We have had the 'meets with kids in the house' but this is slightly different. I have a fb who spends days and nights at mine, kids are aware, we do things together, go bowling etc so my kids see him as my boyfriend. But we do meet others but i couldn't have anyone here and tend to meet at clubs or go out to their house. My kids believe that it is only right to have one bf at a time. Anyway i met one man who's kids are grown up. He says i should be more flexible and kids shouldn't be restricted in their thoughts about numbers of bf's. He has said this cos i dont get out a lot and he wants to come around with wine at night. Expect this off men without kids but not someone with them. Im not gonna change my thoughts on this matter but am i unreasonable? |
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"You can see how it would favour him and not you.
As others have mentioned, your kids, your house, your rules...  "
yes i did mention that it would suit him. Said what if it had been other way around and couldn't answer that. |
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"No, your kids, your choice what you tell them."
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Concur, and it is your decision to do what you see fit!
Personally, I would not touch anyone who would be so bold to tell me what to do/think/eat/wear/etc., whether it is for NSA fun or long term relationship!
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"No, your kids, your choice what you tell them.
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Concur, and it is your decision to do what you see fit!
Personally, I would not touch anyone who would be so bold to tell me what to do/think/eat/wear/etc., whether it is for NSA fun or long term relationship!
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Agree totally, what a cheek to tell you how to bring up your kids...i wouldbt accept that from anyone! |
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wouldnt meet here with our kids in the house and certainly wouldnt entertain going to meet anyone with kids in their house either,,wether they say "once there in bed they never wake up" or not,,, |
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"wouldnt meet here with our kids in the house and certainly wouldnt entertain going to meet anyone with kids in their house either,,wether they say "once there in bed they never wake up" or not,,,"
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"We have had the 'meets with kids in the house' but this is slightly different. I have a fb who spends days and nights at mine, kids are aware, we do things together, go bowling etc so my kids see him as my boyfriend. But we do meet others but i couldn't have anyone here and tend to meet at clubs or go out to their house. My kids believe that it is only right to have one bf at a time. Anyway i met one man who's kids are grown up. He says i should be more flexible and kids shouldn't be restricted in their thoughts about numbers of bf's. He has said this cos i dont get out a lot and he wants to come around with wine at night. Expect this off men without kids but not someone with them. Im not gonna change my thoughts on this matter but am i unreasonable? "
No, you are quite right.... |
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"We have had the 'meets with kids in the house' but this is slightly different. I have a fb who spends days and nights at mine, kids are aware, we do things together, go bowling etc so my kids see him as my boyfriend. But we do meet others but i couldn't have anyone here and tend to meet at clubs or go out to their house. My kids believe that it is only right to have one bf at a time. Anyway i met one man who's kids are grown up. He says i should be more flexible and kids shouldn't be restricted in their thoughts about numbers of bf's. He has said this cos i dont get out a lot and he wants to come around with wine at night. Expect this off men without kids but not someone with them. Im not gonna change my thoughts on this matter but am i unreasonable? "
hes only after one thing! a fuck! KIDS come first you will only fuck their head up with games that should be done when there not there! i hope you see sence x
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"We have had the 'meets with kids in the house' but this is slightly different. I have a fb who spends days and nights at mine, kids are aware, we do things together, go bowling etc so my kids see him as my boyfriend. But we do meet others but i couldn't have anyone here and tend to meet at clubs or go out to their house. My kids believe that it is only right to have one bf at a time. Anyway i met one man who's kids are grown up. He says i should be more flexible and kids shouldn't be restricted in their thoughts about numbers of bf's. He has said this cos i dont get out a lot and he wants to come around with wine at night. Expect this off men without kids but not someone with them. Im not gonna change my thoughts on this matter but am i unreasonable? hes only after one thing! a fuck! KIDS come first you will only fuck their head up with games that should be done when there not there! i hope you see sence x "
oh, there was never any doubt, id not have him here. Just wanted opinions cos you sometimes doubt yourself and think im being a bit over the top.....but in my heart i know im right
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Tell him to do one.. Children need stability and they do not need you bringing different men Round your house. He is been very selfish and not giving too monkeys what you want for you and your family. I wouldn't even meet him if he can not respect you and what you need to do for your family. |
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"Tell him to do one.. Children need stability and they do not need you bringing different men Round your house. He is been very selfish and not giving too monkeys what you want for you and your family. I wouldn't even meet him if he can not respect you and what you need to do for your family."
he is a bit full on. I mentioned i was gonna try getting down to eastbourne to see my dad (who also thinks the same as my kind re. My fb) and he basically invited himself even after explaining that my dad knows im seeing someone......funny thing is, we've not even had sex yet....for all he knows im a crap shag and is pursuing me for nowt haha
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I agree with everyone else. Your wishes are your own. I think it's highly disrespectful of him to suggest your opinion doesn't matter. Also sounds very pushy if he's invited himself on a trip with you. Be careful! xx |
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"We have had the 'meets with kids in the house' but this is slightly different. I have a fb who spends days and nights at mine, kids are aware, we do things together, go bowling etc so my kids see him as my boyfriend. But we do meet others but i couldn't have anyone here and tend to meet at clubs or go out to their house. My kids believe that it is only right to have one bf at a time. Anyway i met one man who's kids are grown up. He says i should be more flexible and kids shouldn't be restricted in their thoughts about numbers of bf's. He has said this cos i dont get out a lot and he wants to come around with wine at night. Expect this off men without kids but not someone with them. Im not gonna change my thoughts on this matter but am i unreasonable? "
tell him you'll pop over to his while his kids are in see if he still thinks its a good idea |
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He may very well be fine with his point of _iew. So may his kids.
You too eventually may find his point of _iew to be correct.
However there is a major difference to coming to that point of _iew on your own and being told to have that point of _iew.
He may well believe he is right, but I am very cautious of anyone telling me to think another way because they do. I'm happy to have philosophical discussions and will come to my own conclusions in my own time.
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The real question is.....why are you even talking to him?
Any guy that asks or even suggests coming to my house while my kids are in are instantly ignored, its the last message they will ever send me
I would'nt have even replied to him to explain why
It just goes to show the total lack of respect and low opinion some men have of women on here that they think we will have men off here round with our kids in |
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"The real question is.....why are you even talking to him?
Any guy that asks or even suggests coming to my house while my kids are in are instantly ignored, its the last message they will ever send me
I would'nt have even replied to him to explain why
It just goes to show the total lack of respect and low opinion some men have of women on here that they think we will have men off here round with our kids in"
In total agreement with you on this |
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your kids.. your rules.. and he should respect that.. Kids will accept multiple partners.. but its not something that should be perhaps accepted for a casual thing.
Now my kids wouldnt think twice about one of my male friends ( several of them) popping over for a movie night.. but then they know they are just friends.. 
the problem for me would be the lack of respect in his _iew.. rather than his _iews..
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