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We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't want to do a phone call within 24 hours of a first message. That's a bit demanding and expecting someone to move quickly.
Does that make me a fake, or mean that I'm actually a man? |
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"I wouldn't want to do a phone call within 24 hours of a first message. That's a bit demanding and expecting someone to move quickly.
Does that make me a fake, or mean that I'm actually a man?"
Dam definitely all woman  |
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
if that's how you do things fair enough but if we were asked to send a photo like that we would politely decline. |
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
Fair enough if that works for you, but we would pass.
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
How is the site ruined by guys? |
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
Yeh and imagine how many genuine couples you are putting off too. We all know there are fakes on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
I’m a dreaded single guy and even I’d tell you to get lost. Maybe you’re talking to plenty of couples but your demands make them run a mile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You’re way too demanding. Most people don’t want phone calls with strangers or to send all kinds of photos to people they don’t know yet
I’m sure that’s why you’re not chatting with many people |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
Does this work?
However, if you have had bad experience of a man pretending to be a couple... it’s your response.
Couldn’t help noticing you verifications.
However, totally agree, timewasters come in many forms. |
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"You’re way too demanding. Most people don’t want phone calls with strangers or to send all kinds of photos to people they don’t know yet
I’m sure that’s why you’re not chatting with many people "
End of day... I think I'd speak for a lot of people be it blunt or not...
Their not intrested in getting to know you of being your friend.. There's no need to.. Just wanna fuck and respectfully not see you again.. That's not disrespect... It's how it is. |
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A single woman (bugger all in her profile but verified) recently messaged asking to see more pictures despite me having public pictures of me.
I’m not ashamed to be a swinger so comfortable with displaying myself. I declined as I had no idea what she looked like.
Apparently I should have been grateful of a single girl messaging me....
I reminded her I can also be picky too!!! |
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"Im new to fab and swinging but without wishing to sound stupid why would a guy pretend to be a couple. Surely it makes meets impossible."
I've had it before when at last minute from a couples profile after a mfmfm meet arranged .... The Mrs has a headache etc etc... But I can make it if that's ok"
Just a desperate plan as got nowhere as a single guy |
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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago
Over the roundabout and then turn right. |
"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
I'm sure it saves time. It will also save you the hassle of meeting genuine couples. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"A single woman (bugger all in her profile but verified) recently messaged asking to see more pictures despite me having public pictures of me.
I’m not ashamed to be a swinger so comfortable with displaying myself. I declined as I had no idea what she looked like.
Apparently I should have been grateful of a single girl messaging me....
I reminded her I can also be picky too!!! "
Good man, let others fuck the needy, that is not a balance of respect. |
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"A single woman (bugger all in her profile but verified) recently messaged asking to see more pictures despite me having public pictures of me.
I’m not ashamed to be a swinger so comfortable with displaying myself. I declined as I had no idea what she looked like.
Apparently I should have been grateful of a single girl messaging me....
I reminded her I can also be picky too!!! "
I’ve had the same from a pretty sparse local female, no photos at all, demanded a face pic off me and got stroppy when I declined as for all I knew she could be a hairy arsed man. |
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1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
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I wouldn't be doing either of these for anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We tend to chat for a week or so if it’s a mmff meet we bring up the possibility of the girls talking to each other . It’s certainly not as regimented as your itinerary. We are happy to send face pics if we are a) attracted to the profile and b) compatible (both looking for the same thing). But sending pics within 12 hours seems a tad severe |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Bit to fast for our liking. Yes a female to female chat if required but not within 24 hours on starting to chat maybe if we were starting to arrange to meet. The most effective method we have is a combination of checks the killer one being when we ask for a social meet first with both being present. That kills roughly 95% of the conversations off as soon as we mention it. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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If it works for you then stick with it. However, these kind of demands would make me run a mile in the opposite direction, as I'm sure it would with many couples. You need to understand people have real lives with jobs, friends and kids away from fab and aren't likely to want to jump through your particular hoops. |
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
I’m not surprised you don’t talk to many couples!
With those sorts of demands you’ll be putting the majority of the site off. When you demand the photo signed and dated do you send something similar first? Fair’s fair!
