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Do men with slim partners enjoy playing with bigger women too?

By *odka n Coke OP Couple over a year ago

Greater London

Since we've been on the site, I've been reluctant to contact couples if the female half is significantly slimmer than me.

Although my hubby very much enjoys playing with larger ladies like myself, he also enjoys playing with slim ladies.

However, I always worry that other men won't be as relaxed about size so if their partners are slim, they wouldn't enjoy being with a large lady with squishy bits!

I think I would feel upset if a couple came out and said, "sorry, but we're not interested because you're too fat" so I avoid the situation.

However, I'm also feeling that we may be missing out and should just bite the bullet and contact slimmer couples.

So I was wondering, what do the guys who have slim partners on here think? Would you enjoy getting hold of a LOT of woman when you're used to sliding your arms around a slender frame?

Em x

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By *4FantasyCouple over a year ago

Spalding

That is an excellent question, and I am looking forward to the responses!

Kazx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Snap some thing here.

I'm comfortable in my own body in my own body but to scared to contact slimmer people for the same reason.

Especialy when you have slim /athletic on their profiles. I (mrs) tend to clam up around them at parties clubs too

Thinking about redoing profile to put my size on and the fact if you dont like ladies with big bottoms to not contact us

Dont know if i'm sad or what?

People that are my own size etc i have no probs with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I would feel upset if a couple came out and said, "sorry, but we're not interested because you're too fat" so I avoid the situation."

If someone said that to us, then the quote from our side of the fence would be that they're spherical and when made of rubber they bounce... lol

Somebody too big is someone I can't penetrate, and that has yet to happen.

just my 2p

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally, no. I'm only into petite* girls and seeing miss play with other petite* girls.

Petite slim or petite slim but curvy.

But that does not mean everyone is the same.

There will be others that would love to play with bigger girls than their partners.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a slim couple, we can answer this from our opion, firstly even if someone was big we dont think many couples would say no because your fat!! us personally always reply thx but no thx you look like a lovely couple unfortunately not for us tho we wish lots of fun, however we both like to play with larger couples aswell as slim, you have to remember we all have a complex about something with our bodies, ive known Mrs not wanting to contact a couple where fem had big boobs as she feels she hasnt got any, also as a receeding gent and goin grey early i have some issues with that, but hey if they dont fancy you or us then thats there problem and not ours or yours, so basically we contact everyone we are interested in.

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By *atalie..Woman over a year ago

Bolton

"Since we've been on the site, I've been reluctant to contact couples if the female half is significantly slimmer than me.

Although my hubby very much enjoys playing with larger ladies like myself, he also enjoys playing with slim ladies.

However, I always worry that other men won't be as relaxed about size so if their partners are slim, they wouldn't enjoy being with a large lady with squishy bits!

I think I would feel upset if a couple came out and said, "sorry, but we're not interested because you're too fat" so I avoid the situation.

However, I'm also feeling that we may be missing out and should just bite the bullet and contact slimmer couples.

So I was wondering, what do the guys who have slim partners on here think? Would you enjoy getting hold of a LOT of woman when you're used to sliding your arms around a slender frame?

Em x"

We have been contacted many times by people with slimmer women on their profiles and i go on auto mode and say no i dont wanna meet them partly because some of the slim women look like i could snap um like a twig if i gripped them wrong

and partly because i think why would they wanna meet me or is it there fella sending the message

I like the way i look and i think im a fun person to play with and when all said n done we all have the same bits just some are a bit fatter that others but we all orgasum and love fun

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By *azzaahhWoman over a year ago

north wales / chester

"That is an excellent question, and I am looking forward to the responses!

Kazx"

me too x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can I ask ladies if this is the same in reverse

Do ladies with partners who are an athletic build like fun with guys with a little extra padding?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Snap some thing here.

I'm comfortable in my own body in my own body but to scared to contact slimmer people for the same reason.

Especialy when you have slim /athletic on their profiles. I (mrs) tend to clam up around them at parties clubs too

Thinking about redoing profile to put my size on and the fact if you dont like ladies with big bottoms to not contact us

Dont know if i'm sad or what?

People that are my own size etc i have no probs with

Going by your pics we wouldn't call you big.

You look to go in and out in the right places and your waist looks a lot smaller than your hips and bust,so your pics would suggest curvy/hourglass.

As for myself,I'm not normally attracted to overweight women,though that isn't to say that I don't find some large women attractive.

It's a question of how they carry it,there's a doctor at work who is about 5'8" size 18 or so but solid, all tit n arse and so hot.

On the other hand,in reply to the O.P, I do find flabbiness a turn off. R

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well, I have to say I don't categorise female friends like this. The physical size or shape doesn't come into it for me. It's much more about being able to be relaxed, get on anbd understand the boundaries and what you both want out of the meet.

So to answer the question, no it doesn't make a difference to this guy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When i met Wendy she was not at all my type and I wasnt hers

I love larger ladies and and my two wives were larger ladies

So in my case yes i still like larger ladies and always will xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be more worried about that spider on your boob...

Only joking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Size really doesn't matter to us. I (mercedes) am slim but happy to play with woman of any size. Benz is a large guy and I play with men of any size too. For us its all about personality and how well we all get along.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

u dont know until you ask

dont worry about rejection or a negative response. u`ll find out who the gents are and may get lucky in the process

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Snap some thing here.

I'm comfortable in my own body in my own body but to scared to contact slimmer people for the same reason.

Especialy when you have slim /athletic on their profiles. I (mrs) tend to clam up around them at parties clubs too

Thinking about redoing profile to put my size on and the fact if you dont like ladies with big bottoms to not contact us

Dont know if i'm sad or what?

People that are my own size etc i have no probs with

Going by your pics we wouldn't call you big.

You look to go in and out in the right places and your waist looks a lot smaller than your hips and bust,so your pics would suggest curvy/hourglass.

As for myself,I'm not normally attracted to overweight women,though that isn't to say that I don't find some large women attractive.

It's a question of how they carry it,there's a doctor at work who is about 5'8" size 18 or so but solid, all tit n arse and so hot.

On the other hand,in reply to the O.P, I do find flabbiness a turn off. R

XX "

i'm not big big i'm a 14/16 but i would feel huge against say a 10 xxx

Had a meet the other day where pics were taken and i know i had a big bum but didnt relise i'm ALL bum

Hubby says i see myself differnt to what other people see.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not usually attracted to larger ladies, but there are exceptions to every rule.

Kate isn't slim, she's 5'2" and a nice size 14, with enough boob and bum to satisfy most blokes

I like long legs and a pretty face, so much so that I've often overlooked the bits in the middle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great thread!

Speaking only as a BBW I can indeed relate to all of the above posters..Sometimes but only sometimes i do indeed have a problem with my size (even when clearly others dont) I am quite confident in my skin both sexually and other ways

and to me a person is just that..someone who thinks and feels just like the rest of us so hey ladies whether yer a size 10 or a size 22

it's all about having fun and enjoying ourselves

I make absolutely no secret of my size so it's a case of what you see is most definitely what you get

x x x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Snap some thing here.

I'm comfortable in my own body in my own body but to scared to contact slimmer people for the same reason.

Especialy when you have slim /athletic on their profiles. I (mrs) tend to clam up around them at parties clubs too

Thinking about redoing profile to put my size on and the fact if you dont like ladies with big bottoms to not contact us

Dont know if i'm sad or what?

People that are my own size etc i have no probs with

Going by your pics we wouldn't call you big.

You look to go in and out in the right places and your waist looks a lot smaller than your hips and bust,so your pics would suggest curvy/hourglass.

As for myself,I'm not normally attracted to overweight women,though that isn't to say that I don't find some large women attractive.

It's a question of how they carry it,there's a doctor at work who is about 5'8" size 18 or so but solid, all tit n arse and so hot.

On the other hand,in reply to the O.P, I do find flabbiness a turn off. R

i'm not big big i'm a 14/16 but i would feel huge against say a 10 xxx

Had a meet the other day where pics were taken and i know i had a big bum but didnt relise i'm ALL bum

Hubby says i see myself differnt to what other people see.

Many women do, it's body dismorphia, seeing yourself differently from how others see you.

Most people have it in one form or another, I've met very few women who are happy with their own bums.

I'm usually very happy with them though.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

well we go all over the uk and oor lass is size 18/20 get plenty of offers as my mrs gets told very sexy its not just her looks its because she a crazy fun type person and tbh we both been with bigger lasses and slim girls and when we meet its because we click with the person/persons funwise as have a laugh before go any further .

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By *amschwingerzCouple over a year ago

West

"Since we've been on the site, I've been reluctant to contact couples if the female half is significantly slimmer than me.

Although my hubby very much enjoys playing with larger ladies like myself, he also enjoys playing with slim ladies.

However, I always worry that other men won't be as relaxed about size so if their partners are slim, they wouldn't enjoy being with a large lady with squishy bits!

I think I would feel upset if a couple came out and said, "sorry, but we're not interested because you're too fat" so I avoid the situation.

Em x"

Great question...I have often found myself wanting someone to ask this on here..

Female stance...even though we dont meet (my 'size' being one of the reasons) I rarely even chat to another fem or a couple on here if the female is anything more than a couple of dress sizes smaller than me...I just feel that larger females will be more understanding and sympathetic to my situation.

I chatted to a really nice guy one night, the male half of a verified genuine couple..we were getting on great and I started to get 'that' feeling...one thing led to another and we had some fun on cam/messenger

When I read their profile after it stated 'no large or overweight women please'

I thought you fucking hypocrite!

Which brings me nicely to my husbands input on the subject 'most men dont care as long as they are getting their load off anyway'

Eloquence personified!

But, to be honest, I feel I have to agree with him, that encounter pissed me off no end, so much so now I prefer females, or couples with a few 'handles' here and there.

And a lot of them are more sociable and friendly than 'the beautiful people' anyway.

