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over a year ago
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Most guys regard this as 'edging' and it is a skill that an unselfish guy will master for the pleasure of his partner.. You could say that it is 'mind over matter'. A guy with self control benefits all and does wonders for ones' state of mind.. |
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over a year ago
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"I make men wait to cum. It’s only fair. "
Of course. I would agree a woman needs to cum before I do.
Also have a huge fantasy about being edged myself. |
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
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"Most guys regard this as 'edging' and it is a skill that an unselfish guy will master for the pleasure of his partner.. You could say that it is 'mind over matter'. A guy with self control benefits all and does wonders for ones' state of mind.."
Edging is amazing - the longer you edge the more intense the orgasm |
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"I make men wait to cum. It’s only fair.
Of course. I would agree a woman needs to cum before I do.
Also have a huge fantasy about being edged myself. "
It’s not about edging or about you, it’s about you not cumming, you know, the same way that men MAKE a woman cum first. |
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"Most guys regard this as 'edging' and it is a skill that an unselfish guy will master for the pleasure of his partner.. You could say that it is 'mind over matter'. A guy with self control benefits all and does wonders for ones' state of mind.."
This thread is not about edging (both a male and female capability). |
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By *pandjMan
over a year ago
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Can hold myself back from coming which is a benefit if the lady is capable of multiple orgasms.
Back in my early 20s I could even have the orgasm feeling without the cum and crack on. When I did come it would be mind blowing. |
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I think this post is a counter to men saying they always make a woman cum first. Expectations from either sex for this to happen puts pressure on the other partner that can make the sex less enjoyable. I prefer to go with the flow so to speak  |
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"I think this post is a counter to men saying they always make a woman cum first. Expectations from either sex for this to happen puts pressure on the other partner that can make the sex less enjoyable. I prefer to go with the flow so to speak "
Ta! Are the comments an example of cognitive dissonance?
PEOPLE! Unless it’s been agreed, nobody ‘makes’ anyone cum first. |
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"Can hold myself back from coming which is a benefit if the lady is capable of multiple orgasms.
Back in my early 20s I could even have the orgasm feeling without the cum and crack on. When I did come it would be mind blowing."
This post is not about edging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think this post is a counter to men saying they always make a woman cum first. Expectations from either sex for this to happen puts pressure on the other partner that can make the sex less enjoyable. I prefer to go with the flow so to speak
Ta! Are the comments an example of cognitive dissonance?
PEOPLE! Unless it’s been agreed, nobody ‘makes’ anyone cum first."
 
I hate sex competitions. I don't compete. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think this post is a counter to men saying they always make a woman cum first. Expectations from either sex for this to happen puts pressure on the other partner that can make the sex less enjoyable. I prefer to go with the flow so to speak
Ta! Are the comments an example of cognitive dissonance?
PEOPLE! Unless it’s been agreed, nobody ‘makes’ anyone cum first."
Yep. I think too often we unconsciously impose our stuff on others, thinking it’s what’s best for them. Sex is a mutual act, not sure it needs to be as mechanical as agreeing everything up front. But communication and listening to each other’s wishes and bodies is key for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah you've got to mix it up and flip it round...ksb hates me holding back (but I always do) plus she loves it when I withhold making her cum (warning this can also result in a horngery lady) after she's had a few O's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ladys first ... 
What if he wants to cum first?
 you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them walk on it 
It’s a bit like the tit for tat oral thing, isn’t it."
I’ll show you mine if you show me yours first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My cocks like a volcano, once it’s ready to erupt then it will explode.
As long as both enjoyed the fuck then who cares who cum first.
Just shag and enjoy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I make men wait to cum. It’s only fair.
Of course. I would agree a woman needs to cum before I do.
Also have a huge fantasy about being edged myself.
It’s not about edging or about you, it’s about you not cumming, you know, the same way that men MAKE a woman cum first."
Yes. I'd always make sure you cum. Not bothered if I don't. All about pleasing you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I make men wait to cum. It’s only fair.
Of course. I would agree a woman needs to cum before I do.
Also have a huge fantasy about being edged myself.
It’s not about edging or about you, it’s about you not cumming, you know, the same way that men MAKE a woman cum first."
I thought you meant you are never ready on time when you are going out.. |
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"I make men wait to cum. It’s only fair.
Of course. I would agree a woman needs to cum before I do.
Also have a huge fantasy about being edged myself.
It’s not about edging or about you, it’s about you not cumming, you know, the same way that men MAKE a woman cum first.
Yes. I'd always make sure you cum. Not bothered if I don't. All about pleasing you x"
It all went over your head, didn’t it. |
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"I make men wait to cum. It’s only fair.
Of course. I would agree a woman needs to cum before I do.
Also have a huge fantasy about being edged myself.
It’s not about edging or about you, it’s about you not cumming, you know, the same way that men MAKE a woman cum first.
I thought you meant you are never ready on time when you are going out.."
If I’m going anywhere with a bloke, it’s always me waiting for him!
