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So, I'm seeing a married lady. I'm married too and so neither of us can accommodate. Car sex is limited, and we so need to be able to relax in private and do what comes naturally.
Hotels don't work for us generally, partly because they need card payments and that leaves a trail, and partly because we need the room during the late morning when most hotels change over.
So, what other options haven't I thought of?
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We live in Suffolk and can only meet during the day, weekdays, so I dint believe there's a club nearby.
As for hotels accepting cash, having made a good few phone calls I believe it's now standard to require card payment.
And as for not cheating, where's the fun in abstinence? |
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over a year ago
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"Have you considered a pre-pay credit card and a day use hotel room?
No audit trail from either of those."
I think ( my geography isn't great) that Jaydees is close. |
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over a year ago
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Travelodges accept cash, however you pay the cash price, not the online one. You can also pay £10 extra for late checkout.
So you book it for the night before then turn up the next day to use it.
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"So, I'm seeing a married lady. I'm married too and so neither of us can accommodate. Car sex is limited, and we so need to be able to relax in private and do what comes naturally.
Hotels don't work for us generally, partly because they need card payments and that leaves a trail, and partly because we need the room during the late morning when most hotels change over.
So, what other options haven't I thought of?
Help appreciated."
Clubs are the best answers. Some open during the day
Some hotels do have early check in and allow you to pay cash upfront.... good luck! |
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"Travelodges accept cash, however you pay the cash price, not the online one. You can also pay £10 extra for late checkout.
So you book it for the night before then turn up the next day to use it.
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This is a great idea! |
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Great ideas guys. We're two hours drive each way from Jaydees and whilst here is a naughty sauna in Ipswich we need time just to ourselves.
I thought Travelodge was card only, so will investigate that.
Used to do the night before thing but that means popping in the night before to book in and collect key and that's not practical sadly.
What we need is a good old fashioned seedy motel! lol |
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over a year ago
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There is a site that does day rooms but I always found them to be expensive, plus you always have to pay via card.
The previous posters idea of a pre paid credit card is a good idea. |
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"I’ve known Travelodges let a pre-booked room when the original booker hasn’t booked in by 10pm.
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This has never happened to me but it's certainly something to bear in mind. |
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"I’ve known Travelodges let a pre-booked room when the original booker hasn’t booked in by 10pm.
This has never happened to me but it's certainly something to bear in mind."
Happened to me after I tried to check in after a gig. I got delayed on the motorway and couldn’t check in beforehand. Tried to check in afterwards to discover the room had gone.
I kicked up a stink because they were full and didn’t want to drive home late at night. They handled my complaint well and were sympathetic but there was nothing they could do.
I drove home instead, powered by caffeine.
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"I’ve known Travelodges let a pre-booked room when the original booker hasn’t booked in by 10pm.
This has never happened to me but it's certainly something to bear in mind.
Happened to me after I tried to check in after a gig. I got delayed on the motorway and couldn’t check in beforehand. Tried to check in afterwards to discover the room had gone.
I kicked up a stink because they were full and didn’t want to drive home late at night. They handled my complaint well and were sympathetic but there was nothing they could do.
I drove home instead, powered by caffeine.
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That is very bad form 
Especially since there is no last check in time.
Glad you complained. |
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"We live in Suffolk and can only meet during the day, weekdays, so I dint believe there's a club nearby.
As for hotels accepting cash, having made a good few phone calls I believe it's now standard to require card payment.
And as for not cheating, where's the fun in abstinence? "
Google 9-5 dayroom hotels
They are available during the day and I think you can pay cash |
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Op there was a couple who have a room for hire for exactly this
If my memory serves me right it was your area
Think so anyway
They put it on there profile
Hopefully they'll see this
Even though I don't condone cheating each to there own just remember to remove the famous lipstick on your collar  |
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"There is a site that does day rooms but I always found them to be expensive, plus you always have to pay via card.
The previous posters idea of a pre paid credit card is a good idea."
Not all day use hotels insist on card payments, I’ve only ever paid cash. And as for being expensive, it’s around £40-£60 for a day rate, but the quality of room and fixtures and fittings are a world away from those typically found in a club, so worth the extra in my opinion 
I have a meet booked for Monday, in a NW day use hotel, it’s £55 for the room from 9am - 5pm, and they do accept cash  |
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"There is a site that does day rooms but I always found them to be expensive, plus you always have to pay via card.
The previous posters idea of a pre paid credit card is a good idea.
Not all day use hotels insist on card payments, I’ve only ever paid cash. And as for being expensive, it’s around £40-£60 for a day rate, but the quality of room and fixtures and fittings are a world away from those typically found in a club, so worth the extra in my opinion
I have a meet booked for Monday, in a NW day use hotel, it’s £55 for the room from 9am - 5pm, and they do accept cash "
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Will search for the couple mentioned - good way to earn pocket money if you can accommodate and the host gets to listen to lol
Have googled extensively, even phoned a couple of hotels, and it seems like the area around us is devoid of such enlightened hotels.  |
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"Don't cheat...???
Agreed. Seems quite a few people aren't bothered about that. "
I made no promises to the op's wife, nor to his fb's husband.
I would never, nor have I ever cheated on a partner, or knowing played with someone from here who is playing behind their partner's back.
