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question for single guys/bulls/studs, its obvious most of you on fab dont mind using other mens wives for your sexual fun and frolics but when/if the day comes you are no longer single and have a wife of your own will you be returning the favour and letting single guys play with her if she agrees, or will you be keeping her for uself as you wouldnt want to be married to that sort of wife? just wondered |
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over a year ago
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While you are wondering why not read the epic giant of a thread from about 2 weeks ago on this very subject.
The one with all the usual stuff about singles not being proper swingers etc.
Personally I'd let my partner decide if it was something for her. |
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"question for single guys/bulls/studs, its obvious most of you on fab dont mind using other mens wives for your sexual fun and frolics but when/if the day comes you are no longer single and have a wife of your own will you be returning the favour and letting single guys play with her if she agrees, or will you be keeping her for uself as you wouldnt want to be married to that sort of wife? just wondered"
I have never seen it as using another mans wife for fun and frolics, I think it sounds a bit distasteful and kind of objectifies women.
To answer your question though, my ex partner and I swung and yes that was with the odd single guy. (not odd as in strange) lol |
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"question for single guys/bulls/studs, its obvious most of you on fab dont mind using other mens wives for your sexual fun and frolics but when/if the day comes you are no longer single and have a wife of your own will you be returning the favour and letting single guys play with her if she agrees, or will you be keeping her for uself as you wouldnt want to be married to that sort of wife? just wondered
I have never seen it as using another mans wife for fun and frolics, I think it sounds a bit distasteful and kind of objectifies women. "
Well said, that man! |
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ive swung with people before, but really id have to be with someone who was already one,
if i really liked someone and wanted it to work, i wouldnt introduce it to the relationship incase it got took the wrong way or fucked things up between us.
lets face it, most of the time they arnt going to be into it, and is it really something thats best to do at the start of the relationship? i dont think it is unless your both already into it, and even then i think most swingers that work out from meeting them have usually had at least a couple of years in their relationship before they started doing it. and when ive done it with someone i was going out with and been to other couples houses to play with her, usually they were always quite shocked we started it so early in the relationship as most the people we met always had done it way down the line for one reason or another
no bother doing it and dont get jealous and actually get off on it when ive done it before, but its not like a straight out yes or no question really, it all boils down to who your going out with as most people dont do it, and often alot that are newbies who like the sound of it arnt actually strong enough to deal with the reality of group sex and everything else that comes along with arranging meets with people you barely know |
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ive swung with people before, but really id have to be with someone who was already one,
if i really liked someone and wanted it to work, i wouldnt introduce it to the relationship incase it got took the wrong way or fucked things up between us.
lets face it, most of the time they arnt going to be into it, and is it really something thats best to do at the start of the relationship? i dont think it is unless your both already into it, and even then i think most swingers that work out from meeting them have usually had at least a couple of years in their relationship before they started doing it. and when ive done it with someone i was going out with and been to other couples houses to play with her, usually they were always quite shocked we started it so early in the relationship as most the people we met always had done it way down the line for one reason or another
no bother doing it and dont get jealous and actually get off on it when ive done it before, but its not like a straight out yes or no question really, it all boils down to who your going out with as most people dont do it, and often alot that are newbies who like the sound of it arnt actually strong enough to deal with the reality of group sex and everything else that comes along with arranging meets with people you barely know |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"question for single guys/bulls/studs, its obvious most of you on fab dont mind using other mens wives for your sexual fun and frolics but when/if the day comes you are no longer single and have a wife of your own will you be returning the favour and letting single guys play with her if she agrees, or will you be keeping her for uself as you wouldnt want to be married to that sort of wife? just wondered"
there are guys like that... they have been on here and said as much, I have seen that attitude played out in the forums, and in clubs....and as part of the general population you are bound to get some that do think like that.....but for the guys who do "get it" it is not about using anybody... that sounds horrid!
and besides a woman is no ones property.. be that hubby's or anyone elses....
using is so the wrong word to use in this context...
