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How do I meet a woman? Any Bi sexual women please advise me!
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So I've never done anything with a woman before, but recently I've become curious to try it. But I'm not entirely sure how to actually find and meet one and I'm quite nervous about it. Finding a man is easy, simply wait a couple of minutes until one pops up in my inbox, sometimes have to wait a bit longer for one I like to appear but they eventually do! Us females are a whole different ballgame I assume? I don't know, I've never tried to arrange a meet with one yet...
So in a nutshell, I'd like to meet a woman (together with my husband, he wouldn't want to miss it!), who is preferably experienced and can teach me what to do and we can all 3 of us hopefully give each other a good time. And I need some help and advice on how to go about it, please?  |
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Approach them from your couples account if he is going to be there. One thing guaranteed to get a block is a husband suddenly appearing.
Not many women like to be a performing seal for a husband, so chances are if he is just going to sit and watch, you will really struggle to find a single woman.
Best you can do is be up front, approach women how you would want to be approached and be prepared for a very long wait. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I'd respectfully suggest a few things OP:
- Change your username - it's unlikely to appeal to most women looking for women
- Change your profile to reflect that you're interested in meeting women one to one and tone down some of the "cock greedy" angle of it.
- Tick the box in your profile that says you are looking for women (it isn't currently).
- Think about your husband not being there as a possibility as a lot of women will be put off by his likely presence or search for women through your couples profile (and if you do don't make it sound like it will be about putting on a show for him as you have here).
- Get along to clubs as a means of meeting women either on your own or with hubby.
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"Approach them from your couples account if he is going to be there. One thing guaranteed to get a block is a husband suddenly appearing.
Not many women like to be a performing seal for a husband, so chances are if he is just going to sit and watch, you will really struggle to find a single woman.
Best you can do is be up front, approach women how you would want to be approached and be prepared for a very long wait."
Oh no we'd definitely use the couples profile to approach women, I understand perfectly about the surprise husband thing! He would be joining in, sorry I probably worded that part of my OP wrong (it's late and I'm tired ha!).
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"I'd respectfully suggest a few things OP:
- Change your username - it's unlikely to appeal to most women looking for women
- Change your profile to reflect that you're interested in meeting women one to one and tone down some of the "cock greedy" angle of it.
- Tick the box in your profile that says you are looking for women (it isn't currently).
- Think about your husband not being there as a possibility as a lot of women will be put off by his likely presence or search for women through your couples profile (and if you do don't make it sound like it will be about putting on a show for him as you have here).
- Get along to clubs as a means of meeting women either on your own or with hubby.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Okay so this is my couples profile! "
To be perfectly honest pretty much all I said above apart from the username thing would apply to your couple's profile too - there's nothing in it to suggest you're looking for women to meet as a couple or on your own |
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"Okay so this is my couples profile!
To be perfectly honest pretty much all I said above apart from the username thing would apply to your couple's profile too - there's nothing in it to suggest you're looking for women to meet as a couple or on your own "
Give me chance to change it, I don't even know what to put yet haha! |
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I have a feeling you may struggle. Clubs may be the best way to go. I personally would not want to show someone the ropes, be it male or female. Just that would make me turn away from a potential meet. |
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"I have a feeling you may struggle. Clubs may be the best way to go. I personally would not want to show someone the ropes, be it male or female. Just that would make me turn away from a potential meet. "
I get that, but on the other hand would you rather I lied and then if we were to meet, I'd obviously be a bumbling, clumsy fool who had no previous experience who hadn't a clue what she was doing. I feel like I'd rather be honest from the start, you know? |
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"I have a feeling you may struggle. Clubs may be the best way to go. I personally would not want to show someone the ropes, be it male or female. Just that would make me turn away from a potential meet.
I get that, but on the other hand would you rather I lied and then if we were to meet, I'd obviously be a bumbling, clumsy fool who had no previous experience who hadn't a clue what she was doing. I feel like I'd rather be honest from the start, you know?"
Not at all. It's good to be honest. I just think clubs may be a good way to gain some experience and if you enjoy It, then you will know for certain that you like it and can sometimes arrange meets around this type of play. A club setting can be less of a pressure setting  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I fear you may all be right about the club thing though. Unfortunately it's hard for us to both get out as since the baby came along people aren't as happy to babysit. It takes a lot of bribery..."
How would that make a difference whether it's going to a club or meeting privately? You'd still need a sitter either way. |
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"I have a feeling you may struggle. Clubs may be the best way to go. I personally would not want to show someone the ropes, be it male or female. Just that would make me turn away from a potential meet.
