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Are you a swinger or not ?
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over a year ago
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First of all I don't class myself as a swinger just a male who has latched on to the scene for cheap thrills.
I'm open and honest about it and do ok, so there really is something for everybody.
I would appreciate if any kind people would answer yes or no and...
A short or long summary ( your choice ) as to why you class yourself as a swinger, or not ?
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A dictionary definition of swinging is ‘Engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.’.
So, if you’re single and just have casual sex with strangers you’re probably just promiscuous.
Who cares what you label yourself as though?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am also not a swinger, very promiscuous but seems to be acceptable in the swinging scene
It's the vagina that does it! 
Which? Gets me accepted 
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Here's me thinking it was my IQ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I’m not and I always make that clear. I’m just a single guy after a single girl and that’s it really.
Oh my what big thighs you have my dear   "
D’ya think? Just as they come, I don’t go to the gym or work on them or anything. Or do you mean fat  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am also not a swinger, very promiscuous but seems to be acceptable in the swinging scene
It's the vagina that does it!
Which? Gets me accepted
Here's me thinking it was my IQ "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not active in the swinging scene and as many of you may have spotted I'm often cynical about the way most swingers go about things on here. But watching some beautiful loving threesomes on a program on polyamory makes me realise that I'm still very much up for FFMs and some kinky scenarios like hotwifing... but in a way that feels more right to me. Oddly enough though it feels like Fab is the wrong site for that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The term swinger is more towards couples, for single folk, it's more of, meeting for sex encounters..a lot of single folk on here seem to be looking for relationships |
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We have been for almost eight years now .
Always a couple , always together , and according to any dictionary definition we would be typical swingers .
We aren’t meeting at the moment , so I guess we aren’t any longer . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Difficult one, as another poster has said swinging involves the group sex and swapping of partners which as a single person kinda leaves me missing a key element.... however, two previous relationships were swinging relationships where we would attend clubs together and have private meets with other couples, so I still class myself as a swinger; just missing rices of the jigsaw  |
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I don't think I do class us as Swingers really. We don't meet that often, and when we do it's always been Louise and a guy or both of us and a straight guy. It's more of a Hotwife thing I guess? To me Swinging is more couples doing partner swaps or both engaging in group sex. I don't have sex or any physical sexual interaction with anyone other than Louise. D |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d say I am. I tend to seek out couples over single females and enjoy the group and party aspect of swinging.
I may not conform with some definitions of a swinger but I believe it’s mainly about the attitude and mindset as well as the action |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We aren’t big on labels although that seems to be a prerequisite on here. So we don’t call ourselves swingers just Dylan and Louise, pleased to meet you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I looked the word SWINGER up. I never classes myself as one but after what I read I suppose I am as I definitely fit into both of these boxes.lol 
INFORMAL
a lively and fashionable person who goes to a lot of social events.
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INFORMAL
a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"First of all I don't class myself as a swinger just a male who has latched on to the scene for cheap thrills.
I'm open and honest about it and do ok, so there really is something for everybody.
I would appreciate if any kind people would answer yes or no and...
A short or long summary ( your choice ) as to why you class yourself as a swinger, or not ?
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Honestly not sure what we are lol
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Can’t describe us as swingers because we don’t swap! But we do like to go to clubs and watch and be watched and I find myself very comfortable around swinging folk and feel I’m one of them if that make sense?
Love the openness of it all and the trust involved that a couple have when they play is a wonderful thing |
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"I don't think I do class us as Swingers really. We don't meet that often, and when we do it's always been Louise and a guy or both of us and a straight guy. It's more of a Hotwife thing I guess? To me Swinging is more couples doing partner swaps or both engaging in group sex. I don't have sex or any physical sexual interaction with anyone other than Louise. D"
Your 100% spot on how I feel!
We go to clubs and play together but I never feel like I would rather have anyone over my wife there but would love to see her with another bloke being naughty and letting herself go! To me te extra cock wold be like a toy for us to enhance our sex life not anything personal or emotional attachment!
Love seeing guys admiring her and wanting her makes me proud n horny |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think we are to be honest.
We don’t meet with couples, we’ve decided it’s not for us. We meet other people separately and occasionally have an MFM if I’m in the mood...
Not sure what you call it...but we call it fun xx
MrsK x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, I'd class myself as a swinger.
I meet solo, with my husband, with couples, will play at clubs one on one or group play, I enjoy making friends with the people I play with and for me the social aspect is as important as the sex.
