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"I’m not threatened by a women’s wealth, If she earns more than me good for her. Too much alpha male bull sh*t around for my liking " Absolutely agree. I would call it a big nsecurity, a grown man having an issue with a woman earning more than him.  | |||
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"I’m not threatened by a women’s wealth, If she earns more than me good for her. Too much alpha male bull sh*t around for my liking Absolutely agree. I would call it a big nsecurity, a grown man having an issue with a woman earning more than him. "1000% | |||
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"Money is of No issue, the person within wins everyday... Been there, got the T-shirt and thankfully managed to elude the disease." After three years of supporting someone financially: something I've never had to do for my adult children, the resentment builds. Wish I could be as generous as some of you but the mortgage etc still needs to be paid. Doesn't help when bailiffs are knocking on the door at 6am in the morning because someone ignored parking fine until it reached £661.  | |||
"Money is of No issue, the person within wins everyday... Been there, got the T-shirt and thankfully managed to elude the disease. After three years of supporting someone financially: something I've never had to do for my adult children, the resentment builds. Wish I could be as generous as some of you but the mortgage etc still needs to be paid. Doesn't help when bailiffs are knocking on the door at 6am in the morning because someone ignored parking fine until it reached £661. "I hope you didn't pay it! | |||
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"I’m not threatened by a women’s wealth, If she earns more than me good for her. Too much alpha male bull sh*t around for my liking " | |||
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"Of course if I had a bigger boat I’d have more girls on there "a 2 seater canoe might be the best option? | |||
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"When I first got with my (now) ex, her P60 was just short of £100,000 She always earned more than me, but I was and always have been financially independent To that end, it never bothered me in the slightest But boy did I get it thrown back in my face when we split " Lol I split from an ex just as she inherited serious amounts (my relatives / friends still to this day think I was nuts....), but had to go skiing ....., I was happy as Larry | |||
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"When I first got with my (now) ex, her P60 was just short of £100,000 She always earned more than me, but I was and always have been financially independent To that end, it never bothered me in the slightest But boy did I get it thrown back in my face when we split " Thrown back in what way? | |||
"Money is of No issue, the person within wins everyday... Been there, got the T-shirt and thankfully managed to elude the disease. After three years of supporting someone financially: something I've never had to do for my adult children, the resentment builds. Wish I could be as generous as some of you but the mortgage etc still needs to be paid. Doesn't help when bailiffs are knocking on the door at 6am in the morning because someone ignored parking fine until it reached £661. "Time to kick him out?
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"I’m not threatened by a women’s wealth, If she earns more than me good for her. Too much alpha male bull sh*t around for my liking "any arrogance from either side is an eroticism killer | |||
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"Money is of No issue, the person within wins everyday... Been there, got the T-shirt and thankfully managed to elude the disease. After three years of supporting someone financially: something I've never had to do for my adult children, the resentment builds. Wish I could be as generous as some of you but the mortgage etc still needs to be paid. Doesn't help when bailiffs are knocking on the door at 6am in the morning because someone ignored parking fine until it reached £661.
Time to kick him out?
Your credit rating will suffer too. "For the love of Mike I don't know why I don't! I walked away from my marriage because my husband shut down and blamed me for our son's death. Yet I'm reluctant to send Ben packing as it would mean him on the streets. Unfortunately, I won't have an option as he'd be seen as a dependent (and my children wouldn't) and entitled to a share of my estate: he's had enough. | |||
"Money is of No issue, the person within wins everyday... Been there, got the T-shirt and thankfully managed to elude the disease. After three years of supporting someone financially: something I've never had to do for my adult children, the resentment builds. Wish I could be as generous as some of you but the mortgage etc still needs to be paid. Doesn't help when bailiffs are knocking on the door at 6am in the morning because someone ignored parking fine until it reached £661.
Time to kick him out?
Your credit rating will suffer too.
For the love of Mike I don't know why I don't!
I walked away from my marriage because my husband shut down and blamed me for our son's death. Yet I'm reluctant to send Ben packing as it would mean him on the streets. Unfortunately, I won't have an option as he'd be seen as a dependent (and my children wouldn't) and entitled to a share of my estate: he's had enough."Bloody hell so he could get everything and your kids would get nothing? Why do we women often try to help men that won't help themselves.  | |||
"Money is of No issue, the person within wins everyday... Been there, got the T-shirt and thankfully managed to elude the disease. After three years of supporting someone financially: something I've never had to do for my adult children, the resentment builds. Wish I could be as generous as some of you but the mortgage etc still needs to be paid. Doesn't help when bailiffs are knocking on the door at 6am in the morning because someone ignored parking fine until it reached £661.
Time to kick him out?
Your credit rating will suffer too.
For the love of Mike I don't know why I don't!
I walked away from my marriage because my husband shut down and blamed me for our son's death. Yet I'm reluctant to send Ben packing as it would mean him on the streets. Unfortunately, I won't have an option as he'd be seen as a dependent (and my children wouldn't) and entitled to a share of my estate: he's had enough.
Bloody hell so he could get everything and your kids would get nothing?
Why do we women often try to help men that won't help themselves. "Pathetic isn't it. A word I never thought I'd use to describe myself. According to MY solicitor he is a dependent and would likely get legal aid preventing my children evicting him penniless whilst my kids would have to pay their own legal costs. Been in hospital twice last week, once by ambulance. Medication I'm on for one thing damaged something else. Did a lot of soul searching this week. | |||
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"Explains why I'm single then. I don't have loads of money but I'm self employed, pay for everything I need, own my own house ect, and men seem to be intimidated by it. "I am not...  | |||
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"Explains why I'm single then. I don't have loads of money but I'm self employed, pay for everything I need, own my own house ect, and men seem to be intimidated by it. "That’s not why.... most professional women are too busy to be domesticated.. Some men enjoy that | |||
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"Explains why I'm single then. I don't have loads of money but I'm self employed, pay for everything I need, own my own house ect, and men seem to be intimidated by it.
That’s not why.... most professional women are too busy to be domesticated..
