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Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh |
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"Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh"
Yes, Saturday night is "family" night, all the "single" guys are busy with their wives lol!  |
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over a year ago
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jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play. |
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play. "
You make a very good point my friend.
I mean, it must be horrible being blocked for "chatting" ...
What a difficult situation to be in ?
It's a hard life lol |
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play. "
It's half a dozen of and six of another....
I always explain to anyone who wants to meet me that my family will always come first. Sometimes I plan a meet weeks ahead and other times I get an unexpected free day which I also explain.
I had a message from a guy yesterday asking to meet today as soon as I said it would be both myself and hubby suddenly he had plans.... I think at least 3 guys have said they were free today but as soon as I mentioned it would be both of us... They went quiet on me or said they'd made other plans. It clearly states on my profile that I am married..... I'm sure they'll be back on monday morning asking for a meet whilst I'm working....  |
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"Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh"
We all have busy lives, not everyone is available at a moments notice, even the people I meet on a regular basis arrange meets a day or two in advance  |
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
It's half a dozen of and six of another....
I always explain to anyone who wants to meet me that my family will always come first. Sometimes I plan a meet weeks ahead and other times I get an unexpected free day which I also explain.
I had a message from a guy yesterday asking to meet today as soon as I said it would be both myself and hubby suddenly he had plans.... I think at least 3 guys have said they were free today but as soon as I mentioned it would be both of us... They went quiet on me or said they'd made other plans. It clearly states on my profile that I am married..... I'm sure they'll be back on monday morning asking for a meet whilst I'm working.... "
If he contacted you on this single profile you shouldn't be bringing your husband into it. |
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over a year ago
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"Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Lmao
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh
Yes, Saturday night is "family" night, all the "single" guys are busy with their wives lol! "
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
It's half a dozen of and six of another....
I always explain to anyone who wants to meet me that my family will always come first. Sometimes I plan a meet weeks ahead and other times I get an unexpected free day which I also explain.
I had a message from a guy yesterday asking to meet today as soon as I said it would be both myself and hubby suddenly he had plans.... I think at least 3 guys have said they were free today but as soon as I mentioned it would be both of us... They went quiet on me or said they'd made other plans. It clearly states on my profile that I am married..... I'm sure they'll be back on monday morning asking for a meet whilst I'm working....
If he contacted you on this single profile you shouldn't be bringing your husband into it."
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over a year ago
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"Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh"
Happens invariably to me
Too busy/not in the mood = messages all day from horny guys.
In the mood and posts for a meet = can't seem to give it away on a plate.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play. "
Well said. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
It's half a dozen of and six of another....
I always explain to anyone who wants to meet me that my family will always come first. Sometimes I plan a meet weeks ahead and other times I get an unexpected free day which I also explain.
I had a message from a guy yesterday asking to meet today as soon as I said it would be both myself and hubby suddenly he had plans.... I think at least 3 guys have said they were free today but as soon as I mentioned it would be both of us... They went quiet on me or said they'd made other plans. It clearly states on my profile that I am married..... I'm sure they'll be back on monday morning asking for a meet whilst I'm working....
If he contacted you on this single profile you shouldn't be bringing your husband into it."
This is very true. If your husband is present it should be changed to a COUPLES profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh"
Your area must be rife with cheaters if the only one's you like are suddenly busy on family weekends. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I dint think all the women are watching match of the day so where do they go on Saturday night? Or maybe they are because they are fake profiles ha "
I'm not free on a Saturday, does that make be fake? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not many “single guys” are free in the evening or weekend due to them being married. I think being honest on your profile stating that you are married is always best and prevents any confusion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not many “single guys” are free in the evening or weekend due to them being married. I think being honest on your profile stating that you are married is always best and prevents any confusion."
Lol, but very true and honesty is the best way to be! |
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over a year ago
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"Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh"
I'm free Saturday nights
Genuinely single and live alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not many “single guys” are free in the evening or weekend due to them being married. I think being honest on your profile stating that you are married is always best and prevents any confusion.
Lol, but very true and honesty is the best way to be!"
Absolutely agree.. |
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I wasn't actually trying to put single guys down-believe it or not. 99.9% of our meets are with single guys.