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Yes. I've been in the swinging world for many years, including using clubs etc. I'm not for everyone but we all generally have limited tastes and appeal. I like 1on1 and group play, which is popular in the scene. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"First of all I don't class myself as a swinger just a male who has latched on to the scene for cheap thrills.
I'm open and honest about it and do ok, so there really is something for everybody.
I would appreciate if any kind people would answer yes or no and...
A short or long summary ( your choice ) as to why you class yourself as a swinger, or not ?
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Not yet as I'm single. I would like to be though. |
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"I don't think I do class us as Swingers really. We don't meet that often, and when we do it's always been Louise and a guy or both of us and a straight guy. It's more of a Hotwife thing I guess? To me Swinging is more couples doing partner swaps or both engaging in group sex. I don't have sex or any physical sexual interaction with anyone other than Louise. D
Your 100% spot on how I feel!
We go to clubs and play together but I never feel like I would rather have anyone over my wife there but would love to see her with another bloke being naughty and letting herself go! To me te extra cock wold be like a toy for us to enhance our sex life not anything personal or emotional attachment!
Love seeing guys admiring her and wanting her makes me proud n horny"
This is us also nowadays, we were full on swingers a few years back but we realised one of us always seemed to be “taking one for the team” in some shape or form to please the other, we found ourselves going through the motions just to warrant our swingers labels, the phrase “going out for burgers when you’ve got steak at home” was being used too frequently and I guess we had to end up being honest with ourselves, our favourite swinging scenarios have been just us two and another or multiple other guys all admiring my wife, I only went with 3 other women in our time as full swingers and often found myself thumbing in a softy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A dictionary definition of swinging is ‘Engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.’.
So, if you’re single and just have casual sex with strangers you’re probably just promiscuous.
Who cares what you label yourself as though?
Lou x "
What about the first bit of you definition, 'engaging in group sex'? Surely a single person can do that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A dictionary definition of swinging is ‘Engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.’.
So, if you’re single and just have casual sex with strangers you’re probably just promiscuous.
Who cares what you label yourself as though?
Lou x
What about the first bit of you definition, 'engaging in group sex'? Surely a single person can do that?"
I get it that the classic definition of swinging involves swapping. But threesomes don't involve swapping. So they're not swinging. Which means a hell of a lot of "swinging" couples on here aren't swinging either
In the end who cares? I think Glos made some statement about not playing with non swingers. But didn't you guys specialise in fucking random strangers in bars? I seem to remember you saying it was much more of a buzz messing with guys who were vanilla  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A dictionary definition of swinging is ‘Engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.’.
So, if you’re single and just have casual sex with strangers you’re probably just promiscuous.
Who cares what you label yourself as though?
Lou x
What about the first bit of you definition, 'engaging in group sex'? Surely a single person can do that?
I get it that the classic definition of swinging involves swapping. But threesomes don't involve swapping. So they're not swinging. Which means a hell of a lot of "swinging" couples on here aren't swinging either
In the end who cares? I think Glos made some statement about not playing with non swingers. But didn't you guys specialise in fucking random strangers in bars? I seem to remember you saying it was much more of a buzz messing with guys who were vanilla "
Oops my bad. It wasn't Glos As you were |
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"A dictionary definition of swinging is ‘Engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.’.
So, if you’re single and just have casual sex with strangers you’re probably just promiscuous.
Who cares what you label yourself as though?
Lou x
What about the first bit of you definition, 'engaging in group sex'? Surely a single person can do that?
I get it that the classic definition of swinging involves swapping. But threesomes don't involve swapping. So they're not swinging. Which means a hell of a lot of "swinging" couples on here aren't swinging either
In the end who cares? I think Glos made some statement about not playing with non swingers. But didn't you guys specialise in fucking random strangers in bars? I seem to remember you saying it was much more of a buzz messing with guys who were vanilla
Oops my bad. It wasn't Glos As you were "
It was us. Not mixing with vanilla tourists. |
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around.."
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships. |
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships. "
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger? |
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger? "
I can't really figure you out. Sometimes you say things on here that make me think 'yes' and then you'll say something that appears to completely contradict it on another thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger?
I can't really figure you out. Sometimes you say things on here that make me think 'yes' and then you'll say something that appears to completely contradict it on another thread. "
Haha sounds like me |
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger?
I can't really figure you out. Sometimes you say things on here that make me think 'yes' and then you'll say something that appears to completely contradict it on another thread.
Haha sounds like me "
The main evidence against you is that fucking thread about 'would you give up swinging for love?' It's such a false dichotamy that only a non-swinger would say yes. But then I think you would like to see your partner having an orgasm with another penis inside her. You're like the Russia of the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger?