We all need to exercise due diligence to ensure we’re meeting people who are what they say and jot just time wasters, but in my opinion this is taking the piss, it’s taking it way too far. But, saying that, if it works for you op then no one else’s opinion matters |
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"For me there’s no hard and fast rule of when someone exchanges numbers but I have found the fact I only meet first time in a club and it’s in my profile has helped filter some of the time wasters
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I wouldn’t mind wasting some of your time.. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"We tend to chat for a week or so if it’s a mmff meet we bring up the possibility of the girls talking to each other . It’s certainly not as regimented as your itinerary. We are happy to send face pics if we are a) attracted to the profile and b) compatible (both looking for the same thing). But sending pics within 12 hours seems a tad severe "
Equally, asking early is not a bad thing, if there is no physical attraction you can spend time that would be more fun and productive for everyone.
Think the opening was badly worded.
Well unless it was demanding, OP? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tip: avoid time wasters by asking each person that messaged you to arrive at your home within 3minutes of the first message.
I do this all the time and surprisingly it turns out everyone on here is a timewaster.
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"We tend to chat for a week or so if it’s a mmff meet we bring up the possibility of the girls talking to each other . It’s certainly not as regimented as your itinerary. We are happy to send face pics if we are a) attracted to the profile and b) compatible (both looking for the same thing). But sending pics within 12 hours seems a tad severe
Equally, asking early is not a bad thing, if there is no physical attraction you can spend time that would be more fun and productive for everyone.
Think the opening was badly worded.
Well unless it was demanding, OP?"
Never thought of it that way. Just proves everyone has their own way ..what works for one may not work for another ... |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
Your profile your choice. If That's what works for you .others may choose not to follow your rules and use their profile differently.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It makes you wonder how relaxed and flowing and pleasant a meet would be sometimes with couples with the multitudes of rules and little games  "
I agree - i much prefer playing the hide the sausage game though.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It makes you wonder how relaxed and flowing and pleasant a meet would be sometimes with couples with the multitudes of rules and little games
I agree - i much prefer playing the hide the sausage game though.."
Ooh I can do that one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
Do you not think your demands will also deter genuine couples who don't want to jump through your hoops? |
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
Its your profile and your choice. We have all had bad experiences on here and I get you want to filter out the time wasters/fakes.
However If I didn't respond to any demands/requests from you would that mean i am a fake?
I personally wouldn't jump through hoops either
Maybe you should try social events or clubs to get to know people.
Would be more approachable
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"For me there’s no hard and fast rule of when someone exchanges numbers but I have found the fact I only meet first time in a club and it’s in my profile has helped filter some of the time wasters
I wouldn’t mind wasting some of your time.. "
You my darling can waste my time whenever you like |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tip: avoid time wasters by asking each person that messaged you to arrive at your home within 3minutes of the first message.
I do this all the time and surprisingly it turns out everyone on here is a timewaster.
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I think you're being over generous there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always make someone date a picture with a weird saying or word on it. Most of the time they never respond. We are always happy to prove we are real but don’t get anywhere x |
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off
if that's how you do things fair enough but if we were asked to send a photo like that we would politely decline."
We would impolitely decline. We're not your dancing monkey. |
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"Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
Sorry to say this, but I can see why. Each to their own, but is this criteria for a swingers' meeting, or a job interview? "Control, control, control" springs to mind.
Suffice is to say, if I were part of a couple, and we saw your profile and criteria, I wouldn't give it a second look either. |
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
I'm not a guy but like fuck would I jump through your hoops  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We always make someone date a picture with a weird saying or word on it. Most of the time they never respond. We are always happy to prove we are real but don’t get anywhere x"
perhaps this is a particular reason for not getting anywhere...
you'd have to bear in mind many wouldn't jump through hoops from just a photoverified couple being on the site for several months.
and a possibility for the ops reasoning is flawed that the women/cpls they communicate with dont reply to such demands is more likely a case of the other party saying.."nah, fuck that...bye"
even the forum being a small percentage of fab....I think this mustwriteonbitsofpaper approach would deflect much interest throughout fab.
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It's yet another case of fab users that don't understand probability. If a couple have 5+ verifications from couples who haven't verified each other, then the probability that they are fake isn't worth considering. The OP seems to have invented their own verification system and strangely, nobody can be fucking bothered |
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off
if that's how you do things fair enough but if we were asked to send a photo like that we would politely decline.
We would impolitely decline. We're not your dancing monkey. "
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Guys you missing the point. We live in the fast ever moving 21st century. Every one is connected by phones etc. How hard can it be to say hi on a phone?
This is a contact site after all.
Are we so shy that we don't have the ability to talk normally on a phone?
We are new to fab its true but your comments still suggest a lot of you like the talk but not the walk lol
We certainly dont judge each to their own.
