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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We’re meeting some friends ( we’ve met a few times before but never played much) in a few weeks and I was hoping there would be some build up of flirting beforehand...
I (Mrs) adore the teasing, the flirtation leading up to a meet to begin my mental warm up. But no matter how I’ve tried to begin some conversation- I’m getting nothing back...
Am I abnormal on this site? Am I asking for too much?
I’m just starting to worry that I’m going ‘off’ my attraction to our meet due to my mind not being warmed up....
What’s your opinion please?
Mrs P x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We’re meeting some friends ( we’ve met a few times before but never played much) in a few weeks and I was hoping there would be some build up of flirting beforehand...
I (Mrs) adore the teasing, the flirtation leading up to a meet to begin my mental warm up. But no matter how I’ve tried to begin some conversation- I’m getting nothing back...
Am I abnormal on this site? Am I asking for too much?
I’m just starting to worry that I’m going ‘off’ my attraction to our meet due to my mind not being warmed up....
What’s your opinion please?
Mrs P x"
Everyone is a little different I suppose, but we love a sexy build up lots of flirty messages before we meet, its all part of the fun  |
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I  the whole build up, chatting, flirting, getting excited. I prefer to use messaging apps as it gives more of a real time feel that helps you both get excited.
But my experience of couples is that they can be a bit constipated with this stuff. So if it's the bloke from a couple you want to flirt with they may not like that. Shame. It's half the fun of it for me xx  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
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I agree that the build up to a meet is part of the fun. Good sex starts with 'foreplay' and the best 'foreplay' starts in the head!
Perhaps you could ask if they have any special requests for your meeting. I asked this for my last meet and was told that the lady would love to find me naked and 'ready' for when she made her entrance! Good luck |
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over a year ago
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I remember when part of a couple we met a couple for the first time. A few messages here and there added to the excitement but the male half then started messaging us war and peace length messages almost every day. It actually started to put us off as it became overbearing. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
X"
Have you chatted on cam with them? I tend to find out quickly if there is a spark when I chat on cam to a couple. If it feels natural and leads to us really wanting to meet, then it's all systems go.
If we are having to force it,then it's best leave it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We’re meeting some friends ( we’ve met a few times before but never played much) in a few weeks and I was hoping there would be some build up of flirting beforehand...
I (Mrs) adore the teasing, the flirtation leading up to a meet to begin my mental warm up. But no matter how I’ve tried to begin some conversation- I’m getting nothing back...
Am I abnormal on this site? Am I asking for too much?
I’m just starting to worry that I’m going ‘off’ my attraction to our meet due to my mind not being warmed up....
What’s your opinion please?
Mrs P x"
I love the build up, chatting, flirting, the conversation, if it's not there, then it's not happening |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
XHave you chatted on cam with them? I tend to find out quickly if there is a spark when I chat on cam to a couple. If it feels natural and leads to us really wanting to meet, then it's all systems go.
If we are having to force it,then it's best leave it. "
We’ve met twice... the attraction was definitely there... just realising how relaxed they seem ( which I respect- and admire), but I like a little more... |
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
X"
it should just flow with mutual attraction , if its not then maybe your just not hitting the spot either of you , i get loads of pre meet flirting chats and it just happens , dont really have to work at it if the chemistry is there to start with , good luck |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
XHave you chatted on cam with them? I tend to find out quickly if there is a spark when I chat on cam to a couple. If it feels natural and leads to us really wanting to meet, then it's all systems go.
If we are having to force it,then it's best leave it.
We’ve met twice... the attraction was definitely there... just realising how relaxed they seem ( which I respect- and admire), but I like a little more..."
Was tbere any play either time you met? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
Xit should just flow with mutual attraction , if its not then maybe your just not hitting the spot either of you , i get loads of pre meet flirting chats and it just happens , dont really have to work at it if the chemistry is there to start with , good luck "
Yes think you may be right... such a disappointment as I’ve been looking forward to this meet for so long...
Thanks for your honesty x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Never been our thing lots of flirting on here before a planned meet, mainly because as the flirting & sex talk goes upwards on here, the chance of meeting goes down proportionally |
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"Never been our thing lots of flirting on here before a planned meet, mainly because as the flirting & sex talk goes upwards on here, the chance of meeting goes down proportionally "
Interesting perspective
Thank you
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
Xit should just flow with mutual attraction , if its not then maybe your just not hitting the spot either of you , i get loads of pre meet flirting chats and it just happens , dont really have to work at it if the chemistry is there to start with , good luck
Yes think you may be right... such a disappointment as I’ve been looking forward to this meet for so long...
