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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Anyone else noticed that generally people will go a fair bit younger, us included, but not much older?
Just saw one couple where the oldest partner was 46 (so assume 49) but wouldn’t meet anyone over 45.
Obviously it’s a preference but gives us a laugh that some of us are delusional enough to think people 15 years younger would be interested in us yet we wouldn’t be interested in anyone over 5 years older. It seems very common and yes we’re delusional too.
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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago
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Well it's only logical.
Assuming all else being equal the same people are generally more desirable when they're younger.
You'd take the more desirable option if you dropped lucky and it came along so you advertise that you're open to that but you wouldn't set out to sell yourself short. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think my age range has changed as I've aged, but as I get older from this point I'll definitely increase it.
I've met women from 19 to over 50, all within my chosen range. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I think not speaking for anyone but from what Ive seen and experienced the women that I've seen who are older than me like a younger guy and women Ive seen younger than me prefer an older |
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"Anyone else noticed that generally people will go a fair bit younger, us included, but not much older?
Just saw one couple where the oldest partner was 46 (so assume 49) but wouldn’t meet anyone over 45.
Obviously it’s a preference but gives us a laugh that some of us are delusional enough to think people 15 years younger would be interested in us yet we wouldn’t be interested in anyone over 5 years older. It seems very common and yes we’re delusional too.
Suppose we all think we look good for our age "
Sadly, people don't find 'old' people attractive - and that includes old people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hadn’t noticed this before! But I just had a look at a few profiles of those who’ve messaged me and I see what you mean!
I wonder if it’s wishful thinking, set in stone or just an indicator? 
I’ve also noticed that there are quite a few guys with lower age limits of say 30, messaging me recently, I do point out I’m 25 so might not be for them, they don’t seem to mind so I’m assuming a lot of age ranges are an indicator rather than set in stone.
Not mine though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes its difficult as my age want much younger and younger dont want my age, Sa really as they choose younger and have the none turn up members"
Members who don’t turn up to meets are of all ages.
Both of my no shows were older men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Age is a funny thing. I think you only appreciate that older people are as sexy once you're older yourself. After all, they were very likely sexy when they were younger too!
That said, it's nice to hold a firm body every now and then to remind yourself what it felt like!
Age is a number. It comes down to attraction and whatever it is that sparks it. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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The age thing is a fine line, how young is too young (do we want to meet somebody who is same age as our kids for example, would we have anything in common) equally don't want to meet anybody who is around my parents age. Could leave it at the default 18-99 but that smacks of desperation.
At the end of the day we put the age range on as a guide line. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The age thing is a fine line, how young is too young (do we want to meet somebody who is same age as our kids for example, would we have anything in common) equally don't want to meet anybody who is around my parents age. Could leave it at the default 18-99 but that smacks of desperation.
At the end of the day we put the age range on as a guide line."
The problem with that is that it also stops anyone even slightly outside the range from messaging you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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when I was in my late teens and early twenties, and the internet was still in its infancy, I missed out on all this online swinging/dogging stuff
Now I’m in my early 40s it turns out no ones interested hahahahahaha
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The age thing is a fine line, how young is too young (do we want to meet somebody who is same age as our kids for example, would we have anything in common) equally don't want to meet anybody who is around my parents age. Could leave it at the default 18-99 but that smacks of desperation.
At the end of the day we put the age range on as a guide line.
The problem with that is that it also stops anyone even slightly outside the range from messaging you."
So?
If they are interested in you, they will contact you.
If they aren’t, they won’t.
Too many people are worried about the preferences and restrictions of people who aren’t interested in them, focus on the ones who are.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Assuming people are older than they claim is probably the correct way to go on here, although in our case we are our actual ages!!!!
We tend to go for people roughly our age don’t mind a bit older or a bit younger, but in the end it’s more about if we all click rather than ages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it ironic that someone who is 40 will meet anyone 18 to 45 and expect someone who is 18 to meet someone (specifically them) who is 22 years older.
Blah Blah preferences.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else noticed that generally people will go a fair bit younger, us included, but not much older?
Just saw one couple where the oldest partner was 46 (so assume 49) but wouldn’t meet anyone over 45.
Obviously it’s a preference but gives us a laugh that some of us are delusional enough to think people 15 years younger would be interested in us yet we wouldn’t be interested in anyone over 5 years older. It seems very common and yes we’re delusional too.
Suppose we all think we look good for our age
Sadly, people don't find 'old' people attractive - and that includes old people "
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"Anyone else noticed that generally people will go a fair bit younger, us included, but not much older?
