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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?"
I'm glad it's not just me this has occurred to! |
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?"
Do you think they'd take notice if you did?
I can't imagine many people reacting well to a "you look as if you have a sti" message.
If you feel you need to then go ahead, personally I'd leave it. |
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?
Do you think they'd take notice if you did?
I can't imagine many people reacting well to a "you look as if you have a sti" message.
If you feel you need to then go ahead, personally I'd leave it."
You're right, but you'd think they'd notice themselves! |
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?
Do you think they'd take notice if you did?
I can't imagine many people reacting well to a "you look as if you have a sti" message.
If you feel you need to then go ahead, personally I'd leave it.
You're right, but you'd think they'd notice themselves!"
If you're happy to open yourself up to abuse it might be kind. If not, blocking is probably the answer. |
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?"
Interesting, I've never come across any I could recognise.
In your place I would message them. They probably don't even know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're talking about vaginal discharge it changes through out the monthly cycle
It's different for everyone how their cycle is. Google what's normal
Also don't forget lubes also I have several from silky opaque to clear and jelly like
Can't assume they have an infection because it looks different |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have added someone with pics like that to my hotlist, just so I can block anyone that plays with them. They posted one, very obvious pic of genital warts, about a week before having a gb too. Makes me think that not everyone cares if they get something, or pass something on   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have added someone with pics like that to my hotlist, just so I can block anyone that plays with them. They posted one, very obvious pic of genital warts, about a week before having a gb too. Makes me think that not everyone cares if they get something, or pass something on "
Would this statement be considered gossiping?
Or facts |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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No, mind your own business I'd say. Isn't it a bit like messaging over/underweight people and giving dietary advice? It wouldn't even occur to me, I just don't look at a profile again if I don't like what I see. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Maybe the site should have a certified Dr as an admin, and part of the t&c's should state if the doctor spots something iffy, he will pm you. But thank God the web doesn't come with smelly vision, seen some horrifically infected genitalia on here! |
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As unappealing as some of the more graphic genital shots are you simply cannot diagnose an STI by a picture. The genitals are sebaceous and as such can also get skin tags, spots, boils etc, some of which leave scars.
If a pic has anything you don’t like the look of just block them.
It’s a bit rich to diagnose an STI then mail them to inform them of your diagnosis |
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"No, mind your own business I'd say. Isn't it a bit like messaging over/underweight people and giving dietary advice? It wouldn't even occur to me, I just don't look at a profile again if I don't like what I see. "
You can't transmit skinny or fat, but you can transmit an STI... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No, mind your own business I'd say. Isn't it a bit like messaging over/underweight people and giving dietary advice? It wouldn't even occur to me, I just don't look at a profile again if I don't like what I see. "
Being over/underweight isn't going to potentially put someone else's health at risk though is it? |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"No, mind your own business I'd say. Isn't it a bit like messaging over/underweight people and giving dietary advice? It wouldn't even occur to me, I just don't look at a profile again if I don't like what I see.
You can't transmit skinny or fat, but you can transmit an STI... "
But you can't diagnose one from a picture. Unsolicited advice is rarely welcome. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?"
I would message them. Up to them if they sort it.  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"No, mind your own business I'd say. Isn't it a bit like messaging over/underweight people and giving dietary advice? It wouldn't even occur to me, I just don't look at a profile again if I don't like what I see.
You can't transmit skinny or fat, but you can transmit an STI...
But you can't diagnose one from a picture. Unsolicited advice is rarely welcome. "
Plus people probably photoshop out all the puss and scabs.
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?"
LOL LOL LOL fucking brilliant. Say it like you see it!!!! This is why I’m sooooooooo cautious with fab users............ |
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"As unappealing as some of the more graphic genital shots are you simply cannot diagnose an STI by a picture. The genitals are sebaceous and as such can also get skin tags, spots, boils etc, some of which leave scars.
If a pic has anything you don’t like the look of just block them.
It’s a bit rich to diagnose an STI then mail them to inform them of your diagnosis"
I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out" |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"No, mind your own business I'd say. Isn't it a bit like messaging over/underweight people and giving dietary advice? It wouldn't even occur to me, I just don't look at a profile again if I don't like what I see.
You can't transmit skinny or fat, but you can transmit an STI...
But you can't diagnose one from a picture. Unsolicited advice is rarely welcome.