Thanks for your honesty x"
it maybe a time factor too , devoting time for engaged chats is sometimes difficult in a busy lifestyle , dont give up yet , meet and see how it plays out , its so sexy is the build up but quite often it can lead to disappointing times too which ive discovered many times over the years , keep ur chin up and keep looking fwd , you never know ! xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
Xit should just flow with mutual attraction , if its not then maybe your just not hitting the spot either of you , i get loads of pre meet flirting chats and it just happens , dont really have to work at it if the chemistry is there to start with , good luck
Yes think you may be right... such a disappointment as I’ve been looking forward to this meet for so long...
Thanks for your honesty x"
Nonsense. If the guy is part of a couple then it's more likely he doesn't really know how to respond appropriately. If you've all agreed to message each other and it doesn't flow... that's when you'd have to start wondering if he's coming from the same angle as you. He may just want to fuck. Flirting may not come naturally to him. Sometimes you can't have your cake and eat it... a great fuck with a great guy who knows how to get in your head. Sometimes you can  (I'm talking about me in this last little bit here btw just in case my over egging it wasn't coming through)  |
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
Xit should just flow with mutual attraction , if its not then maybe your just not hitting the spot either of you , i get loads of pre meet flirting chats and it just happens , dont really have to work at it if the chemistry is there to start with , good luck
Yes think you may be right... such a disappointment as I’ve been looking forward to this meet for so long...
Thanks for your honesty x
Nonsense. If the guy is part of a couple then it's more likely he doesn't really know how to respond appropriately. If you've all agreed to message each other and it doesn't flow... that's when you'd have to start wondering if he's coming from the same angle as you. He may just want to fuck. Flirting may not come naturally to him. Sometimes you can't have your cake and eat it... a great fuck with a great guy who knows how to get in your head. Sometimes you can (I'm talking about me in this last little bit here btw just in case my over egging it wasn't coming through) "
nonsense you may say however in my many years on here as a tgirl ive havent come across a man yet who dont know how give the sex flirt chat lol , maybe ur right but then again if hes so stayed is he worth the effort ? he wudnt be for me but we are all different i guess |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
Xit should just flow with mutual attraction , if its not then maybe your just not hitting the spot either of you , i get loads of pre meet flirting chats and it just happens , dont really have to work at it if the chemistry is there to start with , good luck
Yes think you may be right... such a disappointment as I’ve been looking forward to this meet for so long...
Thanks for your honesty x
Nonsense. If the guy is part of a couple then it's more likely he doesn't really know how to respond appropriately. If you've all agreed to message each other and it doesn't flow... that's when you'd have to start wondering if he's coming from the same angle as you. He may just want to fuck. Flirting may not come naturally to him. Sometimes you can't have your cake and eat it... a great fuck with a great guy who knows how to get in your head. Sometimes you can (I'm talking about me in this last little bit here btw just in case my over egging it wasn't coming through) "
Mmmmmm- yes that’s it!
I’m extremely lucky I have a dominant man who seduces my whole mind and body every day... that’s why I am in love with him and married him.
But I love the thought of other men wanting me. Kind of working for me.
I totally get what you’re saying in that he may not feel he can flirt as it’s only us two chatting- or he just may not be that interested... however- for me to want him- I need a man to show me he’s interested and eager to please- and not just get an erection...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
XHave you chatted on cam with them? I tend to find out quickly if there is a spark when I chat on cam to a couple. If it feels natural and leads to us really wanting to meet, then it's all systems go.
If we are having to force it,then it's best leave it.
We’ve met twice... the attraction was definitely there... just realising how relaxed they seem ( which I respect- and admire), but I like a little more...Was tbere any play either time you met?"
I’ve played with his lady- but not him
We’re all meeting as a four though
And him and I are the only ones with phone contact
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
Xit should just flow with mutual attraction , if its not then maybe your just not hitting the spot either of you , i get loads of pre meet flirting chats and it just happens , dont really have to work at it if the chemistry is there to start with , good luck
Yes think you may be right... such a disappointment as I’ve been looking forward to this meet for so long...
Thanks for your honesty x
Nonsense. If the guy is part of a couple then it's more likely he doesn't really know how to respond appropriately. If you've all agreed to message each other and it doesn't flow... that's when you'd have to start wondering if he's coming from the same angle as you. He may just want to fuck. Flirting may not come naturally to him. Sometimes you can't have your cake and eat it... a great fuck with a great guy who knows how to get in your head. Sometimes you can (I'm talking about me in this last little bit here btw just in case my over egging it wasn't coming through)
Mmmmmm- yes that’s it!
I’m extremely lucky I have a dominant man who seduces my whole mind and body every day... that’s why I am in love with him and married him.
But I love the thought of other men wanting me. Kind of working for me.
I totally get what you’re saying in that he may not feel he can flirt as it’s only us two chatting- or he just may not be that interested... however- for me to want him- I need a man to show me he’s interested and eager to please- and not just get an erection...
