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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago
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If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
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over a year ago
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont think I've ever asked the question to be honest..
You must be in the minority.."
guess I dont see the relevance in asking as I've shagged lots myself over the years.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably just want to know if you're actually meeting regularly, many women on here are not."
or to test if they have any possible diseases by being too slutty..lol..it is unfortunately a facet many guys have..happy to be whores themselves..not happy for potential women to be the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over "
Because they have bugger all else to say |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably just want to know if you're actually meeting regularly, many women on here are not.
or to test if they have any possible diseases by being too slutty..lol..it is unfortunately a facet many guys have..happy to be whores themselves..not happy for potential women to be the same."
The double standards of being a guy...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably just want to know if you're actually meeting regularly, many women on here are not.
or to test if they have any possible diseases by being too slutty..lol..it is unfortunately a facet many guys have..happy to be whores themselves..not happy for potential women to be the same."
That's why I keep quiet about the hundreds of men I fuck ever month. Don't want to put those picky fuckers off |
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By *lsieWoman
over a year ago
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over "
every time . Or the other question is are you getting any fun ? None of your buisness!! Then they retaliate with have you got pmt . grrr |
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Maybe they are just breaking the ice?
On pof most messages i get from women is "had many dates on here yet"
"How you finding this place, been on here long met anyone yet"
I don't think its anything sinister or somthing to get upset over :p |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Majority of men use this as a porn site, they are getting off on hearing about your meets. Women take it more seriously I think and perhaps feel a bit more insecure if they heard about a man's meet with another woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most the women on here have fuck all to say either"
Yeah, I've got very few words in my vocabulary
After we've done handbags, nail varnish and blow jobs, thats me done |
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"Majority of men use this as a porn site, they are getting off on hearing about your meets. Women take it more seriously I think and perhaps feel a bit more insecure if they heard about a man's meet with another woman. "
Of course I sit at home crying about some random fella meeting other women 
I see it as an ice breaker. A shitty ice breaker from someone wuth limited conversational skills. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe they are just breaking the ice?
On pof most messages i get from women is "had many dates on here yet"
"How you finding this place, been on here long met anyone yet"
I don't think its anything sinister or somthing to get upset over :p"
Well said. POF and Tinder women aren’t up their own arses as much as women on other sites... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe they are just breaking the ice?
On pof most messages i get from women is "had many dates on here yet"
"How you finding this place, been on here long met anyone yet"
I don't think its anything sinister or somthing to get upset over :p"
I'd like to know how women start off a conversation on here. I'm too lazy to do it myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Majority of men use this as a porn site, they are getting off on hearing about your meets. Women take it more seriously I think and perhaps feel a bit more insecure if they heard about a man's meet with another woman.
Of course I sit at home crying about some random fella meeting other women
I see it as an ice breaker. A shitty ice breaker from someone wuth limited conversational skills."
I meant more like they don't wanna hear how amazing some woman was. It would be off putting for a woman where as a lot of men get off on it for a wank |
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"Majority of men use this as a porn site, they are getting off on hearing about your meets. Women take it more seriously I think and perhaps feel a bit more insecure if they heard about a man's meet with another woman.
Of course I sit at home crying about some random fella meeting other women
I see it as an ice breaker. A shitty ice breaker from someone wuth limited conversational skills."
As this person said.
More often than not it is just a poorly executed ice breaker nothing more nothing less.
I dont think they want to get off to any storys of your previous meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe they are just breaking the ice?
On pof most messages i get from women is "had many dates on here yet"
"How you finding this place, been on here long met anyone yet"
I don't think its anything sinister or somthing to get upset over :p
I'd like to know how women start off a conversation on here. I'm too lazy to do it myself."
They may start a conversation.
But if you read their profile you may not be able to reply as 'hi' and 'im fine thanks' get an instant delete |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Majority of men use this as a porn site, they are getting off on hearing about your meets. Women take it more seriously I think and perhaps feel a bit more insecure if they heard about a man's meet with another woman.