Plus people probably photoshop out all the puss and scabs.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've done a thread about someone on this site who has herpes and amazing how popular she is.  "
i still dont know who your on about.
but blimey, whats going on eh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have added someone with pics like that to my hotlist, just so I can block anyone that plays with them. They posted one, very obvious pic of genital warts, about a week before having a gb too. Makes me think that not everyone cares if they get something, or pass something on
Would this statement be considered gossiping?
Or facts"
The first part is fact... And as I haven't said who I am talking about then, is it classed as gossip?! I am not telling it to get a reaction from an audience, nor telling an untruth to do so. The last sentence was in fact a personal concern, so... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As unappealing as some of the more graphic genital shots are you simply cannot diagnose an STI by a picture. The genitals are sebaceous and as such can also get skin tags, spots, boils etc, some of which leave scars.
If a pic has anything you don’t like the look of just block them.
It’s a bit rich to diagnose an STI then mail them to inform them of your diagnosis
I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out" "
You truly amaze me.....
You come on every thread and moan about women getting abuse from men and now you say you wouldn’t mind getting unsolicited advice about your sexual health from strangers....
You can’t make this up..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have added someone with pics like that to my hotlist, just so I can block anyone that plays with them. They posted one, very obvious pic of genital warts, about a week before having a gb too. Makes me think that not everyone cares if they get something, or pass something on
Would this statement be considered gossiping?
Or facts
The first part is fact... And as I haven't said who I am talking about then, is it classed as gossip?! I am not telling it to get a reaction from an audience, nor telling an untruth to do so. The last sentence was in fact a personal concern, so..."
Fair play..... you do know this statement opens pandora’s Box and can lead to gossiping about this person...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have added someone with pics like that to my hotlist, just so I can block anyone that plays with them. They posted one, very obvious pic of genital warts, about a week before having a gb too. Makes me think that not everyone cares if they get something, or pass something on
Would this statement be considered gossiping?
Or facts
The first part is fact... And as I haven't said who I am talking about then, is it classed as gossip?! I am not telling it to get a reaction from an audience, nor telling an untruth to do so. The last sentence was in fact a personal concern, so...
Fair play..... you do know this statement opens pandora’s Box and can lead to gossiping about this person......"
Do you know who it is from my statement?! |
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"As unappealing as some of the more graphic genital shots are you simply cannot diagnose an STI by a picture. The genitals are sebaceous and as such can also get skin tags, spots, boils etc, some of which leave scars.
If a pic has anything you don’t like the look of just block them.
It’s a bit rich to diagnose an STI then mail them to inform them of your diagnosis
I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out"
You truly amaze me.....
You come on every thread and moan about women getting abuse from men and now you say you wouldn’t mind getting unsolicited advice about your sexual health from strangers....
You can’t make this up....."
I don't want threats, harassment, or insults. I've had quite a lot. (and every thread, really?)
I'm not sure how a take it or leave it heads up is even remotely the same. Particularly given the "kindly worded" bit I specifically said. I've had heads up about all sorts of things and people, and I've always appreciated the information. |
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?
LOL LOL LOL fucking brilliant. Say it like you see it!!!! This is why I’m sooooooooo cautious with fab users............"
Cos of course, people that arent on Fab are ok?
All those people out having casual sex over Christmas are just fine?  
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?
LOL LOL LOL fucking brilliant. Say it like you see it!!!! This is why I’m sooooooooo cautious with fab users............
Cos of course, people that arent on Fab are ok?
All those people out having casual sex over Christmas are just fine?
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Touché, but this kind of shit could spread like wildfire in a community. |
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"Maybe the site should have a certified Dr as an admin, and part of the t&c's should state if the doctor spots something iffy, he will pm you. But thank God the web doesn't come with smelly vision, seen some horrifically infected genitalia on here!"
I was actually thinking this would be a really good idea! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As unappealing as some of the more graphic genital shots are you simply cannot diagnose an STI by a picture. The genitals are sebaceous and as such can also get skin tags, spots, boils etc, some of which leave scars.
If a pic has anything you don’t like the look of just block them.
It’s a bit rich to diagnose an STI then mail them to inform them of your diagnosis
I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out"
You truly amaze me.....