Some men enjoy that"Oh I'm domesticated, cook, clean, washing, ironing, and still gave time to do the school run and work full time.  | |||
"Explains why I'm single then. I don't have loads of money but I'm self employed, pay for everything I need, own my own house ect, and men seem to be intimidated by it. I am not... " distance is an evil thing! | |||
"Explains why I'm single then. I don't have loads of money but I'm self employed, pay for everything I need, own my own house ect, and men seem to be intimidated by it. I am not...
distance is an evil thing! ". So sexy | |||
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"A recent forum topic here focuses on a man who claims to have money and the responses of women who suddenly realize he has more than he lets on. Women are suddenly more interested in him (??). So, not talking about the Fab scenario of casual sex, but in a dating context, or just meeting people in general, what's the consensus if you suddenly discover the woman has more money? I live in a nice area; people make lots of assumptions, but are usually far off the mark. I'm not bragging that I have loads of money, nor am I claiming destitution--just that I like to keep my financial situation private (as it should be) and hope people judge me based on who I am, not how much money I do or don't have. Guys--does a woman who lives in a way that shows more wealth than you make a difference? Alternatively, if you think she's broke, does it change your outlook? I'm talking about Real World life, not simply Fab." Well, speaking from experience, I was married to a woman who came from a very wealthy background, but, I didn't. I learned quick that I had to play it her way. As time went on, she began getting quartelies from the family business and I was being left out! I finally realized that I was much of nothing to her and after 42 yrs, we split. I am far happier, as she is, I like saving up for things, she likes spending on whatever she wants. In comparison, I can save more money, from what I make, compared to what she saves from what she has. Mind you, she never worked 1 day for the family business, whereas I worked for them for 7 yrs and then they "reorganized" and I was 1 of the first to go. Funny, it took them hiring a company with 4 employees doing what I was doing by myself. I am far happier and far more relaxed. Money does not buy happiness! | |||
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"Too many people hiding misogyny behind "old fashion type" It's 2018, grow a pair... being a man it doesn't mean that you have to earn more than your wife or partner. " Remember the golden rule “ The person with the gold , makes the rules “ So if your wife makes more than you.... She will have final say on all major household purchases..... | |||
"Too many people hiding misogyny behind "old fashion type" It's 2018, grow a pair... being a man it doesn't mean that you have to earn more than your wife or partner. Remember the golden rule “ The person with the gold , makes the rules “ So if your wife makes more than you.... She will have final say on all major household purchases....." My wife has always earns more than me. Makes no difference whatsoever. I was a squaddie when we met and have always been uniformed. I’d like to think that she didn’t think her job was better than mine just based on earnings. Major purchases? We live by the same rule we use in swinging. It takes two to say yes and one to say no. In other words we make decisions together. | |||
"A recent forum topic here focuses on a man who claims to have money and the responses of women who suddenly realize he has more than he lets on. Women are suddenly more interested in him (??). So, not talking about the Fab scenario of casual sex, but in a dating context, or just meeting people in general, what's the consensus if you suddenly discover the woman has more money? I live in a nice area; people make lots of assumptions, but are usually far off the mark. I'm not bragging that I have loads of money, nor am I claiming destitution--just that I like to keep my financial situation private (as it should be) and hope people judge me based on who I am, not how much money I do or don't have. Guys--does a woman who lives in a way that shows more wealth than you make a difference? Alternatively, if you think she's broke, does it change your outlook? I'm talking about Real World life, not simply Fab." I couldn't care less about money or status, we are all equal once naked. | |||
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"Too many people hiding misogyny behind "old fashion type" It's 2018, grow a pair... being a man it doesn't mean that you have to earn more than your wife or partner. " | |||
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"Generally men are attracted to different things, compared with a woman. Ultimately men are attracted to younger fertile women, it's biological, men can produce sperm into their 70s. Where as women are attracted to alpha male bad boys in their 20s and settle down with a beta man who can look after them and children in the 30s. A man would find it difficult, with a richer woman, after being programmed to look after a woman by society. There is a shift, with more women at university than men, earning more. This has meant the pool of attractive wealthier men is smaller. Women will need to date down, if they want a partner in the non fab world. You can read lots of stories of women in their 40s and 50s saying that there are no eligible men out their. What they mean is that there are not enough rich high status men out there, when there are lots of other men available. A bit deep for a Monday morning, thanks for the post OP. "No thats just a misogynists viewpoint. | |||
"Generally men are attracted to different things, compared with a woman. Ultimately men are attracted to younger fertile women, it's biological, men can produce sperm into their 70s. Where as women are attracted to alpha male bad boys in their 20s and settle down with a beta man who can look after them and children in the 30s. A man would find it difficult, with a richer woman, after being programmed to look after a woman by society. There is a shift, with more women at university than men, earning more. This has meant the pool of attractive wealthier men is smaller. Women will need to date down, if they want a partner in the non fab world. You can read lots of stories of women in their 40s and 50s saying that there are no eligible men out their. What they mean is that there are not enough rich high status men out there, when there are lots of other men available. A bit deep for a Monday morning, thanks for the post OP.
