FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > Does the first time matter?
Does the first time matter?
Jump to: Newest in thread
First we all should know the rules...lets try to have this discussion without bringing up events/ages that will get the thread closed ty peeps 
Reading the virgin thread a few have said the first time matters...speaking from a purely female perspective i have to agree,
Many of my friends lost their virginity at parties d*unk, pressurised , in cars, or generally in circumstances that put them off sex. i was 18,and with a man who waited and knew what he was doing...we tried a few times to have sex, and each time my nerves led to me ahem tightening up...his patience meant when it happened i had a massive orgasm and was rampant from that moment on, thanks kev
i dont believe you need love, i do believe your first time can be special and affect your attitude towards sex...
your thoughts are welcome |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
My first time wasnt special, i was way to young. But if i had waited who would i have waited for. Ive never regretted how or when i lost mine it was just one of those things. Right from my first time i thought i was different cause ive never associated love with sex |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
My first time was special ish - it wasn't moonlight and roses but was with a guy I had been seeing for a year and I was 17. Neither of us knew what we were doing and I didn't have an orgasm. But we were both kids and thought it was everlasting love. Funnily enough tho it ended soon after, that wasn't due to getting sex and then buggering off, he was in the Navy and was sent to Hong Kong for 3 years.
But I was in a relationship with the person when I had sex and it wasn't a one night stand and that seems important to me. For that reason, as a middle aged swinger, I would never have sex with a young virgin boy. I don't want to be someones memory of a first time, a young lad having sex with a middle aged woman and her partner, I hate the thought of that.
I suppose it is romanticism, I don't suppose some guys see it in the same way
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
well i was young she seduced me and a friend lol i remeber going home n scrubbing my todger i thought she had damaged him lol but i was soon in the saddle again with a another partner and thats when i realised the joys of making love mmmmm oh happy days |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Ive thought about this thread again as i was asleep when i typed my first reply. I dont actually know if my first time affected me sexually. Because it was just sex and not with someone i was in a relationship with i dont know if it affected. Sex is sex i could have sex with anyone. If my first time had been moonlight and roses i might not have the same view on sex that i have now, if it had ment something then maybe i would have gone on to only have sex with people i was emotionally connnected to. Guess its something i will never know |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Ive thought about this thread again as i was asleep when i typed my first reply. I dont actually know if my first time affected me sexually. Because it was just sex and not with someone i was in a relationship with i dont know if it affected. Sex is sex i could have sex with anyone. If my first time had been moonlight and roses i might not have the same view on sex that i have now, if it had ment something then maybe i would have gone on to only have sex with people i was emotionally connnected to. Guess its something i will never know"
See i think i was just into nsa sex anyway...i was swinging 6 months after loosing my virginty! What difference the way i lost it had i think, was that i immediately saw just how fab sex could be |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
My first male time i would rather forget and i was bloody young 
My virginity was taken in room 263 in the hotel Penta in London at 16 by an 18 year old on a college trip
Her and her friend (female) started on me in the room but her mate who was also a virgin bottled it and left us to it
So my first time could well have been an MMF fook i was a lucky randy fooker that day lol xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
My first time was in Don Millers bakery on a Sunday morning. He wasn't my boyfriend, but I fancied the pants off of him and wanted him... in a sexual way. I didn't expect anything afterwards... I just really wanted to have sex with him.