I have played as both couples and singles... and when it has been as couples it was very much a joint decision...
I hope this thread doesn't turn nasty.. but the OP doesn't fill me with much hope
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By (user no longer on site)
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"question for single guys/bulls/studs, its obvious most of you on fab dont mind using other mens wives for your sexual fun and frolics but when/if the day comes you are no longer single and have a wife of your own will you be returning the favour and letting single guys play with her if she agrees, or will you be keeping her for uself as you wouldnt want to be married to that sort of wife? just wondered"
If its what she wants I wouldnt mind seeing the expression of pure lustfull delight on someone I love  |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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Dont think its a question of "Will you let her...."!
To me its a question of "Would you be happy if she wanted to...."?
Of course, until they are happily married they cant honestly answer that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single lady talking now I love swinging but if I found the right relationship then would put swinging on hold to build that relationship and foundations. But swinging would always be in the back of my mind. But I think without solid foundations then swinging would not work within that relationship. |
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Strange thread...swinging isnt about "letting" it is about equals both being happy with their sexual activity...
Saturday i went to a club,kev isnt comfy with parties at clubs so he stayed home...a decision we reached as equal partners.
So ask,single men do you look forward to a fulfilling sex life with your life partner,that is without jealousy,judgement and possessiveness...then i think you might get better answers.
If you are asking are there hypocrites on here,the answer is yes...but they exist every where. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"question for single guys/bulls/studs, its obvious most of you on fab dont mind using other mens wives for your sexual fun and frolics but when/if the day comes you are no longer single and have a wife of your own will you be returning the favour and letting single guys play with her if she agrees, or will you be keeping her for uself as you wouldnt want to be married to that sort of wife? just wondered"
bit of a strange thing to ask as far as i can see. while the points people make on here are all on the money, the thing that i'm thinking about is you being a couple and wanting single men to fulfil your desires etc, are quite happy bringing other people into your relationship, where many single guys on here may be just happy living the single life and enjoying as many experiences as they can before they settle down into a 'normal' relationship.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I might marry a woman who doesn't want to swing. She might want to swing and I don't want to anymore. There's loads of possibilities.
I don't know what will happen when I get married. But it'll be our business the same way it's yours. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"question for single guys/bulls/studs, its obvious most of you on fab dont mind using other mens wives for your sexual fun and frolics but when/if the day comes you are no longer single and have a wife of your own will you be returning the favour and letting single guys play with her if she agrees, or will you be keeping her for uself as you wouldnt want to be married to that sort of wife? just wondered"
i dont think that question applies to just dom men but to single guys on here on general, ive been to clubs and met guys before who have openly admitted them only do this as a stop gap between relationships and would never take a partner of theirs to club or on meets with them and they wouldnt want to be with that kind of woman, which when you think about it is quite offensive when they have met you  |
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I used to swing alone (Him) for a few years and then i got with a partner who had no interest so i stopped!
Now im with the perfect partner in every way.... Mentioned swinging and she agreed to give it a go, And here we are
One thing people need to learn in the swinging world, Women are king... They rule! ...... Hmmmmm come to think of it, Maybe not just the swinging world....?  |
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"I used to swing alone (Him) for a few years and then i got with a partner who had no interest so i stopped!
Now im with the perfect partner in every way.... Mentioned swinging and she agreed to give it a go, And here we are
One thing people need to learn in the swinging world, Women are king... They rule! ...... Hmmmmm come to think of it, Maybe not just the swinging world....? "
Unfortunately its not just swinging world |
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I dont think its even close to hypocrisy
couple both partners want to swing. They meet guy who obliges.
Guy then gets married, partner wants to swing he does not, this is not comparable to first example. If one person in the relationship wants exclusivity and the other does not, its cheating.