However I have done plenty of things that others would consider to be morally wrong, so am certainly not one to judge. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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Best approach find a single m8 who will let you use his house (or her mate who'd let her house be used). I have 3 married GFs who use my place when I'm at work doesn't affect me one bit and they get to have their fun. And NO, I don't charge them or join in, I'm just being a good friend. Oh, and don't let people who judge you (and her) for being married and playing get you down |
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"I’ve known Travelodges let a pre-booked room when the original booker hasn’t booked in by 10pm.
This has never happened to me but it's certainly something to bear in mind."
You can always go the day before check in and pay etc then not sleep there but you have the key for when you do need it |
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"Don't cheat...???
Agreed. Seems quite a few people aren't bothered about that. "
No, it’s just that’s not what he asked or what the thread is about. There are plenty of “what do you think of people who cheat” type threads available for those who wish to give their opinions |
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"Best approach find a single m8 who will let you use his house (or her mate who'd let her house be used). I have 3 married GFs who use my place when I'm at work doesn't affect me one bit and they get to have their fun. And NO, I don't charge them or join in, I'm just being a good friend. Oh, and don't let people who judge you (and her) for being married and playing get you down"
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"There is a site that does day rooms but I always found them to be expensive, plus you always have to pay via card.
The previous posters idea of a pre paid credit card is a good idea.
Not all day use hotels insist on card payments, I’ve only ever paid cash. And as for being expensive, it’s around £40-£60 for a day rate, but the quality of room and fixtures and fittings are a world away from those typically found in a club, so worth the extra in my opinion
I have a meet booked for Monday, in a NW day use hotel, it’s £55 for the room from 9am - 5pm, and they do accept cash
What's his name?"
You warming up for your Blackpool trip? Plenty of blokes waiting for you when you get there lol |
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"There is a site that does day rooms but I always found them to be expensive, plus you always have to pay via card.
The previous posters idea of a pre paid credit card is a good idea.
Not all day use hotels insist on card payments, I’ve only ever paid cash. And as for being expensive, it’s around £40-£60 for a day rate, but the quality of room and fixtures and fittings are a world away from those typically found in a club, so worth the extra in my opinion
I have a meet booked for Monday, in a NW day use hotel, it’s £55 for the room from 9am - 5pm, and they do accept cash
What's his name?
You warming up for your Blackpool trip? Plenty of blokes waiting for you when you get there lol "
Yes, I love the d
Big d's
Medium d's
Not no sure about little d's
*disclaimer ladies
Only having the banter with my fellow fab fella
I'm as straight as an arrow
And so is he  |
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"Op there was a couple who have a room for hire for exactly this
If my memory serves me right it was your area
Think so anyway
They put it on there profile
Hopefully they'll see this
Even though I don't condone cheating each to there own just remember to remove the famous lipstick on your collar "
What were they charging for the use of their room?
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By *ill74Man
over a year ago
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"Don't cheat...???
Agreed. Seems quite a few people aren't bothered about that.
I made no promises to the op's wife, nor to his fb's husband.
I would never, nor have I ever cheated on a partner, or knowing played with someone from here who is playing behind their partner's back.
However I have done plenty of things that others would consider to be morally wrong, so am certainly not one to judge."
I never said you did make any promises. And I never singled anyone out.
But by offering helpful advice, people are enabling the op to cheat on his wife. |
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By *ill74Man
over a year ago
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"Don't cheat...???
Agreed. Seems quite a few people aren't bothered about that.
No, it’s just that’s not what he asked or what the thread is about. There are plenty of “what do you think of people who cheat” type threads available for those who wish to give their opinions "
Well, the op did ask for advice on where to cheat on his wife.
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over a year ago
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"Will search for the couple mentioned - good way to earn pocket money if you can accommodate and the host gets to listen to lol
Have googled extensively, even phoned a couple of hotels, and it seems like the area around us is devoid of such enlightened hotels. "
Remember to delete your search history and clear your call logs |
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"Op there was a couple who have a room for hire for exactly this
If my memory serves me right it was your area
Think so anyway
They put it on there profile
Hopefully they'll see this
Even though I don't condone cheating each to there own just remember to remove the famous lipstick on your collar
What were they charging for the use of their room?
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Think it was something quite reasonable like 20/30 knicker tbh .....free if they could watch
.....give you a tenner if they can join in
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"So, I'm seeing a married lady. I'm married too and so neither of us can accommodate. Car sex is limited, and we so need to be able to relax in private and do what comes naturally.
Hotels don't work for us generally, partly because they need card payments and that leaves a trail, and partly because we need the room during the late morning when most hotels change over.
So, what other options haven't I thought of?
Help appreciated."
Pre pay credit card |
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"Don't cheat...???
Agreed. Seems quite a few people aren't bothered about that.
No, it’s just that’s not what he asked or what the thread is about. There are plenty of “what do you think of people who cheat” type threads available for those who wish to give their opinions
Well, the op did ask for advice on where to cheat on his wife.
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over a year ago
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i use a day room hotel very discreet they dont care what you are doing and accept cash - also my local dungeon has a lovely double room lol if bdsm isnt your cup of tea also cash x |
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"There is a site that does day rooms but I always found them to be expensive, plus you always have to pay via card.
The previous posters idea of a pre paid credit card is a good idea.
Not all day use hotels insist on card payments, I’ve only ever paid cash. And as for being expensive, it’s around £40-£60 for a day rate, but the quality of room and fixtures and fittings are a world away from those typically found in a club, so worth the extra in my opinion
I have a meet booked for Monday, in a NW day use hotel, it’s £55 for the room from 9am - 5pm, and they do accept cash
What's his name?
