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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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just a question, not getting at anyone because each to thier own.
if you are a couple on here would you be happy with your other half playing on thier own without you, or indeed without your knowledge maybe?##got asked by a male half of a couple if he could join us today, yet thier profile says nothing about happy to meet seperately, so how would i take this, apart from this guy being ignorant enough not to read our profile in the rifst place.....? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"just ask him if it is ok for you to speak to his other half to OK it..."
Great advice 
For us swinging is a joint experience so i would not be happy if mat met another couple or woman without my knowledge. We also don't play separately, however in a club i would be happy for mat to go have fun and leave me to have fun as well as we know where we both are and also we are noth having fun 
Sarah xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"just ask him if it is ok for you to speak to his other half to OK it..."
that would be fine IF we wanted to meet men alone.
as has been said, its a shared experience for us, and as long as we are both enjoying ourselves we are happy to do anything within our boundaries, but to message, not even read the profile, and offer his services, possibly without his OH's knowledge is, to me, an insult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"just ask him if it is ok for you to speak to his other half to OK it...
that would be fine IF we wanted to meet men alone.
as has been said, its a shared experience for us, and as long as we are both enjoying ourselves we are happy to do anything within our boundaries, but to message, not even read the profile, and offer his services, possibly without his OH's knowledge is, to me, an insult."
Due to you stating you don't meet single men, i agree it is ignorant as he has clearly ignored your preferences. We often get the male half the couple wanting to play alone as the female is working or ill etc and it does grate on us too xx
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"just ask him if it is ok for you to speak to his other half to OK it...
that would be fine IF we wanted to meet men alone.
as has been said, its a shared experience for us, and as long as we are both enjoying ourselves we are happy to do anything within our boundaries, but to message, not even read the profile, and offer his services, possibly without his OH's knowledge is, to me, an insult."
cool, I never read your profile before answering, sorry |
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"just a question, not getting at anyone because each to thier own.
if you are a couple on here would you be happy with your other half playing on thier own without you, or indeed without your knowledge maybe?##got asked by a male half of a couple if he could join us today, yet thier profile says nothing about happy to meet seperately, so how would i take this, apart from this guy being ignorant enough not to read our profile in the rifst place.....?"
We meet seperately,however if contacted by a male i ask to speak to his wife/partner to confirm. They never contact us again 
Sadly there are many single men here hiding behind couples profiles. |
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I used to have a swing partner, but when she stopped meeting I changed to a single male one. Hasn't done me any good but at laest I am honest abou it. Some men still pretend to be a cpl and then say wife/partner can't come for some raeson. |
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"just ask him if it is ok for you to speak to his other half to OK it...
that would be fine IF we wanted to meet men alone.
as has been said, its a shared experience for us, and as long as we are both enjoying ourselves we are happy to do anything within our boundaries, but to message, not even read the profile, and offer his services, possibly without his OH's knowledge is, to me, an insult."
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we never ever play alone, and neither of us would unless we talked about it and agreed, as for guys off couple profiles askin, we make it clear never play with attached guys, had a few that ended up admitting bein single well as i said to them their loss, if the cant be who they say they are, and have to lie to try get a meet that is their prob, btw we do meet single guys so they get annoyed as they point out they are single"on a couple profile" lol their loss, i say block and move on, u took time to write your profile least they could do is take time to read, as that saves time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"just ask him if it is ok for you to speak to his other half to OK it..."
i remember ages ago a man came upto me in chams and asked me if i would call a woman up for him and tell her i was his wife and it was ok for him to meet her 
when i said no he replied, i thought people were open minded in here lol |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"just ask him if it is ok for you to speak to his other half to OK it...
i remember ages ago a man came upto me in chams and asked me if i would call a woman up for him and tell her i was his wife and it was ok for him to meet her
when i said no he replied, i thought people were open minded in here lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like you, it would be preferred if someone showed that they'd observed what i'd put my profile first..but if i have a swing partner, no i don't think i'd mind it...i don't keep tabs on people, what they do when they're not with me wouldn't be my business..just as long as they were careful and took care of themselves, that would be my only stipulation. |
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By *acreadCouple
over a year ago
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We exchanged messages then pics with a "couple" last week then on to arrange a meet.
Next message we got was the male likes the first meet to be between him and the other cpl.
It was original we have to give him that.
Back to the Op obviously he should have been told where to go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"just a question, not getting at anyone because each to thier own.
if you are a couple on here would you be happy with your other half playing on thier own without you, or indeed without your knowledge maybe?##got asked by a male half of a couple if he could join us today, yet thier profile says nothing about happy to meet seperately, so how would i take this, apart from this guy being ignorant enough not to read our profile in the rifst place.....?"
Definitely not in our case. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have had on a couple of occasions of meeting couples the wife ask if I would be interested in meeting up together without the "other half". I have always replied the same way, that I would be very interested but only with the full consent of the husband or partner........I enjoy the lifestyle this site brings because I enjoy "no strings attached relationships", the last thing I want is to be going behind someone's back and worried that it would spoil a good friendship. I do get fed up with the continued bad mouthing of single guy's on this site, Yes, I know there are a lot of time wasting idiots, I can assure you there are also a fair amount of, decent, genuine, reliable single guys on here that are relatively easy to spot........good verifications, can accommodate and are happy to meet evenings AND weekends. I'm lucky enough now that I get most of my new meets through word of mouth, from couples and singles that I have met before they have happily passed my details on to their friends. Sorry think I may have gone off on a tangent!!! |
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