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Is 50 too old for this site !!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi I've reached this mile stone and from a swi nging point of view it seems although people's profiles usually say will meet anyone over this age the reality is the tend to go for younger models.
Just wondered who else is finding this it's particularly hard as there is such a choice of males on here, but we more mature males can offer a great deal too,
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"50 is the start the older you are the more you like it we do we fuck and do more things now than ever"
It isn't happening down in Banbury though ???? wish you were closer, I'm hornier than I was in my 20s lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’ve been swinging since my 30s and I have to say I’m 50 now and it definatley becomes more limited but not impossible  "
Hi I'm finding the same have been swi nging on and off for 20 years it's just younger models are sending us oldies to the swinging scrap heap !! |
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Look for people who are looking for you.
I see profiles every so often where they'll only accept up to a certain dress size and aren't going to go near us fatties. If they message me (it's happened) I wouldn't respond, and I wouldn't message them. Same with age, really.
It's a hard slog for everyone here in some ways. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people over simplify things. Age is just one of a number of factors that make people attracted to one another. 50 isn’t too old (for me at least).
However, I find that some people over 50 seem to take less care over the way they present themselves. Or the way some people communicate is a bit off. So sometimes that’s the issue rather than age.
On the flip side there are people in that age group that are stunners, full of wit, amazing photos and I feel are waaaay out of my league.
It’s the whole package that matters. Not age. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Look for people who are looking for you.
I see profiles every so often where they'll only accept up to a certain dress size and aren't going to go near us fatties. If they message me (it's happened) I wouldn't respond, and I wouldn't message them. Same with age, really.
It's a hard slog for everyone here in some ways. "
That's so sizest of them, I just want to be given the chance of a couple to meet me possibly for a social then if they don't like no problem, I would sent a face photo too so I'm genuine, but they just pass me by, will just have to keep trying !!!! |
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"I think people over simplify things. Age is just one of a number of factors that make people attracted to one another. 50 isn’t too old (for me at least).
However, I find that some people over 50 seem to take less care over the way they present themselves. Or the way some people communicate is a bit off. So sometimes that’s the issue rather than age.
On the flip side there are people in that age group that are stunners, full of wit, amazing photos and I feel are waaaay out of my league.
It’s the whole package that matters. Not age."
Oh sure. I meet guys (potentially people) over 50. But I won't meet just anyone over (or under) 50. They have to tick my boxes. |
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"it will get out and meet people , go to clubs and that
It always seems the ladies go for the fully toned six pack younger m3n "
Nothing standing in your way from achieving the same fitness and toned body. It's a mental attitude, have a positive one. |
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"it will get out and meet people , go to clubs and that
It always seems the ladies go for the fully toned six pack younger m3n
Nothing standing in your way from achieving the same fitness and toned body. It's a mental attitude, have a positive one."
And not everyone is looking for gym fit. |
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"I think people over simplify things. Age is just one of a number of factors that make people attracted to one another. 50 isn’t too old (for me at least).
However, I find that some people over 50 seem to take less care over the way they present themselves. Or the way some people communicate is a bit off. So sometimes that’s the issue rather than age.
On the flip side there are people in that age group that are stunners, full of wit, amazing photos and I feel are waaaay out of my league.
It’s the whole package that matters. Not age."
Well said. A lot of those that complain of being left on the fab scrap heap have dreadful profiles with very poor pics on them, and expect to be able to meet younger women to boot, as they might find on a dating site. On fab the situation is reversed, because of the excess of men, most women are meeting men younger than themselves.
I'm specifically looking for over 50's though.  |
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"Look for people who are looking for you.
I see profiles every so often where they'll only accept up to a certain dress size and aren't going to go near us fatties. If they message me (it's happened) I wouldn't respond, and I wouldn't message them. Same with age, really.
It's a hard slog for everyone here in some ways.
That's so sizest of them, I just want to be given the chance of a couple to meet me possibly for a social then if they don't like no problem, I would sent a face photo too so I'm genuine, but they just pass me by, will just have to keep trying !!!!"
