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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol |
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"Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol "
Lol we do not give a single duck if we upset a loser we do not want to meet...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would they be upset? Being turned down just means that we all save time.
The alternative seems to be stringing people on untill the position becomes untenable, then vanishing. |
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"Being honest is the best policy it dosent confuse people. A respectful no sorry your not for me/us works every time for us. male "
it doesn't matter how nice you are sometimes there still there still text you back going on your wife is fat and you are less of a man in some way. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol
Lol we do not give a single duck if we upset a loser we do not want to meet... "
What if they are not loser and after chatting and exchanging pics you realise they are just not for you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would they be upset? Being turned down just means that we all save time.
The alternative seems to be stringing people on untill the position becomes untenable, then vanishing. "
As a single man it’s nice for people to either answer a no or see the mail deleted. Means the same thing.
If someone gets upset and throws their dummy out, they should definitely not be on this site.
Everyone likes someone something different and have personal choices.
I was asked by a couple to play with them. I didn’t fancy them so politely said. No thanks. Got some grief. Easy answer, block and delete.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not all of us. I usually don't get a message at all just the mail gets deleted. But when I do get a "No thanks" message I will thank them for the polite reply and leave it there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In our profile we state in the first line we do not respond to one line rude or lazy messages and we still get loads.
If they have taken the time to put together a message with face pics we will respond to it.
If we are not attracted to them we say we are not a match, have fun and stay safe. No body wants to feel they look like the elephant man..just be polite.After doing that we always block so that we don't waste time with a repeat scenario.
If they are complete fuckwits on the other hand..ie I'm gonna fuck you so hard i'll break your pelvis..instant block... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol "
Just add a line to your bio saying if we delete your message we are not interested not being rude just saves time and if they can’t read that they are muppets happy fabbing x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep I do the same! "sorry you're not for me". Will always try and reply if I can, to the initial one at least...any subsequent ones after the thanks but no thanks I tend to ignore! |
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Easy for me: I have on my profile I won't respond to anyone outwith what I'm looking for - and don't.
Anyone who meets what I'm looking for always gets a message in return, usually along the lines, thanks so much for the message, unfortunately not what I'm looking for at the moment, but with his warm eyes/lovely smile/fit physique - whatever, I'm sure they'll have an enjoyable Fab experience.
Nine years on site, never had a "well didn't want to fuck you anyway you fat slag" type message.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Easy for me: I have on my profile I won't respond to anyone outwith what I'm looking for - and don't.
Anyone who meets what I'm looking for always gets a message in return, usually along the lines, thanks so much for the message, unfortunately not what I'm looking for at the moment, but with his warm eyes/lovely smile/fit physique - whatever, I'm sure they'll have an enjoyable Fab experience.
Nine years on site, never had a "well didn't want to fuck you anyway you fat slag" type message.
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Being nice makes people be nice in return.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In our profile we state in the first line we do not respond to one line rude or lazy messages and we still get loads.
If they have taken the time to put together a message with face pics we will respond to it.
If we are not attracted to them we say we are not a match, have fun and stay safe. No body wants to feel they look like the elephant man..just be polite.After doing that we always block so that we don't waste time with a repeat scenario.
If they are complete fuckwits on the other hand..ie I'm gonna fuck you so hard i'll break your pelvis..instant block..."
Have to realise that most people they don't read profiles at all!!
And that's sooooo annoying. I'd rather mention on the first msg sent after they contact ... Please read profile before going further rather then chatting for a week and then when they realise you are not for them.... All you got it's a '' no thank you '' msg . Why waste time?! I really don't get it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol "
Either don't engage/reply or just say thank you but no thankyou or not what we are looking for. . |
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I just delete unless they really are failing to get the hint that I’m not interested or I’m bored (mostly with a sarcastic comment ending with informing them they will be blocked if they continue to bother me) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol "
If there has been a decent message exchange just say no thanks, if it's the normal garbage just delete and block. This is a swingers site, no point being all precious about it, anybody that gets upset at being turned down doesn't belong here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually say a polite "No thank you You're not my type"
It's nice to be nice.
When i get that same responce from someone I may be interested in I would never take offence.
We can't all be attracted to everyone. Take it on the chin and move on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say being polite but honest is the best way.
Simply "you're not my type, I'm sorry..." we can't be everyone's cup of tea so no bad feelings and life goes on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually say a polite "No thank you You're not my type"
It's nice to be nice.
When i get that same responce from someone I may be interested in I would never take offence.
We can't all be attracted to everyone. Take it on the chin and move on "
Just noticed your comment ha ha
100% agree. |
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"We’ll always think about the people who will be reading our rejection and therefore are careful with what we write. "
Disagree!
When visible my profile sets out, no ambiguity, the type of person I'm looking for. I've had men contact me on behalf of someone else as my filters exclude them. 
My approach is not to engage with anyone too stupid to read the profile/try to get round filters etc.
If someone takes a more direct view, I'm not hating on them for that. If people dropped the sense of entitlement and accept they didn't have universal appeal, the better their fab experience. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol "
Just ask yourself "What would you like to hear if someone turned you down" |
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