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"Sorry but what does that mean on a profile ? If we have a job by default we are professional??
Really sorry if im asking a stupid question. New to all this lingo !!!!"
It means their better than us working class scumbags |
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It means just what it says, they're a professional couple. Probably working as teachers, lawyers or just white collar.
It doesn't mean anything else although people get very cross about it and think it does. |
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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago
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It means their status is important to them.
Whether others perceive their status in the same way they do . . . who knows.
At a guess, their match will be people whose status is also important to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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While I am a ‘professional’ did I spell it correctly..from the list, it’s not in our profile...not pretentious.. the term I hate is ‘we are an attractive couple’ ..I know we are selling ourselves, but please it’s crass.. just my opinion, I’ll go hide now..  |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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I always assumed that it meant they were in a job where if it got out about their ‘lifestyle’ , they could loose it through pressure or potential Black mail . So we’re thinking teachers and such . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"While I am a ‘professional’ did I spell it correctly..from the list, it’s not in our profile...not pretentious.. the term I hate is ‘we are an attractive couple’ ..I know we are selling ourselves, but please it’s crass.. just my opinion, I’ll go hide now.. "
What is strange is that you don’t see people creating posts on ‘attractive’ people with a ‘how dare they’ or ‘who do they think they are?’ type comments. However many people have a real issue with the term professional.
People are just trying to describe themselves and their lifestyle/preferences as much as possible. You’re right that some people will hate profiles using the term attractive or the term professional but professional gets a lot more people upset. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just another adjective. We use the term on our profile, and we make no apology.
If someone thinks that means we're interested in status, well - they're wrong.
We use the term in the same way that others might use tall, toned, gym-fit, or curvy. I really don't see the issue.
If we described ourselves as 'working-class' would anybody care?
To avoid 'offending' or 'irritating' people, perhaps we should rewrite it to read:
'upper lower middle working class, but not landed or titled' |
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"It's just another adjective. We use the term on our profile, and we make no apology.
If someone thinks that means we're interested in status, well - they're wrong.
We use the term in the same way that others might use tall, toned, gym-fit, or curvy. I really don't see the issue.
If we described ourselves as 'working-class' would anybody care?
To avoid 'offending' or 'irritating' people, perhaps we should rewrite it to read:
'upper lower middle working class, but not landed or titled' "
On fab it is not ok to be anything but self deprecating. If you describe yourself as slim, hot, wealthy, professional, talented etc you will be shot down. However say you're useless and unattractive and you'll be feted.
We must all be modest while getting our bits out on the internet otherwise we are "attention seeking"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Google dictionary suggests ‘white collar, executive, non-manual’ as one definition.
That’s what we think they mean. It’s not that they have a job but that they have perhaps a white collar job and want to meet similar type people.
A doctor would generally have more in commmon with a lawyer than with someone who worked in a warehouse for example . One is no better than the other but professionals will have more in common with other professionals.
They’re just trying to meet similar people in the same way that gym fit people will have more in common and probably want to meet other gym fit people.
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Google dictionary suggests ‘white collar, executive, non-manual’ as one definition.
That’s what we think they mean. It’s not that they have a job but that they have perhaps a white collar job and want to meet similar type people.
A doctor would generally have more in commmon with a lawyer than with someone who worked in a warehouse for example . One is no better than the other but professionals will have more in common with other professionals.
They’re just trying to meet similar people in the same way that gym fit people will have more in common and probably want to meet other gym fit people.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It means just what it says, they're a professional couple. Probably working as teachers, lawyers or just white collar.
It doesn't mean anything else although people get very cross about it and think it does."
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"Sorry but what does that mean on a profile ? If we have a job by default we are professional??
Really sorry if im asking a stupid question. New to all this lingo !!!!"
Even a professional can be unprofessional |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's just another adjective. We use the term on our profile, and we make no apology.
If someone thinks that means we're interested in status, well - they're wrong.
We use the term in the same way that others might use tall, toned, gym-fit, or curvy. I really don't see the issue.
If we described ourselves as 'working-class' would anybody care?
To avoid 'offending' or 'irritating' people, perhaps we should rewrite it to read:
'upper lower middle working class, but not landed or titled'
On fab it is not ok to be anything but self deprecating. If you describe yourself as slim, hot, wealthy, professional, talented etc you will be shot down. However say you're useless and unattractive and you'll be feted.
We must all be modest while getting our bits out on the internet otherwise we are "attention seeking" "
Yep. This is so true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’re not just a couple, we attended a course and are qualified and confident that we are actually together. We excel at being a couple. We are professionals....I don’t know.