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By *kyblue2681Woman over a year ago

manchester

i have the same issue. as a very"bbw" i feel self conscious when people contact me and have no reference to the same"type" of women they find attractive and if there is no verification from some one more plus sized i just reply sorry don't think im your type

the reason for that is it clearly says on my profile im bbw but then i can get into chat with people and its not till we swop pics they realise im bbw and then say sorry not for us

so why waste my time and get a little hurt too when i can avoid this.

i guess if people bothered to read profiles or at least first couple lines it would be ok

or even if you could put on profile the "type " of people physically you wanna meet but that's a totally different thread lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We play with curvy women its not very often we play with slimmer women or men. We both think that curvy is so sexy and for us curvy is the new size zero. Also with someone slimmer than you there is also the confidence side of it and getting naked infront of them.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"When i met Wendy she was not at all my type and I wasnt hers

I love larger ladies and and my two wives were larger ladies

So in my case yes i still like larger ladies and always will xx

oh really

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By *rPandSlutCouple over a year ago

wakefield

i like this question too

although wish some couples in west yorkshire had replied lol so i could see if there was anyone fo interest :D

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Altho im not a couple i always avoid couples with slim women and if single guys contact me i always look thro their verifications and if all the women they have met have been slimmer than me i do not reply to them because im my eye i cant see the point

Sometimes we are our own worse enemies, big ladies worry they have to much belly, slim women worry their boobs arnt big enough, i think its just human nature to think the grass is always greener on the other side, but we cant help how we feel

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When i met Wendy she was not at all my type and I wasnt hers

I love larger ladies and and my two wives were larger ladies

So in my case yes i still like larger ladies and always will xx

oh really

Yesssss xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We find reading verifications gives an idea of the kind of people they meet such as size and age.We always check these before sending messages although it difficult when some people hide them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As I put on my profile...if you don't like curvy women why you looking at me?

I ain't gonna lose my curves....I just love the cuddles I get because I am cuddly, in a sexy way too hehehe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im a size 14 bottom and 38e top and play with women who are sexy. Not size. A woman can be size 24 it dont matter to me..what matters is her persona, her confidence, her glint in her eyes. Ive played with curvy ladies and slim ones too. Ive never felt they or me are better than each other its only skin end of day xx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

not in a couple couple but have a couples profile with an FB of mine. when we first set it up i said i only wanted to contact bbw couples and women as i was woried about my size etc but he told me not to worry about that and so now we dont really pay attention to size etc

yes some have turned us down, but luckly they have all been very polite about it saying 'sorry not our type' etc

also, i have been to a BDSM party with my Master and played with a couple that turned out to be on here. when i looked at their profile later it said 'no tummies', but i got invited to another party they organised. Looked at their profile again and this had changed to say 'not always'. now i am not big headed enough to think this was my doing but it does show that opinions and preferences can change

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We find reading verifications gives an idea of the kind of people they meet such as size and age.We always check these before sending messages although it difficult when some people hide them.

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By *amschwingerzCouple over a year ago

West

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By *nnie2009Couple over a year ago

Blackpool

we are not exactly a slim couple but we are happy, some ppl want barbie/ken models

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

Generally I don't take too much notice of comments like BBW. Just seen a lady classify herself as a BBW, and the image posted was basically your average lady. (not meant in the plain sense)

I suppose in answer to the opening question, I would play with a lady bigger than my wife (if we were active), but I would also play with slimmer ladies too. It's more about attraction than a measuring tape.

I could not say no one above a size 18, because you could be attracted to a lady sized 22, I'm not going to refer to a measuring tape, either you do it for me or you don't.

Picking a number for width is as artbitary as saying I fuck no one over 6ft.

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By *lackCherryCouple over a year ago

Bristol

We aren't sizeist in any way people can be sexy at almost any size.

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By *obblybitsCouple over a year ago

huddersfield

Were in west Yorkshire. I am a very bbw and yes sometimes I feel very insecure about my size and tbh were not contacted by many people smaller than me and I feel my size is the reason why. Other than losing weight which I am struggling with there is nothing me and my husband can do about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My OH is attracted to women with boobs, bums and curves and therefore doesn't look for very slim women. He likes brunettes so that's a change from the usual ie; me, but he tends to stick with the same body type. His fantasy has always been big boobs and rounded bums so if a woman doesn't have those attributes then its not really fulfilling his fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest when i first started doing this i had my likes and type of man i was looking for but very soon came to realise if you only went for guys who was 'your type' you'd hardly get any meets, so i started opening up to meeting different types of men

I think over the years i have met all colours, sizes, ages etc to be honest i always think you dont know till you have tried, some guys i didnt think id like turned out to be great meets while certain types of men just havnt been for me so i wouldnt meet anyone again that fit into that category

I think a lot of people come on here only wanting certain types of people to meet but as they get into it their tastes change and are more open to try different types of people

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By *ong_legs2Couple over a year ago

essex

not for us, just not into bbw's

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be honest when i first started doing this i had my likes and type of man i was looking for but very soon came to realise if you only went for guys who was 'your type' you'd hardly get any meets, so i started opening up to meeting different types of men

I think a lot of people come on here only wanting certain types of people to meet but as they get into it their tastes change and are more open to try different types of people"

I think this is true of me. I have played with a variety of different guys, all different shapes, but my OH, whilst he would say the ladies are all different cos they don't have similar facial features, they all do seem to be a similar body shape

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I woud play with big or small as long as the lady liked asian men 2 many dont like different to them here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think a lot of people come on here only wanting certain types of people to meet but as they get into it their tastes change and are more open to try different types of people

thats fair enough you like what you like

i have to be honest even tho i did try a variety of shapes and sizes i still seemed to come back to the same body type as a preference over others

when i was with my ex we used to do this together and he liked bigger ladies, i dont think he ever played with anyone under a size 16, not because he couldnt he just had no interest in slimmer women than that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i'm a size 18 and it stops me from meeting, even though guys have said such nice things, i have zero self confidence. and zero willpower to do anything about it, if i were meeting a couple it would definately put me off if she were a size 10

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What we have noticed, when looking through profile pics, is that like attracts like.

You often see BBW's playing with BBW's and average/slim couples playing with similar.

Maybe that's because they advertise as "wanting to meet similar" or are only contacted by people similar to themselves.

Perhaps people like to stay inside their comfort zone.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Variety is the spice of life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i'm a size 18 and it stops me from meeting, even though guys have said such nice things, i have zero self confidence. and zero willpower to do anything about it, if i were meeting a couple it would definately put me off if she were a size 10 "

That's a shame, after all you would both have something completely unique for others to experience... that in itself I would find interesting regardless of any outward difference in size.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's a shame, after all you would both have something completely unique for others to experience... that in itself I would find interesting regardless of any outward difference in size.

Wolf

its down to how you feel tho isnt it

If a couple with a size 10 woman mailed me, even if they said they liked and had met bigger ladies i still wouldnt meet them because i know i would feel very insecure naked next to a size 10 and that in return would effect my performance

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By *scottMan over a year ago

Uttoxeter

From my own point of view size plays very little factor in who I chat to, call friends or play with. Size of personality is far more a factor for me than a body ( or body part) size. We are all different and beautiful in our own way. Some see beauty where others see none. Jackie sees beauty in me after all, but don't worry I've ordered her new glasses with a picture of Brad Pitt on the lens so she will still think I look good. Lol.

We all have preferences and dislikes, for myself very thin unshaped women can even turn me off if playing in the same area as me. That said back in my younger days I dated a girl who was very thin and she never failed to excite me. So never doubt yourself as to your ability to be seen as attractive or sexy. Yes you may not be for everyone, but I am willing to bet the more confident you become, the more attractive you become to those around you.

Now time for bed as I have been nodding off while typing this. Goodnight all you Fab peeps out there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't feel threatened by women who are slimmer than me whilst swinging because I know he doesn't find them as visually attractive. Some people struggle with this concept because they look at me and cannot believe that my shape could possibly attract him more than a slim smaller boobed size 10.

I love it when he has a 'winking day' on fab. If its quiet at work he'll have a general pervery at womens pics. It makes me laugh to log on later to find messages from women/couples whose avatar is a pair of huge bare breasts. I giggle when I say to him 'oo we've had a nice message from ....' And he'll say 'yes I think you'll like the guy', when I know full well he hasn't been able to tear his eyes away from the large breasts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I ask ladies if this is the same in reverse

Do ladies with partners who are an athletic build like fun with guys with a little extra padding?"

Yes!!! It's the chemistry and attraction that matters more to us than size. Ms

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Master posting, Cali can have her own opinion :

I think that in general men will always look to go with a fit healthy looking woman over a fatty ( bbw, huge, whatever the PC term is ) . Personally I tend to steer away from the obese as in general terms they show a lack of care to their diet and their lifestyle and they are not really going to be fit if they are so large ( yes 1 in a 1000 or something has a medical condition that only seems to affect Western women and men and is nothing to do with the intake of calories and fat, I was in the Far East last year and the only fatties I saw were western tourists ) , of course the shallow side of me says that men on here will not really care that much whether you are fat or thin because they just want to empty their balls and they dont have to take the fatty home or to meet their friends and family.

Now My Cali is no stick insect but is making a conscious effort to shed the pounds and she feels healthier and happier for it, she knows that she put on the weight because her last partner was a feeder who could not stand other men looking at her or fancying her so she ended up huge, and no I wont force her to lose weight she will do it because she knows its healthier and will make her feel better about herself.

Women if meeting as a couple will tend to look for a woman smilar or larger than they are as thats how they will feel most comfortable, after all watching hubby with a nice well looked after slim woman is only going to make them feel even worse about themselves, no one WANTS to be fat, but in reality its a lifestyle choice that needs tackled.

Bring on the hate mail lol

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By *odkaboy2Man over a year ago

bristol

Whilst clearly not a male from a couple I can state from my point of view that having played with ladies from size zero to 26, the size of the lady had no bearing on the amount or quality of true fun that was had. It is the individual inside the skin that makes a person (for swinging and life in general) and if any was to say that you were too fat to play with then that's there loss.

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By *odkaboy2Man over a year ago

bristol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I play with people regardless of size or shape, men and women.