No, it's their preference. I don't want a pity fuck from someone who thinks I'm hideous. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"it will get out and meet people , go to clubs and that
It always seems the ladies go for the fully toned six pack younger m3n
Nothing standing in your way from achieving the same fitness and toned body. It's a mental attitude, have a positive one."
I am fit athletic, with a good body I think !?? |
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OP Banbury is full of idiots that think the world is flat and if you live in one of the surrounding villages instead of in the town then they start thinking you must be posh I know these things as I lived there for over 25 years.
As for the age thing everyone has different opinions and preferences try looking at it a little differently.
I don't believe you are ever too old for things you want to do so keep your chin up like the saying goes the best things come to those who wait
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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Obviously there's going to be a fewess people that you can contact given their preferences. You may have to put more effort in to find compatible people.
One of my favourite lovers was in his 50's. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP Banbury is full of idiots that think the world is flat and if you live in one of the surrounding villages instead of in the town then they start thinking you must be posh I know these things as I lived there for over 25 years.
As for the age thing everyone has different opinions and preferences try looking at it a little differently.
I don't believe you are ever too old for things you want to do so keep your chin up like the saying goes the best things come to those who wait
Lol it seems that way here, I used to live in Watford and it was different there, there are some nice people in Banbury though, just haven't found any swingers yet ?!
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I will let you know about 50 in a few months time. Meanwhile, get yourself to a social or club to meet people and get verified.
Bleating on about not getting a meet after 2 weeks on Fabs isn’t cool. Iron your shirt and see what happens. Just my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I will let you know about 50 in a few months time. Meanwhile, get yourself to a social or club to meet people and get verified.
Bleating on about not getting a meet after 2 weeks on Fabs isn’t cool. Iron your shirt and see what happens. Just my opinion. "
I've been on and off here for 10 years, and tried other sites, it just seems to get harder (pardon the pun) as you get older, and I wear a suit hence why the shirt doesn't look ironed I tend to tuck it in my trouser and not leave it hanging out points taken on board though thanks xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, I’m more successful getting interest now than I was 10, 20 or even 30 years ago....and often from women whose profiles suggest I’m out of their age range. Age is not necessarily a primary factor quite frequently. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP Banbury definitely has swingers as spoken to a few on here which is odd as I've not lived near there for a long time"
Just no one seems I interested and I remember when Fabs first opened it pages it was fab on here but I was 12 years younger then lol |
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OP I have seen men and women on fab who are in their 70's and 80's who are meeting people. 50 definitely isn't too old.
Yes, you will be too old for some people but there are plenty of others who like to meet older folks.
I would hazard a guess that you are looking at profiles of people quite a bit younger than you are and are a bit miffed that they choose to meet those in their own age group! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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OP as others have said - rather than worrying about those that won't meet you perhaps the thing to do is focus on those that will and if you're finding they won't meet you either then rather than blaming your age, look at what you can change to improve your chances (e.g. profile, pics, message style, approach, distance prepared to travel etc) as often it's the things you *can* do something about that are limiting you and not the things you can't change.
I only joined the site after reaching 50 and it's more than exceeded my expectations  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP I have seen men and women on fab who are in their 70's and 80's who are meeting people. 50 definitely isn't too old.
Yes, you will be too old for some people but there are plenty of others who like to meet older folks.
I would hazard a guess that you are looking at profiles of people quite a bit younger than you are and are a bit miffed that they choose to meet those in their own age group!"
I think you may be partly right but speaking to another person on here who used to live in Banbury they said to a great degree it's the people, maybe I need to extend my search are, I tend to go for more mature couples and ladies anyway as our sense of humour and life style are similar although I would look at younger swingers too |
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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago
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I’m gonna agree partly with what many have said in that the OP should channel their focus on those looking for over 50’s.
I’m also going to partly agree with the OP as it seems many on Fab do use their filters which therefore excludes the over 50’s from their Search or their Feed Updates.
That all said, I’ve found a few Regulars that prefer the fact I’m about 10 or 20 years older than them. They’d rarely consider someone younger than themselves as it tends to attract the “instant gratification/Snapchat” generation, the weekender profile types, the less experienced, or the Can’t Accom/staying with parents types.