You warming up for your Blackpool trip? Plenty of blokes waiting for you when you get there lol
Yes, I love the d
Big d's
Medium d's
Not no sure about little d's
*disclaimer ladies
Only having the banter with my fellow fab fella
I'm as straight as an arrow
And so is he "
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"We live in Suffolk and can only meet during the day, weekdays, so I dint believe there's a club nearby.
As for hotels accepting cash, having made a good few phone calls I believe it's now standard to require card payment.
And as for not cheating, where's the fun in abstinence? "
Wonder how your wife feels about that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Now cum on dj we've all got our reasons to be part of fab matey
Some that people will agree with and some that people won't
I have been to the pub with the lads after football so prob a bit pissed but the saying live and let live perhaps?
This guy has had enough hammer tonight can we all be adults here and put this to bed ?
Obvs no pun intended |
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"Don't cheat...???"
Makes me sick, poor wife ..absolutely no excuse for sneaking around behind someone who loves yous back in 2019 but no point telling someone without a conscious |
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"We live in Suffolk and can only meet during the day, weekdays, so I dint believe there's a club nearby.
As for hotels accepting cash, having made a good few phone calls I believe it's now standard to require card payment.
And as for not cheating, where's the fun in abstinence? "
I always pay in cash when I’ve booked a room without any problems |
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"Don't cheat...???
Makes me sick, poor wife ..absolutely no excuse for sneaking around behind someone who loves yous back in 2019 but no point telling someone without a conscious "
How do you know his wife loves him and that she's a poor thing? |
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"Don't cheat...???
Agreed. Seems quite a few people aren't bothered about that.
No, it’s just that’s not what he asked or what the thread is about. There are plenty of “what do you think of people who cheat” type threads available for those who wish to give their opinions
Well, the op did ask for advice on where to cheat on his wife.
Exactly "
"Holier than thou's" make me sick. I wonder what skeletons some of those have in their cupboards come the supposed judgement day !!!
A lot of people don't have the blessed life to enable them to live like an angel. And before you all jump on the hate waggon, talk to the hand. |
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"Don't cheat...???
Makes me sick, poor wife ..absolutely no excuse for sneaking around behind someone who loves yous back in 2019 but no point telling someone without a conscious
How do you know his wife loves him and that she's a poor thing? "
Amazes me how people can have so much insight into a marriage between two people they don’t know |
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"Don't cheat...???
Agreed. Seems quite a few people aren't bothered about that.
No, it’s just that’s not what he asked or what the thread is about. There are plenty of “what do you think of people who cheat” type threads available for those who wish to give their opinions
Well, the op did ask for advice on where to cheat on his wife.
Exactly
"Holier than thou's" make me sick. I wonder what skeletons some of those have in their cupboards come the supposed judgement day !!!
A lot of people don't have the blessed life to enable them to live like an angel. And before you all jump on the hate waggon, talk to the hand."
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By *ill74Man
over a year ago
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"Don't cheat...???
Agreed. Seems quite a few people aren't bothered about that.
No, it’s just that’s not what he asked or what the thread is about. There are plenty of “what do you think of people who cheat” type threads available for those who wish to give their opinions
Well, the op did ask for advice on where to cheat on his wife.
Exactly
"Holier than thou's" make me sick. I wonder what skeletons some of those have in their cupboards come the supposed judgement day !!!
A lot of people don't have the blessed life to enable them to live like an angel. And before you all jump on the hate waggon, talk to the hand."
Having morals and mentioning them make you sick. Well, I'm not apologising.
I am not the one asking the best way of going about cheating.
I don't cheat, never have, never will.
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"Don't cheat...???
Agreed. Seems quite a few people aren't bothered about that.
No, it’s just that’s not what he asked or what the thread is about. There are plenty of “what do you think of people who cheat” type threads available for those who wish to give their opinions
Well, the op did ask for advice on where to cheat on his wife.
Exactly
"Holier than thou's" make me sick. I wonder what skeletons some of those have in their cupboards come the supposed judgement day !!!
A lot of people don't have the blessed life to enable them to live like an angel. And before you all jump on the hate waggon, talk to the hand.
Having morals and mentioning them make you sick. Well, I'm not apologising.
I am not the one asking the best way of going about cheating.
I don't cheat, never have, never will.
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Not even once at monopoly will ?
Cum on we've all done that |
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"Don't cheat...???
Agreed. Seems quite a few people aren't bothered about that.
No, it’s just that’s not what he asked or what the thread is about. There are plenty of “what do you think of people who cheat” type threads available for those who wish to give their opinions
Well, the op did ask for advice on where to cheat on his wife.
Exactly
"Holier than thou's" make me sick. I wonder what skeletons some of those have in their cupboards come the supposed judgement day !!!
A lot of people don't have the blessed life to enable them to live like an angel. And before you all jump on the hate waggon, talk to the hand.
Having morals and mentioning them make you sick. Well, I'm not apologising.
I am not the one asking the best way of going about cheating.
I don't cheat, never have, never will.
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And that's great for you, well done and all that |
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"So, I'm seeing a married lady. I'm married too and so neither of us can accommodate. Car sex is limited, and we so need to be able to relax in private and do what comes naturally.
Hotels don't work for us generally, partly because they need card payments and that leaves a trail, and partly because we need the room during the late morning when most hotels change over.
So, what other options haven't I thought of?
Help appreciated."