You come on every thread and moan about women getting abuse from men and now you say you wouldn’t mind getting unsolicited advice about your sexual health from strangers....
You can’t make this up.....
I don't want threats, harassment, or insults. I've had quite a lot. (and every thread, really?)
I'm not sure how a take it or leave it heads up is even remotely the same. Particularly given the "kindly worded" bit I specifically said. I've had heads up about all sorts of things and people, and I've always appreciated the information. "
So if kindly mailed you and said....
Excuse me , I saw your profile pictures. And out of concern for the swinging community, please get yourself checked out at the local Sti clinic immediately... you have warts around your vagina and a creamy discharge can be seen in your pics... thank you and have a Merry Christmas....
This unsolicited advice would be cool in your book? |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"As unappealing as some of the more graphic genital shots are you simply cannot diagnose an STI by a picture. The genitals are sebaceous and as such can also get skin tags, spots, boils etc, some of which leave scars.
If a pic has anything you don’t like the look of just block them.
It’s a bit rich to diagnose an STI then mail them to inform them of your diagnosis
I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out"
You truly amaze me.....
You come on every thread and moan about women getting abuse from men and now you say you wouldn’t mind getting unsolicited advice about your sexual health from strangers....
You can’t make this up.....
I don't want threats, harassment, or insults. I've had quite a lot. (and every thread, really?)
I'm not sure how a take it or leave it heads up is even remotely the same. Particularly given the "kindly worded" bit I specifically said. I've had heads up about all sorts of things and people, and I've always appreciated the information.
So if kindly mailed you and said....
Excuse me , I saw your profile pictures. And out of concern for the swinging community, please get yourself checked out at the local Sti clinic immediately... you have warts around your vagina and a creamy discharge can be seen in your pics... thank you and have a Merry Christmas....
This unsolicited advice would be cool in your book?"
The Merry Christmas might rescue it |
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"I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out" "
Exactly. Can't we all be adults for once?
No one is going to diagnose anyone online with certainty, but some of this stuff isn't rocket science and easily detectable by those in the know... And surely a word of caution to get it checked is surely not offensive? It's not like your boss walks to you and tells you so in front of everyone at work - this is an anonymous online forum for chrissake! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?
Do you think they'd take notice if you did?
I can't imagine many people reacting well to a "you look as if you have a sti" message.
If you feel you need to then go ahead, personally I'd leave it."
Was gonna laugh then thought oops maybe they'll think it's me with an STI
But to clear this up, pun intended, I like my stallion's to wear a cape  |
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"I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out"
Exactly. Can't we all be adults for once?
No one is going to diagnose anyone online with certainty, but some of this stuff isn't rocket science and easily detectable by those in the know... And surely a word of caution to get it checked is surely not offensive? It's not like your boss walks to you and tells you so in front of everyone at work - this is an anonymous online forum for chrissake! "
So we should all look at profiles and give unsolicited advice to strangers about their sexual health.....
Ok I got you.....
I’ll start politely messaging every women and couple I deem overweight to get to the doctors and check their BMI and cholesterol levels because I don’t want them to have a heart attack or stroke while having sex....
That’s the adult thing to do...
Thank you
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"As unappealing as some of the more graphic genital shots are you simply cannot diagnose an STI by a picture. The genitals are sebaceous and as such can also get skin tags, spots, boils etc, some of which leave scars.
If a pic has anything you don’t like the look of just block them.
It’s a bit rich to diagnose an STI then mail them to inform them of your diagnosis
I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out"
You truly amaze me.....
You come on every thread and moan about women getting abuse from men and now you say you wouldn’t mind getting unsolicited advice about your sexual health from strangers....
You can’t make this up.....
I don't want threats, harassment, or insults. I've had quite a lot. (and every thread, really?)
I'm not sure how a take it or leave it heads up is even remotely the same. Particularly given the "kindly worded" bit I specifically said. I've had heads up about all sorts of things and people, and I've always appreciated the information.
So if kindly mailed you and said....
Excuse me , I saw your profile pictures. And out of concern for the swinging community, please get yourself checked out at the local Sti clinic immediately... you have warts around your vagina and a creamy discharge can be seen in your pics... thank you and have a Merry Christmas....
This unsolicited advice would be cool in your book?"
This is the best so far!!! |
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"I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out"
Exactly. Can't we all be adults for once?
