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There's a lot of posts from people who have been here a long time and aren't meeting.
The advice is go to a club where your profile is irrelevant, veris don't matter but there are still a lot of men. Not meeting here is frustrating but it's free.
So given the cost of entrance and drinks in a club - how much has anyone spent in a club over a period of time before getting with someone?
No-one seems to comment on the club equivalent of not getting a meeting but it does happen so let's discuss. |
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"Even if you don't get to play in a club you can still enjoy socialising, playing pool, going in the hot tub and sauna etc so it is not wasted money. "
Yes. 
A club visit is a night out among like minded people. Socialise, enjoy the facilities and regard playing as a bonus.
Anyone who calculates the number of sex sessions to time and money spent has no place in a swinger club. |
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If people are concerned about wasting time or money perhaps a prostitute might be the answer.
If people go to a club just to have fun and socialise I’m sure they won’t see it as a waste of money, if they have sex then it’s a bonus.
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"If I was a man I wouldn't pay a ridiculous amount of money to be ignored all night!"
They are obviously going to the wrong club, if that is there experience!
Not all club's charge huge prices to get in. 6 hours fun, music, entertainment, chance to meet lots of lovely friendly people, watch and maybe join in with the sexy stuff, bring your own alcohol. A great night for £30.
If I was a fun, sociable single guy... would be a no brainer |
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"There's a lot of posts from people who have been here a long time and aren't meeting.
The advice is go to a club where your profile is irrelevant, veris don't matter but there are still a lot of men. Not meeting here is frustrating but it's free.
So given the cost of entrance and drinks in a club - how much has anyone spent in a club over a period of time before getting with someone?
No-one seems to comment on the club equivalent of not getting a meeting but it does happen so let's discuss."
My first club visit resulted in a very pleasant sexual encounter.
Since then I've had nights where I've sat at the bar chatting most of the night or had one or two sexual connections.
I've never been to a club with an expectation of fucking. If it happens it happens, if it doesn't I've still had a nice night out with like minded people.
My club attitude is very much my Fab attitude.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple the cost of going to a swingers club is actually cheaper than going out vanilla. Cost of entry is usually between £25-£50. Cost of drink is around £10-£25 as you bring your own bottle and soft drinks are usually provided. for single fems the cost is lower as they ether get in free or its around £10-30 depending on night and club. Single guys the cost is usually £50-£70.
It's expensive for single guys and the total cost is probably similar to a vanilla night.
The social aspect of the club is probably my favourite part of going to these clubs, playing is just a bonus not a given.
Going out in London on a vanilla night is way more expensive and at our age just not socialble enough for us. Random conversations particularly about sex isnt something I would do on a vanilla night, infact talking to strangers isn't something I tend to do in vanilla nights but on the scene it's completely different. It's very rare for us to have a disappointing night in a swingers club regardless of whether we play or not.
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"If people are concerned about wasting time or money perhaps a prostitute might be the answer.
If people go to a club just to have fun and socialise I’m sure they won’t see it as a waste of money, if they have sex then it’s a bonus.
Lou x "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I was a man I wouldn't pay a ridiculous amount of money to be ignored all night!"
 This. Though I wasn't ignored though. People spoke to me. Men, women, couples and staff. If you've no veris I'd reccomend a group social first, not a club, unless you've money to burn.Which I don't. |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
"There's a lot of posts from people who have been here a long time and aren't meeting.
The advice is go to a club where your profile is irrelevant, veris don't matter but there are still a lot of men. Not meeting here is frustrating but it's free.
So given the cost of entrance and drinks in a club - how much has anyone spent in a club over a period of time before getting with someone?
No-one seems to comment on the club equivalent of not getting a meeting but it does happen so let's discuss."
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For us, clubs aren't just about sex, it's the whole package
of having a fun and naughty night out amongst like minded people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do prefer clubs as I feel safer if I play as a single woman.
I do find lately some clubs are expensive and people are cottoning in to this and doing their own nights at home. One local to me is Charging £50 a couple £70 single Male. That’s so expensive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're expecting to go out and get laid instantly or calculating costs of how much its likely to cost you before you get to play then id just avoid clubs and go for an escort. Clubs are a fun environment and a social place to meet like minded people with no pressure to play not a "pay your fee and take your pick". |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
I have played with several single guys on the their first club visit. At least they are willing to put sone erfort in, get out and meet people face to face, and don't expect a free fuck for a three line message on fab. |
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I play with single guys at clubs all the time. But "I paid therefore fuck me" or "I suppose it costs about the same as an escort" is as noticeable as covering up BO with a bottle of cheap aftershave... and about as attractive.
You're there, interact with people, and your odds go up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
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Maybe. I think it depends. Some guys go, expect to flash their cock at a woman or grunt at her partner, and be knee deep in clunge. I think it's that kind of thing the comment is aimed at. We're people, treat us like people, don't expect to bypass social niceties and don't act entitled to sex, it's off putting at best. I suppose that's the why for the advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah that's exactly my point ... I dont want to waste £25-50 just to be ignored.
I'm fairly confident at socialising and getting on with people but I just know for a fact I'll get ignored. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Maybe. I think it depends. Some guys go, expect to flash their cock at a woman or grunt at her partner, and be knee deep in clunge. I think it's that kind of thing the comment is aimed at. We're people, treat us like people, don't expect to bypass social niceties and don't act entitled to sex, it's off putting at best. I suppose that's the why for the advice. "
Yes definitely. But the issue here is a complete lack of social skills and an inability to know how to interact with the opposite sex. I suspect the men who act in that way also have very little success in the vanilla world and on here. There is littke more cringeworthy than men who ask which is the best club for single men when they obviously mean where am I most likely to get laid. The expectation isn't wrong but the perceived lack of effort on their part is why you now the don't stand a chance. It's not about treating the night as a social it's about treating women with respect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah that's exactly my point ... I dont want to waste £25-50 just to be ignored.
I'm fairly confident at socialising and getting on with people but I just know for a fact I'll get ignored."
With that attitude yes you probably will be |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"Yeah that's exactly my point ... I dont want to waste £25-50 just to be ignored.
I'm fairly confident at socialising and getting on with people but I just know for a fact I'll get ignored."
