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How many times do you decline before blocking?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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One my bug bears is fabbers that contact me and try to "fit" into what I am looking for after I have declined and said no, or they keep nagging, maybe in the hope I will change my mind. I have a saying, once is happenstance, twice is circumstance, three times is taking the piss.
No should mean no and although there are a selection of fabbers who will accept a no straight away, I wondered how other people deal with pushy swingers.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One my bug bears is fabbers that contact me and try to "fit" into what I am looking for after I have declined and said no, or they keep nagging, maybe in the hope I will change my mind. I have a saying, once is happenstance, twice is circumstance, three times is taking the piss.
No should mean no and although there are a selection of fabbers who will accept a no straight away, I wondered how other people deal with pushy swingers.
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In general terms I operate on a three strikes rule. That moves up to two in the case of pestering (trying again within a day or two, particularly if it's within an hour or minutes), or one if there's just no way (like, if their pictures show I'd never be attracted to this person). |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
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"One my bug bears is fabbers that contact me and try to "fit" into what I am looking for after I have declined and said no, or they keep nagging, maybe in the hope I will change my mind. I have a saying, once is happenstance, twice is circumstance, three times is taking the piss.
No should mean no and although there are a selection of fabbers who will accept a no straight away, I wondered how other people deal with pushy swingers.
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No means no, if I get a message saying, thanks but no thanks, I thank the lady for the message and leave her alone.
Same with ladies that do not respond to my messages.
I have found that Men and TV/TS are far more persistent so I block them.
Helped me get a bit of an insight into what the ladies go through.
Some people are very immature |
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I particularly don't understand the messages saying "not your type then?" or "c'mon gimme a chance!" within two or three minutes of deleting their first message.
On careful contemplation over this vast expanse of time, I've changed my mind. Pleading is so goddamn sexy, I must have you.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I particularly don't understand the messages saying "not your type then?" or "c'mon gimme a chance!" within two or three minutes of deleting their first message.
On careful contemplation over this vast expanse of time, I've changed my mind. Pleading is so goddamn sexy, I must have you. "
Totally this, along with "I see you've read my message" then try and entice you with a cock pic, yeah that'll do it for sure!
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"I particularly don't understand the messages saying "not your type then?" or "c'mon gimme a chance!" within two or three minutes of deleting their first message.
On careful contemplation over this vast expanse of time, I've changed my mind. Pleading is so goddamn sexy, I must have you.
Totally this, along with "I see you've read my message" then try and entice you with a cock pic, yeah that'll do it for sure!
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Or before I discovered stealth mode: you've looked at my profile! I can accom now, (actual address and phone number)! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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On careful contemplation over this vast expanse of time, I've changed my mind. Pleading is so goddamn sexy, I must have you. "
That is defo another way of looking at it, and not one I had considered before. |
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"If I mail someone and they don’t reply then I block them for two reasons, 1 they obviously aren’t interested and 2 it’s so I don’t mail them again by mistake "
I tend to go with this rule. However, it has been known for a couple to message me on a new profile, who've previously deleted me when I messaged their old one. Some people block delete as they have too many. |
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I never block, and almost always reply. Only if the message is really shit with a shit profile do I delete without a reply.
I even reply to the "wanna fuck" messages with "sure, we'll be at such and such club later...come join us".... Funnily enough they never show up lol
Maybe I have way too much time on my hands |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.
I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking? "
Sorry I don't understand. Are you referring to the above post or the OP's post? |
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"One my bug bears is fabbers that contact me and try to "fit" into what I am looking for after I have declined and said no, or they keep nagging, maybe in the hope I will change my mind. I have a saying, once is happenstance, twice is circumstance, three times is taking the piss.
No should mean no and although there are a selection of fabbers who will accept a no straight away, I wondered how other people deal with pushy swingers.
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Persistence in this scenario is just a lack of dignity with a dollop of desperation thrown in |
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"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.
I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking?
Sorry I don't understand. Are you referring to the above post or the OP's post? "
The OP. |
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"I particularly don't understand the messages saying "not your type then?" or "c'mon gimme a chance!" within two or three minutes of deleting their first message.
On careful contemplation over this vast expanse of time, I've changed my mind. Pleading is so goddamn sexy, I must have you. "
Haha totally. Yes you’re exactly what I’m looking for, that’s why I deleted you. Did that not come across?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.
I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking?
Sorry I don't understand. Are you referring to the above post or the OP's post?
The OP. "
She said after you've declined and said no. I don't reply and say no, hence no further nagging replies asking me why I declined. |
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"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.
I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking?
Sorry I don't understand. Are you referring to the above post or the OP's post?
The OP.
She said after you've declined and said no. I don't reply and say no, hence no further nagging replies asking me why I declined. "
I don't either, and sometimes get them anyway. I delete, delete the second (unless it's rude), block on the third. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.
I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking?
Sorry I don't understand. Are you referring to the above post or the OP's post?
The OP.
She said after you've declined and said no. I don't reply and say no, hence no further nagging replies asking me why I declined.
