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Do veris put you off?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi everyone

I was really excited before but on a downer. So there is a young guy who I have been talking to for a while but never got round to meeting. Tomorrow I am free so I have said I will go to see him. Just read his veris though and they are all from super hot, size 6/8 women and I am a BBW. Like why has he even been messaging me for this long knowing that I am nothing like his usual type. Totally having anxiety right now. Anyone else like me? I didn't used to be like this, but because of relationship stuff my confidence is a bit low atm xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I won't meet anyone who only have really slim women on their veris, so I feel your pain OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think sometimes we don't give men the credit they deserve. Alot of men aren't at all fussed by a woman's size (granted alot are), and he obviously really likes you or he wouldn't have continued talking to you for all this time. You are beautiful, and you haven't exactly hidden the fact you're a BBW in your profile. I know its shit when your confidence is at rock bottom, but chin up, chest out. Go have fun!

L x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi everyone

I think you look absolutely stunning personally. You've got gorgeous eyes and a great body too. Anyone who gets to meet you is a very lucky man

. Xx

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By *oppet22TV/TS over a year ago

huddersfield

A lot of men like all shapes and sizes its only ladies that put them self's down as long as you look good clean what dos it matter how big or small you are it's not just sex people are here for its meeting someone to have a good time with to me sex is a bonus when meeting great people

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I won't meet anyone who only have really slim women on their veris, so I feel your pain OP."

Relieved it isn't just me. You are so beautiful though!! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I won't meet anyone who only have really slim women on their veris, so I feel your pain OP.

Relieved it isn't just me. You are so beautiful though!! Xxx "

So are you! Bloody stunning! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think sometimes we don't give men the credit they deserve. Alot of men aren't at all fussed by a woman's size (granted alot are), and he obviously really likes you or he wouldn't have continued talking to you for all this time. You are beautiful, and you haven't exactly hidden the fact you're a BBW in your profile. I know its shit when your confidence is at rock bottom, but chin up, chest out. Go have fun!

L x "

Thank you, I don't know if I will go yet. Hopefully I will just get my shit together and think fuck it, just go for it xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi everyone

I think you look absolutely stunning personally. You've got gorgeous eyes and a great body too. Anyone who gets to meet you is a very lucky man

. Xx"

Ah babes! I didn't write this to get compliments but thank you Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m kind of the same, I like to see one or two chubbies in their veris. I tend to make it very clear I’m fat so as to avoid disappointment when I turn up and they’re expecting a curvy size 12!

Too many verifications from any size would put me off though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A lot of men like all shapes and sizes its only ladies that put them self's down as long as you look good clean what dos it matter how big or small you are it's not just sex people are here for its meeting someone to have a good time with to me sex is a bonus when meeting great people "

I hope there are more people that think like you. Thank you lovely xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m kind of the same, I like to see one or two chubbies in their veris. I tend to make it very clear I’m fat so as to avoid disappointment when I turn up and they’re expecting a curvy size 12!

Too many verifications from any size would put me off though. "

I always check they know my size, double check then check again that they know lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love all shapes ,You need to sample all in life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Please just go and have sex with this man.....

It’s simple ....he wants you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Please just go and have sex with this man.....

It’s simple ....he wants you "

I concur. You’re thinking too deeply, and you’ll talk yourself out of it. Head down, arse up and get on with it

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"Hi everyone

for me it depends like for veris if I know that they have been with someone who will literally will sleep with anything then yes I do avoid them but that my only real thing with veris.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all get attracted visually first so if he made first contact he must have found you attractive end of and if you have chatted for a while deffo finds you hot but feel comfortable in your decision have fun x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi everyone

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By *ottie 13Woman over a year ago

Happy go lucky

We have all been there unfortunately the question is do you miss out or take a chance?? It may be worth mentioning it to him is he sure you're what he's looking for as you're not size 8 I tend to have to say something to make sure lol

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By *rkeb3Man over a year ago

east Lancashire road

so then if most of my verification are BBW then the slim girls are going to say oh no u are in to bbw n leave wtf is wrong with u ladies

I am all in to all types of women n I am sure 99%guys on here are the same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're just naturally nerves anyway, like all of us are with a first time meet!

Go for it, enjoy!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I won't meet anyone who only have really slim women on their veris, so I feel your pain OP."