George Smiley would of asked his wife Ann for how she goes about it (one for the Le Carre fans!). |
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Hmmmm, they would have had safe houses dotted about. If only.....
There's a new travelodge being built in Bury. As soon as it's open I'm going to wander in and ask about cash!
I didn't mean to begin a debate about morals but I do wonder, are the 'thou shalt not' type statements indicative of an infiltration by jihady born again christians? Or is it an attempt to be noticed as a good, honest person (so please suck my willy) sort of approach.
Fascinating, truly fascinating. |
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"Don't cheat...???
Agreed. Seems quite a few people aren't bothered about that.
No, it’s just that’s not what he asked or what the thread is about. There are plenty of “what do you think of people who cheat” type threads available for those who wish to give their opinions
Well, the op did ask for advice on where to cheat on his wife.
Exactly
"Holier than thou's" make me sick. I wonder what skeletons some of those have in their cupboards come the supposed judgement day !!!
A lot of people don't have the blessed life to enable them to live like an angel. And before you all jump on the hate waggon, talk to the hand.
Having morals and mentioning them make you sick. Well, I'm not apologising.
I am not the one asking the best way of going about cheating.
I don't cheat, never have, never will.
Not even once at monopoly will ?
Cum on we've all done that "
He's never cheated at monopoly but there is an internet rumour that he once aggressively guzxumped his frail old mother in order to get park lane and Mayfair. Read up on it, it's a shocking article! |
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"Don't cheat...???
Agreed. Seems quite a few people aren't bothered about that.
No, it’s just that’s not what he asked or what the thread is about. There are plenty of “what do you think of people who cheat” type threads available for those who wish to give their opinions
Well, the op did ask for advice on where to cheat on his wife.
Exactly
"Holier than thou's" make me sick. I wonder what skeletons some of those have in their cupboards come the supposed judgement day !!!
A lot of people don't have the blessed life to enable them to live like an angel. And before you all jump on the hate waggon, talk to the hand. "
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"Hmmmm, they would have had safe houses dotted about. If only.....
There's a new travelodge being built in Bury. As soon as it's open I'm going to wander in and ask about cash!
I didn't mean to begin a debate about morals but I do wonder, are the 'thou shalt not' type statements indicative of an infiltration by jihady born again christians? Or is it an attempt to be noticed as a good, honest person (so please suck my willy) sort of approach.
Fascinating, truly fascinating. "
A lot of people genuinely find cheating distasteful. They're none of the things you describe, just people with an opinion that doesn't agree with what you're doing.
For my part I'm not interested particularly in your private life or theirs unless it has a direct impact on me or my loved ones. I don't know anything about you or your lover. |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
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Hello. Its really simple. You tell them you want to pay cash, yes, they may take a credit card so they are guaranteed payment, bit when you leave you ask to pay cash instead of using the card. |
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By *ill74Man
over a year ago
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"Hmmmm, they would have had safe houses dotted about. If only.....
There's a new travelodge being built in Bury. As soon as it's open I'm going to wander in and ask about cash!
I didn't mean to begin a debate about morals but I do wonder, are the 'thou shalt not' type statements indicative of an infiltration by jihady born again christians? Or is it an attempt to be noticed as a good, honest person (so please suck my willy) sort of approach.
Fascinating, truly fascinating. "
It's about morals. Pure and simple.
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I would always offer discreet accommodation for people I could trust and I would assume that they would offer me the same courtesy in return if the need arose... Who cares if the individuals are married in need of 'that extra' and let's face it, this site is only a 'legalised cover' for having an affair... |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I would always offer discreet accommodation for people I could trust and I would assume that they would offer me the same courtesy in return if the need arose... Who cares if the individuals are married in need of 'that extra' and let's face it, this site is only a 'legalised cover' for having an affair..."
A lot of us care and choose not to meet cheats. Some also don't care and meet them. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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"I would always offer discreet accommodation for people I could trust and I would assume that they would offer me the same courtesy in return if the need arose... Who cares if the individuals are married in need of 'that extra' and let's face it, this site is only a 'legalised cover' for having an affair...
A lot of us care and choose not to meet cheats. Some also don't care and meet them. "
Judgemental as fuck statement. You don't know the OP and neither do I. He may be a prick really hurting a poor wife who's a lovely girl or his wife may be the bitch of the century and the poor OP has no choice. Bottomline is none of us know the OP and, perhaps MORE importantly, monogamy is so artificial that OP is following what's natural for humans to do - have extramarital sex. It's a fake societal norm that imposed on us and labelled as "cheating" and "hurtful".
We'd all be way happier if a bit of extramarital sex was normal just like having a pint with a mate is in our culture. Imagine how ridiculous the convo would be if someone said "I don't care to meet pint drinkers" because a crazy society decided people shouldn't go out with mates and have a drink and instead stay at home and milk the cows and if he/she did that, it was "cheating" on home responsibilities and "hurtful" to the spouse! Sorry, rant over ! |
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Imho if you can’t offer any advice on what the Guy asked about then don’t post on his thread. Simples.
There is nothing as unsexy as folks on a swingers site trying to take the moral high ground and judge others from on high.
Get over yourselves. Makes me sick.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I would always offer discreet accommodation for people I could trust and I would assume that they would offer me the same courtesy in return if the need arose... Who cares if the individuals are married in need of 'that extra' and let's face it, this site is only a 'legalised cover' for having an affair...
A lot of us care and choose not to meet cheats. Some also don't care and meet them.
