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This site is pointless for single males...

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Does anyone else agree that this site is pretty much pointless for single blokes now? I've used the site on and off for several years and since coming back recently it's a complete nightmare. I've messaged no end of local people with polite, friendly messages and each and every one has just been deleted without being read. I've never known it quite this frustrating before....

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By *hloevtTV/TS over a year ago

norwich

Hope you have some luck mate, I found putting on a dress gets me LOADS of attention ,not just from men but also couples, strange world !!!

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

Nope.

Plenty of successful single males on site and always have been.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a slog for everyone in different ways.

But I've met some great people here, overwhelmingly single guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As you've been here before - you know fine well that a week on site is barely a blink of an eye in Fab-Time.

Your profile will barely have registered on the radar of likely meets. So don't get moody about the 'site' when your own patience is at fault.

This is probably the worst time in the year - when everyone is up to the eyes in preparation for the Silly Season - so it's not going to change just because you deigned to return to activity here.

Enjoy the season for what it's worth and let things develop.

Merry Christmas

"Does anyone else agree that this site is pretty much pointless for single blokes now? I've used the site on and off for several years and since coming back recently it's a complete nightmare. I've messaged no end of local people with polite, friendly messages and each and every one has just been deleted without being read. I've never known it quite this frustrating before....

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By *unkyFiremanMan over a year ago

Town

As others have said, it’s a challenge for everyone, just in different ways.

I’ve met some great people but it’s been hard work, the rough with the smooth.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple over a year ago

north of lincoln

If your single in the “real “world then there is probably the same reasons why you won’t find people to meet here.

We meet single guys but will only meet ones we fancy. You can’t blame the site for people not wanting to meet you.

Sex is about attraction. Make your profile attractive and you may get that message that starts the ball rolling.

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By *uciyassMan over a year ago

Leeds

It is what you bring to the table. Everyone is different and everyone’s likes are different. And not everyone here is out for a shag with anyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is what you bring to the table. Everyone is different and everyone’s likes are different. And not everyone here is out for a shag with anyone "

You speak for yaself

I'd shag pretty much anyone

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By *tace 309TV/TS over a year ago

durham

"It is what you bring to the table. Everyone is different and everyone’s likes are different. And not everyone here is out for a shag with anyone "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know the numbers but I'm guessing the site has become flooded with single male profiles, which will give you much more competition (I don't like that word, but I couldn't think of an appropriate one.) You have to up your game and put yourself out there; make yourself irresistible.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"If your single in the “real “world then there is probably the same reasons why you won’t find people to meet here.

We meet single guys but will only meet ones we fancy. You can’t blame the site for people not wanting to meet you.

Sex is about attraction. Make your profile attractive and you may get that message that starts the ball rolling. "

got it in one! no more needs be said!

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By *orkspoonMan over a year ago

nearby

"It is what you bring to the table. Everyone is different and everyone’s likes are different. And not everyone here is out for a shag with anyone "

They're not? I demand a refund!

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By *uciyassMan over a year ago

Leeds

"It is what you bring to the table. Everyone is different and everyone’s likes are different. And not everyone here is out for a shag with anyone

You speak for yaself

I'd shag pretty much anyone"

Call me 077766688890076 fuck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you been messaging all the couples and single females in the hot pics?

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

It works for many you only have to look around some single males do really well here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dial-a-gash not what it used to be?

How very dare it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each and every message deleted without being read? I'd take an educated guess that your message looked like it contained chuff all of interest which is why it got deleted and not read.

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By * AND R 777Couple over a year ago

Teesside

You have only been on the site a week, was it a bit of a shock to you that single girls and couples didnt come running to you

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I met my partner on here three and a half years ago and we are still together so it worked for him !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thought u didnt get moody at rejection

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By *oodyshere2011Man over a year ago

Midlands

I quite like it to be honest and find some nice people to chat with and found some nice friends.

Just be happy and keep smiling

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for those who have posted constructive feedback. I would just like to point out that I don't expect to be able to jump into bed with everyone, nor do I expect everyone to reply to my messages. I had just noticed that it's become even rarer recently for anyone to bother to reply to the messages I have sent. Again, thanks to those who have offered constructive feedback....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This site works perfectly well for single men, myself and my partner both recently met on here as singles and now we're together in relationship. Just because it's not working for you does not mean it's not working for everyone.

Also take into consideration the amount of messages couples and females get, sometimes its a lot lot easier to just bulk delete and start again rather than trying to attack the mountain of messages recieved.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thought u didnt get moody at rejection

Haha. No I'm not getting moody, just a little frustrated with the fact I spend time messaging people, just for them to get deleted immediately. Kind of gets a little disheartening after a while..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find it works for my needs.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"I find it works for my needs."

you hsve needs!!!!!!! lo l

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Thought u didnt get moody at rejection

Haha. No I'm not getting moody, just a little frustrated with the fact I spend time messaging people, just for them to get deleted immediately. Kind of gets a little disheartening after a while.."

Would it be less disheartening if every message resulted in a 'thanks but no thanks.' response - because the outcome is the same........

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan over a year ago

Halifax

"I met my partner on here three and a half years ago and we are still together so it worked for him ! "

Same here. But with my partner obviously lol. X

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By *erby DomCouple over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

"Thought u didnt get moody at rejection

Haha. No I'm not getting moody, just a little frustrated with the fact I spend time messaging people, just for them to get deleted immediately. Kind of gets a little disheartening after a while.."
I'm sorry but they don't owe you anything. Fab can be challenging for everyone but the trick is to just get on with it and stay positive. Or go and find a better site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So I was on here for years as a single guy.. it’s never easy finding someone you actually want to play with and then them thinking the same as you..