Lol I've told guys that I'm not their type if they only have veris from larger ladies or have that they prefer/looking for larger ladies on their profile. I really don't mind but I'm not their type!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If someone has veries from lots of lovely stunners I won't meet them I don't want to be comparing myself to them ....I'm bad enough now without that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of men really don't care. Either you want to meet him or you don't. Comparing yourself to others is a soul destroying exercise. If you're really worried he doesn't realise what you look like, put up better pictures that clearly show your size/ shape. That way he knows exactly what he's getting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

L x "

^ This.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

Go and have a good time.

I am fat and wobbly, men seem more than ok with this. I think just enjoy your body and life x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Frankly I'm more likely to be put off if the veris were from (what I consider to be) ill-educated unattractive women.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"If someone has veries from lots of lovely stunners I won't meet them I don't want to be comparing myself to them ....I'm bad enough now without that "

You are lovely. Anyone who's met you knows this!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yet another reason I hate veris. Do people really only ever fuck identical robots that all look exactly the same? Or are they attracted to different people for different reasons?

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By *eah BabyCouple over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

L x

Thank you, I don't know if I will go yet. Hopefully I will just get my shit together and think fuck it, just go for it xxx "

They say you only regret the things you don’t do in life not those you do so yes get your shit together and go. It would be like me saying I won’t meet anyone that’s only met big boobed ladies, having only small onesmyself, don’t over think it, he likes you obviously so go have fun x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi everyone

The majority (though not all) of my veris probably come from women who can be classed as more athletic, but that's merely the "type" of women that tend to contact me the most. Would I be put off a voluptuous woman because of this? Not really, Marilyn Monroe was rather scrumptious IMHO ha!

Different women have different appeals to them really, a woman can have lots of desirable qualities and one woman may not have the same attraction on here that another has? Just variety really, which after all is one of the noticable things about swinging?

Flip it the other way around OP, the only veri you have with pics up is from a guy with a fairly athletic build, would you want that to put off advances from guys with a more rotund build (not the bedridden kind in shock documentaries but guys of the male equivalent of your own body type say 5'9" tall with a 42" waist or so) who were nevertheless charming and accomplished lovers?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find most men don't really care about wobbly bits. The key is to be confident because that is attractive. I only meet very good looking,very fit black men. Guys that I know are out of my league

some of them have veries from very pretty,slim girls who are also much younger than me!! I couldn't care less as I know I'm attractive in my own way. Just go for it.

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By *eanne n AliCouple over a year ago

glasgow

"Hi everyone

For us, size does not matter. As long as there is an attraction to the person (not just looks but personality as well). Some people as just so shallow (not just guys fall into this bracket) and are only looking to what the types that society deems as gorgeous, fit and hot.

Be proud of who you are are. We think you look absolutely gorgeous and would jump at a chance to meet you xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

L x "

I agree.

Something else to consider is that not everyone leaves veris and people don't necessarily display all of the ones they've received.

Some of us like people for who they are individually and may not have a particular type.

If anything, you could take it as a compliment.

Look at the positives.

You like him and he likes you. Surely that's what really matters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me, it's not about size, but sexual attraction, one look at your first photo and you think, Oh yes!

The other pics are good toox

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm with you OP

If a guys veris are all from super athletic or slim chicks it would be a no from me also.

Weird but hey ho.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm with you OP

If a guys veris are all from super athletic or slim chicks it would be a no from me also.

Weird but hey ho.

"
for me it's not even about how slim they are it's how attractive they are too ....I'm fugly as well as fat

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By *uffnmuffCouple over a year ago

London

Its the 2nd thing we do is read veris the 1st would be look at pics. And yes veris can be very off putting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh he's into you alright. Chemistry and good conversation is just as attractive as voluptuous curves or slim athletic. He has obviously found a connection with you. You have absolutely stunning eyes, and your second picture on your profile is enough to get the blood flowing for sure. Now go have some fun and blow his mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Contrary to popular belief, some men are attracted to womens personalities, not just their looks. From a mans perspective, you have nothing to worry about.

Try to relax and live in the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Body shape never matters to me as it's the face that's most important.

No point having a body like baywatch and a face like crimewatch.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Contrary to popular belief, some men are attracted to womens personalities, not just their looks. From a mans perspective, you have nothing to worry about.