Stay positive, focus on what you’re attracted to, & who DOES actually want to Meet. Not the vast majority who don’t meet your criteria. You’ll have more Fab fun if you do. Good luck OP. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"OP I have seen men and women on fab who are in their 70's and 80's who are meeting people. 50 definitely isn't too old.
Yes, you will be too old for some people but there are plenty of others who like to meet older folks.
I would hazard a guess that you are looking at profiles of people quite a bit younger than you are and are a bit miffed that they choose to meet those in their own age group!
I think you may be partly right but speaking to another person on here who used to live in Banbury they said to a great degree it's the people, maybe I need to extend my search are, I tend to go for more mature couples and ladies anyway as our sense of humour and life style are similar although I would look at younger swingers too"
If you're limiting your search to Banbury, as you seem to be, you're immediately reducing your chances - you have several major cities within easy reach in all directions - perhaps widen your search to include them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it's different for women. I'd hope that if I were still looking for meets that being 50 next month wouldn't put a stop to who I'd be interested in."
I think you are right Lola by the way you look amazing, it seems as there are so many men on here couples and ladies can be very very choosey which is fine and understandable, but I wish they would perhaps sometime keep a slightly more open mind about over 50s we haven't quite reached the grumpy old man stage yet |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Loving the feedback was starting to worry this site was turning into young and fit only.
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The oldies are still up for a good time and hopefully are more understanding too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Look for people who are looking for you.
I see profiles every so often where they'll only accept up to a certain dress size and aren't going to go near us fatties. If they message me (it's happened) I wouldn't respond, and I wouldn't message them. Same with age, really.
It's a hard slog for everyone here in some ways. "
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"Loving the feedback was starting to worry this site was turning into young and fit only.
The oldies are still up for a good time and hopefully are more understanding too x"
Whilst there are some people who will meet single guys over fifty, it's obvious that their chances will decline the older they get. |
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There's an awful lot of 'am I too old' threads around at the moment. Is this the theme for the week?
Also, if everyone in the threads replied "yes, you're too old", I have a sneaking suspicion it wouldn't make any difference to their decision to stay or go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's different for women. I'd hope that if I were still looking for meets that being 50 next month wouldn't put a stop to who I'd be interested in."
Can’t believe you’ve moved to the North West, unless of course it’s a fake location  |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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These threads are becoming annoying about age. If you positive and confident you can have good things what ever your age.
I'm having more sex now than I did in my 20's and regularly beat people 30 years younger than me in a very competitive sport |
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By *D835Man
over a year ago
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"Both here over 60, we seem to do ok, just need to leave the zimmer at home and be careful with the dodgy knees and hope the false teeth and wigs do not drop off mid shag."
It is easier for couples and single women over 50. Not so for single men.
The problem is : lots of single women and couples set their age filters to 45 or 50 max.
That being the case, single men over 50 are blocked from sending a message or wink to such people.
So not matter what you do , age can be a limiting factor once you go past 50 for single men.
At that age you are excluded from many peoples updates and feeds, so if they can’t see you, then they can’t contact you either.
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We run a night for over 40s called Mature Mischief at Liberty Elite on the first Wednesday of the month. However there is a waiting list for single guys as we get inundated with requests to come along. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We run a night for over 40s called Mature Mischief at Liberty Elite on the first Wednesday of the month. However there is a waiting list for single guys as we get inundated with requests to come along."
Ooooo sounds fun ... any space for single ladies? |
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"I think people over simplify things. Age is just one of a number of factors that make people attracted to one another. 50 isn’t too old (for me at least).
However, I find that some people over 50 seem to take less care over the way they present themselves. Or the way some people communicate is a bit off. So sometimes that’s the issue rather than age.
On the flip side there are people in that age group that are stunners, full of wit, amazing photos and I feel are waaaay out of my league.
It’s the whole package that matters. Not age."
I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I started on here at 50, I continue to have fun.
I meet mainly guys in their 40's. I find some men my age a bit miserable. "
We know what you mean. Isn’t it weird how about half the people you know start to go all withdrawn and miserable and closed in their forties? And the other half just think “sod it” and get on with their loves even though they will never be 21 again. We always try to be in the cheerful group. |
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