Just saw one couple where the oldest partner was 46 (so assume 49) but wouldn’t meet anyone over 45.
Obviously it’s a preference but gives us a laugh that some of us are delusional enough to think people 15 years younger would be interested in us yet we wouldn’t be interested in anyone over 5 years older. It seems very common and yes we’re delusional too.
Suppose we all think we look good for our age "
Ha Ha when you get to my age all the women are younger 
But I still manage to find a few for some fun |
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"Anyone else noticed that generally people will go a fair bit younger, us included, but not much older?
Just saw one couple where the oldest partner was 46 (so assume 49) but wouldn’t meet anyone over 45.
Obviously it’s a preference but gives us a laugh that some of us are delusional enough to think people 15 years younger would be interested in us yet we wouldn’t be interested in anyone over 5 years older. It seems very common and yes we’re delusional too.
Suppose we all think we look good for our age
Sadly, people don't find 'old' people attractive - and that includes old people "
Exactly lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My partners 17 years younger than me (our ages are accurate) and she’s always preferred older. Recently met a lady from here similar age to her who obviously has a different age range for men/women.
As we're both un-verified it won’t show on here which means some people won’t meet us.
Again, yet another personal preference.
“If we were all the same it’d be a boring world.” |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I find it ironic that someone who is 40 will meet anyone 18 to 45 and expect someone who is 18 to meet someone (specifically them) who is 22 years older.
Blah Blah preferences...."
Yes exactly.
One we saw the guy was 46 and partner 36. Age range was 18-45. So in theory guy could be meeting someone 28 years younger but wouldn’t entertain someone his own age. |
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"Anyone else noticed that generally people will go a fair bit younger, us included, but not much older?
Just saw one couple where the oldest partner was 46 (so assume 49) but wouldn’t meet anyone over 45.
Obviously it’s a preference but gives us a laugh that some of us are delusional enough to think people 15 years younger would be interested in us yet we wouldn’t be interested in anyone over 5 years older. It seems very common and yes we’re delusional too.
Suppose we all think we look good for our age "
At 35 I’d probably go ten years either side of my own age (although that’s not set in stone).
My preference would be for my age, or younger.
Relatively few 20 somethings on Fab, however. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Younger guys tend to be so fit it intimidates me. I love nothing more than a Dad bod!! I have met younger but I tend to find they are fuck and gos or they want more. No in between. Older guys tend to know what they want and they tend to like regular meets and treat nice and respectfully. Ofcourse I am generalizing but that's just from experiences since I have been on and off fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Younger guys tend to be so fit it intimidates me. I love nothing more than a Dad bod!! I have met younger but I tend to find they are fuck and gos or they want more. No in between. Older guys tend to know what they want and they tend to like regular meets and treat nice and respectfully. Ofcourse I am generalizing but that's just from experiences since I have been on and off fab. "
Always good to hear |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Younger guys tend to be so fit it intimidates me. I love nothing more than a Dad bod!! I have met younger but I tend to find they are fuck and gos or they want more. No in between. Older guys tend to know what they want and they tend to like regular meets and treat nice and respectfully. Ofcourse I am generalizing but that's just from experiences since I have been on and off fab. "
I love hearing about others experiences and how different they can be!
I don’t rule out guys my own age when it comes to dating, but on here I’m not dating and want something different, although I still do have a preference for older men!
I’ve had the fuck and go type, but they’ve been older men, and I’ve had the not so respectful older men also but it doesn’t put me off. They have all been on other sites as I haven’t successfully met from Fab yet.
Just goes to show no one experience will be the same! |
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"Younger guys tend to be so fit it intimidates me. I love nothing more than a Dad bod!! I have met younger but I tend to find they are fuck and gos or they want more. No in between. Older guys tend to know what they want and they tend to like regular meets and treat nice and respectfully. Ofcourse I am generalizing but that's just from experiences since I have been on and off fab.
I love hearing about others experiences and how different they can be!
I don’t rule out guys my own age when it comes to dating, but on here I’m not dating and want something different, although I still do have a preference for older men!
I’ve had the fuck and go type, but they’ve been older men, and I’ve had the not so respectful older men also but it doesn’t put me off. They have all been on other sites as I haven’t successfully met from Fab yet.
Just goes to show no one experience will be the same! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else noticed that generally people will go a fair bit younger, us included, but not much older?
Just saw one couple where the oldest partner was 46 (so assume 49) but wouldn’t meet anyone over 45.
Obviously it’s a preference but gives us a laugh that some of us are delusional enough to think people 15 years younger would be interested in us yet we wouldn’t be interested in anyone over 5 years older. It seems very common and yes we’re delusional too.