I can't really figure you out. Sometimes you say things on here that make me think 'yes' and then you'll say something that appears to completely contradict it on another thread.
Haha sounds like me "
If I had a partner and she wanted to swing I'd quite happily share her (a bit) (and in a certain way). Being single, I don't have that. But I'd still approach a couple in the same way i.e treating them both with respect, keeping drama out of it, and ensuring whatever happened between us worked for everyone involved. Does that help? |
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"A dictionary definition of swinging is ‘Engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.’.
So, if you’re single and just have casual sex with strangers you’re probably just promiscuous.
Who cares what you label yourself as though?
Lou x "
I prefer the term "sexually liberated"  |
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger?
I can't really figure you out. Sometimes you say things on here that make me think 'yes' and then you'll say something that appears to completely contradict it on another thread.
Haha sounds like me
If I had a partner and she wanted to swing I'd quite happily share her (a bit) (and in a certain way). Being single, I don't have that. But I'd still approach a couple in the same way i.e treating them both with respect, keeping drama out of it, and ensuring whatever happened between us worked for everyone involved. Does that help? "
'A bit' and 'in a certain way'? You sound like a politician!! Speak English man. |
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger?
I can't really figure you out. Sometimes you say things on here that make me think 'yes' and then you'll say something that appears to completely contradict it on another thread.
Haha sounds like me
The main evidence against you is that fucking thread about 'would you give up swinging for love?' It's such a false dichotamy that only a non-swinger would say yes. But then I think you would like to see your partner having an orgasm with another penis inside her. You're like the Russia of the forums. "
I personally don't *need* to swing. I read that question as asking could I give up swinging. Yes I certainly could, and for love in a heart beat. I didn't see the false dichotomy in it that you did. It was just a hypothetical imo |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger?
I can't really figure you out. Sometimes you say things on here that make me think 'yes' and then you'll say something that appears to completely contradict it on another thread.
Haha sounds like me
If I had a partner and she wanted to swing I'd quite happily share her (a bit) (and in a certain way). Being single, I don't have that. But I'd still approach a couple in the same way i.e treating them both with respect, keeping drama out of it, and ensuring whatever happened between us worked for everyone involved. Does that help?
'A bit' and 'in a certain way'? You sound like a politician!! Speak English man. "
I've been there, done it with swinging. As such, I know exactly how I'd do it if I did it with a partner again, and how often I'd do it. Don't get me wrong. I'm not talking about a controlling situation here. That's not healthy swinging imo. I'm just saying that there's only a certain way of swinging (doing it together and for each other's joint pleasure) and a certain amount of swinging (once in a blue moon) that would sit comfortably with me. Anything different from that would need to be negotiated |
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger?
I can't really figure you out. Sometimes you say things on here that make me think 'yes' and then you'll say something that appears to completely contradict it on another thread.
Haha sounds like me
The main evidence against you is that fucking thread about 'would you give up swinging for love?' It's such a false dichotamy that only a non-swinger would say yes. But then I think you would like to see your partner having an orgasm with another penis inside her. You're like the Russia of the forums.
I personally don't *need* to swing. I read that question as asking could I give up swinging. Yes I certainly could, and for love in a heart beat. I didn't see the false dichotomy in it that you did. It was just a hypothetical imo "
None of us need to swing, a swinger is just much happier in an ethically non-mongamous relationship. Love isn't possessive jealousy guarding ones ego against social constructs. Therefore a swinger would never have to give up swinging for true love. Either the person didn't truly love them for who they are or they weren't truly swingers. Just a little bit adventurous. |
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger?
I can't really figure you out. Sometimes you say things on here that make me think 'yes' and then you'll say something that appears to completely contradict it on another thread.
Haha sounds like me
If I had a partner and she wanted to swing I'd quite happily share her (a bit) (and in a certain way). Being single, I don't have that. But I'd still approach a couple in the same way i.e treating them both with respect, keeping drama out of it, and ensuring whatever happened between us worked for everyone involved. Does that help?
'A bit' and 'in a certain way'? You sound like a politician!! Speak English man.
I've been there, done it with swinging. As such, I know exactly how I'd do it if I did it with a partner again, and how often I'd do it. Don't get me wrong. I'm not talking about a controlling situation here. That's not healthy swinging imo. I'm just saying that there's only a certain way of swinging (doing it together and for each other's joint pleasure) and a certain amount of swinging (once in a blue moon) that would sit comfortably with me. Anything different from that would need to be negotiated "
We meet 4-8 times a year. We'd probably like more but gotta pay the bills and YouTube ain't gonna watch itself |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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No, I'm not.
