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OP, your age will mean that some people simply won't meet with you. Maybe it's because they have kids your age (or older), or because younger guys might be less reliable. Maybe it's just because your new, who knows. But it's not worth worrying about.
Use your time wisely and search for people in your area that are looking for guys your age. |
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over a year ago
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"Maturity and experience. I like both, I'm afraid. 25 is my hard lower limit. "
I hear ya! There can be both experienced and mature 21 year olds however. But I guess there’s too many to sift through to find out! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, your age will mean that some people simply won't meet with you. Maybe it's because they have kids your age (or older), or because younger guys might be less reliable. Maybe it's just because your new, who knows. But it's not worth worrying about.
Use your time wisely and search for people in your area that are looking for guys your age."
Not worrying, just using it as a general chit chat and what other people’s opinions are etc! |
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35 is my hard limit, when it comes to men. From experience, I've noticed anyone below that either has all the talk but none of the walk, or has too porn-fuelled ideas of how sex should look like and how to satisfy a woman. I'm not patient enough to provide lessons |
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"Maturity and experience. I like both, I'm afraid. 25 is my hard lower limit.
I hear ya! There can be both experienced and mature 21 year olds however. But I guess there’s too many to sift through to find out!"
I'm not even prepared to open my filters. I found 21 year old guys immature when I was 21, and that was 12 years ago. |
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"35 is my hard limit, when it comes to men. From experience, I've noticed anyone below that either has all the talk but none of the walk, or has too porn-fuelled ideas of how sex should look like and how to satisfy a woman. I'm not patient enough to provide lessons"
Oh this too. I'm not a porn star and no it's not OK if I don't have an orgasm. |
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over a year ago
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"Just throwing it out there as the average age on this site is a lot higher than mine. Is 21 a put off? If so why? If not than drop me a message  "
To me it is, far too young for this kitty |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just throwing it out there as the average age on this site is a lot higher than mine. Is 21 a put off? If so why? If not than drop me a message "
Oh and yeah 21 is far too young for me. I don’t really find anyone under the age mature enough or attractive enough to meet (exception is my husband) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"35 is my hard limit, when it comes to men. From experience, I've noticed anyone below that either has all the talk but none of the walk, or has too porn-fuelled ideas of how sex should look like and how to satisfy a woman. I'm not patient enough to provide lessons
Oh this too. I'm not a porn star and no it's not OK if I don't have an orgasm. "
Starting to think people my age are seriously making life hard for me on this hahaha |
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"Maturity and experience. I like both, I'm afraid. 25 is my hard lower limit.
I hear ya! There can be both experienced and mature 21 year olds however. But I guess there’s too many to sift through to find out!"
Sadly, there’s waaay too many men in their 40’s and 50’s here behaving like self entitled youngsters.
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"Just throwing it out there as the average age on this site is a lot higher than mine. Is 21 a put off? If so why? If not than drop me a message "
Let me put it this way. Is 62 a put off for you? It's likely that your reasons for your upper age limit are similar to our reasons for our lower limit.
Good luck in your search for compatible people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lol this thread is so funny I love how people judge by there age "
What’s funny about that? Everyone can have preferences. I’ve never found myself attracted to someone my own age, for multiple reasons |
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"Lol this thread is so funny I love how people judge by there age
What’s funny about that? Everyone can have preferences. I’ve never found myself attracted to someone my own age, for multiple reasons "
The fact your 21 and u judge people your own age |
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"Lol this thread is so funny I love how people judge by there age
What’s funny about that? Everyone can have preferences. I’ve never found myself attracted to someone my own age, for multiple reasons
The fact your 21 and u judge people your own age "
You’re right. I’m 21 and therefore must be attracted to men my own age. My mistake  |
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"Maturity and experience. I like both, I'm afraid. 25 is my hard lower limit.
I hear ya! There can be both experienced and mature 21 year olds however. But I guess there’s too many to sift through to find out!
Sadly, there’s waaay too many men in their 40’s and 50’s here behaving like self entitled youngsters.
