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Is not meeting smokers set in stone?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn't bother me if somebody is a smoker or not, but as I'm quitting at the moment I'd just ask them to be respectful of that and not smoke right next to me.  |
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"Ha! Loads with wont meet smokers message me and when i point it out they say they will make an exception in my case.
All that in the past tense"
guessing mostly males working on the usual theory of any hole a goal!!!!! lol  |
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We went to a party (five couples) and when we went outside for a 'smoke', three of the non smoking/won't meet smokers couples joined us  Not much on here appears to be set in stone but if people were more honest in their profiles then much of the Fab ambiguity could be avoided. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Drives me insane.
Won't meet smokers, ok that's fine and I fully respect that, but don't tell me you will meet smokers once I point out you've wasted your time contacting me as you have stated on your profile you won't!
I won't message those that state they won't meet smokers in an effort to meet, as I read the damn profile and respect their decision.
Bloody false advertising!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drives me insane.
Won't meet smokers, ok that's fine and I fully respect that, but don't tell me you will meet smokers once I point out you've wasted your time contacting me as you have stated on your profile you won't!
I won't message those that state they won't meet smokers in an effort to meet, as I read the damn profile and respect their decision.
Bloody false advertising!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no problems with meeting smokers... I just find if I’m drinking with them. I want to smoke...."
I have found this too 
Smoking is manky and I don't want to get sucked in by it - but after a drink it's oh sooo tempting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drives me insane.
Won't meet smokers, ok that's fine and I fully respect that, but don't tell me you will meet smokers once I point out you've wasted your time contacting me as you have stated on your profile you won't!
I won't message those that state they won't meet smokers in an effort to meet, as I read the damn profile and respect their decision.
Bloody false advertising!
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
The number of non-smokers who meet up with me then steal half my smokes after a beer . I tell you, it’s a thing.
When I joined, I was an ex-smoker of six years. I’m smoking again now (though I’m looking to quit after Christmas, when my other half and I are apart for a week or so - part nice surprise, part not having to deal with me when I’m all crotchety and shit).
I get messages off loads of guys who say they don’t meet smokers...it’s a preference but seems to be a flexible one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The number of non-smokers who meet up with me then steal half my smokes after a beer . I tell you, it’s a thing.
When I joined, I was an ex-smoker of six years. I’m smoking again now (though I’m looking to quit after Christmas, when my other half and I are apart for a week or so - part nice surprise, part not having to deal with me when I’m all crotchety and shit).
I get messages off loads of guys who say they don’t meet smokers...it’s a preference but seems to be a flexible one."
So this might be a case of any hole is a goal....
This place is crazy, I really wonder why we bother with profiles at all...
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We've never smoked but meet considerate smokers that don't smell like an ashtray. Problem we find is smokers in clubs nip off for lots of fag breaks & we lose interest also smokers tend to have their own social on outside deck, so there is a divide |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I ask men not to smoke in my house, rollies are not as smelly so I'll relent & open a window but I vape so would be hypocritical to say I won't meet smokers.
And I have enjoyed (& requested) ash being flicked on me while I gave a blowjob, so there's that too |
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I'd estimate at least 75% of people who message me 'won't me smokers'
It clearly states on my profile I smoke.
It's amazing how many claim they didn't realise they'd ticked that box when it's pointed out to them.
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I don't like it, but what annoys me even more is when their profile says they don't smoke and they do. I only meet in clubs anyway but the amount of people that have non-smoker on their profile and they smell of smoke.... |
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As we are both smokers, we nevet message or wink anyone who states they won’t meet smokers. We have however had many messages from none smokers asking to meet etc, then I point out we smoke. Some walk away others say they are happy to still meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I slept with a friend a while ago, we had flirted for years but not gone any further.
She smokes which never bothered me until we got intimate, kissing was a real turn off. |
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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago
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Neither of us smokes and we used to have our profile set to "will not meet smokers". However, lots of our club friends smoke and after meeting so many smokers we have changed our profile and will meet considerate smokers who don't smell like an ashtray.