No thats just a misogynists viewpoint. "Interested to know what parts are misogynists. Always open to debate and changing my opinion, when presented with new ideas and facts. | |||
"Generally men are attracted to different things, compared with a woman. Ultimately men are attracted to younger fertile women, it's biological, men can produce sperm into their 70s. Where as women are attracted to alpha male bad boys in their 20s and settle down with a beta man who can look after them and children in the 30s. A man would find it difficult, with a richer woman, after being programmed to look after a woman by society. There is a shift, with more women at university than men, earning more. This has meant the pool of attractive wealthier men is smaller. Women will need to date down, if they want a partner in the non fab world. You can read lots of stories of women in their 40s and 50s saying that there are no eligible men out their. What they mean is that there are not enough rich high status men out there, when there are lots of other men available. A bit deep for a Monday morning, thanks for the post OP. "I think there could be some truth in that theory. | |||
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"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. " It’s just another sign of misogyny, being threatened by a successful woman or not wanting to date a woman that has more money than you. And in the next breath these are the same people who want “equal rights” for both men and women, but won’t treat the opposite sex as equal themselves. | |||
"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. It’s just another sign of misogyny, being threatened by a successful woman or not wanting to date a woman that has more money than you. And in the next breath these are the same people who want “equal rights” for both men and women, but won’t treat the opposite sex as equal themselves. " Misogyny definition - dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women. Not sure it is mysogyny. Maybe the money is not the issue, maybe a strong independent woman, who may show Alpha male traits, puts some men off. | |||
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"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. It’s just another sign of misogyny, being threatened by a successful woman or not wanting to date a woman that has more money than you. And in the next breath these are the same people who want “equal rights” for both men and women, but won’t treat the opposite sex as equal themselves. " Every holiday I have this conversation with my female family members.... They are all professional women that find it hard to find suitable men to date/marry... They say things like all the good men are married. All the good men like to sleep around. All the good men are jealous they are more successful than them... I always end up telling them .... I think it’s because you’re not a nice person..... | |||
"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. It’s just another sign of misogyny, being threatened by a successful woman or not wanting to date a woman that has more money than you. And in the next breath these are the same people who want “equal rights” for both men and women, but won’t treat the opposite sex as equal themselves. Misogyny definition - dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women. Not sure it is mysogyny. Maybe the money is not the issue, maybe a strong independent woman, who may show Alpha male traits, puts some men off. "Maybe it is that. But I’d personally say it’s just another sign of misogyny, not liking successful women, or not liking the fact a woman earns more than you. If not misogyny, it’s an insecurity for sure. I do think independence, success and confidence puts some men off women! | |||
"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. It’s just another sign of misogyny, being threatened by a successful woman or not wanting to date a woman that has more money than you. And in the next breath these are the same people who want “equal rights” for both men and women, but won’t treat the opposite sex as equal themselves. Every holiday I have this conversation with my female family members.... They are all professional women that find it hard to find suitable men to date/marry... They say things like all the good men are married. All the good men like to sleep around. All the good men are jealous they are more successful than them... I always end up telling them .... I think it’s because you’re not a nice person..... " Why are you holidaying with female family members who aren’t nice people? I personally wouldn’t dream of doing such a thing if I had family members I didn’t consider “not nice”. I don’t agree with the “all the good men are married, like to sleep around”. Jealous of a woman who earns more than them? Very possible. | |||
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"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. It’s just another sign of misogyny, being threatened by a successful woman or not wanting to date a woman that has more money than you. And in the next breath these are the same people who want “equal rights” for both men and women, but won’t treat the opposite sex as equal themselves. Misogyny definition - dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women. Not sure it is mysogyny. Maybe the money is not the issue, maybe a strong independent woman, who may show Alpha male traits, puts some men off.
Maybe it is that.
But I’d personally say it’s just another sign of misogyny, not liking successful women, or not liking the fact a woman earns more than you. If not misogyny, it’s an insecurity for sure.
I do think independence, success and confidence puts some men off women! "Apparently this is quite common. A lot of professional women I’ve spoken to have said they downplay their careers and success when dating so as not to put men off. Probably the opposite approach most guys would take. I think that’s a real shame. I’m also not sure that it’s mysogyny, it’s more insecurity. Most of us have been brought up with the view that the man has to be the breadwinner and that’s still an ingrained view for many. Never been an issue for me. An ex I was with for 5 years worked in a front office role at an investment bank and was earning twice was I was by the time we split. It made no difference to the relationship and I never felt insecure because of it. Although I miss the holidays . | |||
"It's a deep subject, for some it will be mysogony, for others it maybe insecurity or relationships in society haven't kept pace with changes in women's income and equality. It's still a belief, that the men go out to work and provide for the family, be strong and be the leader of the house. " | |||
"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. It’s just another sign of misogyny, being threatened by a successful woman or not wanting to date a woman that has more money than you. And in the next breath these are the same people who want “equal rights” for both men and women, but won’t treat the opposite sex as equal themselves. Every holiday I have this conversation with my female family members.... They are all professional women that find it hard to find suitable men to date/marry... They say things like all the good men are married. All the good men like to sleep around. All the good men are jealous they are more successful than them... I always end up telling them .... I think it’s because you’re not a nice person..... Why are you holidaying with female family members who aren’t nice people? I personally wouldn’t dream of doing such a thing if I had family members I didn’t consider “not nice”. I don’t agree with the “all the good men are married, like to sleep around”. Jealous of a woman who earns more than them? Very possible. " These are my cousins... they’re nice to me because I’m family.... I just find them arrogant | |||
"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. It’s just another sign of misogyny, being threatened by a successful woman or not wanting to date a woman that has more money than you. And in the next breath these are the same people who want “equal rights” for both men and women, but won’t treat the opposite sex as equal themselves. Misogyny definition - dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women. Not sure it is mysogyny. Maybe the money is not the issue, maybe a strong independent woman, who may show Alpha male traits, puts some men off.
Maybe it is that.
But I’d personally say it’s just another sign of misogyny, not liking successful women, or not liking the fact a woman earns more than you. If not misogyny, it’s an insecurity for sure.
I do think independence, success and confidence puts some men off women!
Apparently this is quite common. A lot of professional women I’ve spoken to have said they downplay their careers and success when dating so as not to put men off. Probably the opposite approach most guys would take. I think that’s a real shame.
I’m also not sure that it’s mysogyny, it’s more insecurity. Most of us have been brought up with the view that the man has to be the breadwinner and that’s still an ingrained view for many.
