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Am I expecting too much?
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Ok let me start by saying that the meets I have had for the most part have been amazing and I have loved every minute.
However!
After a chat with hubby today he explained that if he were to have a meet with a woman,he has learned a lot from seeing how my meets went and would approach thing's differently to the guys that I have met.
Firstly he said he would talk with me before as to my needs wants and requirements.
Then when he turned up he would have wine and chocolate in hand, followed by conversation and make sure that the woman would get a lovely Massage and plenty of teasing before any actual play started.
Then focus all his attention on making sure that she is fully satisfied before his needs.
Then and only then would he commence sex.
Now
It got me thinking, firstly
I need to arrange a meet with my husband lol
Secondly ,why don't other guy's approach meets like this, rather than trying to prove their staying power or the ability to make me squirt.
Is it my communication that's preventing me from getting what I want?
Am I being selfish?
Or an ungrateful Diva?
Like I said at the start my meets have been amazing thus far and this is not a criticism of my meets thus far I just wanted to know how I go about asking guys to make more effort in terms of build up or is this too much?
Lot's of questions I know.
I realise that I have to take some responsibility as generally I'm impatient and want sexy time straight away.
Or maybe I have the perfect meet in my husband and I should arrange a meet with him?
Lol
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"Ok let me start by saying that the meets I have had for the most part have been amazing and I have loved every minute.
However!
After a chat with hubby today he explained that if he were to have a meet with a woman,he has learned a lot from seeing how my meets went and would approach thing's differently to the guys that I have met.
Firstly he said he would talk with me before as to my needs wants and requirements.
Then when he turned up he would have wine and chocolate in hand, followed by conversation and make sure that the woman would get a lovely Massage and plenty of teasing before any actual play started.
Then focus all his attention on making sure that she is fully satisfied before his needs.
Then and only then would he commence sex.
Now
It got me thinking, firstly
I need to arrange a meet with my husband lol
Secondly ,why don't other guy's approach meets like this, rather than trying to prove their staying power or the ability to make me squirt.
Is it my communication that's preventing me from getting what I want?
Am I being selfish?
Or an ungrateful Diva?
Like I said at the start my meets have been amazing thus far and this is not a criticism of my meets thus far I just wanted to know how I go about asking guys to make more effort in terms of build up or is this too much?
Lot's of questions I know.
I realise that I have to take some responsibility as generally I'm impatient and want sexy time straight away.
Or maybe I have the perfect meet in my husband and I should arrange a meet with him?
Lol
Love love xx"
Not even started to read this but.. Yes x |
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"Ok let me start by saying that the meets I have had for the most part have been amazing and I have loved every minute.
However!
After a chat with hubby today he explained that if he were to have a meet with a woman,he has learned a lot from seeing how my meets went and would approach thing's differently to the guys that I have met.
Firstly he said he would talk with me before as to my needs wants and requirements.
Then when he turned up he would have wine and chocolate in hand, followed by conversation and make sure that the woman would get a lovely Massage and plenty of teasing before any actual play started.
Then focus all his attention on making sure that she is fully satisfied before his needs.
Then and only then would he commence sex.
Now
It got me thinking, firstly
I need to arrange a meet with my husband lol
Secondly ,why don't other guy's approach meets like this, rather than trying to prove their staying power or the ability to make me squirt.
Is it my communication that's preventing me from getting what I want?
Am I being selfish?
Or an ungrateful Diva?
Like I said at the start my meets have been amazing thus far and this is not a criticism of my meets thus far I just wanted to know how I go about asking guys to make more effort in terms of build up or is this too much?
Lot's of questions I know.
I realise that I have to take some responsibility as generally I'm impatient and want sexy time straight away.
Or maybe I have the perfect meet in my husband and I should arrange a meet with him?
Lol
Love love xx
Not even started to read this but.. Yes x"
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"Say what you want before you meet them.
I know but I don't want to come across as demanding!!"
Why not?
The way I see it we're on fab for fantasy fulfilment. The only way that's going to happen is by asking for what we want. |
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"Say what you want before you meet them.
I know but I don't want to come across as demanding!!
Why not?
The way I see it we're on fab for fantasy fulfilment. The only way that's going to happen is by asking for what we want. "
This basically. 
Be 'demanding'. If anyone doesn't want to please you then they don't have to meet you. |
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"Say what you want before you meet them.
I know but I don't want to come across as demanding!!
Why not?
