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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So you're single but you meet the love of your life away from the swinging lifestyle?
Would you try and introduce them to the lifestyle or not want to share them?
I struggle with this and was the reason I left fab before when I was in a relationship as I didn't want him to judge me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have left fab, each time I have been in a relationship, for the same reasons. Not an easy conversation to have, which would potentially damage a relationship. Need to have a relationship with a swinger and share your experiences together.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In all honesty, I don't class myself as a swinger. If I were to meet the love of my life away from fab, I'd have no issues leaving this all behind. I could happily be in a monogamous relationship if they ticked all the boxes. I would see no need to introduce them to the fab lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I met someone off site with whom I'd want to be in a relationship with I'd retire from swinging and enjoy some good old fashioned monogamy time with them.
Even if they were so inclined to swing in future, I'd believe that any couple swinging would need a very strong monogamous bond and trust in each other to be built first before inviting someone else into the bedroom with them. Hence I wouldn't introduce my partner straight into the deep end of swinging from the start if she was someone from outside of Fab. If she finds out about swinging in future and asks to try it I'd consider. But I'd never initiate it. There's a huge difference between just wanting sexual fun with someone and wanting a relationship and a life with someone. |
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"In a perfect world I'd meet someone already in this lifestyle. If not, I'm having lots of fun enjoying being single x"
Same here I now think if I was ever to enter full time relationship it would have to be with someone who understood the swinging lifestyle
That way there’s no lies or deception |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everytime I've entered a relationship I've taken a step back from fab and the scene because I personally just want to focus on them. But that's because I'm straight.
However, from looking at your profile, it seems that being Bi-sexual is a big part of who you are. Maybe if you talk about this first you might be able to gauge how he feels about the scene? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I wouldn't introduce her to here. Chances are she has already heard about this place.
But I'd be off here like a shot as I don't see it as right being on a swinging site when in a relationship.
It fucks with the head and temptation is always there.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everytime I've entered a relationship I've taken a step back from fab and the scene because I personally just want to focus on them. But that's because I'm straight.
However, from looking at your profile, it seems that being Bi-sexual is a big part of who you are. Maybe if you talk about this first you might be able to gauge how he feels about the scene?"
What makes you think it'd be a "he" OP would be looking for? She says she's bi on her profile but not interested in meeting men at the moment. I'd hazard a guess and say OP is more into women than men. In which case it still all applies anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I met someone away from Fab who I had real feelings for I'd delete my account on here immediately. If I felt sexual deviancy was important to me (probably) or promiscuity (probably not) I'd be honest with them about those fantasies and look to bring that into our sex life if they responded well to that. If not, and the sex was good, I'd probably be happy being vanilla from then on |
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
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"In all honesty, I don't class myself as a swinger. If I were to meet the love of my life away from fab, I'd have no issues leaving this all behind. I could happily be in a monogamous relationship if they ticked all the boxes. I would see no need to introduce them to the fab lifestyle "
I second this exactly! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you're single but you meet the love of your life away from the swinging lifestyle?
Would you try and introduce them to the lifestyle or not want to share them?
I struggle with this and was the reason I left fab before when I was in a relationship as I didn't want him to judge me "
I think if they are that important its best to give them your full attention so I would delete and spend some time really getting to know them and give full commitment for the foreseeable future. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm here because I don't want a realtionship due to circumstances
But I did confide in my friend yesterday I think I'd struggle with a traditional relationship after being here for a couple of years now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab is more for finding sexual compatibility for me with a few people I've clicked with and am genuinely attracted to.
Whenever I date I leave. The hope is to meet someone with similar tastes to enjoy on a more permanent basis and I don't believe I can do that whilst still being on here. Easy decision to make. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I could happily be with a person and not need FAB or this lifestyle. I was lucky enough to meet someone on a date that was already on here and had similar views as me.
It's early days and we're taking it slow concentrating on each other, but getting naughtier by the week.
I would find it hard if a potential partner was prude, but luckily never been in that situation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you're single but you meet the love of your life away from the swinging lifestyle?
Would you try and introduce them to the lifestyle or not want to share them?
I struggle with this and was the reason I left fab before when I was in a relationship as I didn't want him to judge me "
Absolutely NO WAY. The only reason i am on Fab is because i am single. I could never share my girlfriend or wife with anyone. The jealously will rip me apart. The genuine swinging lifestyle is definitely Not for me |
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I think it's important in a real relationship, rather than with a FWB, to take a little time to be together before you return to it. But I've gone from being adamant a few months ago that relationships weren't to me to being open to the idea more recently. I'd prefer that to be with someone who's interested in the scene if it were to happen though. |
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"So you're single but you meet the love of your life away from the swinging lifestyle?
Would you try and introduce them to the lifestyle or not want to share them?
