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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbers |
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"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbers"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who cares, you'll never know why they blocked you so don't waste a moment longer worrying about someone you'll never meet. Personally, if you're going to block you may as well say no thanks before but many don't. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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I only have three people on my block list - and I received multiple messages from them before I got round to blocking them. So I’ve no idea.
Buuuut...is it worse than them not messaging back randomly? At least this way you know straight up that it’s not going to happen.
Tough though, dude, I’m sorry *hugs* |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"From the many previous threads on this subject it would appear a polite no thanks gets followed by by a stream of abuse so many just delete and block."
I am sure this does happen but if you are being polite why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbers"
did you send a pic at the point they deleted you? That's usually a crux point
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From the many previous threads on this subject it would appear a polite no thanks gets followed by by a stream of abuse so many just delete and block.
I am sure this does happen but if you are being polite why? "
They are all polite until they get turned down
Not saying you would turn but many do
Sometimes it's just easier to block if you're not in the mood for an argument |
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When I do it, it's because red flags (including polite ones) have been raised and my attempts to push back and set boundaries have been ignored. But when that happens I usually send a final message explaining before I block. But block I do, because I don't fancy abuse. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When I do it, it's because red flags (including polite ones) have been raised and my attempts to push back and set boundaries have been ignored. But when that happens I usually send a final message explaining before I block. But block I do, because I don't fancy abuse. "
Well that’s nice to know that at least you do give the reason |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbersdid you send a pic at the point they deleted you? That's usually a crux point "
Yep and we were still exchanging notes .. odd |
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"When I do it, it's because red flags (including polite ones) have been raised and my attempts to push back and set boundaries have been ignored. But when that happens I usually send a final message explaining before I block. But block I do, because I don't fancy abuse.
Well that’s nice to know that at least you do give the reason "
I doubt the messages are well received. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbersdid you send a pic at the point they deleted you? That's usually a crux point
Yep and we were still exchanging notes .. odd "
they perhaps didn’t want to be rude and say they didn't fancy you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbersdid you send a pic at the point they deleted you? That's usually a crux point
Yep and we were still exchanging notes .. odd "
They obviously weren't attracted after face pic
It's actually really hard to say nicely that you aren't attracted to their face
Especially if conversation has been quite meet based
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"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbers"
his mum confiscated the wifi hub ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbers"
I agree with you. Unasked for messages are entitled to be ignored. Ignoring them is saying your not interested.
However when you choose to start responding to the messages if you later decide its going nowhere have the decency of saying so and why.
I have ended communication for various reasons but I always sent a message saying I am not continuing further and said why. Then I block to avoid any argument about it.....but they knew why so they had closure.
I don't think people should be left wondering what they did wrong or what changed. The longer the communication goes on the more you deserve the closure.
People who don't want to say why are cowards and your better off without them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well said Bbwchick!
Unfortunately not everyone has standards and the decency to let people know. People have done it to me despite them initially contracting me and more than happy to meet after seeing my photos, then nothing. You can be polite as you want unfortunately it is very seldom reciprocated! Hence my block list is very big!
Sure a lot just get off on messing guys around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well said Bbwchick!
Unfortunately not everyone has standards and the decency to let people know. People have done it to me despite them initially contracting me and more than happy to meet after seeing my photos, then nothing. You can be polite as you want unfortunately it is very seldom reciprocated! Hence my block list is very big!
Sure a lot just get off on messing guys around."
Honestly I'm guilty of doing exactly what the poster is saying
It's easy to say 'not for me' to a profile with all the info and face/body pics already there
But when you realise you don't fancy them after nice chat and a face pic and they are lovely how do you even tell someone that without being hurtful?
Maybe it's the cowards way out but seems better than saying specifically their face turned you off ? |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Well said Bbwchick!
Unfortunately not everyone has standards and the decency to let people know. People have done it to me despite them initially contracting me and more than happy to meet after seeing my photos, then nothing. You can be polite as you want unfortunately it is very seldom reciprocated! Hence my block list is very big!
Sure a lot just get off on messing guys around.
Honestly I'm guilty of doing exactly what the poster is saying
It's easy to say 'not for me' to a profile with all the info and face/body pics already there
But when you realise you don't fancy them after nice chat and a face pic and they are lovely how do you even tell someone that without being hurtful?
Maybe it's the cowards way out but seems better than saying specifically their face turned you off ?"
Ask for face pics in the first message. It's simple. |
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"From the many previous threads on this subject it would appear a polite no thanks gets followed by by a stream of abuse so many just delete and block."
Yep I got that yesterday. Blocked me because I declined a friend invite  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well said Bbwchick!
Unfortunately not everyone has standards and the decency to let people know. People have done it to me despite them initially contracting me and more than happy to meet after seeing my photos, then nothing. You can be polite as you want unfortunately it is very seldom reciprocated! Hence my block list is very big!
Sure a lot just get off on messing guys around.
Honestly I'm guilty of doing exactly what the poster is saying
It's easy to say 'not for me' to a profile with all the info and face/body pics already there
But when you realise you don't fancy them after nice chat and a face pic and they are lovely how do you even tell someone that without being hurtful?
Maybe it's the cowards way out but seems better than saying specifically their face turned you off ?"
You look really great but not what I'm looking for sorry. X |
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"When I do it, it's because red flags (including polite ones) have been raised and my attempts to push back and set boundaries have been ignored. But when that happens I usually send a final message explaining before I block. But block I do, because I don't fancy abuse. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a female block me after chatting even after pics were exchanged and everything was going well or so I thought.
I then bumped into her in a club and she wanted to have some fun with me, even though she was stunning I politely told her I was not her type!
She looked confused, so I told her she had blocked me on here and walked off!
Felt really good! Don’t think she was used to being turned down! |
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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago
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We block people who were not interested in or just think there time wasters, blocked many a single women after sending a few mails bk and forth, then they don't even read your message for a week, just block, it's pretty obvious there here for the attention |
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