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possibly consider talking to the couple you're going to meet about this. They aren't going to know what you expect from them otherwise. Do they use the forums at all? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
Xit should just flow with mutual attraction , if its not then maybe your just not hitting the spot either of you , i get loads of pre meet flirting chats and it just happens , dont really have to work at it if the chemistry is there to start with , good luck
Yes think you may be right... such a disappointment as I’ve been looking forward to this meet for so long...
Thanks for your honesty x
Nonsense. If the guy is part of a couple then it's more likely he doesn't really know how to respond appropriately. If you've all agreed to message each other and it doesn't flow... that's when you'd have to start wondering if he's coming from the same angle as you. He may just want to fuck. Flirting may not come naturally to him. Sometimes you can't have your cake and eat it... a great fuck with a great guy who knows how to get in your head. Sometimes you can (I'm talking about me in this last little bit here btw just in case my over egging it wasn't coming through)
Mmmmmm- yes that’s it!
I’m extremely lucky I have a dominant man who seduces my whole mind and body every day... that’s why I am in love with him and married him.
But I love the thought of other men wanting me. Kind of working for me.
I totally get what you’re saying in that he may not feel he can flirt as it’s only us two chatting- or he just may not be that interested... however- for me to want him- I need a man to show me he’s interested and eager to please- and not just get an erection...
possibly consider talking to the couple you're going to meet about this. They aren't going to know what you expect from them otherwise. Do they use the forums at all? "
Erm... I’m uncertain whether they do.... never seen them on here...
if they do- they know I’m chatting about it now  |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
XHave you chatted on cam with them? I tend to find out quickly if there is a spark when I chat on cam to a couple. If it feels natural and leads to us really wanting to meet, then it's all systems go.
If we are having to force it,then it's best leave it.
We’ve met twice... the attraction was definitely there... just realising how relaxed they seem ( which I respect- and admire), but I like a little more...Was tbere any play either time you met?
I’ve played with his lady- but not him
We’re all meeting as a four though
And him and I are the only ones with phone contact
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Seems a bit odd to me that all 4 of you wouldn't either chat on cam beforehand or meet up for a drink on the basis that all 4 have to be happy to play. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
XHave you chatted on cam with them? I tend to find out quickly if there is a spark when I chat on cam to a couple. If it feels natural and leads to us really wanting to meet, then it's all systems go.
If we are having to force it,then it's best leave it.
We’ve met twice... the attraction was definitely there... just realising how relaxed they seem ( which I respect- and admire), but I like a little more...Was tbere any play either time you met?
I’ve played with his lady- but not him
We’re all meeting as a four though
And him and I are the only ones with phone contact
Seems a bit odd to me that all 4 of you wouldn't either chat on cam beforehand or meet up for a drink on the basis that all 4 have to be happy to play. "
Oh no! Sorry. We’ve all met. There’s mutual attraction... but now we’re getting closer to play it’s all a little subdued... hence why I was asking advice what I should do... without being a tit |
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
Xit should just flow with mutual attraction , if its not then maybe your just not hitting the spot either of you , i get loads of pre meet flirting chats and it just happens , dont really have to work at it if the chemistry is there to start with , good luck
Yes think you may be right... such a disappointment as I’ve been looking forward to this meet for so long...
Thanks for your honesty x
Nonsense. If the guy is part of a couple then it's more likely he doesn't really know how to respond appropriately. If you've all agreed to message each other and it doesn't flow... that's when you'd have to start wondering if he's coming from the same angle as you. He may just want to fuck. Flirting may not come naturally to him. Sometimes you can't have your cake and eat it... a great fuck with a great guy who knows how to get in your head. Sometimes you can (I'm talking about me in this last little bit here btw just in case my over egging it wasn't coming through)
Mmmmmm- yes that’s it!
I’m extremely lucky I have a dominant man who seduces my whole mind and body every day... that’s why I am in love with him and married him.
But I love the thought of other men wanting me. Kind of working for me.
I totally get what you’re saying in that he may not feel he can flirt as it’s only us two chatting- or he just may not be that interested... however- for me to want him- I need a man to show me he’s interested and eager to please- and not just get an erection...
possibly consider talking to the couple you're going to meet about this. They aren't going to know what you expect from them otherwise. Do they use the forums at all?
Erm... I’m uncertain whether they do.... never seen them on here...
if they do- they know I’m chatting about it now "
that's kind of my point. You're complaining about their lack of communication but not actually communicating the problem to them... |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
XHave you chatted on cam with them? I tend to find out quickly if there is a spark when I chat on cam to a couple. If it feels natural and leads to us really wanting to meet, then it's all systems go.
If we are having to force it,then it's best leave it.
