'm a tease, timewaster & should delete my profile if I have no intention of meeting people..

Well that's the polite version

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"It's a shame there isn't an auto reply function saying no thankyou, which then blocks them from contacting you for 3 months"

I wish there was. There's one on the sister site for dogging, it's a great tool.

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Surely they can't benefit from it? I mean whats the point what can people gain from it? "

You would need to ask them why they do it, only they can answer your question. Everyone else is guessing .

Delete block report if necessary move on.. simple.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I got abuse today for not liking nice guys.

Oh. Yes. You're so nice

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By *inkycreamCouple over a year ago

manchester

"I got abuse today for not liking nice guys.

Oh. Yes. You're so nice

Lol we got is my cock not big enough for you

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By *oolstewieMan over a year ago

Southampton

"One guy hounded me and after I politely said "sorry hon but not my type"

He calls me a frigid tight bitch lol"

They forget that people still have ‘taste’ and ‘standards’ even though we are on here. Some people just take rejection so badly.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I got abuse today for not liking nice guys.

Oh. Yes. You're so nice

Lol we got is my cock not big enough for you "

I'd have been so sorely tempted to say that he was too big of a cock.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's been awhile since I've been called a frigid slut, but that also happens.

Words. People. They mean things. You can't just slam random mean words together to be extra hurtful, that's not how it works.

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By *oolstewieMan over a year ago

Southampton

"I got abuse today for not liking nice guys.

Oh. Yes. You're so nice

Lol we got is my cock not big enough for you

I'd have been so sorely tempted to say that he was too big of a cock. "

That is a great comeback line. ?? You cannot waste using it if you get the opportunity in future.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I got abuse today for not liking nice guys.

Oh. Yes. You're so nice

Lol we got is my cock not big enough for you

I'd have been so sorely tempted to say that he was too big of a cock.

That is a great comeback line. ?? You cannot waste using it if you get the opportunity in future. "

Haha! I try not to use every one I think of. I don't want to go over my bitchy cap (like a data cap on a phone plan).

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By *attooedBBWWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

I usually laugh and show my bf the abuse before sending something appropriately belittling or just plain blocking if I’m busy.

Messages have definitely gotten worse over the last 2 or 3 years but I must admit since applying message filters like blocking unverified and non site supporters it’s reduced the asshole pool in my inbox.

I think the best ones are those who send 3 or 4 in a row without any reply or reading before the last message by which point I’m duing of laughter:

Hey u hot girl

U want this cock bbe

U there?

Fuck u whore

U frigid slut

Hey girl u want this cock?

What a catch, sign me up LOL

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Toys thrown out of pram. Makes them feel a bit better. Not a mature or helpful response, but if they were capable of it they wouldn't be in the pram.

Its getting worse I just don't get it surely people realise you can't reply to every message! "

Mistressinfinity, while I can completely understand why him being a c*nt is highly frowned upon if you’ve not sent a message back, I can also understand his frustration.

You’re incredible.

I’d be a little butt hurt if you didn’t message me back either. HaHa!!

Bruised the ego and all that...

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By *oolstewieMan over a year ago

Southampton

"I got abuse today for not liking nice guys.

Oh. Yes. You're so nice

Lol we got is my cock not big enough for you

I'd have been so sorely tempted to say that he was too big of a cock.

That is a great comeback line. ?? You cannot waste using it if you get the opportunity in future.

Haha! I try not to use every one I think of. I don't want to go over my bitchy cap (like a data cap on a phone plan). "

Think of it as getting a free 8 GBs of extra bitchyness that has to be used within 7 days of registering.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I got abuse today for not liking nice guys.

Oh. Yes. You're so nice

Lol we got is my cock not big enough for you

I'd have been so sorely tempted to say that he was too big of a cock.

That is a great comeback line. ?? You cannot waste using it if you get the opportunity in future.

Haha! I try not to use every one I think of. I don't want to go over my bitchy cap (like a data cap on a phone plan).

Think of it as getting a free 8 GBs of extra bitchyness that has to be used within 7 days of registering.

My usual bitchy comebacks tend to be matter of fact statement of why I didn't reply to their first message and why their second message was unwelcome.

Or, worse, someone will write to me with an anatomically impossible description of how amazing it'll be when they fuck me and ask if I've done anything edgy like have a threesome. If I can be bothered, I say matter of fact some of the things I've done, then block.

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By *inkysexpotMan over a year ago

leeds

Had messages deleted, not opened, opened and no reply, the few that did take the time to reply saying no got a polite thank you for replying message in return, shows the level of intelligence if all they can do is show aggression

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Got called a stuck up cunt!

Report then block.

Don't waste your anger on people like that!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Had messages deleted, not opened, opened and no reply, the few that did take the time to reply saying no got a polite thank you for replying message in return, shows the level of intelligence if all they can do is show aggression

This^^

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now im often knocked back for reasons beyond my control and granted i on occasion post the odd rant thread in the forums to vent but after 10 minutes im over it but i will not knowingly get nasty because of a rejection thats why alot of women and couples dont trust single guys it sucks but thats the way things work on here

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By *airyfatmanMan over a year ago

by 'ere

Exactly the same here too. It’s called manners. It did once actually lead on to the other person continuing to converse with me and deciding I was “more than just my looks” but sadly she went UNLOS after a couple of weeks lol

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Unfortunately for a lot of women, we learn the hard way that basic courtesy as defined in the rest of the world often isn't worth it here.

