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"What are people’s thoughts on people who are on here cheating on their partners??? No judgement, just curious to get other people’s views "
Not sure how you can give a view on this without some judgement...
For me I try not to meet them. |
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"What are people’s thoughts on people who are on here cheating on their partners??? No judgement, just curious to get other people’s views
Not sure how you can give a view on this without some judgement...
For me I try not to meet them. "
Agreed. To us cheating is nothing to do with swinging.
We appreciate that everybody has a story but it just doesnt sit comfortably with us.
Where we know we prefer not to get involved. |
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"What are people’s thoughts on people who are on here cheating on their partners??? No judgement, just curious to get other people’s views "
Got chatting to a bloke on here and thought I recognised his face but thought nothing of it, me and hubby were going to invite him round and in the mean time I did some research and found him on facey b, with a girlfriend and a kid!! He's actually our friends brother which us why he looked familiar. He even used the same profile picture (of his face obviously) blocked straight away. No way are we getting involved! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is about informed choice.
Before we go down the " oh do you inform your partner" path (which is inevitable), anyone who declares they are married on here either gets slated and then hides the fact, or quietly goes about their business knowing their choice is wrong but have made it anyway.
People have had affairs for as long as mareiage has existed. Some people struggle with monogamy.
Messaging someone to declare your distaste (which often happens) is not going to get them to reform.
Tut disapprovingly by all means, block, move on.
Everyone tries to justify everything to suit their own purposes. Same as a couple who by swinging make their relationship stronger. Someone in society will condemn them.
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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Having seen the fallout, personally, on a wife and 2 young children, from the effects of a cheating husband, we try to avoid cheaters. Yes everyone of them will have a reason, so up to them, if they can live with themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Have no moral issue with it, their business not mine, however, after having 2 screaming wives (on 2 different occasions) call me at 3am because their husbands were stupid enough to leave messages on their phones/computers or whatever, I avoid married men as much as possible....unless they are part of a swinging couple/open relationship that can be verified of course |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Have no moral issue with it, their business not mine, however, after having 2 screaming wives (on 2 different occasions) call me at 3am because their husbands were stupid enough to leave messages on their phones/computers or whatever, I avoid married men as much as possible....unless they are part of a swinging couple/open relationship that can be verified of course "
Ouch! Not good  |
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We get posts most weeks about cheating, particularly if it's right or wrong, so much so that it's a forum bingo topic.
Here's a fairly recent one, for example:
https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/838791
People are adults and thus free to make their own decisions and have their own moral standards - I like to leave others to their own devices. I don't like being cheated on and prefer open honest communication. |
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"Agreed. To us cheating is nothing to do with swinging.
We appreciate that everybody has a story but it just doesnt sit comfortably with us.
Where we know we prefer not to get involved."
Exactly this! Xx |
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I don't care and they can do what they want but i'm not interested in meeting them, my profile says this.
I've also had the gutted wife messaging me about her husbandwhen she found out he stayed at mine for the night. |
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"Have no moral issue with it, their business not mine, however, after having 2 screaming wives (on 2 different occasions) call me at 3am because their husbands were stupid enough to leave messages on their phones/computers or whatever, I avoid married men as much as possible....unless they are part of a swinging couple/open relationship that can be verified of course
Ouch! Not good "
Nope it wasn’t pretty at all |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"I don't care and they can do what they want but i'm not interested in meeting them, my profile says this.
I've also had the gutted wife messaging me about her husbandwhen she found out he stayed at mine for the night."
Was she having a go at you or telling you he was married. Some of theses attached people are a bit careless  |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Have no moral issue with it, their business not mine, however, after having 2 screaming wives (on 2 different occasions) call me at 3am because their husbands were stupid enough to leave messages on their phones/computers or whatever, I avoid married men as much as possible....unless they are part of a swinging couple/open relationship that can be verified of course
Ouch! Not good
Nope it wasn’t pretty at all "
No sounds awful, that's a good reason to steer clear of married people! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As we are looking for single guys, we get a fair number of cheaters contacting us. The single guys that truly have a swingers lifestyle mindset (rather than using fab as a "sex site") are few and far between. But they're easy to spot. We don't meet cheaters but are happy to meet guys that are in a truly open relationship - we swing together and separately ourselves  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't agree with it.
