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Would you be offended if someone you met, met on the same day or the day after they met you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok so I appreciate this might be different for everyone. Would you be offended if someone had a meet on the same day or the day after your meet with them? I have done it myself (double standards call me a hypocrite) DEFINITELY NOT JEALOUSY. But more a little twinge of feeling like just a number or a 'hole/pussy'. Is swinging more than just using people's body parts for our own pleasure or is that basically all swinging is?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope..... Wouldn't mind them doing that....

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By *eddonistikMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Ok so I appreciate this might be different for everyone. Would you be offended if someone had a meet on the same day or the day after your meet with them? I have done it myself (double standards call me a hypocrite) DEFINITELY NOT JEALOUSY. But more a little twinge of feeling like just a number or a 'hole/pussy'. Is swinging more than just using people's body parts for our own pleasure or is that basically all swinging is?

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We're swingers, we fuck with whoever we want whenever we want all parties being consenting.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

No doesn’t bother me in the slightest

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By *ungmagic10Man over a year ago

Northampton

Don't care

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By *uit and bootsMan over a year ago

Manchester

This actually happened to me this past week. It had been long planned for me to travel a long distance to meet someone, which was in the same area as another fab friend who was also keen to meet.

I explained to both of them what was in the air, as I didn’t want to appear to be the travelling lothario.

Both were very cool and quite interested in the other meet, so I drove home very happy, very tired and quite a bit cross eyed!

Being on other level with both of them made it all seem to go ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This actually happened to me this past week. It had been long planned for me to travel a long distance to meet someone, which was in the same area as another fab friend who was also keen to meet.

I explained to both of them what was in the air, as I didn’t want to appear to be the travelling lothario.

Both were very cool and quite interested in the other meet, so I drove home very happy, very tired and quite a bit cross eyed!

Being on other level with both of them made it all seem to go ok."

Yeah you don't owe either of them an explanation but it shows the kind of person you are. I would respect that if I were them

xxx

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By *ay19720Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

Im not sure to be honest. ...I don't like the thought of munching a used pussy if im not told..im not a cleaner..tho I know some like that...being the second cock im fine with if its safe fun..day after..heyho...

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By *uit and bootsMan over a year ago

Manchester

"This actually happened to me this past week. It had been long planned for me to travel a long distance to meet someone, which was in the same area as another fab friend who was also keen to meet.

I explained to both of them what was in the air, as I didn’t want to appear to be the travelling lothario.

Both were very cool and quite interested in the other meet, so I drove home very happy, very tired and quite a bit cross eyed!

Being on other level with both of them made it all seem to go ok.

Yeah you don't owe either of them an explanation but it shows the kind of person you are. I would respect that if I were them

xxx"

Thanks, if it had been my home town i may have declined and arranged separate days, but due to the distances involved everyone seemed on the same page, which i’m truly thankful for

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By *eddonistikMan over a year ago

Manchester

"This actually happened to me this past week. It had been long planned for me to travel a long distance to meet someone, which was in the same area as another fab friend who was also keen to meet.

I explained to both of them what was in the air, as I didn’t want to appear to be the travelling lothario.

Both were very cool and quite interested in the other meet, so I drove home very happy, very tired and quite a bit cross eyed!

Being on other level with both of them made it all seem to go ok.

Yeah you don't owe either of them an explanation but it shows the kind of person you are. I would respect that if I were them

xxx"

It's all supposed to be fun, not relationships when it comes down to it so what the hell? If you're a couple then you set your own boundaries but surely accept what others, singles or couples see as theirs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't care as long as i'm not double dipping

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not my business

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This actually happened to me this past week. It had been long planned for me to travel a long distance to meet someone, which was in the same area as another fab friend who was also keen to meet.

I explained to both of them what was in the air, as I didn’t want to appear to be the travelling lothario.

Both were very cool and quite interested in the other meet, so I drove home very happy, very tired and quite a bit cross eyed!

Being on other level with both of them made it all seem to go ok.

Yeah you don't owe either of them an explanation but it shows the kind of person you are. I would respect that if I were them

xxx

Not said about relationships

I did say it wasn't about jealousy . Why are you so angry lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because this isn’t a place for jealously. Anyone who is...I really don’t know.

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By *eddonistikMan over a year ago

Manchester

"This actually happened to me this past week. It had been long planned for me to travel a long distance to meet someone, which was in the same area as another fab friend who was also keen to meet.

