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There’s been lots of threads on here discussing the hot wife scenario but mostly it’s from the couple’s perspective.
I’d be interested to hear about it from the other guy’s perspective: why are they drawn to it? Do they prefer it to ‘normal’ one-on-one meets with a single female? |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"There’s been lots of threads on here discussing the hot wife scenario but mostly it’s from the couple’s perspective.
I’d be interested to hear about it from the other guy’s perspective: why are they drawn to it? Do they prefer it to ‘normal’ one-on-one meets with a single female?"
Can be the best NSA because the fact they have a Husband/BF can stop any feelings developing. |
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"There’s been lots of threads on here discussing the hot wife scenario but mostly it’s from the couple’s perspective.
I’d be interested to hear about it from the other guy’s perspective: why are they drawn to it? Do they prefer it to ‘normal’ one-on-one meets with a single female? Can be the best NSA because the fact they have a Husband/BF can stop any feelings developing."
I hadn’t considered that, but it does make sense. |
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I like to perform,be watched .
But it seems , feels much better when the hubby is watching . You want to make the wife feel like she’s never been fucked like it before ,and show her hubby how much she’s enjoying it too .
If they get a kick out of it and brings them closer together , it’s a win win win scenario
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over a year ago
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I enjoy one on one meets but I also love to be watched by hubbies. There is something special about being with a wife when you know that her husband is watching you both. |
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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago
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Such a turn on seeing / feeling a hot wife let herself go...., exploring areas her and her hubby have never been...
Quite liked nice sub hot wife and hubby who likes watching /hearing / pics sent.....as adds to the intensity....
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"There’s been lots of threads on here discussing the hot wife scenario but mostly it’s from the couple’s perspective.
I’d be interested to hear about it from the other guy’s perspective: why are they drawn to it? Do they prefer it to ‘normal’ one-on-one meets with a single female?"
Thanks for the question. I do prefer couples myself. I like the challenge of trying to give both the husband and the wife what they want, it is even better when the three of you can go to sexual places you hadn’t expected or considered (but want to go).
I like knowing my place in the sense that I am not there to try to re-place or belittle the husband: I am a sex toy which a happily married couple uses when all parties are available. I am not the main party: the couple is the main player but I can still have an important if limited role. Someone once compared the single guy to Darth Vader while the couple are Han Solo and Princess Lela: Vader isn’t the centre of the movie, he only has a few scenes, but he can still have a major effect on the film. Thanks again for the question.
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"There’s been lots of threads on here discussing the hot wife scenario but mostly it’s from the couple’s perspective.
I’d be interested to hear about it from the other guy’s perspective: why are they drawn to it? Do they prefer it to ‘normal’ one-on-one meets with a single female?
Thanks for the question. I do prefer couples myself. I like the challenge of trying to give both the husband and the wife what they want, it is even better when the three of you can go to sexual places you hadn’t expected or considered (but want to go).
I like knowing my place in the sense that I am not there to try to re-place or belittle the husband: I am a sex toy which a happily married couple uses when all parties are available. I am not the main party: the couple is the main player but I can still have an important if limited role. Someone once compared the single guy to Darth Vader while the couple are Han Solo and Princess Lela: Vader isn’t the centre of the movie, he only has a few scenes, but he can still have a major effect on the film. Thanks again for the question.
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over a year ago
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Great thread! I'll add my thoughts, as I prefer meeting hotwife couples to a one to one with a lady. For me it's alot more than just the sex, it's getting to know what makes the couple tick, what stimulates them both individually and as a couple. Once I know their boundries and limits I will make some suggestions of my own, things they may like to try that I had done in the past.
During the meet, I love watching the reaction from the lady as she enjoys my attention and watching the thrill in her partners eyes as he gets excited watching. I've done this in reverse when I had a GF who enjoyed meeting other men. So I understand the thrill from their side also. It is like watching the best porn movie ever as it features the lady you desire and love.
Eddie
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It's difficult to explain, for me. I've had several long term 'relationships' with couples, 8 years being the longest and each couple is different.
Some of it comes down to the love and trust the couple have for each other to be able to share with others.
The couples I have played with have always been on equal footing, the hotwife scenario, not cuckold, so it hasn't been about one being submissive or dominant. They both enjoy, being fucked or watching her being fucked. I've never felt my performance or cock should be better than his, although I do think I enjoy being watched. I know as I've been told, that after a meet, the couple relive the meet while having their own fun, so I was an enhancement to their own fun. Which I'm quite happy with.