No one is going to diagnose anyone online with certainty, but some of this stuff isn't rocket science and easily detectable by those in the know... And surely a word of caution to get it checked is surely not offensive? It's not like your boss walks to you and tells you so in front of everyone at work - this is an anonymous online forum for chrissake! "
So you can diagnose that someone has an std?
I can imagine someone messaging me telling me I have one.
I have folliculomas and Fordyce spots. I suffer ingrown hairs as well as the tumours.
To think then if people would going round gossiping telling people I have an std when it's not the case for which I get tested regularly because I'm responsible even though I use condoms I'd be upset to say the least.
Not to mention I scar easily and have vaginal and anal scarring I already have a complex about my body
Add on the the finger nail scars I've had from people who don't file their nails and cuts from jewellery because they think finger blasting a vagina is a good idea because they've seen it in porn
I try to point these out in photos to people scars don't show well in photos
So hopefully it's not a shock when I meet them
But if you want to judge from a picture something that could be something else and spread that rumour and gossip feel free
Destroy a person ruin their confidence which will set off a chain of events. But you'll be happy you won't care you'll sleep at night
Not giving a shit how much you destroy a person because you won't see the end result of it
At this time of year suicides are at its peak. Imagine destroying their life over something as innocent as shavers rash or other nontransmitable issues.
Cruelty at its worst think before you hurt someone |
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"So we should all look at profiles and give unsolicited advice to strangers about their sexual health.....
Ok I got you.....
I’ll start politely messaging every women and couple I deem overweight to get to the doctors and check their BMI and cholesterol levels because I don’t want them to have a heart attack or stroke while having sex....
That’s the adult thing to do...
Thank you
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An asinine comment. I won't become skinny or fat by sleeping with someone who is. STIs, on the other hand... |
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"I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out"
Exactly. Can't we all be adults for once?
No one is going to diagnose anyone online with certainty, but some of this stuff isn't rocket science and easily detectable by those in the know... And surely a word of caution to get it checked is surely not offensive? It's not like your boss walks to you and tells you so in front of everyone at work - this is an anonymous online forum for chrissake!
So you can diagnose that someone has an std?
I can imagine someone messaging me telling me I have one.
I have folliculomas and Fordyce spots. I suffer ingrown hairs as well as the tumours.
To think then if people would going round gossiping telling people I have an std when it's not the case for which I get tested regularly because I'm responsible even though I use condoms I'd be upset to say the least.
Not to mention I scar easily and have vaginal and anal scarring I already have a complex about my body
Add on the the finger nail scars I've had from people who don't file their nails and cuts from jewellery because they think finger blasting a vagina is a good idea because they've seen it in porn
I try to point these out in photos to people scars don't show well in photos
So hopefully it's not a shock when I meet them
But if you want to judge from a picture something that could be something else and spread that rumour and gossip feel free
Destroy a person ruin their confidence which will set off a chain of events. But you'll be happy you won't care you'll sleep at night
Not giving a shit how much you destroy a person because you won't see the end result of it
At this time of year suicides are at its peak. Imagine destroying their life over something as innocent as shavers rash or other nontransmitable issues.
Cruelty at its worst think before you hurt someone"
How fatalistic.
No one is advocating gossiping to anyone, just telling the person directly... Precisely to tackle the problem head on, rather than letting rumours be created. You can politely decline or ignore that message - just like I'm sure you'll have to do with unrelated messages if you're inundated. |
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it starts with this. then all the people who are married and not declaring this on profiles are the next target and so on.
i understand people wishing to help and message the person in question but they may return with a fuck off or mind your own business, then what?
all you can do is stay clear of anyone you suspect. |
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"So we should all look at profiles and give unsolicited advice to strangers about their sexual health.....
Ok I got you.....
I’ll start politely messaging every women and couple I deem overweight to get to the doctors and check their BMI and cholesterol levels because I don’t want them to have a heart attack or stroke while having sex....
That’s the adult thing to do...
Thank you
An asinine comment. I won't become skinny or fat by sleeping with someone who is. STIs, on the other hand... "
But you could have someone die of a heart attack or stroke while sleeping with you....
Good advice is good advice....