Never been an issue for me. An ex I was with for 5 years worked in a front office role at an investment bank and was earning twice was I was by the time we split. It made no difference to the relationship and I never felt insecure because of it. Although I miss the holidays . "I agree that it’s been ingrained in us from young that the man is the breadwinner. However in this day & age, I don’t see it as much of thing for us in the younger generation. Like a man paying for dates, it was expected years ago, these days women aren’t paying their way or being modern and going Dutch! I never expect to be paid for and I’ve seen some men look slightly shocked or offended when I grab my bag to pay for me, it’s quite sad! I dated a guy who refused & when I surprised him with a date that I’d planned and paid for, he wasn’t all that happy, and it put me off him completely! I date men quite a bit older than me, so for them it’s the “norm” to pay for the woman on a date, buy all her drinks etc. Honestly it’s quite funny to see their faces when you pay for your own, or offer to pay for your own meal! I don’t think anyone should feel or be made to feel insecure because on half earns more. Unless they both work the same jobs at the same career level one will always earn more, it doesn’t make someone less of a person! | |||
"It's a deep subject, for some it will be mysogony, for others it maybe insecurity or relationships in society haven't kept pace with changes in women's income and equality. It's still a belief, that the men go out to work and provide for the family, be strong and be the leader of the house. "It is! My Dad is still in that mindset & doesn’t let my mom do anything if he can, even struggling with shopping bags lol! But my mom is incredibly independent and likes to do her own thing. My dad is retired and my mom works and I can tell he isn’t keen on it, he thinks he should be working til death and she put her feet up! Some women like that, but my mother isn’t one of them! | |||
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"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. It’s just another sign of misogyny, being threatened by a successful woman or not wanting to date a woman that has more money than you. And in the next breath these are the same people who want “equal rights” for both men and women, but won’t treat the opposite sex as equal themselves. Misogyny definition - dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women. Not sure it is mysogyny. Maybe the money is not the issue, maybe a strong independent woman, who may show Alpha male traits, puts some men off.
Maybe it is that.
But I’d personally say it’s just another sign of misogyny, not liking successful women, or not liking the fact a woman earns more than you. If not misogyny, it’s an insecurity for sure.
I do think independence, success and confidence puts some men off women!
Apparently this is quite common. A lot of professional women I’ve spoken to have said they downplay their careers and success when dating so as not to put men off. Probably the opposite approach most guys would take. I think that’s a real shame.
I’m also not sure that it’s mysogyny, it’s more insecurity. Most of us have been brought up with the view that the man has to be the breadwinner and that’s still an ingrained view for many.
Never been an issue for me. An ex I was with for 5 years worked in a front office role at an investment bank and was earning twice was I was by the time we split. It made no difference to the relationship and I never felt insecure because of it. Although I miss the holidays .
I agree that it’s been ingrained in us from young that the man is the breadwinner.
However in this day & age, I don’t see it as much of thing for us in the younger generation. Like a man paying for dates, it was expected years ago, these days women aren’t paying their way or being modern and going Dutch!
I never expect to be paid for and I’ve seen some men look slightly shocked or offended when I grab my bag to pay for me, it’s quite sad! I dated a guy who refused & when I surprised him with a date that I’d planned and paid for, he wasn’t all that happy, and it put me off him completely!
I date men quite a bit older than me, so for them it’s the “norm” to pay for the woman on a date, buy all her drinks etc. Honestly it’s quite funny to see their faces when you pay for your own, or offer to pay for your own meal!
I don’t think anyone should feel or be made to feel insecure because on half earns more. Unless they both work the same jobs at the same career level one will always earn more, it doesn’t make someone less of a person! "That’s all very true. I think when the difference in earnings is very big it can cause tension for practical reasons. It got a bit awkward with my ex towards the end, when she would want to spend £8k on a holiday and expect me to stump up half (I couldn’t afford to and was happy to go cheaper). In the end she’d insist on doing it her way and subsidise me, but clearly resented doing so... So I couldn’t really win. In the end her job changed her for the worse And we drifted apart, nothing to do with the money she was earning, more the brutal environment she was working in. These days, from a dating perspective, I will happily pay for the first couple of dates, but if they make no attempt to offer to split the bill I find it quite rude. If I know I’m not going to see them again I usually ask to split the bill to save myself some cash . | |||
"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. " 100% agree with this. Men don't Like the fact that they cannot provide for me or be the man of the house (Because it's my house), they don't give me time to explain that I am more than just a woman who has had to be independent. I would love to meet a guy who is financially stable, has a house of his own and can look after me... But then I would be a gold digger... can't win. | |||
"A recent forum topic here focuses on a man who claims to have money and the responses of women who suddenly realize he has more than he lets on. Women are suddenly more interested in him (??). So, not talking about the Fab scenario of casual sex, but in a dating context, or just meeting people in general, what's the consensus if you suddenly discover the woman has more money? I live in a nice area; people make lots of assumptions, but are usually far off the mark. I'm not bragging that I have loads of money, nor am I claiming destitution--just that I like to keep my financial situation private (as it should be) and hope people judge me based on who I am, not how much money I do or don't have. Guys--does a woman who lives in a way that shows more wealth than you make a difference? Alternatively, if you think she's broke, does it change your outlook? I'm talking about Real World life, not simply Fab." Not at all, I don’t care how much money you have in your bank or how lavish you live, if I have a mental connection and I think you’re physically attractive, money means nothing. | |||
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"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. 100% agree with this. Men don't Like the fact that they cannot provide for me or be the man of the house (Because it's my house), they don't give me time to explain that I am more than just a woman who has had to be independent. I would love to meet a guy who is financially stable, has a house of his own and can look after me... But then I would be a gold digger... can't win. " Although I agree that some men can be like this, I believe that because of the society we live in now has more and more women in a position of financial prowess (not all just a lot more than 10 years ago for example) men can’t really be chauvinistic anymore, usually if they are it’s mainly down to jealousy and like you say because he can’t “look after you” I guess that makes him feel less of a man. | |||
"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. It’s just another sign of misogyny, being threatened by a successful woman or not wanting to date a woman that has more money than you. And in the next breath these are the same people who want “equal rights” for both men and women, but won’t treat the opposite sex as equal themselves. Misogyny definition - dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women. Not sure it is mysogyny. Maybe the money is not the issue, maybe a strong independent woman, who may show Alpha male traits, puts some men off.
Maybe it is that.
But I’d personally say it’s just another sign of misogyny, not liking successful women, or not liking the fact a woman earns more than you. If not misogyny, it’s an insecurity for sure.