I explained to both of them what was in the air, as I didn’t want to appear to be the travelling lothario.

Both were very cool and quite interested in the other meet, so I drove home very happy, very tired and quite a bit cross eyed!

Being on other level with both of them made it all seem to go ok.

Yeah you don't owe either of them an explanation but it shows the kind of person you are. I would respect that if I were them

xxx

Not said about relationships

I did say it wasn't about jealousy . Why are you so angry lol "

Sorry if I've framed it badly,you've misunderstood or misread my comment, I'm certainly not angry. I'm one of the most laid back blokes you could meet when it comes to sexuality.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

I wouldn't want the lingering smell of another woman on a meet. I'd also want him hot and ready to go not unable to perform because he's shagged out.

It would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

nope its nothing to do with me but if i know that someone is meeting another person before me id decline because i need a man/woman with stamina to give me what i want i cant be done with half jobs same with guys who wank before meets ? erm if you cum then we start again why watse it with a wank ?? im greedy i guess.

but as a rule what one gets up to with there lives is down to them no one questions mine im not gonna question theres.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

waste** lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some "

Your last line is very interesting. It seems like you disapprove of others that take this approach?

We don’t meet more than once every couple of weeks and it’s not something that would happen with us, however if someone expressed the same opinions as you to us, I wouldn’t meet them. It’s putting expectations on another and surely that’s against the very ethos of NSA sex and swinging? In a way it blurs the lines between swinging and dating.

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

No they are free to do whatever they like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some

Your last line is very interesting. It seems like you disapprove of others that take this approach?

I just don't like feeling used and forgotten when ppl's lust fade away.

I have no issues with people having more than one partners, I just have issues with the ones who deliberately used others when they are horny but forget abt them straight after. As it seems to be the case with some ppl on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some

Your last line is very interesting. It seems like you disapprove of others that take this approach?

I just don't like feeling used and forgotten when ppl's lust fade away.

And of course I disaprove others that take that approach when their approach invovle myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Offended is the wrong word for me, I know it’s a swinging site and it’s NSA and the people I meet are going to meet others (as will I!)

But I like the anticipation and build up and getting ready to meet someone as well as the meet itself of course. So when I meet off here I like to dedicate myself to them for that time, I don’t think I could do that properly if I was meeting someone else later the same day and likewise I guess that they would be focussing partly on the later meet too.

So offended is the wrong word. But I think I’d enjoy the meet a lot less if I knew they had one eye on making sure they get away promptly to be ready for the next fella.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

"Offended is the wrong word for me, I know it’s a swinging site and it’s NSA and the people I meet are going to meet others (as will I!)

So offended is the wrong word. But I think I’d enjoy the meet a lot less if I knew they had one eye on making sure they get away promptly to be ready for the next fella. "

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

"If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some

Your last line is very interesting. It seems like you disapprove of others that take this approach?

I just don't like feeling used and forgotten when ppl's lust fade away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some

Your last line is very interesting. It seems like you disapprove of others that take this approach?

I just don't like feeling used and forgotten when ppl's lust fade away.

And of course I disaprove others that take that approach when their approach invovle myself. "

But who’s being used? NSA sex is just that. Two or more people meet, have sex and move on. A lady above mentioned performance issues, and I can see that side of it and a chap mentioned not wanting to get a face full of some other gentleman’s left overs. I can also see that.

But feeling like you’ve been used emotionally I don’t get. I’m not having a go because we’re all different, but to me, if I knew someone had those thoughts a klaxon would be going off in my head and screaming “Needy Fucker!”.

Again, please don’t take this as having a go at you personally, but to us it’s a big red line having someone who expects more than the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To add to my last, I’m looking at it from the point of a couple, so therefore I don’t need someone who might expect more from us than the moment.

Ongoing friendship, yes but no more if that makes sense?

A single may well have a different perspective.

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By *appyWandererMan over a year ago

Croydon

I get where you are coming from, you want to feel a bit special. Everyone takes something different from swinging.

If you are looking something regular and don't like the idea of them "getting about"; put that you don't go near hardened swingers on your profile, and test them before you meet.

My personal view is that it is an experience\night time dessert that is offered, if the person wants to offer more than great.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I don’t want to feel like I’m their 10 a.m appointment and they have someone booked in at 2. We all approach things differently and whilst it is sex only and no relationship, I don’t like the conveyor belt mentality.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some

Your last line is very interesting. It seems like you disapprove of others that take this approach?