We can’t just stop at sti’s advice, we should give our medical opinions on people having unprotected sex , and smokers... |
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"it starts with this. then all the people who are married and not declaring this on profiles are the next target and so on.
i understand people wishing to help and message the person in question but they may return with a fuck off or mind your own business, then what?
all you can do is stay clear of anyone you suspect. "
If I was walking down the street and someone walked over to me to say, "Mate, a pigeon shat down the back of your jacket. Did you realise?"...
Yes I'd be embarrassed at first, but also grateful.
We all handle feedback differently I guess.
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"I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out"
Exactly. Can't we all be adults for once?
No one is going to diagnose anyone online with certainty, but some of this stuff isn't rocket science and easily detectable by those in the know... And surely a word of caution to get it checked is surely not offensive? It's not like your boss walks to you and tells you so in front of everyone at work - this is an anonymous online forum for chrissake!
So you can diagnose that someone has an std?
I can imagine someone messaging me telling me I have one.
I have folliculomas and Fordyce spots. I suffer ingrown hairs as well as the tumours.
To think then if people would going round gossiping telling people I have an std when it's not the case for which I get tested regularly because I'm responsible even though I use condoms I'd be upset to say the least.
Not to mention I scar easily and have vaginal and anal scarring I already have a complex about my body
Add on the the finger nail scars I've had from people who don't file their nails and cuts from jewellery because they think finger blasting a vagina is a good idea because they've seen it in porn
I try to point these out in photos to people scars don't show well in photos
So hopefully it's not a shock when I meet them
But if you want to judge from a picture something that could be something else and spread that rumour and gossip feel free
Destroy a person ruin their confidence which will set off a chain of events. But you'll be happy you won't care you'll sleep at night
Not giving a shit how much you destroy a person because you won't see the end result of it
At this time of year suicides are at its peak. Imagine destroying their life over something as innocent as shavers rash or other nontransmitable issues.
Cruelty at its worst think before you hurt someone
How fatalistic.
No one is advocating gossiping to anyone, just telling the person directly... Precisely to tackle the problem head on, rather than letting rumours be created. You can politely decline or ignore that message - just like I'm sure you'll have to do with unrelated messages if you're inundated. "
Have you not seen the increase in posts regarding depression and lack of self esteem and confidence
People's loneliness and them reaching out.
Yet people think that their words have no impact on others, snide and totally unnecessary comments about what a person looks like, don't like it don't look simple.
How wrong you are to think you're entitled to tell people your opinion of their body
Don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all.
In regards to pointing out safe sex, not many have the knowledge or believe myths like having a cut cock no foreskin means you won't get stds, sharing the knowledge to hopefully encourage them how to be responsible is not the same as telling them you think someone has an std
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"it starts with this. then all the people who are married and not declaring this on profiles are the next target and so on.
i understand people wishing to help and message the person in question but they may return with a fuck off or mind your own business, then what?
all you can do is stay clear of anyone you suspect.
If I was walking down the street and someone walked over to me to say, "Mate, a pigeon shat down the back of your jacket. Did you realise?"...
Yes I'd be embarrassed at first, but also grateful.
We all handle feedback differently I guess.
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help as well. i gave a large coffee to a homeless guy laying down outside a shop.
he threw it down in anger and told me to fuck off.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"out of interest exactly which infections treatable with antibiotics are able to be diagnosed by photograph? "
Personally I think it is no different to the generic body shaming and bullying we see every day
Every body, every genital and every body function is different - who is anyone to judge or make assumptions about how someone looks or how their body works?
I would be mortified if someone sent me that message no matter how well they dressed it up
People end up doing drastic things for far less
If it's not affecting you personally leave well alone
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"out of interest exactly which infections treatable with antibiotics are able to be diagnosed by photograph?
Personally I think it is no different to the generic body shaming and bullying we see every day
Every body, every genital and every body function is different - who is anyone to judge or make assumptions about how someone looks or how their body works?
I would be mortified if someone sent me that message no matter how well they dressed it up
People end up doing drastic things for far less
If it's not affecting you personally leave well alone
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"If you're talking about vaginal discharge it changes through out the monthly cycle
It's different for everyone how their cycle is. Google what's normal
Also don't forget lubes also I have several from silky opaque to clear and jelly like
Can't assume they have an infection because it looks different"
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"If you're talking about vaginal discharge it changes through out the monthly cycle
It's different for everyone how their cycle is. Google what's normal
Also don't forget lubes also I have several from silky opaque to clear and jelly like
Can't assume they have an infection because it looks different"
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Wow did that get heavy in no time at all..leaping from should I try to help or keep shtum to you'll provoke suicides in that glorious over-reaching and over-reacting arc that is usually the path on these posts.
