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I think all guys on this site can't READ.

By *istressdandsubt OP Couple over a year ago

caterham

Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys

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By *aturedisgracefully!!Couple over a year ago

Leicester

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys "

Agree totally.

Why on earth they don't read profiles first is way beyond us.

They then get offended by a refusal!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you don’t ask you don’t get

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is annoying when people don’t read your profile mine is quite succinct . It’s not just couples that have this issue couples message me all the time asking for threesomes when it’s pretty clear from my profile I don’t do them. The only thing that stops me blocking them is that there are couples that genuinely play separately.

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By *aturedisgracefully!!Couple over a year ago

Leicester

"If you don’t ask you don’t get "

Everyone has their own opinion, however we think it is rather rude to ignore other people's clear profile choices.

We are after all supposed to be adults on here.

Well we thought so!!

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By *isa2018Couple over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

We find this a lot too. Admittedly our profile is a good read, but it's intended to be honest about how to approach us and what we are after. It's not just limited to single guys either tbh, but that's who we hmget most messages from. Some couples do the same, just 'How are you two or similar.

Single guys are easier to find when wife looks the way she does, its just shes a fussy one which is a good thing. Looking for straight couples and single ladies is a bit harder.

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By *ade and VanessaCouple over a year ago

Central Scotland

I'd say 90% don't. As long as they're polite when it's a no then it's not the worst thing in my day. We had messages from single men blocked for a while when we first joined and we got loads. Now it's not so many so manageable.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys "

Dont we know it!!

..xxx

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I blame it on the Education system

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve always read a profile and tryed to be as genuine as possible in my messages I can’t say is really made a difference I ended up starting to copy an paste messages which went really bad lol... so now I don’t really bother messaging anyone at all... my point is I think single men are just not usefull on this site or maybe it’s just where I am

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By *udewhennudeMan over a year ago

newport

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys "
I didn’t realise it was that time already, you do realise that its not only some single men that don’t read profiles, but some single women and couples to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So how do you expect us to spend time reading the thread?

*seriously, not read it only the title.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

About a quarter to five.

That was what this thread was about wasn't it?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

It's a sweeping generalisation. But yes, there are many PEOPLE on here who don't read profiles before sending some drivel they class as a message.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"It is annoying when people don’t read your profile mine is quite succinct . It’s not just couples that have this issue couples message me all the time asking for threesomes when it’s pretty clear from my profile I don’t do them. The only thing that stops me blocking them is that there are couples that genuinely play separately. "

I have the same, but then my profile also state I won't meet them if playing solo either. That still gets ignored.

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By *razywelshboyMan over a year ago

Rhyl

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys "

Really How hard is it to read a profile . I always do if you are not what they are looking for it is usually a waste of time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"About a quarter to five.

That was what this thread was about wasn't it? "

What was?

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

All guys?

You really believe that?

Of course there are some that don't bother reading profiles or who'll take a punt even if they're not suitable.

Same as some women and couples do. But there are more men so it will always seem like a majority are the issue.

Easiest way to avoid this? Adopt the route single men have to take - be proactive, seek out your own potential meets and rely less on your inbox.

That way you can minimise the negative and focus on the positive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date, truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advice chaps, pics get you interested, but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you an invite.

Do other couples suffer like us, much to the point we take filters on and block single guys "

correct grammar and spelling is a massive turn on for me!

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

correct grammar and spelling is a massive turn on for me!"

Do you find your self spending an unhealthy amount of time on Grammarly then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree if there are fifteen spelling mistakes in their profile or message it doesn’t bode well !

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

How do you know most of the guys on here can't read? Maybe you don't get 100s messages more because guys can read so chose not to?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

"I agree if there are fifteen spelling mistakes in their profile or message it doesn’t bode well !"

I'd be buggered then if everyone judged me by my numerous spelling and grammar faux pas. I am a complete mong in that respect. Bit it's totally not representative of my character or intelligence.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How do you know most of the guys on here can't read? Maybe you don't get 100s messages more because guys can read so chose not to?"

They said 90% of the messages they get.

I read their initial post...

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By *otlovefun42Couple over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"If you don’t ask you don’t get "

You can ask as much as you like, but if you haven't read the profile then the only thing you will get from here is BLOCKED!