Be single. Especially as I know how it feels to be betrayed and I have seen how it effects the kids and others.Especially when ye were together for a long time.
But I do understand some circumstances.But I still wouldn't go there.
Ye it's a swinger site.it's not an excuse to cheat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most wouldn't admit to it anyway even if on here & you was cheating!..Everyone of us has a personal story to tell! Only few of us share it.
How can anyone judge when your on the devil's playground it's self...
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"Golden rule of life: stick to your own principles but don't lecture others about theirs.
Hit a little close to the bone did it? "
LOL not at all. I don't cheat or play with cheaters but don't believe in telling others what to do. |
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"I don't care and they can do what they want but i'm not interested in meeting them, my profile says this.
I've also had the gutted wife messaging me about her husbandwhen she found out he stayed at mine for the night.
Was she having a go at you or telling you he was married. Some of theses attached people are a bit careless "
She didn't blame me at all. Just wanted to know if her husband was in love with me, which he had promised me a lot more than just sex so i think she had seen our messages and put 2+2 together and made 5. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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Up to them what they do ,but i wouldn''t knowingly meet them.A bit of fun Isn't worth potentially hurting another woman for.
But do agree that it should be on their profile,so can others can make an informed choice. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"I don't care and they can do what they want but i'm not interested in meeting them, my profile says this.
I've also had the gutted wife messaging me about her husbandwhen she found out he stayed at mine for the night.
Was she having a go at you or telling you he was married. Some of theses attached people are a bit careless
She didn't blame me at all. Just wanted to know if her husband was in love with me, which he had promised me a lot more than just sex so i think she had seen our messages and put 2+2 together and made 5."
Not very pleasant, I imagine, that's the reality of it, isn't it? |
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"I don't care and they can do what they want but i'm not interested in meeting them, my profile says this.
I've also had the gutted wife messaging me about her husbandwhen she found out he stayed at mine for the night.
Was she having a go at you or telling you he was married. Some of theses attached people are a bit careless
She didn't blame me at all. Just wanted to know if her husband was in love with me, which he had promised me a lot more than just sex so i think she had seen our messages and put 2+2 together and made 5.
Not very pleasant, I imagine, that's the reality of it, isn't it?"
No it wasn't.
Tbh i don't blame myself either, i did tell him i didn't wanna meet married guys so the shame was all on him. |
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"I bet a mojority of these couples would be happy to meet a Woman who was cheating though "
Nope. We don't meet single women and turn down couples who message telling us they're married but not to each other.
We genuinely don't care what other people do, we don't know their reasons but we don't want to be involved |
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"What are people’s thoughts on people who are on here cheating on their partners??? No judgement, just curious to get other people’s views "
Put them in solitary confinement |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What are people’s thoughts on people who are on here cheating on their partners??? No judgement, just curious to get other people’s views
Not sure how you can give a view on this without some judgement...
For me I try not to meet them. "
Apologies yeah of course some will judge, but thanks for your comments x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What are people’s thoughts on people who are on here cheating on their partners??? No judgement, just curious to get other people’s views
Not sure how you can give a view on this without some judgement...
For me I try not to meet them.
Agreed. To us cheating is nothing to do with swinging.
We appreciate that everybody has a story but it just doesnt sit comfortably with us.
Where we know we prefer not to get involved."
I get that, thanks for your feedback, suppose it’s down to the individual to either be honest or lie about their status, I always like to be honest though , enough lies in life |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What are people’s thoughts on people who are on here cheating on their partners??? No judgement, just curious to get other people’s views
Got chatting to a bloke on here and thought I recognised his face but thought nothing of it, me and hubby were going to invite him round and in the mean time I did some research and found him on facey b, with a girlfriend and a kid!! He's actually our friends brother which us why he looked familiar. He even used the same profile picture (of his face obviously) blocked straight away. No way are we getting involved! "
Jesus he was brave if you were that local, have you seen him since and does he know you know?! |
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"What are people’s thoughts on people who are on here cheating on their partners??? No judgement, just curious to get other people’s views "
Not my problem to be honest. I've been in situations where I've stumbled across the boyfriends or husbands and I just tell them to sort themselves out and keep me out of it. |
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"I don't care and they can do what they want but i'm not interested in meeting them, my profile says this.