If you're fairly confident but feel like you'll still be ignored, why is that the case? People would chat to you if you sparked up a convo I would think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And no doubt women get in free? .... I've noticed that alot about clubs. Single men charged through the roof, couples a lower price then there's women completely free!.
Equal rights my arse it is.
It all should be one price across the board say £25 man and woman and £40 for couples.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've tried sparking up convos on here I get ignored or blocked because you know thats how it is on here, if you're a single bloke that's slightly stocky you get ignored even if you do read profiles and send messages with a few paragraphs that aren't "want to fuck?"
...... I've made the effort on here to try and converse it just gets you nowhere.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And no doubt women get in free? .... I've noticed that alot about clubs. Single men charged through the roof, couples a lower price then there's women completely free!.
Equal rights my arse it is.
It all should be one price across the board say £25 man and woman and £40 for couples.
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Whilst I agree with this it is very unlikely to happen as more men than ladies go even if it's free entry for ladies. So running a club wouldn't be a financially viable business if even fewer ladies went. Unfortunately it's a case of if you don't like the inequality then just don't attend. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I've tried sparking up convos on here I get ignored or blocked because you know thats how it is on here, if you're a single bloke that's slightly stocky you get ignored even if you do read profiles and send messages with a few paragraphs that aren't "want to fuck?"
...... I've made the effort on here to try and converse it just gets you nowhere.
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Without wishing to take the thread off topic - don't look at the things you can't change, look at those that you can and make them - you'll find your experience and perception of the site will be much improved |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"And no doubt women get in free? .... I've noticed that alot about clubs. Single men charged through the roof, couples a lower price then there's women completely free!.
Equal rights my arse it is.
It all should be one price across the board say £25 man and woman and £40 for couples.
Whilst I agree with this it is very unlikely to happen as more men than ladies go even if it's free entry for ladies. So running a club wouldn't be a financially viable business if even fewer ladies went. Unfortunately it's a case of if you don't like the inequality then just don't attend. "
It's not so much about financial viability though, as about limiting the number of men to prevent a real life Fab scenario where a club is full of single men with a handful of women and couples - charging a higher entrance fee helps deter the timewasters and those that think just because they have paid a fee they are entitled to sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not so much about financial viability though, as about limiting the number of men to prevent a real life Fab scenario where a club is full of single men with a handful of women and couples - charging a higher entrance fee helps deter the timewasters and those that think just because they have paid a fee they are entitled to sex.
Oh I get that to a point but without financially enticing single females fewer would go meaning the gender imbalance in a club would make them less popular and financially impissible to run as well. I have definitely written a few clubs on my list of pending visits off due to a gender imbalance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
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Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've tried sparking up convos on here I get ignored or blocked because you know thats how it is on here, if you're a single bloke that's slightly stocky you get ignored even if you do read profiles and send messages with a few paragraphs that aren't "want to fuck?"
...... I've made the effort on here to try and converse it just gets you nowhere.
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So have you actually been to a club, been sociable and friendly and been ignored on , let's say, 10 occasions.
Also if you came and spoke to me about equality and all you brought to the table was complaining about how in sex clubs you need to pay more, I'd be wanting to know what you were doing to address the gender pay gap before you put that complaint to me. You could also tell me why men see women as nothing more than objects, which is why they're willing to pay more to enter clubs on this false belief. |
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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago
east Lancashire road |
£30 + oown alcohol +travel +hotels
So u can go there have a wank n disappointed come home tales between ur legs then u come back and other day hoping it be different n happens again then nothing to stop u keep doing it again n again
Why not nip to ur local pub have a lough play pool darts for free
The excuse they use for charging guys is to limit the amount of men
Bull shittt
Why not do this
Tell how many men u want to attend at one night let's say 20 guys
Post it on the forum
Then the first 20 guys get booked problem solved that's the 20 guest list only u don't have to charge them 3 times the amount of female n couples that's how I see it |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
Its very rare that if your a guy you'll find people throwing them self's at you in a club. Weather or not you get ignored in clubs is entirely down to you. So if you go with the intention that by attending a club your onto a sure thing, then be prepared to be disappointed.
As for the cost you'd probably spend the same on a night out in town.
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"Even if you don't get to play in a club you can still enjoy socialising, playing pool, going in the hot tub and sauna etc so it is not wasted money.
Yes.
A club visit is a night out among like minded people. Socialise, enjoy the facilities and regard playing as a bonus.
Anyone who calculates the number of sex sessions to time and money spent has no place in a swinger club."
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"£30 + oown alcohol +travel +hotels
So u can go there have a wank n disappointed come home tales between ur legs then u come back and other day hoping it be different n happens again then nothing to stop u keep doing it again n again
Why not nip to ur local pub have a lough play pool darts for free
The excuse they use for charging guys is to limit the amount of men
Bull shittt
Why not do this
Tell how many men u want to attend at one night let's say 20 guys
Post it on the forum
Then the first 20 guys get booked problem solved that's the 20 guest list only u don't have to charge them 3 times the amount of female n couples that's how I see it "
Because not all swingers are on Fab |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"There's a lot of posts from people who have been here a long time and aren't meeting.
The advice is go to a club where your profile is irrelevant, veris don't matter but there are still a lot of men. Not meeting here is frustrating but it's free.
So given the cost of entrance and drinks in a club - how much has anyone spent in a club over a period of time before getting with someone?
No-one seems to comment on the club equivalent of not getting a meeting but it does happen so let's discuss."
Meeting people is not free, even going on a date with a woman will cost you at least £50 trying to meet on here is just a lazy and cheap way of doing things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I like to treat a swingers club as any other club. Turn up for a drink, socialise and a dance with the bonus of having naked people everywhere. If anything happens, then that's a bonus too. |
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"I've tried sparking up convos on here I get ignored or blocked because you know thats how it is on here, if you're a single bloke that's slightly stocky you get ignored even if you do read profiles and send messages with a few paragraphs that aren't "want to fuck?"
...... I've made the effort on here to try and converse it just gets you nowhere.
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It's easy to ignore someone on the internet...it's less easy when you are standing in front of them and as long as you are a half decent person people will speak to. |
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"If people are concerned about wasting time or money perhaps a prostitute might be the answer.