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By *aturedisgracefully!!Couple over a year ago

Leicester

"If you don’t ask you don’t get

You can ask as much as you like, but if you haven't read the profile then the only thing you will get from here is BLOCKED!"

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How do you know most of the guys on here can't read? Maybe you don't get 100s messages more because guys can read so chose not to?"

This is very true

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys "

I find that most of the guys that message us are referring to posts I've made on the forums and seem to me at least to be alright to talk with Haven't had too many that don't read.

I do find funnily enough couples message us for private meets despite us making it as clear as possible that we only meet in clubs.

Eski

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By *otlovefun42Couple over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"How do you know most of the guys on here can't read? Maybe you don't get 100s messages more because guys can read so chose not to?"

We think that most (probably all) of the guys on here can read.

But they are just too lazy to do so.

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By *ain n MableWoman over a year ago

Milton Keynes

We suffer this problem, but unfortunately it's created by other couple's who's profile insists "NO SINGLE GUYS" then 16 of their 17 verifications are from single guys.

God loves a trier

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By *otlovefun42Couple over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys

I find that most of the guys that message us are referring to posts I've made on the forums and seem to me at least to be alright to talk with Haven't had too many that don't read.

I do find funnily enough couples message us for private meets despite us making it as clear as possible that we only meet in clubs.

Eski

Ditto.

We only meet in clubs and are not even in the UK (clearly stated on profile BTW)

But we still get countless messages asking for private meets in London, Birmingham, Manchester, shitloads from Blackpool, and even a few from Aberdeen FFS.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Obviously true for both sexes,,,, more mail of guys then any one else mostly about my pics and offers to suck me off, which wouldn't even be a issue if it was a MF couple like it states in my profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What makes you think they'll read any of this if they don't read profiles?

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By *otlovefun42Couple over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

Oh! just to add.

The "who's near" on here is a pain in the arse.

Lots of guys see that who's near has put us 5 miles away from them, so that in itself is enough to message us for a meet.

The reality is that we are more likely to be five hundred miles away and wouldn't do a private meet even if they we next door.

But if they had read the profile they would know that.

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By *otlovefun42Couple over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"What makes you think they'll read any of this if they don't read profiles? "

Good point.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

Sometimes I just wonder, it seems some couples just enjoy bashing single guys , I don't know if it makes them feel important but the truth is a lot of couples don't get meets too except it is in a swingers club setting because it takes a lot of confidence to meet someone off the websites ,which a lot of couples don't have.

Yeah couples get a lot messages but what percentage of those messages result in actual meets?, I believe we would all enjoy the site better if we were all nicer in our approach

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would have to agree that it is both single males AND couples who sometimes seem to think it is a gross imposition on their time to actually read a profile! Some couples are so up their own arses they are practically circular. And some guys think this is 'bag a shag' rather than an adult lifestyle choice. It's all easily dealt with though. Ignore the message - which shows you're not interested. If they don't like it, and kick off delete and block. Then they can happily go create a thread about how hard done by they are, how we females are all frigid or losers who can't get a man and/or how they are about to do a mega flounce. All good fun!

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By *ain n MableWoman over a year ago

Milton Keynes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not just men.

I've lost count of how many messages I've had from women or couples who clearly haven't read mine

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By *istressdandsubt OP Couple over a year ago

caterham

As a couple who do meet guys , if the percentage that messaged us had read the profile, then the percentage of meets would be higher.

Also don't forget if a couple meets both have to find something they like about the other person or persons .

Not just meet just because you have had a message

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By *aturedisgracefully!!Couple over a year ago

Leicester

"Sometimes I just wonder, it seems some couples just enjoy bashing single guys , I don't know if it makes them feel important but the truth is a lot of couples don't get meets too except it is in a swingers club setting because it takes a lot of confidence to meet someone off the websites ,which a lot of couples don't have.

Yeah couples get a lot messages but what percentage of those messages result in actual meets?, I believe we would all enjoy the site better if we were all nicer in our approach

We agree, being nicer in our approach and all respecting profiles.

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By *otlovefun42Couple over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

Yeah couples get a lot messages but what percentage of those messages result in actual meets?, I believe we would all enjoy the site better if we were all nicer in our approach

Single guys that are in our area and are happy to meet us in a club (or at Cap d'Agde) do get meets with us. The reason?