I've also had the gutted wife messaging me about her husbandwhen she found out he stayed at mine for the night."
I totally get that, had the same with a cheating girlfriends bf call me up, not good |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Golden rule of life: stick to your own principles but don't lecture others about theirs.
Hit a little close to the bone did it? "
Haha great statement |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Most wouldn't admit to it anyway even if on here & you was cheating!..Everyone of us has a personal story to tell! Only few of us share it.
How can anyone judge when your on the devil's playground it's self...
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That’s a very good point , there is t many women on here that admit cheating and there has to be some |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What are people’s thoughts on people who are on here cheating on their partners??? No judgement, just curious to get other people’s views
Put them in solitary confinement "
Haha no messing with your thoughts then.
Ps great heels |
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It’s cheating - not swinging - I wonder how many of them would change their view if on returning home - they caught their other half “swinging” with some fitty/stud
It’s no moral high ground on cheaters -their business, but aside from the risk of crap that could come from it - it’s more about not really wanting to play with someone who clearly doesn’t respect others and is clearly gutless to sort out whatever issue they have and instead become single and then they can be a swinger not a cheater. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think how would I trust, respect or believe someone who happily lies to and doesn't respect someone they profess to love? For me great sex needs those qualities... |
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Hmmm now I'm in dangerous water here lol.
I used to be very opinionated about it, however speaking with a woman who had her reasons it's not always clear cut.
I fully understand why people will stay away from attached people.
I also understand that while. im not meeting I'm in dangerous waters.
Ps my veri is from a friend from before fab after is been to help with the garden not a play meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the long run people on here make their own choices and if someone comes on here as married and partner does not know it's up to them
We do try not to get involved with these people but if you play at clubs extra it's the same with anything someone hides you will not know.
Personally do I feel cheating is morally right. As someone that has lived their whole life as ethically non monogamous no I don't.
But then that is my own moral standpoint and no judgement on those that do xx |
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"What are people’s thoughts on people who are on here cheating on their partners??? No judgement, just curious to get other people’s views "
I could care less!
I do  when they blame their spouse for them being on here, but hey, not my circus, not my monkey. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your always gonna get the anti cheat brigade come out on a thread like this 
Their life, their choice, and personally, I think its great if it makes them happy. Plus I find it such a turn on!
So any cheating women on here, drop me a message |
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It's a fine line between a single in a relationship swinging or cheating.
What if that person is in a loving but sexless relationship? We have many friends that might have stayed together if they'd been swinging, as couples or singles.
Or, maybe they are just arseholes...either way they might not be just cheating, it might be keeping them together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was cheated on in past so I would not knowingly meet cheater. I know how miserably it makes the other person feel when they find out. And that applies to both, men and women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was cheated on in past so I would not knowingly meet cheater. I know how miserably it makes the other person feel when they find out. And that applies to both, men and women."
 ditto |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don’t moralise or rush to judgement but we avoid for the simple reason that we like a bit of trust and how can we trust someone who is openly lying and cheating to their significant other?
That said in a club we don’t interrogate so...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Although I am one of those people the OP has started a thread about, I have a very strict criteria when it comes to meeting regardless whether they are single or fab single - they don’t meet the same way as me then game over.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always remember, when it comes to fab, ALL men are cheaters until proven otherwise. "
No. That’s not true. All men are single until otherwise proven. You come here as a single guy then I’m gonna trust that you are. |
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It's not our place to judge and condemn others for their actions. We are all human and have the capacity to make our own choice. Live and learn.