The way I see it we're on fab for fantasy fulfilment. The only way that's going to happen is by asking for what we want.
This basically.
Be 'demanding'. If anyone doesn't want to please you then they don't have to meet you."
I think it needs to be mutual, the person we're meeting needs to get their fantasy fulfilled too. |
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"Say what you want before you meet them.
I know but I don't want to come across as demanding!!
Why not?
The way I see it we're on fab for fantasy fulfilment. The only way that's going to happen is by asking for what we want.
This basically.
Be 'demanding'. If anyone doesn't want to please you then they don't have to meet you.
I think it needs to be mutual, the person we're meeting needs to get their fantasy fulfilled too. "
Well yeah, i was just focusing more on her because the men are already getting what they want it seems. |
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"Say what you want before you meet them.
I know but I don't want to come across as demanding!!
Why not?
The way I see it we're on fab for fantasy fulfilment. The only way that's going to happen is by asking for what we want.
This basically.
Be 'demanding'. If anyone doesn't want to please you then they don't have to meet you.
I think it needs to be mutual, the person we're meeting needs to get their fantasy fulfilled too.
Well yeah, i was just focusing more on her because the men are already getting what they want it seems."
I would hope so but I get the feeling that a lot of guys say what they think a woman wants to hear in order to get a meet. To me the best way to sort out a great meet is to both say what you would like, if there's common ground everyone's a winner  . I intensely dislike a guy telling me what he's going to do without finding out if it's what I want. But I digress  |
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"Say what you want before you meet them.
I know but I don't want to come across as demanding!!
Why not?
The way I see it we're on fab for fantasy fulfilment. The only way that's going to happen is by asking for what we want.
This basically.
Be 'demanding'. If anyone doesn't want to please you then they don't have to meet you.
I think it needs to be mutual, the person we're meeting needs to get their fantasy fulfilled too.
Well yeah, i was just focusing more on her because the men are already getting what they want it seems.
I would hope so but I get the feeling that a lot of guys say what they think a woman wants to hear in order to get a meet. To me the best way to sort out a great meet is to both say what you would like, if there's common ground everyone's a winner . I intensely dislike a guy telling me what he's going to do without finding out if it's what I want. But I digress "
Know what you mean. Don't think i could be promiscuous if i wasn't assertive with it.
I agree some guys say what they think you want to hear and change it but luckily a lot more are honest about what they want and it can put you off meeting them. |
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"Say what you want before you meet them.
I know but I don't want to come across as demanding!!
Why not?
The way I see it we're on fab for fantasy fulfilment. The only way that's going to happen is by asking for what we want.
This basically.
Be 'demanding'. If anyone doesn't want to please you then they don't have to meet you.
I think it needs to be mutual, the person we're meeting needs to get their fantasy fulfilled too.
Well yeah, i was just focusing more on her because the men are already getting what they want it seems.
I would hope so but I get the feeling that a lot of guys say what they think a woman wants to hear in order to get a meet. To me the best way to sort out a great meet is to both say what you would like, if there's common ground everyone's a winner . I intensely dislike a guy telling me what he's going to do without finding out if it's what I want. But I digress
Know what you mean. Don't think i could be promiscuous if i wasn't assertive with it.
I agree some guys say what they think you want to hear and change it but luckily a lot more are honest about what they want and it can put you off meeting them."
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over a year ago
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"Ok let me start by saying that the meets I have had for the most part have been amazing and I have loved every minute.
However!
After a chat with hubby today he explained that if he were to have a meet with a woman,he has learned a lot from seeing how my meets went and would approach thing's differently to the guys that I have met.
Firstly he said he would talk with me before as to my needs wants and requirements.
Then when he turned up he would have wine and chocolate in hand, followed by conversation and make sure that the woman would get a lovely Massage and plenty of teasing before any actual play started.
Then focus all his attention on making sure that she is fully satisfied before his needs.
Then and only then would he commence sex.
Now
It got me thinking, firstly
I need to arrange a meet with my husband lol
Secondly ,why don't other guy's approach meets like this, rather than trying to prove their staying power or the ability to make me squirt.
Is it my communication that's preventing me from getting what I want?
Am I being selfish?
Or an ungrateful Diva?
Like I said at the start my meets have been amazing thus far and this is not a criticism of my meets thus far I just wanted to know how I go about asking guys to make more effort in terms of build up or is this too much?
Lot's of questions I know.