Because they have read our profile and know where we are and where we meet.

Our percentage of messages to meets is very low. The reason?

Because around 75% are from guys who haven't read the profile.

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By *otlovefun42Couple over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"As a couple who do meet guys , if the percentage that messaged us had read the profile, then the percentage of meets would be higher.

Also don't forget if a couple meets both have to find something they like about the other person or persons .

Not just meet just because you have had a message "

Well said.

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By *lyreelMan over a year ago

King's lynn

PLEASE ALL COUPLES.....TAKE NOTE.....

When you get a mail from some Neanderthal saying , fk me now, I am going to smash your arse, blow me now, round in 5 minutes etc etc etc with no decent grammar or spelling or being rude and arrogant is NOT a reflection or a decent representation of the single males on here.

Perhaps you have to be accepting of the fact that you will get mail from tossers, the ones who are not going to read your profile, are rude etc and then be more kind to the ones who do send a polite message.

So much arrogance from couples as well on here, rudeness from them too and ridiculous expectations.... ie I want gym fit tattooed , non bald soldiers with a 13 inch cock and can breathe through there nose when the couple is grossly overweight , sitting having a fag with cum running out there ears!!

Let’s all be a little bit more accepting and tolerant and just block the tosser a who spoil it for everyone!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yea we got so many messages from guys who didn’t meet our preferences that we had to use the filter.

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By *rkeb3Man over a year ago

east Lancashire road

"PLEASE ALL COUPLES.....TAKE NOTE.....

Let’s all be a little bit more accepting and tolerant and just block the tosser a who spoil it for everyone!!

"
well said

The thing all single guys are desperate

Well said

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

Yeah couples get a lot messages but what percentage of those messages result in actual meets?, I believe we would all enjoy the site better if we were all nicer in our approach

Single guys that are in our area and are happy to meet us in a club (or at Cap d'Agde) do get meets with us. The reason?

Because they have read our profile and know where we are and where we meet.

Our percentage of messages to meets is very low. The reason?

Because around 75% are from guys who haven't read the profile."

Yeah I can accept that but I have noticed that there is a lot of misconceptions about the single guy swinging category.

While I accept that there are some guys who are unable to find ladies and are in the single guy category as a result, these are the kind of guys who would jump onto a couples profile once they find a lady they can swing with, you also have guys who have a lot of ladies and do not enjoy swinging as a couple, infact these guys might even attend a party with 2 or more ladies but once the are in the field you see them playing with other ladies in the party.

So I don't agree with bashing single guys thinking they are guys who can't find a lady, quite the opposite, some of us just want as many ladies as possible, this is why we swing and what we enjoy from the whole process.

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By *otlovefun42Couple over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

Yeah couples get a lot messages but what percentage of those messages result in actual meets?, I believe we would all enjoy the site better if we were all nicer in our approach

Single guys that are in our area and are happy to meet us in a club (or at Cap d'Agde) do get meets with us. The reason?

Because they have read our profile and know where we are and where we meet.

Our percentage of messages to meets is very low. The reason?

Because around 75% are from guys who haven't read the profile.

Yeah I can accept that but I have noticed that there is a lot of misconceptions about the single guy swinging category.

We are not bashing single guys, we are actually looking for them.

Of course we have preferences but accept that they will not all (if any) be Clooney lookalikes. She'd probably shit herself if she got one LOL.

However the reading profile thing is a big bone of contention for us.

Because of our location guys really do have to read it, and the majority don't.

So if they cannot be arsed to read it, then why the hell should we be bothered to reply or be nice?

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By *revaunanceCouple over a year ago

Exeter

It is immediately appaent whether someone has read our profile or not. And if they haven't then we won't meet with them.

As far as we are concerned if they really are interested in meeting then they will happily spend a few moments reading at least the first few lines. And if not, then it is not our fault, it's theirs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys "
but it's not annoying when you don't read are messages o wait sorry miss I'm a single guy I'll get back in line till I'm asked

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ie I want gym fit tattooed , non bald soldiers with a 13 inch cock and can breathe through there nose...."

Sorry, but this really made me laugh.

I think you meant to say 'breathe through their ears'.

The majority of us already breathe through our noses.