Now I am here as a couple things are not so different really and infact maybe even harder as we now have four people that all need to be thinking the same..so in a way everyone finds it a challenge... but a very fun one.. and along the way you make friends..

We’ve actully now decided to meet guys outside of the club environment as it’s easier to arrange so don’t give up hope..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So I was on here for years as a single guy.. it’s never easy finding someone you actually want to play with and then them thinking the same as you..

We’ve actully now decided to meet guys outside of the club environment as it’s easier to arrange so don’t give up hope..

Thank you. I appreciate your response.

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By *oppet22TV/TS over a year ago

huddersfield

I have a couple I play with all the time now if it was not for this site we would have never met so no its no pointless at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the main problem with people using the site is they think because it is a “sex” site they can get a quick hook up whenever / straightaway.

This is just not the case, the majority on here including myself are quite select with whom they meet and there’s nothing wrong with that.

I appreciate you’ve been on here before, but as a new profile having been on here just a week you’ll need more patience and up your game, go for socials, clubs etc

Plenty of men on here have lots of success, it just takes some perseverance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see the problem now I peaked at ya profile, your way too good looking

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think the main problem with people using the site is they think because it is a “sex” site they can get a quick hook up whenever / straightaway.

This is just not the case, the majority on here including myself are quite select with whom they meet and there’s nothing wrong with that.

I appreciate you’ve been on here before, but as a new profile having been on here just a week you’ll need more patience and up your game, go for socials, clubs etc

Plenty of men on here have lots of success, it just takes some perseverance

Thank you. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I see the problem now I peaked at ya profile, your way too good looking

Bless you haha. I may have to hang out in the forums a bit more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

100% agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah I can agree to an extent, it’s hard getting replies at times but I don’t let it frustrate me.. patience is a virtue and all that

Or just simply move on

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By *leaseContinueMan over a year ago

Surbiton

It's a hard slog certainly. Supply and demand aren't on our side and sudden ignoring when swapping messages is frustrating. But when you do get a good meet, it makes all that crap worth it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It can be frustrating but

Just like in the outside world you have to be patient and get to know folk. You may never click with anybody on here but you may make some good friends who in turn may introduce you to their friends etc.

You wouldn't walk up to someone in public and show em a pic of your privates or ask them for a f*ck straight off! (not saying you've done this BTW!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It can be frustrating but

You wouldn't walk up to someone in public and show em a pic of your privates or ask them for a f*ck straight off! (not saying you've done this BTW!) "

Well I did once and spent 8 Months in HMP Lincoln......Never again, haha. But yeah, I get your point mate. Perseverance is key I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It all depends what you are after!

Our experience as a couple looking for a "local" and "single" man is much the same - impossible.

As a couple, we get hundreds of e-mails from men who have not read our profile. They show no respect and treat us like a piece of meat!

We believe that most men on here are married, they want a deceitful shag, they want it now and they do not care what you look like!

We want something more than that, so I guess that this site might not be for us

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By *aughtyLittleMissWoman over a year ago

Aberdeen

No, I’ll only meet single guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It can be frustrating but

You wouldn't walk up to someone in public and show em a pic of your privates or ask them for a f*ck straight off! (not saying you've done this BTW!)

Well I did once and spent 8 Months in HMP Lincoln......Never again, haha. But yeah, I get your point mate. Perseverance is key I guess.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

Omg anther guy who think the world is against him..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It works for many you only have to look around some single males do really well here."

This, it's fucking awesome

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

"It all depends what you are after!

Our experience as a couple looking for a "local" and "single" man is much the same - impossible.

As a couple, we get hundreds of e-mails from men who have not read our profile. They show no respect and treat us like a piece of meat!

We believe that most men on here are married, they want a deceitful shag, they want it now and they do not care what you look like!

We want something more than that, so I guess that this site might not be for us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope, it worked fine for me as a a single guy. Even found my lovely Kitten on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Omg anther guy who think the world is against him.."
Not at all. I don't think the world is against me at all. I'm a very happy man with a very well paid job and I've got huge amounts to be grateful for. I was clearly stating a fact that people don't reply to messages and delete them immediately. Not really sure how you can assume that I think the world is against me from one statement I've made. Merry Christmas....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Omg anther guy who think the world is against him.. Not at all. I don't think the world is against me at all. I'm a very happy man with a very well paid job and I've got huge amounts to be grateful for. I was clearly stating a fact that people don't reply to messages and delete them immediately. Not really sure how you can assume that I think the world is against me from one statement I've made. Merry Christmas....

You've been on for a week, this site isn't a buffet line of sex. Patience is a virtue here; go to clubs and social events, get involved in the forums, make friends before trying to jump in to bed with them - it'll be a lot more fun for everyone that way too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Nope, it worked fine for me as a a single guy. Even found my lovely Kitten on here

Good stuff. I'm pleased it's worked our well for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The single ladies are all seeing someone, who, if not single men

Yes, yes seeing women and couples too, but also lovely men.

So no, not pointless

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By *arkhorse66Man over a year ago

bristol

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By *ornyAndHung4FunMan over a year ago

Lisburn

Bud you've only been here a week, patience is a virtue, ive had my fa8r share of fakes and time wasters, though i usually know pretty quickly. You have to understand that women and couples are most certainly outnumbered on here by single men.

