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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
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Love and sex are very different. I love my husband to bits and we have amazing sex built upon our relationship and connection. But I have a craving for a women. He hasn't got that, and from day 1 has told me do what you wish with a woman. As for women who have sex with other men I cannot comment as he's the only man for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The feeling of watching your partner with someone else and sharing that excitement is amazing. It's incredibly intimate. The sex together afterwards is mind blowing. It makes your bond even stronger. You fucked someone else but you come back to each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Love and sex aren’t the same thing. "
This!
It’s taken me a while for me to figure this out...
I’ve given myself solely to mr P for the last 9 years in mind, body and soul and I was struggling as to what I was wanting sex woth other men for.
But slowly I’m realising it’s purely the moment- the humour in the meet, the flirtation, the desire and then his cock. Nothing more.
I return to mr P a happy horn bag and the sex between us is unreal for weeks. He gets turned on by how turned on I am... win win situation for us.
Mrs P x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are very much in love. Solid and happy. Both have Swinging inside of us. We enjoy it and in all honesty, it brings us very close. "
Yes I agree x
The intimacy and sharing of desires and needs has led to trust and compassion. It’s strengthened our bond even more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
We have absolutely no idea, we just do and it works perfectly well for us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!..........!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!! |
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We dont we jumped on the scene about 2 years ago to be nosey and loved the social side so much that we stayed. We have made some great friends and we love the club/party part of the scene. We did have a little play in our early days and the sex was shit left a think why go out for burger when we have steak at home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
If you played tennis with someone for over 30 years, you know all the shots. Be exciting to have a new service to handle or a lob you don’t expect. |
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
Because life's short and could end while you're reading this message.
Be young, be foolish but most of all be happy.
And if sex with others makes you smile then do it because one day you won't be able to.
I want to be really old and regretting what I've done rather than regretting not doing it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me (female) I like playing with females and I’ve been in a threesome with a couple as the single female before and I saw how much they enjoyed it equally. It excites me as part of our sexual relationship to play with a female together and that includes Rossi having sex with her. However, the idea of me being fucked by other man does nothing for Rossi and therefore we will not be playing with men. It’s about working with each other’s fantastic and creating boundaries so you can both enjoy it |
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"Love and sex are very different. I love my husband to bits and we have amazing sex built upon our relationship and connection. But I have a craving for a women. He hasn't got that, and from day 1 has told me do what you wish with a woman. As for women who have sex with other men I cannot comment as he's the only man for me. "
We are the same. Mrs Brums feelings exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can have love without sex and sex without love.
You can want to spend the rest of your life with someone who completes you in so many ways but still want to fuck complete strangers for recreational purposes.
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
We used to meet couples and full swing but I (mrs) couldn't concentrate on the male half while my Mr was with another woman ,we stopped meeting for a while because I didn't want and couldn't watch him with someone else didn't turn me on and the green eyed monster was always there. Then around 12 years ago he suggested just meeting guys as he still loved watching me, so we tried it got ourself a regular visitor and now we only meet single bi males. Ask him after every meet if he is ok with everything and if he wants to stop and has 100% great with everything xx sometimes I feel a big s@*t because I couldn't watch him with a female but can with males . Everyone get jealous at some point no matter who they are xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
Can we turn the question on its head ?
When in a serious relationship sex with other people is the one thing that’s off limits. For years and years. Society has the expectation that you give up sex with others for the rest of your life but humans are very bad at that as they have a strong urge to procreate. Divorces and affairs combined are more common than people who have stayed monogamous in a long relationship.
If you really love someone why would you deny them the pleasure and excitement of having the odd bit of sex with other people and enjoying that experience together? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Simple, we love each other and one of the parts we love is the fact we are both utter perverts. We are honest with each other and tell each other what we want, if we feel differently (which we do at times) we discuss it. I just hope you find as much happiness as many of the couples on here have illustrated. |
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"Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
Because some of us are secure enough, in our relationships, that we understand that sexual desire is best used to our advantage within that relationship (rather than bottled up and causing misery).
On the other hand if people think it's a recipe for saving a dodgy relationship; it ain't. |
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"We have been very happily married for 29 years.
Swinging is just an add on to our already amazing sex life."
This ^. Swinging is occasional cherry on top of our already great sex life, and as a man, there are just some things that another lady can offer Her that I can't. We're also very clear (to others but also to ourselves) that it's not for one of us - it's for us both. We don't feel threatened - that common experience actually brings us even closer together.
Hmm x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Enlighten me please!!!!!!
Because some of us are secure enough, in our relationships, that we understand that sexual desire is best used to our advantage within that relationship (rather than bottled up and causing misery).