Try to relax and live in the moment.

I think it's safe to say though that attraction is always the first step as that's what draws you to a person then the personality side comes into play.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think personality and the banter you get from the person you are planning to meet is more important than just looks...besides you are gorgeous anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Give the guy a bit of credit, seems like he has made the effort, that's probably not for nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I won't meet anyone who only have really slim women on their veris, so I feel your pain OP."

Come on girls is it not more about attraction to a person rather than their physical form ? The op to me have lovely eyes and her body as does yours looks very nice!! We dont all want twigs we want curves and fun nice people!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You look stunning in your pic, lovely curves! He obviously sees something he likes in your profile. Have a social with him. That's why I always insist on socials first. That way when they see the real me they can decide if they want to see me again and it means they are willing to put the effort in too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont base who il meet or not on veris or pics

Its make me laugh have good convos

Dont mind social first as it gives me oppotunity to practice seducing the girl in person and have a great laugh also helps to build the tension for if we meet again

But the size or look of someones meets never puts me off if its full of adonos looking guys i see it as a huge complement thst iv peaked there interest

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By *weet medicineWoman over a year ago

Kesgrave

"Hi everyone

you're absolutely gorgeous!

any guy that gets to meet you is extremely lucky indeed *keep smiling babes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Such positivity in this thread!!

Love it!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh he's into you alright. Chemistry and good conversation is just as attractive as voluptuous curves or slim athletic. He has obviously found a connection with you. You have absolutely stunning eyes, and your second picture on your profile is enough to get the blood flowing for sure. Now go have some fun and blow his mind.

I will try

thank you babes xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think personality and the banter you get from the person you are planning to meet is more important than just looks...besides you are gorgeous anyway

Completely agree, banter 100% I can be talked into bed

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it would be his loss if he is not I interested. But he has clearly indicated he wants to meet.

Go for it. What's the worst that can happen. You have told him you are a BBW . If neither like each other. Say thsnk you and he can leave.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm with you OP

If a guys veris are all from super athletic or slim chicks it would be a no from me also.

Weird but hey ho.

for me it's not even about how slim they are it's how attractive they are too ....I'm fugly as well as fat

You aren't! I love your pics

very nice! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi everyone

Because your hot! And real men love curvy BBW women!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For what it’s worth I would pick a larger lady or BBW as they are referred, every time over a thin lady. It’s obviously personal choice but larger ladies with curves are far more sexy!

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By *r TriomanMan over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"I won't meet anyone who only have really slim women on their veris, so I feel your pain OP."

I have verifications from a few very sexy, shapely ladies! Still room for one more though

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By *ngelina4uWoman over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

"Hi everyone

Is the lad not allowed to meet people of various types would you be the same if he had met people of other races?

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

L x "

Exactly this! If he wasn’t interested in you, he wouldn’t be talking to you. Arrange a meet, go have fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi everyone

Is the lad not allowed to meet people of various types would you be the same if he had met people of other races? "

That’s an interesting point, I think it’s his choice who he meets?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If he’s been looking at your pics and chatting with you then he finds you attractive . Go for it .. you’re beautiful .. fab has given me loads of confidence about my body

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi everyone

Is the lad not allowed to meet people of various types would you be the same if he had met people of other races? "

Sorry but that's a rediculous comment, it isn't about my having any prejudice which is like how you are changing this into, this is about my shitty body confidence

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By *anana JoeMan over a year ago

Sheffield

"Hi everyone

Is the lad not allowed to meet people of various types would you be the same if he had met people of other races?

Sorry but that's a rediculous comment, it isn't about my having any prejudice which is like how you are changing this into, this is about my shitty body confidence

I would disagree its an example of how you are discriminating against a guy for who he met and not about him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes but opposite for me

If all their veris are fuller figured/bbw I assume I won't be their type

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi everyone

Is the lad not allowed to meet people of various types would you be the same if he had met people of other races?

Sorry but that's a rediculous comment, it isn't about my having any prejudice which is like how you are changing this into, this is about my shitty body confidence

I would disagree its an example of how you are discriminating against a guy for who he met and not about him. "

My my what a sensitive soul you are. So to clarify, you think that anyone who decides not to meet because they think they might not be their type is prejudice and discriminating?