I realise that I have to take some responsibility as generally I'm impatient and want sexy time straight away.
Or maybe I have the perfect meet in my husband and I should arrange a meet with him?
Lol
Love love xx"
Not too fussed about hubby but are you still addicted to cock |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Say what you want before you meet them.
I know but I don't want to come across as demanding!!"
You can be as demanding as you like, it's supply and demand. With the sheer volume of men on here, there will be a percentage that will be willing to jump through any hoop you hold up.. Good luck in your search!  |
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"Say what you want before you meet them.
I know but I don't want to come across as demanding!!
You can be as demanding as you like, it's supply and demand. With the sheer volume of men on here, there will be a percentage that will be willing to jump through any hoop you hold up.. Good luck in your search! "
he's right you know 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m going to give you two answers.....
If you want wine , chocolates and a massage...
Try offering a three some with your girlfriend, anal, or exclusivity with this male....
Men usually invest in someone they see a future with....
Or
You can state everything you want in your profile and risk turning guys off.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... I just wanted to know how I go about asking guys to make more effort in terms of build up or is this too much?
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From my perspective any meet is about the woman's pleasure. I would certainly ask what you want while arranging any meet. It is quite hot to know exactly what you want.
So I would suggest just be up front and say what you would like.
Husband sounds like a 'fab' swinger. Lucky ladies.
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"You probably are if you're used to your husband treating you like that tbh!"
To be absolutely honest I wouldn't be comfortable with a meet treating me in the way described. That's why I think its so important to say exactly what you expect. |
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I think your husband is coming from a married person point of view.
Imagine I decided to buy a single lady that I am meeting chocolate and wine, first time meeting that gesture might freak her out—to think does this guy think there is more on a first, second even third meet.
Another scenario imagines I am meeting a couple and decided to buy chocolate and wine. the husband might not be too happy if they are not in a secure relationship, of course, they should not be swinging.
What I am trying to say is you need to establish good banter before buying choco and wine or your gesture could be perceived wrongly. |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
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Some people ask for the wining and dining treatment. However, quite a lot more ask for 'no endless chats' or 'not looking for any strings attached' etc. One would assume that the female half of a couple would get the wining and dining from the husband and it is only the sex part which needs fulfilling. Also agree with above poster... It may be deemed as crossing boundaries for some. So yeah, you want it then you gotta ask really. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"You probably are if you're used to your husband treating you like that tbh!
To be absolutely honest I wouldn't be comfortable with a meet treating me in the way described. That's why I think its so important to say exactly what you expect. "
I know what you mean. I wouldn't want a massage on a first meet, I'll have the chocolate though!! |
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"You probably are if you're used to your husband treating you like that tbh!
To be absolutely honest I wouldn't be comfortable with a meet treating me in the way described. That's why I think its so important to say exactly what you expect.
I know what you mean. I wouldn't want a massage on a first meet, I'll have the chocolate though!! "
Well obviously! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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TBH wine & chocolate sounds a bit like lazy ass / unimaginative gifting
If you're gonna take token gifts along for a meet, get to know the person a little first, find something 'personal' to them that shows you have listened and they might appreciate
The chances are wine & choccies, whilst nice in their own right, will either be re-giftings or the result of a quuck 10 minute pre-meet scramble round Tesco
Hardly 'setting the scene' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everything you said in your profile is fine the only thing lacking is a feel for the environment (s) you would like certain things to take place. A hotel and teasing to me are not synonymous. Unlesss it is a hotel bar,in front of a fireplace, in a Pub or Winebar is it an 'accidental' meet on a street. Create environments/scenarios where the teasing/flirting can take place and if hubby has to be there make sure he is discreetly observing. |
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"Ok let me start by saying that the meets I have had for the most part have been amazing and I have loved every minute.
However!
After a chat with hubby today he explained that if he were to have a meet with a woman,he has learned a lot from seeing how my meets went and would approach thing's differently to the guys that I have met.
Firstly he said he would talk with me before as to my needs wants and requirements.
Then when he turned up he would have wine and chocolate in hand, followed by conversation and make sure that the woman would get a lovely Massage and plenty of teasing before any actual play started.
Then focus all his attention on making sure that she is fully satisfied before his needs.
Then and only then would he commence sex.
Now
It got me thinking, firstly
I need to arrange a meet with my husband lol
Secondly ,why don't other guy's approach meets like this, rather than trying to prove their staying power or the ability to make me squirt.
Is it my communication that's preventing me from getting what I want?
