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Is it shallow to have a preference?

By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

Am I shallow to have a preference for slim ladies? I have seen people write their preferences and accept that is their choice with no judgement. I have been called shallow when declining in a kind gentlemanly way

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By *appyWandererMan over a year ago

Croydon

Mate that isnt shallow, you know what gets you exicted so go with it.

Remember fab is about meeting to explore, not about, dropping your standards or preferences to get sex.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Am I shallow to have a preference for slim ladies? I have seen people write their preferences and accept that is their choice with no judgement. I have been called shallow when declining in a kind gentlemanly way"
Yes of course you're shallow! only women are allowed to be shallow on Fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

That's not shallow. Whoever said that? People are allowed to have preferences...

You go ahead and do you, don't care about what other people think, especially if it doesn't involve them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t think so ! It’s your preference as long as that’s in your profile what your looking for why change it ? X

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?"

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search"

Nothing wrong with that message or having preferences OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search"

Nothing wrong with that..

Im just flabbergasted that you get unsolicited messages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search"

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s not shallow at all.

Everyone is entitled to a preference.

Those who can’t stand rejection aren’t usually the quickest to call people shallow, I’ve had it too!

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By *lwenWoman over a year ago

De12 area

Your profile doesn't have your preferences on it.. Maybe it should..

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused"

They sent a 2nd email asking why? I again replied saying it was just a preference and that I hope they were not offended, to which they replied I was shallow at which point I gave up and never replied. I find being polite and nice works better on here

Never badmouth or shame people be better

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By *oney to the beeWoman over a year ago

Manchester

Its not like you are going to marry someone from here its about attraction. You are entitled to your preferences if others have an issue with that then its their problem and they need to grow up they are not in the playground now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused

Never badmouth or shame people be better"

When anyone asks why it’s best to ignore, and delete the message as it almost always leads to some sort of insult!

Also, if you don’t have it on your profile already it is probably best to state your preference on your profile to potentially cut down on the messages from women who aren’t your type.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused

Never badmouth or shame people be better

When anyone asks why it’s best to ignore, and delete the message as it almost always leads to some sort of insult!

Also, if you don’t have it on your profile already it is probably best to state your preference on your profile to potentially cut down on the messages from women who aren’t your type.

Men do not very often receive emails from women

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused

Never badmouth or shame people be better

When anyone asks why it’s best to ignore, and delete the message as it almost always leads to some sort of insult!

Also, if you don’t have it on your profile already it is probably best to state your preference on your profile to potentially cut down on the messages from women who aren’t your type.

This is a good point, however many don't read profiles on here, male, female and couples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused

Never badmouth or shame people be better

When anyone asks why it’s best to ignore, and delete the message as it almost always leads to some sort of insult!

Also, if you don’t have it on your profile already it is probably best to state your preference on your profile to potentially cut down on the messages from women who aren’t your type.

Men do not very often receive emails from women

True!

But surely you’d prefer to receive messages from women who fit your preference, than those who don’t?

Or are you just grateful for the message regardless? Haha!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused

Never badmouth or shame people be better

When anyone asks why it’s best to ignore, and delete the message as it almost always leads to some sort of insult!

Also, if you don’t have it on your profile already it is probably best to state your preference on your profile to potentially cut down on the messages from women who aren’t your type.

Men do not very often receive emails from women

True!

But surely you’d prefer to receive messages from women who fit your preference, than those who don’t?

Or are you just grateful for the message regardless? Haha!"

Well at least it's out there and if people choose to ignore then their loss.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why don't you put it in your profile?That way it would save people wasting there time messaging you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused

Never badmouth or shame people be better

When anyone asks why it’s best to ignore, and delete the message as it almost always leads to some sort of insult!

Also, if you don’t have it on your profile already it is probably best to state your preference on your profile to potentially cut down on the messages from women who aren’t your type.

Men do not very often receive emails from women

True!

But surely you’d prefer to receive messages from women who fit your preference, than those who don’t?

Or are you just grateful for the message regardless? Haha!

Well at least it's out there and if people choose to ignore then their loss. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused

Never badmouth or shame people be better

When anyone asks why it’s best to ignore, and delete the message as it almost always leads to some sort of insult!