In today's day and age with social media, etc society has become to embroiled in other peoples lives. We spend way to much time worrying about what other people are doing, to the point even the news is awash with random folks who are just getting on with life.
Why are people losing focus on their own life?
Sorry slight rant
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"Up to them what they do ,but i wouldn''t knowingly meet them.A bit of fun Isn't worth potentially hurting another woman for.
But do agree that it should be on their profile,so can others can make an informed choice."
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"So many single men available.. Why would I choose a married or attached one..? No, thanks."
Quite understand that point of view (though not everyone who is single is necessarily desirable). I also understand those who want to avoid complications with partners. But here's another perspective. One woman said to me "It sometimes seems that all the most interesting men are taken".
(I was of course flattered, but also tried to encourage her that there are some interesting single guys around; everyone is single at some points in their life.) |
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"I was cheated on in past so I would not knowingly meet cheater. I know how miserably it makes the other person feel when they find out. And that applies to both, men and women."
This. There are so many people on here not cheating, why be party to someone else's pain. Not for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nobody knows others circumstances or what goes on behind closed doors, therefore we choose not to judge.
We don’t meet married men purely down to logistics, they want daytime meets we want evenings.
Some say there loathed on here, there not loathed, certainly not by everyone.
This is a site for nsa sex but seems more judgemental than most places when we would all be judged by most, double standards in abundance! This thread days after another stating clearly it’s the 21st century and no body can tell you what to do because it’s your body, so by that train of thought it’s ok if the cheaters tell the partner but tell them it’s tough because there doing it anyway, and don’t get me started on the bareback but will eat cum out of a pussy threads I’m still struggling with the logistics of that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Nobody knows others circumstances or what goes on behind closed doors, therefore we choose not to judge.
We don’t meet married men purely down to logistics, they want daytime meets we want evenings.
Some say there loathed on here, there not loathed, certainly not by everyone.
This is a site for nsa sex but seems more judgemental than most places when we would all be judged by most, double standards in abundance! This thread days after another stating clearly it’s the 21st century and no body can tell you what to do because it’s your body, so by that train of thought it’s ok if the cheaters tell the partner but tell them it’s tough because there doing it anyway, and don’t get me started on the bareback but will eat cum out of a pussy threads I’m still struggling with the logistics of that "
This is definitely my fav reply so far, thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Very good post OP.
I state my circumstances clearly in my profile, so not hiding from the fact I am both married and Bisexual, that way people can either pass by, or engage if they so wish and yes I get my fair share of "trollers" having a go, but its parr for the course.
The point is made above, that there are always reasons, circumstances as to why married men or women play away, but in my opinion, its driven by pure lust for physical connection, that might be lacking elsewhere, or a simple enjoyment of this lifestyle
J xx |
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"Very good post OP.
I state my circumstances clearly in my profile, so not hiding from the fact I am both married and Bisexual, that way people can either pass by, or engage if they so wish and yes I get my fair share of "trollers" having a go, but its parr for the course.
The point is made above, that there are always reasons, circumstances as to why married men or women play away, but in my opinion, its driven by pure lust for physical connection, that might be lacking elsewhere, or a simple enjoyment of this lifestyle
J xx "
Great reply mate , thanks for your input |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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FFS its a Sex Site...why are some swingers with verifications in treble figures so moral about cheaters? We're all on here for the same thing, what does it matter whether someone is married or has a partner? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thing that makes me laugh the most is couples that have profiles on here and one of them has a secret profile without the partners knowledge. It happens |
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"FFS its a Sex Site...why are some swingers with verifications in treble figures so moral about cheaters? We're all on here for the same thing, what does it matter whether someone is married or has a partner?"
Why should somebody change their principles just because they are on Fabs. This seems to be a widely held opinion and I just don't get it. As I posted earlier I don't cheat or play with people who are doing it without their partner's permission and that applies to both real life and on here. I don't lecture other people about it because it is their life and their choice but for me to behave differently on here would be just weird.