On the other hand if people think it's a recipe for saving a dodgy relationship; it ain't."
I think most 'outsiders' seem to think it's because the couple have a crap sex life and so need to fuck other people.
I like threads like this because it helps to explain what it means to people and why they do it. Education is a good thing. If we don't talk about it, people will never understand. They might still not understand but at least we tried.  |
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"The feeling of watching your partner with someone else and sharing that excitement is amazing. It's incredibly intimate. The sex together afterwards is mind blowing. It makes your bond even stronger. You fucked someone else but you come back to each other. "
This 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
Fun and let's face it what guy doesn't dream of a mff 3 some |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because it’s beyond exciting to watch your partner with another person. Even better if you’re both sharing the person at the same time. And the after sex between us is off the scale! 
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Mrs is having her first solo meet with a guy next week. I’ve seen her with guys before but I’ve always been there (or in the same house). Over the last few weeks we’ve just got closer, have amazing sex and just feel more in love. It’s a crazy thing but it brings us even closer together. So it seems to work for us! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because it adds to our already amazing relationship. My other half is my main course, and the others we play with are the side dishes! It makes the whole thing more enjoyable for everyone |
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"Because it adds to our already amazing relationship. My other half is my main course, and the others we play with are the side dishes! It makes the whole thing more enjoyable for everyone "
Nothing wrong with a bit on the side Particularly if they're good at remembering shoes |
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This is exactly it. Just because i enjoy seeingnher with another guy and she enjoys the attention of 2 guys doesnt mean we dont love each other is just means we are not jealous people and we like to have fun.... naked fun |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Love and sex are very different. I love my husband to bits and we have amazing sex built upon our relationship and connection. But I have a craving for a women. He hasn't got that, and from day 1 has told me do what you wish with a woman. As for women who have sex with other men I cannot comment as he's the only man for me. "
This... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The feeling of watching your partner with someone else and sharing that excitement is amazing. It's incredibly intimate. The sex together afterwards is mind blowing. It makes your bond even stronger. You fucked someone else but you come back to each other. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
I would even go so far as to say that successful swinging couples love each other more.
Having you boundaries tested and needing a base of honesty you will always know that your partner loves you because they are free to choose. Plus a little resistance makes all things stronger, not just muscles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!
I would even go so far as to say that successful swinging couples love each other more.
Having you boundaries tested and needing a base of honesty you will always know that your partner loves you because they are free to choose. Plus a little resistance makes all things stronger, not just muscles."
I agree with this. Setting them free to fuck someone else but they come back to you. |
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We are very much in love, and have an amazing sex life, we talk daily about how lucky we are to have each other, some friends actually find it sickening how lovey dovey we are with each other, however I like girls, he likes me playing with girls, he likes girls, I like watching him play with girls, I like blokes, he likes seeing me with them, our sexual kicks are this just the same as some people get off on watching porn, sniffing knickers etc.
Plus the sex after is unreal |
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
I think most people outside of swinging are equally baffled.
As others have said...It's just sex and is a fun occadional addition to our relationship.
Couples swing to add a little extra to their sex life and to do things only two people can't.
If you want to explore threesomes for example you need a third person to do so.
We do not see those we have sex with as a threat and it isn't necessarily randoms. In fact seeing the shated pleasure is a turn on. Many of us also make friends with some of those we share our partners with, which only makes the meets better as you all understand each other more.
It's not for everyone, as a lot of people can't separate love and sex.
Nita |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get why they do it completely... Desire for new flesh. I think it's great they are honest and open to the point they can have these adventures together. It's society that prefers the lies and deceit of adultery |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
Because sex is very pleasureable, and if you love someone you want both to facilitate and share their pleasure. Fulfilling sexual fantasies is just one of those pleasures and swinging enables you to do this. |
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!
I think most people outside of swinging are equally baffled.
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Based on rates of divorce and infidelity, I sincerely doubt that. Most people outside swinging would love to fuck someone else, they just don't want their partner to also do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No matter how much you love cookies (pun intended) occasionally you fancy a custard cream.....
You can have sex without love .
It’s a physical release. And the turn on of watching a partner .....just wow... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
Because we can, and because we love and trust each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Difficult to put in to words.
I love my Wife dearly, I am happy for us to have a Buddy in fact I love it when we do.