Of course I sit at home crying about some random fella meeting other women
I see it as an ice breaker. A shitty ice breaker from someone wuth limited conversational skills."
Some guys have less to say... and conversation has to start some where...  |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"Most the women on here have fuck all to say either"
Is this the voice of homo erectus, a sign of a few too many rejection letters in your inbox or just an evolutionary cul de sac as yet to be explored? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over "
Completely agree, it’s private. |
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"Maybe they are just breaking the ice?
On pof most messages i get from women is "had many dates on here yet"
"How you finding this place, been on here long met anyone yet"
I don't think its anything sinister or somthing to get upset over :p
I'd like to know how women start off a conversation on here. I'm too lazy to do it myself."
They dont haha
In my years of being on here i think ive only had a handful of messages initiated by a woman.
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"Majority of men use this as a porn site, they are getting off on hearing about your meets. Women take it more seriously I think and perhaps feel a bit more insecure if they heard about a man's meet with another woman. "
Not me, I don’t want to hear about any previous meets. I’d much rather be their first to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over
Completely agree, it’s private."
It is private and most of what I need to know is written on verifications.
I chat to ladies on here and my experience is a good one.
Most I find common ground with and conversations are not always about sex.
Be selective, women are, so are couples and no reason as a man you can't be either.
If a person as described is ' up their own arse' do you actually want to meet that person?
You may find the experience not so pleasurable and miss someone truly wonderful.
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"I have never asked the question but I have been asked it many times by lots of women."
Ahh well, that's different. They are just making sure you are not shagging everything that moves and are less likely to be crawling with sti's and pubic lice. But not so inexperienced that tou will shoot your bolt as soon as you get her bra off. If you ask them on the other hand, your obviously a sad wanker who is just too tight to pay for sex chatlines. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe they are just breaking the ice?
On pof most messages i get from women is "had many dates on here yet"
"How you finding this place, been on here long met anyone yet"
I don't think its anything sinister or somthing to get upset over :p
I'd like to know how women start off a conversation on here. I'm too lazy to do it myself.
They dont haha
In my years of being on here i think ive only had a handful of messages initiated by a woman.
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All lazy like me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Majority of men use this as a porn site, they are getting off on hearing about your meets. Women take it more seriously I think and perhaps feel a bit more insecure if they heard about a man's meet with another woman.
Not me, I don’t want to hear about any previous meets. I’d much rather be their first to be honest."
Hmmm you would rather be their first?........I dont get that at all... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over "
Another who has never asked that question. I'm not interested anyway. I may check verifications just to make sure they are not all cam veris. But that's only to see if they actually meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Majority of men use this as a porn site, they are getting off on hearing about your meets. Women take it more seriously I think and perhaps feel a bit more insecure if they heard about a man's meet with another woman.
Not me, I don’t want to hear about any previous meets. I’d much rather be their first to be honest.
Hmmm you would rather be their first?........I dont get that at all..."
I’m sure there’s lots of that available on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over "
I never ask that and never would |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Majority of men use this as a porn site, they are getting off on hearing about your meets. Women take it more seriously I think and perhaps feel a bit more insecure if they heard about a man's meet with another woman.
Not me, I don’t want to hear about any previous meets. I’d much rather be their first to be honest.
Hmmm you would rather be their first?........I dont get that at all...
I’m sure there’s lots of that available on here "
lol just sounds strange...if I'm first ok..if I'm in the middle ok..and so on.
I dont go perving who a previous/potential meet has met or might meet after me.. |
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"Majority of men use this as a porn site, they are getting off on hearing about your meets. Women take it more seriously I think and perhaps feel a bit more insecure if they heard about a man's meet with another woman.
Of course I sit at home crying about some random fella meeting other women
I see it as an ice breaker. A shitty ice breaker from someone wuth limited conversational skills.
Some guys have less to say... and conversation has to start some where... "
Yeh but 10x's 'hi how u finding the site/what you doing/have you had many meets' is boring. Just delete. They are strangers none of their business. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They want to meet a virgin. Same reason new women profiles get inundated with mail.