A year or so later we ended up going out for a few months and he was much better at sex by then... lucky for me I didn't know any better the first time. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Ive thought about this thread again as i was asleep when i typed my first reply. I dont actually know if my first time affected me sexually. Because it was just sex and not with someone i was in a relationship with i dont know if it affected. Sex is sex i could have sex with anyone. If my first time had been moonlight and roses i might not have the same view on sex that i have now, if it had ment something then maybe i would have gone on to only have sex with people i was emotionally connnected to. Guess its something i will never know
See i think i was just into nsa sex anyway...i was swinging 6 months after loosing my virginty! What difference the way i lost it had i think, was that i immediately saw just how fab sex could be "
Well i was a swinger or shall i say i was participating in acts that are standard practice for a swinger right from the off. First slept with a guy, then a girl and before i knew it i was having three somes and foursomes, same room sex, swappsys half way through. I had my first gangbang at 16 me and 6 guys. So i was sexual from a young age. It was really difficult for me being a teenager and different from my friends, i had noone to talk to and there was no literature available or internet to look up on. When i first found out about swingers it changed everything, i realized i wasnt strange and that there where lots of people like me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Ive thought about this thread again as i was asleep when i typed my first reply. I dont actually know if my first time affected me sexually. Because it was just sex and not with someone i was in a relationship with i dont know if it affected. Sex is sex i could have sex with anyone. If my first time had been moonlight and roses i might not have the same view on sex that i have now, if it had ment something then maybe i would have gone on to only have sex with people i was emotionally connnected to. Guess its something i will never know
See i think i was just into nsa sex anyway...i was swinging 6 months after loosing my virginty! What difference the way i lost it had i think, was that i immediately saw just how fab sex could be
Well i was a swinger or shall i say i was participating in acts that are standard practice for a swinger right from the off. First slept with a guy, then a girl and before i knew it i was having three somes and foursomes, same room sex, swappsys half way through. I had my first gangbang at 16 me and 6 guys. So i was sexual from a young age. It was really difficult for me being a teenager and different from my friends, i had noone to talk to and there was no literature available or internet to look up on. When i first found out about swingers it changed everything, i realized i wasnt strange and that there where lots of people like me."
i only discovered i was a swinger 3 years ago...thought swinging was wife swapping, keys in bowls sort of stuff. i do agree about the importance of finding out you arent alone though. i discovered the word bisexual at 16. It was such a revelation to find out other ppl fancied men and women i thought i was just wierd and felt very alone.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I am by site rules not allowed to describe my first time... but no it wasnt all romantic and cosy... and actually most of my encounters after that were not either.. no kissing and foreplay.. just straight to it for most of my sexual life..
My first real time came with a man that took the time to tease and please me.. to heighten my senses.. to make me feel so special... and when we finally had sex it was mmmmmmmmmmmmmm So my Master re gave me how my first time should have been.. and you know as romantic as it sounds.. We manage to make every time special like the very first..
So I dont think it matters so much about the first time... but what matters is finding the person that makes it special..
cali |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
my earliest experiences of sex were usually touched by the effects of cheap cider in 3 litre bottles, so i can't say they were special at all.
my first experience of 'grown up' sex however was as nerve wracking as it was delicious.
the second time was better tho as the nerves had gone by then ! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
my 1st time wasnt special wasnt sexy and tobe honest put me off sex for a while.
i was 16 not long out of school working in maccdonalds to help pay me through college met a guy he was sexy and i liked him alot. had a date and ended up back of the car (escort) thumbing and the sex was over fast and i was left dispointed
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I am by site rules not allowed to describe my first time... but no it wasnt all romantic and cosy... and actually most of my encounters after that were not either.. no kissing and foreplay.. just straight to it for most of my sexual life..
My first real time came with a man that took the time to tease and please me.. to heighten my senses.. to make me feel so special... and when we finally had sex it was mmmmmmmmmmmmmm So my Master re gave me how my first time should have been.. and you know as romantic as it sounds.. We manage to make every time special like the very first..
So I dont think it matters so much about the first time... but what matters is finding the person that makes it special..
cali "
Do you think your attitude to sex would have been different if your earlier experiences had been better for you? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
Do you think your attitude to sex would have been different if your earlier experiences had been better for you?"
not really.. I think it was my attitude that saved me from being ruined to be fair..
Cali |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
My first time was nice, lots of fumbling etc. But with another virgin. We both had fun but it did get better with practice as they say. I've had 2 or 3 other virgin girls and made sure it was not pushed or presurised and took pleasure in making sure their experience was as nice as I could make it.
Been a long while since I've been with a virgin now though, and let's face it they are very few and far between on this site.
Lol, pleasant memories though.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
My first time was around six months ago with a guy from a site. I had met him before for oral fun. It was the best decision I made and happy with the experience (I loved it in fact). A week later I signed up to a site similar to fab and started to have nsa fun from there. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"My first time was around six months ago with a guy from a site. I had met him before for oral fun. It was the best decision I made and happy with the experience (I loved it in fact). A week later I signed up to a site similar to fab and started to have nsa fun from there. "
now thats a success story! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