I can understand why some people would have it set in stone that they don't meet smokers though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We went to a party (five couples) and when we went outside for a 'smoke', three of the non smoking/won't meet smokers couples joined us Not much on here appears to be set in stone but if people were more honest in their profiles then much of the Fab ambiguity could be avoided."
We've had the same as this with our old profiles. Go to partys/social's chat to people go out to have a smoke and half of the people/couples arn't smokers granted if ksb doesn't come out for a chat while I have one I'm on my own most of the time
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Deal breaker for me, smokers don’t enter my home so I’m not going to get intimate with one. "
Am I reading this right.....
You don’t allow anyone that smokes into your home
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You don’t let anyone smoke in your home? |
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"Deal breaker for me, smokers don’t enter my home so I’m not going to get intimate with one.
Am I reading this right.....
You don’t allow anyone that smokes into your home
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You don’t let anyone smoke in your home?"
Smokers do not enter my home. I don't go in cars of smokers or hug smokers and if I have to enter a building with smokers outside I either ask them to move or hold my breath.
If one gets in a lift with me, I get out. In multiple play, you'll hear me ask anyone who wants to join in if they smoke but I can usually smell them first.
I choose healthcare professionals that don't smoke (unless it's an emergency, I don't have any choice then obvs) and smokers are the reason I don't go to house parties or Xtasia anymore. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Deal breaker for me, smokers don’t enter my home so I’m not going to get intimate with one.
Am I reading this right.....
You don’t allow anyone that smokes into your home
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You don’t let anyone smoke in your home?
Smokers do not enter my home. I don't go in cars of smokers or hug smokers and if I have to enter a building with smokers outside I either ask them to move or hold my breath.
If one gets in a lift with me, I get out. In multiple play, you'll hear me ask anyone who wants to join in if they smoke but I can usually smell them first.
I choose healthcare professionals that don't smoke (unless it's an emergency, I don't have any choice then obvs) and smokers are the reason I don't go to house parties or Xtasia anymore."
You're Smokephobic |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Deal breaker for me, smokers don’t enter my home so I’m not going to get intimate with one.
Am I reading this right.....
You don’t allow anyone that smokes into your home
or
You don’t let anyone smoke in your home?
Smokers do not enter my home. I don't go in cars of smokers or hug smokers and if I have to enter a building with smokers outside I either ask them to move or hold my breath.
If one gets in a lift with me, I get out. In multiple play, you'll hear me ask anyone who wants to join in if they smoke but I can usually smell them first.
I choose healthcare professionals that don't smoke (unless it's an emergency, I don't have any choice then obvs) and smokers are the reason I don't go to house parties or Xtasia anymore."
Do you have bad asthma? |
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"Deal breaker for me, smokers don’t enter my home so I’m not going to get intimate with one.
Am I reading this right.....
You don’t allow anyone that smokes into your home
or
You don’t let anyone smoke in your home?
Smokers do not enter my home. I don't go in cars of smokers or hug smokers and if I have to enter a building with smokers outside I either ask them to move or hold my breath.
If one gets in a lift with me, I get out. In multiple play, you'll hear me ask anyone who wants to join in if they smoke but I can usually smell them first.
I choose healthcare professionals that don't smoke (unless it's an emergency, I don't have any choice then obvs) and smokers are the reason I don't go to house parties or Xtasia anymore.
Do you have bad asthma?"
Nope. I'm an ex smoker and the smell turns my stomach and has made me vomit occasionally. The nausea lasts for hours and now everybody smokes in the street and outside every fucking doorway, bus shelter, hospital entrance, pub, garden (you get the idea), I smoke more now than I did when I actually smoked.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Deal breaker for me, smokers don’t enter my home so I’m not going to get intimate with one.
Am I reading this right.....
You don’t allow anyone that smokes into your home
or
You don’t let anyone smoke in your home?
Smokers do not enter my home. I don't go in cars of smokers or hug smokers and if I have to enter a building with smokers outside I either ask them to move or hold my breath.