I think they’re explaining they wear suits to work. |
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"It's just another term for people to get angry about...a lot of people on here seem to enjoy being angry.
Don't they! We think its January blues.
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you could be right but some like to get their monies worth and extend it throughout the year  |
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"Sorry but what does that mean on a profile ? If we have a job by default we are professional??
Really sorry if im asking a stupid question. New to all this lingo !!!!"
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"It's just another term for people to get angry about...a lot of people on here seem to enjoy being angry.
Don't they! We think its January blues.
you could be right but some like to get their monies worth and extend it throughout the year "
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
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To be a professional, you need to belong to a regulating body and to have achieved specific qualifications to become a member.
For instance a Doctor would be a professional but a general cleaner ( without any qualifications) in the same hospital wouldn’t be ..
Some actually believe if they have a job and they get paid at the end of the month they are professional.
Just like lots like to call themselves Engineers, but have no formal Engineering qualifications
Possibly all about one upmanship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think some people need to take a closer look at themselves than the words on a profile that outrage them.  "
Agreed
Don't need a diploma in swinging
It's for everybody |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It doesn't matter when their clothes are on the floor
It does actually by how they behave and what they say. "
Normally
Ooooh then arrrrrr I would have thought |
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"To be a professional, you need to belong to a regulating body and to have achieved specific qualifications to become a member.
For instance a Doctor would be a professional but a general cleaner ( without any qualifications) in the same hospital wouldn’t be ..
Some actually believe if they have a job and they get paid at the end of the month they are professional.
Just like lots like to call themselves Engineers, but have no formal Engineering qualifications
Possibly all about one upmanship"
The word has come to mean more than that though. We have professional musicians, athletes, footballers everyone understands that its termed that way to differentiate them from amateurs. |
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"It means just what it says, they're a professional couple. Probably working as teachers, lawyers or just white collar.
It doesn't mean anything else although people get very cross about it and think it does."
I've never understood why people get so upset about it. It's a bit like profiles that say "genuine guy" We all know what they're getting at but people still like to ridicule it. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"It means just what it says, they're a professional couple. Probably working as teachers, lawyers or just white collar.
It doesn't mean anything else although people get very cross about it and think it does.
I've never understood why people get so upset about it. It's a bit like profiles that say "genuine guy" We all know what they're getting at but people still like to ridicule it."
Who bloody knows, inferiority complex, I dunno. It's just a piece of information that's informative to the reader. A small part of the bigger picture. |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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"It means just what it says, they're a professional couple. Probably working as teachers, lawyers or just white collar.
It doesn't mean anything else although people get very cross about it and think it does.
I've never understood why people get so upset about it. It's a bit like profiles that say "genuine guy" We all know what they're getting at but people still like to ridicule it.
Who bloody knows, inferiority complex, I dunno. It's just a piece of information that's informative to the reader. A small part of the bigger picture."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be a professional, you need to belong to a regulating body and to have achieved specific qualifications to become a member.
Possibly all about one upmanship"
Holy moly, I’m a professional  |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"It's just another adjective. We use the term on our profile, and we make no apology.
If someone thinks that means we're interested in status, well - they're wrong.
We use the term in the same way that others might use tall, toned, gym-fit, or curvy. I really don't see the issue.
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Three days after a perfectly good explanation, some people still projecting their own preconceptions.
As nicecouple said....January. |
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"Sorry but what does that mean on a profile ? If we have a job by default we are professional??
Really sorry if im asking a stupid question. New to all this lingo !!!!"
Mean you have to pay them for sex surely? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not a new word, it's been always there and widely used outside Fab too.
When we talk about our relatives, friends, we do use this word professional if they are well educated, have a nice job, have good standards of living and articulate.
So if anyone mentions here being professional then you can expect few things from them as standard.
It's not about one up manship or anything.
Nothing to demean others. It is just about expecting some class in meets.
Hope that helps |
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"Sorry but what does that mean on a profile ? If we have a job by default we are professional??
Really sorry if im asking a stupid question. New to all this lingo !!!!"
Maybe they work for CI5, like Bodie and Doyle! |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Sorry but what does that mean on a profile ? If we have a job by default we are professional??
Really sorry if im asking a stupid question. New to all this lingo !!!!
Maybe they work for CI5, like Bodie and Doyle! "
No. Just have sensitive jobs in the public sector which could be compromised by bringing the profession into disrepute proved at the very least by tribunal. You don't need to be working for CI5, MI5, etc., etc.,. |
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"Sorry but what does that mean on a profile ? If we have a job by default we are professional??