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Yeah, that's true too. But I find the younger I set my age limit the worse messages I get (and it's never been under 25!). |
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"Just throwing it out there as the average age on this site is a lot higher than mine. Is 21 a put off? If so why? If not than drop me a message "
Simple answer is that we (and many others on here) won't fuck anyone younger (or even close to) our kids, and 21 is much younger. |
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"Lol this thread is so funny I love how people judge by there age
What’s funny about that? Everyone can have preferences. I’ve never found myself attracted to someone my own age, for multiple reasons
The fact your 21 and u judge people your own age
You’re right. I’m 21 and therefore must be attracted to men my own age. My mistake "
Not even about your age everyone has preferences but people need to lay off judging everyone based on age it’s the same as when older people think younger people need to treat them with respect well no u want respect you gotta be respectful I bet 99% of 21 year olds don’t judge people older then them incase there to mature smh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lol this thread is so funny I love how people judge by there age
What’s funny about that? Everyone can have preferences. I’ve never found myself attracted to someone my own age, for multiple reasons
The fact your 21 and u judge people your own age
You’re right. I’m 21 and therefore must be attracted to men my own age. My mistake
Not even about your age everyone has preferences but people need to lay off judging everyone based on age it’s the same as when older people think younger people need to treat them with respect well no u want respect you gotta be respectful I bet 99% of 21 year olds don’t judge people older then them incase there to mature smh "
.....all I’ve said is that I don’t find men my age attractive or mature. How is that judging? Telling me I can’t judge someone based on their age, when I am not attracted to someone because of their age, doesn’t make sense? And if that’s the case, I do judge people older. I don’t tend to find men older than 50 attractive, so that’s what my upper age limit is preferences |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just throwing it out there as the average age on this site is a lot higher than mine. Is 21 a put off? If so why? If not than drop me a message "
I used to think more than 5yrs under my age was a no no but recently I’ve changed my views  |
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"Lol this thread is so funny I love how people judge by there age
What’s funny about that? Everyone can have preferences. I’ve never found myself attracted to someone my own age, for multiple reasons
The fact your 21 and u judge people your own age
You’re right. I’m 21 and therefore must be attracted to men my own age. My mistake
Not even about your age everyone has preferences but people need to lay off judging everyone based on age it’s the same as when older people think younger people need to treat them with respect well no u want respect you gotta be respectful I bet 99% of 21 year olds don’t judge people older then them incase there to mature smh
.....all I’ve said is that I don’t find men my age attractive or mature. How is that judging? Telling me I can’t judge someone based on their age, when I am not attracted to someone because of their age, doesn’t make sense? And if that’s the case, I do judge people older. I don’t tend to find men older than 50 attractive, so that’s what my upper age limit is preferences "
That’s your choice it was more pointed towards people that think the younger is immature I’m 29 mine self can be immature at times cos ye know I like to smile and be happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it helps Jaydees are running a night for 21-40 to go to help younger people meet others of similar ages, Info is in the clubs events forum if ur interested "
Ooooh thx for info x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol this thread is so funny I love how people judge by there age
What’s funny about that? Everyone can have preferences. I’ve never found myself attracted to someone my own age, for multiple reasons
The fact your 21 and u judge people your own age
You’re right. I’m 21 and therefore must be attracted to men my own age. My mistake
Not even about your age everyone has preferences but people need to lay off judging everyone based on age it’s the same as when older people think younger people need to treat them with respect well no u want respect you gotta be respectful I bet 99% of 21 year olds don’t judge people older then them incase there to mature smh
.....all I’ve said is that I don’t find men my age attractive or mature. How is that judging? Telling me I can’t judge someone based on their age, when I am not attracted to someone because of their age, doesn’t make sense? And if that’s the case, I do judge people older. I don’t tend to find men older than 50 attractive, so that’s what my upper age limit is preferences "
Life is about making choices. Anyone can do what or who they want. It’s not judgemental it’s just a preference.