Can we lighten it up a bit people, it is Christmas after all?
Here's my bit: Can we stop calling it an STD! As an engineer from the older generation the first translation that leaps into my head is "Subscriber Trunk Dialling".
Ex-GPO types on here will know what that was. |
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"I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out"
Exactly. Can't we all be adults for once?
No one is going to diagnose anyone online with certainty, but some of this stuff isn't rocket science and easily detectable by those in the know... And surely a word of caution to get it checked is surely not offensive? It's not like your boss walks to you and tells you so in front of everyone at work - this is an anonymous online forum for chrissake!
So we should all look at profiles and give unsolicited advice to strangers about their sexual health.....
Ok I got you.....
I’ll start politely messaging every women and couple I deem overweight to get to the doctors and check their BMI and cholesterol levels because I don’t want them to have a heart attack or stroke while having sex....
That’s the adult thing to do...
Thank you
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You're just trolling now. STIs can be undetected by the person who has them, can be transmitted to other Fab members, and can usually be cured by proper medical attention. This is clearly very different to the scenario you've come up with above. |
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over a year ago
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"No, mind your own business I'd say. Isn't it a bit like messaging over/underweight people and giving dietary advice? It wouldn't even occur to me, I just don't look at a profile again if I don't like what I see. "
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over a year ago
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Personally I wouldn't contact the person in question because I'm not medically qualified to diagnose anything. If I had concerns I would just avoid the person. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
Personally, I have zero clue how anyone, bar potentially a trained sexual health nurse, could possibly diagnose an STD from a photo. I have an ingrown hair on my fanny, which has caused a bump. This, in turn, has made me too self conscious to even show in my friends pics. Apparently, from this thread, I was correct to do so as there is an army of well-meaning do-gooders just waiting in that wings to pounce on me and tell me I have an STI.
Cheers guys, I was already self conscious about this. Thanks for inflating it to a full grown paranoia. |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"Most of time chlamydia has no symptoms, I'm off to message all the ones with "normal" looking bits & tell them to get checked up too "
I’d get a life if I was you
All adults on here so no need for you to worry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The fact you have asked the question shows you have concerns for the persons in question , you don’t need the opinion of others do what makes you feel comfortable and what you thinks right , it’s always going to be subjective , but as a community why shouldn’t we look out for each other . |
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"I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out"
Exactly. Can't we all be adults for once?
No one is going to diagnose anyone online with certainty, but some of this stuff isn't rocket science and easily detectable by those in the know... And surely a word of caution to get it checked is surely not offensive? It's not like your boss walks to you and tells you so in front of everyone at work - this is an anonymous online forum for chrissake!
So we should all look at profiles and give unsolicited advice to strangers about their sexual health.....
Ok I got you.....
I’ll start politely messaging every women and couple I deem overweight to get to the doctors and check their BMI and cholesterol levels because I don’t want them to have a heart attack or stroke while having sex....
That’s the adult thing to do...
Thank you
You're just trolling now. STIs can be undetected by the person who has them, can be transmitted to other Fab members, and can usually be cured by proper medical attention. This is clearly very different to the scenario you've come up with above. "
Please fine Sir ... If you would like to intelligently converse with me... please address me with a civil tongue.....
Now you might not see the point I was trying make about being a adult in your rush to try to get some sex.....
When on a site looking to meet others.... who am I to email someone unsolicitedly to give them advice on something I found distasteful about their pictures....
So in turn I decided to call the people out that believe this behavior is ok......
If you find this behavior appropriate... I will respect you for your opinion... If I don’t , all I ask is for you to respect my opinion....
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"Personally, I have zero clue how anyone, bar potentially a trained sexual health nurse, could possibly diagnose an STD from a photo. I have an ingrown hair on my fanny, which has caused a bump. This, in turn, has made me too self conscious to even show in my friends pics. Apparently, from this thread, I was correct to do so as there is an army of well-meaning do-gooders just waiting in that wings to pounce on me and tell me I have an STI.