Suppose we all think we look good for our age "
With age difference we have already its not much we can go either side
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try being a young looking 42 year old (real age) man on here.
Can’t message people that set the 40 limit age range to show them how lovely you are  and I’ve noticed older is 45/50 plus.
Still there is always the forums to read and to pass this time with |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else noticed that generally people will go a fair bit younger, us included, but not much older?
Just saw one couple where the oldest partner was 46 (so assume 49) but wouldn’t meet anyone over 45.
Obviously it’s a preference but gives us a laugh that some of us are delusional enough to think people 15 years younger would be interested in us yet we wouldn’t be interested in anyone over 5 years older. It seems very common and yes we’re delusional too.
Suppose we all think we look good for our age
With age difference we have already its not much we can go either side
Mrs"
I'd love to meet someone exactly your age Mrs iow......infact I'd love to meet you  |
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I dont think i look good for my age, what other people think is up to them, if younger men want to meet me thats up to them. I do like younger men, same as older men like young women, not because i think i look good for my age though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The age thing comes up on the forums a lot. Personally it’s just an indicator for us we think below 30 we’d have too little in common and above 65 the same. But if we met a nice 28 and 67 year old who knows. In any case setting a 35 year age range is pretty broad
We mostly go to a club at the moment and there if course we don’t have the filter and we never ask their age |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first time on here I set my preference as 18-70. Generally I have found those that I had met in the lower age group try to hard or imitate what they have seen on porn. As I said a generalisation.
This time around I have set it 28-70. Preferably 30+, because I think they are more confident about who they are and what they want.
When I was in my early 20's I was more attracted to and got on with 'older' women. Now I don't think of age. It's more about communication than anything else. Besides, as you reach 40-50 you are 'too' old for many and I'm the wrong side of those anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have already taken into account the men who have knocked a couple of years off and worded my preferred age range accordingly, alas my true age is 44 lol"
That’s not fair on those of us who give our real ages lol xxx |
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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago
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"Try being a young looking 42 year old (real age) man on here.
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I’m real age and profile age 45. It never even occurred to me when I set up my profile to lie. As of next year, I’ll go beyond the 45 mark and therefore be excluded from some people’s search criteria.
I was in a club last month and a couple were shocked that I was 45. She guessed mid thirties and he reckoned I looked early thirties. Yes of course I’m person people try to be kind with their guesses but the majority of people I meet compliment my genes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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There is, of course, actual age and biological age.
Someone who is 50 and smokes 40 cigs a day, drinks heavily, eats unhealthily and is obese will probably look slightly older than people who really take care of themselves with a healthy lifestyle like, for example, Hugh Jackman or Kylie Minogue.
People have preconceptions of what certain ages are like ..... until they hit that age |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"when I was in my late teens and early twenties, and the internet was still in its infancy, I missed out on all this online swinging/dogging stuff
Now I’m in my early 40s it turns out no ones interested hahahahahaha
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Try being 65 hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Try being a young looking 42 year old (real age) man on here.
Can’t message people that set the 40 limit age range to show them how lovely you are and I’ve noticed older is 45/50 plus.
Still there is always the forums to read and to pass this time with"
You have an age limit of 60.
A woman aged 62 could look much younger and basically say similar about your profile as she wouldn’t be able to message you.
It’s just preferences. Everyone has them. It may not be to do with “looking” a certain age, and could just be they don’t want to meet anyone over a certain limit, or maybe their parents are near that age so won’t want to meet someone of their parents age. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You may think it's delusional but men 15 and more years younger than me are interested in me.
My current regular partners are 32 and 36- the first I've been seeing for almost two years, the second for over 8 years.
Every man I've met from here has been younger than me, and some were much younger than me.
It's not delusional at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Try being a young looking 42 year old (real age) man on here.
I’m real age and profile age 45. It never even occurred to me when I set up my profile to lie. As of next year, I’ll go beyond the 45 mark and therefore be excluded from some people’s search criteria.
I was in a club last month and a couple were shocked that I was 45. She guessed mid thirties and he reckoned I looked early thirties. Yes of course I’m person people try to be kind with their guesses but the majority of people I meet compliment my genes. "
A lot of people say they look younger than their age. Whether they do or not is a different story.
One person may think you look younger, another may thing you look your age, another may think you look older.
None are essentially 100% correct as everyone has a different opinion.
There’s plenty of men who have a lower age limit of 30, some flexible some not, for a multitude of reasons, could be children. Could be that they don’t think us under 30s are mature enough.