Judgemental as fuck statement. You don't know the OP and neither do I. He may be a prick really hurting a poor wife who's a lovely girl or his wife may be the bitch of the century and the poor OP has no choice. Bottomline is none of us know the OP and, perhaps MORE importantly, monogamy is so artificial that OP is following what's natural for humans to do - have extramarital sex. It's a fake societal norm that imposed on us and labelled as "cheating" and "hurtful".
We'd all be way happier if a bit of extramarital sex was normal just like having a pint with a mate is in our culture. Imagine how ridiculous the convo would be if someone said "I don't care to meet pint drinkers" because a crazy society decided people shouldn't go out with mates and have a drink and instead stay at home and milk the cows and if he/she did that, it was "cheating" on home responsibilities and "hurtful" to the spouse! Sorry, rant over !"
I never used the word hurtful. If people were honest with each other about sex there wouldn't be a need to cheat. I also have no desire to meet people who drink to excess or take dr*gs. Those are also preferences. Perhaps counselling would be more appropriate in some circumstances to find out what's causing one partner to go off sex and the other to feel the need to stray. |
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"Don't cheat...???"
That's definitely the correct answer.
Swinger's party such as Swing By The Convent is a good idea. Safe clean environment with free tea/coffee/pizza.
Or get a caravan or camper....
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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"I would always offer discreet accommodation for people I could trust and I would assume that they would offer me the same courtesy in return if the need arose... Who cares if the individuals are married in need of 'that extra' and let's face it, this site is only a 'legalised cover' for having an affair...
A lot of us care and choose not to meet cheats. Some also don't care and meet them.
Judgemental as fuck statement. You don't know the OP and neither do I. He may be a prick really hurting a poor wife who's a lovely girl or his wife may be the bitch of the century and the poor OP has no choice. Bottomline is none of us know the OP and, perhaps MORE importantly, monogamy is so artificial that OP is following what's natural for humans to do - have extramarital sex. It's a fake societal norm that imposed on us and labelled as "cheating" and "hurtful".
We'd all be way happier if a bit of extramarital sex was normal just like having a pint with a mate is in our culture. Imagine how ridiculous the convo would be if someone said "I don't care to meet pint drinkers" because a crazy society decided people shouldn't go out with mates and have a drink and instead stay at home and milk the cows and if he/she did that, it was "cheating" on home responsibilities and "hurtful" to the spouse! Sorry, rant over !
I never used the word hurtful. If people were honest with each other about sex there wouldn't be a need to cheat. I also have no desire to meet people who drink to excess or take dr*gs. Those are also preferences. Perhaps counselling would be more appropriate in some circumstances to find out what's causing one partner to go off sex and the other to feel the need to stray. "
"Stray" is the operative word here. Who declares what is "straying"? Society deems extramarital sex as "straying" but doesn't think a pint with mates is (or smoking or other stuff). It's arbitrary. It's not just men it's women too who "stray" - my point is that if extramarital sex was so unnatural and abhorrent 50% of married men and women wouldn't be doing so. Societal norms need to change especially when they're not based on evidence. A hundred years ago short skirts were equally abhorrent and if I walked down the street I'd probably be stoned. Now those norms have changed and despite widespread short skirts, neither people have died nor society has come to an end. Why? Because wanting to wear short skirts (in the summers, mind you!) is NATURAL. In the same way, married men/women wanting a bit of extramarital sex is NATURAL. Doesn't mean the husbands and wives who dabble in it don't love their families. In fact, swinger couples are, by and large, so much stronger as couples with a much much lower divorce rate. Sorry, end of rant #2. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I would always offer discreet accommodation for people I could trust and I would assume that they would offer me the same courtesy in return if the need arose... Who cares if the individuals are married in need of 'that extra' and let's face it, this site is only a 'legalised cover' for having an affair...
A lot of us care and choose not to meet cheats. Some also don't care and meet them.
Judgemental as fuck statement. You don't know the OP and neither do I. He may be a prick really hurting a poor wife who's a lovely girl or his wife may be the bitch of the century and the poor OP has no choice. Bottomline is none of us know the OP and, perhaps MORE importantly, monogamy is so artificial that OP is following what's natural for humans to do - have extramarital sex. It's a fake societal norm that imposed on us and labelled as "cheating" and "hurtful".
We'd all be way happier if a bit of extramarital sex was normal just like having a pint with a mate is in our culture. Imagine how ridiculous the convo would be if someone said "I don't care to meet pint drinkers" because a crazy society decided people shouldn't go out with mates and have a drink and instead stay at home and milk the cows and if he/she did that, it was "cheating" on home responsibilities and "hurtful" to the spouse! Sorry, rant over !
I never used the word hurtful. If people were honest with each other about sex there wouldn't be a need to cheat. I also have no desire to meet people who drink to excess or take dr*gs. Those are also preferences. Perhaps counselling would be more appropriate in some circumstances to find out what's causing one partner to go off sex and the other to feel the need to stray.