I just find it frustrating that mon-fri I get messages wanting meets when I'm working and suddenly at the weekends everyone disappears, and it's not just single guys. I suppose everyone has their lives just like us.
As for the single profile..... It's a hotwife profile. They don't really give the option for this. The clue is in the name... |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I wasn't actually trying to put single guys down-believe it or not. 99.9% of our meets are with single guys.
I just find it frustrating that mon-fri I get messages wanting meets when I'm working and suddenly at the weekends everyone disappears, and it's not just single guys. I suppose everyone has their lives just like us.
As for the single profile..... It's a hotwife profile. They don't really give the option for this. The clue is in the name... "
But you ate stating that hubby may be present, therefore it should be a couples profile not a single female. Are you not a couple when he is present at your meets? |
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"I wasn't actually trying to put single guys down-believe it or not. 99.9% of our meets are with single guys.
I just find it frustrating that mon-fri I get messages wanting meets when I'm working and suddenly at the weekends everyone disappears, and it's not just single guys. I suppose everyone has their lives just like us.
As for the single profile..... It's a hotwife profile. They don't really give the option for this. The clue is in the name... "
Yes, but you never meet on your own. Therefore hubby could be either participating fully, merely sat rubbing the rhubarb or even whistling away whilst he knocks up a set of shelves in the corner, you'd still be meeting as a couple? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play. "
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree that even as a 'hot wife' you should be using a couples profile. If you're meeting alone then a single female. I belive that men are generally assumed not to read profile text so you have to do everything you can to help the buggers. I guess that this that showed an interest until your husband was mentioned had assumed you'd be meeting alone....
Good luck finding a weekend meet!
Mike xx |
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples."
People on sub benches know their on a sub bench. Wishing randomers who you liked but didn't respond to, to mind read when they should send another message which most will find a pester and block is not simples. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I wasn't actually trying to put single guys down-believe it or not. 99.9% of our meets are with single guys.
I just find it frustrating that mon-fri I get messages wanting meets when I'm working and suddenly at the weekends everyone disappears, and it's not just single guys. I suppose everyone has their lives just like us.
As for the single profile..... It's a hotwife profile. They don't really give the option for this. The clue is in the name...
Yes, but you never meet on your own. Therefore hubby could be either participating fully, merely sat rubbing the rhubarb or even whistling away whilst he knocks up a set of shelves in the corner, you'd still be meeting as a couple?"
Thanks this was my point exactly. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh
Yes, Saturday night is "family" night, all the "single" guys are busy with their wives lol! "
Yawn..
just as likely singles are out with their mates having a social life you know as is often said to guys this is an extension to the real world... Just as likely they've their kids staying over just as couple's and single ladies would have.. any reason that can be said for a lady or couple not being free is just as applicable for a single guy.
Op.. Clicking your fingers when you're free only works if you say the magic words as well.
Last minute . Con is a different type of website.
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"I wasn't actually trying to put single guys down-believe it or not. 99.9% of our meets are with single guys.
I just find it frustrating that mon-fri I get messages wanting meets when I'm working and suddenly at the weekends everyone disappears, and it's not just single guys. I suppose everyone has their lives just like us.
As for the single profile..... It's a hotwife profile. They don't really give the option for this. The clue is in the name... "
Modern swinging takes all sorts as weird as this seems maybe there not into the cuckold thing. |
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples."
No chance. Got too much self-respect to be treated like that. |
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"I wasn't actually trying to put single guys down-believe it or not. 99.9% of our meets are with single guys.
I just find it frustrating that mon-fri I get messages wanting meets when I'm working and suddenly at the weekends everyone disappears, and it's not just single guys. I suppose everyone has their lives just like us.
As for the single profile..... It's a hotwife profile. They don't really give the option for this. The clue is in the name...
Yes, but you never meet on your own. Therefore hubby could be either participating fully, merely sat rubbing the rhubarb or even whistling away whilst he knocks up a set of shelves in the corner, you'd still be meeting as a couple?"
Husband of said couple here.
So let's get this straight.
What you are saying is,
Mrs is chatting with a guy on her profile and he asks if she is free she says yes, has a offline chat with me I am happy to meet.
But as she had been chatting with him on her HOTWIFE profile ( not single female) she is then supposed to go back and ask to carry on conversation on this profile?
Or your saying that her profile shouldn't exist?