I had a guy get really aggressive twice with me last night because i wouldnt go to his house so he could suck my cock. This site is full of people like that, so couples and women are extra careful now, as no one likes a real sexual assault.

Ive had success on here and i have failures also, but everything 8s an experience. Be patient and polite, gets you alot further

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By *inkycreamCouple over a year ago

manchester

Swinging predominantly being a couples sport, won’t help you try the clubs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Instashag is over that way ----

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Such a shame. We have invited 4 men in 6 weeks! All “came” on time and fun was had. But...luck and timing is the thing. Good luck to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I replied

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By *lwenWoman over a year ago

De12 area

"I met my partner on here three and a half years ago and we are still together so it worked for him !

Same here. But with my partner obviously lol. X"

Met mine here nearly 9years ago.. And I still meet single men alone.. But finding one is my problem..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We understand the competition but it all depends on mutual attraction.

From cpls point of view, we can only advise you to put as much as information about you can on your profile.

Cpls don't like too many cock pics, some body pics, clean shaven where it needs.

People look for respectable and classy guys.

Best wishes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You’ve just got to take your time, pick the profiles that match what you want etc and take all the advice above. That’s what I’ve done and find I’m having lots of fun now

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By *ixedblkinjectionMan over a year ago

london

It’s long....but can be worth it

I have had more than a few meets off here and for the most part it were straight to the point with not endless bck n forth

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We understand the competition but it all depends on mutual attraction.

From cpls point of view, we can only advise you to put as much as information about you can on your profile.

Cpls don't like too many cock pics, some body pics, clean shaven where it needs.

People look for respectable and classy guys.

Best wishes "

Bless you. Thank you.x

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

nope... I'm having a blast

but then i look at the site as one part of a much bigger jigsaw.... its not a single entity on its own

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman over a year ago

Dublin

If its pointless for them its odd as there does seem to be an awful lot of them on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If its pointless for them its odd as there does seem to be an awful lot of them on here.

Agreed haha!

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By *ilk_TrayMan over a year ago

South

Attend clubs and Socials

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Since pretty much everyone I’m interested in meeting is going to be a single guy I’m very happy they’re here, but of course that’s just 1 or 2 in quite a lot.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Attend clubs and Socials

I think that's the way forward in the new year.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thought u didnt get moody at rejection

Haha. No I'm not getting moody, just a little frustrated with the fact I spend time messaging people, just for them to get deleted immediately. Kind of gets a little disheartening after a while.."

just keep trying honestly have u seen how many single men there is on here

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By *ohnOvManchesterMan over a year ago

Manchester

I had a very busy period a few weeks ago mate, couples, singles it was fun.. I like the adventure/excitement of it. I’ve never been to a club I’d find that nerve wracking. I’m only here for filth, I think some people are here to find more I guess and all about feelings. I’m just here to be a sexual deviant, trust me there are others that are here for sex not just the social aspect. Each to there own either way

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By *anana JoeMan over a year ago

Sheffield

nope... I'm having a blast

but then i look at the site as one part of a much bigger jigsaw.... its not a single entity on its own"

Fabio is right but then like him many of us use clubs too and don't fully rely on just this site. You need to immerse yourself in the swinging lifestyle to get the most out of it and many single men don't for various reasons and then can't understand why its not working for them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love that on your profile you say you don't get moody and abusive over rejection, and then you do just that on the forum

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

Single male, it's working for me.

Meeting lots of nice people, having fun and enjoying the forums

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By *inful xWoman over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

You've only just rejoined so 1 week is nothing. Just from my point of view I think you'll struggle due to the time of year. I wouldn't meet anyone new in December as so many people join just for Christmas fun. A lot of ladies also have kids off now so what little time they have for meets will be spent with someone they know is going to show up.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

Remove your self from the drama then..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I love that on your profile you say you don't get moody and abusive over rejection, and then you do just that on the forum

I wasn't being moody at all. I understand it maybe came across that way. I've re read my post and I realise that. Just venting a little frustration maybe.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He does have a valid point. This site is more harder now of single guys then it used to be. And admin were far stricter. More and more sex workers using fab to sell their wears. And don't say report them it doesn't work.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do alright. Even now with a broken leg. Still waiting on the droves of sexy nurses to turn up at my door though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would not like to get into the debate of whether it is pointless for single guys but there are certainly more fakes and timewasters on the site than there used to be.

It does not take a genius to work out the chances of getting a genuine meet have dropped significantly because of it.

Through experience you are far more likely to meet GENUINE swingers at parties and group meets!

Just my opinion!

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By *unPeteMan over a year ago

Near Bristol

Chin up, still lots of genuine fun people on here!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Does anyone else agree that this site is pretty much pointless for single blokes now? "

Totaly disagree.

If it wasn't for all the gorgeous single blokes, I'd have left long ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Does anyone else agree that this site is pretty much pointless for single blokes now?

Totaly disagree.

If it wasn't for all the gorgeous single blokes, I'd have left long ago

I'm pleased you are having fun. Wasn't the best choice of words I could have come up with...x

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I find the site perfectly fine.

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By *roseley OneMan over a year ago

Borth

Just read through this thread on the forum.

It seems the single guys all doing ok are 45 or under.....

Believe me, being over 60 you really are on the sexual scrapheap.

A very large majority of members block men of my age, so it's not even possible to get rejected...lol

Although, my verifications do prove otherwise with those I have been lucky enough to meet...

I think it is now well over 100 to 1 in relation to single men to single women.