Since being on this site my weight has fluctuated and I have gone from a size 12 to a size 16. I like to think that people see the sexiness in me rather than the size.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being fat myself, I do read profiles and look at veri's before I message someone just to look for any clues on preferred partners.

If it says, no fatties, no over 40's, like people that look after themselves etc I generally wouldn't make contact.

Also if the profile goes on about them being fit a bit too much then again I would stay clear.

If there are no clues there then a message to do a bit of digging may be in order.

Maybe by adopting this approach, I lose out on meeting people who would meet, but the way I look at it is that my pics are there, it's an open profile, if they like what they see and what they read, then they'll either get in touch or keep looking (in which case I'd message them out of curiosity anyway).

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By *ot - CoupleCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

"Since we've been on the site, I've been reluctant to contact couples if the female half is significantly slimmer than me.

Although my hubby very much enjoys playing with larger ladies like myself, he also enjoys playing with slim ladies.

However, I always worry that other men won't be as relaxed about size so if their partners are slim, they wouldn't enjoy being with a large lady with squishy bits!

I think I would feel upset if a couple came out and said, "sorry, but we're not interested because you're too fat" so I avoid the situation.

However, I'm also feeling that we may be missing out and should just bite the bullet and contact slimmer couples.

So I was wondering, what do the guys who have slim partners on here think? Would you enjoy getting hold of a LOT of woman when you're used to sliding your arms around a slender frame?

Em x"
First question that comes to my mind is, are you confident about your size, does it matter what other people think about your size?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

for me ive gotta say size dont matter i just love sex no matter who its with lol x x fred

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us... Its a difficult one.. We havent played with a couple as a couple for the reason that.. I know my Masters taste in women... and its certainly not a woman over a size 14.. although he has his expecptions and has a few of the bigger ladies that I talk to that he thinks are actually sexy..

But he does have strong views about bigger ladies.. and I am the first over a 12 lady that Master has been with.

When my Master met me I was a big big girl... I still see myself as bigger than I am.. I used to turn down the younger sexy guys because I didnt see why they would want to meet me.. and I am a little the same with couples.. but... If they approach me now.. I am replying... as I figure that if they have approached me that maybe they like me..

Then I think actually its more likely to be because of bi females that will play without a partner are rareish... and slimmer girls even more so.

I get quite a few offers from couples that state NO BBW.. and when I say that your not looking for people my size... I normally get that I look good in my photos and they would make an exception...

I have still yet to play with a couple..

I have been every size in my adult life.. from an 8 (where I looked ill to a size 32..) but I am only now starting to feel sexy again as I feel myself coming out of the shell I was hiding in...

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Master posting, Cali can have her own opinion :

Bring on the hate mail lol

no need for hate mail i think your right in many ways

hubby says he only fancies fatties but i'm certain he finds many a slender lady sexy as i firmly believe that sexy is a state of mind not a body size and even in photos this can come across, if we are messaged by couples with a slimmer lady then he will say "nope not for me" but part of me knows that is just him making sure i don't feel unsure of his lust for me even though i have spent years telling him i'm cool in my skin and i really don't have any issue with him bumping bones with a slender lady as i firmly believe variety is most certainly the spice of life and i'd rather he was honest and enjoyed than secretly coveted

although i do know he definately has preferences that have developed over the years that i think are directly linked to what he is used to as in when he has played with ladys that have smaller butt than me or not got a big fat podgy mound for a chuff he always comments its just not what he likes and that i believe as i have got used to having his cut cock and that has definately become my preference and i tend to have the same reaction afterwards as he does, i think your preferences are developed over time from what you are used to having regulary if that makes sense

so in answer to the op we are in reverse we wouldn't message a couple with a slim fem as its not normally our preference but we do get messages from couples with a slim fem and have to say no thankyou although that may not always be the case as i'm sure one will come along from time to time that we would go oooo yes please to as like i said sexy is a frame of mind not a body size

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" sexy is a frame of mind not a body size "

Wolf

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By *ath-N-DelCouple over a year ago

Glasgow area

Simply........

Yes....

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By *ath-N-DelCouple over a year ago

Glasgow area

Simply........

Yes....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We like to mix it up xx just like nice sexy people xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I won't quote Cali's Master as its a long one, but a paragraph in his post relates to what I was referring to about slimmer people or men who prefer slimmer woman finding it incomprehensible that some men prefer a curvier girl over a very slim girl.

I do feel that some people think its my influence over him and me not being keen on him playing with a woman slimmer than me, that really is not the case.

I was ecstatic when we became friends with a younger couple and played with them as the female is 26 and absolutely gorgeous, admittedly not tiny, a size 16, but I loved the fact that at nearly 50 he can play with women half his age. Now that woman is beautiful, no wrinkles, firmer boobs, obviously in better shape than I am being 18 years older than her. I don't ever feel threatened by her. I think hey my man pulling young beautiful women. He doesn't feel its anything to be particularly proud of, he doesn't view it as an achievement.

Maybe its because, at the risk of sounding arrogant, I am not ugly, I have an ok face and I always feel that I look ok and I've never felt that someone has looked better than me. I've thought other ladies look gorgeous but I'm not in competition because I don't feel I need to be

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By *avid1Man over a year ago

Dubai

Bigger is better!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love a amble lady.

Love to hold her, caress her and tease her before, well you know.

I just enjoy a fuller size lady, and yes I am slim, so why should size matter when there is affection for each other c

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

My size has never bothered me, if someone messages me or chats me up they can see what they are getting. Ive never been short of men even at my heaviest of 22.7 stone.

When i met jay i was about 21.7 his ex wife is a size 10 and he had never been with anyone over a size 12 in his life. He used to go with urchin(boyish) looking women. Then he met me lol. Also in all my vanilla relationships the guys havent naturally been attracted to big women but they where attracted to me as a person.

It has never entered my head when in a relationship that they would of gone off with a slimmer woman. If they didnt like me they wouldnt have been with me in the first place.

It was my decision to loose weight although jay is really supportive and is always telling me how good i look. My gentleman friends have always been happy although i know some of them find me more attractive now, ive had one negative thing from a gentleman friend who funnily isnt attracted to big women. He went mardy and said he prefered me fat

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

oh and at size 16 and 12.7 stone i know i am healthier than a lot of slimmer people i have the medical evidence to prove it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very interesting thread. I'm a size 22 and have come across all sorts of 'admirers'. I'm still not sure what to think of some of them. But what I do know is that a lot of men who have sex with big women would never actually go out with them. They are either embarrassed to admit to their friends that they like fat women or another theory is that they just wanted a shag and didn't care what she looked like.

And there are the men who say they always wanted to try a BBW. Sorry, I don't like to be an experiment.

It has happened a few times that I've been chatting to a guy and in the meantime they met other women who were slim (as per their verifications) and I withdrew because I also thought that this is their actual preference and I'm just a back up plan.

Unfortunately I like toned men myself, which doesn't make it easier for me. While I can get meets with them, I probably fall into their second choice category.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

+1 I have to agree some guys are ok but some are with the thought of we are ok to shag but not to date. But saying that they are not all bad I meet a great couple I meet them about four times a year they travel from Isle of wight to chams and we always have a blast there are couples out there.

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By *onnoisseur100Man over a year ago

Woking-ish

"We find reading verifications gives an idea of the kind of people they meet such as size and age.We always check these before sending messages although it difficult when some people hide them.

+1 "

Blimey, juicyass, you are slim! I'd gladly have your verification on my profile after a meet!

Like most things on this site its down to personal taste, me I don't mind - well that is to say I haven't found anybody too large or too slim so far.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What we have noticed, when looking through profile pics, is that like attracts like.

You often see BBW's playing with BBW's and average/slim couples playing with similar.

Maybe that's because they advertise as "wanting to meet similar" or are only contacted by people similar to themselves.

Perhaps people like to stay inside their comfort zone.

XXXX"

Think you have hit the nail on the head..

I always check peoples veris To see what the other people look like

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women if meeting as a couple will tend to look for a woman smilar or larger than they are as thats how they will feel most comfortable, after all watching hubby with a nice well looked after slim woman is only going to make them feel even worse about themselves, no one WANTS to be fat, but in reality its a lifestyle choice that needs tackled. "

well i can only speak for myself but i can say that when i was married that wasnt true for us, my ex likes bigger ladies, not because he couldnt find 'anything better' not because he didnt want to make me feel bad by shagging a size 8 bird but because he genuinly likes bigger ladies. i lost 7 and a half stone about 4 years ago and went from a size 14 to a size 10/12 and he moaned at me none stop for loosing that weight and when i was a size 10/12 he didnt all of a sudden start meeting couples with slim women because he no longer had a fat wife he still only played with women over a size 16 and i cant honestly say no matter what size i was i never would have minded who he played with based on size alone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *ilmiss75Woman over a year ago

Thornton

As a BBW fem.. I stopped meeting cpls for dif reasons. I have found over the years that cpls do prefare slimmer women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For us... Its a difficult one.. We havent played with a couple as a couple for the reason that.. I know my Masters taste in women... and its certainly not a woman over a size 14.. although he has his expecptions and has a few of the bigger ladies that I talk to that he thinks are actually sexy..

But he does have strong views about bigger ladies.. and I am the first over a 12 lady that Master has been with.

Then I think actually its more likely to be because of bi females that will play without a partner are rareish... and slimmer girls even more so.

I get quite a few offers from couples that state NO BBW.. and when I say that your not looking for people my size... I normally get that I look good in my photos and they would make an exception...

I have still yet to play with a couple..

I have been every size in my adult life.. from an 8 (where I looked ill to a size 32..) but I am only now starting to feel sexy again as I feel myself coming out of the shell I was hiding in...

Cali "

so with all due respect if your 'master' is so apposed to 'fatties' and your a 'fattie' why are you together?

P.S fattie was his wording not mind im just quoting his description of bigger women

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By *woBiTwoCouple over a year ago

north manchester

*him* Yep, although the Mrs is a size 8-10 petite height, I love larger ladies too - tall, short or medium height; slim, average or curvy body shape, but not anorexic or morbidly obese. As long as the lady has a definite figure, I love 'em!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always get a litle nervous when i we have met with a slim couple. As like most pepople i do have a complex bout my body. But once we have met the nervs seem to to fade. Do believe there needs to be a attraction but having a laugh and being easy to get on with helps x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But he does have strong views about bigger ladies.. and I am the first over a 12 lady that Master has been with.