Tbh it's all nonsense,we like you can do with our profiles as we choose within the rule's of the site.
We simply like to keep couples profile for meeting couples and socials/ parties.
She meets guy's alone and has great fun in most cases tho we ask for the first time that I be present for the sake of safety is that so bad?
If I choose to participate or not is no one's business.
As hotwife profile is a very different thing from a truly single female profile.
Essentially it's a couples profile with a silent partner but as she said there is no option for this.
We don't hide what we do, there is no pretence or deception involved.
The whole point of her post was based on frustration.
During the week we have limited availability and the amount of messages she receives from guy's wanting to meet who say anytime, anywhere suddenly all the guy's vanish when she says she is free.
Of course we don't expect people to jump just because we are suddenly free we are not that arrogant.
As for the comments regarding her profile text she never asked for feedback thank you very much.
Happy swinging xx
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"Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh
Yes, Saturday night is "family" night, all the "single" guys are busy with their wives lol!
Yawn..
just as likely singles are out with their mates having a social life you know as is often said to guys this is an extension to the real world... Just as likely they've their kids staying over just as couple's and single ladies would have.. any reason that can be said for a lady or couple not being free is just as applicable for a single guy.
Op.. Clicking your fingers when you're free only works if you say the magic words as well.
Last minute . Con is a different type of website.
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Not finger clicking was done meet request was put up day before and status update.
Oh how people love to read between the lines on here for the sake of an argument. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh
Yes, Saturday night is "family" night, all the "single" guys are busy with their wives lol!
Yawn..
just as likely singles are out with their mates having a social life you know as is often said to guys this is an extension to the real world... Just as likely they've their kids staying over just as couple's and single ladies would have.. any reason that can be said for a lady or couple not being free is just as applicable for a single guy.
Op.. Clicking your fingers when you're free only works if you say the magic words as well.
Last minute . Con is a different type of website.
Not finger clicking was done meet request was put up day before and status update.
Oh how people love to read between the lines on here for the sake of an argument."
I read the op, I quoted the op, it gave little indication other than 'suddenly'. 'Saturday night'
late notice meets, my suggestion lower your expectations no frustration then. |
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"Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh
Yes, Saturday night is "family" night, all the "single" guys are busy with their wives lol!
Yawn..
just as likely singles are out with their mates having a social life you know as is often said to guys this is an extension to the real world... Just as likely they've their kids staying over just as couple's and single ladies would have.. any reason that can be said for a lady or couple not being free is just as applicable for a single guy.
Op.. Clicking your fingers when you're free only works if you say the magic words as well.
Last minute . Con is a different type of website.
Not finger clicking was done meet request was put up day before and status update.
Oh how people love to read between the lines on here for the sake of an argument.
I read the op, I quoted the op, it gave little indication other than 'suddenly'. 'Saturday night'
late notice meets, my suggestion lower your expectations no frustration then."
Still no finger clicking tho.
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By *apeyeMan
over a year ago
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"Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh
Yes, Saturday night is "family" night, all the "single" guys are busy with their wives lol! "
How very true that is, we are |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I wasn't actually trying to put single guys down-believe it or not. 99.9% of our meets are with single guys.
I just find it frustrating that mon-fri I get messages wanting meets when I'm working and suddenly at the weekends everyone disappears, and it's not just single guys. I suppose everyone has their lives just like us.
As for the single profile..... It's a hotwife profile. They don't really give the option for this. The clue is in the name...
Yes, but you never meet on your own. Therefore hubby could be either participating fully, merely sat rubbing the rhubarb or even whistling away whilst he knocks up a set of shelves in the corner, you'd still be meeting as a couple?
Husband of said couple here.
So let's get this straight.
What you are saying is,
Mrs is chatting with a guy on her profile and he asks if she is free she says yes, has a offline chat with me I am happy to meet.
But as she had been chatting with him on her HOTWIFE profile ( not single female) she is then supposed to go back and ask to carry on conversation on this profile?
Or your saying that her profile shouldn't exist?
Tbh it's all nonsense,we like you can do with our profiles as we choose within the rule's of the site.
We simply like to keep couples profile for meeting couples and socials/ parties.
She meets guy's alone and has great fun in most cases tho we ask for the first time that I be present for the sake of safety is that so bad?