I do think independence, success and confidence puts some men off women!
Apparently this is quite common. A lot of professional women I’ve spoken to have said they downplay their careers and success when dating so as not to put men off. Probably the opposite approach most guys would take. I think that’s a real shame.
I’m also not sure that it’s mysogyny, it’s more insecurity. Most of us have been brought up with the view that the man has to be the breadwinner and that’s still an ingrained view for many.
Never been an issue for me. An ex I was with for 5 years worked in a front office role at an investment bank and was earning twice was I was by the time we split. It made no difference to the relationship and I never felt insecure because of it. Although I miss the holidays .
I agree that it’s been ingrained in us from young that the man is the breadwinner.
However in this day & age, I don’t see it as much of thing for us in the younger generation. Like a man paying for dates, it was expected years ago, these days women aren’t paying their way or being modern and going Dutch!
I never expect to be paid for and I’ve seen some men look slightly shocked or offended when I grab my bag to pay for me, it’s quite sad! I dated a guy who refused & when I surprised him with a date that I’d planned and paid for, he wasn’t all that happy, and it put me off him completely!
I date men quite a bit older than me, so for them it’s the “norm” to pay for the woman on a date, buy all her drinks etc. Honestly it’s quite funny to see their faces when you pay for your own, or offer to pay for your own meal!
I don’t think anyone should feel or be made to feel insecure because on half earns more. Unless they both work the same jobs at the same career level one will always earn more, it doesn’t make someone less of a person! "These days I think most intelligent, independently minded women, (the type i like prefer to go Dutch. As long as I can keeps up with I'm quite happy. in the early 2000s I was involved and mostly living with woman earning £75,000 a year tax free, I certainly wan't bringing in that much but we both paid our way with our life together. After her there was a woman who wasn't earning as much as me but she insited on going halves. After her a woman who was one of the top psychiatrists, very high paying private patients and she ran another institution that paid a lot of money and gave her a lot of power, she was so very sub in our sex life  . She insisted on going halves on everything. I never felt. After that a college head of department, we probably earned around the same. The one one thing that all the women shared was intelligence, a good sense of humour and I found them emotionally and physically attractive. | |||
"Money dosent buy you happiness.." But you can at least be miserable in comfort - LOL
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Years later I went to college and then university. I gained 3 diplomas. Two merits, one Distinction, City and Guilds in carpentry/joinery and advanced site carpentry. Also a HND in construction management. Dating, some guys turned me down because I have more qualifications than them and I was higher up the skills ladder...according to them. As such I would make them feel less of a man. They couldn't date women like me!
A girl just can't win!! | |||
"Some of the comments on here made me remember a couple of instances from my dating past. After my kids dad had his affair and left, I had little choice but claim single parent benefits. Back in those days you didn't get loads of free childcare, so I actually couldn't afford to work and pay all the bills alone. The ex used to work and wanted me to be the housewife. So I had no qualifications. Dating, I found some guys looked down on me with disgust. I was made to feel like a drain on society and a golddigger to boot. Even by single dad's!
Years later I went to college and then university. I gained 3 diplomas. Two merits, one Distinction, City and Guilds in carpentry/joinery and advanced site carpentry. Also a HND in construction management. Dating, some guys turned me down because I have more qualifications than them and I was higher up the skills ladder...according to them. As such I would make them feel less of a man. They couldn't date women like me!
A girl just can't win!! "There’s literally no I’m between is there! | |||
"A recent forum topic here focuses on a man who claims to have money and the responses of women who suddenly realize he has more than he lets on. Women are suddenly more interested in him (??). So, not talking about the Fab scenario of casual sex, but in a dating context, or just meeting people in general, what's the consensus if you suddenly discover the woman has more money? I live in a nice area; people make lots of assumptions, but are usually far off the mark. I'm not bragging that I have loads of money, nor am I claiming destitution--just that I like to keep my financial situation private (as it should be) and hope people judge me based on who I am, not how much money I do or don't have. Guys--does a woman who lives in a way that shows more wealth than you make a difference? Alternatively, if you think she's broke, does it change your outlook? I'm talking about Real World life, not simply Fab." Hello goddess. .. For myself. .in life..connection is the key..tho Im under the impression that a woman of class and dow would fuck someone like me (bit rough aroundthe edges)yet not settle with them.....im a gent..and manners maketh the man..so paying for things and dates ect ..old school id think thats down to me...BUT..recently in my life I have been."looked after" with little things and have found on some occasions my pockets haven't been deep enough.(too pay for things).at these points ..im looked after shall we say..I would never hold my hand out to anybody..but sometimes you can't afford what people want or expect...  | |||
"Some of the comments on here made me remember a couple of instances from my dating past. After my kids dad had his affair and left, I had little choice but claim single parent benefits. Back in those days you didn't get loads of free childcare, so I actually couldn't afford to work and pay all the bills alone. The ex used to work and wanted me to be the housewife. So I had no qualifications. Dating, I found some guys looked down on me with disgust. I was made to feel like a drain on society and a golddigger to boot. Even by single dad's!
Years later I went to college and then university. I gained 3 diplomas. Two merits, one Distinction, City and Guilds in carpentry/joinery and advanced site carpentry. Also a HND in construction management. Dating, some guys turned me down because I have more qualifications than them and I was higher up the skills ladder...according to them. As such I would make them feel less of a man. They couldn't date women like me!
A girl just can't win!! "What.!!!! Just means u can do all the d.i.y | |||
"Some of the comments on here made me remember a couple of instances from my dating past. After my kids dad had his affair and left, I had little choice but claim single parent benefits. Back in those days you didn't get loads of free childcare, so I actually couldn't afford to work and pay all the bills alone. The ex used to work and wanted me to be the housewife. So I had no qualifications. Dating, I found some guys looked down on me with disgust. I was made to feel like a drain on society and a golddigger to boot. Even by single dad's!