Then I think actually its more likely to be because of bi females that will play without a partner are rareish... and slimmer girls even more so.

I get quite a few offers from couples that state NO BBW.. and when I say that your not looking for people my size... I normally get that I look good in my photos and they would make an exception...

I have still yet to play with a couple..

I have been every size in my adult life.. from an 8 (where I looked ill to a size 32..) but I am only now starting to feel sexy again as I feel myself coming out of the shell I was hiding in...

Cali

so with all due respect if your 'master' is so apposed to 'fatties' and your a 'fattie' why are you together?

P.S fattie was his wording not mind im just quoting his description of bigger women

Master here

I prefer slim women, I prefer women that look after themselves, I dont oppose fat women in any way at all they are free to be as slim or as fat as they feel they want to be, I dislike the term BBW because its a disguise for Fat, these are all preferences but I never said anywhere that I wont be with or have sex with a fat woman, I am honest about it and dont try and hide from what I prefer and fat is not healthy, as for my Partner Cali ? love is a wonderful thing

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By *ilmiss75Woman over a year ago

Thornton

I use the term BBW not because I'm beautiful but simply because it sounds a lot nicer than putting on your profile 'I am FAT'.

I'm a bit confused Master that you do not like bigger women but you would still have sex with them

Please explain?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Snap some thing here.

I'm comfortable in my own body in my own body but to scared to contact slimmer people for the same reason.

Especialy when you have slim /athletic on their profiles. I (mrs) tend to clam up around them at parties clubs too

Thinking about redoing profile to put my size on and the fact if you dont like ladies with big bottoms to not contact us

Dont know if i'm sad or what?

People that are my own size etc i have no probs with

You don't have a big bum at all, you have a smashing behind!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am put off meeting due to my BBW status. I also feel that I am not a curvy BBW. Just a flabby one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I use the term BBW not because I'm beautiful but simply because it sounds a lot nicer than putting on your profile 'I am FAT'.

I'm a bit confused Master that you do not like bigger women but you would still have sex with them

Please explain?"

im a bit confused that even tho his wife is a bigger lady and he know she does not feel good about herself because of this he would come on here and openly called women which category his wife fits into fatties

i find that shockingly disrespectful if im going to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Master here

Im sorry if my honesty offends some people but im afraid im not going to lie to spare the blushes of the people who cant realise that they are fat, if the term fat offends then maybe thats because you dont want to accept that you are fat ( and im generalising not picking on anyone who has posted )

I only ever encourage Cali to look her best and to feel her best, I dont try and hurt her into losing weight I encourage her to lose weight, its a medical fact that FAT is unhealthy so if all the fatties are saying they like being unhealthy then that is fine thats a personal choice that the health service and my taxes will have to fund, Cali is under no illusions about my personal preference and I am happy to let her have men that she finds attractive ( mainly younger and more attractive than me ) but thats her choice and I encourage her to enjoy all she can, I met Cali when she was twice the size she is, I met Cali as a friend and our relationship developed from friendship to love, and we have a very healthy and active life together, but im not going to suddenly now say that I prefer fat women over thin because I dont and to lie about that is never going to happen, honesty in my relationship with my wife is paramount.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Where do I feel bad about myself.. I have said that I have not met people together because I know my Master likes slimmer ladies.. mostly its because the ladies my Master would like.. the partners do not want to play with me.

I may not be masters normal type.. but I am the woman who he loves... and Why would I feel inferior.. Master also prefers younger.. and I cant change that.. nor do I feel inferior..

Master doesnt I think see me how he does others..but it isnt just me.. He has commented to a few friends of mine that are bigger ladies.. and found something about them..

AS my master put.. its a preference.. he prefers women that look after themselves..

its double standards really.. as many of the ladies on here.. myself included will openly admit to only wanting slimmer in shape guys... yet when it comes to us women.. its all SHOCK horror when men apply the same standards..

Cali

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By *aveandkate35Couple over a year ago

telford

Going back to the OP - all I can say is, when we started we looked for "similar to us", and actually found that we were approached but younger, better looking, slimer people!

We've also been with people, taller, older and larger than us too!

And its all be good! So in summary - yes/no/maybe - who cares! just see if you click, dont' be ashamed or presume what others are thinking of you, they can make their own mind up. If they are intrested in you, let that be where you're worries end, and if they are not, well, let that be where your worries end.

Swining is like a box of chocholates... well it would be if some fatty hadn't eaten them...;-) (me

)

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Where do I feel bad about myself..

you have mentioned a few times on these forums about your weight and how you want to loose weight because you do not feel good about yourself

i dont mean it rude againt you i, just like a sponge i obverve and take in everything lol

As for mr cali, i dont want you to sugar coat anything, i dont care if you call people fatties or not, makes no odds to me, i just commented due to comments your wife has made in the past that you would use such a word as fatties.......care about people on here? no why should you, be more respectful towatds your own wife?.....well i guess thats just a matter of opinion

people will always disagree on here, guess we just see this subject differently

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and on that note im off to chams to find me a couple of bi guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Where do I feel bad about myself..

you have mentioned a few times on these forums about your weight and how you want to loose weight because you do not feel good about yourself

i dont mean it rude againt you i, just like a sponge i obverve and take in everything lol

people will always disagree on here, guess we just see this subject differently

but that was not due to my Master that I felt bad about myself..

It was due to being morbidly obese at one point... and wanting to lose weight.. FOr me...

If anything my confidence is only what it is because my Master works on it all the time..

Master has never ever pushed it.. He could have done.. lets face it Master could order me to do as he likes.. but he tells me I am the most stunning and sexy woman he has ever had the pleasure to be with...

Master prefers slimmer women... I have known that before we were together and being with me doesnt mean he has changed his preferences..

I have my bad days.. as I will do when I am slimmer .. I may feel old, or ugly, or have a bad hair day..

I would rather Master be honest.... THing is..often its just a case of saying what other people wont.. Swinging world can be so judgemental.. us women like to have mostly ( judgin from the recent threads on this subject) Men aged between 25-45 and no beer bellies in sight...

Do I consider myself to be fat.. YES I do.. just look on my medical record it still says obese, although not morbidly anymore..

I know my masters views... and certainly never feel disrespected..

cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It all depends what you call bigger! That can be taller, fatter or a combination of both. I would rather play with a pretty larger woman than an ugly skinny woman. The key to it all is how attractive is the individual.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What gets my goat is people who make misplaced comments about 'fatties' not taking care of their appearance and being unhealthy and how they are a drain on health resources and they don't wish their taxes to go on looking after an overweight persons health. We all do things that are deemed unhealthy and unnecessary whether that be smoking, over eating, drinking. People are quite able to risk assess themselves.

I think BDSM is unhealthy, bruises and hitting someone is unhealthy, a smack in the mouth or bruising to the breasts is hardly a healthy sport is it, and of course I don't want my taxes wasted on self inflicted injuries that may need medical attention. So when people talk about what is or is not healthy take a look in the mirror first.

It doesn't matter to me what people call others on here, but you would like to think that if they had a family member who was unhappy with their appearance, they wouldn't use offensive terms to describe the category of people that family member falls into.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But being overweight is one of the places that the nhs does want to cut costs.. I think anyone that loses weight will be the first to admit that there health is better after losing it...

Its a fact..

Cant ever remember being hospitalized or needing treatment for any sessions either.. and for the record I never have bruised breasts and have never been smacked in the mouth...

I dont drink or smoke either..

And I wouldnt chose to be overweight.. it happened because I had a partner that dragged me down.. fed me up, made me have such low confidence in myself I didnt care.. Yes I always like to dress nice.. always have.. but I can dress a hell of a lot better now my choices are less limited..

Read back what my master said and then you may not take such offence..

And my double standards comment still stands..

Why is it okay for the women to want slim attractive guys.. but if a man wants it.. ohhhh bad bad man..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm fat and proud... there are worse thing in life to be.

But what really fooks me off is the misconception that being fat is unhealthy and being slim is not!!

FFS... I don't drink, I don't smoke. I can out run a lot of my 'naturally' slender friends!

Body shape is not a true indicator of health!! In fact being bigger may just make you fitter... afterall I have more weight to carry round with me, more exercise!! lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Master here

Yes you are right about one thing, you are shallow.

I would have this same opinion of you if I was a size 12 or a size 16. I lived with a guy similar to you. When I got to a size 14, am nearly 5.10 by the way. He told me he no longer wanted sex with me as I, in his eyes, was too fat. So I went on a miracle diet and lost 18 n half stone of unwanted fat by telling him to do one. Funny thing was he was steady putting weight on. Did it bother me, no it didn't. I loved him regardless of size. But when he opened his mouth he became superficial and shallow.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But being overweight is one of the places that the nhs does want to cut costs.. I think anyone that loses weight will be the first to admit that there health is better after losing it...

Its a fact..

Cant ever remember being hospitalized or needing treatment for any sessions either.. and for the record I never have bruised breasts and have never been smacked in the mouth...

I dont drink or smoke either..

Read back what my master said and then you may not take such offence..

And my double standards comment still stands..

Why is it okay for the women to want slim attractive guys.. but if a man wants it.. ohhhh bad bad man..

Cali "

I don't tend to have my meets going by their clothes size. I have had meets with guys who vary in size. Each bring something different to the table, but each also have the same thing in common....am attracted to who they are as a person

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just love people who generalize that "fatties" are unhealthy. Ive lost weight cause i wasnt healthy, but im still fat and anyone who doesnt know me would describe me as fat, yet my health is in tip top condition

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"But being overweight is one of the places that the nhs does want to cut costs.. I think anyone that loses weight will be the first to admit that there health is better after losing it...

Its a fact..

Cant ever remember being hospitalized or needing treatment for any sessions either.. and for the record I never have bruised breasts and have never been smacked in the mouth...

I dont drink or smoke either..