"Stray" is the operative word here. Who declares what is "straying"? Society deems extramarital sex as "straying" but doesn't think a pint with mates is (or smoking or other stuff). It's arbitrary. It's not just men it's women too who "stray" - my point is that if extramarital sex was so unnatural and abhorrent 50% of married men and women wouldn't be doing so. Societal norms need to change especially when they're not based on evidence. A hundred years ago short skirts were equally abhorrent and if I walked down the street I'd probably be stoned. Now those norms have changed and despite widespread short skirts, neither people have died nor society has come to an end. Why? Because wanting to wear short skirts (in the summers, mind you!) is NATURAL. In the same way, married men/women wanting a bit of extramarital sex is NATURAL. Doesn't mean the husbands and wives who dabble in it don't love their families. In fact, swinger couples are, by and large, so much stronger as couples with a much much lower divorce rate. Sorry, end of rant #2. "
Nothing wrong with extra marital sex if both partners are consenting. I never implied that. And I never implied that they don't love their families. Please read my posts properly before your next rant. I am talking about my preferences and those of people not wanting to meet people having extra marital sex without consent from their partners. Please do not twist my words. I'm sure there a plenty of people on here willing to meet cheats or actually get off on the thrill of it. It's all down to personal choice at the end of they day. It's not one of mine. |
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Like I said up thread, I wouldn't do it, but judge what others do.
However I have been on this site since the very beginning and chatted to/ met (at socials or clubs, not chosen to meet) many , many men and women who are cheating on their partners. Their stories like the people themselves are all different.
The one thing that was the same though was that someone involved got hurt eventually.
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"I would always offer discreet accommodation for people I could trust and I would assume that they would offer me the same courtesy in return if the need arose... Who cares if the individuals are married in need of 'that extra' and let's face it, this site is only a 'legalised cover' for having an affair...
A lot of us care and choose not to meet cheats. Some also don't care and meet them.
Judgemental as fuck statement. You don't know the OP and neither do I. He may be a prick really hurting a poor wife who's a lovely girl or his wife may be the bitch of the century and the poor OP has no choice. Bottomline is none of us know the OP and, perhaps MORE importantly, monogamy is so artificial that OP is following what's natural for humans to do - have extramarital sex. It's a fake societal norm that imposed on us and labelled as "cheating" and "hurtful".
We'd all be way happier if a bit of extramarital sex was normal just like having a pint with a mate is in our culture. Imagine how ridiculous the convo would be if someone said "I don't care to meet pint drinkers" because a crazy society decided people shouldn't go out with mates and have a drink and instead stay at home and milk the cows and if he/she did that, it was "cheating" on home responsibilities and "hurtful" to the spouse! Sorry, rant over !
I never used the word hurtful. If people were honest with each other about sex there wouldn't be a need to cheat. I also have no desire to meet people who drink to excess or take dr*gs. Those are also preferences. Perhaps counselling would be more appropriate in some circumstances to find out what's causing one partner to go off sex and the other to feel the need to stray.
"Stray" is the operative word here. Who declares what is "straying"? Society deems extramarital sex as "straying" but doesn't think a pint with mates is (or smoking or other stuff). It's arbitrary. It's not just men it's women too who "stray" - my point is that if extramarital sex was so unnatural and abhorrent 50% of married men and women wouldn't be doing so. Societal norms need to change especially when they're not based on evidence. A hundred years ago short skirts were equally abhorrent and if I walked down the street I'd probably be stoned. Now those norms have changed and despite widespread short skirts, neither people have died nor society has come to an end. Why? Because wanting to wear short skirts (in the summers, mind you!) is NATURAL. In the same way, married men/women wanting a bit of extramarital sex is NATURAL. Doesn't mean the husbands and wives who dabble in it don't love their families. In fact, swinger couples are, by and large, so much stronger as couples with a much much lower divorce rate. Sorry, end of rant #2. "
My wife and I used to play together and she then decided to stop, I now play and she doesn't but it's "extra marital" if you count what I do as just that. It's only society or religion that has put couples together, it's not a natural state if you consider we're just higher thinking animals if you will. |
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By *ill74Man
over a year ago
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"Don't cheat...???
Agreed. Seems quite a few people aren't bothered about that.
No, it’s just that’s not what he asked or what the thread is about. There are plenty of “what do you think of people who cheat” type threads available for those who wish to give their opinions
Well, the op did ask for advice on where to cheat on his wife.
Exactly
"Holier than thou's" make me sick. I wonder what skeletons some of those have in their cupboards come the supposed judgement day !!!
A lot of people don't have the blessed life to enable them to live like an angel. And before you all jump on the hate waggon, talk to the hand.
Having morals and mentioning them make you sick. Well, I'm not apologising.
I am not the one asking the best way of going about cheating.
I don't cheat, never have, never will.
Not even once at monopoly will ?
Cum on we've all done that
He's never cheated at monopoly but there is an internet rumour that he once aggressively guzxumped his frail old mother in order to get park lane and Mayfair. Read up on it, it's a shocking article!"
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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"I would always offer discreet accommodation for people I could trust and I would assume that they would offer me the same courtesy in return if the need arose... Who cares if the individuals are married in need of 'that extra' and let's face it, this site is only a 'legalised cover' for having an affair...
A lot of us care and choose not to meet cheats. Some also don't care and meet them.
Judgemental as fuck statement. You don't know the OP and neither do I. He may be a prick really hurting a poor wife who's a lovely girl or his wife may be the bitch of the century and the poor OP has no choice. Bottomline is none of us know the OP and, perhaps MORE importantly, monogamy is so artificial that OP is following what's natural for humans to do - have extramarital sex. It's a fake societal norm that imposed on us and labelled as "cheating" and "hurtful".
We'd all be way happier if a bit of extramarital sex was normal just like having a pint with a mate is in our culture. Imagine how ridiculous the convo would be if someone said "I don't care to meet pint drinkers" because a crazy society decided people shouldn't go out with mates and have a drink and instead stay at home and milk the cows and if he/she did that, it was "cheating" on home responsibilities and "hurtful" to the spouse! Sorry, rant over !