Not sure this actually answers the question, but the best I could put into words. |
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"There’s been lots of threads on here discussing the hot wife scenario but mostly it’s from the couple’s perspective.
I’d be interested to hear about it from the other guy’s perspective: why are they drawn to it? Do they prefer it to ‘normal’ one-on-one meets with a single female?
Thanks for the question. I do prefer couples myself. I like the challenge of trying to give both the husband and the wife what they want, it is even better when the three of you can go to sexual places you hadn’t expected or considered (but want to go).
I like knowing my place in the sense that I am not there to try to re-place or belittle the husband: I am a sex toy which a happily married couple uses when all parties are available. I am not the main party: the couple is the main player but I can still have an important if limited role. Someone once compared the single guy to Darth Vader while the couple are Han Solo and Princess Lela: Vader isn’t the centre of the movie, he only has a few scenes, but he can still have a major effect on the film. Thanks again for the question.
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This is a great description of why I enjoy being the extra guy so much. Its why enjoy the hotwife scenario but don’t enjoy the cuckolding thing much at all. I don’t want to go in there as an “alpha male” to make out like I’m better than the husband. I want to add to what they already have. |
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I like knowing my place in the sense that I am not there to try to re-place or belittle the husband: I am a sex toy which a happily married couple uses when all parties are available. I am not the main party: the couple is the main player but I can still have an important if limited role. Someone once compared the single guy to Darth Vader while the couple are Han Solo and Princess Lela: Vader isn’t the centre of the movie, he only has a few scenes, but he can still have a major effect on the film.
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This is what I was trying to say... but didn't!
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"There’s been lots of threads on here discussing the hot wife scenario but mostly it’s from the couple’s perspective.
I’d be interested to hear about it from the other guy’s perspective: why are they drawn to it? Do they prefer it to ‘normal’ one-on-one meets with a single female?
Thanks for the question. I do prefer couples myself. I like the challenge of trying to give both the husband and the wife what they want, it is even better when the three of you can go to sexual places you hadn’t expected or considered (but want to go).
I like knowing my place in the sense that I am not there to try to re-place or belittle the husband: I am a sex toy which a happily married couple uses when all parties are available. I am not the main party: the couple is the main player but I can still have an important if limited role. Someone once compared the single guy to Darth Vader while the couple are Han Solo and Princess Lela: Vader isn’t the centre of the movie, he only has a few scenes, but he can still have a major effect on the film. Thanks again for the question.
This is a great description of why I enjoy being the extra guy so much. Its why enjoy the hotwife scenario but don’t enjoy the cuckolding thing much at all. I don’t want to go in there as an “alpha male” to make out like I’m better than the husband. I want to add to what they already have. "
Great answer. As the hubby of the couple, I've always seen the other guy as human vibrator during sex but I enjoy watching them both intertwined building up to orgasm, then joining them. |
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For me; I like it when Diane meets on her own or I am not in the room.And then she tells me all about it..this must be better for the guy too..me not being there is more our interpretion of HotWife. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"For me; I like it when Diane meets on her own or I am not in the room.And then she tells me all about it..this must be better for the guy too..me not being there is more our interpretion of HotWife."
Yeah you can of different scenarios or ideas to do, so the Hotwife has a good story to tell her Husband
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I think it's a great experience it's more like making love to the lady whilst being the husbands facilitator, if that makes sense. I add to their experience watching him watching me is incredibly sexy. Male  |
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"There’s been lots of threads on here discussing the hot wife scenario but mostly it’s from the couple’s perspective.
I’d be interested to hear about it from the other guy’s perspective: why are they drawn to it? Do they prefer it to ‘normal’ one-on-one meets with a single female?
Thanks for the question. I do prefer couples myself. I like the challenge of trying to give both the husband and the wife what they want, it is even better when the three of you can go to sexual places you hadn’t expected or considered (but want to go).
I like knowing my place in the sense that I am not there to try to re-place or belittle the husband: I am a sex toy which a happily married couple uses when all parties are available. I am not the main party: the couple is the main player but I can still have an important if limited role. Someone once compared the single guy to Darth Vader while the couple are Han Solo and Princess Lela: Vader isn’t the centre of the movie, he only has a few scenes, but he can still have a major effect on the film. Thanks again for the question.