If one gets in a lift with me, I get out. In multiple play, you'll hear me ask anyone who wants to join in if they smoke but I can usually smell them first.
I choose healthcare professionals that don't smoke (unless it's an emergency, I don't have any choice then obvs) and smokers are the reason I don't go to house parties or Xtasia anymore.
Do you have bad asthma?
Nope. I'm an ex smoker and the smell turns my stomach and has made me vomit occasionally. The nausea lasts for hours and now everybody smokes in the street and outside every fucking doorway, bus shelter, hospital entrance, pub, garden (you get the idea), I smoke more now than I did when I actually smoked.
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Wow , don’t ever come to New York then ... people smoke drugs in public and it’s legal... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you make exceptions to this rule if you really get on with the person?"
No we don’t if they are considerate smokers! But lighting up for a fag 1/2 way through having sex is rather off putting |
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Think this is one of the most bullshit hangups. Occasionally we have a smoke. But not in or around a meet. Likewise one of the girls were friends with smokes but doesn’t when we’re together as she knows we don’t, and you wouldn’t know either way if she smokes or not.
Whether somebody smokes or not shouldn’t play a part in general. Smoking on a meet or while you’re playing then fair enough, but as a general across the board rule seems a bit petty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think this is one of the most bullshit hangups. Occasionally we have a smoke. But not in or around a meet. Likewise one of the girls were friends with smokes but doesn’t when we’re together as she knows we don’t, and you wouldn’t know either way if she smokes or not.
Whether somebody smokes or not shouldn’t play a part in general. Smoking on a meet or while you’re playing then fair enough, but as a general across the board rule seems a bit petty "
And this is why my answer would be "it depends". As a single I met a woman who smoked, which wasn't an issue until she went out for one halfway through and I just couldn't deal with the smell on her or on her breath after that
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"Think this is one of the most bullshit hangups. Occasionally we have a smoke. But not in or around a meet. Likewise one of the girls were friends with smokes but doesn’t when we’re together as she knows we don’t, and you wouldn’t know either way if she smokes or not.
Whether somebody smokes or not shouldn’t play a part in general. Smoking on a meet or while you’re playing then fair enough, but as a general across the board rule seems a bit petty
And this is why my answer would be "it depends". As a single I met a woman who smoked, which wasn't an issue until she went out for one halfway through and I just couldn't deal with the smell on her or on her breath after that
C"
Completly agree and that we understand.
Smoking halfway through a meet would be a turn off. What you do the week before is up to you. |
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"Deal breaker for me, smokers don’t enter my home so I’m not going to get intimate with one.
Am I reading this right.....
You don’t allow anyone that smokes into your home
or
You don’t let anyone smoke in your home?
Smokers do not enter my home. I don't go in cars of smokers or hug smokers and if I have to enter a building with smokers outside I either ask them to move or hold my breath.
If one gets in a lift with me, I get out. In multiple play, you'll hear me ask anyone who wants to join in if they smoke but I can usually smell them first.
I choose healthcare professionals that don't smoke (unless it's an emergency, I don't have any choice then obvs) and smokers are the reason I don't go to house parties or Xtasia anymore.
Do you have bad asthma?
Nope. I'm an ex smoker and the smell turns my stomach and has made me vomit occasionally. The nausea lasts for hours and now everybody smokes in the street and outside every fucking doorway, bus shelter, hospital entrance, pub, garden (you get the idea), I smoke more now than I did when I actually smoked.
Wow , don’t ever come to New York then ... people smoke drugs in public and it’s legal..."
Gawd don’t get me started on the smell of ! |
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"Think this is one of the most bullshit hangups. Occasionally we have a smoke. But not in or around a meet. Likewise one of the girls were friends with smokes but doesn’t when we’re together as she knows we don’t, and you wouldn’t know either way if she smokes or not.