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

OP, there are thousands of men NOT messaging you every day. It may be the majority of your messages, but it's still a tiny minority of all the men.

But if you're not looking for single men, set the filter. How many hilarious forum-based PMs will you be missing out on?

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By *otlovefun42Couple over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys but it's not annoying when you don't read are messages o wait sorry miss I'm a single guy I'll get back in line till I'm asked

But that is half (or more) of the problem on here.

It's a VERY long line.

Couples and women on here are choosy for one simple reason. Because they can be.

Even at our advanced age she gets more than enough decent looking and quite often much younger guys. So why the hell should she go for someone who she doesn't fancy at all (that is being polite BTW) just because he has messaged us?

You can call this site whatever you want, but for us it certainly isn't "Sympathyshag dot com"

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

All of my recent messages have been from men that have blatantly ignored my profile words and just looked at the pictures.

My profile couldn't be clearer that I don't do total NSA and certainly do not meet anyone travelling to my area for business, guess what? Yeap all wanting hotel fun tonight, as they really liked my pictures

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys "

i should let you see some of the mail i get from couples.....

that high horse pedestal would be a lot... lot lower.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

when you join this site you get a help section about message filters.

everyone, couples or single ladies can block single men from messaging them.

this prevents an overload of mail and also lets you the couple select the correct male or female for you.

but if you dont use the message filters and then come on here moaning like fuck you only have yourself to blame.

the site has a setup to help you but you never want to use it because you love the attention you get from single guys it boosts your over inflated egos.

so sort your shit out! put message filters in place or suffer the fools.

your choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All of my recent messages have been from men that have blatantly ignored my profile words and just looked at the pictures.

It’s not just the guys... I spent a while writing my blurb. But I get messages from couples and women who clearly haven’t bothered to look at what i’m after either. Sometimes I get the odd message that’s actually thought about it though. I’m not saying people just look at pics but I do think it happens both ways more than you think (no pun intended)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All of my recent messages have been from men that have blatantly ignored my profile words and just looked at the pictures.

They tell me they like my pictures too

I always ask which ones are their favourites

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"All of my recent messages have been from men that have blatantly ignored my profile words and just looked at the pictures.

I get this more from male halves of couples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

But that is half (or more) of the problem on here.

It's a VERY long line.

Couples and women on here are choosy for one simple reason. Because they can be.

You can call this site whatever you want, but for us it certainly isn't "Sympathyshag dot com""
I totally agree she should not get messages from people she doesn't want to use the filters my argument is the way she put it across like 90%when in reality it will be less than 1% I see The messages my FB gets and she wants to meet single guys biggest probably is not enough tick boxes to narrow it down I'm completely straight yet cannot filter bi or guy out but can choose them as a option

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All of my recent messages have been from men that have blatantly ignored my profile words and just looked at the pictures.

They tell me they like my pictures too

I always ask which ones are their favourites

"
your profile pic and the pic in your gallery. That's two innit?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

But that is half (or more) of the problem on here.

It's a VERY long line.

Couples and women on here are choosy for one simple reason. Because they can be.

You can call this site whatever you want, but for us it certainly isn't "Sympathyshag dot com"I totally agree she should not get messages from people she doesn't want to use the filters my argument is the way she put it across like 90%when in reality it will be less than 1% I see The messages my FB gets and she wants to meet single guys biggest probably is not enough tick boxes to narrow it down I'm completely straight yet cannot filter bi or guy out but can choose them as a option"
o and contray to believe us singles are choosey as well

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By *aturedisgracefully!!Couple over a year ago

Leicester

"when you join this site you get a help section about message filters.

everyone, couples or single ladies can block single men from messaging them.

this prevents an overload of mail and also lets you the couple select the correct male or female for you.

but if you dont use the message filters and then come on here moaning like fuck you only have yourself to blame.

the site has a setup to help you but you never want to use it because you love the attention you get from single guys it boosts your over inflated egos.

so sort your shit out! put message filters in place or suffer the fools.

your choice."

Why not just read profiles and respect the choices made?

Is that too much to ask in this mature, respectful, adult world?