But then, I'm a single bloke, and singles can't be swingers, unless they are momentarily what a couple want.
You see more single bi females who seem to think that they are swingers, but of course, it's merely because that they are always in demand. |
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger?
I can't really figure you out. Sometimes you say things on here that make me think 'yes' and then you'll say something that appears to completely contradict it on another thread.
Haha sounds like me
The main evidence against you is that fucking thread about 'would you give up swinging for love?' It's such a false dichotamy that only a non-swinger would say yes. But then I think you would like to see your partner having an orgasm with another penis inside her. You're like the Russia of the forums.
I personally don't *need* to swing. I read that question as asking could I give up swinging. Yes I certainly could, and for love in a heart beat. I didn't see the false dichotomy in it that you did. It was just a hypothetical imo
None of us need to swing, a swinger is just much happier in an ethically non-mongamous relationship. Love isn't possessive jealousy guarding ones ego against social constructs. Therefore a swinger would never have to give up swinging for true love. Either the person didn't truly love them for who they are or they weren't truly swingers. Just a little bit adventurous. "
So if you fell in love with someone who was monogamous you'd carry on swinging without them? See for me now swinging is *entirely* defined as a two person act. You can't be non monogamous by yourself. At least not ethically. So it's not an identity an individual can wear. It's something people become when they agree on it together. As with swinging, you do whatever the person who wants to do the least does. If they're monogamous. So should you be.
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger?
I can't really figure you out. Sometimes you say things on here that make me think 'yes' and then you'll say something that appears to completely contradict it on another thread.
Haha sounds like me
The main evidence against you is that fucking thread about 'would you give up swinging for love?' It's such a false dichotamy that only a non-swinger would say yes. But then I think you would like to see your partner having an orgasm with another penis inside her. You're like the Russia of the forums.
I personally don't *need* to swing. I read that question as asking could I give up swinging. Yes I certainly could, and for love in a heart beat. I didn't see the false dichotomy in it that you did. It was just a hypothetical imo
None of us need to swing, a swinger is just much happier in an ethically non-mongamous relationship. Love isn't possessive jealousy guarding ones ego against social constructs. Therefore a swinger would never have to give up swinging for true love. Either the person didn't truly love them for who they are or they weren't truly swingers. Just a little bit adventurous.
So if you fell in love with someone who was monogamous you'd carry on swinging without them? See for me now swinging is *entirely* defined as a two person act. You can't be non monogamous by yourself. At least not ethically. So it's not an identity an individual can wear. It's something people become when they agree on it together. As with swinging, you do whatever the person who wants to do the least does. If they're monogamous. So should you be.
Do you get me? "
Before I knew how much I liked swinging, I was in a long term relationship. We tried swinging, I liked it, she didn't. Not long after I ended the relationship because it was doomed. Just because you love someone, doesn't automatically mean they can make you happy. |
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger?
I can't really figure you out. Sometimes you say things on here that make me think 'yes' and then you'll say something that appears to completely contradict it on another thread.
Haha sounds like me
The main evidence against you is that fucking thread about 'would you give up swinging for love?' It's such a false dichotamy that only a non-swinger would say yes. But then I think you would like to see your partner having an orgasm with another penis inside her. You're like the Russia of the forums.
I personally don't *need* to swing. I read that question as asking could I give up swinging. Yes I certainly could, and for love in a heart beat. I didn't see the false dichotomy in it that you did. It was just a hypothetical imo
None of us need to swing, a swinger is just much happier in an ethically non-mongamous relationship. Love isn't possessive jealousy guarding ones ego against social constructs. Therefore a swinger would never have to give up swinging for true love. Either the person didn't truly love them for who they are or they weren't truly swingers. Just a little bit adventurous.
So if you fell in love with someone who was monogamous you'd carry on swinging without them? See for me now swinging is *entirely* defined as a two person act. You can't be non monogamous by yourself. At least not ethically. So it's not an identity an individual can wear. It's something people become when they agree on it together. As with swinging, you do whatever the person who wants to do the least does. If they're monogamous. So should you be.
Do you get me?
Before I knew how much I liked swinging, I was in a long term relationship. We tried swinging, I liked it, she didn't. Not long after I ended the relationship because it was doomed. Just because you love someone, doesn't automatically mean they can make you happy. "
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"No, I'm not.