Really sorry if im asking a stupid question. New to all this lingo !!!!
Maybe they work for CI5, like Bodie and Doyle! "
It’s always bodie and Doyle ...what about poor George Cowley?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It means that as well as meeting they're allowed to sign passport photos, so if you're needing one signed and this is a deal-breaker for you, these are the guys to meet! |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"It means that as well as meeting they're allowed to sign passport photos, so if you're needing one signed and this is a deal-breaker for you, these are the guys to meet! "
Interestingly we are beginning to have the same feelings as many of the those expressed above, but in our case directed towards people who are so upset about the word 'professional'. Perhaps they don't realise that inverted snobbery is just as unpleasant and irritating as snobbery itself. |
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Probably one of the least offensive bio reads compared to some on here. Lots amuse, some gross us out.
Professional people probs say it just to add to the elite role play image they are portraying, no harm in that - just their fantasy as cleaner or any regular job wont fit their image lol |
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"Sorry but what does that mean on a profile ? If we have a job by default we are professional??
Really sorry if im asking a stupid question. New to all this lingo !!!!"
They are trying to give the impression to those looknig they are not dirty unwashed scratters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We use the term in the same way that others might use tall, toned, gym-fit, or curvy. I really don't see the issue.
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But there is a difference. Terms like the ones you describe above paint a physical picture of a person. In the context of meeting somebody for sex, this could be very relevant.
Your profession is most likely irrelevant! As is your social status, or net worth. When you’re naked you shed more than just clothes.
I personally dislike the term used on a profile. Self- described “attractive” people also strikes the wrong note with me. It is after all a subjective term, and in my opinion for others to declare, not the individual. But getting back to the term “professional” it can imply an air of arrogance to those who use them on their profile and, I’m guessing a lot of cases, incorrectly applied.
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By *ondonerMan
over a year ago
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"It means just what it says, they're a professional couple. Probably working as teachers, lawyers or just white collar.
It doesn't mean anything else although people get very cross about it and think it does."
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By (user no longer on site)
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We use the term in the same way that others might use tall, toned, gym-fit, or curvy. I really don't see the issue.
But there is a difference. Terms like the ones you describe above paint a physical picture of a person. In the context of meeting somebody for sex, this could be very relevant.
Your profession is most likely irrelevant! As is your social status, or net worth. When you’re naked you shed more than just clothes.
I personally dislike the term used on a profile. Self- described “attractive” people also strikes the wrong note with me. It is after all a subjective term, and in my opinion for others to declare, not the individual. But getting back to the term “professional” it can imply an air of arrogance to those who use them on their profile and, I’m guessing a lot of cases, incorrectly applied.
Dave"
I appreciate your view on this, and I understand the distinction you've made between my examples being physical traits, as opposed to 'professional' not being a physical trait.
However, I still don't see the issue. Our profile is exactly that. Our profile. It's purpose is to describe us.
Further, the correct use of 'professional' is not subjective. It's entirely objective.
If someone chooses to read that arrogant, implicit or otherwise, then so be it. It's a shame, but again, we make no apology. We ARE professionals. We do maintain our membership to the professional bodies to which we are attached. It's a fact.
Some might say that we shouldn't use it on our profile because it's not relevant on a swinging site - and if that's their view - fair enough. It acts as filter of sorts.
There are far more worrying things happening on this site than the perceived arrogance of professionals. Some profiles actively seek out certain types of professionals - 'uniforms', 'military' etc - but nobody seems to give a fuck, and rightly so.
It's all about perspective.
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By (user no longer on site)
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People are generally attracted to people with a similar lifestyle, social status and education level. For every doctor who is in a relationship with a labourer there will be 10 or 100 who are in a relationship with another doctor or a lawyer or other profession. It’s just life and our nature.
Those saying it doesn’t matter on a swinging site forget it not just about fucking it’s about having some attraction and comfort in the person(s) you’re meeting.
Professional people advertise as professional to attract similar people.
If you don’t like them block and move on.
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Think generally those that get annoyed by the professional moniker on profiles is when it’s also plain that the profiler has somewhat of an ego, with attractive couple, we are picky etc etc also in the text.
Clues on profiles do give away if someone is in terms of employment status, really a professional couple, pictures are a giveaway too, nice house, newish car (not a tiny house or 10 year old Toyota)
So what in fab terms is a professional couple? Not a clue, but one of us was educated at Cambridge university (when degrees mattered) and one of us left school at 16. Does that make us semi professionals? |
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"Sorry but what does that mean on a profile ? If we have a job by default we are professional??
