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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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One thing that puts us off a lot is the possible health risks,are we too carefull? I don't think you can ever be too careful with such an important thing.
Nobody knows who we have been with etc.i know we can practice safe sex but if you do oral how is that safe.
Anyone else feel the same. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Ultimately it's about knowing and assessing the risks and deciding what your boundaries are based on them, coupled with getting regularly tested.
For any form of penetrative sex I will always use a condom, but oral I accept the risks (which for some STIs are less than for penetrative sex) and don't use any form of protection.
I get regularly tested (around once every three months) and also tend to get to know people a little before meeting to get a level of confidence that they have a similar outlook to their sexual health as I do. Know that's no guarantee but coupled with the other things I mentioned minimises the risks enough for me.
I've actually found that most people in this lifestyle that I've talked to are very responsible about getting checked etc and there's probably as much if not more chance of catching an STI if you met someone on a regular night out, than there is meeting someone who takes the swinging lifestyle seriously. |
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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago
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"Ultimately it's about knowing and assessing the risks and deciding what your boundaries are based on them, coupled with getting regularly tested.
For any form of penetrative sex I will always use a condom, but oral I accept the risks (which for some STIs are less than for penetrative sex) and don't use any form of protection.
I get regularly tested (around once every three months) and also tend to get to know people a little before meeting to get a level of confidence that they have a similar outlook to their sexual health as I do. Know that's no guarantee but coupled with the other things I mentioned minimises the risks enough for me.
I've actually found that most people in this lifestyle that I've talked to are very responsible about getting checked etc and there's probably as much if not more chance of catching an STI if you met someone on a regular night out, than there is meeting someone who takes the swinging lifestyle seriously."
 Exactly our sentiments.  |
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By *ifuwMan
over a year ago
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"Ultimately it's about knowing and assessing the risks and deciding what your boundaries are based on them, coupled with getting regularly tested.
For any form of penetrative sex I will always use a condom, but oral I accept the risks (which for some STIs are less than for penetrative sex) and don't use any form of protection.
I get regularly tested (around once every three months) and also tend to get to know people a little before meeting to get a level of confidence that they have a similar outlook to their sexual health as I do. Know that's no guarantee but coupled with the other things I mentioned minimises the risks enough for me.
I've actually found that most people in this lifestyle that I've talked to are very responsible about getting checked etc and there's probably as much if not more chance of catching an STI if you met someone on a regular night out, than there is meeting someone who takes the swinging lifestyle seriously. Exactly our sentiments. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It appears that the most sensible way around this problem is to get to know all individuals involved and know them well... I took a look on the internet and searched for "how safe is oral sex" and the results were astounding...
For your own peace of mind, I urge you to look... Unless of course you don't mind a dose of gonorrhea, syphilis and HPV...I wouldn't count on the NHS to always cure your ailments as they are cutting back on sexual health clinics (there's a surprise) and antibiotics are becoming resistant too...
You can always rubber up with favoured condoms I guess....albeit not popular...
Have fun and sleep well... |
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"One thing that puts us off a lot is the possible health risks,are we too carefull? I don't think you can ever be too careful with such an important thing.
Nobody knows who we have been with etc.i know we can practice safe sex but if you do oral how is that safe.
Anyone else feel the same."
This is a sobering thought.
You Can Get Throat Cancer From Oral Sex. On Sunday, in an interview with the Guardian, actor Michael Douglas revealed that his throat cancer was not caused by tobacco and alcohol, but by HPV, which was transmitted through oral sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There is risks in everything in Life, all you can do if minimise your own risks for what you are comfortable with. Oral without does pose a risk. Personally I'm happy to take that risk and be regularly tested but I meet so few people for play anyway as I prefer regular meets so it's minimised my risk again. |
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We were very much hardened swingers for eight years . Two or three meets a week at least , usually double that .
We practiced safe sex for penetration , unprotected oral and went to our local gum clinic every six weeks . Maybe we were just really lucky but we didn’t catch anything .
But what I will say is that since we stopped swinging in May , it’s been rather nice not having to go to the clinic , and worrying about whether we’ve caught anything . |
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That would be a tough one!