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How long before you go bareback
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The First time we meet and have sex .....
Obviously......"
Lol I like to be responsible and play safe but if meeting regularly I'd prefer bareback nothing better than cumming inside someone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would never go bareback for anyone than each other no matter how well we know the people we play with.
We waited several months and after getting tested and finding alternative contraception before considering this option.
What I did find was that skin condoms where the closest thing to bareback and getting the right size matters.
Eski |
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We have never done it but we have thought about it. The thing that worries us is the cumming inside, even accidentally.
Guys, including Him, can maybe get a bit carried away and cum before they can pull out. Don't like that idea at all  I like to see the guy cum, and it's all over my belly or boobs even better  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never..
it’s not an option with anyone from here. "
Well I only bareback with swingers that get tested every 3 months and don’t bareback with anyone but myself..... |
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It's not about how long you're with an FWB that determines whether or not you go BB. It's more about how much of a risk the person your with is, and how much risk you're willing to take.
If you know you're both clean (e.g. recently tested), and you're exclusive to eachother, then the risk is a lot lower than if you continued to play with others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not about how long you're with an FWB that determines whether or not you go BB. It's more about how much of a risk the person your with is, and how much risk you're willing to take.
If you know you're both clean (e.g. recently tested), and you're exclusive to eachother, then the risk is a lot lower than if you continued to play with others."
That sounds very sensible. |
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We've being seeing the same guy for 11 years, whenever he's in our area.
So many meets, so many fantasies realised, so many condoms used
We'd all love to do BB if we could I'm sure, but the risks are so high it's just not worth the aggro. So BB is exclusively between the two of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not about how long you're with an FWB that determines whether or not you go BB. It's more about how much of a risk the person your with is, and how much risk you're willing to take.
If you know you're both clean (e.g. recently tested), and you're exclusive to eachother, then the risk is a lot lower than if you continued to play with others."
But if you read some comments on this thread....
Some people will never bareback with a swinger....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not about how long you're with an FWB that determines whether or not you go BB. It's more about how much of a risk the person your with is, and how much risk you're willing to take.
If you know you're both clean (e.g. recently tested), and you're exclusive to eachother, then the risk is a lot lower than if you continued to play with others."
Honesty plays a big part. My wife and I used condoms for the first 3 months, then went bareback (with contraceptive Pill) thereafter.
I thought we were monogamous and exclusive but it wasn't until she passed away, I discovered she'd casually fucked 3 other guys behind my back, during the first 8 years of our 25 year relationship.
Obviously when I found out, I got tested ASAP (thankfully all clear) but without truth, openess & demonstrable caution on all sides, then you can't be sure |
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"We've being seeing the same guy for 11 years, whenever he's in our area.
So many meets, so many fantasies realised, so many condoms used
We'd all love to do BB if we could I'm sure, but the risks are so high it's just not worth the aggro. So BB is exclusively between the two of us. "
the risks are so high? Care to expand on that with evidence? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Was a long time before we tried it with the same person we had meet regularly.
Wasnt the type to sleep with anything that had a pulse, so were confidant with the test results |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's not about how long you're with an FWB that determines whether or not you go BB. It's more about how much of a risk the person your with is, and how much risk you're willing to take.
If you know you're both clean (e.g. recently tested), and you're exclusive to eachother, then the risk is a lot lower than if you continued to play with others.
Honesty plays a big part. My wife and I used condoms for the first 3 months, then went bareback (with contraceptive Pill) thereafter.
I thought we were monogamous and exclusive but it wasn't until she passed away, I discovered she'd casually fucked 3 other guys behind my back, during the first 8 years of our 25 year relationship.
Obviously when I found out, I got tested ASAP (thankfully all clear) but without truth, openess & demonstrable caution on all sides, then you can't be sure "
Sorry to read of her passing, how did you find out after all that time? How did you cope with it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of The problems with it is, how would you know if the person you were considering going bareback with, was fucking multiple partners (bareback) or not? Present or past!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One of The problems with it is, how would you know if the person you were considering going bareback with, was fucking multiple partners (bareback) or not? Present or past!!"
Yes totally with you on that as I have experienced it and found out I wasn’t the only one although agreed to be exclusive big lesson learnt x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"...I thought we were monogamous and exclusive but it wasn't until she passed away, I discovered she'd casually fucked 3 other guys behind my back, during the first 8 years of our 25 year relationship.
Obviously when I found out, I got tested ASAP (thankfully all clear) but without truth, openess & demonstrable caution on all sides, then you can't be sure
Sorry to read of her passing, how did you find out after all that time? How did you cope with it? "
She kept 30+ years of diaries. I had to write her eulogy, so checked diaries for facts/dates (school, work, friends, etc).
Found out more than I expected. She wrote *everything* down.
In the weeks leading up to the funeral, there were a lot of conflicting emotions. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"...I thought we were monogamous and exclusive but it wasn't until she passed away, I discovered she'd casually fucked 3 other guys behind my back, during the first 8 years of our 25 year relationship.
Obviously when I found out, I got tested ASAP (thankfully all clear) but without truth, openess & demonstrable caution on all sides, then you can't be sure
Sorry to read of her passing, how did you find out after all that time? How did you cope with it?
