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Unwritten rule?.....

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Has any other women on here found that when it comes to accommodating there seems to be a unwritten rule that women accommodate?

Id say a good 99% of guys who mail me mail me with offers of coming round to my home and showing me a good time, and when i have said i dont accommodate they loose interest or call me a time waster

Im not having a moan lol 'onest guv

i was just wondering if other women found this to me the case, that when chatting, even tho accommodations not been mentioned when moving onto talking about meeting they just assum its your place to invite them to yours?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep, even had a guy over the weekend say, he didnt accom cos he didnt want strangers in his home..... but he could come to me, my reply... i dont think so mate!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ive had them offer to come to mine while the kids are in bed and alsorts, i find it quite insultive to be honest that guys on here think so low of me they think i'll invite them to my home while i have kids in bed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ive had them offer to come to mine while the kids are in bed and alsorts, i find it quite insultive to be honest that guys on here think so low of me they think i'll invite them to my home while i have kids in bed

Had that to, also had one say he could just pop round for a bj..... dream on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get accused of not being single for not playing at home.

The best ones are the guys who say 'how I am missing out' on them for not having them at my house! I live alone and can play at home but I choose not to. Personal preference, and no guy will make me feel guilty for it.. no matter how hard they try!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm pretty fed up of people who do that to be honest. Especially the ones who have 'can accommodate' on their profiles.

I don't understand why I should give out my address so a guy can get his end away. And I know for a fact after a quick tug they lose interest anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

oh ive had guys ask me if i cant send the kids out for a few hours so they can nip round

even had one guy offer to pay to send them to the pictures if he could come round wheile they was out lol

Some guys will go to any lengths to get to come round to yours for a shag.....i just never understood why a lot really do just feel its the womans place to provide the accommodation

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

nope no unwritten rule women accom. some ppl may chance their arm but never been an issue for me . i state clearly i dont accomm and i have no intention of accommadating .if the guy cant accomm then no meet is ever gonna happen and conversation is stopped right away ,simle as that . if they then go on about hotels or car sex i just refer them back to profile as i also make that clear for me thats not an option . if you set out your exspectations then they cant be in any doubt .if they ignor that then not kinda person youd want to meet anyway .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get accused of not being single for not playing at home.

And I thought it was just us 'can't accom' single guys who 'obviously' aren't really single!!

Seriously though - whether you can or can't - it's your choice who you let into your personal space and if they don't like it they're obviously not worth the effort. Have they never heard of this great new invention called 'hotels'?? Just googled the word and it came up with no end of options! Apparently most cities, towns and even (shock!) some villages have them too!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Completely disagree with all of you.

Of course single ladies should accom, in fact single ladies should also cook us single men a lovely meal, and also a bit of ironing would be great.

I can't see why any single lady wouldn't allow a single male they met over the t'internet into their homes.

Disclaimer - to be read with a huge dose of sarcasm.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The general opinion seems to be that it's ok for single girls to give out their address and meet complete strangers at their homes after two emails, risking not only their reputation in the community BUT their overall safety for what could possibly be a two minute fumble...let's not forget the same applies to female halves of couples who are to risk their relationships, sexual health and future of their family for something they no doubt get better at home anyway...

I mean, jeez!! Us girls that have any issues with this must be really uptight and think too highly of ourselves.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A real single guy who's a gentleman, should always offer to accommodate, whether it's his own place or a hotel.

As a couple thats what we do (accommodate or offer a hotel), if we initiated the contact first, unless the single lady said otherwise.

Most ladies wouldn't want a single guy for one off NSA fun back at theirs for security reasons or because there are children living at the house.

If people cant see that, they are the wrong people to be seeing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"nope no unwritten rule women accom. some ppl may chance their arm but never been an issue for me . i state clearly i dont accomm and i have no intention of accommadating .if the guy cant accomm then no meet is ever gonna happen and conversation is stopped right away ,simle as that . if they then go on about hotels or car sex i just refer them back to profile as i also make that clear for me thats not an option . if you set out your exspectations then they cant be in any doubt .if they ignor that then not kinda person youd want to meet anyway ."

this is of course true, but my comment wasnt about if i had to invite men to my house more if it was just taken for granted i would

And i have found most of the guys i talk to do just assum they are coming here

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

this is of course true, but my comment wasnt about if i had to invite men to my house more if it was just taken for granted i would

And i have found most of the guys i talk to do just assum they are coming here "

then those are the ones just chancing their arm and havent read your profile .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think a lot of assumptions are made. We don't accommodate, I like to keep swinging and real life separate. But I'm always upfront about this and never expect to go to someones home. I prefer to meet at clubs, but am happy with hotels etc. I have had messages when guys have said ill come to you many times.

Some people insist on us joining them at home and feel comfortable in their own territory.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think a lot of assumptions are made. We don't accommodate, I like to keep swinging and real life separate. But I'm always upfront about this and never expect to go to someones home. I prefer to meet at clubs, but am happy with hotels etc. I have had messages when guys have said ill come to you many times.

Some people insist on us joining them at home and feel comfortable in their own territory. "

im the same, because i dont accommodate i never expect anyone to invite me to their home, im happy to use clubs and hotels, however i have had a few guys who prefer to accommodate rather than use clubs etc and in those cases im happy to visit guys at home if its suggested and prefered by them

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

i always offer to go to a fems house first as its to make them feel at ease in their own surroundings.

if its not somthing they like and would prefer to come to mine thats also no problem i am sure some guys out there are the same but possibly others is as they are cheating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I must be in the minority then as I always prefer to meet on my own turf (so to speak).

Socials (typically) I try to arrange at a halfway point (so that its fair to both to share the travelling).

