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It only takes a second to say no your not for us.
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We have met a few couples and we thought we had a good night????, The few hours flew by we verified them saying we had a fab night and hope to chat or meet again, but then you don't here from them again and you no they are on the site when you are so WHY ignore us? If they don't want
to speak or see us again just let us know be polite and just say you are not for us.
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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" we verified them saying we had a fab night and hope to chat or meet again, -?"
Sorry but just because thats what YOU wanted, doesnt mean to say it was the same for them...
And whilst many people like repeat meets, many dont.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have left veri's and had no response
then again i don't expect one
for me, a meet is about the enjoyment you have whilst you are in each others company, not about receiving validation afterwards or the expectation that they will keep in touch or meet again
if they do keep in touch, that's fine
if they don't, that's fine too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and here we go again............
could be a million and one reasons... but this makes you look just a tad needy.. and bitter... and high maintenance... and clingy... ect ect ect.... "
Have to disagree - if someone is happy enough to get physical with you it's only common courtesy to say either 'thanks for the fun' or 'thanks but not looking to meet again'! I don't see how this is clingy or needy - just polite! If it happened to me I'd gladly chalk it up to experience and move on but like the OP said - and if course Take That - 'It only takes a minute'!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it is nice though to hear from the ones you meet afterwards not for verification just a polite thanks for a fun night that sort of thing but at the same time its not a big thing if you don't.as long as the night of fun was good. just move on and have fun with others. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've learnt the hard way with guys and couples and now set our expectations better. If we meet to get naked we don't expect anything. We prefer to meet socially and chat and get to know peeps over time. Then we still chat and socialise occasionally after the naked bit lol. |
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"We have met a few couples and we thought we had a good night????, The few hours flew by we verified them saying we had a fab night and hope to chat or meet again, but then you don't here from them again and you no they are on the site when you are so WHY ignore us? If they don't want
to speak or see us again just let us know be polite and just say you are not for us.
IT ONLY TAKES A SECOND. "
What sort of time span are we talking here? A week? A month? 3 months? 6 months?
May be they do want to meet again.... in a few months.
It's not uncommon for people to not keep in touch between meets.... just because you expect people to stay in touch, it doesn't mean everyone else will see it that way. |
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"and here we go again............
could be a million and one reasons... but this makes you look just a tad needy.. and bitter... and high maintenance... and clingy... ect ect ect.... "
have to disagree tbh..
there is a big difference between not replying to a 'one line email' from someone and actually arranging a meet and spending some time socially with..
it does'nt take long to text or call and say... 'hi, thanks for the other night however...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i disagree it doesnt make them sound clingy at all, a simple no is all that is required and is respectful!!!
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Only the couple in question can possibly know their reasons for not responding, and the 'respectful' thing to do is to let them manage their communications the way they want to. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"We have met a few couples and we thought we had a good night????, The few hours flew by we verified them saying we had a fab night and hope to chat or meet again, but then you don't here from them again and you no they are on the site when you are so WHY ignore us? If they don't want
to speak or see us again just let us know be polite and just say you are not for us.
IT ONLY TAKES A SECOND. "
I agree. If we have played with someone before and don't want to play again, it only takes a minute to say thanks for the meet but we don't want to repeat it...but....in your case, you don't really know wether they want to play again or not, as they may just be too busy to speak to you, or are figuring out what to say if they don't want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has happened to us too. we met a single bi fem had a really good few hours with her, then when she left said she would defo be in touch again and would leave good veri etc, so we left a good veri as well as we both really enjoyed. never heard from her again and found ourselves blocked as well. never found out why. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe these 'meets' were simply not good for the other parties involved. Some people do not have the confidence required to reject others, even if it's in a polite way.
Some are just rude, sadly it's easier to be rude. |
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"Maybe these 'meets' were simply not good for the other parties involved. Some people do not have the confidence required to reject others, even if it's in a polite way.