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"Thing that makes me laugh the most is couples that have profiles on here and one of them has a secret profile without the partners knowledge. It happens "
why does that make you laugh. It is a breach of trust and no less of a thing because they are swingers x |
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"Thing that makes me laugh the most is couples that have profiles on here and one of them has a secret profile without the partners knowledge. It happens why does that make you laugh. It is a breach of trust and no less of a thing because they are swingers x"
Totally agree
But there are a lot of genuine couples that meet singly
I have had a message in the couples profile basically saying Boo has a singles profile so we can not be in a good relationship.
They did not believe me when I said I know lol x |
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"Very good post OP.
I state my circumstances clearly in my profile, so not hiding from the fact I am both married and Bisexual, that way people can either pass by, or engage if they so wish and yes I get my fair share of "trollers" having a go, but its parr for the course.
The point is made above, that there are always reasons, circumstances as to why married men or women play away, but in my opinion, its driven by pure lust for physical connection, that might be lacking elsewhere, or a simple enjoyment of this lifestyle
J xx "
This is the type of married person response that annoys me - "lacking elsewhere" - implying the spouse in question has driven them to this lifestyle.
You can get on with what you want without denigrating the person you have at home! |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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"FFS its a Sex Site...why are some swingers with verifications in treble figures so moral about cheaters? We're all on here for the same thing, what does it matter whether someone is married or has a partner?"
It matters to lots of us
People can still have their own moral code on here ya know
And we all judge people on something.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Miss tress does make a good point and without wishing to drag this out - each will have their own reasons why they meet for sex on a sex dating site like this, each will have needs that they/their partners might not be able to match, but this is an adult sex dating site, simple as that, so we all need to either accept or move on
Undoubtlably, there a multitude of reasons why Women and Men play away from home, but to judge them on here seems harsh
For the record, my reasons are - I love sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thing that makes me laugh the most is couples that have profiles on here and one of them has a secret profile without the partners knowledge. It happens why does that make you laugh. It is a breach of trust and no less of a thing because they are swingers x"
Am I not allowed to find this amusing it’s funny to me because people in a supposedly open relationship. Still need to have the thrill of cheating and being deceitful. Just saying |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Incidentally there are also lots of women on here who are doing things behind their partner's back, and openly acknowledge it in their profiles. "
Yes there are and I think its a good idea for attached people to put it on their profiles, that way, people can make an informed choice as to whether they want to get involved with them. |
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"Incidentally there are also lots of women on here who are doing things behind their partner's back, and openly acknowledge it in their profiles.
Yes there are and I think its a good idea for attached people to put it on their profiles, that way, people can make an informed choice as to whether they want to get involved with them. "
well said and I do |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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Doesn't bother me at all if a man is cheating I just ask they don't lie about it to me. Monogamy is unnatural anyway, society needs to STOP being close minded about extramarital sex. If society was open, married people won't have to resort to deception in their lives and just tell their huns they'd be popping over to someone's place for afternoon sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Doesn't bother me at all if a man is cheating I just ask they don't lie about it to me. Monogamy is unnatural anyway, society needs to STOP being close minded about extramarital sex. If society was open, married people won't have to resort to deception in their lives and just tell their huns they'd be popping over to someone's place for afternoon sex. "
Couldn’t agree more |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Incidentally there are also lots of women on here who are doing things behind their partner's back, and openly acknowledge it in their profiles.
Yes there are and I think its a good idea for attached people to put it on their profiles, that way, people can make an informed choice as to whether they want to get involved with them.
well said and I do "
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"FFS its a Sex Site...why are some swingers with verifications in treble figures so moral about cheaters? We're all on here for the same thing, what does it matter whether someone is married or has a partner?"