I just don't like feeling used and forgotten when ppl's lust fade away.

And of course I disaprove others that take that approach when their approach invovle myself.

Again, please don’t take this as having a go at you personally, but to us it’s a big red line having someone who expects more than the moment."

Haha don't worry I don't see that as having a go at all

Well, I do get the idea of 'NSA' sex and when the person has been very clear on what she wants and need, if I agree then there is no issue at all.

Yet when ppl play mind games in order to fuck you then completely forget about you afterwards, it does bother me. Especially if they have a meet lined up straight after.

It seems to me that some people put so many effort to meet you but once they did you do not exist anymore. And that's what bother me. If their aim are clear, fine. But if they sort of sending mixed signal, then it is offending when you realise that it was just smoke.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some

Your last line is very interesting. It seems like you disapprove of others that take this approach?

I just don't like feeling used and forgotten when ppl's lust fade away.

And of course I disaprove others that take that approach when their approach invovle myself.

Again, please don’t take this as having a go at you personally, but to us it’s a big red line having someone who expects more than the moment.

Haha don't worry I don't see that as having a go at all

Well, I do get the idea of 'NSA' sex and when the person has been very clear on what she wants and need, if I agree then there is no issue at all.

Yet when ppl play mind games in order to fuck you then completely forget about you afterwards, it does bother me. Especially if they have a meet lined up straight after.

It is more about the way it is done and not what about what it is done that bother me most.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some

Your last line is very interesting. It seems like you disapprove of others that take this approach?

I just don't like feeling used and forgotten when ppl's lust fade away.

And of course I disaprove others that take that approach when their approach invovle myself.

Again, please don’t take this as having a go at you personally, but to us it’s a big red line having someone who expects more than the moment.

Haha don't worry I don't see that as having a go at all

Well, I do get the idea of 'NSA' sex and when the person has been very clear on what she wants and need, if I agree then there is no issue at all.

Yet when ppl play mind games in order to fuck you then completely forget about you afterwards, it does bother me. Especially if they have a meet lined up straight after.

Ah! I see. I agree, that this all hinges on being upfront. Nobody should be given unrealistic expectations.

This can’t be right. On a fab debate we find out we are actually agreeing!

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By *carlettxWoman over a year ago

Essex

I personally wouldn’t meet with someone else the same day as a planned meet

1. Normally the texting , flirting, leading up to the meet and the anticipation is so hot and sexually charged that I wouldn’t want to meet someone if I was already satisfied by another

2. The way I like to play would leave me too sore to probably enjoy another marathon session

I would like my meet to feel like I was giving it my all for them

That’s just my personal stand on it but others to each their own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, that's completely up to them and I've done it before myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some "

Same.

It would bother me and I wouldn't meet them again. I don't want to meet people that do that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To add to my last, I’m looking at it from the point of a couple, so therefore I don’t need someone who might expect more from us than the moment.

Ongoing friendship, yes but no more if that makes sense?

A single may well have a different perspective. "

It's a different scenario for couples. Some singles also like fuck n go and some don't.

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By *obsrocketMan over a year ago

Loughborough

I was once invited to a swingers house party. The organiser had invited a single male she fancied playing with again. However within a few minutes of arriving he was on Fab looking for other meets. She was very upset as she had planned for him to stay the night as they had played before.

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By *uckslut and MCouple over a year ago

Poole

Nope not at all. We're swingers, and love greedy girls and gangbangs. What's the differance in having a time gap in between?

I did have a single chap say no to me cos I'd had a morning meet already. I always bath and change lingery between in these cases.

Swinging for us is nsa. Many see this as a dating site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To add to my last, I’m looking at it from the point of a couple, so therefore I don’t need someone who might expect more from us than the moment.

Ongoing friendship, yes but no more if that makes sense?

A single may well have a different perspective.

It's a different scenario for couples. Some singles also like fuck n go and some don't. "

Totally. I also think it sums up the wide gulf that there sometimes is between singles and couples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was once invited to a swingers house party. The organiser had invited a single male she fancied playing with again. However within a few minutes of arriving he was on Fab looking for other meets. She was very upset as she had planned for him to stay the night as they had played before."