We’ve met twice... the attraction was definitely there... just realising how relaxed they seem ( which I respect- and admire), but I like a little more...Was tbere any play either time you met?
I’ve played with his lady- but not him
We’re all meeting as a four though
And him and I are the only ones with phone contact
Seems a bit odd to me that all 4 of you wouldn't either chat on cam beforehand or meet up for a drink on the basis that all 4 have to be happy to play.
Oh no! Sorry. We’ve all met. There’s mutual attraction... but now we’re getting closer to play it’s all a little subdued... hence why I was asking advice what I should do... without being a tit"
in that case maybe try arrange a meet sooner rather than later and see does the fact a play meet has been arranged spur them into action. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thank you all for your empathy and opinions
So- if some of us are in a similar opinion... how do I approach this? I don’t want to appear needy or desperate- but would like something back
Xit should just flow with mutual attraction , if its not then maybe your just not hitting the spot either of you , i get loads of pre meet flirting chats and it just happens , dont really have to work at it if the chemistry is there to start with , good luck
Yes think you may be right... such a disappointment as I’ve been looking forward to this meet for so long...
Thanks for your honesty x
Nonsense. If the guy is part of a couple then it's more likely he doesn't really know how to respond appropriately. If you've all agreed to message each other and it doesn't flow... that's when you'd have to start wondering if he's coming from the same angle as you. He may just want to fuck. Flirting may not come naturally to him. Sometimes you can't have your cake and eat it... a great fuck with a great guy who knows how to get in your head. Sometimes you can (I'm talking about me in this last little bit here btw just in case my over egging it wasn't coming through)
Mmmmmm- yes that’s it!
I’m extremely lucky I have a dominant man who seduces my whole mind and body every day... that’s why I am in love with him and married him.
But I love the thought of other men wanting me. Kind of working for me.
I totally get what you’re saying in that he may not feel he can flirt as it’s only us two chatting- or he just may not be that interested... however- for me to want him- I need a man to show me he’s interested and eager to please- and not just get an erection...
possibly consider talking to the couple you're going to meet about this. They aren't going to know what you expect from them otherwise. Do they use the forums at all?
Erm... I’m uncertain whether they do.... never seen them on here...
if they do- they know I’m chatting about it now
that's kind of my point. You're complaining about their lack of communication but not actually communicating the problem to them... "
Valid
But I hope I’m not coming across as complaining
Just curious how I can encourage things... |
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possibly consider talking to the couple you're going to meet about this. They aren't going to know what you expect from them otherwise. Do they use the forums at all?
Erm... I’m uncertain whether they do.... never seen them on here...
if they do- they know I’m chatting about it now
that's kind of my point. You're complaining about their lack of communication but not actually communicating the problem to them...
Valid
But I hope I’m not coming across as complaining
Just curious how I can encourage things..."
complaining wasn't the right word...sorry.
My experience of fab is that you need to communicate your requirements directly to the people you're meeting, there isn't the time or opportunity for people to get to know each other in the way our partners know us. |
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possibly consider talking to the couple you're going to meet about this. They aren't going to know what you expect from them otherwise. Do they use the forums at all?
Erm... I’m uncertain whether they do.... never seen them on here...
if they do- they know I’m chatting about it now
that's kind of my point. You're complaining about their lack of communication but not actually communicating the problem to them...
Valid
But I hope I’m not coming across as complaining
Just curious how I can encourage things...
complaining wasn't the right word...sorry.
My experience of fab is that you need to communicate your requirements directly to the people you're meeting, there isn't the time or opportunity for people to get to know each other in the way our partners know us."
Strong advice
So you’re saying I need to grow a pair of tits and message him?
Arghhhhhhh- god I feel 13 again
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Are you not able to group chat on WhatsApp or kik with you all. We find it a great way of getting the flirting going. Jon says what he wants to do to other fem. I say what I am going to do what I want to see her do, him do. Her other half says what he wants to do with us etc etc
It breaks the ice and gets the juices flowing shall we say! Ha!
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possibly consider talking to the couple you're going to meet about this. They aren't going to know what you expect from them otherwise. Do they use the forums at all?
Erm... I’m uncertain whether they do.... never seen them on here...
if they do- they know I’m chatting about it now
that's kind of my point. You're complaining about their lack of communication but not actually communicating the problem to them...
Valid
But I hope I’m not coming across as complaining
Just curious how I can encourage things...
complaining wasn't the right word...sorry.
My experience of fab is that you need to communicate your requirements directly to the people you're meeting, there isn't the time or opportunity for people to get to know each other in the way our partners know us.
Strong advice
So you’re saying I need to grow a pair of tits and message him?
Arghhhhhhh- god I feel 13 again
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basically yes  .
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