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By *oolstewieMan over a year ago

Southampton

"Unfortunately for a lot of women, we learn the hard way that basic courtesy as defined in the rest of the world often isn't worth it here. "

Manners maketh man.

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By *eliciousladyWoman over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Have you read all of the thread?

How is it possible for anyone who receives 50-100+ messages a day to send a polite reply? (As an example, as I’m sure some gorgeous ladies receive double that)

The level of intelligence is accepting that you’re not suitable regardless of receiving a reply or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Has absolutely nothing to do with manners!

I am a kind of person who always says please and thank you and try to be polite on all occasions.

However it is not rude for me to not reply to an unsolicited message. it is not always because I received more than I can handle. sometimes it's because I simply do not want to and that is absolutely fine and in no way rude! I find myself repeating this over and over again on threads like this and I just don't understand what's rude about not wanting to reply to someone.

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By *oolstewieMan over a year ago

Southampton

Have you read all of the thread?

How is it possible for anyone who receives 50-100+ messages a day to send a polite reply? (As an example, as I’m sure some gorgeous ladies receive double that)

The level of intelligence is accepting that you’re not suitable regardless of receiving a reply or not. "

That is the point, woman get literally 100's of messages. Some men forget this. You are not the only person sending a message to them! It is impossible to expect any woman to reply to them all or give detailed replies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Id rather be told no not interested then nothing at all but i do understand that couples and single ladies have it tough on here being bombarded with one liners

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just block them dear there not worth it.x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you read all of the thread?

How is it possible for anyone who receives 50-100+ messages a day to send a polite reply? (As an example, as I’m sure some gorgeous ladies receive double that)

The level of intelligence is accepting that you’re not suitable regardless of receiving a reply or not.

actually it's not about getting lots of messages it's about sometimes we don't want to reply and we don't have to justify that. It's rude to expect a reply and a lot of people show a shocking sense of entitlement. Because it's hardly ever just left when you say no thank you.

You get a follow-up normally "are you sure"

"Why not"

"I'm the best shag you will ever have"

And it goes on and they're just the polite responses so it's just easier to ignore them and delete the message.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Have you read all of the thread?

How is it possible for anyone who receives 50-100+ messages a day to send a polite reply? (As an example, as I’m sure some gorgeous ladies receive double that)

The level of intelligence is accepting that you’re not suitable regardless of receiving a reply or not.

You get a follow-up normally "are you sure"

"Why not"

"I'm the best shag you will ever have"

And it goes on and they're just the polite responses so it's just easier to ignore them and delete the message. "

Or even they try to keep chatting to you because let's be friends... Oh, could there be benefits too?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you read all of the thread?

How is it possible for anyone who receives 50-100+ messages a day to send a polite reply? (As an example, as I’m sure some gorgeous ladies receive double that)

The level of intelligence is accepting that you’re not suitable regardless of receiving a reply or not.

You get a follow-up normally "are you sure"

"Why not"

"I'm the best shag you will ever have"

And it goes on and they're just the polite responses so it's just easier to ignore them and delete the message.

Or even they try to keep chatting to you because let's be friends... Oh, could there be benefits too?

Exactly!!

I'm not going to comment or threads like this anymore because I just repeat myself and so do all the other women but a lot of people just don't seem to understand just because you send somebody a message does not mean you are entitled to any kind of response.

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By *airyfatmanMan over a year ago

by 'ere

Has absolutely nothing to do with manners!

I am a kind of person who always says please and thank you and try to be polite on all occasions.

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By *oupleNeedPlus1Couple over a year ago

Reading

Agree with many of the above points.

Also it's doubly annoying when the person has completely ignored what your profile says you are looking for... I owe you nothing when you are clearly ignoring our preferences.

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By *airyfatmanMan over a year ago

by 'ere

Have you read all of the thread?

How is it possible for anyone who receives 50-100+ messages a day to send a polite reply? (As an example, as I’m sure some gorgeous ladies receive double that)

The level of intelligence is accepting that you’re not suitable regardless of receiving a reply or not. "

another one who had misread the post you’re quoting. He’s saying that instead of sending abuse IF a reply saying no thanks is reveived, we say thanks for replying.

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By *oolstewieMan over a year ago

Southampton

Have you read all of the thread?

How is it possible for anyone who receives 50-100+ messages a day to send a polite reply? (As an example, as I’m sure some gorgeous ladies receive double that)

The level of intelligence is accepting that you’re not suitable regardless of receiving a reply or not.

You get a follow-up normally "are you sure"

"Why not"

"I'm the best shag you will ever have"

And it goes on and they're just the polite responses so it's just easier to ignore them and delete the message.

Or even they try to keep chatting to you because let's be friends... Oh, could there be benefits too?

Exactly!!

I had it myself on another site where I get asked for tributes. If I don't reply straight away they get grumpy. If they send a photo and don't drop everything there and then and tribute the photo they get grumpy. Even if I could' hello how quickly do you think I can set up a tripod, mount a camera on it, sort out the lighting and bring up the photo on an iPadand then shoot the video or take the photo' Here is a clue... not in 5 minutes!

So I now put a warning on my page. Just because I am logged in to the site does not mean I am sat in front of the computer 24/7. This problem mainly happens with couples where the wife/girlfriend would love a tribute and it is the husband who sends the message. Little do they know I spend time making sure this is not a wife/girlfriend in their head only and not just them wanting a video they can jack off to. Although I get the hassle I do not get the verbal abuse woman get though which is totally uncalled for.

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