Am I being selfish?
Or an ungrateful Diva?
Like I said at the start my meets have been amazing thus far and this is not a criticism of my meets thus far I just wanted to know how I go about asking guys to make more effort in terms of build up or is this too much?
Lot's of questions I know.
I realise that I have to take some responsibility as generally I'm impatient and want sexy time straight away.
Or maybe I have the perfect meet in my husband and I should arrange a meet with him?
Lol
Love love xx"
you want your meets to be romantic ?surely that's why you're married hubby does the romance stuff having said that I can be quite romantic with regular meets so kinda get what you mean |
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"Ok let me start by saying that the meets I have had for the most part have been amazing and I have loved every minute.
However!
After a chat with hubby today he explained that if he were to have a meet with a woman,he has learned a lot from seeing how my meets went and would approach thing's differently to the guys that I have met.
Firstly he said he would talk with me before as to my needs wants and requirements.
Then when he turned up he would have wine and chocolate in hand, followed by conversation and make sure that the woman would get a lovely Massage and plenty of teasing before any actual play started.
Then focus all his attention on making sure that she is fully satisfied before his needs.
Then and only then would he commence sex.
Now
It got me thinking, firstly
I need to arrange a meet with my husband lol
Secondly ,why don't other guy's approach meets like this, rather than trying to prove their staying power or the ability to make me squirt.
Is it my communication that's preventing me from getting what I want?
Am I being selfish?
Or an ungrateful Diva?
Like I said at the start my meets have been amazing thus far and this is not a criticism of my meets thus far I just wanted to know how I go about asking guys to make more effort in terms of build up or is this too much?
Lot's of questions I know.
I realise that I have to take some responsibility as generally I'm impatient and want sexy time straight away.
Or maybe I have the perfect meet in my husband and I should arrange a meet with him?
Lol
Love love xx"
Your husband is describing romance, understandably
If you want to build a relationship he is completely right, if you want hot sex with a stranger, maybe not.
The question is which do you want. Would he actually be happy if you were daring someone else and lastly why do you want what you have with your husband with someone else? The answer to the last question may be that you are poly, but talk about that before you dive in
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"I do not want wine and chocs. It's not a date, and too many would feel a sense of entitlement from it."
Oh yes, this too. "I spent £10 on a gift, now you get to temporarily give up your bodily autonomy!" Honey I don't care if you spent £10 000 (except, you know, wildly inappropriate), my bodily autonomy is sacrosanct. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Speaking about likes/dislikes boundaries etc is important prior to meet. I've been in lifestyle a long time, its not a dating site so a gift etc I've never given apart from myself ), or received. But manners and courtesy is a given. Only thing I'd say is that people expect sex as you're a swinger but as in life when you meet you might not gel so people should meet but be respectful. It should be fun and if it isn't then the person you're meeting isn't right for you, again I find the thought of a gift/ present as creepy but only my opinion |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
I’d prefer a guy to bring condoms and maybe his own toys for a change.
I wouldn’t want all my meets to be the same so I like to go with the flow. Lots of kissing and foreplay. We’ve usually discussed likes and dislikes before meeting.
Massages are great but have to be done carefully or they can do more damage than good.
Why don’t you arrange a ‘meet with your husband and role play it as he describes. |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"Say what you want before you meet them.
I know but I don't want to come across as demanding!!"
It's not about being demanding, it's about finding a guy that wants the same as what you want. So you have to be clear about the sort of meet you want, and perhaps several socials beforehand to build connection and trust. |
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"I’m going to give you two answers.....
If you want wine , chocolates and a massage...
Try offering a three some with your girlfriend, anal, or exclusivity with this male....
Men usually invest in someone they see a future with....
Or
You can state everything you want in your profile and risk turning guys off.... "
This is exactly what I expect from a man...  |
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"I do not want wine and chocs. It's not a date, and too many would feel a sense of entitlement from it."
No sense of entitlement intended, what's wrong with just being nice?
It wouldn't be intented as a bargaining tool or as an overly friendly gift.
Simply turning up at someone's house or a hotel to have a sexual encounter ( assuming that you have already done the social meet and both well aware that it's no strings fun) with a nice bottle of wine to share have a glass or two to calm the nerves. Who doesn't like chocolate.
As for the massage that's optional obviously I wouldn't steam in with a deep tissue sport's massage.
Im talking a nice sensual rub to build anticipation and mood.