Ask any single women how many unanswered messages she has !!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont take it too seriously mate and enjoy it for what it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the OP was a single lady the majority of the replies would all be positive and asking the lady to meet.

The double standard strikes again!

It is what it is!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is what you bring to the table. Everyone is different and everyone’s likes are different. And not everyone here is out for a shag with anyone "

Exactly that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If the OP was a single lady the majority of the replies would all be positive and asking the lady to meet.

The double standard strikes again!

It is what it is!"

Very true.

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By *aid backMan over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

I beg to differ I find this site great as a single guy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you seem to be nice guy.. Just be what you are and go with the flow . There are n number of things can be done other than looking for a reply here.. like you go to events, socials.. etc etc..

good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"you seem to be nice guy.. Just be what you are and go with the flow . There are n number of things can be done other than looking for a reply here.. like you go to events, socials.. etc etc..

good luck."

Thanks a lot. You too.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"If the OP was a single lady the majority of the replies would all be positive and asking the lady to meet.

The double standard strikes again!

It is what it is!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love your profile, and I hate this site. Hope it helps

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By *ain n MableWoman over a year ago

Milton Keynes

When I had a single guys profile 6 odd years ago, I had no luck for the first 4/5 months, then once I got my first verification it opened all the doors for me, and I walked on through. I feel your pain.

Just remember it's a marathon not a sprint my friend.

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

"Just read through this thread on the forum.

It seems the single guys all doing ok are 45 or under.....

Believe me, being over 60 you really are on the sexual scrapheap.

A very large majority of members block men of my age, so it's not even possible to get rejected...lol

Although, my verifications do prove otherwise with those I have been lucky enough to meet...

I think it is now well over 100 to 1 in relation to single men to single women.

Ask any single women how many unanswered messages she has !!!!"

I know what you mean about ages.

About to turn 46, and will be blocked from messaging a lot of people.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple over a year ago

Broadstairs

Why don’t single men just join dating sites lot easier meeting women

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Works for me

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By *thwiltsmMan over a year ago

salisbury

Meeting in clubs is always going to be better than these online sites

When your chatting to someone at a club they take you as you are, the filters of being a certain age, cock size, height etc don’t come into play so much

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

I like the place. It’s a challenge but by no means impossible at all.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Why don’t single men just join dating sites lot easier meeting women "

Because they are just as crap on those as well!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why don’t single men just join dating sites lot easier meeting women

Because they are just as crap on those as well!

Perhaps. But women outnumber men in the numbers of those seeking a relationship, therefore they'd get more attention, crap or not.

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Meeting in clubs is always going to be better than these online sites

When your chatting to someone at a club they take you as you are, the filters of being a certain age, cock size, height etc don’t come into play so much"

Very true.

In all my/our club visits over the years I've never been asked my age, height, sexual preference or whether I can accommodate or not.

And never had to worry if someone's real or the right gender as they're stood in front of me.

Weird that........

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"Why don’t single men just join dating sites lot easier meeting women "

But then I’d have to join a dating site and I like to find my dates here.

V x

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

As a single guy the wrong side of 50 who can’t accommodate I accept it’s hard work for me but not pointless I got my self to socials and go to a club I have met some nice people for conversation and also naughty fun.Yes it’s frustrating if your message is deleted but if they respond with a no

thank you it opens a line of communication but by deleting it you go to message again it reminds you that they did not respond to your last message so I get why some people delete.Also yes there are way more single guys than single ladies and couples and at the end of the day it’s all about preferences.

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By *eddonistikMan over a year ago

Manchester

Sorry but I can't agree, most of my time I've beem single and mostly pretty happy with that. I've had a lot more meets than verifications so looking back I thought I'd done pretty well over the years.

It would have been a lot more but about 4 years ago I took a bit of a sabbatical from playing and only really started doing it it again about 12 months ago and even then a lot less than 'back in the day.'

I could had lot more fun this last year but for various personal and health reasons I haven't. I am gradually working on upping things but on an easier ratio, I have no worries, (maybe I'm just an optimist).

As for the mails you send out that don't get a response that will always be the case in a buyers market. However I have noticed that even though some get ignored I often get thanks but no thanks at least and sometimes that has eventually turned it a yes and things have happened.

My advice for mailing people is look at the individual person, don't just send out a stock polite and friendly email. I like it when someone has really read my profile and got a picture of me first, I'm sure others are the same. Treat it as a conversation

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple over a year ago

chester

Maybe the "local" bit is your mistake.

A lot of people like to keep their play and their life separate.

Gossip spreads fast once someone local to you decides to do a bit of careless bragging to their mates.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps the 'new' straight sex is being bi...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Single male here and it is not pointless for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My best feature is my personality but there's no way my profile can show that, so the profile alone has never done any good. If I stayed behind my keyboard, it never would.

When I want to have fun and meet people, I go out and do exactly that.

I go to clubs. I go to socials. I put myself where the fun is - and people can see what I'm like, out 'in the wild'.

In other words, maximising my chances of having a great time (and sometimes, a bloody good giggle!), regardless of whether I get my cock wet or not.

Three years of fab membership, has taught me that my profile page is nothing more than a parking space, for my username (and veris).

You can regard it as a ticket into the lifestyle but you still need to get on the bus.

(re: Messages - I gave up writing introductory messages a LONG time ago. Now only correspond with people I've already met).