But then, I'm a single bloke, and singles can't be swingers, unless they are momentarily what a couple want.
You see more single bi females who seem to think that they are swingers, but of course, it's merely because that they are always in demand."
i would agree with you.. |
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"I don’t think we are to be honest.
We don’t meet with couples, we’ve decided it’s not for us. We meet other people separately and occasionally have an MFM if I’m in the mood...
Not sure what you call it...but we call it fun xx
MrsK x"
That’s what it’s all about is fun and as long as no one gets hurt sex should be fun and it’s only societys perceptions of how we should behave that stops most folks enjoying their labidos im sure
As long as the real world don’t find out we can do what ever we want!! |
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"I don't think I do class us as Swingers really. We don't meet that often, and when we do it's always been Louise and a guy or both of us and a straight guy. It's more of a Hotwife thing I guess? To me Swinging is more couples doing partner swaps or both engaging in group sex. I don't have sex or any physical sexual interaction with anyone other than Louise. D
Your 100% spot on how I feel!
We go to clubs and play together but I never feel like I would rather have anyone over my wife there but would love to see her with another bloke being naughty and letting herself go! To me te extra cock wold be like a toy for us to enhance our sex life not anything personal or emotional attachment!
Love seeing guys admiring her and wanting her makes me proud n horny
This is us also nowadays, we were full on swingers a few years back but we realised one of us always seemed to be “taking one for the team” in some shape or form to please the other, we found ourselves going through the motions just to warrant our swingers labels, the phrase “going out for burgers when you’ve got steak at home” was being used too frequently and I guess we had to end up being honest with ourselves, our favourite swinging scenarios have been just us two and another or multiple other guys all admiring my wife, I only went with 3 other women in our time as full swingers and often found myself thumbing in a softy "
I feel the same we go to clubs and I love seeing guys admiring my wife and would love to see her fucked as well but she don’t want to, but as for me swapping I’d wish I was fucking my wife while she was getting fucked so I’d be better off fucking her at same time lol |
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger? "
I wouldn't presume to label anyone else.. |
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Recently got back with my ex and told her about my exploits on here and my local club, this year. She has been to my local club and had a couples account on here years ago. So I'm currently trying to get her to come back to the club with, me. After having "the conversation" with her, she called me a whore and unceremoniously dumped me at the local GUM Clinic to get tested!
I wouldn't mind but, I've only been slutty when one the good lady's at the club has allowed me to be. I think I've quite good in the grand scheme of things
So back to the question. Am I swinger? I'm not sure, but I have been branded a whore. |
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95% of the month we are Mum and Dad, loyal employee's, our dogs guardian and the most boring, helpful and dependable people you could ever meet. 5% of the time we are on release, sexually liberated party animals that love all things sex and depravity. Once the fun is done it goes back in the box until we get a free day/night the following month. So no, we don't class ourselves as swingers. We are much much more than that. |
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"First of all I don't class myself as a swinger just a male who has latched on to the scene for cheap thrills.
I'm open and honest about it and do ok, so there really is something for everybody.
I would appreciate if any kind people would answer yes or no and...
A short or long summary ( your choice ) as to why you class yourself as a swinger, or not ?
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We are yes, because we go to clubs to meet people just for the pleasure of swapping partners for sex sometimes not even talking to them at all, often not until after sex has finished.
No desire or need for a connection, friendship, blah blah, just a little to a lot of physical attraction. |
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger? "
Have your own definition that includes how you play, that's basically what everyone (who thinks they're a swinger) does |
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"Not a swinger. My take on swinging is having a partner to share. If you are a single you are just fucking around..
I think it's a bit more nuanced. I consider the willingness to share a partner the critical factor along with an ethical stance (i.e. not cheating behind a partners back). If a couple are swinging on Sunday and breakup on Monday, I don't think those individuals cease to be swingers just because they are between relationships.
Hmm so would you class me as a swinger?
Have your own definition that includes how you play, that's basically what everyone (who thinks they're a swinger) does "
But it's not an arbitrary definition. The term was only invented ~70 years ago and was trying to describe any activity distinct from things they already had words for (e.g. promiscuity) |
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"A dictionary definition of swinging is ‘Engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.’.
So, if you’re single and just have casual sex with strangers you’re probably just promiscuous.
Who cares what you label yourself as though?
Lou x "
By that definition, yes we are |
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Well some people see it as a fuck site some see it as a dating site,a chat site to relieve the boredom and some do it just to get the attention they seek....how many are actual swingers who knows? |
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