It's wise not to make any assumptions in this game. Just go with the flow and live in the moment

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By *ondongreg79Man over a year ago

london

Happened to me recently. Asked when her last meet was and she said a few hours ago. I found it strangely horny.

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By *eah BabyCouple over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

As long as we were their first meet of the day, don’t want half measure lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always good to meet peeps you've already had great times with even for just a social with a little shared joint memory.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would have thought that anyone who really can't cope with this might want to re-evaluate their life choices and that perhaps swinging really isn't for them

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some "

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As long as we were their first meet of the day, don’t want half measure lol "

Half measures and sloppy seconds not the but advert for a meet lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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yes wouldn’t be enamoured, not a fan of knowing details or the braggers amongst us, I regard people I meet as friends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some

This

Make time for a session of fun then there'd be no want for more we'd all be to saw lol

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By *eddonistikMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I don’t want to feel like I’m their 10 a.m appointment and they have someone booked in at 2. We all approach things differently and whilst it is sex only and no relationship, I don’t like the conveyor belt mentality. "

Chance would be a fine thing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would have thought that anyone who really can't cope with this might want to re-evaluate their life choices and that perhaps swinging really isn't for them"

Not really. There's a very wide scope in swinging. It's just about finding compatible people.

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By *eah BabyCouple over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Chance would be a fine thing

HaHa...hilarious had me rolling around laughing at that quote

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By *olliPineCouple over a year ago

swingers clubs

Nah, it just means their diaries aligned with another meet's diary in a closer time period to when your and their diaries aligned too.

We only met at clubs and so sometimes the people we play with have played with someone else an hour before us and vice versa (there was a shower inbetween, promise)

Only thing that could be an issue is their stamina

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's what fab is for some and not for others. Personally not something we had happen nor what we'd like to.

In clubs, it's a free for all so can't moan it there your cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No.. this is a swinging site not a dating site. It's about meeting people for sex not relationships..dating sites are for that..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you click with others and every thing is chilled then enjoy,

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

I wouldn't be offended, it takes a lot more than that.

I do prefer to be the only meet of the day but what I don't know can't hurt me.

I would be a bit miffed if someone arrived and said they were knackered from an earlier meet though. Bring your A game or go home.

As for meets on consecutive days, if someone is lucky enough to set that up, good for them!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would prefer not to know if and when they’re meeting others it’s not something that turns me on. If they did say they had met someone earlier that day for sex I would be worried they wouldn’t keep up with me, I like my men at full capacity

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By *orksRockerMan over a year ago

Bradford

"I would prefer not to know if and when they’re meeting others it’s not something that turns me on. If they did say they had met someone earlier that day for sex I would be worried they wouldn’t keep up with me, I like my men at full capacity

"full capacity" lmfao bless you!

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By *oftandGentle2Couple over a year ago

leeds

"I wouldn't want the lingering smell of another woman on a meet. I'd also want him hot and ready to go not unable to perform because he's shagged out.

It would put me off. "

This!

I’d prefer to be the only meet they had that day, and definetly be a bit fed up if I was second in line!

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By *ndrew CareyMan over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

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No, don't think about it that way. I just smile and go, she's got some action.

That's about it

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

"I wouldn't want the lingering smell of another woman on a meet. I'd also want him hot and ready to go not unable to perform because he's shagged out.

It would put me off.

This!

I’d prefer to be the only meet they had that day, and definetly be a bit fed up if I was second in line!

For one on one meets, definitely this.

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By *iker boy 69Man over a year ago

midlands

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I had a meet with a lady who told me she was on her way home from an afternoon meet that day with a couple, and when i met her you could tell she had a good time but it made her even more horny so no problem

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if good time had by all.

do it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find it more upsetting when someone cancels a meet then is verified on that day having met in the place you had planned to meet up in.

I don't mean the veri is published, but when it appears several days later with a "what a great way to spend a Wednesday"...

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By *lacksausageMan over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Bollocks, bollocks bollocks. I see some comments on here and I smell horse dung!! But I love fab. It keeps me sane and reminds me of the pitfalls in real life. The two facers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have had more than one meet in a day, so if someone else were to do it then it wouldn't bother me in the slightest, regardless of the whys and wherefores. Also, I insist on fucking my fwb when he has played with someone else and he insists on fucking me before either of us do so it is rare I don't now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tbh I dont mind if ive a meet with somone and the next day hes meeting another. If I can see he wants to fuck everything insight then its off putting and I wont go there again. But it is a sex sight so good luck Id say x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I suppose it's all context related.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would be offended

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By *aintance_guyMan over a year ago

Chelmsford

I'd guess some would rock your world

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's me ... OP! Thanks for all your replies. Ok so some of you took it from a jealously perspective as I thought most would even though I said it wasn't a jealousy thing.

