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"Hello. Been thinking about playing bi for years The elusive bi mmf hasn’t yet worked out and now want to bite the bullet and do it Is it weird that I think it would be easier with two guys!? Less intimate more horny! My preference is for me to be ‘bottom " Assuming you know you can take it up your arse comfortably , it sounds like you know what you want and it should be great  | |||
"I would advise against that." How come? Experience? | |||
"I would advise against that. How come? Experience? " You're not sure if you can handle one guy yet, because you've not tried. Baby steps. | |||
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"I would advise against that." From personal experience? | |||
"I would advise against that. How come? Experience? You're not sure if you can handle one guy yet, because you've not tried. Baby steps." Fair comment fella, don’t run before you can walk x | |||
"I would advise against that. How come? Experience? You're not sure if you can handle one guy yet, because you've not tried. Baby steps. Fair comment fella, don’t run before you can walk x " exactly. | |||
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"Hello. Been thinking about playing bi for years The elusive bi mmf hasn’t yet worked out and now want to bite the bullet and do it Is it weird that I think it would be easier with two guys!? Less intimate more horny! My preference is for me to be ‘bottom " If you have never played with a man before, i agree with Ghengis. Baby steps. You are just curious right now. I would suggest tryong it one on one with a man who is understanding of it being your first time. Two men is a completely different dynamic, which could potentially be overwhelming for you at the beginning. And cause you to have a bad experience. Ease yourself into it, would be my suggestion. Once you know that its what you enjoy, then you could up the ante. Good luck in whatever you decide OP  | |||
"It woudn't harm to just meet one guy one on one first it would be less intimidating and if you don't like it easier to change your mind. " I kind of feel it would be more intimidating as it’s more intimate Let’s face its its the taboo of being gay that puts me off | |||
"It woudn't harm to just meet one guy one on one first it would be less intimidating and if you don't like it easier to change your mind. I kind of feel it would be more intimidating as it’s more intimate Let’s face its its the taboo of being gay that puts me off " But you want to meet two men instead? I'm struggling to see the sense in that being less gay  | |||
"It woudn't harm to just meet one guy one on one first it would be less intimidating and if you don't like it easier to change your mind. I kind of feel it would be more intimidating as it’s more intimate Let’s face its its the taboo of being gay that puts me off But you want to meet two men instead? I'm struggling to see the sense in that being less gay "I’m not into being intimate with a guy...don’t want to kiss and cuddle lol So for me it kind of makes sense to start with two  | |||
"It woudn't harm to just meet one guy one on one first it would be less intimidating and if you don't like it easier to change your mind. I kind of feel it would be more intimidating as it’s more intimate Let’s face its its the taboo of being gay that puts me off But you want to meet two men instead? I'm struggling to see the sense in that being less gay
I’m not into being intimate with a guy...don’t want to kiss and cuddle lol
So for me it kind of makes sense to start with two "You could possibly get that with two guys too though. As long as you place boundaries on what you are comfortable with, it doesn't have to be intimate. A friend of mine had a one on one and it wasn't intimate at all. I just worry with two, it could be a negative experience for You, as the dynamic may be far more intense. | |||
"It woudn't harm to just meet one guy one on one first it would be less intimidating and if you don't like it easier to change your mind. I kind of feel it would be more intimidating as it’s more intimate Let’s face its its the taboo of being gay that puts me off But you want to meet two men instead? I'm struggling to see the sense in that being less gay
I’m not into being intimate with a guy...don’t want to kiss and cuddle lol
So for me it kind of makes sense to start with two
You could possibly get that with two guys too though. As long as you place boundaries on what you are comfortable with, it doesn't have to be intimate. A friend of mine had a one on one and it wasn't intimate at all. I just worry with two, it could be a negative experience for You, as the dynamic may be far more intense.