Whether somebody smokes or not shouldn’t play a part in general. Smoking on a meet or while you’re playing then fair enough, but as a general across the board rule seems a bit petty "
A bullshit hangup? By all means have an opinion regarding your own preferences but don’t dictate to me or anyone else about how WE feel about smokers.
My sister is currently dying of smoking induced lung cancer, no doubt my other sister may end up with the same fate but the scare has made them both stop although they can’t give up vaping with nicotine in. |
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"Think this is one of the most bullshit hangups. Occasionally we have a smoke. But not in or around a meet. Likewise one of the girls were friends with smokes but doesn’t when we’re together as she knows we don’t, and you wouldn’t know either way if she smokes or not.
Whether somebody smokes or not shouldn’t play a part in general. Smoking on a meet or while you’re playing then fair enough, but as a general across the board rule seems a bit petty
A bullshit hangup? By all means have an opinion regarding your own preferences but don’t dictate to me or anyone else about how WE feel about smokers.
My sister is currently dying of smoking induced lung cancer, no doubt my other sister may end up with the same fate but the scare has made them both stop although they can’t give up vaping with nicotine in."
Never dictated anything. Opinions are opinions, they’re personal and that’s the beauty of them.
Sorry about your sister. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a smoker clearly states and in pictures. I get messages from people whom claim to not meet smokers
I try to remain mindful of none smokers by always having air waves gum and body spray  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won't meet smokers as it's the smell i find off putting. No matter how much someone is clean I can still smell smoke off them. So for me it's a no. Others meet smokers though. I guess each person it's different. |
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"Think this is one of the most bullshit hangups. Occasionally we have a smoke. But not in or around a meet. Likewise one of the girls were friends with smokes but doesn’t when we’re together as she knows we don’t, and you wouldn’t know either way if she smokes or not.
Whether somebody smokes or not shouldn’t play a part in general. Smoking on a meet or while you’re playing then fair enough, but as a general across the board rule seems a bit petty "
It makes me ill. It's not a hangup. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I won't meet smokers as it's the smell i find off putting. No matter how much someone is clean I can still smell smoke off them. So for me it's a no. Others meet smokers though. I guess each person it's different. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think this is one of the most bullshit hangups. Occasionally we have a smoke. But not in or around a meet. Likewise one of the girls were friends with smokes but doesn’t when we’re together as she knows we don’t, and you wouldn’t know either way if she smokes or not.
Whether somebody smokes or not shouldn’t play a part in general. Smoking on a meet or while you’re playing then fair enough, but as a general across the board rule seems a bit petty
It makes me ill. It's not a hangup. "
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"Think this is one of the most bullshit hangups. Occasionally we have a smoke. But not in or around a meet. Likewise one of the girls were friends with smokes but doesn’t when we’re together as she knows we don’t, and you wouldn’t know either way if she smokes or not.
Whether somebody smokes or not shouldn’t play a part in general. Smoking on a meet or while you’re playing then fair enough, but as a general across the board rule seems a bit petty
A bullshit hangup? By all means have an opinion regarding your own preferences but don’t dictate to me or anyone else about how WE feel about smokers.
My sister is currently dying of smoking induced lung cancer, no doubt my other sister may end up with the same fate but the scare has made them both stop although they can’t give up vaping with nicotine in.
Never dictated anything. Opinions are opinions, they’re personal and that’s the beauty of them.
Sorry about your sister. "
You called it a bullshit hangup and an across the board rule, petty. They are not options, they are criticisms of those that detest smoking.
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"Think this is one of the most bullshit hangups. Occasionally we have a smoke. But not in or around a meet. Likewise one of the girls were friends with smokes but doesn’t when we’re together as she knows we don’t, and you wouldn’t know either way if she smokes or not.
Whether somebody smokes or not shouldn’t play a part in general. Smoking on a meet or while you’re playing then fair enough, but as a general across the board rule seems a bit petty
A bullshit hangup? By all means have an opinion regarding your own preferences but don’t dictate to me or anyone else about how WE feel about smokers.
