Our male friend is on here, he guessed it was us and thought was fine all here for our own reasons.
But it's he thinks he has the right to try grope me on nights our OR send me disgusting messages cause I'm on a sight like this 
Things like * take it hes not that good you have to f*ck other people
* gets your tits oot your good at that
Now he is married so part of me wants to tell his wife as friends with her too, but really without exposing ourselves kind of stuck.
Have told him on more than one occasion his behaviour is not on, as has my partner. Hopefully he has the message now!
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Tell him in no uncertain terms that it's unacceptable, that you're to be treated with respect, etc. Enforce consequences. If he doesn't stop, temporarily block his number from your (f) phone, and avoid. Other options also available, but being explicit/ firm then withdrawing are the first things to do. |
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"Oh and under no circumstances tell his wife. The bad behaviour isn't down to her and she shouldn't be brought in to it."
Yeah, he's not an unruly toddler who needs to be brought under control by his mum. He's an adult and he needs to learn to behave himself by himself. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Screenshot everything from his profile to his private messages to you. This is great evidence to prove your side of the story either to his Wife or the Police"
This.
Then threaten him with police action if he does it again. If he did I'd inform the police, if I saw him again I'd tell him any more and the wife gets to know. Still persists and then the wife is getting everything including the police report. Not what some would do I know but we're not tolerating any of that crap. |
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I'd be ape shit if that happened to me. I don't like arrogant people at best of times. Let alone a cheating fuck rubbing their dirty hands over me.
I'd have told his wife just for thinking he could act like that. |
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"I'd be ape shit if that happened to me. I don't like arrogant people at best of times. Let alone a cheating fuck rubbing their dirty hands over me.
I'd have told his wife just for thinking he could act like that. "
Probably not the best advice, but I'm not always sensible. |
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He's no friend....block him out of your lives in every way. He'll need to find a reason to explain to his wife why. Remember, you two aren't the ones doing anything wrong xx |
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The conversation has to be very serious and shared with intensity, defining your boundaries that he must not cross. I'd tell him that he's subject to whatever penalty is appropriate, such as not being able to associate with you or ultimately the friendship ends.
Don't consider outing him as punishment and I'd not discuss that at the same time.
In future if he breaks your rules by behaving badly at a club, inform management. Don't allow minor rule breaks. Request he's only ever around the 2of you at the same time
If he reforms,discuss his cheating with him and perhaps consider whether his partner is worth more to you, maybe distancing yourselves from him.
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