78.9% of new single women profiles are fake anyway "
68.5 of statistics are incorrect |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They want to meet a virgin. Same reason new women profiles get inundated with mail.
78.9% of new single women profiles are fake anyway 68.5 of statistics are incorrect "
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This such a dumb thread lol, if you're exchanging messages with them i assume you're at least entertaining the idea of having sex with them so why the hell would get so bent outta shape over said person asking a simple question about your sexual history on the site..?
Its really not that big of a deal, they're just trying to share expriences find some things in common. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This such a dumb thread lol, if you're exchanging messages with them i assume you're at least entertaining the idea of having sex with them so why the hell would get so bent outta shape over said person asking a simple question about your sexual history on the site..?
Its really not that big of a deal, they're just trying to share expriences find some things in common."
its dumber to be asking it than this thread is...fact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This such a dumb thread lol, if you're exchanging messages with them i assume you're at least entertaining the idea of having sex with them so why the hell would get so bent outta shape over said person asking a simple question about your sexual history on the site..?
Its really not that big of a deal, they're just trying to share expriences find some things in common."
It was me who offended her with that question. I was just trying to make conversation. |
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"Maybe they are just breaking the ice?
On pof most messages i get from women is "had many dates on here yet"
"How you finding this place, been on here long met anyone yet"
I don't think its anything sinister or somthing to get upset over :p
I'd like to know how women start off a conversation on here. I'm too lazy to do it myself."
I generally read their profile highlight a common interest from it and introduce myself a little, invite them to view my profile and get back to me if they’d like to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I usually get 'hows it going on here?', pretty much the same thing.
One question that really cringed me is 'What are you wearing?'.... Fuck right off  "
What are you wearing is a bit weird I must admit.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over
Because they have bugger all else to say"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I usually get 'hows it going on here?', pretty much the same thing.
One question that really cringed me is 'What are you wearing?'.... Fuck right off "
Your wearing nothing in your avatar? Silly question in first place lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over "
So how many meets have you had then lol? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over "
I hesitate to ask, but have you asked the thousands of men why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe they are just breaking the ice?
On pof most messages i get from women is "had many dates on here yet"
"How you finding this place, been on here long met anyone yet"
I don't think its anything sinister or somthing to get upset over :p
I'd like to know how women start off a conversation on here. I'm too lazy to do it myself.
I generally read their profile highlight a common interest from it and introduce myself a little, invite them to view my profile and get back to me if they’d like to "
This is generally the start point to try get a conversation... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over
Because they have bugger all else to say"
This. They have no conversation. They can only ask stupid questions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably just want to know if you're actually meeting regularly, many women on here are not.
or to test if they have any possible diseases by being too slutty..lol..it is unfortunately a facet many guys have..happy to be whores themselves..not happy for potential women to be the same."
Hahaha but true! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over
Because they have bugger all else to say
This. They have no conversation. They can only ask stupid questions."
I have conversation and can ask pertinent questions |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Isn't it just making conversation, with some simple questions... something to hide op? "
It's a crap, boring, nosey and unimaginative question. Being asked how many meets I have had is not good conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably just want to know if you're actually meeting regularly, many women on here are not.
But that is irrelevant. "
Not really... Just looked at your profile and all it shows as far as meets is you have met. This could be yesterday or it could be 9 months ago. Maybe they are gauging are you serious about meeting. I would think twice about asking someone who hasn't met in say 6 months compared to someone who clearly displays they are actively meeting as I could be wasting time with someone who just likes chatting the day away with people with no intention of meeting anyone. |
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"Maybe they are just breaking the ice?
On pof most messages i get from women is "had many dates on here yet"
"How you finding this place, been on here long met anyone yet"
I don't think its anything sinister or somthing to get upset over :p
Well said. POF and Tinder women aren’t up their own arses as much as women on other sites..."
I think many are the same women |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A wise man says nothing ."
I let them message me first and some are enough to shake my head and roll my eyes over but they tried I say to myself. 
This thread clearly demonstrates how men and women differ in both conversation and thinking and how the other quite often assumes wrongly.