It matters to people who have no desire to aid people cheating. It's called a preference. Just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean we can't have morals or choice. Swinging is not cheating, it's something that is done with both partners knowledge. Cheats do it without their partners consent or knowledge, that's the difference. I want no part in destroying a family thanks. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Thing that makes me laugh the most is couples that have profiles on here and one of them has a secret profile without the partners knowledge. It happens "
I've had couples profiles on here and always kept my single one with their knowledge. I've never had a secret single one. |
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over a year ago
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"Thing that makes me laugh the most is couples that have profiles on here and one of them has a secret profile without the partners knowledge. It happens
I've had couples profiles on here and always kept my single one with their knowledge. I've never had a secret single one. "
Some people do. I’ve met them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What are people’s thoughts on people who are on here cheating on their partners??? No judgement, just curious to get other people’s views "
Well as a person who’s now EX was on here cheating on me I find it disgusting, there is no excuse to cheat x if you want to cheat leave your partner don’t put them through what I went though were I reached rock bottom because of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP. Loathe entirely. Literally get off Fab. You’re not welcome here.
^^^ that’s to cheaters, not you OP....( unless you are one...."
“Not welcome here”... really....hmmmm...I think the people I’ve met and the ones that still want to meet me may disagree with that sweeping statement.
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"What are people’s thoughts on people who are on here cheating on their partners??? No judgement, just curious to get other people’s views "
It’s not swinging.
We feel a little sorry for people who cheat, and for their partners , the relationship is a sham, the cheater is sad and the partner deserves better. |
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At the end of the day no one usually actually knows whether their partner, male or female is cheating on them. You may be swingers who state that yo never play alone but you don't 'know' it. When I was married my wife and I weren't into swinginging, however I got away with it for over 12 months when I had an affair. To be honest it ended up being one of the most horrible times of my life when I was liing that lie. However lots of people manage it, my experience taught me to be as honest as I could be, but I have still played around with a couple of people since. As Hotgirl32 said, monogamy is not a natural state for human beings, as is shown by communism, it's a nice idea but people are just not wired that way for it to work. I have dfinitely met 2 women who's swinging partners have not known they were meeting me, also 1 man who wanted to play without his swinging wife knowing. Those were the 3 who I knew were cheating, who knows how many more there were? A lot of people put 'safe sex' on their profiles on here or straight, it often turns out to be untrue. I have worked most of my life in sales, the golden rule is how do you know when a customer is lying. The answer is there are noises coming out of their mouth. Tha's people for you
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"FFS its a Sex Site...why are some swingers with verifications in treble figures so moral about cheaters? We're all on here for the same thing, what does it matter whether someone is married or has a partner?"
Because some of us have seen what cheating does to the person being cheated on and want no part of it. YOU might not see a problem with it but other people do, your opinion is no more valid than anyone else's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s absolutely no need for cheating if people had the balls to be honest and adhere to vows.
99% of the time is sheer selfishness and that’s what I can’t abide (there are exceptions) but don’t get me started. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There’s absolutely no need for cheating if people had the balls to be honest and adhere to vows.
99% of the time is sheer selfishness and that’s what I can’t abide (there are exceptions) but don’t get me started."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do what I can to avoid cheats, obviously some people will lie purely to meet you, but if I can avoid it I do. I am here for fun, not to be part of someone else's drama ! |
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"At the end of the day no one usually actually knows whether their partner, male or female is cheating on them. You may be swingers who state that yo never play alone but you don't 'know' it. When I was married my wife and I weren't into swinginging, however I got away with it for over 12 months when I had an affair. To be honest it ended up being one of the most horrible times of my life when I was liing that lie. However lots of people manage it, my experience taught me to be as honest as I could be, but I have still played around with a couple of people since. As Hotgirl32 said, monogamy is not a natural state for human beings, as is shown by communism, it's a nice idea but people are just not wired that way for it to work. I have dfinitely met 2 women who's swinging partners have not known they were meeting me, also 1 man who wanted to play without his swinging wife knowing. Those were the 3 who I knew were cheating, who knows how many more there were? A lot of people put 'safe sex' on their profiles on here or straight, it often turns out to be untrue. I have worked most of my life in sales, the golden rule is how do you know when a customer is lying. The answer is there are noises coming out of their mouth. Tha's people for you
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Fuck it then. Other people lie so let’s add to the turmoil.