This is a great description of why I enjoy being the extra guy so much. Its why enjoy the hotwife scenario but don’t enjoy the cuckolding thing much at all. I don’t want to go in there as an “alpha male” to make out like I’m better than the husband. I want to add to what they already have. "
Really love this explanation . Great to hear from a guys prospective. |
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I saw a Hotwife. Husband just wanted a few pics, videos, telephone on speaker etc. We had a very close relationship but I was happy that she could have fun with me and then return to the normalcy of her marriage. She felt the same.
I'd say it was an almost perfect set up. Everyone was happy. |
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"There’s been lots of threads on here discussing the hot wife scenario but mostly it’s from the couple’s perspective.
I’d be interested to hear about it from the other guy’s perspective: why are they drawn to it? Do they prefer it to ‘normal’ one-on-one meets with a single female?
Thanks for the question. I do prefer couples myself. I like the challenge of trying to give both the husband and the wife what they want, it is even better when the three of you can go to sexual places you hadn’t expected or considered (but want to go).
I like knowing my place in the sense that I am not there to try to re-place or belittle the husband: I am a sex toy which a happily married couple uses when all parties are available. I am not the main party: the couple is the main player but I can still have an important if limited role. Someone once compared the single guy to Darth Vader while the couple are Han Solo and Princess Lela: Vader isn’t the centre of the movie, he only has a few scenes, but he can still have a major effect on the film. Thanks again for the question.
This is a great description of why I enjoy being the extra guy so much. Its why enjoy the hotwife scenario but don’t enjoy the cuckolding thing much at all. I don’t want to go in there as an “alpha male” to make out like I’m better than the husband. I want to add to what they already have.
Really love this explanation . Great to hear from a guys prospective. "
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"For me; I like it when Diane meets on her own or I am not in the room.And then she tells me all about it..this must be better for the guy too..me not being there is more our interpretion of HotWife."
I’ve seen my ex with other guys but I’d love to have had her play without me and come home or me come home to her. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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I love seeing both partners really enjoy themselves. I love hearing a hubby moan as he watches and enjoys the view.
For me it's all about seeing both of them enjoying themselves.
That's why before a meet I like to chat to both partners to fully understand what it is they both like from a meet.
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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"There’s been lots of threads on here discussing the hot wife scenario but mostly it’s from the couple’s perspective.
I’d be interested to hear about it from the other guy’s perspective: why are they drawn to it? Do they prefer it to ‘normal’ one-on-one meets with a single female?"
personally id love to take the wife on a date, send him pictures throughout the night of us close and flirting... then at the end maybe FaceTime him as we are going to a hotel room... |
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"There’s been lots of threads on here discussing the hot wife scenario but mostly it’s from the couple’s perspective.
I’d be interested to hear about it from the other guy’s perspective: why are they drawn to it? Do they prefer it to ‘normal’ one-on-one meets with a single female?
Love this reply!!
Thanks for the question. I do prefer couples myself. I like the challenge of trying to give both the husband and the wife what they want, it is even better when the three of you can go to sexual places you hadn’t expected or considered (but want to go).
I like knowing my place in the sense that I am not there to try to re-place or belittle the husband: I am a sex toy which a happily married couple uses when all parties are available. I am not the main party: the couple is the main player but I can still have an important if limited role. Someone once compared the single guy to Darth Vader while the couple are Han Solo and Princess Lela: Vader isn’t the centre of the movie, he only has a few scenes, but he can still have a major effect on the film. Thanks again for the question.
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Great thread! I'll add my thoughts, as I prefer meeting hotwife couples to a one to one with a lady. For me it's alot more than just the sex, it's getting to know what makes the couple tick, what stimulates them both individually and as a couple. Once I know their boundries and limits I will make some suggestions of my own, things they may like to try that I had done in the past.
During the meet, I love watching the reaction from the lady as she enjoys my attention and watching the thrill in her partners eyes as he gets excited watching. I've done this in reverse when I had a GF who enjoyed meeting other men. So I understand the thrill from their side also. It is like watching the best porn movie ever as it features the lady you desire and love.
Eddie
And this!!
It's great to hear the other sides view.
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"It's difficult to explain, for me. I've had several long term 'relationships' with couples, 8 years being the longest and each couple is different.
Some of it comes down to the love and trust the couple have for each other to be able to share with others.