Years later I went to college and then university. I gained 3 diplomas. Two merits, one Distinction, City and Guilds in carpentry/joinery and advanced site carpentry. Also a HND in construction management. Dating, some guys turned me down because I have more qualifications than them and I was higher up the skills ladder...according to them. As such I would make them feel less of a man. They couldn't date women like me!
A girl just can't win!! "Their loss if they're not living in 2018. | |||
"Some of the comments on here made me remember a couple of instances from my dating past. After my kids dad had his affair and left, I had little choice but claim single parent benefits. Back in those days you didn't get loads of free childcare, so I actually couldn't afford to work and pay all the bills alone. The ex used to work and wanted me to be the housewife. So I had no qualifications. Dating, I found some guys looked down on me with disgust. I was made to feel like a drain on society and a golddigger to boot. Even by single dad's!
Years later I went to college and then university. I gained 3 diplomas. Two merits, one Distinction, City and Guilds in carpentry/joinery and advanced site carpentry. Also a HND in construction management. Dating, some guys turned me down because I have more qualifications than them and I was higher up the skills ladder...according to them. As such I would make them feel less of a man. They couldn't date women like me!
A girl just can't win!!
What.!!!! Just means u can do all the d.i.y"When I was married decorating was fantastic. My father in law was a very highly skilled painter and decorator, he taught all his daughters how to do it. When decorationg was needed all three joined up to do it with their dad doing really difficult bits. The most I had to do was strip wall paper, brilliant. | |||
"Too many people hiding misogyny behind "old fashion type" It's 2018, grow a pair... being a man it doesn't mean that you have to earn more than your wife or partner. Remember the golden rule “ The person with the gold , makes the rules “ So if your wife makes more than you.... She will have final say on all major household purchases....." So you are saying that if my wife makes more money than me I should put my head down and listen to her and accept her decisions in our relationship? What a BS...Remember it takes two to have a relationship ( that excludes your hand ) you should be able to make your point and stand up to it ( if you're right of course ) but I guess for some poeple it takes a little bit of smarts to be a man and make your point. All I am saying, you are wrong... | |||
"Some of the comments on here made me remember a couple of instances from my dating past. After my kids dad had his affair and left, I had little choice but claim single parent benefits. Back in those days you didn't get loads of free childcare, so I actually couldn't afford to work and pay all the bills alone. The ex used to work and wanted me to be the housewife. So I had no qualifications. Dating, I found some guys looked down on me with disgust. I was made to feel like a drain on society and a golddigger to boot. Even by single dad's!
Years later I went to college and then university. I gained 3 diplomas. Two merits, one Distinction, City and Guilds in carpentry/joinery and advanced site carpentry. Also a HND in construction management. Dating, some guys turned me down because I have more qualifications than them and I was higher up the skills ladder...according to them. As such I would make them feel less of a man. They couldn't date women like me!
A girl just can't win!! "You did win. You put off the types of men that you'd never want to date. | |||
"Too many people hiding misogyny behind "old fashion type" It's 2018, grow a pair... being a man it doesn't mean that you have to earn more than your wife or partner. Remember the golden rule “ The person with the gold , makes the rules “ So if your wife makes more than you.... She will have final say on all major household purchases..... So you are saying that if my wife makes more money than me I should put my head down and listen to her and accept her decisions in our relationship? What a BS...Remember it takes two to have a relationship ( that excludes your hand ) you should be able to make your point and stand up to it ( if you're right of course ) but I guess for some poeple it takes a little bit of smarts to be a man and make your point. All I am saying, you are wrong..." Remember this saying if you ever get married.. Your money is her money and her money is her money..... I help set up prenuptial agreements daily.... I’ve seen a side of people you wouldn’t believe... What you’re saying is great in theory..... but the real world is a different story.... | |||
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"Too many people hiding misogyny behind "old fashion type" It's 2018, grow a pair... being a man it doesn't mean that you have to earn more than your wife or partner. Remember the golden rule “ The person with the gold , makes the rules “ So if your wife makes more than you.... She will have final say on all major household purchases..... So you are saying that if my wife makes more money than me I should put my head down and listen to her and accept her decisions in our relationship? What a BS...Remember it takes two to have a relationship ( that excludes your hand ) you should be able to make your point and stand up to it ( if you're right of course ) but I guess for some poeple it takes a little bit of smarts to be a man and make your point. All I am saying, you are wrong... Remember this saying if you ever get married.. Your money is her money and her money is her money..... I help set up prenuptial agreements daily.... I’ve seen a side of people you wouldn’t believe... What you’re saying is great in theory..... but the real world is a different story...." I thought pre-nups had no legal standing in UK law? | |||
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"Too many people hiding misogyny behind "old fashion type" It's 2018, grow a pair... being a man it doesn't mean that you have to earn more than your wife or partner. Remember the golden rule “ The person with the gold , makes the rules “ So if your wife makes more than you.... She will have final say on all major household purchases..... So you are saying that if my wife makes more money than me I should put my head down and listen to her and accept her decisions in our relationship? What a BS...Remember it takes two to have a relationship ( that excludes your hand ) you should be able to make your point and stand up to it ( if you're right of course ) but I guess for some poeple it takes a little bit of smarts to be a man and make your point. All I am saying, you are wrong..." Agree. The past 10 years Mrs earns twice the amount I do, I have a good wage but I've consistently encouraged her to progress in her career from day one for which she's very successful. The pay gap will get wider too as she has only two more steps to climb. Never have I felt threatened in our relationship, the more coming in benefits our family, it's pooled money regardless. We hardly speak about money and it's mainly me who makes the financial decisions (not all) which we've both agreed upon and works for us. I know she views me as her equal, even looks up to me and respects my judgement, she also respects my encouragement of her over the years. The fact there's no insecurities on my part is a key aspect, the fact she never uses her greater income as a tool works too, id go as far as saying she's not even aware or is it a factor that's occurred to her. | |||
"Too many people hiding misogyny behind "old fashion type" It's 2018, grow a pair... being a man it doesn't mean that you have to earn more than your wife or partner. Remember the golden rule “ The person with the gold , makes the rules “ So if your wife makes more than you.... She will have final say on all major household purchases..... So you are saying that if my wife makes more money than me I should put my head down and listen to her and accept her decisions in our relationship? What a BS...Remember it takes two to have a relationship ( that excludes your hand ) you should be able to make your point and stand up to it ( if you're right of course ) but I guess for some poeple it takes a little bit of smarts to be a man and make your point. All I am saying, you are wrong..." | |||
"I have worked hard in life and own my own home. Broke women to me just feel like passing flings because i know i would have to sacrifice my quality of life for her to be able to join me on my escapades. Imagine you are plane, and money is fuel, you give fuel, you limit how far you can go but you also make the other want to go further without the fuel to carry them. Worse case scenario they feel entitled to your money, best case they appreciate the one off treat." | |||
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"Some of the comments on here made me remember a couple of instances from my dating past. After my kids dad had his affair and left, I had little choice but claim single parent benefits. Back in those days you didn't get loads of free childcare, so I actually couldn't afford to work and pay all the bills alone. The ex used to work and wanted me to be the housewife. So I had no qualifications. Dating, I found some guys looked down on me with disgust. I was made to feel like a drain on society and a golddigger to boot. Even by single dad's!