I never used the word hurtful. If people were honest with each other about sex there wouldn't be a need to cheat. I also have no desire to meet people who drink to excess or take dr*gs. Those are also preferences. Perhaps counselling would be more appropriate in some circumstances to find out what's causing one partner to go off sex and the other to feel the need to stray.
"Stray" is the operative word here. Who declares what is "straying"? Society deems extramarital sex as "straying" but doesn't think a pint with mates is (or smoking or other stuff). It's arbitrary. It's not just men it's women too who "stray" - my point is that if extramarital sex was so unnatural and abhorrent 50% of married men and women wouldn't be doing so. Societal norms need to change especially when they're not based on evidence. A hundred years ago short skirts were equally abhorrent and if I walked down the street I'd probably be stoned. Now those norms have changed and despite widespread short skirts, neither people have died nor society has come to an end. Why? Because wanting to wear short skirts (in the summers, mind you!) is NATURAL. In the same way, married men/women wanting a bit of extramarital sex is NATURAL. Doesn't mean the husbands and wives who dabble in it don't love their families. In fact, swinger couples are, by and large, so much stronger as couples with a much much lower divorce rate. Sorry, end of rant #2.
Nothing wrong with extra marital sex if both partners are consenting. I never implied that. And I never implied that they don't love their families. Please read my posts properly before your next rant. I am talking about my preferences and those of people not wanting to meet people having extra marital sex without consent from their partners. Please do not twist my words. I'm sure there a plenty of people on here willing to meet cheats or actually get off on the thrill of it. It's all down to personal choice at the end of they day. It's not one of mine. "
Again you don't get it. When you say "A lot of us care and choose not to meet cheats" by using the word "cheat" you imply something nasty and derogatory that is in line with society's perception of extramarital sex without the partner's consent .... even though it is totally NATURAL. That is the very definition of being judgemental. You are well within your rights to NOT meet people having extramarital sex without partner consent (nothing wrong with that AT ALL) but don't need to JUDGE them by calling them "cheats". |
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Yes, the "Village Hotel" chain does this and is mega cheap for a fantastic/anonymous room...have done this several times with gorgeous gals and is my main system of providing "accommodation"...usually costs me £25-£40 for a day--use room (10am-5pm).
Its especially good if you want to meet up for a social in the bar/coffee shop first...before even booking a room! |
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It looks like the people who "Cheat" if you like are the only ones who don't want to push their morality onto others, where as the "Moral High Ground'ers" love to cast their stones. There are cultures who have multiple partners etc but we wouldn't look at them and say they were wrong, so why divide our culture into my way is right and your way is wrong. Neither my wife nor I want a divorce etc, but we don't have sex with one another either. And who's to say otherwise. |
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You could book a hotel using a card but pay on exit with cash - they like to have a card for 'incidental' room charges, whilst you're there.
Bed and breakfast or smaller establishments may also welcome cash bookings.
A point on late arrivals for hotels: they may assume that your booking is cancelled, if you've not turned up by a certain time of the night. |
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"Don't cheat...???
That's definitely the correct answer.
Swinger's party such as Swing By The Convent is a good idea. Safe clean environment with free tea/coffee/pizza.
Or get a caravan or camper....
Mary"
Yes when you are afraid to leave traces around and don't want to use card...get camper seems a correct option  ...I wonder a wife when see thousands of pound for a camper she never know...or him parking in front of house saying to her that he choose a camper bacause the traffic these days is so heavy that he can take a nap now during the queue ahaha |
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"Yes, the "Village Hotel" chain does this and is mega cheap for a fantastic/anonymous room...have done this several times with gorgeous gals and is my main system of providing "accommodation"...usually costs me £25-£40 for a day--use room (10am-5pm).
Its especially good if you want to meet up for a social in the bar/coffee shop first...before even booking a room!"
As is usually the case in these situations East Anglia is devoid of these chains. Options are sparse out here. |
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"I would always offer discreet accommodation for people I could trust and I would assume that they would offer me the same courtesy in return if the need arose... Who cares if the individuals are married in need of 'that extra' and let's face it, this site is only a 'legalised cover' for having an affair...
A lot of us care and choose not to meet cheats. Some also don't care and meet them.
Judgemental as fuck statement. You don't know the OP and neither do I. He may be a prick really hurting a poor wife who's a lovely girl or his wife may be the bitch of the century and the poor OP has no choice. Bottomline is none of us know the OP and, perhaps MORE importantly, monogamy is so artificial that OP is following what's natural for humans to do - have extramarital sex. It's a fake societal norm that imposed on us and labelled as "cheating" and "hurtful".
We'd all be way happier if a bit of extramarital sex was normal just like having a pint with a mate is in our culture. Imagine how ridiculous the convo would be if someone said "I don't care to meet pint drinkers" because a crazy society decided people shouldn't go out with mates and have a drink and instead stay at home and milk the cows and if he/she did that, it was "cheating" on home responsibilities and "hurtful" to the spouse! Sorry, rant over !
I never used the word hurtful. If people were honest with each other about sex there wouldn't be a need to cheat. I also have no desire to meet people who drink to excess or take dr*gs. Those are also preferences. Perhaps counselling would be more appropriate in some circumstances to find out what's causing one partner to go off sex and the other to feel the need to stray.