Its not, i slept with someones wife therefore my future spouse is up for grabs. I thought swinging in a 3 way was with 3 willing and eager participants |
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"question for single guys/bulls/studs, its obvious most of you on fab dont mind using other mens wives for your sexual fun and frolics but when/if the day comes you are no longer single and have a wife of your own will you be returning the favour and letting single guys play with her if she agrees, or will you be keeping her for uself as you wouldnt want to be married to that sort of wife? just wondered"
Lets not limit this to the single guys........there are enough couples profiles on here quite obviously written by "the hubby" who are only looking for single females. Quite often identified by the phrase "wife wants to try another woman" or similar.
Usually "the wife" is bi-curious, meaning shes basically "straight" with a slant on having a fumble with another girl, more often than not the profile states, "WE ARE ONLY LOOKING FOR FEMALES".......... my theory is that its ok for "hubby" to have his cream, and poke and prod to his hearts content, but poor old "wifey" has to settle for being "cajoled" along and nodding her head to "hubbys" comments of "you are enjoying this arn't you dear" whilst quietly dreaming of another cock to fulfil her "real" needs and desires. |
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Why is this question directed solely at single men? Isn't it the same for single women too?
I personaly don't see it as swinging when you're single. Cause you're just enjoying sex. I guarantee a large percentage of those who say they would love it if their partner was into swinging would feel a lot different when push came to shove.
The question should be "How many people have experienced a bad meet because one half of a couple got jealous?". I bet you'd get quite a few.
I used to swing with my ex and I enjoyed watching and sharing her with other men. I wasn't really interested in meeting other women. She said she'd like to see me with other women so because of that and because I worked away a lot I opened my own profile and started meeting other women. When it came down to it she wasn't to keen on me meeting other women. (Me meeting other women isn't the reason she's now an ex either lol)
My point is it's Ok saying "I'd love my partner to be into swinging" if you've never experienced swinging as part of a couple. I think some would be suprised when it came down to it though and would get jealous.
I would prefer a partner to be into swinging but if she wasn't I'd happily walk away from it. I certainly wouldn't introduce the idea until we'd built up a stable and trusting relationship and I certainly wouldn't pressure her into it  |
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"question for single guys/bulls/studs, its obvious most of you on fab dont mind using other mens wives for your sexual fun and frolics but when/if the day comes you are no longer single and have a wife of your own will you be returning the favour and letting single guys play with her if she agrees, or will you be keeping her for uself as you wouldnt want to be married to that sort of wife? just wondered
Lets not limit this to the single guys........there are enough couples profiles on here quite obviously written by "the hubby" who are only looking for single females. Quite often identified by the phrase "wife wants to try another woman" or similar.
Usually "the wife" is bi-curious, meaning shes basically "straight" with a slant on having a fumble with another girl, more often than not the profile states, "WE ARE ONLY LOOKING FOR FEMALES".......... my theory is that its ok for "hubby" to have his cream, and poke and prod to his hearts content, but poor old "wifey" has to settle for being "cajoled" along and nodding her head to "hubbys" comments of "you are enjoying this arn't you dear" whilst quietly dreaming of another cock to fulfil her "real" needs and desires."
 I'd agree with that. Clearly there are couples who are genuinly looking for a single fem but I get the feeling that a lot ofthe time the bloke wants a 3 sum with 2 women but wouldn't be willing to reciprocate the gesture  |
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I am not strictly a single guy, but as I have a non-swinging partner, I'll put my ten penneth in.
If my OH was interested in swinging, then yes I would love to share - with her personality and rubenesque frame, I am more than sure she would be a hit.
But it isn't for her, so why push it ?
I have played in threesomes with a fb of long standing and I have gotta say, I totally got off on seeing him with other people - and likewise with him. |
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"question for single guys/bulls/studs, .......
To answer your question though, my ex partner and I swung and yes that was with the odd single guy. (not odd as in strange) lol"
+1 absolutely! Also if I was to get hitched again, I wouldn't have a problem, provided of course the lady was agreeable. |
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