Years later I went to college and then university. I gained 3 diplomas. Two merits, one Distinction, City and Guilds in carpentry/joinery and advanced site carpentry. Also a HND in construction management. Dating, some guys turned me down because I have more qualifications than them and I was higher up the skills ladder...according to them. As such I would make them feel less of a man. They couldn't date women like me!
A girl just can't win!!
You did win. You put off the types of men that you'd never want to date. "Lol yes there is that. Dating was so stressful. One ex tried making me give up college and uni! No chance. Eventually I gave him up lol. I have faith one day I'll meet someone but until then I'm happy being on fab. X | |||
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"Evey man should respect a woman in every way possible and that including the financial status...that woman got there because of her ambition and intelect and Myself I respect that more than anything. I am not a man-feminist, but I do respect any man or woman who has the ambition to be financially independent. Overall I think most men lost any respect for anything..." Agree with respecting women and their drive. I believe most men respect women, it's just the minority can be very loud, rude and stand out. | |||
"Some of the comments on here made me remember a couple of instances from my dating past. After my kids dad had his affair and left, I had little choice but claim single parent benefits. Back in those days you didn't get loads of free childcare, so I actually couldn't afford to work and pay all the bills alone. The ex used to work and wanted me to be the housewife. So I had no qualifications. Dating, I found some guys looked down on me with disgust. I was made to feel like a drain on society and a golddigger to boot. Even by single dad's!
Years later I went to college and then university. I gained 3 diplomas. Two merits, one Distinction, City and Guilds in carpentry/joinery and advanced site carpentry. Also a HND in construction management. Dating, some guys turned me down because I have more qualifications than them and I was higher up the skills ladder...according to them. As such I would make them feel less of a man. They couldn't date women like me!
A girl just can't win!!
You did win. You put off the types of men that you'd never want to date.
Lol yes there is that. Dating was so stressful. One ex tried making me give up college and uni! No chance. Eventually I gave him up lol. I have faith one day I'll meet someone but until then I'm happy being on fab. X"Well more fool them...im bi (orally)not alot of ladies like that..but u cant change for ppl... | |||
"A recent forum topic here focuses on a man who claims to have money and the responses of women who suddenly realize he has more than he lets on. Women are suddenly more interested in him (??). So, not talking about the Fab scenario of casual sex, but in a dating context, or just meeting people in general, what's the consensus if you suddenly discover the woman has more money? I live in a nice area; people make lots of assumptions, but are usually far off the mark. I'm not bragging that I have loads of money, nor am I claiming destitution--just that I like to keep my financial situation private (as it should be) and hope people judge me based on who I am, not how much money I do or don't have. Guys--does a woman who lives in a way that shows more wealth than you make a difference? Alternatively, if you think she's broke, does it change your outlook? I'm talking about Real World life, not simply Fab." I would be delighted, but it wouldn't change my life plans. My ex earned quite a bit more than me and I do OK. My new wife is a housewife. But I know where I'm happier and I'd rather be. And my ex was and is still lovely. But when it came to it the money was irrelevant. | |||
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"I’m not threatened by a women’s wealth, If she earns more than me good for her. Too much alpha male bull sh*t around for my liking Absolutely agree. I would call it a big nsecurity, a grown man having an issue with a woman earning more than him. " | |||
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"I’m not threatened by a women’s wealth, If she earns more than me good for her. Too much alpha male bull sh*t around for my liking Absolutely agree. I would call it a big nsecurity, a grown man having an issue with a woman earning more than him. "I would call it a big insecurity that the vast majority of women won't date a man that is shorter than them. | |||
"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. It’s just another sign of misogyny, being threatened by a successful woman or not wanting to date a woman that has more money than you. And in the next breath these are the same people who want “equal rights” for both men and women, but won’t treat the opposite sex as equal themselves. Misogyny definition - dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women. Not sure it is mysogyny. Maybe the money is not the issue, maybe a strong independent woman, who may show Alpha male traits, puts some men off.
Maybe it is that.
But I’d personally say it’s just another sign of misogyny, not liking successful women, or not liking the fact a woman earns more than you. If not misogyny, it’s an insecurity for sure.
I do think independence, success and confidence puts some men off women! "I'd question why any sane person thinks "independence" is desirable characteristic in a relationship!? Marriage is fundamentally about interdependence! | |||
"I’m not threatened by a women’s wealth, If she earns more than me good for her. Too much alpha male bull sh*t around for my liking Absolutely agree. I would call it a big nsecurity, a grown man having an issue with a woman earning more than him.
I would call it a big insecurity that the vast majority of women won't date a man that is shorter than them. "Maybe it is! Short men are threatening though. | |||
"I’m not threatened by a women’s wealth, If she earns more than me good for her. Too much alpha male bull sh*t around for my liking Absolutely agree. I would call it a big nsecurity, a grown man having an issue with a woman earning more than him.
I would call it a big insecurity that the vast majority of women won't date a man that is shorter than them.