Still think majority of folks on fab are guys getting off pretending.
The comments on these forums prove that surely.
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"It's yet another case of fab users that don't understand probability. If a couple have 5+ verifications from couples who haven't verified each other, then the probability that they are fake isn't worth considering. The OP seems to have invented their own verification system and strangely, nobody can be fucking bothered "
even the aforementioned hot couple arent getting anywhere with the approach...
I have NEVER asked for anything like this in my 10 years fabbing, or on dating sites...
on a swinging site?-the ONLY time I'd write my name on a piece of paper is for being photoverified, that is private for the admin..whom I generally trust more than some stranger(s) demands. |
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"Guys you missing the point. We live in the fast ever moving 21st century. Every one is connected by phones etc. How hard can it be to say hi on a phone?
This is a contact site after all.
Are we so shy that we don't have the ability to talk normally on a phone?
We are new to fab its true but your comments still suggest a lot of you like the talk but not the walk lol
We certainly dont judge each to their own.
Still think majority of folks on fab are guys getting off pretending.
The comments on these forums prove that surely.
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Explain to me what's wrong with the fab verification process and why people need a special one to meet you? |
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"Guys you missing the point. We live in the fast ever moving 21st century. Every one is connected by phones etc. How hard can it be to say hi on a phone?
This is a contact site after all.
Are we so shy that we don't have the ability to talk normally on a phone?
We are new to fab its true but your comments still suggest a lot of you like the talk but not the walk lol
We certainly dont judge each to their own.
Still think majority of folks on fab are guys getting off pretending.
The comments on these forums prove that surely.
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a lot of people insist on phone calls between the women of couples.
The forums don't represent the majority of fab |
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"Guys you missing the point. We live in the fast ever moving 21st century. Every one is connected by phones etc. How hard can it be to say hi on a phone?
This is a contact site after all.
Are we so shy that we don't have the ability to talk normally on a phone?
We are new to fab its true but your comments still suggest a lot of you like the talk but not the walk lol
We certainly dont judge each to their own.
Still think majority of folks on fab are guys getting off pretending.
The comments on these forums prove that surely.
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I've met a few hundred people on fab, who've met other people who've met other people from fab who've met other people from fab...the list goes on..
I know you are new....but YOU are self-inflicting gunshot wounds tho the foot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can everyone give the Op a break?
This is clearly a couple that has been burned, so now they are trying to find their feet....
We have all been there at some point....
I’ve had a woman in the past ask me to smile and show her all my teeth on Facetime....I was taken back but found out later she met a guy that was toothless in the past... so now she asks this to prevent this from happening in the future....
Try to be constructive in your replies and please give them some sound advice......
Jeez it’s like they’re a baby gazelle and you guys are a pride of lions circling for the kill... |
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"Guys you missing the point. We live in the fast ever moving 21st century. Every one is connected by phones etc. How hard can it be to say hi on a phone?
This is a contact site after all.
Are we so shy that we don't have the ability to talk normally on a phone?
We are new to fab its true but your comments still suggest a lot of you like the talk but not the walk lol
We certainly dont judge each to their own.
Still think majority of folks on fab are guys getting off pretending.
The comments on these forums prove that surely.
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No I think it is you missing the point.
There are an awful lot of very experienced and well verified singers commentin on this thread that the wouldn't do this. People don't like jumping through hoops. And personally the last sort of people I want to meet are those with such a dogmatic way of "proving" that others are genuine |
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
As a well verified couple that have been on the site nearly 10 years we wouldn't jump through such hoops,I doubt many others would either,but hey,it's your profile,your swinging life,you do whatever you feel works for you.
And as for the site being ruined?what's that about?
The site isn't ruined,it's thriving. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t want to do what you asked, partly because it sounds a bit demanding. Having said that, if it’s something that is discussed sensibly with the other people then it possibly wouldn’t sound that demanding. I would be mindful about how I put it to them though and I’m not sure it’s something you could convey in a non demanding way on your profile. |
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
I've got a golden rule for meeting couples too.
Avoid their demanding, hoop jumping requests and lack off respect for my life and commitments outside of Fab.
This site is being ruined by couples so far up their own arses they can tongue fuck their colon.
