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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?
Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.
Are they in the right or wrong? |
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I prefer to chat a bit before sending a pic, I want to a) know we're unlikely to cross paths in a work capacity and b) get a feel for whether we're likely to get on before sending face pics. A good personality can overcome looks but it never works the other way round for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?
Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.
Are they in the right or wrong?"
Much prefer to see who I am talking to tbf and won't talk to a dick pic we have face pis set to freinds only but more than happy to chat and let people see providing they send us some face pics to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I am looking for playmates, then I won't engage in conversation if someone either doesn't send me a clear picture of their face or has doesn't have one on their profile  |
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"I prefer to chat a bit before sending a pic, I want to a) know we're unlikely to cross paths in a work capacity and b) get a feel for whether we're likely to get on before sending face pics. A good personality can overcome looks but it never works the other way round for me. "
This for me too x |
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If thats how they want to work thats up to them,however i think it would limit meets.
I ask early on and if someone refuses ,I would move on .We all value our privacy on here and it would make me wonder what they were hiding.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?
Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.
Are they in the right or wrong?"
If they don’t send photos within the first or second message, I’m not gonna respond. I’m not going to waste time chatting to a potential meet that turns out I’m not attracted too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got no objection to sending a photo of me straight off if someone asks but I either like the person I'm chatting to or I don't, after that it seems a little immaterial to me as long as they have been verified of course |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?
Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.
Are they in the right or wrong?"
No right or wrong, just what suits both parties, we explain that we don't even open the message if it doesn't have a face pic attached. |
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"I prefer to chat a bit before sending a pic, I want to a) know we're unlikely to cross paths in a work capacity and b) get a feel for whether we're likely to get on before sending face pics. A good personality can overcome looks but it never works the other way round for me. "
This is me, too. I want to get a bit of a sense of whether we're compatible and that the other person respects me (and we don't know each other). Not endless chat, but, a few messages or so. Those who don't like it won't get anywhere with me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't need a face pic unless a meet is on the cards. I'm personality driven so if you click, you click.
An average person with a beautiful soul will always look prettier than a beauty with zero personality.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find mental stimulation far more important than looks.
Of course appearance is important but not as much as a connection.
If we clicked and were considering meeting then obviously pics would be needed.if at that point either person doesn't fancy the other, respectfully move along. Might be frustrating but on the up side,at least you had a decent chat and maybe made a new friend  |
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Much prefer early face pics.
Way to frustrating when you've spent ages messaging to find there's no attraction there atall. It may be shallow but to connect with someone sexually there has to be both a mental and physical connection for us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don’t push for face pics until the other person is comfortable but if chatting back and forth then you want to see who you’re talking to at some point. If their profile is totally blank then it’s a no no. Too many fake profiles here for our liking for that. |
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"I prefer to chat a bit before sending a pic, I want to a) know we're unlikely to cross paths in a work capacity and b) get a feel for whether we're likely to get on before sending face pics. A good personality can overcome looks but it never works the other way round for me. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?
Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.
Are they in the right or wrong?"
I only want to swap pics after I've decided if I want to meet them or not. I'd happily not even see a pic as long as I knew they were normal looking x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?
Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.
Are they in the right or wrong?"
I've never worried about face photos. I can judge whether I want to continue a conversation or meet with someone, more by what they say than what they look like. I've met many people, both for a social and play without knowing what they look like. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?
Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.
Are they in the right or wrong?
I only want to swap pics after I've decided if I want to meet them or not. I'd happily not even see a pic as long as I knew they were normal looking x"
See, maybe it’s just me but I can’t decide whether I want to meet someone without seeing their face. And I don’t want to talk for ages just to find out that I don’t like their face or vice versa |
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I pointed this out to some dude that kept messaging me and got accused of disrespecting him. Oh how hilarious that was when he threw his toys out of the pram and blocked me saying he didn’t think we were compatible (Ha! Ye think?)
Early on works best for me, but to each their own. |
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"I don't mind,I'm happy to share early on but I think that sometimes it's interesting to see if you click mentally 1st"
This ! After a few messages and see if a little chemistry is there before asking for pictures xx good guys send face pictures without being asked xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't mind,I'm happy to share early on but I think that sometimes it's interesting to see if you click mentally 1st
This ! After a few messages and see if a little chemistry is there before asking for pictures xx good guys send face pictures without being asked xx"
So because a guy doesn't send a pic without being asked, he's bad? LMFAO |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?
Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.
Are they in the right or wrong?
I only want to swap pics after I've decided if I want to meet them or not. I'd happily not even see a pic as long as I knew they were normal looking x
See, maybe it’s just me but I can’t decide whether I want to meet someone without seeing their face. And I don’t want to talk for ages just to find out that I don’t like their face or vice versa "
As long as they are normal looking I don't really mind. I fancy my husband I don't need to fancy anyone else x |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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We’ll send a face pic with the first message if we see someone we like, and would expect a face pic early on if there was interest.
There has to be a mental and social connection and attraction naturally, but both of these things are moot if their isn’t also a mutual physical attraction. |
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All the different opinions prove we are all different, and that's good. We would never meet another couple if there wasn't a connection regardless of looks.
We can usually tell after the first 2 messages if we want to take it further.
Then, pics are essential. Especially when some people clearly don't know their correct age. |
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It's also an interesting measure of someone. Are they willing to compromise? I'm willing to move the face picture up a bit, but not to message two or three. If they're not willing to chat for what probably amounts to fifteen or twenty minutes all told, then they don't respect my boundaries and it's a no from me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think this is the difference between when I first started and what I'll call the Facebook generation.
I may sound like a dinosaur, but when I first started it was by letter from the back pages of a magazine or a contact magazine, the only photos available, if at all, were some grainy Polaroid. You used to add a phone number, chat to them and get a feel for a couple or female that way. Very often you would meet not knowing what they looked like or they you. It was almost, dare I say, a 'truer' swinging. It was literally about sex, which is as it should be. Ok, if when you met, you didn't get on, you went your separate ways as you do now. Of course it was more difficult in those days, you had to put the effort in, you still do, but it is so much easier. You certainly didn't have so many, if any, time wasters.
I do think swinging, like the majority of the internet, has become much more image based. I'm not sure whether that is a good thing or not. It gives you the opportunity to make an informed choice on how someone looks. It doesn't necessarily mean they are suitable though. |
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