The couples I have played with have always been on equal footing, the hotwife scenario, not cuckold, so it hasn't been about one being submissive or dominant. They both enjoy, being fucked or watching her being fucked. I've never felt my performance or cock should be better than his, although I do think I enjoy being watched. I know as I've been told, that after a meet, the couple relive the meet while having their own fun, so I was an enhancement to their own fun. Which I'm quite happy with.
Not sure this actually answers the question, but the best I could put into words."
What do you exactly mean by 'long term relationship with a couple'? |
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"It's difficult to explain, for me. I've had several long term 'relationships' with couples, 8 years being the longest and each couple is different.
Some of it comes down to the love and trust the couple have for each other to be able to share with others.
The couples I have played with have always been on equal footing, the hotwife scenario, not cuckold, so it hasn't been about one being submissive or dominant. They both enjoy, being fucked or watching her being fucked. I've never felt my performance or cock should be better than his, although I do think I enjoy being watched. I know as I've been told, that after a meet, the couple relive the meet while having their own fun, so I was an enhancement to their own fun. Which I'm quite happy with.
Not sure this actually answers the question, but the best I could put into words.
What do you exactly mean by 'long term relationship with a couple'? "
Eight years playing with that couple in a hotwife scenario. Either with or without the husband present. Meet up once a week or so. I didn't mean we lived together or there was any emotions involved, there wasn't. That's why I put the word relationship in apostrophes. If we met up alone, we always took photos which they would look at when he got home from work. I remember her telling me once, that as soon as he'd got through the door, he pushed her over the table and fucked, just knowing we had been together. As the other guy said much better than me, I always knew I was an accessory to their, already great sex life. An enhancement. We all got something from it, but they got the most.
Since then I have had regular fun with others, the longest being 3 years. |
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"There’s been lots of threads on here discussing the hot wife scenario but mostly it’s from the couple’s perspective.
I’d be interested to hear about it from the other guy’s perspective: why are they drawn to it? Do they prefer it to ‘normal’ one-on-one meets with a single female?"
me personally I've enjoyed the sexual intensity that it seems I bring to the couple , it was different every time eg one guy just watched didn’t take his briefs off, another on the beach took pics and vids and as soon as I got off his wife he got on, another totally involved the whole time, the wife always involved and enjoying it |
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For me it is about joining the dynamic that a Hotwife and husband have, you are an addition into that rather than a separate thing. Even if the husband isn’t there or doesn’t get involved he is still a part of it.
I find it gives the Hotwife that loving stable married relationship but also the thrill and excitement of dating and sexual expression.
Obviously it does depend on what each Hotwife/cuckold/Stag couple are looking for, open and honest communication is key.
No matter what each couple is looking for it is without doubt something more than just fucking a guys wife. |
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I've been very fortunate to have played with a number of couples over the years, in a variety of differing circumstances...
....a couple were certainly cuckold, and a few clearly 'hotwife' - but mainly they were simply that both husband and wife enjoy her receiving the attention of another man ...
....I don't analyse the situations, or really even think about them - it may be obvious from their profile etc., or they might choose to tell me why they do what they do...
....I'm always just happy to be the guy who's been invited to visit and provide either the wife wants or needs, or what provides pleasure for them both...  |
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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago
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"I enjoy one on one meets but I also love to be watched by hubbies. There is something special about being with a wife when you know that her husband is watching you both."
precisely the point - it is special - something we value
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Very interesting and insightful responses.
I’ve always made my myself scarce when Mrs Cooljee is entertaining because I don’t want to put the guy off his stride.
But now this has got me thinking that maybe I should ‘share’ in the experience. |
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"There’s been lots of threads on here discussing the hot wife scenario but mostly it’s from the couple’s perspective.
I’d be interested to hear about it from the other guy’s perspective: why are they drawn to it? Do they prefer it to ‘normal’ one-on-one meets with a single female?
Thanks for the question. I do prefer couples myself. I like the challenge of trying to give both the husband and the wife what they want, it is even better when the three of you can go to sexual places you hadn’t expected or considered (but want to go).
I like knowing my place in the sense that I am not there to try to re-place or belittle the husband: I am a sex toy which a happily married couple uses when all parties are available. I am not the main party: the couple is the main player but I can still have an important if limited role. Someone once compared the single guy to Darth Vader while the couple are Han Solo and Princess Lela: Vader isn’t the centre of the movie, he only has a few scenes, but he can still have a major effect on the film. Thanks again for the question.
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