Also, if you don’t have it on your profile already it is probably best to state your preference on your profile to potentially cut down on the messages from women who aren’t your type.

This is a good point, however many don't read profiles on here, male, female and couples. "

Very true.

Me personally I like to put it on my profile as I always read profiles myself. But I understand many don’t. Which can be annoying!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why would it be shallow? It’s your preference. I’m not really into guys over 40 and I only like guys with beards. That’s my choice and I’m sticking with it.

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused

Never badmouth or shame people be better

When anyone asks why it’s best to ignore, and delete the message as it almost always leads to some sort of insult!

Also, if you don’t have it on your profile already it is probably best to state your preference on your profile to potentially cut down on the messages from women who aren’t your type.

Men do not very often receive emails from women

True!

But surely you’d prefer to receive messages from women who fit your preference, than those who don’t?

Or are you just grateful for the message regardless? Haha!"

It is nice to get a message lol to be honest I do not put a preference due to being judged previously. I also choose on what I see, there is more to sexy that just being slim, there is a smile, what they wear, are they for real and the feel you get for them. It is a preference for slim but not set in stone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not shallow, I prefer tall, athletic men

Each to their own x

Mrs Spader x

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

Thanks for all your thoughts so far

I also like a good thread/debate, keep them coming X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do what most women do on here - if someone isn't your type then don't reply.

Then you won't open up a potentially hurtful conversation about why someone's not your type.

We're all here to forfil our fantasies not dole out sympathy fucks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not shallow at all , everybody have preferences in one way or another

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No but you will be judged anyway. You'd also be judged without one. And for messaging woman and for not messaging woman. Are you bi? goodness never put you are bi, judged again. Etc etc until the end of time.

So worry not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's perfectly ok to have preferences though I have learnt not to give reasons for my no thanks or suffer abuse

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

"Do what most women do on here - if someone isn't your type then don't reply.

Then you won't open up a potentially hurtful conversation about why someone's not your type.

We're all here to forfil our fantasies not dole out sympathy fucks

I always reply, if someone has taken them time to message me I believe it is the gentlemanly thing reply and rude to ignore. As men get less messages it is not as issue, I can appreciate as a single fem or a couple getting 100s of messages can be ridiculous and replying to all would not be practical.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not shallow at all...we all have preferences

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused

Never badmouth or shame people be better

When anyone asks why it’s best to ignore, and delete the message as it almost always leads to some sort of insult!

Also, if you don’t have it on your profile already it is probably best to state your preference on your profile to potentially cut down on the messages from women who aren’t your type.

Men do not very often receive emails from women

True!

But surely you’d prefer to receive messages from women who fit your preference, than those who don’t?

Or are you just grateful for the message regardless? Haha!

Well, you are entitled to have your preferences and put whatever you please on your profile, so it is up to you.

If people feel the need to call you “shallow” for a preference, the problem lies with them, not yourself!

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

Fab is about fulfilling your sexual fantasies and desires. If your fantasies and desires focus on slim people that's absolutely fine. We generally prefer slim to large, younger to older, not tattooed to tattooed etc. I don't think we are shallow in not wanting to play with people who don't turn us on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fab is about fulfilling your sexual fantasies and desires. If your fantasies and desires focus on slim people that's absolutely fine. We generally prefer slim to large, younger to older, not tattooed to tattooed etc. I don't think we are shallow in not wanting to play with people who don't turn us on!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How dare you prefer slimmer women OP, you’re supposed to fawn over BBWs

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By *ain n MableWoman over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I admire your self discipline OP, alot of single guys on here will fuck anything with a hole. I was going to say pulse, but I'm not even sure that's a pre requisite for some.

You stick to your preferences and damn all those pesky chubsters.

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

Everyone has feelings, no need to be offensive to anyone, all you need is love. OK the Beatles got it wrong all you need is hot, sensual sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only women are allowed to have preferences around here. Men are required to fuck anyone who wants them to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused

Never badmouth or shame people be better

When anyone asks why it’s best to ignore, and delete the message as it almost always leads to some sort of insult!