If people go to a club just to have fun and socialise I’m sure they won’t see it as a waste of money, if they have sex then it’s a bonus.
Lou x "
Exactly this. Plus, if you're struggling to get verified then going to a club and making an effort to talk to people is the perfect way to get a few veris that you are a real person and can at least act like a decent huma being for an hour
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I’m always astounded by the people who believe they are entitled to sex by paying an entrance fee to a club and then chuck a tantrum when nothing happens. Keep outing yourselves on here as it’s a fantastic filter. Bravo!!
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"There's a lot of posts from people who have been here a long time and aren't meeting.
The advice is go to a club where your profile is irrelevant, veris don't matter but there are still a lot of men. Not meeting here is frustrating but it's free.
So given the cost of entrance and drinks in a club - how much has anyone spent in a club over a period of time before getting with someone?
No-one seems to comment on the club equivalent of not getting a meeting but it does happen so let's discuss."
I have done a total of 9 visits, to 6 different clubs. As a single guy, I have paid between £40 - £53 entry each time (including joining fee on a first time visit), so you do the math
I was fortunate enough to "get with someone" on one occasion, but that was largely down to banter in the forum here beforehand, rather than a random meeting in a club.
Were my club experiences worth the money? If we're only thinking about 'sexy fun per £1 spent', then no. Using Fab to arrange private meets has been by far the better option (for me, anyway). If we're going to think about experiencing an alternative night out, somewhere completely outside your usual routine, then yes, the money I spent was worth it.
Would I recommend going to a club as a single guy? Of course! Why not? Go and have a look, satisfy your curiosity about what these places are like! Take the gender fee disparity on the chin (like a man lol?), and go with an open mind, but no expectations of play. |
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"If I was a man I wouldn't pay a ridiculous amount of money to be ignored all night!"
we are regulars at clubs and go on a weekly basis and I have to say that the majority of single guys that are ignored are ignored because they make no attempt to make conversation in the bar, sit alone in the corner and then follow couples down to the play rooms to either stand silently watching or sticking their cock in your face thinking it’s their god given right to join in the fun. Any guy willing to strike up conversation and take interest befor playtime starts will not be ignored xx
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"I've tried sparking up convos on here I get ignored or blocked because you know thats how it is on here, if you're a single bloke that's slightly stocky you get ignored even if you do read profiles and send messages with a few paragraphs that aren't "want to fuck?"
...... I've made the effort on here to try and converse it just gets you nowhere.
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It seems to me like you have a slightly negative mindset when it comes to fab. If you have that approach if you do go to a club I doubt you'll be successful there either. No offence, it's just how I see it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A better way of looking at it would be they are not sex clubs for having sex with strangers but clubs that offer a safe space to facilitate people to have sex with strangers ... it's not a given thing and it's not down to the club to organise sex for a person as it still is down to an individual's social skills and attraction |
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It's funny how things pan out.
When I was a single guy going to clubs in the UK I started out with the attitude that I was going there purely for sex.
Some nights it worked and on others it didn't. On the nights where the sex was thin and I'd been there for a few hours and got nowhere I would start to get disappointed sometimes to the point of desperation.
This lasted for a good few months until I got one of those light bulb moments which made me completely change my attitude.
From then on I went to clubs with a much more relaxed mentality. I stopped pushing myself at situations, instead of rushing to see what was happening in the playrooms every time a couple headed that way. I would just stay at the bar and spend the night chatting to people. Couples, the occasional single woman, and in many cases just other guys who were in the same boat as me.
It didn't take long before I noticed a real change in how others reacted to me. Instead of just seeing me as one of the zombie squad to be ignored, they interacted with me and ultimately I actually got more sex.
Sometimes less really is more.
The crazy thing is that we still see both sides today.
We know a lot of single guys in the German and Spanish clubs that we visit. Almost all of the relaxed guys that chill and chat around the bar end up getting more sex than the guys who are rushing into every situation that they see.
Of course it doesn't work every time and there will still be nights when nothing much is happening, but try it and I can almost guarantee that over time it will pay dividends. |
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"A better way of looking at it would be they are not sex clubs for having sex with strangers but clubs that offer a safe space to facilitate people to have sex with strangers ... it's not a given thing and it's not down to the club to organise sex for a person as it still is down to an individual's social skills and attraction "
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
"I’m always astounded by the people who believe they are entitled to sex by paying an entrance fee to a club and then chuck a tantrum when nothing happens. Keep outing yourselves on here as it’s a fantastic filter. Bravo!!
Ed"
You talk the words right out of my mouth.
Exatactly this; don't go to a club for sex, go for the fun of being around like minded people; I always consider play to be a bonus.
I do think that single guys get exploited at clubs and are charge too much for entrance but that's market forces for you. Anyway, no matter what you're charged, no amount off it is paying to guarantee sex; much like a night club, entrance free does not carry any promises that you'll get a dance or a snog.
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We are slightly different to others couples it would seem....
We primarily go to a club so my wife can play with guys, those peeps that have paid their £70 or whatever to enter the club! We haven't come to socialise or sit in a hot tub or play pool!! Quite happy to chat, but we are there to have sex with people, it is what the club is for surely!! 
We spend so much of our time with timewasters and people that want to chat and never meet on this site, guys that have paid £70 to enter a club are at least serious in meeting!!
We have our own circle of friends we socialise with in the real world, swinging is our secret private life where we have sex with like minded people....we don't want to be best friends and go out drinking or do coffee in town. We have regular Fab peeps we meet and are "friendly" with when we are together, but would never meet otherwise. It is a seperate part of our lives...!
It doesn't mean we shag every guy that turns up at a club, but we see so many peeps strutting around thinking their shite doesn't stink it is no wonder people are put off paying to enter a club these days  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are slightly different to others couples it would seem....
We primarily go to a club so my wife can play with guys, those peeps that have paid their £70 or whatever to enter the club! We haven't come to socialise or sit in a hot tub or play pool!! Quite happy to chat, but we are there to have sex with people, it is what the club is for surely!!
We spend so much of our time with timewasters and people that want to chat and never meet on this site, guys that have paid £70 to enter a club are at least serious in meeting!!