My sister is currently dying of smoking induced lung cancer, no doubt my other sister may end up with the same fate but the scare has made them both stop although they can’t give up vaping with nicotine in.
Never dictated anything. Opinions are opinions, they’re personal and that’s the beauty of them.
Sorry about your sister.
You called it a bullshit hangup and an across the board rule, petty. They are not options, they are criticisms of those that detest smoking.
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Apologies if we offended. It was just our point of view.
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we get messages off couples wanting to meet us. says won,t meet smokers on their profile, (we tell them we smoke)!
they message us back saying they will make a exception. we won,t! if it stated won,t meet smokers on their profile then we won,t meet them. its double standards. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think this is one of the most bullshit hangups. Occasionally we have a smoke. But not in or around a meet. Likewise one of the girls were friends with smokes but doesn’t when we’re together as she knows we don’t, and you wouldn’t know either way if she smokes or not.
Whether somebody smokes or not shouldn’t play a part in general. Smoking on a meet or while you’re playing then fair enough, but as a general across the board rule seems a bit petty "
It's not bullshit: the smell and taste lingers. I met with a supposed non-smoker who tasted of nicotine when I kissed him... He'd last smoked three days ago. |
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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago
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I won't meet them who say they won't meet smokers. Funny how quick that changes 100% of the time!
Personally, no one smokes inside my home, I always shower, clean my teeth before a meet and wont smoke from this untill they are gone if they are not a smoker. It's not like I'm gonna force smoking onto someone
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"I ask men not to smoke in my house, rollies are not as smelly so I'll relent & open a window but I vape so would be hypocritical to say I won't meet smokers.
And I have enjoyed (& requested) ash being flicked on me while I gave a blowjob, so there's that too "
You kind of bring it in yourself then lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you make exceptions to this rule if you really get on with the person?"
No. I find smoking obnoxious and don't want even a casual liaison with someone who needs that kind of psychological crutch. The same goes for heavy drinkers. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"Think this is one of the most bullshit hangups. Occasionally we have a smoke. But not in or around a meet. Likewise one of the girls were friends with smokes but doesn’t when we’re together as she knows we don’t, and you wouldn’t know either way if she smokes or not.
Whether somebody smokes or not shouldn’t play a part in general. Smoking on a meet or while you’re playing then fair enough, but as a general across the board rule seems a bit petty
It's not bullshit: the smell and taste lingers. I met with a supposed non-smoker who tasted of nicotine when I kissed him... He'd last smoked three days ago."
I agree, possibly the smoker can't smell it so much on themselves but it is often all around them, in the smell of there pores, their skin, their breath, their hair, their clothes, everywhere.
Even if they have showered and brushed their teeth I still can usually smell stale smoke without trying to.
Each to their own, I enjoy a glass of wine and that will not be to some people's taste.
We all have completely different preferences.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No for us it is a defined boundary which we wouldnt change no matter how much we liked the other person. Thats not a judgment on other people who do just our thing.  male |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, we don’t meet smokers... however.. there has been times when we have been in a club, played with a female, and I couldn’t tell. She smelt lovely, nice that she took the time to rid the smell of an ash tray!
I do find there are a lot of smokers on this site... does anyone else think so? |
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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago
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Ess stopped smoking about 4 years ago and now hates the taste and smell of smoke on others.
In a Club environment you can’t always avoid it in the heat of the moment. With some you can’t tell yet others absolutely reek 
It’s a Yuk from us x |
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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago
huddersfield |
Just cos someone smoke don't mean they would ever smoke at a meet they do have respect for others that don't smoke as a ex smoker myself would meet others that do as long as they respect I dont |
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"Women lie on there profiles all the time
Not meeting
Dont play on first meet
No smokers
Are just a few examples
Sorry girls u been rumbled "
If anyone works on the basis of me lying, they're not going to get a good response. |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
Redhill |
I had a meet with someone who smoked but didnt tell me. I could smell it.
Really hot guy, amazing cock, great sex... but just remembering the smell puts me off from having another meet.