Also, if you don’t have it on your profile already it is probably best to state your preference on your profile to potentially cut down on the messages from women who aren’t your type.

Men do not very often receive emails from women

We receive far less than go the other way granted, our mailboxes don't resemble the electronic equivalent of a landslide aftermath like the average woman's ha!

But I'd hardly describe it as "not very often" though.

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By *horehouseprincessWoman over a year ago

small town near Munich

I dont see anything wrong with having one. After all, we all do. Sometimes its more the way how said preference is expressed that is the problem than the preference itself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

so long as people are polite i have no issue with prefs..

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By *eliciousladyWoman over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Not shallow at all, what would be misleading is if you’ve not mentioned your preferences in your profile. Have you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone on ere has preferences, it's if we choose to ignore them or seek them, My advice is to have fun and try anything once. PM

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

I must be very shallow as know exactly what i want and never compromise. If i dont get what i want i am happy to go without.

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By *ilkenWoman over a year ago

Manchester

Everyone has preferences so take no notice of what other people say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not shallow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol of course it isn't shallow. How can not fancying someone be deemed shallow?

They either catch your eye or they don't. If you feel someone replulses you, then no it's not shallow to walk away. You should never feel the need to fuck someone you find unattractive.

Think no more of it and pay no attention to anyone if they whinged at you for turning them down. They're just bitter you don't fancy them. A graceful person would accept they aren't going to be every single person's cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At the end of the day, your preference has an effect on how much you will enjoy yourself? Not having your type can either make you compromise or just regret it while on the job?

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By *oponly49xxMan over a year ago

workington

wow u are so brave x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t think so ! It’s your preference as long as that’s in your profile what your looking for why change it ? X"

Nice tits on you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all have preferences and things we are attracted or not attracted to.

I think couple or female in your example, due to the hundreds of messages they receive, is not used to a no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not shallow to have a preference.

It is however shallow if you let preferences be the end all of any criteria or attraction you might have to anyone you meet on here in real life.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"It's not shallow to have a preference.

It is however shallow if you let preferences be the end all of any criteria or attraction you might have to anyone you meet on here in real life. "
You trying to say the women are shallow on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search"

That’s a very kind and polite reply. I can’t see any arguments with that... if they do, I suspect it’s just a feeling of entitlement on their side.

Every bread has it’s cheese! Some people just need to accept that gracefully. And move on.

If you’re preferences are clearly stated in profile and they message despite not fitting with what you’re looking for. They looked for that

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By *carlettxWoman over a year ago

Essex

"Mate that isnt shallow, you know what gets you exicted so go with it.

Remember fab is about meeting to explore, not about, dropping your standards or preferences to get sex. "

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No of course not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always think if you would not find the person attractive outside of Fab, in a club or a pub, why would you change what attracts you just because you are on this site.

I am very choosy who gets in my knickers and that is not going to change. It's not shallow it's your choice.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

You know you're not!

When it comes to sex/physical attraction there are no "protected" candidates. You don't have to follow any eu directive.

If you state your preference without insulting others i.e. no oompa loompas ta etc you'll be fine.

Some people think insulting those they're not interested in endears them to their target market, it doesn't.

If anyone is offended by your choice as it excludes them, they'll get over it...plenty of bbw threads to contend with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ignore them

People on here seem very sensitive and are so easily offended and report almost anything they don't like.

I won't entertain overweight people . That's my preference

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By *tirluvMan over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused"

It was the fat shamin emojis- innit

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

Nope not shallow...... perfectly fine to have preferences

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By *wingfellowMan over a year ago

my own little sanctuary

If you don't stick to your preference you end up settling. Doing just that is why there are so many broken families now, doesn't matter where you want to be or what kind of woman you want. You have to pursue the type of woman you want otherwise what's the point, a woman will almost always know if you're settling for her. Not a good vibe to give off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I always think if you would not find the person attractive outside of Fab, in a club or a pub, why would you change what attracts you just because you are on this site.

I am very choosy who gets in my knickers and that is not going to change. It's not shallow it's your choice.

Ditto.