"Like you say need boundaries With two they can start and I can watch and join when I get comfortable | |||
"It woudn't harm to just meet one guy one on one first it would be less intimidating and if you don't like it easier to change your mind. I kind of feel it would be more intimidating as it’s more intimate Let’s face its its the taboo of being gay that puts me off But you want to meet two men instead? I'm struggling to see the sense in that being less gay
I’m not into being intimate with a guy...don’t want to kiss and cuddle lol
So for me it kind of makes sense to start with two
You could possibly get that with two guys too though. As long as you place boundaries on what you are comfortable with, it doesn't have to be intimate. A friend of mine had a one on one and it wasn't intimate at all. I just worry with two, it could be a negative experience for You, as the dynamic may be far more intense.
Like you say need boundaries
With two they can start and I can watch and join when I get comfortable "I hope it goes the way that you are hoping it does, in your head OP | |||
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"Thanks got your insights " For what they're worth, I hope it helps. Even if you don't want the intimacy bit. There's no reason you can't talk and be friends with who you meet. Took me a while to get comfy with that. | |||
"I would advise against that. How come? Experience? You're not sure if you can handle one guy yet, because you've not tried. Baby steps. Fair comment fella, don’t run before you can walk x " Or you might not be able to walk after  | |||
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"I would advise against that. How come? Experience? You're not sure if you can handle one guy yet, because you've not tried. Baby steps." 3 men having sex won't create babies, that's a certainty. Go for it pal. If you choose decent guys they will fully understand and take it easy I'm sure. | |||
"Ok.. You aren't gay, you're a Bisexual of some description, unless you go full YMCA and forget the beauty of the female form altogether, whatever makes YOU happy though. My first adult bisexual experience was an arranged meet on a casual sex site, much like Fab, abroad. It was awful, the one thing it had going for it was he turned up, I wish he hadn't. He wasn't what he said he was, he didn't listen to my boundaries. Much like you, I do not want intimacy with a man, it's the reason I'm taking the time to explain, using personal experiences I'd rather not shout out about, but will if it helps you find YOU, quicker than I found ME, sexually speaking. It hurt, he tried to kiss me. He asked questions about my personal life. I wasn't happy with any of that and it put me off a year or two. Then I found a nudist beach. One wear people met for a shag in the bushes. I found that a little easier, because I didn't want the connections. Fuck n go. Most of the time the sex was shit and it took loads of wandering around to catch who you wanted, without getting attention from ones you didn't. A gay sauna visit is what I'd reccomend for you. It's cheap, it's cheerful. There's lots of condoms around. It's reasonably hygienic. It's safe, because men take care of each other as well as women do. Maybe make a Fabguys profile and give yourself a good write up, make yourself appealing to the kind of men you'd like to attract. Then see if you can arrange a meet for whilst you are in the sauna? Don't feel pressured into doing anything you don't feel comfortable with. Play safe, because we are in the High Risk Group alongside Swingers. If not, have the balls to say so on your profile. Good luck OP. If you like it, you may get the two top men at the same time. Now is probably a good time to tell you.. A semi decent, reasonably well hung man, semi dominant man is your equivalent of a female on Fabswingers. Elusive and hard to come by. So two may be pushing your luck "Great advice | |||
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"Thanks got your insights For what they're worth, I hope it helps. Even if you don't want the intimacy bit. There's no reason you can't talk and be friends with who you meet. Took me a while to get comfy with that. " And GK smashes it out of the park with advice yet again! I'm not a bi or gay guy, obvs, but if you're really uncomfortable with the thought of a one on one meet then a club or a sauna would be a much easier, less intimate thing than a threesome. Believe me, they can be intimate, they can also be horribly uncomfortable if you have not one but two people ignoring your needs, desires and wellbeing. | |||
"I think I get where your coming from OP. My personal suggestion would be to consider a gay/bi sauna. It may seem counterintuitive but they actually give a really safe place for someone who is bi curious to explore their sexuality as it is much easier to walk away from interaction in these than it is in private settings." I would agree - a bi curious buddy of mine went to a gay sauna and found the whole anal thing want for him so he had the choice and just stuck with oral. There will be no expectations on you there - you can participate if you want to and at whatever level. You can decide. | |||
"Thanks got your insights For what they're worth, I hope it helps. Even if you don't want the intimacy bit. There's no reason you can't talk and be friends with who you meet. Took me a while to get comfy with that. And GK smashes it out of the park with advice yet again! I'm not a bi or gay guy, obvs, but if you're really uncomfortable with the thought of a one on one meet then a club or a sauna would be a much easier, less intimate thing than a threesome. Believe me, they can be intimate, they can also be horribly uncomfortable if you have not one but two people ignoring your needs, desires and wellbeing. " if I could make a living rolling out advice that helps others sex and love lives.. I'd be a very very happy man. | |||