"Stray" is the operative word here. Who declares what is "straying"? Society deems extramarital sex as "straying" but doesn't think a pint with mates is (or smoking or other stuff). It's arbitrary. It's not just men it's women too who "stray" - my point is that if extramarital sex was so unnatural and abhorrent 50% of married men and women wouldn't be doing so. Societal norms need to change especially when they're not based on evidence. A hundred years ago short skirts were equally abhorrent and if I walked down the street I'd probably be stoned. Now those norms have changed and despite widespread short skirts, neither people have died nor society has come to an end. Why? Because wanting to wear short skirts (in the summers, mind you!) is NATURAL. In the same way, married men/women wanting a bit of extramarital sex is NATURAL. Doesn't mean the husbands and wives who dabble in it don't love their families. In fact, swinger couples are, by and large, so much stronger as couples with a much much lower divorce rate. Sorry, end of rant #2.
Nothing wrong with extra marital sex if both partners are consenting. I never implied that. And I never implied that they don't love their families. Please read my posts properly before your next rant. I am talking about my preferences and those of people not wanting to meet people having extra marital sex without consent from their partners. Please do not twist my words. I'm sure there a plenty of people on here willing to meet cheats or actually get off on the thrill of it. It's all down to personal choice at the end of they day. It's not one of mine.
Again you don't get it. When you say "A lot of us care and choose not to meet cheats" by using the word "cheat" you imply something nasty and derogatory that is in line with society's perception of extramarital sex without the partner's consent .... even though it is totally NATURAL. That is the very definition of being judgemental. You are well within your rights to NOT meet people having extramarital sex without partner consent (nothing wrong with that AT ALL) but don't need to JUDGE them by calling them "cheats". "
What would you call them? It's the word general society uses. You are judging her and assuming she thinks a certain way. Does guilt make people angry? |
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"You could book a hotel using a card but pay on exit with cash - they like to have a card for 'incidental' room charges, whilst you're there.
Bed and breakfast or smaller establishments may also welcome cash bookings.
A point on late arrivals for hotels: they may assume that your booking is cancelled, if you've not turned up by a certain time of the night."
Travelodge will hold a phone booking on a card but accept cash payment.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I would always offer discreet accommodation for people I could trust and I would assume that they would offer me the same courtesy in return if the need arose... Who cares if the individuals are married in need of 'that extra' and let's face it, this site is only a 'legalised cover' for having an affair...
A lot of us care and choose not to meet cheats. Some also don't care and meet them.
Judgemental as fuck statement. You don't know the OP and neither do I. He may be a prick really hurting a poor wife who's a lovely girl or his wife may be the bitch of the century and the poor OP has no choice. Bottomline is none of us know the OP and, perhaps MORE importantly, monogamy is so artificial that OP is following what's natural for humans to do - have extramarital sex. It's a fake societal norm that imposed on us and labelled as "cheating" and "hurtful".
We'd all be way happier if a bit of extramarital sex was normal just like having a pint with a mate is in our culture. Imagine how ridiculous the convo would be if someone said "I don't care to meet pint drinkers" because a crazy society decided people shouldn't go out with mates and have a drink and instead stay at home and milk the cows and if he/she did that, it was "cheating" on home responsibilities and "hurtful" to the spouse! Sorry, rant over !
I never used the word hurtful. If people were honest with each other about sex there wouldn't be a need to cheat. I also have no desire to meet people who drink to excess or take dr*gs. Those are also preferences. Perhaps counselling would be more appropriate in some circumstances to find out what's causing one partner to go off sex and the other to feel the need to stray.
"Stray" is the operative word here. Who declares what is "straying"? Society deems extramarital sex as "straying" but doesn't think a pint with mates is (or smoking or other stuff). It's arbitrary. It's not just men it's women too who "stray" - my point is that if extramarital sex was so unnatural and abhorrent 50% of married men and women wouldn't be doing so. Societal norms need to change especially when they're not based on evidence. A hundred years ago short skirts were equally abhorrent and if I walked down the street I'd probably be stoned. Now those norms have changed and despite widespread short skirts, neither people have died nor society has come to an end. Why? Because wanting to wear short skirts (in the summers, mind you!) is NATURAL. In the same way, married men/women wanting a bit of extramarital sex is NATURAL. Doesn't mean the husbands and wives who dabble in it don't love their families. In fact, swinger couples are, by and large, so much stronger as couples with a much much lower divorce rate. Sorry, end of rant #2.
Nothing wrong with extra marital sex if both partners are consenting. I never implied that. And I never implied that they don't love their families. Please read my posts properly before your next rant. I am talking about my preferences and those of people not wanting to meet people having extra marital sex without consent from their partners. Please do not twist my words. I'm sure there a plenty of people on here willing to meet cheats or actually get off on the thrill of it. It's all down to personal choice at the end of they day. It's not one of mine.
Again you don't get it. When you say "A lot of us care and choose not to meet cheats" by using the word "cheat" you imply something nasty and derogatory that is in line with society's perception of extramarital sex without the partner's consent .... even though it is totally NATURAL. That is the very definition of being judgemental. You are well within your rights to NOT meet people having extramarital sex without partner consent (nothing wrong with that AT ALL) but don't need to JUDGE them by calling them "cheats".
What would you call them? It's the word general society uses. You are judging her and assuming she thinks a certain way. Does guilt make people angry?"
Apparently so. Cheat is a perfectly legitimate word to use. |
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