Guess what, I don't talk to many couples. |
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off
Yeh and imagine how many genuine couples you are putting off too. We all know there are fakes on here. "
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Everyone has their own ideas and their own rules, who are we to say they are right or wrong. If you’re happy with it and it works then great. Personally as far as we’re concerned our verifications prove that we are both real and that we turn up so we wouldn’t feel the need to pass any further tests. |
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"Everyone has their own ideas and their own rules, who are we to say they are right or wrong. If you’re happy with it and it works then great. Personally as far as we’re concerned our verifications prove that we are both real and that we turn up so we wouldn’t feel the need to pass any further tests."
^ This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am not sure about the time scales (with 24 hours etc) but I definitely find that having a chat before a meet is a great way of ing out the time wasters! |
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"Everyone has their own ideas and their own rules, who are we to say they are right or wrong. If you’re happy with it and it works then great. Personally as far as we’re concerned our verifications prove that we are both real and that we turn up so we wouldn’t feel the need to pass any further tests."
I've been on here as a couple and now as a single, both times verified by other well verified Fabbers and feel exactly the same. There has to be some give and take but I'm not asking How high? when told I need to jump. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off
I've got a golden rule for meeting couples too.
Avoid their demanding, hoop jumping requests and lack off respect for my life and commitments outside of Fab.
This site is being ruined by couples so far up their own arses they can tongue fuck their colon.
Guess what, I don't talk to many couples. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm all up for showing my face holding a paper with the name of the member I'm setting up a meet with.. But is it wise to give out phone number.
I'm unsure about that and probably why I have lost lots of meets xx |
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A couple of points to mention:
1. Why the strict, ridiculous timescales?
2. If you were asked to provide the same by a couple who responded to your message, or one you were attracted to, would you jump through such hoops? Something tells me you wouldn't, if you really think you're better than other couples on the site. |
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over a year ago
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
We tend to go on Kik as people can send live pics but we also agree a phone call fem to fem is always a good option as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm all up for showing my face holding a paper with the name of the member I'm setting up a meet with.. But is it wise to give out phone number.
I'm unsure about that and probably why I have lost lots of meets xx"
One of the reasons we use Kik so much X you don't have to give out your number but can ask for live pics etc and do a video call |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have been verified so you know we are a couple.
Always arrange to meet in a bar first to see if we get on, if a guy turns up on his own then we just say thanks but no thanks.
We was going out anyway so the nights not lost. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I refuse to give my.number out before a first meet. If I meet a guy and we get on then I may give him my number if he asks for it. But I prefer to do everything on here. I wouldn't dream of speaking to someone over the phone, I would organise a social meet and go from there. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
If your rules work for you OP, then carry on with what you are doing. The general consensus being that many posters wouldn't follow them. The site gives you all the tools you need for successful meets, socially and for sex. Use the tools and your gut instinct. Good luck. |
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"I wouldn't want to do a phone call within 24 hours of a first message. That's a bit demanding and expecting someone to move quickly.
Does that make me a fake, or mean that I'm actually a man?"
I agree with you it all sounds very clinical and methodical without any thought or consideration for anyone else’s preference and comfort zones |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
Ashton Under Lyne |
"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
I guess I'd be an "instant" fake because I don't swap phone numbers until close to meeting and I only meet after a very long time talking and chatting. There are a lot of tangible as well as intangible ways to get a sense of who's genuine and who's fake. I've come across a lot more REAL women and couples who take you for a ride than pretending blokes. |
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With over a hundred verifications to our name, if a couple asked us to send a photo with our names on it, and a phone call within 24 hours we would presume they are slightly unhinged and avoid like the plague. |
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"With over a hundred verifications to our name, if a couple asked us to send a photo with our names on it, and a phone call within 24 hours we would presume they are slightly unhinged and avoid like the plague."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hoop jumping at its finest, we wouldn’t bother bowing to those demands and would not demand anything like that from others, never have, never will.....
Guess what we’ve never been duped by a single guy yet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hoop jumping at its finest, we wouldn’t bother bowing to those demands and would not demand anything like that from others, never have, never will.....
Guess what we’ve never been duped by a single guy yet"
I'm in cambridge right now..and ma blowup wife luvs yer pics |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hoop jumping at its finest, we wouldn’t bother bowing to those demands and would not demand anything like that from others, never have, never will.....
Guess what we’ve never been duped by a single guy yet
I'm in cambridge right now..and ma blowup wife luvs yer pics"
Enjoy Cambridge, the arse end of the swinging world.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hoop jumping at its finest, we wouldn’t bother bowing to those demands and would not demand anything like that from others, never have, never will.....