So yes, for me it is set in stone I’m afraid... |
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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago
Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish) |
"Women lie on there profiles all the time
Not meeting
Dont play on first meet
No smokers
Are just a few examples
Sorry girls u been rumbled "
Is that all women or just the ones that you fantasise over? |
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"I’ve had guys message me who have miraculously given up or are vaping or their status isn’t right. Some even promised to give up smoking.
I can’t stand the smell of cigarettes. "
Yeah. Every time I have a moment of weakness and sorry I don't meet smokers, they've "given up" and I should give them a chance. No. |
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"Just cos someone smoke don't mean they would ever smoke at a meet they do have respect for others that don't smoke as a ex smoker myself would meet others that do as long as they respect I dont"
You’ve not quite read or understood the contributions of those that won’t meet smokers, have you.
You meet smokers, that’s clear. I respect others choices, if they want to smoke, they won’t be coming anywhere near me because they stink. They stink if they smoked an hour ago or a week ago. |
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"We went to a party (five couples) and when we went outside for a 'smoke', three of the non smoking/won't meet smokers couples joined us Not much on here appears to be set in stone but if people were more honest in their profiles then much of the Fab ambiguity could be avoided.
We've had the same as this with our old profiles. Go to partys/social's chat to people go out to have a smoke and half of the people/couples arn't smokers granted if ksb doesn't come out for a chat while I have one I'm on my own most of the time
kc"
I know what you mean but as P always comes for a smoke with me it's never just the two of us outside for some unknown reason .
As other posters have said above, we always go by peoples profiles so if they won't meet smokers or aren't listed as at least bi curious then we won't meet. Our profile has no lies (apart from our names) contained therein and we expect the profiles of people we meet to be the same. |
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"We have spoke to people in clubs that state they are not smokers but actually are and would abstained during a meet.
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So do you find this to be okay? |
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"We have spoke to people in clubs that state they are not smokers but actually are and would abstained during a meet.
So do you find this to be okay?"
Personally it doesn't bother me in the slightest but just remember, not everything is what it seems |
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over a year ago
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"As a stop smoking practitioner I would be a hypocrite if I met a smoker to have fun with. No means no. "
I personally (Mr) dont smoke but Mrs does, but away from me, but if people say they dont smoke to get more meets, how would you know? |
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over a year ago
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"It's the smell, really can't hack it, the only exception is vaping for us, at least it smells ok."
If your clean and shower fresh, clean cloths and brushed teeth, chewing gum etc, im not sure you would know |
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"It's the smell, really can't hack it, the only exception is vaping for us, at least it smells ok.
If your clean and shower fresh, clean cloths and brushed teeth, chewing gum etc, im not sure you would know "
Oh, I think you would! It's other things too, like "having to pop out for some fresh air" at regular intervals |
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"As a stop smoking practitioner I would be a hypocrite if I met a smoker to have fun with. No means no.
I personally (Mr) dont smoke but Mrs does, but away from me, but if people say they dont smoke to get more meets, how would you know? "
If they mask it so well and don't feel the need to smoke whilst with me then well done to them.
I couldn't stand the smell if I'm gonna be intimate with someone.
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"It's the smell, really can't hack it, the only exception is vaping for us, at least it smells ok.
If your clean and shower fresh, clean cloths and brushed teeth, chewing gum etc, im not sure you would know "
Smokers stink. You can be and do all of those things but they still stink. |
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"It's the smell, really can't hack it, the only exception is vaping for us, at least it smells ok.
If your clean and shower fresh, clean cloths and brushed teeth, chewing gum etc, im not sure you would know "
Some people - ie me - have allergies associated with nicotine residue left in bodily fluids - we know when someone is lying because our bodies can tell as they are getting inflamed.
Really shameful how people want to gamble with the lives of others |
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"Do you make exceptions to this rule if you really get on with the person?"
We don't. They may be wonderful people (chances are they will be), but that stench! Being nice doesn't take that away and minty smokers breath is even worse. |
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"As a stop smoking practitioner I would be a hypocrite if I met a smoker to have fun with. No means no.