But you contradict yourself as just as you are saying in your point it's their choice who they meet, so then it my choice who I meet and their is no prejudice. It is personal preference that I wouldn't sleep with anyone unless I feel assured I was their type. How is that discrimination?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry for my poor use of *their, I didn't proof read. Still haven't been to sleep after my night shift xxx

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

Getting back on track; my profile received a view from a woman this morning, and when I looked at her profile, she was all about BBC, and the majority of her veris were from BBC's, so there's no way I would contact her

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By *eo_72Man over a year ago

Mansfield

Your gorgeous so I wouldn’t worry about it !

Love the pics btw xx

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Sounds like he likes slim and fullee figure ladies.

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By *osco78Man over a year ago

Sheffield

"I’m kind of the same, I like to see one or two chubbies in their veris. I tend to make it very clear I’m fat so as to avoid disappointment when I turn up and they’re expecting a curvy size 12!

Too many verifications from any size would put me off though.

I always check they know my size, double check then check again that they know lol xxx "

I know

I just curse I'm so fat away xx my of firm fab fav perves xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi everyone

Is the lad not allowed to meet people of various types would you be the same if he had met people of other races?

Sorry but that's a rediculous comment, it isn't about my having any prejudice which is like how you are changing this into, this is about my shitty body confidence

I would disagree its an example of how you are discriminating against a guy for who he met and not about him. "

It's about the OP's fear that she will be compared and not be held in high regard, in comparison to his other meets, because she is bigger than those this man usually meets. Hardly prejudice. More insecurity of not being considered as desirable. I completely understand that feeling.

If you don't feel you fit a person's usual preference do you consider yourself prejudice towards them?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes and no

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By *.H.SMan over a year ago

London

thought people were allowed to change their minds......oh deary me!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Getting back on track; my profile received a view from a woman this morning, and when I looked at her profile, she was all about BBC, and the majority of her veris were from BBC's, so there's no way I would contact her

I understand this too

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By *oppet22TV/TS over a year ago

huddersfield

To all you bigger females will you stop putting your self down you are sexy and don't let anyone say deferent

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Met him

big smiles. Thank you so much everyone. So glad I went. Seeing him again to!! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Met him

big smiles. Thank you so much everyone. So glad I went. Seeing him again to!! Xxx "

Great news.... you see sometimes you just have to take a chance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi everyone

You look absolutely gorgeous xxxx

Go have fun x

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I'm with you OP

If a guys veris are all from super athletic or slim chicks it would be a no from me also.

Weird but hey ho.

for me it's not even about how slim they are it's how attractive they are too ....I'm fugly as well as fat

Nonsense.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really don't get this lack of confidence. Very sad and experience-limiting, and as the OP has proved, completely unfounded and unnecessary. If you don't feel you have it, pretend, and you will more often than not be pleasantly surprised

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is my view. For me it’s about the connection. If I fancy someone, and we’ve had a great chat, and have built a relationship built on fun, then I’m theirs for the taking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t overthink it too much or put yourself down OP. A lot of guys like women of all shapes and sizes, some prefer bbw some prefer skinny, some prefer short some prefer tall, a lot love the female form in all its variety. A personal preference is a taller than average female who has a shapely body, but that doesn’t ever mean I wouldn’t be interested in a slim woman who is on the shorter side either.

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By *otto15Man over a year ago

Erith

I'd go for it, he must like what he sees and guys especially me really not fussed about shaoe or weight, more so if the other person is comfortable.

You look great it would be he's loss I'm sure!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yup. There have been many times where I’ve been interested in someone, and then seen a verification list full of monstrosities and been instantly put off.

It’s judgemental of me for sure. But I don’t want to get with someone that has low standards.

So I guess it’s the opposite of your dilemma. I wouldn’t be turned off by them meeting hot people. If anything it would make me more interested.

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By *eah BabyCouple over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"Met him

big smiles. Thank you so much everyone. So glad I went. Seeing him again to!! Xxx "

Yay!! Glad to hear to did x

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By *anana JoeMan over a year ago

Sheffield

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By *anana JoeMan over a year ago

Sheffield

"Hi everyone

Is the lad not allowed to meet people of various types would you be the same if he had met people of other races?