I don't either, and sometimes get them anyway. I delete, delete the second (unless it's rude), block on the third. "
I was answering the OP's specific question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Second or third message blocked. If they message a second time after no response definite block. My favourite is 'its only an hour on the motorway' when I tell them there too far. If I continue that conversation it's at least 8 messages back and forth before I still block. |
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"Second or third message blocked. If they message a second time after no response definite block. My favourite is 'its only an hour on the motorway' when I tell them there too far. If I continue that conversation it's at least 8 messages back and forth before I still block. "
I had someone message me when I uploaded my first profile picture. From, let's say south of London (it was, but I'm not going to be specific). He wanted to meet me. Because of my profile picture (an upskirt one almost identical to the one I have now). I should have told him where I bought the clothes and suggested someone more local. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it's a guy, no chances I just block them, get idiots messaging me on kik every now and again despite me having guys blocked on here.
Never been in a position to decline an invite from a woman so I can't say, but i'd probably give it 2, depends why they get rejected. If it's due to distance, there's no saying they aren't round my end in the future so there'd be no reason to block them for that alone.
I usually just block people who instantly delete my message, so I don't see them on my feed, no point when they aren't interested. |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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"One my bug bears is fabbers that contact me and try to "fit" into what I am looking for after I have declined and said no, or they keep nagging, maybe in the hope I will change my mind. I have a saying, once is happenstance, twice is circumstance, three times is taking the piss.
No should mean no and although there are a selection of fabbers who will accept a no straight away, I wondered how other people deal with pushy swingers.
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i try to block everyone who isnt interested in meeting me to save wasting there and my time so after 1 message i suppose |
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"If it's a guy, no chances I just block them, get idiots messaging me on kik every now and again despite me having guys blocked on here.
Never been in a position to decline an invite from a woman so I can't say, but i'd probably give it 2, depends why they get rejected. If it's due to distance, there's no saying they aren't round my end in the future so there'd be no reason to block them for that alone.
I usually just block people who instantly delete my message, so I don't see them on my feed, no point when they aren't interested. "
I often instantly delete messages because they're lazy and not thought through. If I were truly uninterested under any circumstances I'd block. |
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I usually just delete if I'm not interested. Most single men don't message again so no need to block. Couples on the other hand I find that be far more pushy. Many send several follow up messages afterwards and I do block now after the third one.
If I'm not interested nothing they say in subsequent messages will persuade me! |
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"I usually just delete if I'm not interested. Most single men don't message again so no need to block. Couples on the other hand I find that be far more pushy. Many send several follow up messages afterwards and I do block now after the third one.
If I'm not interested nothing they say in subsequent messages will persuade me!"
Whereas I might be interested if the first message is up to scratch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it's a guy, no chances I just block them, get idiots messaging me on kik every now and again despite me having guys blocked on here.
Never been in a position to decline an invite from a woman so I can't say, but i'd probably give it 2, depends why they get rejected. If it's due to distance, there's no saying they aren't round my end in the future so there'd be no reason to block them for that alone.
I usually just block people who instantly delete my message, so I don't see them on my feed, no point when they aren't interested.
I often instantly delete messages because they're lazy and not thought through. If I were truly uninterested under any circumstances I'd block. "
Oh sure, I imagine women get a lot of "ey wanna smash" messages, I put effort into mine so I figured if they aint interested in what I say in my first message, would only annoy them if I tried again, so I dont bother. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.
I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking? "
I wouldn't notice because I don't reply. I don't read the message if I don't like the profile so I don't bother blocking usually. |
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"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.
I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking?
I wouldn't notice because I don't reply. I don't read the message if I don't like the profile so I don't bother blocking usually. "
I look if the picture looks familiar, and block if there's a string of similar unanswered messages. |
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"One my bug bears is fabbers that contact me and try to "fit" into what I am looking for after I have declined and said no, or they keep nagging, maybe in the hope I will change my mind. I have a saying, once is happenstance, twice is circumstance, three times is taking the piss.
No should mean no and although there are a selection of fabbers who will accept a no straight away, I wondered how other people deal with pushy swingers.
No means no, if I get a message saying, thanks but no thanks, I thank the lady for the message and leave her alone.
Same with ladies that do not respond to my messages.
I have found that Men and TV/TS are far more persistent so I block them.
Helped me get a bit of an insight into what the ladies go through.
Some people are very immature "
we t girls get this problem as well you know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.
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This I dont follow surely it would invite more messages as you might of missed the first one because of volume or you could be intrested in the future. I delete messages after I've sent them but if you responed with not intrested I would block so I dont send any more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.
This I dont follow surely it would invite more messages as you might of missed the first one because of volume or you could be intrested in the future. I delete messages after I've sent them but if you responed with not intrested I would block so I dont send any more. "
I don't care how many messages someone sends. I really wouldn't notice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I reply to all first messages. I never block, can't see the point as they can just start a new profile. No need to reply again after I said no. Feels like I'd be trying to make them beg if I kept replying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont tend to block I just don't reply anymore unless they do something stupid like trying to contact other people I have met, then it is a firm goodbye (block) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I get a repeat message when I’ve ether deleted or replied with a no thanks I always block.
If they can’t accept a no to a message, how can I trust them to accept no in an intimate setting?"
Yes that's a very good point. |
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