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"I would say try a club. I've personally found that guys in clubs are more interested in the 'physical' side of things rather than the more emotional side-if that makes sense? You could start with a glory hole, give oral a few times & see how you feel. One thing though (and this is personal experience) you may well find yourself extremely horny, have full sex with one or more people & enjoy it. Then, when you have come down from your sexual high you may find yourself regretting it & feel repulsed by your actions. It's quite normal, and a product of our society. Take time to think about what you enjoyed, and to process it." Hello!! Thanks for your comments regarding the come down.... I have felt this in the past after playing alone watching bi porn and toying with myself Not really sure how to deal with this  | |||
"I would say try a club. I've personally found that guys in clubs are more interested in the 'physical' side of things rather than the more emotional side-if that makes sense? You could start with a glory hole, give oral a few times & see how you feel. One thing though (and this is personal experience) you may well find yourself extremely horny, have full sex with one or more people & enjoy it. Then, when you have come down from your sexual high you may find yourself regretting it & feel repulsed by your actions. It's quite normal, and a product of our society. Take time to think about what you enjoyed, and to process it." Hello!! Thanks for your comments regarding the come down.... I have felt this in the past after playing alone watching bi porn and toying with myself Not really sure how to deal with this | |||
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"It's tricky, society has decreed for a very long time that male homosexuality is wrong. It's hard to break past that, and I'm pretty sure most by guys on here have felt something along those lines. You are feeling horny about gay sex, & that won't go away til you do something about it, you just need to do it carefully & consider what you may feel afterwards. I've been to clubs when the urge for cock has been too much to bear & have had sex with people just because they were available, I found that I quite like that sense of freedom from the norms but everyone is different. " I have been at home on my own, wanking away butt plug in my ass, sucking on a realistic dildo couple of guys watch me on cam I blow my load and immediately feel silly/ashamed The question is will it go away after.... | |||
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"It's tricky, society has decreed for a very long time that male homosexuality is wrong. It's hard to break past that, and I'm pretty sure most by guys on here have felt something along those lines. You are feeling horny about gay sex, & that won't go away til you do something about it, you just need to do it carefully & consider what you may feel afterwards. I've been to clubs when the urge for cock has been too much to bear & have had sex with people just because they were available, I found that I quite like that sense of freedom from the norms but everyone is different. I have been at home on my own, wanking away butt plug in my ass, sucking on a realistic dildo couple of guys watch me on cam I blow my load and immediately feel silly/ashamed The question is will it go away after...." yes. it fades away over time with more experience and the more comfy you are in your own skin. You may cycle between feeling super kinky.. then disgusted with yourself.. then cycle back again. It's normal and not unusual. Subs of both genders feel it. I think it may have something to do with endorphin highs and come downs as well. | |||
"It's tricky, society has decreed for a very long time that male homosexuality is wrong. It's hard to break past that, and I'm pretty sure most by guys on here have felt something along those lines. You are feeling horny about gay sex, & that won't go away til you do something about it, you just need to do it carefully & consider what you may feel afterwards. I've been to clubs when the urge for cock has been too much to bear & have had sex with people just because they were available, I found that I quite like that sense of freedom from the norms but everyone is different. I have been at home on my own, wanking away butt plug in my ass, sucking on a realistic dildo couple of guys watch me on cam I blow my load and immediately feel silly/ashamed The question is will it go away after...." It's natural to feel silly/ashamed partly because it's the way society has conditioned you to think, and partly because it goes against anything you have done before - whether it will go away and become a natural thing for you, is down to you and whether you get your head round it and accept that it is part of who you are, and therefore something to celebrate and embrace, and something you have to suppress and hide away. You might not be able to control that directly and only time and experience will show whether you can embrace it. But as I said in my other post - there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed about | |||
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