I get that, but on the other hand would you rather I lied and then if we were to meet, I'd obviously be a bumbling, clumsy fool who had no previous experience who hadn't a clue what she was doing. I feel like I'd rather be honest from the start, you know?"
There would also be that worry that you hated the experience. I know of some who have tried it and not liked it. I'd feel awful if I was partly responsible for you having a negative experience. That's why I gravitate towards ones who already know they enjoy fem on fem play |
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Just to add to some good advice already given but could you add photos of the male too?
What about another couple, preferably bi as I notice the male on your profile says bisexual? |
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"I fear you may all be right about the club thing though. Unfortunately it's hard for us to both get out as since the baby came along people aren't as happy to babysit. It takes a lot of bribery...
How would that make a difference whether it's going to a club or meeting privately? You'd still need a sitter either way."
Not if she were to come to us. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I fear you may all be right about the club thing though. Unfortunately it's hard for us to both get out as since the baby came along people aren't as happy to babysit. It takes a lot of bribery...
How would that make a difference whether it's going to a club or meeting privately? You'd still need a sitter either way.
Not if she were to come to us."
By that I presume you mean you'd expect people to be comfortable playing while your child is in the house?
Without wishing to open the can of worms about the rights and wrongs of that - it will post you a further problem when it comes to finding people willing to meet you in what is already a very limited pool |
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Well we have had plenty of meets with the kids in the house (asleep, obvs). No-one has cared yet, or if they have, they've not said anything! But obviously they've all been men, do you think women would care? |
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"I fear you may all be right about the club thing though. Unfortunately it's hard for us to both get out as since the baby came along people aren't as happy to babysit. It takes a lot of bribery...
How would that make a difference whether it's going to a club or meeting privately? You'd still need a sitter either way.
Not if she were to come to us.
By that I presume you mean you'd expect people to be comfortable playing while your child is in the house?
Without wishing to open the can of worms about the rights and wrongs of that - it will post you a further problem when it comes to finding people willing to meet you in what is already a very limited pool "
That is one wriggly can of worms!
Personally, I’d meet no-one in a house with kids. |
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"Well we have had plenty of meets with the kids in the house (asleep, obvs). No-one has cared yet, or if they have, they've not said anything! But obviously they've all been men, do you think women would care?"
Wow!!!!!! Ignorance is bliss, so I hear. |
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Husband there?
Unlikely to happen seeing it's a single profile
Try meeting without him
I'm sure he will survive
I will never meet where I think I'm going to be a circus animal for a husband to sit and watch |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Well we have had plenty of meets with the kids in the house (asleep, obvs). No-one has cared yet, or if they have, they've not said anything! But obviously they've all been men, do you think women would care?"
As I said it's a can of worms - I personally wouldn't meet under those circumstances but will say nothing more than that other than what I said originally, it's going to be another thing that will go against your already limited chances of meeting a single woman for some.
My advice to you, if you truly want to explore your bisexual side for you, and not as fantasy material for your partner, would be to give serious consideration to meeting other women on your own, either at a club, or through your single profile - once you have established connections with people perhaps introduce your partner into it if ALL are comfortable to do so. |
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"I have a feeling you may struggle. Clubs may be the best way to go. I personally would not want to show someone the ropes, be it male or female. Just that would make me turn away from a potential meet.
I get that, but on the other hand would you rather I lied and then if we were to meet, I'd obviously be a bumbling, clumsy fool who had no previous experience who hadn't a clue what she was doing. I feel like I'd rather be honest from the start, you know?
There would also be that worry that you hated the experience. I know of some who have tried it and not liked it. I'd feel awful if I was partly responsible for you having a negative experience. That's why I gravitate towards ones who already know they enjoy fem on fem play "
This is exactly my thinking, the other thing that always puts me off is when a woman says she wants to try it for the first time but wants her husband to watch is, is she just doing it for him. I'm not saying this is the case for you but it does happen. |
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"Well we have had plenty of meets with the kids in the house (asleep, obvs). No-one has cared yet, or if they have, they've not said anything! But obviously they've all been men, do you think women would care?
Wow!!!!!! Ignorance is bliss, so I hear. "
This would be a big problem for me, I wouldn't be able to relax or enjoy myself. |
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Why don't you try meeting couples with a bi fem ...We all start somewhere when wanting to try with the same sex but the way it's worded makes a huge difference .
We met another couple who it was both our first times of being with another girl ...yes it was a little awkward to start but great all the same .
I / we wouldn't meet anyone with children at home ...you never know who you are taking into your house and certainly wouldn't like to potentially put your child's safety at risk by inviting strangers in  . Each to thier own but I doubt alot of people would be happy with that situation . |
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