Cheers guys, I was already self conscious about this. Thanks for inflating it to a full grown paranoia. "
You have such a way with words.... I’m truly starting to feel a twinge of jealousy.... |
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"I can't speak for others, but I'd probably appreciate a kindly worded "hey, you might want to get that checked out"
Exactly. Can't we all be adults for once?
No one is going to diagnose anyone online with certainty, but some of this stuff isn't rocket science and easily detectable by those in the know... And surely a word of caution to get it checked is surely not offensive? It's not like your boss walks to you and tells you so in front of everyone at work - this is an anonymous online forum for chrissake!
So we should all look at profiles and give unsolicited advice to strangers about their sexual health.....
Ok I got you.....
I’ll start politely messaging every women and couple I deem overweight to get to the doctors and check their BMI and cholesterol levels because I don’t want them to have a heart attack or stroke while having sex....
That’s the adult thing to do...
Thank you
You're just trolling now. STIs can be undetected by the person who has them, can be transmitted to other Fab members, and can usually be cured by proper medical attention. This is clearly very different to the scenario you've come up with above. "
If the STI is undetectable to the person who has it how are you going to detect it from a picture?
I have no idea which pics this thread is about but if it's someone oozing gonorreah pus or has visible sores or warts then it's not "undetectable" to them.
Any way on topic and less bitchy.
Std testing kits can be ordered from.the website of your local (or not local for the paranoid) clinic these are completed at home and posted bsck your results will arrive in a couple of weeks.
Handy for anyone who's not sure, doesn't want to waste an appointment (seriously who designed gum clinic opening hours) or is a bit shy.
Same for your treatment once you have you're results something like lloyds or Superdrug online doctor can have your perscription done by online form and either posted to you or you can pick it up from your local pharmacy.
It's all quite convinent Now days, every three months* have your kit delivered and send it off and have some peace of mind.
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over a year ago
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"I've done a thread about someone on this site who has herpes and amazing how popular she is.
Shocking. "
Indeed you'd think he'd be banned for spreading rumours like that.
Are threads accusing other members of having STD's ok now then?
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"I've done a thread about someone on this site who has herpes and amazing how popular she is.
Shocking.
Indeed you'd think he'd be banned for spreading rumours like that.
Are threads accusing other members of having STD's ok now then?
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It's not a rumour if is stipulated on a profile though is it. |
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"I've done a thread about someone on this site who has herpes and amazing how popular she is.
Shocking.
Indeed you'd think he'd be banned for spreading rumours like that.
That's true, when we first came on
Are threads accusing other members of having STD's ok now then?
It's not a rumour if is stipulated on a profile though is it. "
That's true! When we first came on here there was a profile stating that they had a sti! Very brave. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"I've done a thread about someone on this site who has herpes and amazing how popular she is.
Shocking.
Indeed you'd think he'd be banned for spreading rumours like that.
That's true, when we first came on
Are threads accusing other members of having STD's ok now then?
It's not a rumour if is stipulated on a profile though is it.
That's true! When we first came on here there was a profile stating that they had a sti! Very brave. "
Think it's a requirement by law, can be done for GBH. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most of time chlamydia has no symptoms, I'm off to message all the ones with "normal" looking bits & tell them to get checked up too
I’d get a life if I was you
All adults on here so no need for you to worry"
You can get your sarcasm detector checked while you're there x |
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Reading through this thread has made me
You do realise even a Dr wouldnt diagnose a sti without strong lab evidence to back it up so the fact that non medical fabber are diagnosing via a photo makes me highly amused.
Hsv a Dr would only diagnose via doing a swab at the time a infection is present. - the infection needs to be present to test for the virus accurately
Most people who worry about genital warts actually have just skin tags
Syphilis shows a sore usually.
Hiv doesn't usually show symptoms
Chlamydia rarely shows symptoms and even when it does it can be mistaken for thrush
gonorrhoea sometimes show symptoms, men will often get a yellow/green discharge but again many don't get symptoms
The other one that clinics don't test for (unless symptomatic) but is often seen during smear tests is trichomonas and again it often doesn't show symptoms or shows a frothy discharge. Or again itching the same as thrush.