Some are just rude, sadly it's easier to be rude. "
i have to say i agree, you cant know what there view of the meet was, for my own sanity i'd convince myself they were rude buggers though
As an aside i always return veris, and leave them, i have been typing my fingers to the bone since sturday and keep worryig i might have missed someone and hurt their feelings  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I for one find it hard to say no your not for us if we've been there.
Easy enough saying it in the initial stages, your not our type, not what we're looking for sexually etc. But if they have got into our bed it means they were everything we were looking, personality matched, sexual expectations matched, we found them hot but they were just a bit crap.
So how do you truly say to someone, sorry but you were just a bit crap. How hurtful would that be to hear? Would put someone off swinging for life.
Now I'm not saying this is what happened here. But I get why people just do the disappearing act. If I have nothing nice to say, I just don't say anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We dont always keep in touch as its sometimes a one off or we are looking at others to meet. Don't take it to heart as in the big picture it doesn't matter. |
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"We have met a few couples and we thought we had a good night????, The few hours flew by we verified them saying we had a fab night and hope to chat or meet again, but then you don't here from them again and you no they are on the site when you are so WHY ignore us? If they don't want
to speak or see us again just let us know be polite and just say you are not for us.
IT ONLY TAKES A SECOND. "
Can I just ask something to clarify what is in your post.
After the meet you verified them and they didn't reply.... did you actually send a message to them as well saying you wanted to chat and meet again or was it just the verification? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe these 'meets' were simply not good for the other parties involved. Some people do not have the confidence required to reject others, even if it's in a polite way.
Some are just rude, sadly it's easier to be rude.
i have to say i agree, you cant know what there view of the meet was, for my own sanity i'd convince myself they were rude buggers though
As an aside i always return veris, and leave them, i have been typing my fingers to the bone since sturday and keep worryig i might have missed someone and hurt their feelings "
lmao - someone's been a greedy girl this weekend!! xxx   |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I always thought that if I don't hear from them again, they don't want to play with me again. Sometimes I remove them from my friend/hot list, sometimes I don't. But sometimes they'll get in touch after several months!
Nothing to get in a tizz about. Everyone is different, and acts differently after a meet. |
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"Maybe these 'meets' were simply not good for the other parties involved. Some people do not have the confidence required to reject others, even if it's in a polite way.
Some are just rude, sadly it's easier to be rude.
i have to say i agree, you cant know what there view of the meet was, for my own sanity i'd convince myself they were rude buggers though
As an aside i always return veris, and leave them, i have been typing my fingers to the bone since sturday and keep worryig i might have missed someone and hurt their feelings
lmao - someone's been a greedy girl this weekend!! xxx "
i cant veri most of them, i didnt ask names |
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i've had meets where they haven't left any veri's when i've veried them...
i just put it down to, perhaps they
couldn't be arsed..??....or i was a crap shag??  ....
doesn't bother me...as i have the memory of the meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe these 'meets' were simply not good for the other parties involved. Some people do not have the confidence required to reject others, even if it's in a polite way.
Some are just rude, sadly it's easier to be rude.
i have to say i agree, you cant know what there view of the meet was, for my own sanity i'd convince myself they were rude buggers though
As an aside i always return veris, and leave them, i have been typing my fingers to the bone since sturday and keep worryig i might have missed someone and hurt their feelings
lmao - someone's been a greedy girl this weekend!! xxx
i cant veri most of them, i didnt ask names "
hahaha funny! why do I find that horny? lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have met a few couples and we thought we had a good night????, The few hours flew by we verified them saying we had a fab night and hope to chat or meet again, but then you don't here from them again and you no they are on the site when you are so WHY ignore us? If they don't want
to speak or see us again just let us know be polite and just say you are not for us.
IT ONLY TAKES A SECOND. "
Weve had that lots!
yet when we meet them again at a party or club they are all friendly and flirty hoping something will happen again. So we have started to limit what we actually do with others on a first meet.
We take each night as that point in time and nothing further.
Should they be interested to meet again and maybe become friends we see more off then thats fine too, and we'll look to open up our play interests with them.
We're always looking to meet longer term friends.. but it doesn't seem to happen. |
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