Not my outlook at all but good luck to you pal. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"At the end of the day no one usually actually knows whether their partner, male or female is cheating on them. You may be swingers who state that yo never play alone but you don't 'know' it. When I was married my wife and I weren't into swinginging, however I got away with it for over 12 months when I had an affair. To be honest it ended up being one of the most horrible times of my life when I was liing that lie. However lots of people manage it, my experience taught me to be as honest as I could be, but I have still played around with a couple of people since. As Hotgirl32 said, monogamy is not a natural state for human beings, as is shown by communism, it's a nice idea but people are just not wired that way for it to work. I have dfinitely met 2 women who's swinging partners have not known they were meeting me, also 1 man who wanted to play without his swinging wife knowing. Those were the 3 who I knew were cheating, who knows how many more there were? A lot of people put 'safe sex' on their profiles on here or straight, it often turns out to be untrue. I have worked most of my life in sales, the golden rule is how do you know when a customer is lying. The answer is there are noises coming out of their mouth. Tha's people for you
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My husband and I know we don't cheat |
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"At the end of the day no one usually actually knows whether their partner, male or female is cheating on them. You may be swingers who state that yo never play alone but you don't 'know' it. When I was married my wife and I weren't into swinginging, however I got away with it for over 12 months when I had an affair. To be honest it ended up being one of the most horrible times of my life when I was liing that lie. However lots of people manage it, my experience taught me to be as honest as I could be, but I have still played around with a couple of people since. As Hotgirl32 said, monogamy is not a natural state for human beings, as is shown by communism, it's a nice idea but people are just not wired that way for it to work. I have dfinitely met 2 women who's swinging partners have not known they were meeting me, also 1 man who wanted to play without his swinging wife knowing. Those were the 3 who I knew were cheating, who knows how many more there were? A lot of people put 'safe sex' on their profiles on here or straight, it often turns out to be untrue. I have worked most of my life in sales, the golden rule is how do you know when a customer is lying. The answer is there are noises coming out of their mouth. Tha's people for you
My husband and I know we don't cheat "
Saying that reminds me of the saying, 'It's a wise child that knows it's own father.' |
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By *issy99Woman
over a year ago
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"OP. Loathe entirely. Literally get off Fab. You’re not welcome here.
^^^ that’s to cheaters, not you OP....( unless you are one....
“Not welcome here”... really....hmmmm...I think the people I’ve met and the ones that still want to meet me may disagree with that sweeping statement.
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I have a partner & a life away from here. I have my own reasons & dont feel the need to explain them. It’s fully stated on my profile what I’m doing & exactly like the last person to reply I feel very welcome here. And the 50+ messages I get daily are from guys who would like to make me feel very welcome! |
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"Thing that makes me laugh the most is couples that have profiles on here and one of them has a secret profile without the partners knowledge. It happens why does that make you laugh. It is a breach of trust and no less of a thing because they are swingers x"
Very much my mindset. It may sound controversial but I expect more from swinging couples as opposed to conventional couples. Swinging couples have supposedly been open about their desires where as with conventional couples I can better understand the fear of an extremely negative reaction from ones partner. |
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"Thing that makes me laugh the most is couples that have profiles on here and one of them has a secret profile without the partners knowledge. It happens why does that make you laugh. It is a breach of trust and no less of a thing because they are swingers x
Very much my mindset. It may sound controversial but I expect more from swinging couples as opposed to conventional couples. Swinging couples have supposedly been open about their desires where as with conventional couples I can better understand the fear of an extremely negative reaction from ones partner."
Which is why I don’t meet one half of a swinging couple. Like all relationships no one knows the dynamics except the two in it. However, I am wary of the fallout that could happen on here should their agreed dynamic / trust break down.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you know what, there are some abhorrent people, sexual preferences / practices on here that over the years have made my stomach turn but I’ve never posted on a thread that they should Fuck Off the site or commented on the state of their lives / relationships.
It’s absolutely fine to disagree, not accept, not understand others and what they do and by all means be passionate about your opinion, but keep it civil.... |
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"FFS its a Sex Site...why are some swingers with verifications in treble figures so moral about cheaters? We're all on here for the same thing, what does it matter whether someone is married or has a partner?"