If I choose to participate or not is no one's business.
As hotwife profile is a very different thing from a truly single female profile.
Essentially it's a couples profile with a silent partner but as she said there is no option for this.
We don't hide what we do, there is no pretence or deception involved.
The whole point of her post was based on frustration.
During the week we have limited availability and the amount of messages she receives from guy's wanting to meet who say anytime, anywhere suddenly all the guy's vanish when she says she is free.
Of course we don't expect people to jump just because we are suddenly free we are not that arrogant.
As for the comments regarding her profile text she never asked for feedback thank you very much.
Happy swinging xx
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"But as she had been chatting with him on her HOTWIFE profile ( not single female)" then change it to a couples profile if you are going to be present at all. You can still use the other one for socials etc. Single females meet alone. Not with husbands partners fwb or FB. This is why guys are bailing out. False advertising. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I wasn't actually trying to put single guys down-believe it or not. 99.9% of our meets are with single guys.
I just find it frustrating that mon-fri I get messages wanting meets when I'm working and suddenly at the weekends everyone disappears, and it's not just single guys. I suppose everyone has their lives just like us.
As for the single profile..... It's a hotwife profile. They don't really give the option for this. The clue is in the name...
Yes, but you never meet on your own. Therefore hubby could be either participating fully, merely sat rubbing the rhubarb or even whistling away whilst he knocks up a set of shelves in the corner, you'd still be meeting as a couple?
Husband of said couple here.
So let's get this straight.
What you are saying is,
Mrs is chatting with a guy on her profile and he asks if she is free she says yes, has a offline chat with me I am happy to meet.
But as she had been chatting with him on her HOTWIFE profile ( not single female) she is then supposed to go back and ask to carry on conversation on this profile?
Or your saying that her profile shouldn't exist?
Tbh it's all nonsense,we like you can do with our profiles as we choose within the rule's of the site.
We simply like to keep couples profile for meeting couples and socials/ parties.
She meets guy's alone and has great fun in most cases tho we ask for the first time that I be present for the sake of safety is that so bad?
If I choose to participate or not is no one's business.
As hotwife profile is a very different thing from a truly single female profile.
Essentially it's a couples profile with a silent partner but as she said there is no option for this.
We don't hide what we do, there is no pretence or deception involved.
The whole point of her post was based on frustration.
During the week we have limited availability and the amount of messages she receives from guy's wanting to meet who say anytime, anywhere suddenly all the guy's vanish when she says she is free.
Of course we don't expect people to jump just because we are suddenly free we are not that arrogant.
As for the comments regarding her profile text she never asked for feedback thank you very much.
Happy swinging xx
"But as she had been chatting with him on her HOTWIFE profile ( not single female)" then change it to a couples profile if you are going to be present at all. You can still use the other one for socials etc. Single females meet alone. Not with husbands partners fwb or FB. This is why guys are bailing out. False advertising. "
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On my couple profile we used to have the usual messages about wanting to meet.
Advertised for a gangbang and whoosh no more messages. The vast majority are here for a fantasy and to fuck people around. Maybe steal a few photos for a wank while they are at it |
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Why all the negativity to her post? It was obvious she was just venting frustration. It didn’t come across as putting anyone down for not being available. It’s like being annoyed if the weather is great for months, and then it rains when we plan a trip to the beach; we may moan, but we’re not “annoyed” at the weather.
And as to whether it should be a couples profile - maybe, maybe not. But there are no clear rules. |
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"Why all the negativity to her post? It was obvious she was just venting frustration. It didn’t come across as putting anyone down for not being available. It’s like being annoyed if the weather is great for months, and then it rains when we plan a trip to the beach; we may moan, but we’re not “annoyed” at the weather.
And as to whether it should be a couples profile - maybe, maybe not. But there are no clear rules. "
That's the nature of the forum.
Thank you all for your constructive feedback..... Well some it. |
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples.
No chance. Got too much self-respect to be treated like that. "
Which is absolutely your prerogative but you wont meet many couples on here with that attitude. Have you any idea how many men compared to women there are on here? |
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples."
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples.