Guess what we’ve never been duped by a single guy yet
I'm in cambridge right now..and ma blowup wife luvs yer pics
Enjoy Cambridge, the arse end of the swinging world...."
I know..and the chippies are overpriced |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
Totally understand your stance, OP. Clearly some people on here have absolutely no idea of how big the problem of men pretending to be a couple is !
Even VERIFIED profile couples are often single men (and it's very, very easy to do) |
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By *andK78Couple
over a year ago
Newport |
Where getting them quite allot, also when we open our profile the amount of messages (well dribble) from single guys is crazy.
This is a great site, the problems stem from Guy's here, not all but a large number. |
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"Where getting them quite allot, also when we open our profile the amount of messages (well dribble) from single guys is crazy.
This is a great site, the problems stem from Guy's here, not all but a large number. "
Of course. It's ALL the fault of single men.
Yet again.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off
Totally understand your stance, OP. Clearly some people on here have absolutely no idea of how big the problem of men pretending to be a couple is !
Even VERIFIED profile couples are often single men (and it's very, very easy to do)"
lol very same thing I thought when I seen you view me..
Now I will state you never said 'xxx' in any message..you are openly a couple who meet men..I dont like bi couples as a rule..if the male half cannot play straight.
so crux o the fux...
12hrs to be verified 'cellphone' etc, by a couple I might have never had an interested in?
who the fuck would agree even if they were a fake ffs |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Where getting them quite allot, also when we open our profile the amount of messages (well dribble) from single guys is crazy.
This is a great site, the problems stem from Guy's here, not all but a large number. "
Just block them from messaging. Problem solved. |
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over a year ago
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"Where getting them quite allot, also when we open our profile the amount of messages (well dribble) from single guys is crazy.
This is a great site, the problems stem from Guy's here, not all but a large number.
Just block them from messaging. Problem solved. "
or complain to fab...cos uts makun um it hardur |
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
Think that's quite fair. Can't see why that would be a problem. Only issue is that we as humans don't generally like to be told what to do and when. |
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"Where getting them quite allot, also when we open our profile the amount of messages (well dribble) from single guys is crazy.
This is a great site, the problems stem from Guy's here, not all but a large number.
Just block them from messaging. Problem solved. "
Don't be daft. That's too easy.
Much more satisfying to post on the forums that every single problem with Fab is down to single men.
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"Where getting them quite allot, also when we open our profile the amount of messages (well dribble) from single guys is crazy.
This is a great site, the problems stem from Guy's here, not all but a large number.
Just block them from messaging. Problem solved.
Don't be daft. That's too easy.
Much more satisfying to post on the forums that every single problem with Fab is down to single men.
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Lmfao ^^^^^^ |
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
Why not just cam with them instead then you can see them they can see you no stupid hoops to jump through and its fair all round. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
Can I do it sounds like a great game |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's no problem with single guys being on here. Couples often like threesomes or more and you can't really do that without guys. What really spoils the site for me is some of the incredibly negative profile statements. Fakes are very easy to spot, just have a giggle when you see one and forget about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's no problem with single guys being on here. Couples often like threesomes or more and you can't really do that without guys. What really spoils the site for me is some of the incredibly negative profile statements. Fakes are very easy to spot, just have a giggle when you see one and forget about it."
fuck me..thats one hot p e |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
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what does it matter that the
OP misses out on genuine couples who don't want to respond quickly and in the way they request.? There are thousands of members and some might feel the same way as they do. You often read on forums that every one should use FAB in a way that works for him/her/them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If that works for you then we are glad it does but we never give out our number and definitely would not jump through hoops like that if anybody asks us to send anything like that we would just instantly block and move on x |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Where getting them quite allot, also when we open our profile the amount of messages (well dribble) from single guys is crazy.
This is a great site, the problems stem from Guy's here, not all but a large number.
Just block them from messaging. Problem solved.
Don't be daft. That's too easy.
Much more satisfying to post on the forums that every single problem with Fab is down to single men.
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Good point. Sorry forgot that one. |
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"Where getting them quite allot, also when we open our profile the amount of messages (well dribble) from single guys is crazy.
This is a great site, the problems stem from Guy's here, not all but a large number.
Just block them from messaging. Problem solved.
Don't be daft. That's too easy.
Much more satisfying to post on the forums that every single problem with Fab is down to single men.
Good point. Sorry forgot that one. "
Easily done, no apology necessary. |
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"I wouldn't want to do a phone call within 24 hours of a first message. That's a bit demanding and expecting someone to move quickly.