Rather than
Knock Knock
Door opens
Hi I'm here at agreed time I have condom's,get your kit off let's fuck but no eye contact.
Do the business and go.
Sorry not for me,if ladies think a guy turning up with a bottle of wine or chocolate is creepy then perhaps you should ask yourself what your scared of?
Is being a gentleman and polite really that bad?
I don't want to date anyone, but I can't see why I can't be nice as well as give you a good fucking?
Oh btw I'm not talking about a huge love heart shaped box of chocolates or a two hundred pound bottle of champagne.
I am talking maybe a nice Hardy's red from local supermarket.
And possibly a bar of dairy milk.
Hardly going out all romantic. |
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I get what you're all saying about the gifts part.
We swing as extension to our sex life not a replacement.
I'm not looking for a relationship with anyone.. But to a degree you do build some sort of a relationship if you are seeing regular people correct?
I can honestly say that with all of my meets I have felt nothing towards them. I just want good sex. But I believe there needs to be a build up... It takes me a while to get going these days!
Perhaps it's an age thing |
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"Ok let me start by saying that the meets I have had for the most part have been amazing and I have loved every minute.
However!
After a chat with hubby today he explained that if he were to have a meet with a woman,he has learned a lot from seeing how my meets went and would approach thing's differently to the guys that I have met.
Firstly he said he would talk with me before as to my needs wants and requirements.
Then when he turned up he would have wine and chocolate in hand, followed by conversation and make sure that the woman would get a lovely Massage and plenty of teasing before any actual play started.
Then focus all his attention on making sure that she is fully satisfied before his needs.
Then and only then would he commence sex.
Now
It got me thinking, firstly
I need to arrange a meet with my husband lol
Secondly ,why don't other guy's approach meets like this, rather than trying to prove their staying power or the ability to make me squirt.
Is it my communication that's preventing me from getting what I want?
Am I being selfish?
Or an ungrateful Diva?
Like I said at the start my meets have been amazing thus far and this is not a criticism of my meets thus far I just wanted to know how I go about asking guys to make more effort in terms of build up or is this too much?
Lot's of questions I know.
I realise that I have to take some responsibility as generally I'm impatient and want sexy time straight away.
Or maybe I have the perfect meet in my husband and I should arrange a meet with him?
Lol
Love love xx"
You need to have a meet with me. Seems your hubby and I may have gone to the same school...
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"I do not want wine and chocs. It's not a date, and too many would feel a sense of entitlement from it.
No sense of entitlement intended, what's wrong with just being nice?
It wouldn't be intented as a bargaining tool or as an overly friendly gift.
Simply turning up at someone's house or a hotel to have a sexual encounter ( assuming that you have already done the social meet and both well aware that it's no strings fun) with a nice bottle of wine to share have a glass or two to calm the nerves. Who doesn't like chocolate.
As for the massage that's optional obviously I wouldn't steam in with a deep tissue sport's massage.
Im talking a nice sensual rub to build anticipation and mood.
Rather than
Knock Knock
Door opens
Hi I'm here at agreed time I have condom's,get your kit off let's fuck but no eye contact.
Do the business and go.
Sorry not for me,if ladies think a guy turning up with a bottle of wine or chocolate is creepy then perhaps you should ask yourself what your scared of?
Is being a gentleman and polite really that bad?
I don't want to date anyone, but I can't see why I can't be nice as well as give you a good fucking?
Oh btw I'm not talking about a huge love heart shaped box of chocolates or a two hundred pound bottle of champagne.
I am talking maybe a nice Hardy's red from local supermarket.
And possibly a bar of dairy milk.
Hardly going out all romantic."
That's absolutely fine if that's what both you and the woman want. We always take wine and chocolates if we're going to someone's house as a host/hostess gift in a social or a swinging situation. However people enjoy meets in varying ways and all of those ways are OK. That's why communication is key. Our approach wouldn't suit you for instance |
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"As long as we engage in some friendly small talk first, I'm good. Cup of tea and a chat, escalating flirting before heading into the bedroom.
How about I bring a packet of hobnobs then?"
If someone had to do a gift, that kind of thing would be more my speed. Low key and to be shared. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
There's a very popular couple on here op who state a bottle of wine and the man in a suit is their prerequisite to a meet. It's not that they're demanding gifts but they prefer the 'date experience' as part of their meets, if this is what you'd like then say so, there will be people out there that this appeals to. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"Ok let me start by saying that the meets I have had for the most part have been amazing and I have loved every minute.