People on sub benches know their on a sub bench. Wishing randomers who you liked but didn't respond to, to mind read when they should send another message which most will find a pester and block is not simples. "
Im not talking about the messaging, im saying if youve been on a couples sub bench and they ask you to meet, you need to be willing to drop everything and meet. Its not fair, its just how it is because of the nature of couples and the men/women ratio on fab. |
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"Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh"
Aww, I'm with you there. A few weeks back I put up a meet, Saturday evening & yup.. Quiet! |
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples.
Crock of sh/t "
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples."
If you genuinely treat people like that then you’re reducing them to a commodity that’s at your beck and call.
I hope single men have e got more self respect. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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From my point of view as a single guy;
I know single women who are part of couples who advertise on their singles profile - not a problem for me. If it is clearly stated then fine
Also in terms of meets I have friends that I have messaged all week but then as I do t drive and can’t accommodate so last min weekend mins are really out of the question as I am normally at football
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op u need to state upfront your hubby will accompany u on all meets ,single guys then won't feel they've been hoodwinked into thinking they're meeting a lady and it ends up a couple's meet |
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples.
No chance. Got too much self-respect to be treated like that.
Which is absolutely your prerogative but you wont meet many couples on here with that attitude. Have you any idea how many men compared to women there are on here?"
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples."
I am glad i found this post... because i am in two minds on how to deal with it..... part of me really wants to give it the contempt it deserves... other other part of me wants to explain why you are wrong on so many levels.....
maybe i'll go with a bit of both!!!!
see.. the popular guys out there are like the popular women and couples... they are out there networking, clubs, parties, impressing people! doing what they do to stand out....
they also have lives like you.....which mean they have real lives, which means that they may not be at someones beckon call... which means they have to plan!!!
sound familiar???
i would hope that men treat you with more respect than you seem to have for them, I would hope that men have more self respect that to jump thru hoops to get a meet..... but i am also a realist in that some men think with their cocks more than they do their brains....
but i would say they are not the successful ones in the long term, they just take advantage every so often of an oppotunistic situation
getting meets are two fold in that i would like to think that you have to impress me as much as i would seem to have to impress you! i aint taking on for "your team" and you as a "couple" aren't better than me... so don't you dare look down on me!!!
subtle enough......  |
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I know for couples it can be frustrating that the fem seems interested and then doesn’t reply or leads them up the garden path. I’ve been on both sides and it can all be very frustrating sometimes |
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples.
Crock of sh/t
You really do sound like a delightful person from your profile! "
Thank you! Those who have actually met me, will confirm this |
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples.
If you genuinely treat people like that then you’re reducing them to a commodity that’s at your beck and call.
I hope single men have e got more self respect. "
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples.
I am glad i found this post... because i am in two minds on how to deal with it..... part of me really wants to give it the contempt it deserves... other other part of me wants to explain why you are wrong on so many levels.....
maybe i'll go with a bit of both!!!!
see.. the popular guys out there are like the popular women and couples... they are out there networking, clubs, parties, impressing people! doing what they do to stand out....
they also have lives like you.....which mean they have real lives, which means that they may not be at someones beckon call... which means they have to plan!!!
sound familiar???
i would hope that men treat you with more respect than you seem to have for them, I would hope that men have more self respect that to jump thru hoops to get a meet..... but i am also a realist in that some men think with their cocks more than they do their brains....
but i would say they are not the successful ones in the long term, they just take advantage every so often of an oppotunistic situation
getting meets are two fold in that i would like to think that you have to impress me as much as i would seem to have to impress you! i aint taking on for "your team" and you as a "couple" aren't better than me... so don't you dare look down on me!!!
subtle enough...... "
Eloquently put, you're a man of principle. |
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over a year ago
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If people read my profile you would see I have just had a baby
I've just had a pregnant risk bareback message
Wtf is wrong with people? On why planet is that an acceptable approach to make to someone.  |
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"If people read my profile you would see I have just had a baby
I've just had a pregnant risk bareback message
Wtf is wrong with people? On why planet is that an acceptable approach to make to someone. "
Congratulations |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples.
Crock of sh/t
You really do sound like a delightful person from your profile! "
Actually at least his profile is honest, he's not claiming to be single. FYI, he's actually a very nice guy to chat to. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"I got stood up last night "
Yep - I got stood up as well.