We have our own circle of friends we socialise with in the real world, swinging is our secret private life where we have sex with like minded people....we don't want to be best friends and go out drinking or do coffee in town. We have regular Fab peeps we meet and are "friendly" with when we are together, but would never meet otherwise. It is a seperate part of our lives...!
It doesn't mean we shag every guy that turns up at a club, but we see so many peeps strutting around thinking their shite doesn't stink it is no wonder people are put off paying to enter a club these days "
You've just proved that there's something for everyone and that guys not getting laid must be seriously doing something wrong. |
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"A better way of looking at it would be they are not sex clubs for having sex with strangers but clubs that offer a safe space to facilitate people to have sex with strangers ... it's not a given thing and it's not down to the club to organise sex for a person as it still is down to an individual's social skills and attraction "
That is a really good and well thought post!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a single guy, i have been to a couple of clubs and enjoyed them whether i have been fortunate to be playing or not.
Never been a financial issue. I go to the club because i want to enjoy the facilities and chat to people firstly and most importantly. Anything other than that is a bonus and certainly not gauranteed.
If you want the gaurantee, dont go to a club, find a prostitute. |
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"We are slightly different to others couples it would seem....
We primarily go to a club so my wife can play with guys, those peeps that have paid their £70 or whatever to enter the club! We haven't come to socialise or sit in a hot tub or play pool!! Quite happy to chat, but we are there to have sex with people, it is what the club is for surely!!
We spend so much of our time with timewasters and people that want to chat and never meet on this site, guys that have paid £70 to enter a club are at least serious in meeting!!
We have our own circle of friends we socialise with in the real world, swinging is our secret private life where we have sex with like minded people....we don't want to be best friends and go out drinking or do coffee in town. We have regular Fab peeps we meet and are "friendly" with when we are together, but would never meet otherwise. It is a seperate part of our lives...!
It doesn't mean we shag every guy that turns up at a club, but we see so many peeps strutting around thinking their shite doesn't stink it is no wonder people are put off paying to enter a club these days
You've just proved that there's something for everyone and that guys not getting laid must be seriously doing something wrong."
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"We are slightly different to others couples it would seem....
We primarily go to a club so my wife can play with guys, those peeps that have paid their £70 or whatever to enter the club! We haven't come to socialise or sit in a hot tub or play pool!! Quite happy to chat, but we are there to have sex with people, it is what the club is for surely!!
We spend so much of our time with timewasters and people that want to chat and never meet on this site, guys that have paid £70 to enter a club are at least serious in meeting!!
We have our own circle of friends we socialise with in the real world, swinging is our secret private life where we have sex with like minded people....we don't want to be best friends and go out drinking or do coffee in town. We have regular Fab peeps we meet and are "friendly" with when we are together, but would never meet otherwise. It is a seperate part of our lives...!
It doesn't mean we shag every guy that turns up at a club, but we see so many peeps strutting around thinking their shite doesn't stink it is no wonder people are put off paying to enter a club these days
You've just proved that there's something for everyone and that guys not getting laid must be seriously doing something wrong.
Just because a guy is in a club, it doesn't mean he will fuck anyone "
That wasn't my point. My point was about the men complaining no one will speak to them letalone fuck them. |
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party."
Plenty of women on Fab who want blokes to empty their wallets for them though....... |
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party.
Plenty of women on Fab who demand blokes to empty their wallets for them though......."
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We host parties in a club where the guys pay £30 to get in on a Sat night. They bring their own booze so say they spend a tenner on beer they bring in.
A Sat night out for £40? See if you can do that in a nightclub and also have the opportunity to meet like-minded people, listen to his music, play pool and have a hot tub and sauna!!
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"And no doubt women get in free? .... I've noticed that alot about clubs. Single men charged through the roof, couples a lower price then there's women completely free!.
Equal rights my arse it is.
It all should be one price across the board say £25 man and woman and £40 for couples.
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The women and couples are there as sex bait. Hence they pay much less. The men keep the clubs afloat.
Charging a higher entrance fee just makes some men assume that sex is guaranteed. Many clubs do nothing to challenge that belief. Some even encourage it! |
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"We are slightly different to others couples it would seem....
We primarily go to a club so my wife can play with guys, those peeps that have paid their £70 or whatever to enter the club! We haven't come to socialise or sit in a hot tub or play pool!! Quite happy to chat, but we are there to have sex with people, it is what the club is for surely!!
We spend so much of our time with timewasters and people that want to chat and never meet on this site, guys that have paid £70 to enter a club are at least serious in meeting!!
We have our own circle of friends we socialise with in the real world, swinging is our secret private life where we have sex with like minded people....we don't want to be best friends and go out drinking or do coffee in town. We have regular Fab peeps we meet and are "friendly" with when we are together, but would never meet otherwise. It is a seperate part of our lives...!
It doesn't mean we shag every guy that turns up at a club, but we see so many peeps strutting around thinking their shite doesn't stink it is no wonder people are put off paying to enter a club these days
You've just proved that there's something for everyone and that guys not getting laid must be seriously doing something wrong.
Just because a guy is in a club, it doesn't mean he will fuck anyone
That wasn't my point. My point was about the men complaining no one will speak to them letalone fuck them."
I've had people deliberately turn their heads as I approached them, and couples where the male has given a curt "We're not looking for single guys". I've also approached people with "Hi, how's it going?", received a "Alright thanks", then they walk off. It's a tough gig as a single guy in a club, I wish I could just relax and enjoy it, instead of trying to walk on eggshells all the time |
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party.
Plenty of women on Fab who demand blokes to empty their wallets for them though.......
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Only been to one.
It was ok.. I was approached and asked if i wanted to have some fun with a couple.
Started ok but it was hot.. No air conditioning and... Stank.
And a few guys did look pretty unhygienic and scruffy.
At least make an effort.
The sex wasnt amazing and i started to wonder if it was really for me.
I paid less than a few of the guys which was ok.
But still felt ripped off due to the general unkempt look of the place.
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party.
Plenty of women on Fab who want blokes to empty their wallets for them though......."
You should report them when you see them. There is literally a button for that.
Sadly for us women who get constantly approached to have sex for money on fab, there is no corresponding button to report that.
Which is the opposite to the law. Soliciting is illegal. Selling sex is not illegal. |
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party.
Plenty of women on Fab who want blokes to empty their wallets for them though.......