She kept 30+ years of diaries. I had to write her eulogy, so checked diaries for facts/dates (school, work, friends, etc).
Found out more than I expected. She wrote *everything* down.
In the weeks leading up to the funeral, there were a lot of conflicting emotions."
Hard one to get your head round mate hope you are at peace with it all now, I assume you had been faithful in that time? |
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"We've being seeing the same guy for 11 years, whenever he's in our area.
So many meets, so many fantasies realised, so many condoms used
We'd all love to do BB if we could I'm sure, but the risks are so high it's just not worth the aggro. So BB is exclusively between the two of us. the risks are so high? Care to expand on that with evidence? "
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"We've being seeing the same guy for 11 years, whenever he's in our area.
So many meets, so many fantasies realised, so many condoms used
We'd all love to do BB if we could I'm sure, but the risks are so high it's just not worth the aggro. So BB is exclusively between the two of us. the risks are so high? Care to expand on that with evidence? "
Yet to see what the evidence of risks are? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the issue with BB isnt just "im tested so your safe" i many would say well you can catch something giving a blowjob.
The issue for me is how I would feel having got a swinger pregnant that id met once, twice or a few times, or having a gf/wife, and having got the girl we met pregnant.
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" Care to expand on that with evidence? "
https://www.gov.uk/government/news/new-data-reveals-420000-cases-of-stis-diagnosed-in-2017
syphilis - on the rise 20%
gonorrhoea - on the rise 22%
chlamydia - 8% decrease
The most common STD's by % in the UK are:
Chlamydia is the most common bacterial STI diagnosed in England (accounting for 46.1% of all STIs diagnosed in 2015). ...
Genital herpes
Genital warts
Gonorrhoea
Syphilis
You don't have to believe me, but do you believe the health professionals?
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"I think the issue with BB isnt just "im tested so your safe" i many would say well you can catch something giving a blowjob.
The issue for me is how I would feel having got a swinger pregnant that id met once, twice or a few times, or having a gf/wife, and having got the girl we met pregnant.
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I had a vasectomy years ago  |
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"We've being seeing the same guy for 11 years, whenever he's in our area.
So many meets, so many fantasies realised, so many condoms used
We'd all love to do BB if we could I'm sure, but the risks are so high it's just not worth the aggro. So BB is exclusively between the two of us. the risks are so high? Care to expand on that with evidence?
Yet to see what the evidence of risks are?"
Cannot honestly believe anyone would post saying this! come on there is plenty of info available, as to BB we say live and let live and each to their own we dont moralize (unlike many on here) but if its not safely wrapped up its not entering my love tunnel!!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never..
it’s not an option with anyone from here. What about if you fell in love and lived happy ever after? "
That doesn’t happen here....
This place is like a Irish fairytale , it never has a happy ending..... |
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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Never..
it’s not an option with anyone from here. What about if you fell in love and lived happy ever after?
That doesn’t happen here....
This place is like a Irish fairytale , it never has a happy ending....."
Unless you're Irish  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Going 'bare back' is the majority of people's preferencel and its commendable that those individuals that indulge in this practice have the sense to get tested...
But the test is only accurate at the point/time of testing... Also are you aware that the NHS is cutting the funding to Sexual Health Clinics... That will 'put the cat amongst the pigeons'.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never..
it’s not an option with anyone from here.
Right. Absolutely riddled this lot..."
Thank good we have an epidemiologist at hand to put us all right with a mathematical analysis |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I have a regular fb I prefer bareback. I don't really do one off meets and if I play in a club I always use condoms.
I get a full screening including the blood test every three months |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you have a regular 'friend with benefits' how long would you want to play safe before going bareback? "
When I fell in love with her and wanted to be exclusive. |
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By *huckzMan
over a year ago
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"We would never go bareback for anyone than each other no matter how well we know the people we play with.
We waited several months and after getting tested and finding alternative contraception before considering this option.
??
What I did find was that skin condoms where the closest thing to bareback and getting the right size matters.
Eski "
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"Going 'bare back' is the majority of people's preferencel and its commendable that those individuals that indulge in this practice have the sense to get tested...
But the test is only accurate at the point/time of testing... Also are you aware that the NHS is cutting the funding to Sexual Health Clinics... That will 'put the cat amongst the pigeons'.."
The Conservative government has cut the funding to local councils, which pay for sexual health clinics, over the last few years. For 2017/8, investment was 5% less than it was in 2013/14! Even though the government has made talk of ending austerity, service investment won't be increased to make up the shortfall - and that's if they actually do end austerity, as many things are cheap and easy to talk about. It's a false economy, to cut essential services such as these.
If someone's not barebacking, they are still at risk of other STIs and many will have caught them. Such infections include human papilloma virus (HPV), Herpes, Syphilis can still be caught whilst wearing a condom and the lesser heard about Molluscum. Many people will be asymptomatic, so it's feasible that all of the people won't know. And STI clinics don't check for all infections. Nor are all preventative treatments available or suggested - it may be worth funding yourself privately, as many people do. Condom users may prevent many problems but won't typically remain uninfected, if they have active sex lives. On a positive note, in 2017 there was an unprecedented 17% drop in new UK HIV diagnoses from 2016 and a 28% drop compared to 2015. |
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