I never normally meet on a Saturday night - weekends are for my other half and I and most people on here seem to work on the same pattern. I feel your pain OP. Hundreds of messages through the week begging me to meet right away but as soon as I have a spare evening at a loose end...it went silent!
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"I got stood up last night
Yep - I got stood up as well.
I never normally meet on a Saturday night - weekends are for my other half and I and most people on here seem to work on the same pattern. I feel your pain OP. Hundreds of messages through the week begging me to meet right away but as soon as I have a spare evening at a loose end...it went silent!
Had a great night anyway "
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"I got stood up last night
Yep - I got stood up as well.
I never normally meet on a Saturday night - weekends are for my other half and I and most people on here seem to work on the same pattern. I feel your pain OP. Hundreds of messages through the week begging me to meet right away but as soon as I have a spare evening at a loose end...it went silent!
Had a great night anyway "
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
It's half a dozen of and six of another....
I always explain to anyone who wants to meet me that my family will always come first. Sometimes I plan a meet weeks ahead and other times I get an unexpected free day which I also explain.
I had a message from a guy yesterday asking to meet today as soon as I said it would be both myself and hubby suddenly he had plans.... I think at least 3 guys have said they were free today but as soon as I mentioned it would be both of us... They went quiet on me or said they'd made other plans. It clearly states on my profile that I am married..... I'm sure they'll be back on monday morning asking for a meet whilst I'm working....
If he contacted you on this single profile you shouldn't be bringing your husband into it."
Agreed, you are baiting guys in by putting up meets on your single profile when your husband will be coming too, that’s pretty pathetic and totally understandable why guys would go quite on you, why not be honest and advertise via your couples profile next time? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
It's half a dozen of and six of another....
I always explain to anyone who wants to meet me that my family will always come first. Sometimes I plan a meet weeks ahead and other times I get an unexpected free day which I also explain.
I had a message from a guy yesterday asking to meet today as soon as I said it would be both myself and hubby suddenly he had plans.... I think at least 3 guys have said they were free today but as soon as I mentioned it would be both of us... They went quiet on me or said they'd made other plans. It clearly states on my profile that I am married..... I'm sure they'll be back on monday morning asking for a meet whilst I'm working....
If he contacted you on this single profile you shouldn't be bringing your husband into it.
Agreed, you are baiting guys in by putting up meets on your single profile when your husband will be coming too, that’s pretty pathetic and totally understandable why guys would go quite on you, why not be honest and advertise via your couples profile next time? "
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
It's half a dozen of and six of another....
I always explain to anyone who wants to meet me that my family will always come first. Sometimes I plan a meet weeks ahead and other times I get an unexpected free day which I also explain.
I had a message from a guy yesterday asking to meet today as soon as I said it would be both myself and hubby suddenly he had plans.... I think at least 3 guys have said they were free today but as soon as I mentioned it would be both of us... They went quiet on me or said they'd made other plans. It clearly states on my profile that I am married..... I'm sure they'll be back on monday morning asking for a meet whilst I'm working....
If he contacted you on this single profile you shouldn't be bringing your husband into it.
Agreed, you are baiting guys in by putting up meets on your single profile when your husband will be coming too, that’s pretty pathetic and totally understandable why guys would go quite on you, why not be honest and advertise via your couples profile next time? spot on. "
Wow you really do have an axe to grind with my Mrs!
You guys obviously have a separate agenda here despite the fact that there are loads of women on here with single profiles who are also in a couple.
I'd love to see where she says she's baiting anyone on her profile and as for saying it's pathetic.
Well likewise if you chose to actually read what we have said previously and what it says on profile.
If you think me taking her safety seriously is pathetic then frankly so are you.
If you really want to get into the fine details of things the guy's we are talking about had said in previous messages that me being present for the first meet wasn't a problem.
Then when it actually comes down to it they bottle it.
And guys we are only talking about a social here!
You lot are really getting your panties in a twist aren't you.
Who says people aren't judgemental on here eh.
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This is a forum. It's natural that we're not all going to agree.
I've said it once already, I'll say it again... I don't pretend to be a single female. Everything is in black and white on my profile. I wasn't actually asking for advice merely venting frustration (as someone kindly noted earlier in the thread).
Some of the advice has been helpful.... Others not quite so. Can't please all of the people all of the time.