Read back what my master said and then you may not take such offence..

And my double standards comment still stands..

Why is it okay for the women to want slim attractive guys.. but if a man wants it.. ohhhh bad bad man..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

but on here its about looks first to many.. and its been said many times.. Looks first, then personality.. not to all.. but that makes us all a little shallow..

( check the forum search for what we look for..or does looks matter if you think I am being funny)

Why is my Master shallow for prefering slim women.. I prefer for fun, younger, fit guys... with a certain look about them.. as do a good many of the ladies on here.. is that not shallow too.. but ohhh thats fine.. as its a womans world on here..

We call the shots because we are what they guys want..

Is it shallow that for NSA sex you want something particular... if so.. then this whole site is shallow..

and yes.. I turn down guys that are overweight.. doesnt do anything for me and never has.. all my exs were in good shape ( one exception)

Cali

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By *ath-N-DelCouple over a year ago

Glasgow area

You lost 18 and 1/2 stone?????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is my Master shallow for prefering slim women."

He is not shallow for his preferences... he is shallow for his narrow minded view of the overweight population being unfit to be part of the community!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You lost 18 and 1/2 stone?????"

The dude!! lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What gets my goat is people who make misplaced comments about 'fatties' not taking care of their appearance and being unhealthy and how they are a drain on health resources and they don't wish their taxes to go on looking after an overweight persons health. We all do things that are deemed unhealthy and unnecessary whether that be smoking, over eating, drinking. People are quite able to risk assess themselves.

Whats misplaced about a medical FACT, obesity is unhealthy, over weight is unhealthy ( and unsightly In my opinion ) show me one doctor or nurse who thinks fat is healthy ? no you wont be able to because it is just a fact of life that fat = unhealthy, as for your comment about BDSM its a common misconception that its all about beating people up and smacking your loved one in the mouth, Bollocks is all I can say to that, the majority of people in this lifestyle care deeply about their partners and want them to be the best that they can be, discipline ? most certainly, abuse ? certainly not, disrespect ? certainly not, Love ? oh yes the love I have for Cali is as deep as the love she has for me, because we are a little different does not mean beating her up ( I have been known to tie her up though), as for the comments about BDSM people usng NHS resources thats actually quite funny, it shows the lack of knowledge you have on the subject, on the other hand I have medical evidence on the side of my argument against fatties, you have only the misconceptions of someone that "read it somewhere so it must be true" for your argument on the BDSM community.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple over a year ago

Glasgow area

You lost 18 and 1/2 stone?????

The dude!! lol"

Ahh got it LOL...thanx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Actually there is a member of the bdsm community on here that freely admits to being beaten

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Since we've been on the site, I've been reluctant to contact couples if the female half is significantly slimmer than me.

Although my hubby very much enjoys playing with larger ladies like myself, he also enjoys playing with slim ladies.

However, I always worry that other men won't be as relaxed about size so if their partners are slim, they wouldn't enjoy being with a large lady with squishy bits!

I think I would feel upset if a couple came out and said, "sorry, but we're not interested because you're too fat" so I avoid the situation.

However, I'm also feeling that we may be missing out and should just bite the bullet and contact slimmer couples.

So I was wondering, what do the guys who have slim partners on here think? Would you enjoy getting hold of a LOT of woman when you're used to sliding your arms around a slender frame?

Em x"

No.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your argument kind of falls flat on it very 'none fat' arse... when you have to resort to name calling!! 'Fatties' FFS grow up!!

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By *amschwingerzCouple over a year ago

West

"What gets my goat is people who make misplaced comments about 'fatties' "

There is one couple on here who state 'no 'oompah lompahs' on their 'people specification' list..

What a lovely way to endear yourself to people on here..

I felt like messaging them with an invite to read our profile and adding.... 'please, no boring attention seeking stick insects who just like to sit on cam never speaking, or insist on trying to dance (badly) who have adonis partners void of all personality who just glare at the screen need apply...(especially if you insist on having a picture of a BMW as you profile pic, it doesnt impress, I have two and they really are nothing special'

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By *ath-N-DelCouple over a year ago

Glasgow area

Some "Fat" women look GREAT!!!!

Some look awful....

You can say the same about any body shape/size...

I am overweight and I personally don't give a toss if some men don't like it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually there is a member of the bdsm community on here that freely admits to being beaten"

not till she is in hospital though..

and she throughly enjoys it from what I hear.. and dont drag someone else into an argument that isnt about them..

Does it offend me how my Master feels NO.. because I know that in changing my diet and exercising that getting thinner is the bi product of getting myself healthier..

All of us on the diet thread.. why are we doing it... to get thinner is prehaps not the reason.. but I would say for all its to better ourselves.. be it to get healthier.. or to look better ( read the thread.. lots want that)

If your happy then fine.. but I know that I was never truely happy being fatter.. I am fat.. not as fat as I was.. but I am.. and the only person responsible for fixing that is Me...

Since I have lost weight.. I have noticed that my inbox has got more and more busy.. and I have found that my personal expectations have gone up massively..

ie.. why would I have a average mid 40s guy when I can have a fit, sexy 22 year old... because I am confident enough in myself

Cali

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By *ath-N-DelCouple over a year ago

Glasgow area

Cali it is great that you have been losing weight and got your confidence back!

But, you have to remember that not all bigger women lack that confidence..

I haven't read every post here but I know that 2 of the posters are bigger women and look fecking fantastic!!....more so because of their confidence...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I personally enjoy playing with small, tall, larger and all in betwean!

Its the person not just the size.

I have met sm eof the sexiest women in the world whom are not the regular size 10/12, the ooze sex and I wouldnt want to change those experiences for anyone!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ie.. why would I have a average mid 40s guy when I can have a fit, sexy 22 year old... because I am confident enough in myself "

Give me a non-judgemental ave, mid 40s guy who accepts that beauty is more than skin deep than a fickle, fit, sexy 22 year old who couldn't care less about the prettiness of your personality.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If all fat women are unhappy... does that mean that all thin women are on top of the world?

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By *lackCherryCouple over a year ago

Bristol

Someone said it up there, boiling down attraction into sizes seems a bit odd to me there are plenty of "fat" women and men that are lovely just like there are plenty of skinny and average guys and girls that are disgusting.

Attraction for us is a deeper thing its personality and looks and we dont care if you're a size 8 or 18 you can be just as attractive at both sizes !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I personally wouldnt contact couples with a slimmer fem as I would feel too body conscious. But I prefer females around my own size anyway so it doesnt really make a difference to me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Actually there is a member of the bdsm community on here that freely admits to being beaten

not till she is in hospital though..

and she throughly enjoys it from what I hear.. and dont drag someone else into an argument that isnt about them..

Does it offend me how my Master feels NO.. because I know that in changing my diet and exercising that getting thinner is the bi product of getting myself healthier..

If your happy then fine.. but I know that I was never truely happy being fatter.. I am fat.. not as fat as I was.. but I am.. and the only person responsible for fixing that is Me...

Since I have lost weight.. I have noticed that my inbox has got more and more busy.. and I have found that my personal expectations have gone up massively..

ie.. why would I have a average mid 40s guy when I can have a fit, sexy 22 year old... because I am confident enough in myself

Cali "

I wasnt dragging anyone else into the argument, i was pointing out that not all bdsm people play how you do, same as all swingers play differently. Your master seems very good at making generalizations. Not all "fatties" are unhealthy, i was so i lost weight. Ive fixed the health issues so if i wanted i could stay at this weight which means i would still be a "fattie. Just because YOU didnt have confidence dont think that everyone who is a "fattie" has confidence issues

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was a happy confident sexual woman when I met my partner. He was quite open near the end that he would shag any size of woman, because he could fuck anything. But he preferred a perfect size woman on his arm as a partner. Trophy comes to mind. Well after a good while of being unhappy I put weight on. He didn't like weight gain on his partner, but it was quite fine for him self. As said I left him eventually and went to put on more weight. Am as sexually confident about myself and my body as the size 12 person that met him to the size 16 woman I am now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just don't see what the issue is with men that prefer to play with slim women.. I had confidence issues for more than my weight... But because I have a supportive and loving partner I over came them...

Do I find being refereed to as a fat person insulting.. no its a fact... As is the fact that getting healthier if overweight normally leads to weight loss... Read any slimming magazine and find anyone that says I was happy at my previous weight.. that's why I put myself through all this to lose weight...

I won't play with a couple with a guy I don't find attractive.. why should I expect my partner to play with a woman he wouldn't..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Master who is getting offended now! Dish abuse out and you must expect it back.

Are you honestly trying to tell us that noone in the BDSM community has ever been hurt and required hospital treatment because of a sex game gone wrong.

You see its ok for you to make rash generalisations about fat people being unhealthy, when we make rash generalisations about men who freely bruise their partners as being sadistic then you get offended by that. I can't speak for anyone else on this site, but I prefer a bunch of flowers from a man to show their love rather than a black eye.

It is you sir who are incredibly naïve. Do not spout bollox about fat people and their health when the NHS treat many injuries caused by partners indulging in the BDSM scene, physically, psychologically and financially, as it costs not only health professionals but the police, the courts, maybe even the prison service. I would class that as an unhealthy practice.

I am not suggesting your sex life is violent or that you commit grievous bodily harm, but it does happen and quite frequently. And no I haven't got that information from reading it on the net, I have first hand knowledge of it (and not through personal experience).