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By *andtsurreyCouple over a year ago

Torbay

Not shallow at all, we all have preferences and are attracted to different people which is a good thing. A polite no thank you is not shallow at all. But maybe make it clear on your profile so that people can see what you are looking for (mad optimism that people read profiles!!)

T x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone judges every one on here, just like in the outside world. Some seek a fixed image of what they want and never change it some seek purely physical connections some seek more.

Preferences are just that. You can't change what others think or how they react. Only they can do that.

So no matter what you may think others preferences are out of your control.

But no matter what your preferences are you will always end up connecting with some and not with others...

It's just like the real world....sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone judges every one on here, just like in the outside world. Some seek a fixed image of what they want and never change it some seek purely physical connections some seek more.

Preferences are just that. You can't change what others think or how they react. Only they can do that.

So no matter what you may think others preferences are out of your control.

But no matter what your preferences are you will always end up connecting with some and not with others...

It's just like the real world....sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mate that isnt shallow, you know what gets you exicted so go with it.

Remember fab is about meeting to explore, not about, dropping your standards or preferences to get sex. "

I agree.... if you prefer slimmer women it's for a reason. Don't change ho you are just to please other people OP. If we all liked the same thing life would be pretty boring

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong in having a preference, most of us do

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

I'm assuming then, from what you've written, that your replies have been along the lines of " no thanks, you're not slim enough?"

Perhaps your rejection msgs need a tad more diplomacy?

I always reply sorry you are not what I am looking for, thanks for showing an interest, good luck on your search

But you have inferred that people have called you shallow based on you rejecting them because of their stature/weight?

Based on the response you have quoted, how do they know thats the reason?

I'm confused

Never badmouth or shame people be better

When anyone asks why it’s best to ignore, and delete the message as it almost always leads to some sort of insult!

Also, if you don’t have it on your profile already it is probably best to state your preference on your profile to potentially cut down on the messages from women who aren’t your type.

This is a good point, however many don't read profiles on here, male, female and couples. "

Very true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Preference is preference

but remember, Fab is the place where both ovrr-inflated and fragile egos come to weekend

Won't be long before you trip over one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some on here tho k because you on a site for sex then you will fuck any one

Would a 50 year old fat short arse approach me in a pub and show me his cock and say what you doing tonight?

I don't think so.

They need a reality check and when they get one they don't like it and spit the dummy out

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

"Some on here tho k because you on a site for sex then you will fuck any one

Would a 50 year old fat short arse approach me in a pub and show me his cock and say what you doing tonight?

I don't think so.

They need a reality check and when they get one they don't like it and spit the dummy out "

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

"Some on here tho k because you on a site for sex then you will fuck any one

Would a 50 year old fat short arse approach me in a pub and show me his cock and say what you doing tonight?

I don't think so.

They need a reality check and when they get one they don't like it and spit the dummy out "

I must improve my pub chat up techniques

I almost got arrested last time I tried that

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

Everyone is entitled to have preferences. Few people like everything on the menu!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mate that isnt shallow, you know what gets you exicted so go with it.

Remember fab is about meeting to explore, not about, dropping your standards or preferences to get sex. "

This , I agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you are female, preferences and choices are entirely yours.

If you are male, you are a commodity and should be grateful if anyone ahows an interest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are female, preferences and choices are entirely yours.

If you are male, you are a commodity and should be grateful if anyone ahows an interest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Of course it's not shallow, everyone is entitled to their preferences

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No problem having preferences OP it makes you you!

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

No you're not. If something or someone doesn't excite you and turn you on, no point trying to force it or fake it. Honesty and being upfront is what most people expect and should respect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some on here tho k because you on a site for sex then you will fuck any one

Would a 50 year old fat short arse approach me in a pub and show me his cock and say what you doing tonight?

I don't think so.

They need a reality check and when they get one they don't like it and spit the dummy out "

Your personality always shines in your posts.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Some on here tho k because you on a site for sex then you will fuck any one

Would a 50 year old fat short arse approach me in a pub and show me his cock and say what you doing tonight?

I don't think so.

They need a reality check and when they get one they don't like it and spit the dummy out

Your personality always shines in your posts. "

Was thinking that too.