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"Just throwing it out there as the average age on this site is a lot higher than mine. Is 21 a put off? If so why? If not than drop me a message "
Personally for me, yes.
I have children, 2 are in their mid & late 20's
It just wouldn't feel right, someone younger than them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Too young for me, you're way younger than my son and I work with guys roughly 18 - 35 and find we have little in common tbh ... sexually I find that my expectations are are different to the vast majority of younger men I've met off here, so recently raised my younger age to 38 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Too young for me, you're way younger than my son and I work with guys roughly 18 - 35 and find we have little in common tbh ... sexually I find that my expectations are are different to the vast majority of younger men I've met off here, so recently raised my younger age to 38 "
Although the men at your work don’t interest you and you have little in common, looking at your profile, I bet they are very interested in you? |
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"Lol this thread is so funny I love how people judge by there age
What’s funny about that? Everyone can have preferences. I’ve never found myself attracted to someone my own age, for multiple reasons
The fact your 21 and u judge people your own age
You’re right. I’m 21 and therefore must be attracted to men my own age. My mistake
Not even about your age everyone has preferences but people need to lay off judging everyone based on age it’s the same as when older people think younger people need to treat them with respect well no u want respect you gotta be respectful I bet 99% of 21 year olds don’t judge people older then them incase there to mature smh "
On fab we judge based on age. We generalise about age groups because we don't have time to look for the exceptions to the rule. |
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"Too young for me, you're way younger than my son and I work with guys roughly 18 - 35 and find we have little in common tbh ... sexually I find that my expectations are are different to the vast majority of younger men I've met off here, so recently raised my younger age to 38
Although the men at your work don’t interest you and you have little in common, looking at your profile, I bet they are very interested in you?"
Luckily I'm a consummate professional (defo don't look like this at work  ) and it's built on respect and a little bit of they're scared of me hahahahahahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Too young for me, you're way younger than my son and I work with guys roughly 18 - 35 and find we have little in common tbh ... sexually I find that my expectations are are different to the vast majority of younger men I've met off here, so recently raised my younger age to 38
Although the men at your work don’t interest you and you have little in common, looking at your profile, I bet they are very interested in you?
Luckily I'm a consummate professional (defo don't look like this at work ) and it's built on respect and a little bit of they're scared of me hahahahahahaha "
Haha ever the proffesional. Work is the only place I’m proffesional.
If you were my boss and you were scary......it would only increase the attraction haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just throwing it out there as the average age on this site is a lot higher than mine. Is 21 a put off? If so why? If not than drop me a message
Personally for me, yes.
I have children, 2 are in their mid & late 20's
It just wouldn't feel right, someone younger than them. "
Same reason for me. My child is older than 21. Wouldn’t feel right for me either |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Too young for me, you're way younger than my son and I work with guys roughly 18 - 35 and find we have little in common tbh ... sexually I find that my expectations are are different to the vast majority of younger men I've met off here, so recently raised my younger age to 38
Although the men at your work don’t interest you and you have little in common, looking at your profile, I bet they are very interested in you?
Luckily I'm a consummate professional (defo don't look like this at work ) and it's built on respect and a little bit of they're scared of me hahahahahahaha
Haha ever the proffesional. Work is the only place I’m proffesional.
If you were my boss and you were scary......it would only increase the attraction haha"
I'm not the boss but I do have the power to stop them from playing the sport plus I can make them cry |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It largely goes down to face for me. Some under 21s look so baby faced and it makes me question if they are even old enough to be on here which is obviously off putting. A mature looking 21 year old with a mature outlook to sex and I would be in  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"35 is my hard limit, when it comes to men. From experience, I've noticed anyone below that either has all the talk but none of the walk, or has too porn-fuelled ideas of how sex should look like and how to satisfy a woman. I'm not patient enough to provide lessons"
I couldn’t agree enough! |
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"Just throwing it out there as the average age on this site is a lot higher than mine. Is 21 a put off? If so why? If not than drop me a message
Personally for me, yes.
