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Do you buy anything for the person your meeting?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?
Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something.. |
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"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?
Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something.."
Ooooh I hope so! I’m collecting Manola Blahniks right now, have one pair already. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?
Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something.."
Never received any gift whether I meet someone with hubby or alone 
I now feel a bit short-changed! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think someone might be taking advantage of your good nature or winding you up . If you are going for a meet at their home then perhaps a bottle of wine would be a nice gesture .. Just like if you were visiting vanilla friends. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you give someone a gift wouldn't it make them feel like a prostitute ?
A little, but if it was a pair of Jimmy Choo's I would ignore that feeling  "
Lol. But seriously their is people out their that lets say 'spoil' their regular meet. Yes it to some probably feels degrading or like an escort but at the same time your probably wanting it anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?
Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something.."
No, you're not buying their love. Where art ones balls my good sir? |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
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"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?
Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something.."
God no its most certainly not common!
If you have people from the site asking for expensive things in return for sex then your being used and you should report them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had flowers bought for me and chocolates.
Quite unexpected. If they had known me better they would know I'd prefer a potted plant than cut flowers
Pair of heels seems extreme gift for meet.
Although I've had pair of shoes from a foot fetishist we went to charity shops and picked a pair for him to enjoy on my feet. Was a lot of fun and they didn't even cost a fiver.
Many offers to bring bottles of wine. Sadly can't drink it
Gifts aren't necessary if someone demands a gift then it's not a gift.
If you want to gift that's up to you its the thought that counts not the price tag
If she likes sex toys find something you could both enjoy on a meet. A bullet to use on her, vibrating cockring, etc and they don't break the bank. Add spice to a play meet
Fun for both
I also recommend the durex intense condoms if they aren't allergic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of people don't like it or want it because it makes them feel like the gift is an exchange for sex.
I personally wouldn't see it that way if it was someone I'd been talking to for a while, or had spoken to a lot. Sometimes it's nice to do things for other people.
I'm not sure I'd like to be bought shoes or something like that, it would more than likely make me feel as though I was expected to wear them for the person who bought them, like a trophy perhaps. However a box of chocolates or a bottle of wine I just think is a nice touch, a show of appreciation. It's definitely not something I would expect though, and a lot would be determined through the type of meet arranged. Example, if a gangbang had been organised and a guy turned up with a bottle of wine, my brain would be thinking "cheers for letting me use your chuff love, here's a bottle of red", however if an evening of drinks and getting to know one another was planned I'd have a different mindset about it.
If it was someone I considered a friend I'd have no issue at all with gifts being exchanged, as I think it's just being thoughtful, but in no way necessary.
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If we're going to someone's house we take wine and chocolates as we would in any social situation. If a guy turned up with a gift just for me I would feel uncomfortable. I am equally involved in our meets and don't want or need gifts.
I also don't want to be "spoiled". It's got nothing to do with being a gentleman or showing respect in my opinion, this is 2018 not 1918. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?
Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something.."
diamonds always it's a prerequisite of meeting |
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"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?
Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something..diamonds always it's a prerequisite of meeting "
Remember that for our meeting sexy..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?
Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something..diamonds always it's a prerequisite of meeting
Remember that for our meeting sexy....."
omg and it's too late to delete it now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you end as more a friend with added sexual benefits then I don't see why buying your friend flowers or a drink is seen as an issue. It's certainly not prostitution!
I became very good friend with my past friend and benefits. I wasn't driving back then. One day I was stuck with my shopping and no taxi in sight! He offered to pick me up and drive me home. Then we went out for drinks. You know, just like any ordinary friend does for their friend.
On his way to work, he used to pop in for morning sex lol. We had the best of both worlds.
Why can't folk find and establish friendship from a site like this without being viewed as prostitution? |
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No, never bought anything for a playmate - and it's never been expected from anyone I've played with...
....I've had the occasional 'hint' in messages over the years with a suggestion that I might like to buy them some lingerie to wear - at which point I've hit 'delete'...
....I have, however, had a couple of husbands buy their wives lingerie or shoes for us to 'christen'!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you end as more a friend with added sexual benefits then I don't see why buying your friend flowers or a drink is seen as an issue. It's certainly not prostitution!
I became very good friend with my past friend and benefits. I wasn't driving back then. One day I was stuck with my shopping and no taxi in sight! He offered to pick me up and drive me home. Then we went out for drinks. You know, just like any ordinary friend does for their friend.
On his way to work, he used to pop in for morning sex lol. We had the best of both worlds.
Why can't folk find and establish friendship from a site like this without being viewed as prostitution? "
yes, why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you end as more a friend with added sexual benefits then I don't see why buying your friend flowers or a drink is seen as an issue. It's certainly not prostitution!
I became very good friend with my past friend and benefits. I wasn't driving back then. One day I was stuck with my shopping and no taxi in sight! He offered to pick me up and drive me home. Then we went out for drinks. You know, just like any ordinary friend does for their friend.
On his way to work, he used to pop in for morning sex lol. We had the best of both worlds.
Why can't folk find and establish friendship from a site like this without being viewed as prostitution? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh yeah a box of chocolates to share obviously. Sharing is caring, but if the person does not enjoy sharing... you know the greedy ones than take two boxes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think someone may have been teasing you, how would you know they would fit or even like heels. Now if we're talking a good sturdy pair of new wellies....
Token food gifts are always appreciated though I think. Its just fuel for the activities ahead really |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Treat to a pair of heels... errr, no Op. But like posters above, if I view them as friends then it's a bit different. I'd buy them little gifts etc like I would anyone in the vanilla world I liked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think someone may have been teasing you, how would you know they would fit or even like heels. Now if we're talking a good sturdy pair of new wellies....
Token food gifts are always appreciated though I think. Its just fuel for the activities ahead really "
Finally someone understands my thought process. Fuel for the activities ahead! Nothing wrong with that. Be kind to one another and enjoy food amongst other activities as Autumn has nicely said. |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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Cake, chocolate, biscuits, sweets, something energising for that half way through period to share and slowly start things back off again.
That and your own unopened preference on condoms if you have a preference.
But it’s a mutual experience. A gift is unnecessary really. Something to share if you want to take anything, is always the best option.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've received a few gifts over the years but these have been from people that I've been submitting myself too and never on the first meet. If someone's coming to my house then a bottle of something to drink is always appreciated. I've had guys message me and said they wanted to buy me things but I've never met them because I would feel awkward and like I was obliged or obligated to them in some way even though obviously I wouldn't be. If it's somebody that I meet very regularly with and have become friends with and I don't see it's a problem. |
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"I think someone may have been teasing you, how would you know they would fit or even like heels. Now if we're talking a good sturdy pair of new wellies....
Token food gifts are always appreciated though I think. Its just fuel for the activities ahead really "
How would you know if they had food tolerances? Food gifts are therefore a bad idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think someone may have been teasing you, how would you know they would fit or even like heels. Now if we're talking a good sturdy pair of new wellies....
Token food gifts are always appreciated though I think. Its just fuel for the activities ahead really
How would you know if they had food tolerances? Food gifts are therefore a bad idea."
Ask them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't take anything and I'd be pissed off if a meet turned up with something. I'm not an escort. "
That's your personal choice but I've received gifts in the past and I certainly don't see myself as an escort!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I make creams and oils for a variety of things. If the guy has shown any interest in my practices and hobbies before our meet I would bring one for them. I think it's a far more thoughtful gesture but most show absolutely no interest so in short the answer is no |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?
Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something.."
Squze love ..you know we are meeting Saturday ..any chance I could have ya shoe size lol |
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