Sorry but that's a rediculous comment, it isn't about my having any prejudice which is like how you are changing this into, this is about my shitty body confidence

I would disagree its an example of how you are discriminating against a guy for who he met and not about him.

My my what a sensitive soul you are. So to clarify, you think that anyone who decides not to meet because they think they might not be their type is prejudice and discriminating?

The reality is its you who is sensitive to other peoples views that why you poorly attempt to be condensing to people. It does show you are non to pleasant a person though maybe you should be more insecure about your attitude.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont be silly, men like all sorts of women don't be put off, go have fun and enjoy yourself

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By *heaspieswingerMan over a year ago

Peak District

"Hi everyone

It depends why you haven’t got around to meeting. If you’re always both busy then don’t worry about it. If he keeps cancelling then don’t waste your time.

You have a meet with him, he’s chatted to you and seen your profile and photos - so we’d say he’s interested! Perhaps all his veris are from the women you described because he just hasn’t met a BBW yet? You could be his first

Go for it!!!! x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel your pain. Men have similar insecurities. They check out profiles of women they think are hot, but don’t message them because they think they might be out of their league. I do what you do, I look at a girl’s Veris and if I see men with six packs I move along, fearing I’ll get nowhere. I’d do better in a bar, because I have my personality to strike up a conversation etc. But on here I feel (maybe wrongly) that I need those body pics to get my foot in the door.

However, I’ve checked your profile and there are tons of reasons why he or any of us would want to meet you. Very sexy pics, honest depiction of your size and what you’re about. So he knows what he’s getting, and he’s going for it!! I say go for it too, and he’s definitely the lucky one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have in the past been put off by seeing some of the guys that women have met, thinking I don't compare. I mean it's not often I see them with veris from gangly, bespectacled, long haired weirdos.

I try not to think about it too much now.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"Met him

big smiles. Thank you so much everyone. So glad I went. Seeing him again to!! Xxx "

Great to hear! You're welcome

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By *ain n MableWoman over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I'd imagine he wants to meet you for the beautiful sexy lady you are with an amazing smile.

Sexy is as sexy does, weight, size, colour doesn't come into it.

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By *hyevernotMan over a year ago

Here and there

"Met him

big smiles. Thank you so much everyone. So glad I went. Seeing him again to!! Xxx "

I love a happy ending! Well done! x

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By *innerfrompinnerWoman over a year ago

pinner

Just be you and go for it.xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Met him

big smiles. Thank you so much everyone. So glad I went. Seeing him again to!! Xxx "

This is so awesome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Interesting thread. I had one of my best fab meets ever recently with a tall, ripped, tanned guy. The ONLY reason I took his approach seriously was that he contacted me on a very kinky couples profile that I had briefly and he clearly knew what he wanted. Talking to him after the meet he said he prefers curvy women but struggles to get them to respond to his approaches because he is so ripped. He knew me from my previous single profile and had wanted to meet for a while. I won’t be so dismissive of athletic men in the future. We all know what we want and if it is someone just looking for anything female I think that would start to show itself in conversation and social.

I’m delighted you went ahead and the meet was so good OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Interesting thread. I had one of my best fab meets ever recently with a tall, ripped, tanned guy. The ONLY reason I took his approach seriously was that he contacted me on a very kinky couples profile that I had briefly and he clearly knew what he wanted. Talking to him after the meet he said he prefers curvy women but struggles to get them to respond to his approaches because he is so ripped. He knew me from my previous single profile and had wanted to meet for a while. I won’t be so dismissive of athletic men in the future. We all know what we want and if it is someone just looking for anything female I think that would start to show itself in conversation and social.

I’m delighted you went ahead and the meet was so good OP."
damn I feel intimidated to message you now my body has no tears in it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m delighted you went ahead and the meet was so good OP.damn I feel intimidated to message you now my body has no tears in it "

Well I can try to make you cry with joy..

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

It’s a difficult one. I would say half my veris are social does that mean I don’t meet people.

Nope it means I like to chat as well as play

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I have in the past been put off by seeing some of the guys that women have met, thinking I don't compare. I mean it's not often I see them with veris from gangly, bespectacled, long haired weirdos.