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"when you join this site you get a help section about message filters.

everyone, couples or single ladies can block single men from messaging them.

this prevents an overload of mail and also lets you the couple select the correct male or female for you.

but if you dont use the message filters and then come on here moaning like fuck you only have yourself to blame.

the site has a setup to help you but you never want to use it because you love the attention you get from single guys it boosts your over inflated egos.

so sort your shit out! put message filters in place or suffer the fools.

your choice."

Yeah, wonderful! Always turn it around and blame the third party, how novel

If men just bloody read, it solves the problem in the first place and I wouldn't need to apply any filters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"when you join this site you get a help section about message filters.

everyone, couples or single ladies can block single men from messaging them.

this prevents an overload of mail and also lets you the couple select the correct male or female for you.

but if you dont use the message filters and then come on here moaning like fuck you only have yourself to blame.

the site has a setup to help you but you never want to use it because you love the attention you get from single guys it boosts your over inflated egos.

so sort your shit out! put message filters in place or suffer the fools.

your choice.

Why not just read profiles and respect the choices made?

Is that too much to ask in this mature, respectful, adult world?"
I completely agree with you I've never messaged anyone that does not fit or I fit there profile as you've just checked

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"when you join this site you get a help section about message filters.

everyone, couples or single ladies can block single men from messaging them.

this prevents an overload of mail and also lets you the couple select the correct male or female for you.

but if you dont use the message filters and then come on here moaning like fuck you only have yourself to blame.

the site has a setup to help you but you never want to use it because you love the attention you get from single guys it boosts your over inflated egos.

so sort your shit out! put message filters in place or suffer the fools.

your choice.

Why not just read profiles and respect the choices made?

Is that too much to ask in this mature, respectful, adult world?"
Because it requires effort and some people whether it’s single males, couples and single women etc are lazy motherfuckers x

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By *aturedisgracefully!!Couple over a year ago

Leicester

"when you join this site you get a help section about message filters.

everyone, couples or single ladies can block single men from messaging them.

this prevents an overload of mail and also lets you the couple select the correct male or female for you.

but if you dont use the message filters and then come on here moaning like fuck you only have yourself to blame.

the site has a setup to help you but you never want to use it because you love the attention you get from single guys it boosts your over inflated egos.

so sort your shit out! put message filters in place or suffer the fools.

your choice.

Why not just read profiles and respect the choices made?

Is that too much to ask in this mature, respectful, adult world?Because it requires effort and some people whether it’s single males, couples and single women etc are lazy motherfuckers x"

Very true.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes there are more men that don't read profiles because there are more men on the site! But I had exactly the same issue with couples trying their luck to the point I had to put the filter on.

People are lazy, not just men.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

I think the ladies enjoy the attention they get from the guys on this site, young and beautiful vanilla ladies unaware of this site cannot boast of the kind of attention ladies on this site receive , you will have to be a super star of a lady to receive this kind of attention in the vanilla world.

I believe the ladies should be thankful to the guys for bringing smiles back to their faces again both when the guys are toasting them and when they are in bed with the guys

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I think the ladies enjoy the attention they get from the guys on this site, young and beautiful vanilla ladies unaware of this site cannot boast of the kind of attention ladies on this site receive , you will have to be a super star of a lady to receive this kind of attention in the vanilla world.

I believe the ladies should be thankful to the guys for bringing smiles back to their faces again both when the guys are toasting them and when they are in bed with the guys"

Only on here, do you hear so much bullshit and tripe being spilled out by some know it all who actually knows shite

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeh all us women are Narcissistic cretins craving attention wtf ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This pains me...

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By *j48Man over a year ago

Wigan

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hey couples, when messaging first how about telling us which one is sending the message so we aren’t guessing and can address you accordingly.

Yours sincerely

Single blokes X

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By *j48Man over a year ago

Wigan

Not many people can grap grammar either

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By *j48Man over a year ago

Wigan

"Hey couples, when messaging first how about telling us which one is sending the message so we aren’t guessing and can address you accordingly.

Yours sincerely

Single blokes X"

Good shout! We have to be mind readers too lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I believe the ladies should be thankful to the guys for bringing smiles back to their faces again both when the guys are toasting them and when they are in bed with the guys"

Oh, I am thankful James.