Really sorry if im asking a stupid question. New to all this lingo !!!!"
It means they are both on the game... |
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"noun
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a person engaged or qualified in a profession.
"professionals such as lawyers and surveyors"
Im a fully qualified welder, but as thats blue collar am i not professional then"
I’m sure you are professional in your work in the sense you are conscientious but you aren’t in a ‘professional’ occupation. Someone in a professional occupation could with some instruction from yourself do your job but in order for you to do his/her job you would first need to pass about 8 GCSE,s with good grades, 3 A levels with good grades , do 3 years minimum at University and get a degree of 2.1 level or above then work in that chosen field until you achieve the relevant accreditation eg Chartered accountant / PGCE (teacher) etc then you can call yourself a ‘professional’. |
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Thank you for continuing the discussion in a civil manner. Nice to see it’s still possible in the brexshit atmosphere!
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Further, the correct use of 'professional' is not subjective. It's entirely objective.
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Yes, it absolutely is! It’s clearly defined. My use of “subjective” related to the use of the word “attractive”. That is purely subjective.
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We ARE professionals. We do maintain our membership to the professional bodies to which we are attached. It's a fact.
Some might say that we shouldn't use it on our profile because it's not relevant on a swinging site - and if that's their view - fair enough. It acts as filter of sorts.
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For me personally, it isn’t relevant. How I would connect sexually with someone doesn’t depend on their profession or status, but their outlook, attitude and personality. Oh, and while it’s not the be all and end all, having physical features that float my boat goes some way towards that.
By itself using the phrase “professional” on a profile wouldn’t automatically put me off, if the remaining text continued with an air of superiority or arrogance then I’m out.
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"noun
1.
a person engaged or qualified in a profession.
"professionals such as lawyers and surveyors"
Im a fully qualified welder, but as thats blue collar am i not professional then
I’m sure you are professional in your work in the sense you are conscientious but you aren’t in a ‘professional’ occupation. Someone in a professional occupation could with some instruction from yourself do your job but in order for you to do his/her job you would first need to pass about 8 GCSE,s with good grades, 3 A levels with good grades , do 3 years minimum at University and get a degree of 2.1 level or above then work in that chosen field until you achieve the relevant accreditation eg Chartered accountant / PGCE (teacher) etc then you can call yourself a ‘professional’."
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"Thank you for continuing the discussion in a civil manner. Nice to see it’s still possible in the brexshit atmosphere!
Further, the correct use of 'professional' is not subjective. It's entirely objective.
Yes, it absolutely is! It’s clearly defined. My use of “subjective” related to the use of the word “attractive”. That is purely subjective.
We ARE professionals. We do maintain our membership to the professional bodies to which we are attached. It's a fact.
Some might say that we shouldn't use it on our profile because it's not relevant on a swinging site - and if that's their view - fair enough. It acts as filter of sorts.
For me personally, it isn’t relevant. How I would connect sexually with someone doesn’t depend on their profession or status, but their outlook, attitude and personality. Oh, and while it’s not the be all and end all, having physical features that float my boat goes some way towards that.
By itself using the phrase “professional” on a profile wouldn’t automatically put me off, if the remaining text continued with an air of superiority or arrogance then I’m out.
Dave"
I think that's what a lot of us who can see no problem with people describing thenmselves as professional are saying. It's about the whole profile. You simply can't infer a whole personality from one word neither can you infer that persons attitude toward other people. Interestingly the reaction to the word can often give away clues to other people's character traits and attitudes.
There's an underlying inverted snobbery that runs through interactions on here that people accept as natural and normal. If I started a thread criticising the use of "working class" or "manual worker" on a profile and made sweeping statements about their character and attitude I'd be hung out to dry. |
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We still think why there is so much fuss about cpls mentioning professional in their profile?
It's their prerogative, why get so touchy or judgemental about it?
Nobody is demeaning others, they are merely describing themselves.
Take it or leave it.
Obnoxious comments can only create unnecessary divide.
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"We still think why there is so much fuss about cpls mentioning professional in their profile?
It's their prerogative, why get so touchy or judgemental about it?
Nobody is demeaning others, they are merely describing themselves.
Take it or leave it.
Obnoxious comments can only create unnecessary divide.
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I agree. But the nation is now more divided than ever. It'll take more than a couple of profs to sort this fucking terrible mess out |
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