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over a year ago
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"This is a forum. It's natural that we're not all going to agree.
I've said it once already, I'll say it again... I don't pretend to be a single female. Everything is in black and white on my profile. I wasn't actually asking for advice merely venting frustration (as someone kindly noted earlier in the thread).
Some of the advice has been helpful.... Others not quite so. Can't please all of the people all of the time.
Thank you and goodnight! "
all the above nitpicking aside...it's 6:41am...
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people want to play.
Jumping up and dropping everything when theyve been kept on the subs bench for months is exactly what single guys need to do, if they want to be successful with couples on here. Couples usually want last minute guys. If all the guys who moan they cant get meets do this they will be very successful single fabbers. Simples.
I am glad i found this post... because i am in two minds on how to deal with it..... part of me really wants to give it the contempt it deserves... other other part of me wants to explain why you are wrong on so many levels.....
maybe i'll go with a bit of both!!!!
see.. the popular guys out there are like the popular women and couples... they are out there networking, clubs, parties, impressing people! doing what they do to stand out....
they also have lives like you.....which mean they have real lives, which means that they may not be at someones beckon call... which means they have to plan!!!
sound familiar???
i would hope that men treat you with more respect than you seem to have for them, I would hope that men have more self respect that to jump thru hoops to get a meet..... but i am also a realist in that some men think with their cocks more than they do their brains....
but i would say they are not the successful ones in the long term, they just take advantage every so often of an oppotunistic situation
getting meets are two fold in that i would like to think that you have to impress me as much as i would seem to have to impress you! i aint taking on for "your team" and you as a "couple" aren't better than me... so don't you dare look down on me!!!
subtle enough...... "
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over a year ago
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I'll play devils advocate here..
If I ever meet someone with a profile that indicates being married, most of the time I'll assume the partner will be involved, particularly if it's a hotwife scenario...I'm really not that interested in the hotwife thing to be honest..
Though in the case of being wanted on the day for a meet, is something I'd rather have organised way before that..my plans change and more often than not, if I dont get a date/time arranged for a meet, I'll shag someone else..or do something unfabby.
It can be really annoying having to wait till the end of the week for a decision...then come the weekend, your left high n dry...the meet doesnt go ahead, and you just spend the weekend having a wank. |
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Lol 90% of people here are all talk and when a guy is madly messaging us we assume he is having a wank
We’ve experienced similar been away for a weekend put us a meet us invite and had very little response. Just part of fab I’m afraid which is why we prefer clubs now for actual fun |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I'll play devils advocate here..
If I ever meet someone with a profile that indicates being married, most of the time I'll assume the partner will be involved, particularly if it's a hotwife scenario...I'm really not that interested in the hotwife thing to be honest..
Though in the case of being wanted on the day for a meet, is something I'd rather have organised way before that..my plans change and more often than not, if I dont get a date/time arranged for a meet, I'll shag someone else..or do something unfabby.
It can be really annoying having to wait till the end of the week for a decision...then come the weekend, your left high n dry...the meet doesnt go ahead, and you just spend the weekend having a wank."
I'm the same if I don't hear at least a couple of days before, I make other plans. I'm not wasting my time off. |
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"I'll play devils advocate here..
If I ever meet someone with a profile that indicates being married, most of the time I'll assume the partner will be involved, particularly if it's a hotwife scenario...I'm really not that interested in the hotwife thing to be honest..
Though in the case of being wanted on the day for a meet, is something I'd rather have organised way before that..my plans change and more often than not, if I dont get a date/time arranged for a meet, I'll shag someone else..or do something unfabby.
It can be really annoying having to wait till the end of the week for a decision...then come the weekend, your left high n dry...the meet doesnt go ahead, and you just spend the weekend having a wank.
I'm the same if I don't hear at least a couple of days before, I make other plans. I'm not wasting my time off. "
too right, work all week and get to the weekend and sit twiddling your thumbs or whatever...to get fuck all? no thanks...for me, it might come across as a slutty attitude or make someone think they weren't worth waiting for...all I've asked is to make a commitment to meet, rather than awaiting selection. |
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"Ok, so I'm having a bit of a rant.
It frustrates the hell out of us that we get bombarded day in, day out for meets. But then when we're free, suddenly everyone disappears off the face of the earth!
Is it because it's a Saturday night?
Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh
Happens invariably to me
Same here
Too busy/not in the mood = messages all day from horny guys.
In the mood and posts for a meet = can't seem to give it away on a plate.
Sigh. "
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"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
It's half a dozen of and six of another....
I always explain to anyone who wants to meet me that my family will always come first. Sometimes I plan a meet weeks ahead and other times I get an unexpected free day which I also explain.
I had a message from a guy yesterday asking to meet today as soon as I said it would be both myself and hubby suddenly he had plans.... I think at least 3 guys have said they were free today but as soon as I mentioned it would be both of us... They went quiet on me or said they'd made other plans. It clearly states on my profile that I am married..... I'm sure they'll be back on monday morning asking for a meet whilst I'm working....
If he contacted you on this single profile you shouldn't be bringing your husband into it.
Agreed, you are baiting guys in by putting up meets on your single profile when your husband will be coming too, that’s pretty pathetic and totally understandable why guys would go quite on you, why not be honest and advertise via your couples profile next time? spot on.
Wow you really do have an axe to grind with my Mrs!
You guys obviously have a separate agenda here despite the fact that there are loads of women on here with single profiles who are also in a couple.
I'd love to see where she says she's baiting anyone on her profile and as for saying it's pathetic.
Well likewise if you chose to actually read what we have said previously and what it says on profile.
If you think me taking her safety seriously is pathetic then frankly so are you.
If you really want to get into the fine details of things the guy's we are talking about had said in previous messages that me being present for the first meet wasn't a problem.
Then when it actually comes down to it they bottle it.
And guys we are only talking about a social here!
You lot are really getting your panties in a twist aren't you.
Who says people aren't judgemental on here eh.
Rolls eyes "
to be fair to op if u do read the epic of a profile it does mention hubby might attend meets or might just let her get on with it but I can see why single guys would get cold feet as they're expecting to meet a sexy single lady and not her hubby as well,it can be a bit daunting |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"jools.
your profile says you are extremely busy and it may take you weeks or months to respond.
also that you block for continous harassment and bombardment.
ok fine. but you cannot expect people to wait months for you to decide to meet as others will make a decision for you and meet someone else.
and they may not get back in touch with you because you have made it clear your extremely busy and harassment or bombardment will result in a block.
jools im sure your a very nice woman and we all have very busy lives but you cannot expect people to suddenly jump up and drop everything when youve kept them on the subs bench for months.
people want to play.
It's half a dozen of and six of another....
I always explain to anyone who wants to meet me that my family will always come first. Sometimes I plan a meet weeks ahead and other times I get an unexpected free day which I also explain.
I had a message from a guy yesterday asking to meet today as soon as I said it would be both myself and hubby suddenly he had plans.... I think at least 3 guys have said they were free today but as soon as I mentioned it would be both of us... They went quiet on me or said they'd made other plans. It clearly states on my profile that I am married..... I'm sure they'll be back on monday morning asking for a meet whilst I'm working....
If he contacted you on this single profile you shouldn't be bringing your husband into it.
Agreed, you are baiting guys in by putting up meets on your single profile when your husband will be coming too, that’s pretty pathetic and totally understandable why guys would go quite on you, why not be honest and advertise via your couples profile next time? spot on.
Wow you really do have an axe to grind with my Mrs!
You guys obviously have a separate agenda here despite the fact that there are loads of women on here with single profiles who are also in a couple.
I'd love to see where she says she's baiting anyone on her profile and as for saying it's pathetic.
Well likewise if you chose to actually read what we have said previously and what it says on profile.
If you think me taking her safety seriously is pathetic then frankly so are you.
If you really want to get into the fine details of things the guy's we are talking about had said in previous messages that me being present for the first meet wasn't a problem.
Then when it actually comes down to it they bottle it.
And guys we are only talking about a social here!
You lot are really getting your panties in a twist aren't you.
Who says people aren't judgemental on here eh.
Rolls eyes to be fair to op if u do read the epic of a profile it does mention hubby might attend meets or might just let her get on with it but I can see why single guys would get cold feet as they're expecting to meet a sexy single lady and not her hubby as well,it can be a bit daunting "
I agree, if I was planning to meet a single female, I wouldn't expect her partner to be there as well. I would definitely cancel. |
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