At all times

I know my place

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By *bonynivoryCouple over a year ago

market harborough

Mrs

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

I believe the ladies should be thankful to the guys for bringing smiles back to their faces again both when the guys are toasting them and when they are in bed with the guys

Only on here, do you hear so much bullshit and tripe being spilled out by some know it all who actually knows shite

Hey , happy new year, how have you been keeping, wishing you all the best and all your heart desires this year

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By *bonynivoryCouple over a year ago

market harborough

"Hey couples, when messaging first how about telling us which one is sending the message so we aren’t guessing and can address you accordingly.

Yours sincerely

Single blokes X"

Don't worry, it won't be me. I'm a millennial. And pretty to boot. Too self absorbed and self important to be doing such mundane things as sending messages. I get hundreds of thousands of messages a day. I only have time to delete without reading or saying thank you for the message.

Mrs

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

I believe the ladies should be thankful to the guys for bringing smiles back to their faces again both when the guys are toasting them and when they are in bed with the guys

Oh, I am thankful James.

At all times

I know my place"

Hunny am very thankful myself to the ladies in the lifestyle , I have to be, I don't take for granted the smiles they bring to my face, imagine I walked into a club with three ladies and I am seeing all three ladies and they know and they were all smiles no issues , could I have done this with girls in vanilla, definitely not lol

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By *4tCouple over a year ago

warrington

we do not meet single blokes full stop, doesn't stop them messaging even though it is very clear on our profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yawn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All guys?

You really believe that?

Of course there are some that don't bother reading profiles or who'll take a punt even if they're not suitable.

Same as some women and couples do. But there are more men so it will always seem like a majority are the issue.

Easiest way to avoid this? Adopt the route single men have to take - be proactive, seek out your own potential meets and rely less on your inbox.

That way you can minimise the negative and focus on the positive.

It's always baffled me why so many couples and singles women just wait to be approached and aren't proactive. It seems the simple answer to the problem.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

"we do not meet single blokes full stop, doesn't stop them messaging even though it is very clear on our profile"

You could...block them then? Saves everyone's time and you don't have to complain.

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman over a year ago

Swansea

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys "

Give up long ago, I just delete now if they don't have pictures on display or put a message title.

And some do read but they chance it, cause I get a load of "I know you said but.." or the ones who message constantly when you've said no. It makes me so uncomfortable.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"All guys?

You really believe that?

Of course there are some that don't bother reading profiles or who'll take a punt even if they're not suitable.

Same as some women and couples do. But there are more men so it will always seem like a majority are the issue.

Easiest way to avoid this? Adopt the route single men have to take - be proactive, seek out your own potential meets and rely less on your inbox.

That way you can minimise the negative and focus on the positive.

It's always baffled me why so many couples and singles women just wait to be approached and aren't proactive. It seems the simple answer to the problem. "

Because most single males profiles are complete and utter shit!

Maybe they try and surprise people with a unique message? We can all hope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find the worst offenders have always been couples. They clearly don’t read profiles.

I’ve deleted mine now seeing as no one read it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have looked at profiles and gone straight to the pictures and got so excited by what I've seen ,I've found myself messaging without reading a line . So now I read the profile before looking at the pictures. It helps me not wasting time writing a message to someone that's not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys "

The dreaded 'what are you looking for' message when its clearly stated on our profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How can you force someone to read your profile before messaging?

I’m lost....

I can’t think of any other option besides blocking the people you don’t want messages from....

Can someone give me a rational answer?

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"How can you force someone to read your profile before messaging?

I’m lost....

I can’t think of any other option besides blocking the people you don’t want messages from....

Can someone give me a rational answer?"
Put your glasses on Leon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How can you force someone to read your profile before messaging?

I’m lost....

I can’t think of any other option besides blocking the people you don’t want messages from....

Can someone give me a rational answer? Put your glasses on Leon.

Lol you got jokes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not just couples I don't think. I had a guy that messaged me 6 times over the period of 2 weeks. Asking if I want to meet right now. I ignored simply because I had too many messages but today I replied and made it clear if he read the profile he would realised I'm not looking for a shag on the spot.

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By *ornyAndy25Man over a year ago

Liverpool

What I don't get here is the moaning from so many people. Acting like someone not reading your profile is a war-crime.....get a life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not just you couple's.

The number of newbies who don't read anything.

So many dick avatars in my inbox. Profile says won't reply to them.

So many 'single' men cheating who waste my time and don't read my profile.