Takes me less than an hour from shower to lipstick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like the woman to tell me when I can cum.
Like “oh FFS, get on with it”"
No, more like Im trying my hardest not to cum but I’m not allowed to till she says ‘Ok, you can cum now!’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I make men wait to cum. It’s only fair.
Of course. I would agree a woman needs to cum before I do.
Also have a huge fantasy about being edged myself.
It’s not about edging or about you, it’s about you not cumming, you know, the same way that men MAKE a woman cum first.
Yes. I'd always make sure you cum. Not bothered if I don't. All about pleasing you x"
What if you can't? Do you just keep on and on and on...? What if that's not pleasing me? |
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"I make men wait to cum. It’s only fair.
Of course. I would agree a woman needs to cum before I do.
Also have a huge fantasy about being edged myself.
It’s not about edging or about you, it’s about you not cumming, you know, the same way that men MAKE a woman cum first.
Yes. I'd always make sure you cum. Not bothered if I don't. All about pleasing you x
What if you can't? Do you just keep on and on and on...? What if that's not pleasing me?"
Don’t be the voice of reason and common sense, it makes them go 
As I’ve just said in a PM, what if we can’t, don’t or won’t? What if after on orgasm we are done and want to sleep? What if we prefer to fuck and save our orgasm until later? So many variables but no, it’s always ‘ladies first’ with no thought as to the pressure that puts on us to cum and then it’s a frantic race to force an orgasm out of us so that they can then fuck with impunity.
No wonder women fake it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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On a serious note...
The whole porn fuelled "Insert part A into Orifice B, move to spurt over C" is so artificial it puts unrealistic expectations on both parties.
Then we get into the realms of "making her squirt" or "lasting for hours".
What is wrong with enjoying the moment? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a ladyfriend who is making me wait. She refuses to have sex
There are ways around that..."
I respect her choice not to sleep with me. Doesn't make her any less of a friend  |
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"On a serious note...
The whole porn fuelled "Insert part A into Orifice B, move to spurt over C" is so artificial it puts unrealistic expectations on both parties.
Then we get into the realms of "making her squirt" or "lasting for hours".
What is wrong with enjoying the moment? "
That requires thought and for me, connection.
Most casual encounters go like this; snogging, groping, oral, woman cums, man fucks and cums. Classic porn. |
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"I have a ladyfriend who is making me wait. She refuses to have sex
There are ways around that...
I respect her choice not to sleep with me. Doesn't make her any less of a friend "
I have two men friends like that, I’m very happy to have them in my life as they want to be friends because they like me, not how often I put out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP I get where you are coming from. It should not be a race for is it's about mutual pleasure and letting it flow naturally.
Who comes first does not matter as long as all involved have had a great fun time. |
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"OP I get where you are coming from. It should not be a race for is it's about mutual pleasure and letting it flow naturally.
Who comes first does not matter as long as all involved have had a great fun time. "
You know that and I know that..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP I get where you are coming from. It should not be a race for is it's about mutual pleasure and letting it flow naturally.
Who comes first does not matter as long as all involved have had a great fun time.
You know that and I know that....."
Indeed xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On a serious note...
The whole porn fuelled "Insert part A into Orifice B, move to spurt over C" is so artificial it puts unrealistic expectations on both parties.
Then we get into the realms of "making her squirt" or "lasting for hours".
What is wrong with enjoying the moment?
That requires thought and for me, connection.
Most casual encounters go like this; snogging, groping, oral, woman cums, man fucks and cums. Classic porn."
Don’t think I’ve ever had a meet like that |
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"On a serious note...
The whole porn fuelled "Insert part A into Orifice B, move to spurt over C" is so artificial it puts unrealistic expectations on both parties.
Then we get into the realms of "making her squirt" or "lasting for hours".
What is wrong with enjoying the moment?
That requires thought and for me, connection.
Most casual encounters go like this; snogging, groping, oral, woman cums, man fucks and cums. Classic porn.
Don’t think I’ve ever had a meet like that "
You blow that trumpet!
But have you ever MADE a woman cum? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On a serious note...
The whole porn fuelled "Insert part A into Orifice B, move to spurt over C" is so artificial it puts unrealistic expectations on both parties.
Then we get into the realms of "making her squirt" or "lasting for hours".
What is wrong with enjoying the moment?
That requires thought and for me, connection.
Most casual encounters go like this; snogging, groping, oral, woman cums, man fucks and cums. Classic porn.
Don’t think I’ve ever had a meet like that
You blow that trumpet!
But have you ever MADE a woman cum?"
Lord no. I wouldn’t know where to start |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On a serious note...
The whole porn fuelled "Insert part A into Orifice B, move to spurt over C" is so artificial it puts unrealistic expectations on both parties.
Then we get into the realms of "making her squirt" or "lasting for hours".
What is wrong with enjoying the moment?
That requires thought and for me, connection.
Most casual encounters go like this; snogging, groping, oral, woman cums, man fucks and cums. Classic porn."
I may well be an oddity for fab, connection before erection... |
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"On a serious note...