BUT what about from an ego perspective? Would you feel like you might not have been enough or good enough performance-wise and that's why they went for the next round so quickly?

Basically would anyone think "I must have been shit" lol

You are all marvellous

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s none of my business what a potential meet of mine gets up to and vice versa. However, I wouldn’t endeavour to arrange more than one meet at a time/same day. That doesn’t really fit with what I want from Fab and in some way would slightly diminish the flirting and intellectual foreplay I like to participate in with each of my meets

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only meet people I have a regular thing with so we wouldn’t do that anyway.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"It's me ... OP! Thanks for all your replies. Ok so some of you took it from a jealously perspective as I thought most would even though I said it wasn't a jealousy thing.

BUT what about from an ego perspective? Would you feel like you might not have been enough or good enough performance-wise and that's why they went for the next round so quickly?

Basically would anyone think "I must have been shit" lol

You are all marvellous

No I wouldn’t think that

I personally think that would speak volumes about the level of insecurity the person had in order to think that way

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's me ... OP! Thanks for all your replies. Ok so some of you took it from a jealously perspective as I thought most would even though I said it wasn't a jealousy thing.

BUT what about from an ego perspective? Would you feel like you might not have been enough or good enough performance-wise and that's why they went for the next round so quickly?

Basically would anyone think "I must have been shit" lol

You are all marvellous

No I wouldn’t think that

I personally think that would speak volumes about the level of insecurity the person had in order to think that way "

Well yes because insecurity is a natural human thing though. Over confidence is as unattractive to me as insecurity might be to others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No.. this is a swinging site not a dating site. It's about meeting people for sex not relationships..dating sites are for that.."

But I want both in a person. Where do I go for that? I like to fuck others but with a partner in tow.

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some

Your last line is very interesting. It seems like you disapprove of others that take this approach?

I just don't like feeling used and forgotten when ppl's lust fade away.

And of course I disaprove others that take that approach when their approach invovle myself.

Again, please don’t take this as having a go at you personally, but to us it’s a big red line having someone who expects more than the moment.

Haha don't worry I don't see that as having a go at all

Well, I do get the idea of 'NSA' sex and when the person has been very clear on what she wants and need, if I agree then there is no issue at all.

Yet when ppl play mind games in order to fuck you then completely forget about you afterwards, it does bother me. Especially if they have a meet lined up straight after.

Open, honest with integrity or not as the case often is. You are so right FB x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No.. this is a swinging site not a dating site. It's about meeting people for sex not relationships..dating sites are for that..

But I want both in a person. Where do I go for that? I like to fuck others but with a partner in tow. "

Hither Green

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I personally wouldn’t meet with someone else the same day as a planned meet

1. Normally the texting , flirting, leading up to the meet and the anticipation is so hot and sexually charged that I wouldn’t want to meet someone if I was already satisfied by another

2. The way I like to play would leave me too sore to probably enjoy another marathon session

I would like my meet to feel like I was giving it my all for them

That’s just my personal stand on it but others to each their own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No.. this is a swinging site not a dating site. It's about meeting people for sex not relationships..dating sites are for that..

But I want both in a person. Where do I go for that? I like to fuck others but with a partner in tow.

Hither Green "

He’s been friend zoned plus he’s not a real swinger! Ha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Answers on a post card

No, that's what swinging is supposed to be about. Although I wouldn't know anyway as I wouldn't be stalking them

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By *DKinkyJenTV/TS over a year ago

Maidstone

No, at swingers clubs I have been with someone who has gone on to be with someone else. Didn’t bother me in the slightest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get what you're saying OP

I can understand why it would leave you feeling a little meh

It is, however, just a pot hole on an otherwise smooth road

You will go on to meet others and I'm sure your meet will too

Onwards and Upwards

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Merton

"If it was a social, I wouldn't mind at all. Now if it was for sex I would feel like a disposable sexual commodity. Yet it is what fab is all about for some

This