It takes the fun out of it all. I'm learning club meets are far easier. Less time consuming.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What I don't get here is the moaning from so many people. Acting like someone not reading your profile is a war-crime.....get a life"

It's the time wasting. If people actually want to meet there's effort required. This post is no different to the I can't get a meet forum.

There's a balance somewhere. Forums are for discussions. If you don't like them don't read them and to quote 'get a life'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What I don't get here is the moaning from so many people. Acting like someone not reading your profile is a war-crime.....get a life"

Not really war crime it just gets very annoying when you get loads of messages and most of them are just wasting time because they haven't read the profile. X

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By *ornyAndy25Man over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm allowed an opinion - it's hardly time consuming it takes like 4/5 seconds to delete it doesn't it....glad you pointed that out if you don't like and are soooo upset then leave the site

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By *ornyAndy25Man over a year ago

Liverpool

" Not really war crime it just gets very annoying when you get loads of messages and most of them are just wasting time because they haven't read the profile. X

Then leave the site? It won't change will it

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Since taking a more comedic approach to my profile it’s been increasingly apparent exactly how many guys do actually read profiles

When they are written in a way to keep them interested

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman over a year ago

Swansea

"What I don't get here is the moaning from so many people. Acting like someone not reading your profile is a war-crime.....get a life"

Can tell who's not a profile reader..

Because its irratating if you've got an inbox full, its time wasting (mainly for you when you're not what someone is looking for) and you get all frustrated because you havent got a reply. Then the majority proceed to post threats complaining about how couples/women are "not replying".

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By *ovegames42Man over a year ago

london

"PLEASE ALL COUPLES.....TAKE NOTE.....

Let’s all be a little bit more accepting and tolerant and just block the tosser a who spoil it for everyone!!

Well said, the site is inundated with single males, so you are always going to get Kevin and Perry type messages, why do some couples on here think they are so superior and have the right to post threads like this.

The single males who can read are probably not the slightest bit interested in your profiles with your demands for specific requirements so the ones who can read don’t bother responding to your profile, are we not all humans beings or are we animals to be laughed at and judged by you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Not really war crime it just gets very annoying when you get loads of messages and most of them are just wasting time because they haven't read the profile. X

Then leave the site? It won't change will it"

Did I say I want to leave the because of this? No. It's just simply a discussion.

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By *ornyAndy25Man over a year ago

Liverpool

"Since taking a more comedic approach to my profile it’s been increasingly apparent exactly how many guys do actually read profiles

When they are written in a way to keep them interested

This is sooooo true!

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By *ornyAndy25Man over a year ago

Liverpool

Did I say I want to leave the because of this? No. It's just simply a discussion. "

Fair enough! Just frustrated to call all men branded as then when I personally do take the time to read profiles and see if we are suitable and I will be personable in a message

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By *eneral HysteriaMan over a year ago

Newcastle

What if those who do read don't like what they see thereby leaving only the desperate to get in touch?

Just a thought.

You know where to find me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not all men are like this as others have stated. Even wen we do read and send a polite message us single guys just get a delete n block so might as well just fuck it and message as have nothing to loose

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys "
bloke the single guys it makes for a far more enjoyable time on fab ... I mean how many times in a day do you need to read.... can I fuck your misses while you watch!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have looked at profiles and gone straight to the pictures and got so excited by what I've seen ,I've found myself messaging without reading a line . So now I read the profile before looking at the pictures. It helps me not wasting time writing a message to someone that's not interested. "

This is funny biscuit guy

For fab research purposes only,

Could you please state exactly how excited you became when viewing the forementioned naughty lady pictures without reading that really really really important and informative profile

Please tick the appropriate box

Stirring in the loins ?

A moreish semi but not quite the req rigidity to knock one out ?

Not far off fully erect little biscuit guy ?

Full on,rush of blood to the phallus, raging erection and you couldn't contain yourself any longer and just had to masturbate furiously (even though you were 3rd in the queue at greggs the bakers) ?

* note to all cples and those fabtastic single lady's.