It just interests me the amount of wannabe drs on fab. And no I won't disclose in a public forum why I have so much information but I can assure you it's not because I have anything 
The best you can do for your own sexual health is take care of yourself. If having casual sex have 3 monthly testing and make sure that you request oral swabs too. 3 monthly is ideal because although most bloods can be obtained after a month incubation periods are up to 3 months so it's a waste of resources to have more. |
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?"
Lmao.... totally agree with you. After the thread I started a little while ago this is another contentious issue.
Tbh..... I wouldn’t bother you would only get a load of abuse. Just steer clear of them
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"Well said.
However I was at a club recently and witnessed a lot of unprotected penetration occurring. Seems that a lot of apathy occurring. Worrying! "
I was talking about a similar thing on a thread I started about BB sex, especially multiple BB gangbangs and got harangued for it lol |
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"Have to say that what started out as a bit of tongue in cheek humour got very serious!"
Maybe you need lessons in humour as well as
Sexual health? You were saying about messaging people saying they need antibiotics and obviously have a sti.... Didn't sound very tongue in cheek to every one else |
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"Well said.
However I was at a club recently and witnessed a lot of unprotected penetration occurring. Seems that a lot of apathy occurring. Worrying!
I was talking about a similar thing on a thread I started about BB sex, especially multiple BB gangbangs and got harangued for it lol"
Harangued? Is that what we call it nowadays when people have a different opinion? |
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?
Lmao.... totally agree with you. After the thread I started a little while ago this is another contentious issue.
Tbh..... I wouldn’t bother you would only get a load of abuse. Just steer clear of them
X"
Realise this now!! The whole fucking thread has been hilarious, at least taken mind off BREXIT anyway xx |
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?
Lmao.... totally agree with you. After the thread I started a little while ago this is another contentious issue.
Tbh..... I wouldn’t bother you would only get a load of abuse. Just steer clear of them
X"
Where's the abuse?
I'd suggest you look up the term before throwing it around like confetti.
A differing opinion is not abuse. |
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"Well said.
However I was at a club recently and witnessed a lot of unprotected penetration occurring. Seems that a lot of apathy occurring. Worrying!
I was talking about a similar thing on a thread I started about BB sex, especially multiple BB gangbangs and got harangued for it lol
Harangued? Is that what we call it nowadays when people have a different opinion?"
Some of the comments weren’t just opinions.
Opinions are like arseholes .... everybody has one and they all stink lol |
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"Looking at new pics and notice on some of the more graphic one's that the odd one or two could do with a dose of antibiotics! Would it be appropriate to pm them?
Lmao.... totally agree with you. After the thread I started a little while ago this is another contentious issue.
Tbh..... I wouldn’t bother you would only get a load of abuse. Just steer clear of them
X
Where's the abuse?
I'd suggest you look up the term before throwing it around like confetti.
A differing opinion is not abuse. "
I meant if the person who started the thread sent a message to the people concerned then they would get a load of abuse in return. Lighten up the thread wasn’t serious |
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By *lk GuyMan
over a year ago
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I kinda get where she coming from if it looks like warts but unless they do a test it might be nothing...other sti don’t show signs some people don’t even know they got anything
My advice is protect yourself
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"Reading through this thread has made me
You do realise even a Dr wouldnt diagnose a sti without strong lab evidence to back it up so the fact that non medical fabber are diagnosing via a photo makes me highly amused.
Hsv a Dr would only diagnose via doing a swab at the time a infection is present. - the infection needs to be present to test for the virus accurately
Most people who worry about genital warts actually have just skin tags
Syphilis shows a sore usually.
Hiv doesn't usually show symptoms
Chlamydia rarely shows symptoms and even when it does it can be mistaken for thrush
gonorrhoea sometimes show symptoms, men will often get a yellow/green discharge but again many don't get symptoms
The other one that clinics don't test for (unless symptomatic) but is often seen during smear tests is trichomonas and again it often doesn't show symptoms or shows a frothy discharge. Or again itching the same as thrush.
It just interests me the amount of wannabe drs on fab. And no I won't disclose in a public forum why I have so much information but I can assure you it's not because I have anything
The best you can do for your own sexual health is take care of yourself. If having casual sex have 3 monthly testing and make sure that you request oral swabs too. 3 monthly is ideal because although most bloods can be obtained after a month incubation periods are up to 3 months so it's a waste of resources to have more. "
This is the most sensable and well informed post on this thread. If only there were more people like this on fab our block button would not be worn out!
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