I personally (Mr) dont smoke but Mrs does, but away from me, but if people say they dont smoke to get more meets, how would you know? "
The smell. |
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I often get messages from mainly couples that say they won't meet smokers and repeat it a few times on their profile but then send me a message. I point out I'm a smoker and 100% of the responses has been we will make an exception! I've never understood that why you would compromise your personal preferences. |
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"It's the smell, really can't hack it, the only exception is vaping for us, at least it smells ok.
If your clean and shower fresh, clean cloths and brushed teeth, chewing gum etc, im not sure you would know
Some people - ie me - have allergies associated with nicotine residue left in bodily fluids - we know when someone is lying because our bodies can tell as they are getting inflamed.
Really shameful how people want to gamble with the lives of others "
I'm a smoker & really didn't know this was a thing! I learn something new on here every day. Thank God I don't lie about my habit, I'd be distraught if I thought I'd made someone ill! Sarah. |
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"I often get messages from mainly couples that say they won't meet smokers and repeat it a few times on their profile but then send me a message. I point out I'm a smoker and 100% of the responses has been we will make an exception! I've never understood that why you would compromise your personal preferences. "
Obviously because they are desperate to meet any single lady, they will compromise |
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"I often get messages from mainly couples that say they won't meet smokers and repeat it a few times on their profile but then send me a message. I point out I'm a smoker and 100% of the responses has been we will make an exception! I've never understood that why you would compromise your personal preferences.
Obviously because they are desperate to meet any single lady, they will compromise"
That's a bit rude I don't think people would need to be desperate to meet me but thank you ever so much for your insight for input! |
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i'll tell you a secret ,ive smoked all my life .
ive had a good few meets strictly non smokers ,hate the smell, will suss you out , my nose is like a sniffer dog bla bla bla .
just like if i'm at familys house and i say , popping out for a cigarette when i re enter the rom they always say ,didnt you have a cigarette ?
cant ekplain why but i just dont smell of fags .
admittedly i dont smoke before a meet or once i,m out the shower , my hairs washed and conditioned every single day ,my finger nauls are cut and filed regular ,i use hand cream , i wear clean clothes everyday that smellof persil comfort or my aftershave .
i visit the hygenist , not the dentist , every 3 months , can talk about that later , dentist needs to earn money ,if he told everyone thereteeth were fine he'd be skint , ive never seen a dentist ,just hygenist, same as specsavers , if they tell everyone thereeyes are fine , or will remain the same another 5 years theyd be out of business.........
anyway................my point is ,i smoke but nobody will ever no , even if your nostrils are like an otter |
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"I often get messages from mainly couples that say they won't meet smokers and repeat it a few times on their profile but then send me a message. I point out I'm a smoker and 100% of the responses has been we will make an exception! I've never understood that why you would compromise your personal preferences.
Obviously because they are desperate to meet any single lady, they will compromise
That's a bit rude I don't think people would need to be desperate to meet me but thank you ever so much for your insight for input! "
Oh you took that the wrong way, the power of fab eh? It wasn’t aimed specifically at you, but let’s be real plenty of people will compromise on this issue to meet others and it’s no doubt prevalent when couples are looking for single females.... |
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"I often get messages from mainly couples that say they won't meet smokers and repeat it a few times on their profile but then send me a message. I point out I'm a smoker and 100% of the responses has been we will make an exception! I've never understood that why you would compromise your personal preferences.
Obviously because they are desperate to meet any single lady, they will compromise
That's a bit rude I don't think people would need to be desperate to meet me but thank you ever so much for your insight for input!
Oh you took that the wrong way, the power of fab eh? It wasn’t aimed specifically at you, but let’s be real plenty of people will compromise on this issue to meet others and it’s no doubt prevalent when couples are looking for single females...."
Well you worded it very badly and it came across very much that you were suggesting it's about desperation. |
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"It's the smell, really can't hack it, the only exception is vaping for us, at least it smells ok.