Us single guys are not looking to be a 3rd in your marriage you know and single ladys were not looking to marry you either(perhaps some might but I'm not one of them twice bitten shy x 3 this one)

So without sounding like a plonker(cue lots of Rodney jokes)

Simply just......................

lighten up it's a no strings attatched fornication site....... not bloody Mr and mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well said that man

* not to be taken too seriously

Mr digestive doesn't even eat at greggs the bakers

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Simply just......................

lighten up it's a no strings attatched fornication site....... not bloody Mr and mrs

What no one goes into a booth with head phones on? Well I am disappointed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simply just......................

lighten up it's a no strings attatched fornication site....... not bloody Mr and mrs

What no one goes into a booth with head phones on? Well I am disappointed

Sharp _harif

Liking it pal

Tell me I'm wrong on this

And I'll show you my arse

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Simply just......................

lighten up it's a no strings attatched fornication site....... not bloody Mr and mrs

What no one goes into a booth with head phones on? Well I am disappointed

Sharp _harif

Liking it pal

Tell me I'm wrong on this

And I'll show you my arse"

Now theres something no one needs to see

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

*Note to Mr jammy dogder

wink first

At least you'll know there up for a bit of extra sausage

*Note to you mf's and f's

Not to be taken seriously again

We love your well thought out and written really really long profiles

Honest xxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simply just......................

lighten up it's a no strings attatched fornication site....... not bloody Mr and mrs

What no one goes into a booth with head phones on? Well I am disappointed

Sharp _harif

Liking it pal

Tell me I'm wrong on this

And I'll show you my arse

Now theres something no one needs to see

Very much agreed my fellow fab fella

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you don’t ask you don’t get "

And people like you that cause the respectful non selfish men to get ocked

But carry on doing what you like and getting nowhere

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op forgive me but a very confused single guy here

(Doesn't take much,believe me pal)

You state only bi guys in your,again,well written and thoughtout very very long profile message

But your wife is pictured wearing panties saying,

And I quote

"Please remove as my husband doesn't like me coming home in wet panties "

Does that mean that if she meets me for some hot n horny fornication,without the presence of yourself,

I've got to be bi ?

Please enlighten me as she is very very hot and I'm very very interested in fornicating with her

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By *appy69coupleCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"*Note to Mr jammy dogder

wink first

At least you'll know there up for a bit of extra sausage

*Note to you mf's and f's

Not to be taken seriously again

We love your well thought out and written really really long profiles

Honest xxxxxxxx"

Jay my friend, it most unlike you, bit you're actually nearly right for a change

As a couple who meets single guys, we don't really have the option to block single guys now do we? As I also meet solo, I too have to make the singular guy approach and so I see it both ways.

Our profile is intended to be easy to read yet informative, and should be a side order to the main meal of pics.

I'm an old fashioned sort, and back in the days of free ads, all you had was the profile, and if it attracted you, then you responded. If you were lucky, you got to see pics before you met.

Maybe it's because of that, that I always read profiles, verifications, and any other clues as to what the people are actually like, before I send a message.

Our profile, like many others, asks for a special word to be included to show that people have read the profile itself.

This approach gives us the opportunity to screen messages quickly, and without resorting to the frankly clumsy "choices" that fab allows us.

As a final note, we do get some very polite and respectful messages, and some very misguided and rude ones too.

In our experience, these come from humans, and no particular sexuality.

Ignorance is a human trait, not limited to single guys.

Over egging statistics and percentages to suit ones own needs of creating a sensationalist message is also a very human, ignorant and frankly fucking stupid trait which says a lot more about the author than it does the victim reader.

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By *aron_TentakuruMan over a year ago

Exeter

"Single guys always moaning can't get a date ,truth is 90% of all our messages are from guys who don't read a profile just chance their arm.

A bit of advise chaps pics get you interested,but reading the profile, seeing if you are what a couple is looking for and messaging may get you and invite.

Do other couples suffer like us ,much to the point we take filters on and block single guys

I find that most of the guys that message us are referring to posts I've made on the forums and seem to me at least to be alright to talk with Haven't had too many that don't read.

I do find funnily enough couples message us for private meets despite us making it as clear as possible that we only meet in clubs.

Eski

Ditto.

We only meet in clubs and are not even in the UK (clearly stated on profile BTW)

But we still get countless messages asking for private meets in London, Birmingham, Manchester, shitloads from Blackpool, and even a few from Aberdeen FFS."

It says "Germany and Spain, not"... So if not Germany or Spain, then where? Lol