You should report them when you see them. There is literally a button for that.
Sadly for us women who get constantly approached to have sex for money on fab, there is no corresponding button to report that.
Which is the opposite to the law. Soliciting is illegal. Selling sex is not illegal."
Of course there is a button to report them. |
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I’ve been to 2 sex clubs in my life....
One in Paris and the other in Amsterdam.....
Both times I went as a couple.....
I have to be honest the people in these sex clubs were no different than a vanilla club... except the fact you had people in their 60’s-70’s mingling with people in there 20’s...
I don’t remember the amenities offered per say... but both of these clubs were very nice and clean.....
Now I must say as a single male.... I would go to a sex/swinging club to have sex first and foremost... any connections I made would be a bonus....
I’m very surprised reading that some men on here feel like going to a sexy club to socialize and no sex is a great night...
I personally would not be excited to spend my Friday/Saturday night going to a sex club alone to chat to people all night...
This has nothing to due with the cost of the clubs.. it’s down to the fact of swingers are no different than regular people in a pub... all my conversations with people that swing is always about everyday life and past swinging experiences...
I can go to my local pub/club and talk to people about taxes , Donald trump , Teresa May , high taxes , and Bretix without paying a membership and entrance fee....
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"If people are concerned about wasting time or money perhaps a prostitute might be the answer.
If people go to a club just to have fun and socialise I’m sure they won’t see it as a waste of money, if they have sex then it’s a bonus.
Lou x "
this...... i think it is very much a mindset issue... and i think that people who go in with an entitled "i've paid my money, wheres the sex?" attitude get found out very very quickly...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party.
Plenty of women on Fab who want blokes to empty their wallets for them though.......
You should report them when you see them. There is literally a button for that.
Sadly for us women who get constantly approached to have sex for money on fab, there is no corresponding button to report that.
Which is the opposite to the law. Soliciting is illegal. Selling sex is not illegal.
Of course there is a button to report them. "
Not a direct button. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party.
Plenty of women on Fab who want blokes to empty their wallets for them though.......
You should report them when you see them. There is literally a button for that.
Sadly for us women who get constantly approached to have sex for money on fab, there is no corresponding button to report that.
Which is the opposite to the law. Soliciting is illegal. Selling sex is not illegal.
Of course there is a button to report them.
Not a direct button."
The "Report" link is on every message. |
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over a year ago
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party.
Plenty of women on Fab who want blokes to empty their wallets for them though.......
You should report them when you see them. There is literally a button for that.
Sadly for us women who get constantly approached to have sex for money on fab, there is no corresponding button to report that.
Which is the opposite to the law. Soliciting is illegal. Selling sex is not illegal.
Of course there is a button to report them.
Not a direct button.
The "Report" link is on every message. "
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"I’ve been to 2 sex clubs in my life....
One in Paris and the other in Amsterdam.....
Both times I went as a couple.....
I have to be honest the people in these sex clubs were no different than a vanilla club... except the fact you had people in their 60’s-70’s mingling with people in there 20’s...
I don’t remember the amenities offered per say... but both of these clubs were very nice and clean.....
Now I must say as a single male.... I would go to a sex/swinging club to have sex first and foremost... any connections I made would be a bonus....
I’m very surprised reading that some men on here feel like going to a sexy club to socialize and no sex is a great night...
I personally would not be excited to spend my Friday/Saturday night going to a sex club alone to chat to people all night...
This has nothing to due with the cost of the clubs.. it’s down to the fact of swingers are no different than regular people in a pub... all my conversations with people that swing is always about everyday life and past swinging experiences...
I can go to my local pub/club and talk to people about taxes , Donald trump , Teresa May , high taxes , and Bretix without paying a membership and entrance fee....
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They are not sex clubs for having sex with strangers but clubs that offer a safe space to facilitate people to have sex with strangers ... sex is not a given thing and it's not down to the club to organise sex for a person as it still is down to an individual's social skills and attraction ... you could go and not impress in any way but that's not the club's fault. |
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party.
Plenty of women on Fab who want blokes to empty their wallets for them though.......
You should report them when you see them. There is literally a button for that.
Sadly for us women who get constantly approached to have sex for money on fab, there is no corresponding button to report that.
Which is the opposite to the law. Soliciting is illegal. Selling sex is not illegal."
It was more an observation of those women who demand men pay for dinner, men pay for the hotel, that men even pay for the woman's travel cost to the meet.
Gold diggers I think they're called.
I find it funny when they list their demands, then bleat like lambs about equality. |
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"I’ve been to 2 sex clubs in my life....
One in Paris and the other in Amsterdam.....
Both times I went as a couple.....
I have to be honest the people in these sex clubs were no different than a vanilla club... except the fact you had people in their 60’s-70’s mingling with people in there 20’s...
I don’t remember the amenities offered per say... but both of these clubs were very nice and clean.....
Now I must say as a single male.... I would go to a sex/swinging club to have sex first and foremost... any connections I made would be a bonus....
I’m very surprised reading that some men on here feel like going to a sexy club to socialize and no sex is a great night...
I personally would not be excited to spend my Friday/Saturday night going to a sex club alone to chat to people all night...
This has nothing to due with the cost of the clubs.. it’s down to the fact of swingers are no different than regular people in a pub... all my conversations with people that swing is always about everyday life and past swinging experiences...
I can go to my local pub/club and talk to people about taxes , Donald trump , Teresa May , high taxes , and Bretix without paying a membership and entrance fee....
They are not sex clubs for having sex with strangers but clubs that offer a safe space to facilitate people to have sex with strangers ... sex is not a given thing and it's not down to the club to organise sex for a person as it still is down to an individual's social skills and attraction ... you could go and not impress in any way but that's not the club's fault. "
Safe space - exactly. |
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party.
Plenty of women on Fab who want blokes to empty their wallets for them though.......
You should report them when you see them. There is literally a button for that.
Sadly for us women who get constantly approached to have sex for money on fab, there is no corresponding button to report that.
Which is the opposite to the law. Soliciting is illegal. Selling sex is not illegal.
Of course there is a button to report them. "
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
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"If I was a man I wouldn't pay a ridiculous amount of money to be ignored all night!"