Does that make me a fake, or mean that I'm actually a man?"
Agree, the site does photo verification, use that |
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Think you are missing the point peeps.
I understand where the OPs are coming from.
I get messages from "couples", some very plausible, some verified.
I can pretty much guarantee 80per cent of them aren't genuine. It's usually just the male half , or there is no female half atall, just a lone male fishing for wank material.
I ask to phone verify with the fem early in, and that's generally when the messages dry up.
Only seems to be a problem on here, I've had couples meets outside of here without all the above weird shit.
So yes I can see why the OPs want to verify the couple is genuine early on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We now have our golden rules for meeting couple. This really saves time.
1 photo with 12 hours of contact. The female can be dressed or even hide face but they must hold sign up saying "hi Julie and Steve and sign must be dated
2 fem to fem phone call within 24 hours of first contact.
Guess what? We don't talk to many couples lol. The site is ruined by guys getting off"
Not surprised you're not talking to many couples with all those hoops! No-one is here just for your demands ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't go jumping through hoops for anyone. "
Yep me neither. I appreciate that there are a lot of fakes, but putting so many restrictions up does not allow for real accounts who are noobs or just don't know what they're doing lol. |
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Sorry Minnie The Minx but I don't think we are missing the point whatsoever. In 5 years of being on Fab we have never yet fallen into the trap of a single guy pretending to be a couple.
If a couple message us. We then do our homework so to speak, are they photo verified? Do they have verifications? Do they have photos? If the answer is YES to all those then we will always converse, if the answer is NO, then we politely decline. We would never ask or expect to be asked to hold up a piece of paper with our/their names on it. |
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If anyone asked us to those things we would decline or ignore them....to us, it reads the way you have put it that you are very demanding and the meet (if there was to be one) would be very restricted and mechanical. If those are the hard rules you set just to chat then we would wonder on the strict rules and timing on the itinery you would set when meeting ....each to thier own I suppose but its not for us . You can generally get a good feel if people are real after checking everything seems ok profile wise and relaxed chat ....the odd ones always slip up  xx |
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"If anyone asked us to those things we would decline or ignore them....to us, it reads the way you have put it that you are very demanding and the meet (if there was to be one) would be very restricted and mechanical. If those are the hard rules you set just to chat then we would wonder on the strict rules and timing on the itinery you would set when meeting ....each to thier own I suppose but its not for us . You can generally get a good feel if people are real after checking everything seems ok profile wise and relaxed chat ....the odd ones always slip up xx "
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"A single woman (bugger all in her profile but verified) recently messaged asking to see more pictures despite me having public pictures of me.
I’m not ashamed to be a swinger so comfortable with displaying myself. I declined as I had no idea what she looked like.
Apparently I should have been grateful of a single girl messaging me....
I reminded her I can also be picky too!!!
I’ve had the same from a pretty sparse local female, no photos at all, demanded a face pic off me and got stroppy when I declined as for all I knew she could be a hairy arsed man. "
She might also be a reporter on your local newspaper doing the OMG "Swingers in little Muddletown" story as the gutter press do from time to time. |
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To be honest the basic chat filter works better than anything like photos or phone calls which we also ask for after at least a rudimentary level of communication has been established via messenger.
For example we might just let the initial ‘hi hows you ‘ message slide if the couple have something on their profile that sends the right message. We will always send a reasoned response with an open question about what they are after or what we would want from a first meeting etc but unfortunately most are are only capable of words of one syllable or when asking which bit of our profile they like the answer ‘all of it ‘ just doesn’t leave us anywhere to go.
So if you cannot establish even rudimentary levels of conversation and getting an idea about who we are letting into our personal life means face pics and verification are moot as social interaction is important to us for better play we would never even get to the girls proving all are genuine point without basic communication to start with.
As a rule we avoid profiles with a long list of negativity and demands we are here to have fun not conform to others expectations you like us or you don’t we have our fun and contacts enough without worrying what anyone new wants from us were here for friends and fun not jumping through hoops |
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There is no way we would ever swap numbers with anyone here. It’s why we avoid WhatsApp too.
Kik has proved a useful tool. No number swap required but you can see both halves of the couple typing (simultaneously) which is hard to fake - with coherent messages at least |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't want to do a phone call within 24 hours of a first message. That's a bit demanding and expecting someone to move quickly.
Does that make me a fake, or mean that I'm actually a man?"
Do you mind if I could just have a quick peak?
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