I struggle with this and was the reason I left fab before when I was in a relationship as I didn't want him to judge me "
Tbh I’ve never ‘properly ‘ fallen for anyone on Fab. Until I do I’ve really no idea whether or not I could happily watch them fuck someone else - but I hope I’d be able to as I like the idea of being in a real, loving relationship whilst staying in the swinging world!
However - part of me also likes the idea of being with a guy who doesn’t want to fuck all my friends!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I met someone off site with whom I'd want to be in a relationship with I'd retire from swinging and enjoy some good old fashioned monogamy time with them.
Even if they were so inclined to swing in future, I'd believe that any couple swinging would need a very strong monogamous bond and trust in each other to be built first before inviting someone else into the bedroom with them. Hence I wouldn't introduce my partner straight into the deep end of swinging from the start if she was someone from outside of Fab. If she finds out about swinging in future and asks to try it I'd consider. But I'd never initiate it. There's a huge difference between just wanting sexual fun with someone and wanting a relationship and a life with someone. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you're single but you meet the love of your life away from the swinging lifestyle?
Would you try and introduce them to the lifestyle or not want to share them?
I struggle with this and was the reason I left fab before when I was in a relationship as I didn't want him to judge me
Tbh I’ve never ‘properly ‘ fallen for anyone on Fab. Until I do I’ve really no idea whether or not I could happily watch them fuck someone else - but I hope I’d be able to as I like the idea of being in a real, loving relationship whilst staying in the swinging world!
However - part of me also likes the idea of being with a guy who doesn’t want to fuck all my friends! "
I totally get this. We met on the basis I was bi and into threesomes with women. I hate the touchy feely part outside of the room because it seems more emotionally involved. I just enjoy and have no complications with the sex part, the roleplay of and touching in the bedroom because we all know what we are there for  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I belive in non monogamy. No one owns anyone else and no one person can be somebody's everything. I would hope we could play as a couple from time to time."
Completely agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you're single but you meet the love of your life away from the swinging lifestyle?
Would you try and introduce them to the lifestyle or not want to share them?
I struggle with this and was the reason I left fab before when I was in a relationship as I didn't want him to judge me "
I would definitely introduce her to the lifestyle...
But I would start off with Single guys first...
Couples seem like too much work |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve tried the vanilla life, it doesn’t work for me.
It obviously depends on the girl, some girls I’ve met wouldn’t entertain swinging but one or 2 would, however it’s a whole different ball game talking about swinging to actually doing it.
Trust, respect, boundaries and mutual interests can be difficult things for any relationship so a strong relationship would need to be formed before I’d consider swinging with a girl.
Still can’t find a girl I’d like to have a relationship with but then again I’m not looking for one either
I wouldn’t say no to a swinging relationship but right now, a relationship isn’t what I need in my life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After reading this thread my head is spinning...
To all the people that wouldn’t share a partner if they fell in love....
Why do you meet and play with couples?
I respect your honesty and choices, but it does seem a bit selfish...... |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"So you're single but you meet the love of your life away from the swinging lifestyle?
Would you try and introduce them to the lifestyle or not want to share them?
I struggle with this and was the reason I left fab before when I was in a relationship as I didn't want him to judge me
I would definitely introduce her to the lifestyle...
But I would start off with Single guys first...
Couples seem like too much work "
Yeah you would be getting her airtight |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you're single but you meet the love of your life away from the swinging lifestyle?
Would you try and introduce them to the lifestyle or not want to share them?
I struggle with this and was the reason I left fab before when I was in a relationship as I didn't want him to judge me
I would definitely introduce her to the lifestyle...
But I would start off with Single guys first...
Couples seem like too much work Yeah you would be getting her airtight "
I tend to like blindfolds ......
Invite a guy over , have her blindfolded on the bed... record him having his way with her... show her the video later...
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I think if I found the one and they weren't into the idea of the scene I could walk away from Fab but I couldn't be with someone who'd judge me for having had the sort of experiences I've had on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I met the poor sod on here, I would still like us to have a bit of time to ourselves - I think most people would. When you're all loved up, you don't really want anybody else! After the initially love-fest, I would imagine we would return to the fold  If I met someone not on this site .... well, that would take some thinking about! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess ideally I’d meet someone who already lived the lifestyle and we could indulge together... if not then I guess if I loved her I’d leave it behind |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After reading this thread my head is spinning...
To all the people that wouldn’t share a partner if they fell in love....
Why do you meet and play with couples?
I respect your honesty and choices, but it does seem a bit selfish......"
It's not selfish. When you ask singles here if they're willing to share their partners in future and swing, you're gonna get more responses of "no, I'd want some monogamy time first". Couple swingers already have that down pat plus they have the basis of trust already existing between them to be entertaining the idea of someone else in bed with them. They're already ahead of the curve when it comes to swinging as compared to single people.