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By *ovegames42Man over a year ago

london

Iv bee I here for about a year now, it was difficult at first but going to clubs and becoming friends with people opened up a hole new door for me, I have met some wonderful people on here, it is however a swinging site and a lot of couples are only really looking for other couples, combined with the fact the place is bombarded with single males it’s a market place for those couples who are interested in single males “ Kay sera sera “.

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By *arl17Man over a year ago

Central Portugal

"My best feature is my personality but there's no way my profile can show that, so the profile alone has never done any good. If I stayed behind my keyboard, it never would.

When I want to have fun and meet people, I go out and do exactly that.

I go to clubs. I go to socials. I put myself where the fun is - and people can see what I'm like, out 'in the wild'.

In other words, maximising my chances of having a great time (and sometimes, a bloody good giggle!), regardless of whether I get my cock wet or not.

Three years of fab membership, has taught me that my profile page is nothing more than a parking space, for my username (and veris).

You can regard it as a ticket into the lifestyle but you still need to get on the bus.

(re: Messages - I gave up writing introductory messages a LONG time ago. Now only correspond with people I've already met).

Great advice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why don’t single men just join dating sites lot easier meeting women "

More discreet on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My best feature is my personality but there's no way my profile can show that, so the profile alone has never done any good. If I stayed behind my keyboard, it never would.

When I want to have fun and meet people, I go out and do exactly that.

I go to clubs. I go to socials. I put myself where the fun is - and people can see what I'm like, out 'in the wild'.

In other words, maximising my chances of having a great time (and sometimes, a bloody good giggle!), regardless of whether I get my cock wet or not.

Three years of fab membership, has taught me that my profile page is nothing more than a parking space, for my username (and veris).

You can regard it as a ticket into the lifestyle but you still need to get on the bus.

(re: Messages - I gave up writing introductory messages a LONG time ago. Now only correspond with people I've already met).

Brilliant

Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Instant gratification generation!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As you've been here before - you know fine well that a week on site is barely a blink of an eye in Fab-Time.

Your profile will barely have registered on the radar of likely meets. So don't get moody about the 'site' when your own patience is at fault.

This is probably the worst time in the year - when everyone is up to the eyes in preparation for the Silly Season - so it's not going to change just because you deigned to return to activity here.

Enjoy the season for what it's worth and let things develop.

Merry Christmas

I agree time of year as lots have mentioned and also lots dipping there toe back as got time

Sit back and chill

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I am over 6 months on fab without single meet. Sent more then 50-60 message out of 45 got instant delete and few replied maybe I am not there type, however not frustrated, isn't the case in real life. Explore more you might connect who likes you and willing to meet and maybe more. When you get lemon from life make it lemonade

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

I would say that single guys seem to think this is Tind*r but without the effort.

Strangely it’s not and as with everything in life, zero effort = zero reward.

There are many successful single guys on Fab, maybe ask what they do differently?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is what you bring to the table. Everyone is different and everyone’s likes are different. And not everyone here is out for a shag with anyone

You speak for yaself

I'd shag pretty much anyone"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Keep plugging away.We get loads of messages from single guys.Mostly we delete them because its not what we are primarily here for but very occasionally if in the mood we do meet them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unless your a 10/10 perfect tall gym body u ain't getting meets from here simple as that!!!!

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By *ovegames42Man over a year ago

london

"Unless your a 10/10 perfect tall gym body u ain't getting meets from here simple as that!!!!"

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By *ovegames42Man over a year ago

london

"Unless your a 10/10 perfect tall gym body u ain't getting meets from here simple as that!!!!"

Nah not true, “ beauty comes from within “ most females are attracted to a good mind and manners

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

"Unless your a 10/10 perfect tall gym body u ain't getting meets from here simple as that!!!!

Nah not true, “ beauty comes from within “ most females are attracted to a good mind and manners "

Agree, I don’t like gym bunnies, 6 pack usually = boring.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dad bod. Nothing special. I have had plenty of meets.

Not pointless for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's good if you don't act a perve and actually come across normal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's true...they should ban all the blokes except ME then ban all the ladies who ain't into ME then the site would be so much better for ME!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you only just worked this out lol...

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By *ustme6Man over a year ago

tamworth

Worked out fine for me..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hey,

Single guy hear and without doubt site brilliant and have found gorgiously sexy couples, ladies, guys and TV/TS. Just be yourself authentically and absolutely don't do crappy copy paste messages. Individual messages to people I find pretty successful and people get that your authentic.

Just be you and don't give up.

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By *ovegames42Man over a year ago

london

"It's true...they should ban all the blokes except ME then ban all the ladies who ain't into ME then the site would be so much better for ME!

LoL

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If your single in the “real “world then there is probably the same reasons why you won’t find people to meet here.

We meet single guys but will only meet ones we fancy. You can’t blame the site for people not wanting to meet you.

Sex is about attraction. Make your profile attractive and you may get that message that starts the ball rolling. "
If your single in real life mostly it means you refuse to settle and haven’t found the right person you want, rather be single than living a fake relationship or being unhappy.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"It is what you bring to the table. Everyone is different and everyone’s likes are different. And not everyone here is out for a shag with anyone

You speak for yaself

I'd shag pretty much anyone

Call me 077766688890076 fuck"

I tried, you didn't answer.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Unless your a 10/10 perfect tall gym body u ain't getting meets from here simple as that!!!!"

Rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unless your a 10/10 perfect tall gym body u ain't getting meets from here simple as that!!!!"

Sorry but that’s bollocks

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By *urhamjayMan over a year ago

Durham

"If your single in the “real “world then there is probably the same reasons why you won’t find people to meet here.