Great thread though OP, bet you never expected it to turn out like this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I assume it’s just an opener; it’s mildly better than “how are you?” "
Hi High-Heels..I've always loved your pics and forum posts, you look amazing xxx from a friendly wee paddy.
p.s when did u last get shagged n how many cocks ya had |
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over "
The worst for me is .. have you had much luck on here?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably just want to know if you're actually meeting regularly, many women on here are not.
But that is irrelevant.
Not really... Just looked at your profile and all it shows as far as meets is you have met. This could be yesterday or it could be 9 months ago. Maybe they are gauging are you serious about meeting. I would think twice about asking someone who hasn't met in say 6 months compared to someone who clearly displays they are actively meeting as I could be wasting time with someone who just likes chatting the day away with people with no intention of meeting anyone."
They may not have met for months because they are choosey and don't meet every guy who asks them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I assume it’s just an opener; it’s mildly better than “how are you?”
Hi High-Heels..I've always loved your pics and forum posts, you look amazing xxx from a friendly wee paddy.
p.s when did u last get shagged n how many cocks ya had "
Genuinely guffaw this end thank you.
P.s this morning and not very many |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably just want to know if you're actually meeting regularly, many women on here are not.
But that is irrelevant.
Not really... Just looked at your profile and all it shows as far as meets is you have met. This could be yesterday or it could be 9 months ago. Maybe they are gauging are you serious about meeting. I would think twice about asking someone who hasn't met in say 6 months compared to someone who clearly displays they are actively meeting as I could be wasting time with someone who just likes chatting the day away with people with no intention of meeting anyone.
They may not have met for months because they are choosey and don't meet every guy who asks them."
True but that may or may not be the case and the question still stands.
The point I was demonstrating was she's hidden the very thing that could have answered his questions and so she shouldn't be surprised by having them asked. |
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over "
So many reasons some because they don't want people who meet lots others to wanks over it more think you will be easy and some just can't think of anything else to say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I assume it’s just an opener; it’s mildly better than “how are you?”
Hi High-Heels..I've always loved your pics and forum posts, you look amazing xxx from a friendly wee paddy.
p.s when did u last get shagged n how many cocks ya had
Genuinely guffaw this end thank you.
P.s this morning and not very many "
I have the kleenex ready for the expanded story and possible slowmotion videos |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have had any meets / many meets etc? Grrr!
Men...we do not ask you the same question. It is none of our business.
Who or how many/ when we meet is none of your bloody business.
Thank you. Rant over "
I think they’re just jealous of all the attention everyone else is getting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably just want to know if you're actually meeting regularly, many women on here are not.
But that is irrelevant.
Not really... Just looked at your profile and all it shows as far as meets is you have met. This could be yesterday or it could be 9 months ago. Maybe they are gauging are you serious about meeting. I would think twice about asking someone who hasn't met in say 6 months compared to someone who clearly displays they are actively meeting as I could be wasting time with someone who just likes chatting the day away with people with no intention of meeting anyone."
If they haven't met in 6 months surely they'd be gagging for it. |
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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"A wise man says nothing .
I let them message me first and some are enough to shake my head and roll my eyes over but they tried I say to myself.
This thread clearly demonstrates how men and women differ in both conversation and thinking and how the other quite often assumes wrongly.
Great thread though OP, bet you never expected it to turn out like this. "
I didn't expect it to be such a heated debate!
I know that not all men ask about previous meets, but I do get asked this fairly often.
I personaly value my privacy, hence I only have a green tick, rather than each veri on display, or a summary. I don't want to risk having someone go stalkerish, by tracking back people I have met.
This is a discussion amongst adults. I just hope people can post here within the forum rules, and not make personal attacks.
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"I dont think I've ever asked the question to be honest..
You must be in the minority.."
I've never asked the question, I largely prefer it if somone is verified as less chance of a timewaster / pretender. If they are well verified with tastes such as mine then great, otherwise I eill probably move on. I don't know, are they looking for Vestal Virgins who have decided they want a shag on the sly? |
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