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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve been into meeting females on the side for years now. I’ve not done it for the past year but it is still in me. How do I get my gf into it. Or is there a possibility I could. She is a good girl and shy and quiet but everyone has it in them don’t they? |
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"I’ve been into meeting females on the side for years now. I’ve not done it for the past year but it is still in me. How do I get my gf into it. Or is there a possibility I could. She is a good girl and shy and quiet but everyone has it in them don’t they?"
No, they don’t. Some people are monogamous and would never consider sharing or cheating. Only you know your gf and how she’s likely to respond.
Although I would say if you know she’s likely to say no and be upset by the suggestion then you probably need to decide what’s more important to you - casual sex with others or her, it would be unfair of you to try and persuade her into something she’s not comfortable with.
Good luck!
Lou x |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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You don't "get" anyone into anything- you sit down and talk to them about whatever it is you'd like to share with them and see if it's something they might be interested in too - all the while being prepared to accept that they might not be  |
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You show integrity and be faithful if that’s what your partner expects. By all means ask her if she’d consider swinging, but you playing alone is cheating on her and is a bit shit tbh. How would you feel if she found out? How would you feel?
Don’t cheat if you really love her mate. Ask her. Get an answer, then decide what your future together is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You show integrity and be faithful if that’s what your partner expects. By all means ask her if she’d consider swinging, but you playing alone is cheating on her and is a bit shit tbh. How would you feel if she found out? How would you feel?
Don’t cheat if you really love her mate. Ask her. Get an answer, then decide what your future together is."
Exactly this!! If you want casual sex then please don’t ‘pretend’ to be everything to your GF because that’s cheating and deception.
Honestly is always the best way. These things have a way of coming out and it ain’t pretty, but when it doesn’t come from you it’s far worse.
Trust me I’ve got the tshirt!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think for most couples the talk of the threesome fantasy normally leads to talking along the lines of "Would you ___" and then dabbling into swinging.
When me and my gf at the time first got into it, it came from our enjoyment of taking sex photos, which led to playing on webcam, which led to playing in front of people and then finally with other people. |
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On a serious note if you can't be your self with your partner that's not good. Be open with them about your nature and sexual desires. Let them decide if they are in with you or out. If it don't work out let them find someone who is a better match for them and you likewise. |
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We sat and talked about fantasies and which we’d maybe try out one day. Involving others was a “maybe one day”. We were visiting Atlantis within a few days, involved another couple a few weeks later and tried full swap within a couple of months. |
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