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By *moothCriminal_xMan over a year ago

Redditch

it's not shallow - but I always find it odd when people have such specific preferences. I love curvy women but I also love slim women. A pretty face is all I look for in terms of attraction but I don't think I have a specific "type".

If people only ever go for the same type of person they are just sleeping with clones. how dull is that?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A *hug* for the grumpy men on here.

Mike xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As suggested above, I put my slim to average preference in my profile. Everyone has preferences......can't understand why it's an issue?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As suggested above, I put my slim to average preference in my profile. Everyone has preferences......can't understand why it's an issue?"

It’s not for most.

Only those who can’t take rejection or have an issue when someone’s preference isn’t them.

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By *oftandGentle2Couple over a year ago

leeds

Not shallow at all, it’s your preference, we all have them. It would be a terribly boring world if we all liked the same thing don’t ya think?

Best of luck x

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS over a year ago

Cornwall

We all have preferences ...don't sweat it

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

I wouldn't worry about it,i don't think it's shallow at all, everyone is entitled to be attracted to who they are attracted to.

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Not shallow at all.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you only have those preferences on this site?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How dare your have a preference. You should like everyone with equal measure.

seriously! If anyone moans about your preferences they need a swift fuck off!

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

"Do you only have those preferences on this site?"

No I have these preferences in actual reality, not just fantasy reality

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

Thanks for all your thoughts, I do not take any negativity to heart. As I said was interesting to see everyone take on it. Stay sexy, stay filthy and be naughty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you only have those preferences on this site?

No I have these preferences in actual reality, not just fantasy reality

Even on Facebook apps?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope it’s not shallow, weight is an indicator of health and we’re naturally attracted to healthier individuals

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

"Do you only have those preferences on this site?

No I have these preferences in actual reality, not just fantasy reality

Even on Facebook apps?"

I do not have sex with friends on facebook apps lol OK maybe one or two special friends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you only have those preferences on this site?

No I have these preferences in actual reality, not just fantasy reality

Even on Facebook apps?

I do not have sex with friends on facebook apps lol OK maybe one or two special friends

And you definitely don't ask to meet fat women women from there?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope it’s not shallow, weight is an indicator of health and we’re naturally attracted to healthier individuals "

My LTP must imagine I'm very healthy then

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

"Do you only have those preferences on this site?

No I have these preferences in actual reality, not just fantasy reality

Even on Facebook apps?

I do not have sex with friends on facebook apps lol OK maybe one or two special friends

And you definitely don't ask to meet fat women women from there?

No need to be rude, people who are overweight have feelings as well. You can be the slimmest, sexiest woman in the world and have a horrible personality, sexual chemistry is about mixing it all together and there being that attraction that makes the heart flutter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you only have those preferences on this site?

No I have these preferences in actual reality, not just fantasy reality

Even on Facebook apps?

I do not have sex with friends on facebook apps lol OK maybe one or two special friends

And you definitely don't ask to meet fat women women from there?

I can’t see how her post was rude.

If you mean the word fat it’s not offensive, at all... coming from a fat woman!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Preference is the worse word invented it’s like a get out clause

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

"Do you only have those preferences on this site?

No I have these preferences in actual reality, not just fantasy reality

Even on Facebook apps?

I do not have sex with friends on facebook apps lol OK maybe one or two special friends

And you definitely don't ask to meet fat women women from there?

I can’t see how her post was rude.

If you mean the word fat it’s not offensive, at all... coming from a fat woman!

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By *omfoolerykent OP Man over a year ago

dartford

"Do you only have those preferences on this site?

No I have these preferences in actual reality, not just fantasy reality

Even on Facebook apps?

I do not have sex with friends on facebook apps lol OK maybe one or two special friends

And you definitely don't ask to meet fat women women from there?

I can’t see how her post was rude.

If you mean the word fat it’s not offensive, at all... coming from a fat woman!