Noone is saying you are wrong to have a choice in female body shape, but you are wrong when you make inaccurate generalisations

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Reading most of the threads there are a lot of insecurities on here be confident, confidence is sexy have met a good mix of couples granted never had one on ones as prefer the clubs and to be honest never have had a problem yes I prefer curvy girls that is my preference I have a thing for boobs. And there are a lot of very sexy fuller figured ladies on here be proud of your curves, curves are sexy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

why oh why does it have to decend into an arguement over fat versus thin yet again the question was quite a good un that could of made for an open interesting discussion but sadly everyone gets all defensive

as for calling fat people fatties i do it all the time and its just accepted as i am fat

its just a word

just like toast rack was coined by a certain lovely slender lady on here and is allowed when slim ladies use it but if a fattie uses it i'm sure someone would cause uproar over it too

just words

some perspective needed sometimes on here

we are all different in many ways, different sizes differing levels of confidence and differing lavels of skin thickness too i guess

i can't deny at times i fume at some posts and it takes a lot to stop my fingers running away with me but i now take a deep breath go and make a cup of tes and if i still feel strongly then i reply with hopefully a cooler head

sometimes i fail badly i won't deny but i do think its a shame to see what could of been a great discussion falling into a mud slinging game

come on guys group hug and lets rub rolls and bones all together and have fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just don't see what the issue is with men that prefer to play with slim women.. I had confidence issues for more than my weight... But because I have a supportive and loving partner I over came them...

I won't play with a couple with a guy I don't find attractive.. why should I expect my partner to play with a woman he wouldn't..

Cali "

look see even i can't take my own advice damn kettle taking too long

sorry just had to say i was happy at my fattest those thst truely know me will verify that i had just as much confidence at a size 30/32 as i do now at a size 24 i only lost it as my back was crying out for me to do so it threatened to make me give up work and it would kill me to have to do that as i love my job immensely

it does make my blood boil when people presume that fatties can't be honestly happy and must be a liar to claim to be so much so it threatened my weight loss as i was scared those that don't know me would think i had been telling porkies when i said i was happy but then decided that i care not a jot what anyone thinks i needed to do it so have and where i am at now is wonderful as my back ia all better thankfully but i do not feel a need to loose any more which is why i am now struggling to get to the 10 stone loss i set myself as a goal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont mind being called a fattie either.

I was just thinking about the rolly pollies, those chubby dancers who used to be on the les dawson show, they were very glamorous and very fit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I won't play with a couple with a guy I don't find attractive.. why should I expect my partner to play with a woman he wouldn't..

Cali

look see even i can't take my own advice damn kettle taking too long

Congrats bouncy on your fab weight loss I agree at my heaviest I was a size 28 that was a couple of years ago and lost a little weight and maintained for a whole year at a size 22 really bad year last year but maintained and start if the year have joined sw loads of diet threads going. Point is have always been happy and confident but there comes a point when being over weight your body starts fighting back and I am purely loosing weight to get healthy. Within last 3 years I have got so much more energy and this is just the start.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

myself and my husband do not have types, we either fancy people or we don't. Some big people are attractive to us, some small people are attractive to us and some inbetween people. We look for an overall attraction, not one specific thing.

i make no bones about the fact that i am a big girl on my profile, infact i show loooooaaaads of pics as i love to flaunt myself, and certainly do not make any appollogies for it.

However, i am aware that not everyone will find my size attractive, just as not everyone will be attracted to my hair or eye colour attractive.

this does not bother me as i certainly do not go without admirers and do not feel second best to anyone else.

i am slighty amused by "masters" (lmao) comments about fat people being a drain on the nhs, this coming from someone who actively encourages his wife to have bareback sex with strangers - no cost to the NHS when you both get poxed up eh!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Checking diary.. wonders where my Master makes me.. I just happen to prefer it.. and in over 20 years of fucking who I like mostly bare.. I have never so much as once caught a cold..

Actually viagra alone cost the nhs 78million last year... and domestic violence 1.2 billion.. obesity 4billion

(figures from nhs site.. google it)

As to my Master not being proud.. We have a profile out there that has lots of photos of me.. and videos.. that he loves nothing better than to show people thats his girl... but then he shows that because he loves me..

cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"why oh why does it have to decend into an arguement over fat versus thin yet again the question was quite a good un that could of made for an open interesting discussion but sadly everyone gets all defensive

as for calling fat people fatties i do it all the time and its just accepted as i am fat

its just a word

just like toast rack was coined by a certain lovely slender lady on here and is allowed when slim ladies use it but if a fattie uses it i'm sure someone would cause uproar over it too

just words

some perspective needed sometimes on here

we are all different in many ways, different sizes differing levels of confidence and differing lavels of skin thickness too i guess

sometimes i fail badly i won't deny but i do think its a shame to see what could of been a great discussion falling into a mud slinging game

come on guys group hug and lets rub rolls and bones all together and have fun

Master posting

Well said, glad to see someone can actually read whats said wothout indulging in some kind of hate fest, as for the other comments regarding the BDSM community I dont need to justify my lifestyle to you, the same as you dont need to justify your obesity to me, and the ignorant bitch that made the comment about us becoming poxed up, sorry love but personal attacks dont bother me, I dont give a toss what you think in the same vein as you obviously hang on my every word to become so angry and ignorant, just remember you are a swinger and as such are not exactly going to be leading the moral high ground in the community, to others you would be seen as a whore and a harlot ( not that for one minute I would call you such a thing )

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

as for calling fat people fatties i do it all the time and its just accepted as i am fat

its just a word

just like toast rack was coined by a certain lovely slender lady on here and is allowed when slim ladies use it but if a fattie uses it i'm sure someone would cause uproar over it too

just words

some perspective needed sometimes on here

we are all different in many ways, different sizes differing levels of confidence and differing lavels of skin thickness too i guess

sometimes i fail badly i won't deny but i do think its a shame to see what could of been a great discussion falling into a mud slinging game

come on guys group hug and lets rub rolls and bones all together and have fun

Master posting

YOU are th one getting angry, i a perfectly composed. i think you will find, i am just pointing out that if you are going to throw around comments about other peoples life style choices then you should look in the mirror first!

i think you need to calm yourself down now dear

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Master, As Cali will probably testify i am usually on your side of things and have been called to support on seperate BDSM posts in the past

However, whilst i respect your right to your opinion and do agree with you that obese people are not healthy (as yo say FACT, organs have to work harder etc) i have to say the repeated use of the term 'fatties' does make you sound a tad like the bullies i encountered in the playground.

There are ways of putting a point accross withuout calling names and ts a fact that some find the term fattie offensive and, as i am sure you knew it would, it raises hackles and some people will lash out at whatever they can and your BDSM/TPE lifestyle is easy pickings for them.

Perhaps they are trying o offend with the comparison to wife beating as you were with the repeated use of the word fattie?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I actually was going to edit my other post to add..

The thing with swinging is its not about finding a life partner.. its about sexual fantasy at its best...

us women get to have our pick.. we chose the guys that we want.. and I am sorry but there have been many a thread about the fact that majority of us forum users admit to wanting slimmer fitter guys.. So why are men slaughtered for wanting the same..

The thing is.. I am my Masters life partner.. his soul mate.. I will always be the most beautiful woman in the world to him.. for a NSA fuck.. he wants what he wants.. so in Masters case that would be under 30 and size 14 max. Unless (and it has happened) someone catches his eye and has a certain look.. but its that person.. not that he has suddenly decided he prefers bigger ladies.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Master, As Cali will probably testify i am usually on your side of things and have been called to support on seperate BDSM posts in the past

Perhaps they are trying o offend with the comparison to wife beating as you were with the repeated use of the word fattie?"

Master here

Thank you and yes I do take your points on board, my problem is that I say as I see and I am not one for changing words or making things sound like something they are not, to me fat is fat and thin is thin in the same way as black is black and white is white, so to those that were offended by the term Fattie that i used then im sorry if it caused offence, to me its just a word to describe what I see, thanks evesham sometimes even I can take advice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

as for calling fat people fatties i do it all the time and its just accepted as i am fat

its just a word

just like toast rack was coined by a certain lovely slender lady on here and is allowed when slim ladies use it but if a fattie uses it i'm sure someone would cause uproar over it too

just words

some perspective needed sometimes on here

we are all different in many ways, different sizes differing levels of confidence and differing lavels of skin thickness too i guess

sometimes i fail badly i won't deny but i do think its a shame to see what could of been a great discussion falling into a mud slinging game

come on guys group hug and lets rub rolls and bones all together and have fun

Master posting

but personal attacks dont bother me.. just before that you called some one and the ignorant bitch

think this subject and comments are getting to you,every one is different in there own way its a swinging site and not every body is going to be some ones cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We find reading verifications gives an idea of the kind of people they meet such as size and age.We always check these before sending messages although it difficult when some people hide them.

Blimey, juicyass, you are slim! I'd gladly have your verification on my profile after a meet!

Like most things on this site its down to personal taste, me I don't mind - well that is to say I haven't found anybody too large or too slim so far.

Haha thanks but i disagree.....I think a shit load better in my pics than i do in the flesh...pictures dont show all the little lumps and bumps you have as much as the naked eye does. Im by no means slim i just know how to take good pictures to flatter my figure....Nobody wants to put a bad pic up of themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We find reading verifications gives an idea of the kind of people they meet such as size and age.We always check these before sending messages although it difficult when some people hide them.

Blimey, juicyass, you are slim! I'd gladly have your verification on my profile after a meet!

Like most things on this site its down to personal taste, me I don't mind - well that is to say I haven't found anybody too large or too slim so far.

I think i look a shit load better in my pics**** Grr typo!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

but personal attacks dont bother me.. just before that you called some one and the ignorant bitch

think this subject and comments are getting to you,every one is different in there own way its a swinging site and not every body is going to be some ones cup of tea

I think that its just how Master is.. He is blunt and will not sugar coat things..

On this.. would we meet bigger couples if I was a size 10 or 12.. then no.. as it wouldnt fit what master likes in a woman.. same as I got talking to a lovely lady from a couple. only to finally see a photo of her hubby and really was thinking OMG... I then had to tell them no.. because I couldnt meet...

Its about attraction... and for my Master he isnt naturally attracted to bigger girls.. and I spend a lot of time with guys.. and even from overhearing conversations from groups of guys in swinging environment.. I can tell you that a lot of guys will say one thing.. but outside of the compliments on the chat rooms.. will think another.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Master here

After eating a whole tin of alphabet spaghetti and being able to shit a better argueent I will say that 'fat is fat' is not quite the same as 'black is black'... it is an overused term often said to cause offence such as the 'n' word is to refer to black.

Personally I am fat and couldn't care less what you or anyone else calls me... but being made to feel like a second rate citizen in my eyes is unacceptable,

If only closed minds came with closed mouths!