And if you ask me, I'd prefer to play with a single female more than a couple now because I'm past the stage whereby I feel like I'm just a sex accessory for a couple when they have the fantasy of an extra guy joining them in bed. I still would do threesomes with couples. But come on who's gonna pass up having 100% undivided attention from someone else that's also single and not seeing someone else? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I met someone apart from Fab, I wouldn’t risk the relationship, especially if we really loved each other.
But I wouldn’t class myself as a swinger. I’m just single, I want to have sex and this is a convenient and safe way to go about it.
For the right man, I’d turn my back on Fab. Make new memories.
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I had the good fortune to meet someone who was open minded enough to try swinging, never having done it before. I introduced her to it fairly soon on in the relationship, but not all in one go.
We were very much in love, though sadly the relationship ended for other reasons, and we could both separate recreational sexual gratification and fantasy fulfilment, from the intimacy of a relationship.
It was the best relationship I ever had and would dearly love to find another like minded partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A nice single guy who wants a girlfriend and willing to leave fab? Come forward "
Good luck. I hope you find what you want it's not easy .
I'm still here and times running out lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A nice single guy who wants a girlfriend and willing to leave fab? Come forward
Good luck. I hope you find what you want it's not easy .
I'm still here and times running out lol"
What's the rush? Lol |
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"If I met someone off site with whom I'd want to be in a relationship with I'd retire from swinging and enjoy some good old fashioned monogamy time with them.
Even if they were so inclined to swing in future, I'd believe that any couple swinging would need a very strong monogamous bond and trust in each other to be built first before inviting someone else into the bedroom with them. Hence I wouldn't introduce my partner straight into the deep end of swinging from the start if she was someone from outside of Fab. If she finds out about swinging in future and asks to try it I'd consider. But I'd never initiate it. There's a huge difference between just wanting sexual fun with someone and wanting a relationship and a life with someone. "
I agree with this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you're single but you meet the love of your life away from the swinging lifestyle?
Would you try and introduce them to the lifestyle or not want to share them?
I struggle with this and was the reason I left fab before when I was in a relationship as I didn't want him to judge me "
I would be happy to swing with her is she wanted that but if she didn't want to do it then so be it.
I used to talk to a woman on here. She said if she dated a man from here she would be upset if he wanted to swing. She said she would wonder why she is not enough for him. |
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I think it is very different for men compare to women. I would not hide it that I am on a swinging site, nor will I reveal it immediately. I'd ease her into it gradually, explaining my reason for joining and who knows we can go to clubs and parties to help her understand and see.
Being single I do not count myself as a swinger but that could change after some years of enjoying my partner then again not into meeting loads of people 2 or 3 sexy couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After reading this thread my head is spinning...
To all the people that wouldn’t share a partner if they fell in love....
Why do you meet and play with couples?
I respect your honesty and choices, but it does seem a bit selfish......
It's not selfish. When you ask singles here if they're willing to share their partners in future and swing, you're gonna get more responses of "no, I'd want some monogamy time first". Couple swingers already have that down pat plus they have the basis of trust already existing between them to be entertaining the idea of someone else in bed with them. They're already ahead of the curve when it comes to swinging as compared to single people.
And if you ask me, I'd prefer to play with a single female more than a couple now because I'm past the stage whereby I feel like I'm just a sex accessory for a couple when they have the fantasy of an extra guy joining them in bed. I still would do threesomes with couples. But come on who's gonna pass up having 100% undivided attention from someone else that's also single and not seeing someone else? "
But realistically, these days, most single people are seeing someone else, whether from here or elsewhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I found true love I wouldn’t think about this shallow lifestyle..
This is what singles do for sex in between relationships..
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It's what some singles do for sex in between relationships. Others have a genuine interest in a non-monogamous lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you're single but you meet the love of your life away from the swinging lifestyle?
Would you try and introduce them to the lifestyle or not want to share them?
I struggle with this and was the reason I left fab before when I was in a relationship as I didn't want him to judge me "
It's interesting reading the replies here from a range of singles and couples. I think it's depends on your view, why are you on fab? Is it a lifestyle or a bit of a fad? If it's lifestyle then by definition you should be able to open up and have an adult conversation listening to waht the other has to say and they in turn should be able to listen to you. If it's not for them then maybe they are not the perfect person you have labelled them to be. Just leaving the site as that is easier then not talking really just masks your wants and want you are actually seeking. That in turn may make you return at a later stage and keep it a secret from them.. and thus running further risks.
Just my opinion anyhow.. interesting thread and posts |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There are more & more of these type of threads appearing, and it seems there are plenty of people looking to date someone in a less conventional sense - I'm one of them.
Traditional dating isn't working for me, and I have met my last 2 girlfriends through recreational sex. Like some others above, I don't class myself as a swinger, it's a dated term in my view and classifies a certain group of people in the same way you might describe yourself as part of the fetish scene, or kink scene - all slightly different variations on a theme.
I suspect that as far as the forum goes, a lot of the people that want to date someone from any of those scenes, a lot of them don't ever use the forum but if you do and you're reading this.....feel free to message me! |
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