You might not have principles and standards but we do. It’s not a sex site ITS A SWINGERS SITE. |
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"OP. Loathe entirely. Literally get off Fab. You’re not welcome here.
^^^ that’s to cheaters, not you OP....( unless you are one....
“Not welcome here”... really....hmmmm...I think the people I’ve met and the ones that still want to meet me may disagree with that sweeping statement.
Not welcome with us. I like my sweeping statement. In my mind you are not welcome here. There’s affairs sites.
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"Do you know what, there are some abhorrent people, sexual preferences / practices on here that over the years have made my stomach turn but I’ve never posted on a thread that they should Fuck Off the site or commented on the state of their lives / relationships.
It’s absolutely fine to disagree, not accept, not understand others and what they do and by all means be passionate about your opinion, but keep it civil.... "
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"Do you know what, there are some abhorrent people, sexual preferences / practices on here that over the years have made my stomach turn but I’ve never posted on a thread that they should Fuck Off the site or commented on the state of their lives / relationships.
It’s absolutely fine to disagree, not accept, not understand others and what they do and by all means be passionate about your opinion, but keep it civil.... "
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"OP. Loathe entirely. Literally get off Fab. You’re not welcome here.
^^^ that’s to cheaters, not you OP....( unless you are one....
“Not welcome here”... really....hmmmm...I think the people I’ve met and the ones that still want to meet me may disagree with that sweeping statement.
I have a partner & a life away from here. I have my own reasons & dont feel the need to explain them. It’s fully stated on my profile what I’m doing & exactly like the last person to reply I feel very welcome here. And the 50+ messages I get daily are from guys who would like to make me feel very welcome! "
I’m not interested in why anyway. I just think it’s cowardly. Hotgirl is right though, society says we have to be all for one person and obviously I agree with that because we’re here. BUT! I can not, however it’s looked at and explained, condone deceit.
I fell out of love with my husband. He made me depressed and feel like i was going mental. So I left him. That takes huge strength, especially when 3 children are involved. |
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"OP. Loathe entirely. Literally get off Fab. You’re not welcome here.
There’s affairs sites.
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I’m not looking for an affair so Fabs suits my needs perfectly. |
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"OP. Loathe entirely. Literally get off Fab. You’re not welcome here.
There’s affairs sites.
I’m not looking for an affair so Fabs suits my needs perfectly. "
And what are your needs young lady? |
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"OP. Loathe entirely. Literally get off Fab. You’re not welcome here.
There’s affairs sites.
I’m not looking for an affair so Fabs suits my needs perfectly. "
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I’m not looking for an affair so Fabs suits my needs perfectly. "
I subscribe to this. So I am delighted that you are here
I wouldn't want to be in a swinging marriage personally but I don't judge those that do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It’s not just men that cheat on here... quite a few wife’s cheating..... and most blokes not bothered in the slightest as long as they get a shag !!!!!!!!"
I agree, do you cheat? |
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"It’s not just men that cheat on here... quite a few wife’s cheating..... and most blokes not bothered in the slightest as long as they get a shag !!!!!!!!"
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"What are people’s thoughts on people who are on here cheating on their partners??? No judgement, just curious to get other people’s views "
From reading plenty of posts on here women seem to be encouraged to cheat by other forum users "you go girl" "no one's here to judge anyone" "it's your life do what makes you happy" etc etc
But wjen men talk about it they're made to be scum of the earth.
All cheaters are scum of the earth male or female end of |
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I do feel there is a huge gender difference when judging cheating on here! A cheater is a dishonest person who really doesn't care about the significant other in their lives regardless of their gender.
And before everyone starts screaming that there are so many reasons and finding justifications for cheating ... whatever the reason it is cheating and it is being dishonest.
How other's choose to react is entirely up to themselves and is their own moral dilemma.
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It does make me chuckle at the sheer hypocrasy of people that are married and cheat on their pàrtners..male or female.
It's apparently preferable to lie to their actual partners but be honest to complete strangers who they want to fuck...  |
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