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By *etitesaraTV/TS over a year ago

rochdale

"Snap some thing here.

I'm comfortable in my own body in my own body but to scared to contact slimmer people for the same reason.

Especialy when you have slim /athletic on their profiles. I (mrs) tend to clam up around them at parties clubs too

Thinking about redoing profile to put my size on and the fact if you dont like ladies with big bottoms to not contact us

Dont know if i'm sad or what?

People that are my own size etc i have no probs with

Honey, going by your photos you have a perfect figure - you don't need to be worried about anyone not fancying you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

but personal attacks dont bother me.. just before that you called some one and the ignorant bitch

think this subject and comments are getting to you,every one is different in there own way its a swinging site and not every body is going to be some ones cup of tea

As you say Master is blunt and will not sugar coat things.. maybe he could of worded it better and not use the word fattie but its a free country and he can say what he wants (with in the rules on here) it looked to me he got his back up and responded the wrong way.

I think that its just how Master is.. He is blunt and will not sugar coat things..

Cali "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im absolutely appalled by some of the comments on this thread

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By *evilwolfCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Im absolutely appalled by some of the comments on this thread"

you got that soooooo right Soapy, totally agree with ya!!!

Devil

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im absolutely appalled by some of the comments on this thread"

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

I think there is nothing wrong with having a preference, we all have them...but if mentioning those preferences is to look like you are calling your OH with a derogatry term, then it shows no respect for your OH.

I am fat, I don't mind using that word to describe myself, but my OH hates me using that word and wouldn't use as it is normally used to degrade people and he respects other peoples feelings too much.

Just my view.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

To the OP...we have had meets with different sized people so I can't say it bothers us...but then we don't look for couples....but I ( Mrs ) do prefer a stockier man, just because thats wha I fancy and not because I am a bigger woman.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"myself and my husband do not have types, we either fancy people or we don't. Some big people are attractive to us, some small people are attractive to us and some inbetween people. We look for an overall attraction, not one specific thing.

i make no bones about the fact that i am a big girl on my profile, infact i show loooooaaaads of pics as i love to flaunt myself, and certainly do not make any appollogies for it.

However, i am aware that not everyone will find my size attractive, just as not everyone will be attracted to my hair or eye colour attractive.

this does not bother me as i certainly do not go without admirers and do not feel second best to anyone else.

Was magically drawn to this thread when someone mentioned a fabster who enjoyed being beaten. Had a great reply about rugby players and bikers written, then saw the words poxed up

Yet gain swingers show their great knowledge of risk and non judgemental attitudes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"but on here its about looks first to many.. and its been said many times.. Looks first, then personality.. not to all.. but that makes us all a little shallow..

( check the forum search for what we look for..or does looks matter if you think I am being funny)

We call the shots because we are what they guys want..

Is it shallow that for NSA sex you want something particular... if so.. then this whole site is shallow..

and yes.. I turn down guys that are overweight.. doesnt do anything for me and never has.. all my exs were in good shape ( one exception)

Cali "

perhaps for you it is about looks. i have seen you mention many a time that the guys turn up, cum and get off. they are lucky if you speak to them or know their name. am not saying that's wrong, each to their own. but some people like myself like to know the person where shagging on a meet. so when you get to know them, that's when you realise it is not all about looks, or size.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes I do love the cum and go.. but most of them I may let someone in that I wouldnt have a one on one kissing or touching session with.. for that I need sexual attraction.. and that starts with how someone looks.. yes if they are good looking and an arse.. it will be short lived.. but.. I am not looking to find a soul mate. but a guy I like to touch and play with..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

but personal attacks dont bother me.. just before that you called some one and the ignorant bitch

think this subject and comments are getting to you,every one is different in there own way its a swinging site and not every body is going to be some ones cup of tea

I think that its just how Master is.. He is blunt and will not sugar coat things..

Cali "

On this.. would we meet bigger couples if I was a size 10 or 12.. then no.. sorry to say this but you look bigger than a 10 or a 12 is his preference smaller or bigger? if it its smaller thats patronising to call people fatties

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As about all our posts state.. I am no stick insect.. I'm a big girl.. I'm fat.. no sugar coating it.. I am and actually I was twice my size when master and I first met.. actually never thought in an instant we would get it on But well we fell in love... And as master says love is a funny thing... I'm a size 18 now.. was way way bigger.

I call myself a fattie As have several other ladies on here... My masters preference for sexual partners is under a size 14 and under 30... I am neither... But then I like under 25s just lately... And that's what I tend to get..

Do I think I'm less of a woman because I'm a plus size... No... But I don't get delusions that all men adore me because bbw is the new craze...

My master does make exceptions and actually he apologized to jacqs And said maybe he generalizes to much... But why should he not have a preference for pretty, young slim women...

I'll be happier when I've lost my last 4 stone... But I do know if I was happy at this weight I'd still be his pride and joy... Because I'm loved... And cared for... And it doesn't bother me knowing my masters previous and preferred choices in women... It makes me proud...

However what we look for or fall for in a long-term loving relationship is Not what most of us are looking for in swinging fun.... As its a fantasy lived out for most.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cali there is no problem with your OH wanting slimmer younger women, that is fantasy, had he said that I doubt people would have an issue.

What I personally objected to was the attitude that came across, that fat people are outcasts, parasites that drain our health services when that is not true. Some overweight people have health problems which require treatment, equally so does the anorexic, hospitalisation and drip feeding along with psychiatric input are expensive.

The way your OH spoke about bigger people using a term which is often used negatively against people, was more uncomfortable because you have told us how you feel about your size. You told us about exploitation from an ex partner who wanted you to look a certain way and you went along with it. From your OHs posts we are coming to the conclusion that he doesn't like bigger people, and you are dieting in an attempt to alter your body shape - we are seeing similarities in both partners, which are probably unjustified, the written word is often misconstrued. But your OH loses credibility when he openly uses derogatory terms, makes sweeping inaccurate statements, incites people to disagree (in the opening post he asked for the abuse to begin or similar sounding words). When people disagreed with him or used counter sweeping generalisations about an element of his lifestyle, it was clear he didn't like it.

I have played with toned fit younger athletic type men. My OH is not big but he is soft tummied with a body built for comfort rather than speed. I don't want to change him into a fit bodied man because in my eyes he's absolutely gorgeous. I am a big girl, there are a lot of much bigger girls than me on the site, but my height and weight proportions don't match. I'm overweight. I don't have body issues though. Yeah most of us can look in the mirror at times and think hmmm my tummy is big, but I'm still a hot sexy woman and I feel and look bloody gorgeous. Other people may look and think god she's really ugly and fat but as long as I don't feel it then its ok. Equally I message or approach guys or couples if I like them, I don't feel I have to limit myself but we do choose curvy girls because my OH is attracted to curves. Were he to play with a very slim girl with no curves deep down he'd be disappointed that there wasn't more of her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cali there is no problem with your OH wanting slimmer younger women, that is fantasy, had he said that I doubt people would have an issue.

and am sure your OH would not call the very slim girl some awful name. You would both move on and think ah well its horses for courses.

I too felt as tho Cali had gone from one relationship with a feeder who was unhappy with her shape to another who was similar.

I think we all look for different things from meets depending on our situations.

cali for instance likes the cum and go sort of meet. she has the attentions of her master. so meeting someone and just going by physical attraction is enough for her.

whereas myself, i prefer meets who i can converse with before and after and have a laugh with.

once again horses for courses

but to generalise and then call overweight people fatties...nah i dont like that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Size is a boundary I don't care to measure. It's more a personality and character assessment to me. I've met gorgeous slim women that couldn't carry a conversation or who were not that good under the sheets and same with some bigger ladies, but saying that iv had mind blowing sex with some bigger ladies.. It's a fantasy preference mainly, but judging or saying you won't meet is your choice .. I like slim women but big girls rock just the same ..suppose you're a slim girl an develop a thyroid problem? Should you be judged an not looked on.. Real women please .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just to turn it a bit (mrs) i dont go on body size

If you can make me laugh then you are more likely to have fun with me than someone who goes on and on about the gym.

I'm healthy the size i am.

Yes i've had to use the NHS but that was when i was a size 8 and wanted to give up smokeing. (for me)

The other day i fell down the stairs and now have a very bruised backside, the whole of one cheek.

Now if i was still a size 8 i probably would of ended up with a shatterd pelvise rather than just a bruised ego

So sometimes the extra padding does come in handy xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just to turn it a bit (mrs) i dont go on body size

If you can make me laugh then you are more likely to have fun with me than someone who goes on and on about the gym.

I'm healthy the size i am.

Yes i've had to use the NHS but that was when i was a size 8 and wanted to give up smokeing. (for me)

The other day i fell down the stairs and now have a very bruised backside, the whole of one cheek.

Now if i was still a size 8 i probably would of ended up with a shatterd pelvise rather than just a bruised ego

So sometimes the extra padding does come in handy xxx

oooo i likes ya thinking might explain why accident prone me has never had a broken bone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me personally if they have a pretty face I'm attracted to them, love all sizes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For me personally if they have a pretty face I'm attracted to them, love all sizes."

I have had that for so many years from my parents that I have such a pretty face shame about the rest of me lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

wow so many posts!! have to say i agree that its how someone carries themselves and how comfortable they are in their skin, wether you consider them overweight or not is irrelevant for being attracted.

In my eyes as in many other peoples this site not only gives you the opportunity to judge on apperance but on their previous meets and what they are looking for, it can matter to some if your bbw curvy etc for first glance but find that a pretty face is nicer than slim body and pig ugly anyday!!

supose what trying to say is if you are not contacting people because they are overweight then your shallow and missing out on great and sexy times, and that if someones slim or not doesnt matter, as one who has had sex with all shapes sizes creeds & ages i enjoy sex and whatever turns me on does it for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wow so many posts!! have to say i agree that its how someone carries themselves and how comfortable they are in their skin, wether you consider them overweight or not is irrelevant for being attracted.

well said give this man a shag

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

one point that Cali did hint upon, there have been women on here and on numerous BBW threads etc (me included) who call them selves fat or fattie (or lard arse

) yet they dont get the back lash Master did

i am aware that i pointed out the playgroundishness of his use of the words but i am a woman, i am allowed to change my mind

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

well said give this man a shag

if i HAVE to

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By *irlnextdoorWoman over a year ago

brighton

For me swinging is having sex with people I don't know very well. As I don't know them very well the sex and the attraction is mainly physical. Personally I am not attracted to larger people. (Or men with beards, mustaches or that are bold). That might be shallow, but so is the sex I prefer off this site.