I have children, 2 are in their mid & late 20's
It just wouldn't feel right, someone younger than them. "
This. Absolutely I increase my age preference on an annual basis! |
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@OP - As countless above have said, 21 is a bit too young for many women/couples of fab, for valid reasons.
Fear not though - there are people who do want to meet people your (well, as I'm only 24 myself 'our') age, although obviously harder to come by.
Unfortunately there's a fair few chancers/fantasists in that already smaller subsection, who want a "young lad for their wife" - so just have to learn when to spot that.
... but, for the genuine ones who are looking for this age range, they can be very much real quality. You just need to make yourself stand out really (not saying I necessarily do...).
As mentioned, club nights help but I get the hesitance to go alone etc.
Good luck mate... |
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"Just throwing it out there as the average age on this site is a lot higher than mine. Is 21 a put off? If so why? If not than drop me a message "
I know you’re asking for yourself, but as an older gent, I’d be quite turned on by a girl 18-21 wanting me. So long as they were doing it for the right reasons.
When I started doing this at 23, I found it easier than I do now to meet people. |
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"Just throwing it out there as the average age on this site is a lot higher than mine. Is 21 a put off? If so why? If not than drop me a message "
Yes, it is too young for us. Our children are older than that, so it would just seem wrong.
However, in a club situation if we were attracted to a younger person and they were on our wavelength, we wouldn't be asking their age.
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"I know you’re asking for yourself, but as an older gent, I’d be quite turned on by a girl 18-21 wanting me."
The sentiment isn't as widely shared when sexes are swapped, but I'm. Sure you know that already! |
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"@OP - As countless above have said, 21 is a bit too young for many women/couples of fab, for valid reasons.
Fear not though - there are people who do want to meet people your (well, as I'm only 24 myself 'our') age, although obviously harder to come by.
Unfortunately there's a fair few chancers/fantasists in that already smaller subsection, who want a "young lad for their wife" - so just have to learn when to spot that.
... but, for the genuine ones who are looking for this age range, they can be very much real quality. You just need to make yourself stand out really (not saying I necessarily do...).
As mentioned, club nights help but I get the hesitance to go alone etc.
Good luck mate... "
Sound advice |
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"Just throwing it out there as the average age on this site is a lot higher than mine. Is 21 a put off? If so why? If not than drop me a message "
Shit dude 21 ! It's no age your hardly over the hill or collecting dust on a shelf.
You wait until you are 50 then you will find out what being the wrong age on this site actually is.
Look at it this way.
You are going to get older and every year for at least 25 years your probably going to fit the bill for women or couples on here.
PLUS you can pull 20 something year old females at nightclubs.
I on the other hand am going to be less and less desirable probably on a monthly basis from here on in to the point of being in a negative balance.
Also if I go to a nightclub the only thing I'm going to pull is a hamstring!
Stop whining and man up! |
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Op - you look good and you seem very mature for your age - but I’m afraid I just couldn’t meet someone your age - I’d feel like a pervert!
I’m actually seriously considering increasing my minimum age to 28 or 30 - as many younger guys - once we get to WhatsApp stage - then constantly message me to tell me how permanently horny they are and send me wanking videos! I’m sure other women may like this but I find it tedious and juvenile - and it puts me off meeting them!  |
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I tend to like guys who are around 10 years younger than me. 21, which is a few years younger than that, is my hard limit.
It is all about attitude and the kind of approach that people take, for me. |
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By *utie91Woman
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"Op - you look good and you seem very mature for your age - but I’m afraid I just couldn’t meet someone your age - I’d feel like a pervert!
I’m actually seriously considering increasing my minimum age to 28 or 30 - as many younger guys - once we get to WhatsApp stage - then constantly message me to tell me how permanently horny they are and send me wanking videos! I’m sure other women may like this but I find it tedious and juvenile - and it puts me off meeting them! "
I find this with men of all ages tbh.... so it’s not just you who has this problem... this is why I try to keep conversations on here... then if they get annoying they get blocked... don’t think men understand how annoying it is. Lol |
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