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Does been polite and always respectful win the day on fab
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm always polite and I'm always respectful and I even try to show interest and I seem to get no where why is that"
It might mean you are more likely to meet people who value politeness and respect. |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire |
"I'm always polite and I'm always respectful and I even try to show interest and I seem to get no where why is that"
Just keep doing what you do. The right people will find you.
Patience is key |
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"I'm always polite and I'm always respectful and I even try to show interest and I seem to get no where why is that"
If by being disrespectful you mean your well thought out polite messages are ignored then I may have a reason why.
I read the profile before answering the message to see if the sender is compatible with what I'm looking for. I also expect to see at least one picture to peak my interest. If no text or photo I delete message unread.
There are thousands, fit as fuck single men on Fab: who has time for "discreet" men who can't even be bothered to state what they're looking for/bringing to the party?!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Manners and politeness cost nothing. Be respectful.
Ive never undefstood the Trolls, the keyboard warrior's and the down right nasty people, not just on here but on society in general.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Keep trying, the alternative is not being polite, sounding quite aggressive or desperate which make up about 70% of mail to us and that just gets you deleted.
I’m sure you’ll hit the mark soon  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you aren’t getting anywhere and you are polite and respectful then look at changing other things, like a more detailed profile, intriguing pics.
There are 1,000’s of guys on here so manners will only get you so far... |
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I think some of you are missing the point. If I wrote the opening thread for example your responses would be very different no matter how respectful and charming I was. My profile is hidden: the ops might as well be.
I find it odd that people who join a site to interact with others for sex make no effort yet cry rude when ignored. Nowt as queer as folk I guess.
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"If you aren’t getting anywhere and you are polite and respectful then look at changing other things, like a more detailed profile, intriguing pics.
There are 1,000’s of guys on here so manners will only get you so far..."
My point exactly! I think the op probably puts effort in his message not realising people look at profiles first and disregard messages from non existent profiles. In his mind that makes people rude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being polite and respectful is only part way there. For me to find someone attractive they need to be interesting, funny, physically attractive, confident, etc etc etc. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Being polite and respectful is only part way there. For me to find someone attractive they need to be interesting, funny, physically attractive, confident, etc etc etc. "
Yeah a single guy needs all the best attributes, a single lady just needs a heartbeat  |
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I have been pondering this further, and this might be helpful.
Say you bump into a nice lady on a night out, enjoy some pleasant small talk at the bar and buy her a drink. Do you then moan to your mates that she wasn’t interested in you after you were nice to her?
(Spoiler alert; the answer shouldn’t be “yes”) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being polite and respectful is only part way there. For me to find someone attractive they need to be interesting, funny, physically attractive, confident, etc etc etc. Yeah a single guy needs all the best attributes, a single lady just needs a heartbeat "
That's hardly my fault that many guys have no standards. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Being polite and respectful is only part way there. For me to find someone attractive they need to be interesting, funny, physically attractive, confident, etc etc etc. Yeah a single guy needs all the best attributes, a single lady just needs a heartbeat
That's hardly my fault that many guys have no standards. "
Oh I know it isn't I was just joking, quite accurate though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being polite and respectful is only part way there. For me to find someone attractive they need to be interesting, funny, physically attractive, confident, etc etc etc. Yeah a single guy needs all the best attributes, a single lady just needs a heartbeat
That's hardly my fault that many guys have no standards. Oh I know it isn't I was just joking, quite accurate though."
Even without a heartbeat I’d still get messages lol  |
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"I'm always polite and I'm always respectful and I even try to show interest and I seem to get no where why is that"
Don't over analyse it.
You're simply not what the Women you've messaged fancy, it's as simple as that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm always polite and I'm always respectful and I even try to show interest and I seem to get no where why is that"
It doesn't always "win the day" as being successful on fab depends on so much more than merely being polite and respectful. A polite and respectful wheelchair bound male pensioner with a skin problem and a lack of imagination save a major interest in the life cycle of a mollusc which he enthuses about at all times to everyone may well find the odds stacked against him.
But it's still I imagine one of the key qualities in the eyes of potential meets that will do nothing but improve the odds of anyone on the site at having an enjoyable experience, so don't feel like you have to change this area of yourself OP.
It's nice to be nice! |
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Nothing wrong with being polite and respectful. It should be automatic when socialising.
But it appears to be entitled behaviour, as if you think of women as vending machines where you insert 'nice behaviour' and expect 'sexual reward' to be dispensed
Your profile says precisely nothing.
"Genuine polite respectful guy looking for fun."
This could be used by probably 80% of the people on here. It's bland and inoffensive, and doesn't give a reason to say no, but not much incentive to say yes either.
Have a look at a few other profiles, maybe do a search for men similar to your self, look at their profiles and see how many verifications they get.
Try and write something that would make people want to meet you, instead of them.
Good luck |
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"Nothing wrong with being polite and respectful. It should be automatic when socialising.
But it appears to be entitled behaviour, as if you think of women as vending machines where you insert 'nice behaviour' and expect 'sexual reward' to be dispensed
Your profile says precisely nothing.
"Genuine polite respectful guy looking for fun."
This could be used by probably 80% of the people on here. It's bland and inoffensive, and doesn't give a reason to say no, but not much incentive to say yes either.
Have a look at a few other profiles, maybe do a search for men similar to your self, look at their profiles and see how many verifications they get.
Try and write something that would make people want to meet you, instead of them.
Good luck "
Exactly this!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When talking of sex appeal respectful and polite aren't key components. One mans respectful and polite is anothers smarmy additionally.
Seems to be a fashion for guys to parade it as a form of entitlement, it's nonsense. Often comes across as all they have in the locker. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm always polite and I'm always respectful and I even try to show interest and I seem to get no where why is that"
Because people you message aren't looking for single guys or they don't fancy you. Contrary to popular opinion on here women aren't obliged to have sex with anybody that is polite to them.
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