Was not calling anyone rude, so easily to get misunderstood here. Was making a point that I would consider it rude to call someone fat. I always try to be nice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a fat woman. I would rather if someone told me I don't float their boat and especially having it on their profile. The worst messages I get are from guys saying I don't go for big girls but your stunning.... Major turn off. I only want to meet people that are into me fully and vice versa, I wouldn't meet a short skinny bloke as its not my turn on. So can't see the issue with you having a preference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you only have those preferences on this site?

No I have these preferences in actual reality, not just fantasy reality

Even on Facebook apps?

I do not have sex with friends on facebook apps lol OK maybe one or two special friends

And you definitely don't ask to meet fat women women from there?

I can’t see how her post was rude.

If you mean the word fat it’s not offensive, at all... coming from a fat woman!

Was not calling anyone rude, so easily to get misunderstood here. Was making a point that I would consider it rude to call someone fat. I always try to be nice

Ah okay!

Well personally for me, the word fat doesn’t bother me in the slightest, although there are probably some who would be offended by it.

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By *lsieWoman over a year ago

where ever

I don't think it's shallow.

It's your preference . Nobody should say it's wrong.

Its your choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you only have those preferences on this site?

No I have these preferences in actual reality, not just fantasy reality

Even on Facebook apps?

I do not have sex with friends on facebook apps lol OK maybe one or two special friends

And you definitely don't ask to meet fat women women from there?

I can’t see how her post was rude.

If you mean the word fat it’s not offensive, at all... coming from a fat woman!

Was not calling anyone rude, so easily to get misunderstood here. Was making a point that I would consider it rude to call someone fat. I always try to be nice

Ah okay!

Well personally for me, the word fat doesn’t bother me in the slightest, although there are probably some who would be offended by it.

I'd rather be called curvy than fat..,. Just makes me feel better

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By *aughty_Nat69Woman over a year ago

Glasgow

No, not shallow. We all have our choices / preferences. But you maybe missing out on some amazing women. You’ll never know.

I think personality is an amplifier. Can make someone I find average, sexy as hell and someone

ugly lol

Sometimes you just have to take a chance xxc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Of course your not shallow just because you don't find larger ladies sexy. Its no different to a white person who is not sexually attracted to black people or Asian people. If someone tried to call someone racist for not wanting to have sex with a black person everyone would be screaming "sexual preferences"

Its your sexual preference to like the slim ladies. As a large lady myself I could not think of anything worse than being with someone who was not really attracted to me.

At least you don't take them up on their offer just to get a shag.....some men do you know!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry but this contradicts your original post. So in fact the reason you decline them is not actually based on their size. It is a combination of size and looks. If they are pretty enough you forgo the fact that they are not slim..... But if they are both ugly and fat your not interested.

.....hmmm now I am starting to see where the "your shallow" comments are coming from.

Your not coming across as a very nice person....I think your doing them a favour by not being interested.

You should be honest and write on your profile "slim women although if your pretty enough I will consider larger"....don't think you will be getting many messages though which I think you know and is the reason your not being honest.....

To think I felt sorry for you a few minutes ago until the truth came out!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont think thats shallow at all .. fab is all about finding what YOU want!

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

"Am I shallow to have a preference for slim ladies? I have seen people write their preferences and accept that is their choice with no judgement. I have been called shallow when declining in a kind gentlemanly way Yes of course you're shallow! only women are allowed to be shallow on Fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

.....hmmm now I am starting to see where the "your shallow" comments are coming from.

Your not coming across as a very nice person....I think your doing them a favour by not being interested.

To think I felt sorry for you a few minutes ago until the truth came out!"

You are contradicting yourself in the post you made before this one. How is it ok to have a preference for slimmer women yet not ok to have a preference for women he finds pretty?

He wants to meet women he is attracted to. Should he shag people he doesn't fancy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it wrong to be shallow?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not at all. But you seem to contradict yourself a little further down your post, which I found a little odd. If you have a preference for slimmer women, that is your choice and what you are attracted to. You should never compromise your own set of personal standards for sex. It doesn't make you shallow. We all have certain preferences that we go for. Be it body type, physical features, personality types, intelligence etc. It's the joys of fab and variety for all. Just enjoy and dont worry about those who think it's shallow thinking. It's your body and you should only share it with those you want to

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