I try not to think about it too much now. "

At least you've got lovely hair to lure them in......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I feel your pain. Men have similar insecurities. They check out profiles of women they think are hot, but don’t message them because they think they might be out of their league. I do what you do, I look at a girl’s Veris and if I see men with six packs I move along, fearing I’ll get nowhere. I’d do better in a bar, because I have my personality to strike up a conversation etc. But on here I feel (maybe wrongly) that I need those body pics to get my foot in the door.

This is another point too, going on foruns posts from them there's actually plenty of men on here who think they are getting nowhere due to not matching up with veris from gym-fit ladies with their being what they consider to be out of shape and therefore not bothering to message them?

So it's not just women that your positive ending story will have an inspiration on OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have in the past been put off by seeing some of the guys that women have met, thinking I don't compare. I mean it's not often I see them with veris from gangly, bespectacled, long haired weirdos.

I try not to think about it too much now.

At least you've got lovely hair to lure them in......"

They all just want to braid it

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By *iway2016Man over a year ago

The CF post code

"Hi everyone

From your pics I would say you are as hot as any other on this site. Seriously I have no idea why you are concerned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s not about shape and size but confidence is men have the same insecurities about the penis size, and is it big enough

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My ex husband couldn't stand skinny women. He did go out with one for a while but said it was like snogging a skeleton. If this guy has been chatting with you all this time - he must be interested!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're only worried because you can see who he's met. In life outside of fab if you met someone in a bar you wouldn't know what their usual type is and your accept the fact they've shown interest as 'You're their type' so ignore the veris, it means nothing. Go have fun

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

L x

Thank you, I don't know if I will go yet. Hopefully I will just get my shit together and think fuck it, just go for it xxx "

I hope you will op!

One of my favourite people in all the world on here is Hanky Panky - of the pink hair and ample boobage!

We look sod all like each other but often have the same guys messaging/fancying is both!

I’m guessing it’s because, though we don’t look alike, we’re similar in personality, attitude and gigglesomeness!

Seriously op - guys are usually less hung up about body type than we are! They like a pretty face - which you certainly have - and a great personality!

Go for it!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Veris put me off but hey you gotta toughen up here if you want to have any kinda success my advice don't look at them, just go on a social and if you click take it from there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You're only worried because you can see who he's met. In life outside of fab if you met someone in a bar you wouldn't know what their usual type is and your accept the fact they've shown interest as 'You're their type' so ignore the veris, it means nothing. Go have fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes! I do use veries to decide whether to message someone or reply to a message they’ve sent me! That’s why I don’t display mine xx

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By *ensualbicockMan over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

You look stunning ,, meet him

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By *ohnnyal80Man over a year ago

Dunbar

You may be different from his 'usual' type but that doesn't mean he is not sexually attracted to you. You have a beautiful smile and come to bed eyes so I can see why he would like you. Relax and enjoy yourself, being worried will only spoil the experience for you.

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By *eading28Man over a year ago

Reading

Take each person on theirs merits. It's daft to think people only have one type. I am attracted to different people for different reasons....

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By *eading28Man over a year ago

Reading

Although don't judge me on my typing skills lol, don't know where the extra 's' came from. 'Their merits'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's always the same thing in the end: some will like you, some won't. All people have different taste and it's never set in stone: some people like very different types too. I'm a face person for example, if I like that in someone the rest is relative. Of course, there are preferences but I don't think it's ever a black or white scenario.

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By *eachy123Woman over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me

I have a lot of veris but i work at cupids and a lot are from when im on shift but people only see the numbers that accumulate and ive had people refyse to play as a result but each to thier own x

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

Peachy thats their loss

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman over a year ago

Dublin

"I have a lot of veris but i work at cupids and a lot are from when im on shift but people only see the numbers that accumulate and ive had people refyse to play as a result but each to thier own x"

Wow thats sad if you get people who do that do they not look more closely?

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By *londie8399Couple over a year ago

blackpool

If they have a personslity and can make us laugh then that what attracts us

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By *ensualbicockMan over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

"Met him

big smiles. Thank you so much everyone. So glad I went. Seeing him again to!! Xxx "

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple over a year ago

bradford

We’ve felt a bit intimidated by loads of veris before, wondering if we’d measure up to their experience etc?? Silly really? So glad you went for it OP and had a good time! All the best!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No. Would not bother me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Met him

big smiles. Thank you so much everyone. So glad I went. Seeing him again to!! Xxx "

Aww that's fantastic news! I'm so pleased you had such a positive experience! You are braver than me haha x

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"It’s a difficult one. I would say half my veris are social does that mean I don’t meet people.