Everything is consensual between us, but if some bloke tried to shag her deceitfully behind my back, I would fall out with her and attempt to put him in hospital
Probably hasn't helped
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
When Mr is fucking me I want his cock in my mouth and visa versa. I like him fucking me while someone is whipping me. I also love role play and an extra pair of hands sometimes is required. It's just basically things that's physically impossible for him to do. If I could have 2 of my husband I wouldn't be on here. Please don't think for a minute I enjoy mmf because I don't think highly of or don't love my husband or he isn't up to scratch sexually x |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"The feeling of watching your partner with someone else and sharing that excitement is amazing. It's incredibly intimate. The sex together afterwards is mind blowing. It makes your bond even stronger. You fucked someone else but you come back to each other. "
Definitely this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Love and sex are very different. I love my husband to bits and we have amazing sex built upon our relationship and connection. But I have a craving for a women. He hasn't got that, and from day 1 has told me do what you wish with a woman. As for women who have sex with other men I cannot comment as he's the only man for me. "
Tara here. I feel the same. I got my man not interested in another. I do love playing with woman though and having naughty bi 3SUM with Dan. Like to please and pleasure a woman together xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
Because my greatest pleasure and want in life is to see the man I love in absolute euphoria...me being involved or not makes no difference. We communicate about what we do and what we want which leads to the most mind blowing experiences. This is our love for each other our world and anyone lucky enough to experience this will know that they have found their soul mate
Mrsk xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!
Because my greatest pleasure and want in life is to see the man I love in absolute euphoria...me being involved or not makes no difference. We communicate about what we do and what we want which leads to the most mind blowing experiences. This is our love for each other our world and anyone lucky enough to experience this will know that they have found their soul mate
Mrsk xx"
Aww that’s beautiful. I like that so sweet x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I dont understand!!!! If it's true love, why you wanna have sex with some other randoms???? Enlighten me please!!!!!!"
No point even trying, you're on the wrong site. |
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"The feeling of watching your partner with someone else and sharing that excitement is amazing. It's incredibly intimate. The sex together afterwards is mind blowing. It makes your bond even stronger. You fucked someone else but you come back to each other. "
That sounds great,but I'd be too scared my jealousy would ruin that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Love and sex are very different. I love my husband to bits and we have amazing sex built upon our relationship and connection. But I have a craving for a women. He hasn't got that, and from day 1 has told me do what you wish with a woman. As for women who have sex with other men I cannot comment as he's the only man for me.
Tara here. I feel the same. I got my man not interested in another. I do love playing with woman though and having naughty bi 3SUM with Dan. Like to please and pleasure a woman together xx"
I can see why you’re not interested in other men  niiiice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because it’s completely normal for people to have various sexual partners.
What isn’t normal is to be expected to have just 1 sexual partner at one time and/or for your whole life.
Society, religion and other man made up rules dictate what we MUST DO!
Nah. We’ll do what we want, with who we want. Our lives, our rules. |
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"The feeling of watching your partner with someone else and sharing that excitement is amazing. It's incredibly intimate. The sex together afterwards is mind blowing. It makes your bond even stronger. You fucked someone else but you come back to each other.
That sounds great,but I'd be too scared my jealousy would ruin that."
It doesn't work for everyone. I always thought I'd be jealous but I wasn't. But I'm sure that was all down to my ex- he gave me no reason to be jealous. It was a shared experience. |
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"The feeling of watching your partner with someone else and sharing that excitement is amazing. It's incredibly intimate. The sex together afterwards is mind blowing. It makes your bond even stronger. You fucked someone else but you come back to each other.
That sounds great,but I'd be too scared my jealousy would ruin that."
For a lot of people, it would. People feel jealousy for perfectly natural reasons. Swinging is not something everyone should do or try. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (the bf) can’t explain why I get off seeing the gf with someone else. It seems un natural and wrong but also feels so right. It brings us closer together every time it happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do it to get the rough masochist play I need and crave plus Its fun.
What my hubby and i share is special beyond words and separate from my bdsm play I get on here.
Hes the love of my life. Im not after other affection. Its purely a chance to explore my fantasies that we dont share together. My hubby does the same xx |
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Exactly the same as many other couples who have responded. Love and sex are completely different.
My husband and I have a very close relationship and have been together since late teens. Swinging had been part of our lives for the last 3 years, giving us both a chance to indulge in sexual fantasy’s and desires. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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Maybe more couples would stay together if they were allowed to explore their sexual desires rather than going behind their partner’s back or playing together.
We as a society are very bad at discussing our sex lives. I’m more more open with friends on Fab than I was with my ex husband.
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I love my wife more than anything in life her sex drive is so much higher than mine and she loves sex with random guys and exploring all aspects of sex witch always puts a smile on her face. If she’s happy with a smile on her face that makes me very happy. Works for us |
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