We go to clubs regularly. Nearly always we see a few guys who just walk about and don't pay attention to anyone who is sitting socialising. Watching or trying to get into a room where the action is we find common. We could even say that it's the couples that get ignored by single men. We never really took much notice of this till a couple we are friends with pointed this out. We watched the single guys over a couple of visits and couldn't believe what we seen. As we don't look for single men we hadn't noticed this. We had been approached by 1 or 2 now and again and had some great banter. So saying single men are ignored is not what we see. If they make the effort to speak they can get some great craic with people. A simple how are you? Are you having a good night? My name is..... Always a good start. Don't be shy just speak instead of wearing your shoes out |
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party.
Plenty of women on Fab who want blokes to empty their wallets for them though.......
You should report them when you see them. There is literally a button for that.
Sadly for us women who get constantly approached to have sex for money on fab, there is no corresponding button to report that.
Which is the opposite to the law. Soliciting is illegal. Selling sex is not illegal.
Of course there is a button to report them.
Same button isn't it? "
Click report and see what happens |
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Following on from my post a long way above.. i should have pointed out in fairness that i have only ever been during the day, when it will obviously be much queiter and possibly even harder to meet a couple or personbut hasten to add i go to chill out.
On many occasions i have just laid in the sun naked listening to my ipod with my eyes shut. In my dreams or an alternative universe hundreds of women may have approached me and thought me rude as i didnt hear them ! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party.
Plenty of women on Fab who want blokes to empty their wallets for them though......."
And plenty of men offering to. |
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over a year ago
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party.
Plenty of women on Fab who want blokes to empty their wallets for them though.......
You should report them when you see them. There is literally a button for that.
Sadly for us women who get constantly approached to have sex for money on fab, there is no corresponding button to report that.
Which is the opposite to the law. Soliciting is illegal. Selling sex is not illegal.
It was more an observation of those women who demand men pay for dinner, men pay for the hotel, that men even pay for the woman's travel cost to the meet.
Gold diggers I think they're called.
I find it funny when they list their demands, then bleat like lambs about equality."
I'm actually an anti-feminist but make no demands and happily pay my own way in life, I just think that is more a reflection of a certain type of person rather than the normal and tarring all with the same brush |
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Unless you're paying sex workers then you do not 'pay to go swinging', you pay to go to a swinging club/event/party.
Plenty of women on Fab who want blokes to empty their wallets for them though.......
And plenty of men offering to. "
Sounds like a match made in heaven.
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"We host parties in a club where the guys pay £30 to get in on a Sat night. They bring their own booze so say they spend a tenner on beer they bring in.
A Sat night out for £40? See if you can do that in a nightclub and also have the opportunity to meet like-minded people, listen to his music, play pool and have a hot tub and sauna!!
You may even get laid or fulfil your fantasies!! "
I love how nobody responded to my post but kept on about fair pricing!?
SX charge the same for a single guy as they do a couple for most parties. Ladies and trans are same price too.
It is true that without the ladies you have no parties (unless it's a gay male party) so you entice ladies in, but SX charge less as opposed to free.
Most are more than happy to pay to come into a clean establishment who allow the right ratio of people through the door and where they feel safe and looked after |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
We have said this time and time again on the forum single guys at clubs do not help themselves in our experience.
They often sit in the corners and don't talk to anybody or just follow people around presumably hoping that somebody will give them a pity shag.
Many look as if they have just come from work or about to go and put a shift in.
Whilst nobody should have any expectations at a club there are some basic principles which we think should be followed, be clean and dress smart and chat to people. It might still lead to nothing but you you will still have a positive experience. |
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over a year ago
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"If I was a man I wouldn't pay a ridiculous amount of money to be ignored all night!
We go to clubs regularly. Nearly always we see a few guys who just walk about and don't pay attention to anyone who is sitting socialising. Watching or trying to get into a room where the action is we find common. We could even say that it's the couples that get ignored by single men. We never really took much notice of this till a couple we are friends with pointed this out. We watched the single guys over a couple of visits and couldn't believe what we seen. As we don't look for single men we hadn't noticed this. We had been approached by 1 or 2 now and again and had some great banter. So saying single men are ignored is not what we see. If they make the effort to speak they can get some great craic with people. A simple how are you? Are you having a good night? My name is..... Always a good start. Don't be shy just speak instead of wearing your shoes out"
Fair point, some do talk. Some really are 99% zombie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We host parties in a club where the guys pay £30 to get in on a Sat night. They bring their own booze so say they spend a tenner on beer they bring in.
A Sat night out for £40? See if you can do that in a nightclub and also have the opportunity to meet like-minded people, listen to his music, play pool and have a hot tub and sauna!!
You may even get laid or fulfil your fantasies!!
I love how nobody responded to my post but kept on about fair pricing!?
SX charge the same for a single guy as they do a couple for most parties. Ladies and trans are same price too.
It is true that without the ladies you have no parties (unless it's a gay male party) so you entice ladies in, but SX charge less as opposed to free.
Most are more than happy to pay to come into a clean establishment who allow the right ratio of people through the door and where they feel safe and looked after "
That sounds like a great place, definitely one to visit. |
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OK, ok, OK.... I've been angered onto a reply.
1- men pay more to get in to clubs. Tough titty! They are business and can get away with it. With the male to female ratio wanting to attend clubs, they need it to be more appealing for the galls than the guys.
2- it's a swinger club. Swinging has a very big social side to it. You have to be social and appeal to someone for them to take you off into a play room. You need to be looking directly at yourself if you find you don't get a chance to play. If all you do is follow people into play rooms with your dick in your hand, trying to jump in on people, you will be ignored. Not by all but I would think about 95% of the time.
If you have found people standoffish in clubs before, I will guarantee its because of the 'entitled' assholes thinking their entrance fee includes being flirted with and swooned over by all of the girls then eventually taken to a play room to fulfil all of his fantasys. Men like this can just fuck off!
3-if you send a girl a message and you are not her type? - message deleted. Sending a message to someone doesn't guarantee you a response. If you see your message has been deleted, move on, she/he/they don't want to meet you.
My profile actually clearly says this and apologises in advance. And that's the extent of politeness. Sorry!
4-if there is any talk of money in any messages from anyone, and this includes getting others to pay for things on the promise of a meet, then fuck off! You are not welcome on fab and I can say that for every swinger on here!