We meet single guys but will only meet ones we fancy. You can’t blame the site for people not wanting to meet you.

Sex is about attraction. Make your profile attractive and you may get that message that starts the ball rolling. "

This is it really. You're either appealing in some way and people want to have sex with you or you pay and it's less work.

The numbers of singles just make it easier to be moved aside.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey,

Just be you and don't give up."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well ive got long hair .pretty ugly etc etc and I do ok

Reason ....instead of whinging I put 100% effort in and treat everyone with respect .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Guess you make it what you want of it. If you're wanting daily fucks you're doomed and better off on tinder.

Or just enjoy it and persevere with it and don't be such a downer

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By *layfulCouple86Couple over a year ago

Lancashire

If it's any consolation we find it really difficult as a couple. Our time is really limited for swinging these days and people are put off by that. On top of this is it's a challenge to find the right people that all have that attraction and interest in meeting. It's much harder than you think, particularly finding couples that like us both.

Single females as we all know are rare and hard to find anyway.

Single males seem to be all talk in our experience, yes we've met a few but finding said few is like a needle in a haystack.

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

Plenty men i know seem happy enough. Get yourself off to a club or organised social and meet people that way.

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan over a year ago

London

When I first used this site most single guys were 35+. Back then guys younger than this used to meet girls in the more 'normal' environment of pubs, clubs etc. Since then swinging has become more 'mainstream', and publicity in the press has resulted in many many more younger guys joining the site. Similarly, many more people have joined the site looking for hot young 20-somthing guys. The result is that the demographics of Fab have changed massively. The availability of more younger guys has shifted people away from the oldies, as it's no longer unusual to see a guy in his 20s swinging. Where once the question may have been 'why aren't you out on the pull?' this is no longer asked. Even at universities (thousands of young people crammed into a few square miles) most students prefer to date 'on line' than 'in real life'. So sites like this have changed, and it's MUCH harder to elicit interest if you're over 35. That said it can be done - but it takes time. Another issue is that 'Swingers' are now a much broader group of people, looking for a wider array of encounters, many of which would have been classified as 'outside' of swinging a few years ago'. This includes detailed shopping lists of what people want - i.e. under 30, over six foot, over 9 inches, circumcised, very good looking, no body hair etc. etc. - it's much less 'free flow' than it used to be. But the market caters for it, as there are now more people to choose from, and a chance you can get EXACTLY what you're after. Heaven's above - I even saw one post on here a week ago where someone stated that she had herpes, but none of her partners had contracted it so far. But I suspect that there will be people out there for her too. Personally I use the site more as a 'Facebook' for people I've met at clubs or parties, and only occasionally 'hook up' on here. But that's life I guess. I suppose if one still wants to be a singer in the traditional sense one has to try and address a wider market, of which Fab becomes a constituent part, rather than the main event.

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By *urhamjayMan over a year ago

Durham

I'm doing shockingly badly. As a result I've removed most of my photos and decided to enjoy the forums. I like the banter. Maybe I'm a bit of a sad case for staying on here but I've accepted my lot.

I'll add new photos at some point but it's only because I'm enjoying experimenting with them. I've never been one for photos before.

I love constructing and sending messages but the numbers of men coupled with my looks mean the prognosis is bleak. I've already had people on the forum call me a liar about my age so I'm fooked.

Such is life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mr nice, always have the Peter Gabriel and Kate Bush? Song of the 80's in the back of your mind and it's not sledgehammer

Then perhaps in time when you start getting hot n horny meets you'll have the same 2 songs that I've got tucked away there now

A all night long

(Mr l Ritchie)

B we go together (grease)

And one extra cause it's Christmas

C let's get it on (Mr m gaye)

I was you 2 yrs ago matey but I kept the faith bided my time got to know people mixed in and suddenly without realising I've also got another song to sing

A whole new world(aladdin)

Keep ya chins up and who knows where the fab train will take you

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By *ovegames42Man over a year ago

london

"Mr nice, always have the Peter Gabriel and Kate Bush? Song of the 80's in the back of your mind and it's not sledgehammer

Then perhaps in time when you start getting hot n horny meets you'll have the same 2 songs that I've got tucked away there now

A all night long

(Mr l Ritchie)

B we go together (grease)

And one extra cause it's Christmas

The best response in this thread,well done you

C let's get it on (Mr m gaye)

I was you 2 yrs ago matey but I kept the faith bided my time got to know people mixed in and suddenly without realising I've also got another song to sing

A whole new world(aladdin)

Keep ya chins up and who knows where the fab train will take you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you sent me a message I’d just delete it because your profiles hidden, no point messaging someone I can’t see anything about x

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By *lex46TV/TS over a year ago

Near Wells

"Hope you have some luck mate, I found putting on a dress gets me LOADS of attention ,not just from men but also couples, strange world !!! "

I completely agree with this

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Wandsworth

isn't that the point swingers infer couples

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"isn't that the point swingers infer couples"

No.

That's old school 'wife swapping'.

Swinging is wide open to singles. Otherwise all those couples seeking single bi females to act out their fantasies with would be sorely disappointed.

