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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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As others have said if people have a preference not to engage with you OP that's their prerogative - often when guys find they're not finding the site meets their expectations it's down to one, some or all of the following:
Expectations set too high
Approach - if sending blind messages isn't working, try a different approach, like clubs, socials, or getting involved in the forums
Attitude - if you expect responses to every message and meets to come easily It's the wrong attitude
Profile isn't appealing
Pics aren't appealing
All of these are within your control, so maybe take a look at them and see what you can change - it won't of course guarantee anything but may improve your chances |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im fairly laid back upfront and honest"
Thats where youre going wrong!
Being honest usually results in more knock backs than if you just bullshit like the majority  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sadly OP, its pretty parr for the course on adult sex dating site, after al us men are in the significant majority, so there is lots to chose from and unless you "click" or really stand out, you will just have to grit your teeth and carry on
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Profile doesn't exactly sell . .been on a year .one PIC ,no verified meets . many will be oh so wary on that score . maybe some fine tweaking here and there . M matter how good or nice you might think you are .people make their own minds up .perhaps you attend a social or club first .get yourself seen ( the real you tends this work best ...it does for me anyway ) good luck |
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Don't sound desperate to meet .learn to accept rejection as well it happens . everyone on here is their own person and everyone has their own preferences .but never say never .there just might be someone out there for you |
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over a year ago
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I would say, i wouldnt engage with someone who's status mentioned they were looking for their first meet. I'd see it as them just looking to get verified and anyone would do....or maybe I'm becoming jaded |
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Let’s try and compare it to buses , many come along that you don’t want, the ones you do will either be full or pass you by with out noticing you standing there holding your hand out then eventually you will find one that is available and willing to take in more customers. Like all things in life it’s a patient waiting game. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive been messaging a fair few women and couples but seem to be told im not their preference. Could I be doing something wrong ??"
yep you aren't what their after op try reading all the profile to see if your in with a shout next time
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of people dont specify on there profiles"
that's why you message hi I read your profile I'm interested in knowing more about what your looking for and if I might be someone who you would be interested in chatting to and see where it goes,it's simple but straight to the point,and it shows your polite and willing to find out about them
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just plug away that is all you can do ,sign up for the next local social get your face out there get meet verified by the social organiser ,go on cam in chat and talk to people not just sit there with your cock in your hand and again get cam verified as genuine ,go to a club and socialise or a party it's all about socialising letting people see your a ice guy that's polite and non pushy,also tweeking the profile now and then and put up upto date statuses to help grab attention |
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"Ive been messaging a fair few women and couples but seem to be told im not their preference. Could I be doing something wrong ??"
Well yes of course its you, who else could it be?
You are messaging people that don't want to meet with you. Maybe target your messages better, but also just because you find somebody attractive doesn't mean they find you in any way what they want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yh but seems to be way too often but yh that makes sense"
It doesn't really.
Thibk of it like this, there are probably 10 or more active males for every active female, probably a lot more.
Then if you've ever had a serious relationship where you share stuff properly with your partner how many women do you see that you would like to have sex with compared to how many she would.
Excluding actors and celebs that's probably 50+ women you look at weekly compared to 1 or 2 people for her. So your odds are low! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Yh odds are stacked against the men  "
The odds are only stacked against you if you choose to see it that way - negative outlook breeds negative responses - like I said further upthread you have everything within your control to give a positive outlook and enhance your chances of meeting people (albeit without guarantees) it's up to you to find what you need to change to achieve that.
P.S. If you use the reply and quote button, people will know who you are replying to  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yh odds are stacked against the men
The odds are only stacked against you if you choose to see it that way - negative outlook breeds negative responses - like I said further upthread you have everything within your control to give a positive outlook and enhance your chances of meeting people (albeit without guarantees) it's up to you to find what you need to change to achieve that.
P.S. If you use the reply and quote button, people will know who you are replying to "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hmmm I suppose just a matter of coming across the right person or people
Now you’re getting the hang of it.
Does he clean after wards "
Must be good at it ?? |
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