Nope it means I like to chat as well as play

Most of my veris are from social meets too, and only a couple of days ago, a woman I was chatting with suggested I add a note in my profile text about how important playing safe is to me, as when she looked at my veris, she thought "Blimey, he puts it about a bit!", and potentially other people think the same?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Met him

big smiles. Thank you so much everyone. So glad I went. Seeing him again to!! Xxx "
you took my advice well done you

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By *ischief ManagedCouple over a year ago

manchester

Sweeter the prize op

, your a lovely lady

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On the flip side of this...I wouldn't want to meet anyone that felt intimidated by those that I'd met before. It shows lack of self confidence and that's a bit of a turn off. Although I've been on the forum long enough to know that the guys on here love a vulnerable person.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"On the flip side of this...I wouldn't want to meet anyone that felt intimidated by those that I'd met before. It shows lack of self confidence and that's a bit of a turn off. Although I've been on the forum long enough to know that the guys on here love a vulnerable person. "

Do you display your veris if someone were to ask?

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman over a year ago

Dublin

99% of the time verifications are just rubbish saying the same old rubbish but I do take note if they have met people who promote bareback in photos or if they have met people posting on bareback threads and I loose interest totally in them.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I have in the past been put off by seeing some of the guys that women have met, thinking I don't compare. I mean it's not often I see them with veris from gangly, bespectacled, long haired weirdos.

I try not to think about it too much now.

At least you've got lovely hair to lure them in......

They all just want to braid it"

I should have your luck.....

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By *ralgiver100Man over a year ago

brisbane

You look drop dead gorgeous and wow what a very sexy woman you , he’s the lone that should be nervous xx

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By *nSeeNMan over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

"I won't meet anyone who only have really slim women on their veris, so I feel your pain OP."

But why , from your pictures you seem like someone that's on the higher end of the attractiveness scale.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you display your veris if someone were to ask? "

I have done...I tend not to because people are arses on the whole

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Consider this...

I have never slept with a blonde, yet I find blondes attractive

I have never slept with someone with blur eyes, yet I find them to be quite stunning.

I have never slept with a woman with dark skin, yet I'm massively attracted to dark skin.

I have never slept with a woman with short hair, yet there are several I'd like to.

Do you see what I'm getting at here?

Just because someone hasn't slept with someone who fits your description, it doesn't mean they're not attracted to someone of your description. If they show a sincere interest, they're interested, so go ahead and enjoy yourself, life is too short not to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Frankly ridiculous that anyone would be insecure about being different to people someone generally meets, it’s just sex, it’s supposed to be just fun, for example if someone who normally meets slim people fancies a larger person for a change, so what! Isn’t swinging about variety?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Frankly ridiculous that anyone would be insecure about being different to people someone generally meets, it’s just sex, it’s supposed to be just fun, for example if someone who normally meets slim people fancies a larger person for a change, so what! Isn’t swinging about variety?"

Just because you don't have body confidence issues, doesn't make me and how I feel rediculous. So many women and men are like me. It is a battle sometimes between loving my sexuality but feeling unhappy with my body. I have lost 4 stone upto now and it has left me with loose skin which I can't tone up, it's just there. But also after you have been really big it leaves you feeling still bigger than you maybe are. However I did go to my meet and I had a fantastic time and he was so lovely and he told me I look gorgeous as soon as he saw me. Swinging is about variety, and I would like to try all sorts of variety to lol, just need confidence to match my desires xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Frankly, I would want someone to think I was desirable. Not just think. "Oh I fancy a change today, I'll go for a chubster"

. It is about fun. If I want to relax and have fun, I like to think the guy fancies me and doesn't just want to fill my hole. A guy who only has slim on his veris makes me over think too much and as you said, it's all about fun. But hey, maybe that's just me....

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

Do you display your veris if someone were to ask?

I have done...I tend not to because people are arses on the whole

I see the irony of your profile pic

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By *nsert user name hereMan over a year ago

Manchester

I find it strange that if I fancy a slim girl I can't also fancy a larger one?

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By *nSeeNMan over a year ago