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"When I first used this site most single guys were 35+. Back then guys younger than this used to meet girls in the more 'normal' environment of pubs, clubs etc. Since then swinging has become more 'mainstream', and publicity in the press has resulted in many many more younger guys joining the site. Similarly, many more people have joined the site looking for hot young 20-somthing guys. The result is that the demographics of Fab have changed massively. The availability of more younger guys has shifted people away from the oldies, as it's no longer unusual to see a guy in his 20s swinging. Where once the question may have been 'why aren't you out on the pull?' this is no longer asked. Even at universities (thousands of young people crammed into a few square miles) most students prefer to date 'on line' than 'in real life'. So sites like this have changed, and it's MUCH harder to elicit interest if you're over 35. That said it can be done - but it takes time. Another issue is that 'Swingers' are now a much broader group of people, looking for a wider array of encounters, many of which would have been classified as 'outside' of swinging a few years ago'. This includes detailed shopping lists of what people want - i.e. under 30, over six foot, over 9 inches, circumcised, very good looking, no body hair etc. etc. - it's much less 'free flow' than it used to be. But the market caters for it, as there are now more people to choose from, and a chance you can get EXACTLY what you're after. Heaven's above - I even saw one post on here a week ago where someone stated that she had herpes, but none of her partners had contracted it so far. But I suspect that there will be people out there for her too. Personally I use the site more as a 'Facebook' for people I've met at clubs or parties, and only occasionally 'hook up' on here. But that's life I guess. I suppose if one still wants to be a singer in the traditional sense one has to try and address a wider market, of which Fab becomes a constituent part, rather than the main event. "

You know that current stats show that 60% of the population of the UK carry the HSV Type 1 virus and 10% Type 2?

The former is usually just cold sores vs the latter which affects the genitals.

But both are only contagious when the virus is active and it's likely that 70% of the population will catch one or the other at some point in their life.

So the person you're quoting is doing nothing wrong and given the numbers it's likely the same stats apply to the Fab population too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well said that man

Even though I've had a good fab career so far I do get a bit fooked off with the younger guys(say 21-28)supposedly being swingers

Have a word lads wouldn't know a swing from a fooking roundabout.

Instead of trying your luck in the local nightspots chatting the fanny up slow dance hopefully get ya card stamped like we all had to do etc etc,you've all cottoned on to the swing world and know your gonna attract interest from a late 30's/early to mid 40's hotwife

Rant over

Tell me I'm wrong and I'll show you my arse

Do the proper swingers a favour and fook off back to ritzys(Google it you Muppets)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And don't for one minute think he's only moaning cause he doesn't get any action

Tomorrow night I'm down for attending a club With a sexy as fuck fwb's of mine,aswell as having a hotwife cple on my arm who I'm down for fooking the arse off

Not finished yet young guns

Meeting another sexy hotwife with a plan to get an orgy on

And also chatting with 2 other cples and 2 single girls with a poss chance of getting it on

That's swinging kiddies not bagging one hotwife because your 21 yrs old

Now left the building as need the rest for tomorrow nights fun nd games

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

I've been here over 6 years now

Andy nothing has changes except that I get fewer messages since I hit the 51 mark.

Same sort of decent people, same sort of idiots

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

As a heterosexual male with a bi wife, you want me to disagree with you?

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan over a year ago

London

You know that current stats show that 60% of the population of the UK carry the HSV Type 1 virus and 10% Type 2?

The former is usually just cold sores vs the latter which affects the genitals.

But both are only contagious when the virus is active and it's likely that 70% of the population will catch one or the other at some point in their life.

So the person you're quoting is doing nothing wrong and given the numbers it's likely the same stats apply to the Fab population too.

Not suggesting for a moment that the person was doing anything wrong. HSV is very common. My only point was that they were detailing it on their profile. If I was HSV positive I'd feel obliged to stop swinging and stick to a long-term partner who was aware that I had the condition. I'd hate the idea of putting others at risk, even if they were 'OK' with it....but then again that's just me....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well said that man

Even though I've had a good fab career so far I do get a bit fooked off with the younger guys(say 21-28)supposedly being swingers

Have a word lads wouldn't know a swing from a fooking roundabout.

Rant over

Tell me I'm wrong and I'll show you my arse

Do the proper swingers a favour and fook off back to ritzys(Google it you Muppets)

Think the moretti kicked in last night chaps but tell me I'm wrong on this and said arse will be shown

Young guns leave the swinging to the swingers and get back on the kiddie swings that's what I say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to say that I seem to do very well on fab ... I go to clubs and organised social events. I don't take it personal if I get a knock back as we can't all be attracted to the same type of people..

Be polite to people and be patient.

Good things come to he who waits

I get meets most weekends and have met some wonderful people on the swinging scene. OP you might want to keep your profile open to let people on this site see you. That may give you a chance.

Happy Fabbing I'm loving it.

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By *exyJ-and-HornyGCouple over a year ago

Doncaster area

"Thought u didnt get moody at rejection

Haha. No I'm not getting moody, just a little frustrated with the fact I spend time messaging people, just for them to get deleted immediately. Kind of gets a little disheartening after a while.."

We met on fab as singles 4 years ago. We organize parties and events. Both our personal profile and events profile clearly state what we want and explain what type of messages we will simply delete, yet we are still bombarded with the generic one-liners and dick pics. On the one hand there are rude people on here who will ignore pleasant messages, the same as anywhere in life, but on the other hand if messages completely ignore the requests made by the people you're contacting, they don't deserve a reply. We will reply to any pleasant message even with a no thanks. Maybe you need to ask a female friend and a couple friend for honest feedback on the way you message.

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By *exyJ-and-HornyGCouple over a year ago

Doncaster area

"Swinging predominantly being a couples sport, won’t help you try the clubs "

In all fairness, this is right. No offense to solos but *swing* implies *share*. What is a solo sharing?