The whole porn fuelled "Insert part A into Orifice B, move to spurt over C" is so artificial it puts unrealistic expectations on both parties.
Then we get into the realms of "making her squirt" or "lasting for hours".
What is wrong with enjoying the moment?
That requires thought and for me, connection.
Most casual encounters go like this; snogging, groping, oral, woman cums, man fucks and cums. Classic porn.
I may well be an oddity for fab, connection before erection..."
Thankfully, there are folk like you, it’s just wading through the others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it matters who comes first or if anyone even comes at all. I'd love to have more meets which were about connection and sensuality: lazy, languid touching, easy talking and laughter. |
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"I don't think it matters who comes first or if anyone even comes at all. I'd love to have more meets which were about connection and sensuality: lazy, languid touching, easy talking and laughter."
Now that sounds like an excellent meet to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think it matters who comes first or if anyone even comes at all. I'd love to have more meets which were about connection and sensuality: lazy, languid touching, easy talking and laughter.
Now that sounds like an excellent meet to me."
You'd always be welcome,Topsy. We could read to each other and eat fruit in bed with the sun shining through the hotel blinds x |
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"I don't think it matters who comes first or if anyone even comes at all. I'd love to have more meets which were about connection and sensuality: lazy, languid touching, easy talking and laughter."
Connection is over rated, I want to blow my beans, wipe my cock in her Laura Ashley curtains and make a sharp exit. I jest of course, they’re always Matalan curtains. |
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"I don't think it matters who comes first or if anyone even comes at all. I'd love to have more meets which were about connection and sensuality: lazy, languid touching, easy talking and laughter.
Connection is over rated, I want to blow my beans, wipe my cock in her Laura Ashley curtains and make a sharp exit. I jest of course, they’re always Matalan curtains. "
Denelm is this house. |
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"I don't think it matters who comes first or if anyone even comes at all. I'd love to have more meets which were about connection and sensuality: lazy, languid touching, easy talking and laughter.
Now that sounds like an excellent meet to me.
You'd always be welcome,Topsy. We could read to each other and eat fruit in bed with the sun shining through the hotel blinds x"
How about good coffee and screeching with laughter over the forum posts with lots of fucking? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think it matters who comes first or if anyone even comes at all. I'd love to have more meets which were about connection and sensuality: lazy, languid touching, easy talking and laughter.
Connection is over rated, I want to blow my beans, wipe my cock in her Laura Ashley curtains and make a sharp exit. I jest of course, they’re always Matalan curtains. "
That's what I want sometimes too, depends on the person, how I'm feeling and how clean her curtains are |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think it matters who comes first or if anyone even comes at all. I'd love to have more meets which were about connection and sensuality: lazy, languid touching, easy talking and laughter.
Now that sounds like an excellent meet to me.
You'd always be welcome,Topsy. We could read to each other and eat fruit in bed with the sun shining through the hotel blinds x
How about good coffee and screeching with laughter over the forum posts with lots of fucking?"
Sounds fantastic. Who says we can't have it all? |
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"I don't think it matters who comes first or if anyone even comes at all. I'd love to have more meets which were about connection and sensuality: lazy, languid touching, easy talking and laughter.
Now that sounds like an excellent meet to me.
You'd always be welcome,Topsy. We could read to each other and eat fruit in bed with the sun shining through the hotel blinds x"
You try wiping your cock on blinds, not for the fate hearted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like to wank a man with oily hands while telling him not to come.
I like how they struggle to hold it in then beg to be allowed to let go.
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Where can I sign up ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like to wank a man with oily hands while telling him not to come.
I like how they struggle to hold it in then beg to be allowed to let go.
Where can I sign up ?"
Dotted line on the waiver. |
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"I like to wank a man with oily hands while telling him not to come.
I like how they struggle to hold it in then beg to be allowed to let go.
Where can I sign up ?
Dotted line on the waiver. "
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
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"I like to wank a man with oily hands while telling him not to come.
I like how they struggle to hold it in then beg to be allowed to let go.
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Beg? I managed to make a man cry once but he managed to flex his cock enough times to shoot no hands - crafty rascal lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never cum until she has at least once
Really? Poor woman.
Why you say that "
Because of the pressure that puts on her and the idea that orgasm is the only objective in sex. Imagine a situation where she isnt in the mood to orgasm. Are you going to just keep banging away until she fakes it so that you can come yourself? |
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By *eeBDMan
over a year ago
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Sometimes it is nice just to fuck without the strive for orgasm. The journey is the best bit for me, especially with guys as often they pop and it's then all over. I like the fun and exploration that happens before. Like massages for an hour, the finding out of the sensitive bits all over my partner's body with my mouth and fingers. Putting a cock inside me and moving it around until you make a mess is not the best part of sex for me. And as for men saying they won't come until I have on a vagina using day? No ta, sometimes I don't even fancy an orgasm that time so if you keep chasing that goal we are both going to just end up annoyed, me for being ignored and you for wanting to come but not getting there. |
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