Maybe it is!
Short men are threatening though. "Aren’t*** | |||
"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. It’s just another sign of misogyny, being threatened by a successful woman or not wanting to date a woman that has more money than you. And in the next breath these are the same people who want “equal rights” for both men and women, but won’t treat the opposite sex as equal themselves. Misogyny definition - dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women. Not sure it is mysogyny. Maybe the money is not the issue, maybe a strong independent woman, who may show Alpha male traits, puts some men off.
Maybe it is that.
But I’d personally say it’s just another sign of misogyny, not liking successful women, or not liking the fact a woman earns more than you. If not misogyny, it’s an insecurity for sure.
I do think independence, success and confidence puts some men off women!
I'd question why any sane person thinks "independence" is desirable characteristic in a relationship!? Marriage is fundamentally about interdependence! "That’s marriage. Not everyone’s end goal is marriage. I find independent attractive, not sure why that’s crazy, I’m sure many do. I wouldn’t want to enter into a relationship with someone who depends on others. | |||
"My wages are quite well, I have worked bloody hard for my job, the training and earned respect from coworkers, senior staff and others. I've dated women who earn more than me, I've dated women who earn less... it doesn't bother me either way. Ultimately in a relationship its a two way thing, sometimes I will pay, sometimes they pay...it doesn't make me less of a man to accept being taken out to dinner if she wants too. " Absolutely agree! Nothing wrong with changing it up a bit. | |||
"I’m not threatened by a women’s wealth, If she earns more than me good for her. Too much alpha male bull sh*t around for my liking Absolutely agree. I would call it a big nsecurity, a grown man having an issue with a woman earning more than him.
I would call it a big insecurity that the vast majority of women won't date a man that is shorter than them. "Why? | |||
"I’m not threatened by a women’s wealth, If she earns more than me good for her. Too much alpha male bull sh*t around for my liking Absolutely agree. I would call it a big nsecurity, a grown man having an issue with a woman earning more than him.
I would call it a big insecurity that the vast majority of women won't date a man that is shorter than them.
Maybe it is!
Short men are threatening though. "I just can’t with a shorter man. I’ve met them but I take me heels off | |||
"I’m not threatened by a women’s wealth, If she earns more than me good for her. Too much alpha male bull sh*t around for my liking Absolutely agree. I would call it a big nsecurity, a grown man having an issue with a woman earning more than him.
I would call it a big insecurity that the vast majority of women won't date a man that is shorter than them.
Why?"Because in most cases it's validation seeking from other people. Think of it like a man who likes a larger woman but is scared that his friends will make fun of the situation. | |||
"As a self employed, comfortable woman, I find it both odd and funny that men are intimidated (and they are usually) I’m not loaded but very independent, pay for my own things and if I want something I go for it. Ideally I look for similar qualities in men, ambition, independence & confidence to not care who has more. I enjoy picking up the bill and buying gifts, but I also expect that back if they are on an even financial footing with me. It’s just another sign of misogyny, being threatened by a successful woman or not wanting to date a woman that has more money than you. And in the next breath these are the same people who want “equal rights” for both men and women, but won’t treat the opposite sex as equal themselves. Misogyny definition - dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women. Not sure it is mysogyny. Maybe the money is not the issue, maybe a strong independent woman, who may show Alpha male traits, puts some men off.
Maybe it is that.
But I’d personally say it’s just another sign of misogyny, not liking successful women, or not liking the fact a woman earns more than you. If not misogyny, it’s an insecurity for sure.
I do think independence, success and confidence puts some men off women!
I'd question why any sane person thinks "independence" is desirable characteristic in a relationship!? Marriage is fundamentally about interdependence!
That’s marriage. Not everyone’s end goal is marriage.
I find independent attractive, not sure why that’s crazy, I’m sure many do. I wouldn’t want to enter into a relationship with someone who depends on others. "I just think it's a contradiction in terms to be in a serious relationship with someone and not depend on them, let alone desirable. It would be like going to a cinema and staring at the fire escape rather than the screen. | |||
"I’m not threatened by a women’s wealth, If she earns more than me good for her. Too much alpha male bull sh*t around for my liking Absolutely agree. I would call it a big nsecurity, a grown man having an issue with a woman earning more than him.
I would call it a big insecurity that the vast majority of women won't date a man that is shorter than them.
Why?
Because in most cases it's validation seeking from other people. Think of it like a man who likes a larger woman but is scared that his friends will make fun of the situation. "I don’t agree. Not in my case it’s not. I’m not one to bother what people think. I just don’t feel comfortable towering over a man. I prefer a man to be taller than me. Same height is fine if I really like them but I’d wear flat shoes. | |||
"I’m not threatened by a women’s wealth, If she earns more than me good for her. Too much alpha male bull sh*t around for my liking Absolutely agree. I would call it a big nsecurity, a grown man having an issue with a woman earning more than him.
I would call it a big insecurity that the vast majority of women won't date a man that is shorter than them.
Why?"Thinking about it more I actually don’t agree. I wouldn’t be physically attracted to a man of 5’3 personally. A persons height is something you see first, a persons wealth isn’t. Some men on here are basically saying they’d be physically attracted to a woman but as soon as she tells them her bank balance or her salary they wouldn’t date her. That’s a bit different in my book. | |||
"A recent forum topic here focuses on a man who claims to have money and the responses of women who suddenly realize he has more than he lets on. Women are suddenly more interested in him (??). So, not talking about the Fab scenario of casual sex, but in a dating context, or just meeting people in general, what's the consensus if you suddenly discover the woman has more money? I live in a nice area; people make lots of assumptions, but are usually far off the mark. I'm not bragging that I have loads of money, nor am I claiming destitution--just that I like to keep my financial situation private (as it should be) and hope people judge me based on who I am, not how much money I do or don't have. Guys--does a woman who lives in a way that shows more wealth than you make a difference? Alternatively, if you think she's broke, does it change your outlook? I'm talking about Real World life, not simply Fab." Leave her before she finds out I am skint most of the time. | |||