We don't meet solo guys personally unless at a party or in a club.

Everybody has a preference and a desire.

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan over a year ago

London

"I have to say that I seem to do very well on fab ... I go to clubs and organised social events. I don't take it personal if I get a knock back as we can't all be attracted to the same type of people..

Be polite to people and be patient.

Good things come to he who waits

I get meets most weekends and have met some wonderful people on the swinging scene. OP you might want to keep your profile open to let people on this site see you. That may give you a chance.

Happy Fabbing I'm loving it.

Your verifications clearly prove the point - very well written and great choice of name too. Keep up the great work!

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Be polite to people and be patient.

Good things come to he who waits

I get meets most weekends and have met some wonderful people on the swinging scene. OP you might want to keep your profile open to let people on this site see you. That may give you a chance.

Happy Fabbing I'm loving it.

You have the kind of profile that I would have thought would do very well.

You have great pictures and a well written concise and thoughtful bio.

I would imagine that your messages are worthy of reading and going to generate a response.

I'm not surprised that you are having a good time, long may it continue for you and maybe you can be an example for those who struggle.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

In a nutshell, you'll do OK as a single man with women and couples if you are either

1. Young, in good shape and not too much of a dick or

2. When you're not young, be in reasonable shape and be willing to treat women as people and not sex objects.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"In a nutshell, you'll do OK as a single man with women and couples if you are either

1. Young, in good shape and not too much of a dick or

2. When you're not young, be in reasonable shape and be willing to treat women as people and not sex objects. "

I agree with this. The vast, vast majority of people (including women and couples) I reject, I do so because they fail to appreciate that I'm not in this to please them. I'm a person with my own life, own preferences, own desires. I'm pretty clear about it all. But 90%+ can't read or can't be arsed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unless your a 10/10 perfect tall gym body u ain't getting meets from here simple as that!!!!"

What utter twaddle!

Stop blaming other people's attributes for your own lack of success.

Personally I like to meet those with a sense of personality as well as excitement and attraction. I find they're the kinds of people that don't label themselves or focus on one part of their person.

You post loads about your height, it's in your name too! Yes it will matter to some but not all, yet you seem to focus on it more than anyone.

I've met people of all heights, I'm a shrimp myself and take zero notice of how tall someone is.

Yes, B is tall, but that's not why I'm fucking with him. His mind, charm and looks are what attracted me to him in the first place, so maybe focus on charisma!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably the most smug reply to anything, ever on the internet.

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By *lan157Man over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

The site is not pointless for single males wishing to follow up after meeting someone at a social or club/party . It's not much good for messaging someone speculatively for the first time but you might get lucky. Just remember any woman on here has an infinite amount of choice and will be inundated with messages every day relentlessly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think all the single blokes I have met, would agree with you there OP

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"The site is not pointless for single males wishing to follow up after meeting someone at a social or club/party . It's not much good for messaging someone speculatively for the first time but you might get lucky. Just remember any woman on here has an infinite amount of choice and will be inundated with messages every day relentlessly. "

And most of those messages will say hi, or meet now? or group sex. And even those linguistically challenging messages won't be spelt right.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

And most of those messages will say hi, or meet now? or group sex. And even those linguistically challenging messages won't be spelt right."

And then they'll get pissed off when you don't come running.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Shortly after I started this thread I did actually regret it as it kind of makes me look like a moaning old bugger which doesn't reflect my personality at all. But if I'm honest I'm kind of pleased I left it as it's got people talking and I've actually begun chatting to a few people who I wouldn't have if I hadn't posted it in the first place....So some goof has come of my early morning rant haha.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I disagree. I think it’s hard due to the ratio but I know a few single guys who have meet a regular partner through Fab and I’ve met some great single guys through here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Be polite to people and be patient.

Good things come to he who waits

I get meets most weekends and have met some wonderful people on the swinging scene. OP you might want to keep your profile open to let people on this site see you. That may give you a chance.

Happy Fabbing I'm loving it.

Your verifications clearly prove the point - very well written and great choice of name too. Keep up the great work! "

Thank you .. I try my best to be polite and respectful.. Happy Fabbing

OP Don't give up and don't get disheartened.. You'll be fine. Be a little creative with your pics and profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unless your a 10/10 perfect tall gym body u ain't getting meets from here simple as that!!!!

What utter twaddle!

Stop blaming other people's attributes for your own lack of success.

Personally I like to meet those with a sense of personality as well as excitement and attraction. I find they're the kinds of people that don't label themselves or focus on one part of their person.

You post loads about your height, it's in your name too! Yes it will matter to some but not all, yet you seem to focus on it more than anyone.

I've met people of all heights, I'm a shrimp myself and take zero notice of how tall someone is.

Yes, B is tall, but that's not why I'm fucking with him. His mind, charm and looks are what attracted me to him in the first place, so maybe focus on charisma!

I'm a short are yet seem to do ok .. lol ... Keep trying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Be polite to people and be patient.

Good things come to he who waits

I get meets most weekends and have met some wonderful people on the swinging scene. OP you might want to keep your profile open to let people on this site see you. That may give you a chance.

Happy Fabbing I'm loving it.

You have the kind of profile that I would have thought would do very well.

You have great pictures and a well written concise and thoughtful bio.

I would imagine that your messages are worthy of reading and going to generate a response.

I'm not surprised that you are having a good time, long may it continue for you and maybe you can be an example for those who struggle."

Thank you for your kind words

Happy Fabbing x

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