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By *odka n Coke OP Couple over a year ago

Greater London

Having read all of the responses with great interest, I think it's about time I re-posted

In response to evenshamgal, I personally don't think that just because you or I call ourselves 'fat' someone who doesn't like 'fat' people has the right to, as they are using the term in a derogatory manner.

In response to _irlnextdoor, I don't think you're in the least bit shallow for having preferences, we ALL have them when it comes to the opposite sex, myself included.

The whole point of posting this thread, was to get a general 'feel' for what the guys think on this site, of larger or overweight women.

I am a thin skinned person. I've tried to toughen up but so far, it hasn't worked and while a no thank you, you're not my type is pefectly fine, a nasty, insulting no, would upset me.

'Master' is entitled to his preferences, just as we all are, but calling overweight people 'fatties' is just the type of remark which would offend me and upset me.

I was brought up to have good manners and wouldn't dream of being insulting to someone because they weren't my 'cup of tea'. However, there are many people who don't share my views.

Having said that, there have been very few negative comments on this thread and this has given me a boost, so I will definitely be sending more messages in the future

I would like to thank everyone for taking the time to answer my question and hope it has helped others on here who are unsure if their weight might be an issue when contacting people for potential meets.

A polite 'no thank you' goes a very long way but a 'hell yeah' goes even further

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"one point that Cali did hint upon, there have been women on here and on numerous BBW threads etc (me included) who call them selves fat or fattie (or lard arse

) yet they dont get the back lash Master did

i am aware that i pointed out the playgroundishness of his use of the words but i am a woman, i am allowed to change my mind

meh when the mob scents blood they dont stop to consider the fact words have been used by others.

Tbh if the word fatty offends then maybe you need to look long and hard at your self image, real image and the gap between the two.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"one point that Cali did hint upon, there have been women on here and on numerous BBW threads etc (me included) who call them selves fat or fattie (or lard arse

) yet they dont get the back lash Master did

i am aware that i pointed out the playgroundishness of his use of the words but i am a woman, i am allowed to change my mind

meh when the mob scents blood they dont stop to consider the fact words have been used by others.

Tbh if the word fatty offends then maybe you need to look long and hard at your self image, real image and the gap between the two."

Sorry Jem I disagree here. I don't regard myself as a fattie so don't take his words as being personal to me. I just find the term fattie and his way of posting offensive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"one point that Cali did hint upon, there have been women on here and on numerous BBW threads etc (me included) who call them selves fat or fattie (or lard arse

) yet they dont get the back lash Master did

i am aware that i pointed out the playgroundishness of his use of the words but i am a woman, i am allowed to change my mind

meh when the mob scents blood they dont stop to consider the fact words have been used by others.

Tbh if the word fatty offends then maybe you need to look long and hard at your self image, real image and the gap between the two.

Sorry Jem I disagree here. I don't regard myself as a fattie so don't take his words as being personal to me. I just find the term fattie and his way of posting offensive."

fattie is an offensive word, its a word used towards people in a deliberate attempt to be nasty

Noone calls someone over weight a fattie without meaning it in any other way than derogatory

the fact that someone uses words such as fattie isnt what bothers me its when they use such words then try to make out its not ment in the way it is

You can be a blunt and honest person without being rude, to say i dont like big women in fine, to say i dont like over weight women is fine, both blunt and honest and honest but with respect, to say i dont like fatties its just putting a twist on it to put down that person you dont like

If people are going to use such words at least have the courage of your convictions and stand by what your saying instead of making out its the women they are offending thats in the wrong by not taking it in the way your pretending its ment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well as my Master is unable to get on to defend himself..

My Dad calls me his little fattie.. always has.. even when I wasnt.. Master thinks that women that dont look after themselves are..

and made a comment that half the women that were offended and defending that they are happy being fat.. are actually in the diet thread.

I notice no one bothered to comment when I found the statistics on what a drain different things are... and domestic violence being 1/4 of what obesity costs.. but of course its okay for someone to once again suggest wife beating..but heaven forbid you should tell it how it is on facts..

Anyway.. since commenting on this thread.. we have had loads of couples with slimmer women contact us to say.. Thanks for saying what we didnt dare..

in fact not just from couples.. Sometimes things said on here offend.... I get it often.. the subtle and no so subtle digs at lifestyle choices.. the slag offs or suggested slag offs of those that dont do things the same as others..

My Master likes women that he deems look after themselves and are in good shape.. As a woman.. I expect the same back( as do a hell of a lot on here)

but then again.. My Master could agree with the world on here and still rile up a few people..

cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Define not looking after yourself tho?

I know many big women who always look the best, dress smart, have their hair and nails done always look good

I also know some slim women who never make an effort, some women are slim naturally not because they look after themselves, walk round in scruffy track shits, dirty hair just tied back all the time etc

so whos looking after themselves?

All because you over weight does not mean you dont look after yourself

Im not a size 8 but i look after msyelf, i always look nice when i go out, always have my hair, nails, make up etc done and always have clean clothes on and to suggest that just because i carry a bit of extra weight that i do not look after myself i do actually find ridiculous

Im fit and healthy, i go to the gym every day and i work a very pysically demanding job, not everyones big because they are fat lazy lay abouts who spend all day eating and not looking after themselves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

aeating well.. and exercising to my Master.. and actually someone on msn has just told me did I forget that in a post to eveshamgal, my Master did actually say that perhaps he was being to blunt and even he could learn something...

(not my Master so not breaking rules)

he still stands by his facts on the overweight adn the health service, same way as I feel about smoking( having lost my mum to a smoking related illness) and drug users etc... And on that I dont doubt anyone can dispute..

and actually if a bigger woman is trying to improve her health my Master has no issue.. like with me.. I have lost over 6 stone..and actually if you go back to when I started losing weight. I have lost 10 now.. Am I healthier now.. I sure am... will I be healthier at 10stone.. Yes... but most women and men that are eating healthy.. will be in good health generally or getting healthier... and your not big either.. My master is more talking about the MUCH bigger women.... Yes his personal choice is size 14 and under.. but he wouldnt class a 16 as the woman he was refering too...

He means the ones that cant walk upstairs without being out of breathe.. now I know women have commented that they dont want a man fucking them that is all out of breathe and sweaty... how is that any different.. and as I said.. there is a post where Master does actually say perhaps the use of that word was wrong..

Cali

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"one point that Cali did hint upon, there have been women on here and on numerous BBW threads etc (me included) who call them selves fat or fattie (or lard arse

) yet they dont get the back lash Master did

i am aware that i pointed out the playgroundishness of his use of the words but i am a woman, i am allowed to change my mind

meh when the mob scents blood they dont stop to consider the fact words have been used by others.

Tbh if the word fatty offends then maybe you need to look long and hard at your self image, real image and the gap between the two."

Two points here....did you actually call people on the forums a mob because they didn't agree with what someone has said? That surprises me from you tbh.

And two....I seem to remember not long ago you being upset for someone calling you fat.

Being called fat or fatty by someone who is saying it to get a reaction or to be nasty or derogatry is totally different than calling yourself fat and believing you are.

If you think that is fine to do then I think you may have just given the green light for anyone who wants to be nasty to start calling you it.

I personally think defending a persons preference is the right thing to do,I did that too..but that wasn't quite what people were commenting on.

They were commenting that while describing those preferences and by the words which were used ....that it looked disrespectful to your partner if that partner is overweight too.

There is a difference and I am sure most people can see that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

not disputing for a second that someone within a healthy BMI rate is going to be healthier than someone who has a high BMI and i never have

I also dont care who likes who and what body shape people go for i do however care how they put that point over

I guess this is something we will never agree on, i guess its just a difference in personality, i just dont see why some people have to be rude, maybe you see calling someone a fattie is acceptable i dont, i personally think good manners and politness costs nothing even towatds people on here and even tho there are many groups of people i dont fancy on here i wouldnt dream of coming on here and being derogatory towards them, because im just not that type of person

Well just have to agree to disagree on this one and leave it at that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having read all of the responses with great interest, I think it's about time I re-posted

In response to _irlnextdoor, I don't think you're in the least bit shallow for having preferences, we ALL have them when it comes to the opposite sex, myself included.

The whole point of posting this thread, was to get a general 'feel' for what the guys think on this site, of larger or overweight women.

I am a thin skinned person. I've tried to toughen up but so far, it hasn't worked and while a no thank you, you're not my type is pefectly fine, a nasty, insulting no, would upset me.

'Master' is entitled to his preferences, just as we all are, but calling overweight people 'fatties' is just the type of remark which would offend me and upset me.

I was brought up to have good manners and wouldn't dream of being insulting to someone because they weren't my 'cup of tea'. However, there are many people who don't share my views.

Having said that, there have been very few negative comments on this thread and this has given me a boost, so I will definitely be sending more messages in the future

A polite 'no thank you' goes a very long way but a 'hell yeah' goes even further

If you are having a loss of confidence i suggest you come to bouncy next bbw party they are fab and just see how many bbw admire's there are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is 'fat' really the worst thing a human being can be?

Is 'fat' worse than 'vindictive', 'jealous', 'shallow', 'vain', 'boring' or 'cruel'?

Not to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is 'fat' really the worst thing a human being can be?

Is 'fat' worse than 'vindictive', 'jealous', 'shallow', 'vain', 'boring' or 'cruel'?

Not to me."

BTW it is a famous quote by J.K.Rowling... I am not name calling anyone on this site!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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As normal this has turned to the " fat" word and people concentrating on that alone.....inbetween all that there was actually a good debate.

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