However!
After a chat with hubby today he explained that if he were to have a meet with a woman,he has learned a lot from seeing how my meets went and would approach thing's differently to the guys that I have met.
Firstly he said he would talk with me before as to my needs wants and requirements.
Then when he turned up he would have wine and chocolate in hand, followed by conversation and make sure that the woman would get a lovely Massage and plenty of teasing before any actual play started.
Then focus all his attention on making sure that she is fully satisfied before his needs.
Then and only then would he commence sex.
Now
It got me thinking, firstly
I need to arrange a meet with my husband lol
Secondly ,why don't other guy's approach meets like this, rather than trying to prove their staying power or the ability to make me squirt.
Is it my communication that's preventing me from getting what I want?
Am I being selfish?
Or an ungrateful Diva?
Like I said at the start my meets have been amazing thus far and this is not a criticism of my meets thus far I just wanted to know how I go about asking guys to make more effort in terms of build up or is this too much?
Lot's of questions I know.
I realise that I have to take some responsibility as generally I'm impatient and want sexy time straight away.
Or maybe I have the perfect meet in my husband and I should arrange a meet with him?
Lol
Love love xx"
I'm not here to wine and dine you that called dating and relationships, I'm here to fulfill my fantasy as well as yours and in the morning or after the weekend we both go back to our lives no matter how mundane it is.
I happy to bring flowers or a bottle of wine to get the party started but expect every week or every meet is a No. |
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All meets are different as are people’s needs, wants and desires. Some just want a turn up, sex and gone others want the seductiveness of a pursing male. It comes down to discussion and letting him know, with out script, what yiur after.
Nothing wrong in either, but at the end of the day it’s about fulfilling your needs, fantasy’s and desires. If both parties buy into that, then both will have a more fullfing experience.
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Some people (men and women) are into the flowers and wine thing. And I regularly encounter guys who are horrified that I offer to buy my own drinks (or question me when I order the cheapest thing on the menu, lol).
Each to their own. |
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"Ok let me start by saying that the meets I have had for the most part have been amazing and I have loved every minute.
However!
After a chat with hubby today he explained that if he were to have a meet with a woman,he has learned a lot from seeing how my meets went and would approach thing's differently to the guys that I have met.
Firstly he said he would talk with me before as to my needs wants and requirements.
Then when he turned up he would have wine and chocolate in hand, followed by conversation and make sure that the woman would get a lovely Massage and plenty of teasing before any actual play started.
Then focus all his attention on making sure that she is fully satisfied before his needs.
Then and only then would he commence sex.
Now
It got me thinking, firstly
I need to arrange a meet with my husband lol
Secondly ,why don't other guy's approach meets like this, rather than trying to prove their staying power or the ability to make me squirt.
Is it my communication that's preventing me from getting what I want?
Am I being selfish?
Or an ungrateful Diva?
Like I said at the start my meets have been amazing thus far and this is not a criticism of my meets thus far I just wanted to know how I go about asking guys to make more effort in terms of build up or is this too much?
Lot's of questions I know.
I realise that I have to take some responsibility as generally I'm impatient and want sexy time straight away.
Or maybe I have the perfect meet in my husband and I should arrange a meet with him?
Lol
Love love xx"
Some of it makes seance but really wine and chocolates??? I think your husband is well out of tune on that. |
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This reminds me of my friend when she was meeting guys from sites like this
"why do blokes always bring red wine cos they think it's sophisticated? it's awful. i'd much sooner they brought a few cans of strongbow" |
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It's all about communication. You ask you shall receive.
Once past the first social and onto 'business' day then gift offerings ie:good South Australian Red and chockies are the minimum. Nothing is more erotic than slowly making a woman relax her inhibitions and turn her into a wanton freak!
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"It's all about communication. You ask you shall receive.
Once past the first social and onto 'business' day then gift offerings ie:good South Australian Red and chockies are the minimum. Nothing is more erotic than slowly making a woman relax her inhibitions and turn her into a wanton freak!
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I understand that lots of people enjoy that kind of interaction and that's great. However personally I don't want or need to feel that a guy has to make more effort than me if we've agreed to get sexual together. If the situation was reversed and a guy said he needed me to bring wine and chocolate before he could engage sexually with me I'd feel that he needed persuasion therefore wasn't that in to me in the first place. I do know though that many men and women enjoy the more romantic scenario though. |
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