Being on fab or going to a club does not guarantee you anything. Not a damn thing. Just because the people you message/see are highly sexed and love being around like minded people, doesn't mean we have any less standards or respect ourselves any less.
I have very fucking high standards in my day to day life and in my swinging life. Just because you message me doesn't mean I have to reply. Just because you have paid your entrance fee to a club doesn't mean I have to approach you. Just because you have said hello to me in a club doesn't mean I have to talk to you.
All this applies to any gender!
Happy swinging peeps!
Xxx |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"I’ve been to 2 sex clubs in my life....
One in Paris and the other in Amsterdam.....
Both times I went as a couple.....
I have to be honest the people in these sex clubs were no different than a vanilla club... except the fact you had people in their 60’s-70’s mingling with people in there 20’s...
I don’t remember the amenities offered per say... but both of these clubs were very nice and clean.....
Now I must say as a single male.... I would go to a sex/swinging club to have sex first and foremost... any connections I made would be a bonus....
I’m very surprised reading that some men on here feel like going to a sexy club to socialize and no sex is a great night...
I personally would not be excited to spend my Friday/Saturday night going to a sex club alone to chat to people all night...
This has nothing to due with the cost of the clubs.. it’s down to the fact of swingers are no different than regular people in a pub... all my conversations with people that swing is always about everyday life and past swinging experiences...
I can go to my local pub/club and talk to people about taxes , Donald trump , Teresa May , high taxes , and Bretix without paying a membership and entrance fee....
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This pub analogy is absurd. They just say it because they think it's what people want to hear.
I don't expect sex but believe me I will be trying. It's like a gamble going to a club. I've left without playing when I could of i just wasn't attracted to the options available. |
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"I also don't buy in to this "just go and socialise" mantra that is always raised on these threads. Now I have had some great nights at clubs not playing with others but I really think this whole "no expectations and any thing that happens is a bonus" is people saying the epected. If we pay to go to swinging or fet event then swinging or fet is our primary reason for being there and there is an expectation offr what thelse nights will involve. Yes it's not the end of the world if the night doesn't pan out as hoped but I think most people if they are honest go with certain hopes and expectations.
Maybe. I think it depends. Some guys go, expect to flash their cock at a woman or grunt at her partner, and be knee deep in clunge. I think it's that kind of thing the comment is aimed at. We're people, treat us like people, don't expect to bypass social niceties and don't act entitled to sex, it's off putting at best. I suppose that's the why for the advice.
Yes definitely. But the issue here is a complete lack of social skills and an inability to know how to interact with the opposite sex. I suspect the men who act in that way also have very little success in the vanilla world and on here. There is littke more cringeworthy than men who ask which is the best club for single men when they obviously mean where am I most likely to get laid. The expectation isn't wrong but the perceived lack of effort on their part is why you now the don't stand a chance. It's not about treating the night as a social it's about treating women with respect "
I disagree (respectfully). Treating women with respect is not talking to them with the sole intention of trying to have sex with them. That is pure disrespect, maybe some ladies can't see this. Maybe the guys who don't talk are the ones you ladies should speak to first. Try a shy guy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been to 2 sex clubs in my life....
One in Paris and the other in Amsterdam.....
Both times I went as a couple.....
I have to be honest the people in these sex clubs were no different than a vanilla club... except the fact you had people in their 60’s-70’s mingling with people in there 20’s...
I don’t remember the amenities offered per say... but both of these clubs were very nice and clean.....
Now I must say as a single male.... I would go to a sex/swinging club to have sex first and foremost... any connections I made would be a bonus....
I’m very surprised reading that some men on here feel like going to a sexy club to socialize and no sex is a great night...
I personally would not be excited to spend my Friday/Saturday night going to a sex club alone to chat to people all night...
This has nothing to due with the cost of the clubs.. it’s down to the fact of swingers are no different than regular people in a pub... all my conversations with people that swing is always about everyday life and past swinging experiences...
I can go to my local pub/club and talk to people about taxes , Donald trump , Teresa May , high taxes , and Bretix without paying a membership and entrance fee....
This pub analogy is absurd. They just say it because they think it's what people want to hear.
I don't expect sex but believe me I will be trying. It's like a gamble going to a club. I've left without playing when I could of i just wasn't attracted to the options available. "
Ok thank you..... I was reading some comments on here and shaking my head....
I would feel like crap if I spent my night sitting in a swingers club chatting all night....
It would definitely dent my ego..... |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"I’ve been to 2 sex clubs in my life....
One in Paris and the other in Amsterdam.....
Both times I went as a couple.....
I have to be honest the people in these sex clubs were no different than a vanilla club... except the fact you had people in their 60’s-70’s mingling with people in there 20’s...
I don’t remember the amenities offered per say... but both of these clubs were very nice and clean.....
Now I must say as a single male.... I would go to a sex/swinging club to have sex first and foremost... any connections I made would be a bonus....
I’m very surprised reading that some men on here feel like going to a sexy club to socialize and no sex is a great night...
I personally would not be excited to spend my Friday/Saturday night going to a sex club alone to chat to people all night...
This has nothing to due with the cost of the clubs.. it’s down to the fact of swingers are no different than regular people in a pub... all my conversations with people that swing is always about everyday life and past swinging experiences...
I can go to my local pub/club and talk to people about taxes , Donald trump , Teresa May , high taxes , and Bretix without paying a membership and entrance fee....
This pub analogy is absurd. They just say it because they think it's what people want to hear.
I don't expect sex but believe me I will be trying. It's like a gamble going to a club. I've left without playing when I could of i just wasn't attracted to the options available.
Ok thank you..... I was reading some comments on here and shaking my head....
I would feel like crap if I spent my night sitting in a swingers club chatting all night....
It would definitely dent my ego....."
If I wanted to chat I'd go out with my friends and not talk to strangers. No chance homie, you would be beating them away with a bdsm tool. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve been to 2 sex clubs in my life....
One in Paris and the other in Amsterdam.....
Both times I went as a couple.....
I have to be honest the people in these sex clubs were no different than a vanilla club... except the fact you had people in their 60’s-70’s mingling with people in there 20’s...