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well it says on my profile that i prefer to meet at home

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i am a guy and i get the same on the odd occ i cant acc ,i usaly get called a time waster

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes i find this ... alot have houses i meet But would like to come here to me . Be nice of them to offer x

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple over a year ago

North Cornwall

We don't really get this. If they mail and I see their profile they can't accommodate I just tell them that as we don't they are wasting their time and just about all immediately offer to get a hotel near us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From my experience, men don't care, and just throw stuff into the wind (Emails, winks, promises) and one must stick.

Women, should be very careful as to who they let come round for a shag. They know where you live and there are enough horror stories (couples as well) they come round, 'since we were passing' and though we would have a play.

But we are all old enough to read forums, tips passed on, other peoples experiences to learn from, to ensure we all play safe.

Do people really want to meet a different person every week for sex? How can it develop, how can you trust the other person, if you like more than simple sex...

I can accommodate, but i'm not meeting a first time at home, don't care how stunning you are

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

I don't accommodate not because I can't but because I don't! I'm a single woman who lives alone and yet some men refuse to see that there is a safety issue.

This is why I also insist on a coffee meet first in a public place - in fact I've just blocked someone I've been chatting with for ages because every time we arrange to meet he tries to get me to go straight to his and when I refuse he's suddenly busy...

I've heard horror stories from women when a man they entertained has given their address to friends!

I may joke that a coffee meet is to be certain that I'm not an axe murderer, but I have been threatened with violence for saying no thanks and the forums have had plenty of threads about stalkers

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By *inkershoes69Woman over a year ago

maidstone

i was told by a man off here that i was "in the wrong scene" as i wont accomodate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pmsl seriously guys do this... if they cant accomodate..(which does include myself sadly) get a hotel room. I am always happy to do this.

I certainly would never call someone a time waster or have a go at them for not accommodating that would be stupidly hypocritical of me.

I think there are plenty of valid reasons for not accommodating and even if its just preference, what is wrong with that.. some people must just be plain lazy and cant think outside the box.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or leave the kids in bed and go ad meet them outside in their car I am not that desperate lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only play at home due to the fact that is where I am comfortable as I have eyesight problems and know the layout of my home but I do not accom overnight as I have very bad sleep problems and I state that I do not overnight on my profile but always get guys pushing for it and when I say no I am called unreasonable

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Yes I have come across this and to be honest.... I quite like it when this 'unspoken rule' pops up.

As it tends to be guys who are cheating and think all women on here are bored housewives, married to a sack of spuds with a small limp dick, and thus she should be grateful of the offer..... it saves me time in sorting the wheat from the chav.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Oooops.... I missed the other common reason....

I don't want to shit on my own doorstep but I'll gladly come and dump a turd on yours.

In reply to my question of "why don't you accom" the reply "I don't want swingers coming to my house" generally gets a 'fuck off' rather than a long sweaty fuck.

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

If this rule is unspoken AND unwritten. How do we know it exists?

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By *Ryan-Man over a year ago

In Your Bush

"A real single guy who's a gentleman, should always offer to accommodate, whether it's his own place or a hotel.

I totally agree. I don't travel anywhere now without my blow up bungalow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Has any other women on here found that when it comes to accommodating there seems to be a unwritten rule that women accommodate?

Unwritten rule?..... No longer Unwritten, now we have to start the exceptions library

We can accomodate, and do accomodate but never first time we meet, that will almost definately be a club.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple over a year ago

somewhere out there

when i was single i wouldnt meet a guy at his on a first meet, nor would i have him to mine, either way is far to risky so many nutters, but as a couple we meet at a bar first if single guy we wont meet if they dont accom, we have had guys demand we meet them as we state we accom even though they didnt, but he hadnt read our profile, so yeah

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"If this rule is unspoken AND unwritten. How do we know it exists?"

Cos we say so, right??

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple over a year ago

somewhere out there

"If this rule is unspoken AND unwritten. How do we know it exists?

Cos we say so, right??

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"If this rule is unspoken AND unwritten. How do we know it exists?

Cos we say so, right??

Well if it's that easy I'm making a new unwritten and unspoken rule. It involves all the women on this forum and my penis.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"If this rule is unspoken AND unwritten. How do we know it exists?

Cos we say so, right??

Well if it's that easy I'm making a new unwritten and unspoken rule. It involves all the women on this forum and my penis."

Good luck with that!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this rule is unspoken AND unwritten. How do we know it exists?"

Common sense, role reversal and empathy for a situation...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I have come across this and to be honest.... I quite like it when this 'unspoken rule' pops up.

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By *lackCherryCouple over a year ago

Bristol

yeah I think its fair to say a LOT of the "single" men on here are playing away without the partners knowledge.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i always offer to go to a fems house first as its to make them feel at ease in their own surroundings.

if its not somthing they like and would prefer to come to mine thats also no problem i am sure some guys out there are the same but possibly others is as they are cheating

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i don't make assumptions about this kinda thing, i'm quite flexible, and don't mind accommodating...i'm just loathed to have to clean up my squalid pig pen of a flat, to receive guests.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have had a few mention coming to mine and it annoys me as it shows they haven't read my profile, I lose interest then

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By *he BananamanMan over a year ago

WORCESTERSHIRE

"oh ive had guys ask me if i cant send the kids out for a few hours so they can nip round

even had one guy offer to pay to send them to the pictures if he could come round wheile they was out lol

Some guys will go to any lengths to get to come round to yours for a shag.....i just never understood why a lot really do just feel its the womans place to provide the accommodation"

lol,you should know by now that there are some strange people out there!.

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By *sMinxyWoman over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I got called a time waster by one bloke - who couldnt see why i wouldnt leave my kids at home and pop out - he suggested that i told them i needed to pop to the shop!!! at 10.30pm and nearest one open would be a 13 mile drive!! What a numpty!!!

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