If your clean and shower fresh, clean cloths and brushed teeth, chewing gum etc, im not sure you would know
Smokers stink. You can be and do all of those things but they still stink."
And even if you magically don't... If we say no, believe us. I don't want to meet smokers. You're not an exception. End of conversation. |
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"i'll tell you a secret ,ive smoked all my life .
ive had a good few meets strictly non smokers ,hate the smell, will suss you out , my nose is like a sniffer dog bla bla bla .
just like if i'm at familys house and i say , popping out for a cigarette when i re enter the rom they always say ,didnt you have a cigarette ?
cant ekplain why but i just dont smell of fags .
admittedly i dont smoke before a meet or once i,m out the shower , my hairs washed and conditioned every single day ,my finger nauls are cut and filed regular ,i use hand cream , i wear clean clothes everyday that smellof persil comfort or my aftershave .
i visit the hygenist , not the dentist , every 3 months , can talk about that later , dentist needs to earn money ,if he told everyone thereteeth were fine he'd be skint , ive never seen a dentist ,just hygenist, same as specsavers , if they tell everyone thereeyes are fine , or will remain the same another 5 years theyd be out of business.........
anyway................my point is ,i smoke but nobody will ever no , even if your nostrils are like an otter "
This is all very strange considering you state you're a non smoker on your profile. FAB honesty? |
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If you are a non smoker then it is only natural that you find this grotesque habit extremely objectionable and revolting... I have kissed a few some that do smoke and their mouth tastes really foul... If any one smokes in your presence, the smell permeates into your hair and clothes... Secondary smoke can produce lung cancer too ... I am not against someone smoking as long as it is not near me and let's face it, the tax man loves them.... I hate tax men... |
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"It's the smell, really can't hack it, the only exception is vaping for us, at least it smells ok.
If your clean and shower fresh, clean cloths and brushed teeth, chewing gum etc, im not sure you would know
Some people - ie me - have allergies associated with nicotine residue left in bodily fluids - we know when someone is lying because our bodies can tell as they are getting inflamed.
Really shameful how people want to gamble with the lives of others
I'm a smoker & really didn't know this was a thing! I learn something new on here every day. Thank God I don't lie about my habit, I'd be distraught if I thought I'd made someone ill! Sarah."
There are many allergens - eg look up cotinine allergy and how it triggers severe asthma |
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As ex smokers, stopped a Year last Sept, we will actively check profiles and won’t message if they are smokers, but at a club the other week, It was that hot inside, I went and stood with the smokers outside just to get some cool air but certainly didn’t consider starting smoking again. I reckon we have both cracked the non smoking thing but wouldn’t particularly want to snog a smoker just yet, nothing personal |
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By *inxy300Woman
over a year ago
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"Drives me insane.
Won't meet smokers, ok that's fine and I fully respect that, but don't tell me you will meet smokers once I point out you've wasted your time contacting me as you have stated on your profile you won't!
I won't message those that state they won't meet smoke
rs in an effort to meet, as I read the damn profile and respect their decision.
Bloody false advertising!
P"
Im exactly the same, it does my head in. |
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We don’t have a problem with it unless it’s absolutely overwhelming.
In our experience many of our kind of people smoke socially, we wouldn’t want to rule a beautiful funny interesting fitty out just because they enjoy an occasional cigarette. |
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At work i split shift with someone and use the same car. It reeks, even though he doesnt smoke in it. Must be in his clothes and breath. Had to wet wipe the steering wheel and surfaces to try to sanitise it. |
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Surely the ones who lie on their profiles stating they are non-smokers when in reality they do smoke are highly hypocritical.
In my experience smokers are very obnoxious about their habit,it’s their right to smoke and they are being made to feel like criminals with not being able to smoke in public areas such as pubs, yet when it comes to a potential meet they want to hide the fact they are smokers and not shout about it as usual!
Could not be more double standards if they tried!
If you want to smoke it’s absolutely your right just don’t pick and choose on how unfairly you are treated in different scenarios. |
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