I don’t remember the amenities offered per say... but both of these clubs were very nice and clean.....
Now I must say as a single male.... I would go to a sex/swinging club to have sex first and foremost... any connections I made would be a bonus....
I’m very surprised reading that some men on here feel like going to a sexy club to socialize and no sex is a great night...
I personally would not be excited to spend my Friday/Saturday night going to a sex club alone to chat to people all night...
This has nothing to due with the cost of the clubs.. it’s down to the fact of swingers are no different than regular people in a pub... all my conversations with people that swing is always about everyday life and past swinging experiences...
I can go to my local pub/club and talk to people about taxes , Donald trump , Teresa May , high taxes , and Bretix without paying a membership and entrance fee....
This pub analogy is absurd. They just say it because they think it's what people want to hear.
I don't expect sex but believe me I will be trying. It's like a gamble going to a club. I've left without playing when I could of i just wasn't attracted to the options available.
Ok thank you..... I was reading some comments on here and shaking my head....
I would feel like crap if I spent my night sitting in a swingers club chatting all night....
It would definitely dent my ego..... If I wanted to chat I'd go out with my friends and not talk to strangers. No chance homie, you would be beating them away with a bdsm tool. "
After 10 years of swinging I have seen the light...
Swingers are no different than vanilla people....
I like to meet swingers in a non swinging environment.... |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"I’ve been to 2 sex clubs in my life....
One in Paris and the other in Amsterdam.....
Both times I went as a couple.....
I have to be honest the people in these sex clubs were no different than a vanilla club... except the fact you had people in their 60’s-70’s mingling with people in there 20’s...
I don’t remember the amenities offered per say... but both of these clubs were very nice and clean.....
Now I must say as a single male.... I would go to a sex/swinging club to have sex first and foremost... any connections I made would be a bonus....
I’m very surprised reading that some men on here feel like going to a sexy club to socialize and no sex is a great night...
I personally would not be excited to spend my Friday/Saturday night going to a sex club alone to chat to people all night...
This has nothing to due with the cost of the clubs.. it’s down to the fact of swingers are no different than regular people in a pub... all my conversations with people that swing is always about everyday life and past swinging experiences...
I can go to my local pub/club and talk to people about taxes , Donald trump , Teresa May , high taxes , and Bretix without paying a membership and entrance fee....
This pub analogy is absurd. They just say it because they think it's what people want to hear.
I don't expect sex but believe me I will be trying. It's like a gamble going to a club. I've left without playing when I could of i just wasn't attracted to the options available.
Ok thank you..... I was reading some comments on here and shaking my head....
I would feel like crap if I spent my night sitting in a swingers club chatting all night....
It would definitely dent my ego..... If I wanted to chat I'd go out with my friends and not talk to strangers. No chance homie, you would be beating them away with a bdsm tool.
After 10 years of swinging I have seen the light...
Swingers are no different than vanilla people....
I like to meet swingers in a non swinging environment...."
Praise Jesus you have seen the light
These swingers are all at these crazy pubs where there are mass orgies and scantily clad women walking about apparently. |
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"If I was a man I wouldn't pay a ridiculous amount of money to be ignored all night!"
I was invited to join a couple who wanted to go as mmf and it added a touch of confidence especially for the f, I contacted the club to ask for iether a discount or to have a think on a price ..
No discount offered and prices had to be met!!!!
I had to cancel on the couple as I had to pay a fortune and just couldn’t afford and now the guy who backed out on the day !!!! |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"I’ve been to 2 sex clubs in my life....
One in Paris and the other in Amsterdam.....
Both times I went as a couple.....
I have to be honest the people in these sex clubs were no different than a vanilla club... except the fact you had people in their 60’s-70’s mingling with people in there 20’s...
I don’t remember the amenities offered per say... but both of these clubs were very nice and clean.....
Now I must say as a single male.... I would go to a sex/swinging club to have sex first and foremost... any connections I made would be a bonus....
I’m very surprised reading that some men on here feel like going to a sexy club to socialize and no sex is a great night...
I personally would not be excited to spend my Friday/Saturday night going to a sex club alone to chat to people all night...
This has nothing to due with the cost of the clubs.. it’s down to the fact of swingers are no different than regular people in a pub... all my conversations with people that swing is always about everyday life and past swinging experiences...
I can go to my local pub/club and talk to people about taxes , Donald trump , Teresa May , high taxes , and Bretix without paying a membership and entrance fee....
This pub analogy is absurd. They just say it because they think it's what people want to hear.
I don't expect sex but believe me I will be trying. It's like a gamble going to a club. I've left without playing when I could of i just wasn't attracted to the options available.
Ok thank you..... I was reading some comments on here and shaking my head....
I would feel like crap if I spent my night sitting in a swingers club chatting all night....
It would definitely dent my ego....."
OK so you don't want to chat but you do want sex. How will that happen then?? Surely the more people you chat to the more likely you are to find the people you click with. Don't need to spend the whole night speaking to one or two people you obviously not going to click with. Chat for 10 mins and if you think there's no connection go chat with others. It's the same for us as a couple some folk we will click with some we won't and sometimes we don't click with anyone. Yes everyone are in a club for the same reason but it is the way people approach people that will get a better reaction from strangers. We also always use the pub analogy. Arrive as strangers and hopefully always leave with new friends. We always talk to strangers in a pub if we are out with friends as we would in a swingers club. |
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I've don3 the clubs and get ignored by some fo4 whatever reason in thrir heads. Zome are just up their own arses, arrogant or in a clque.. Cobblers to em, some are fine and het on with them after a few visits they get to see what your like and how you interact. I mainly go for the jacuzzi and sauna |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"I've don3 the clubs and get ignored by some fo4 whatever reason in thrir heads. Zome are just up their own arses, arrogant or in a clque.. Cobblers to em, some are fine and het on with them after a few visits they get to see what your like and how you interact. I mainly go for the jacuzzi and sauna"
Some clubs are very cliquey, we stay away from clubs like that, will try and not go back if so. We like to mingle |
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We like the laugh and crack, as much as the play every now and then you get a couple of nobs in, just like a pub but in general some interesting folks going through them. We might play together or watch others or play with a couple. You can write a book on some of the antics and read it back when you’re to old to twist lol |
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