I don’t tend to worry about those who aren’t interested in me if I’m out of their age range. Surely it’s better to focus on who you can message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've missed out on contacting so many people as I'm too old. Wish there was a introduction email that gives the receiver a look and delete option. It's not like my mail box has anything in it ever |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've missed out on contacting so many people as I'm too old. Wish there was a introduction email that gives the receiver a look and delete option. It's not like my mail box has anything in it ever"
But if you’re too old for them, you’re too old for them.
Why would you want to contact someone who isn’t interested in you?
For example if I was interested in you I wouldn’t be able to contact you as I’m too young, no problem, I’d move on.
So it works both ways really.
A lot on here’s have age filters themselves, some strict some not, yet don’t respect the fact others have them too.
We like what we like at the end of the day. |
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I much prefer meeting men who are older than me, I tend to find they're better company and more interested in actually finding out what works for me rather than just doing what they think must work, or they've seen in porn. My favourite 2 of all our meets have been with guys in their forties. |
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"I've missed out on contacting so many people as I'm too old. Wish there was a introduction email that gives the receiver a look and delete option. It's not like my mail box has anything in it ever"
You haven’t ‘missed out’, you’re too old for them so even if they had their filters off, there’s a very good chance it wouldn’t matter, and you’d still be too old for them?
Gotta respect people’s preferences |
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"Anyone else noticed that generally people will go a fair bit younger, us included, but not much older?
Just saw one couple where the oldest partner was 46 (so assume 49) but wouldn’t meet anyone over 45.
Obviously it’s a preference but gives us a laugh that some of us are delusional enough to think people 15 years younger would be interested in us yet we wouldn’t be interested in anyone over 5 years older. It seems very common and yes we’re delusional too.
Suppose we all think we look good for our age
With age difference we have already its not much we can go either side
Mrs
I'd love to meet someone exactly your age Mrs iow......infact I'd love to meet you "
Get on the ferry then
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You may think it's delusional but men 15 and more years younger than me are interested in me.
My current regular partners are 32 and 36- the first I've been seeing for almost two years, the second for over 8 years.
Every man I've met from here has been younger than me, and some were much younger than me.
It's not delusional at all."
It’s probably more delusional for men and couples.
Women on Fab are in huge demand from all ages. Some 25 year old guys will happily have sex with a 60 year old woman because hey it’s sex and if the woman is available they’re up for it.
We could easily meet 21 to 70 year old guys for MFM as a couple because L is female and can pull guys on here, like all females. We would however struggle to get a meet with a 35 or even 40 year old couple. We could never meet a female.
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"You may think it's delusional but men 15 and more years younger than me are interested in me.
My current regular partners are 32 and 36- the first I've been seeing for almost two years, the second for over 8 years.
Every man I've met from here has been younger than me, and some were much younger than me.
It's not delusional at all.
It’s probably more delusional for men and couples.
Women on Fab are in huge demand from all ages. Some 25 year old guys will happily have sex with a 60 year old woman because hey it’s sex and if the woman is available they’re up for it.
We could easily meet 21 to 70 year old guys for MFM as a couple because L is female and can pull guys on here, like all females. We would however struggle to get a meet with a 35 or even 40 year old couple. We could never meet a female.
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I find it somewhat difficult to imagine that any vaguely normal 25yo man would have sex with a 60yo woman.
I’m 35, and I certainly can’t imagine having sex with someone aged 60 (my mum’s age....  ). |
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"You may think it's delusional but men 15 and more years younger than me are interested in me.
My current regular partners are 32 and 36- the first I've been seeing for almost two years, the second for over 8 years.
Every man I've met from here has been younger than me, and some were much younger than me.
It's not delusional at all.
It’s probably more delusional for men and couples.
Women on Fab are in huge demand from all ages. Some 25 year old guys will happily have sex with a 60 year old woman because hey it’s sex and if the woman is available they’re up for it.
We could easily meet 21 to 70 year old guys for MFM as a couple because L is female and can pull guys on here, like all females. We would however struggle to get a meet with a 35 or even 40 year old couple. We could never meet a female.
I find it somewhat difficult to imagine that any vaguely normal 25yo man would have sex with a 60yo woman.
I’m 35, and I certainly can’t imagine having sex with someone aged 60 (my mum’s age.... ). "
We didn’t mean a normal guy. We meant a single guy from Fab
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We have an 8 year range between our own ages. B is happy with older guys, M is happy with ladies of his age or younger. Generally we both go for people around our own ages, especially our mental ages! When we are in clubs we just look for people that are interesting and that are interested in us. Age on here is just a filter |
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