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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thoughts please
Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.
Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.
As if we’ve wasted their time?
So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thoughts please
Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.
Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.
As if we’ve wasted their time?
So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "
apologies if you are new...you can set filters to have only the sex groups(MF/F) that you wish contact you
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile says you are also looking to meet men...
Think the mf means couple
We have it too and are not after men ..."
It says "Couples(MF) Men Women" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes we read profiles...
We don’t expect people to remember everything written so we don’t get the arse if someone asked us something mentioned in the profile, too many just get the hump thinking people haven’t read the profile...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile says you are also looking to meet men...
Think the mf means couple
We have it too and are not after men ...
It says "Couples(MF) Men Women"
Fair dos
I did a crap look
Miss"
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"Yes we read profiles...
We don’t expect people to remember everything written so we don’t get the arse if someone asked us something mentioned in the profile, too many just get the hump thinking people haven’t read the profile......"
I'm only bothered if they say or do something I specifically say is a deal breaker for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thoughts please
Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.
Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.
As if we’ve wasted their time?
So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "
its because your pics are sexy, so men try there luck
ive met a few couples that state no men on there profile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thoughts please
Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.
Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.
As if we’ve wasted their time?
So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "
Couples (MF) Men Women
Aged from 30 to 65
Won't meet smokers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We read profiles so we can message on similar interests etc.
We say in our profile we’re not looking for men at the moment and that we will find them. Obviously we get a lot of offers from men, but we aren’t bothered by it because we haven’t set any filters. We do send a polite no thanks message sometimes, but usually we just leave them.
If you don’t want men messaging you, block them from messaging you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thoughts please
Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.
Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.
As if we’ve wasted their time?
So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "
You need to remove Men from your “looking for”line
They’ll read that and make an asumption one way or another. |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
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"Thoughts please
Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.
Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.
As if we’ve wasted their time?
So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "
Yes of course, if there is one to read |
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Obviously, a lot don't.
I have added text to my profile this afternoon.
I've just finished work and in the 5½hrs since I was last on, 74 messages.
Not one has paid any attention to any part of my profile |
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Would it not solve the problem if you deleted men off what you are looking for and blocked men from messaging you? Then you wouldnt have to keep repeating that you are not looking for men, hope this helps OP. |
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Some guys/couples just paste paste paste to every profile in their search no reading just going for as many as possible. Just talk to your friends locally you will find they have received the identical message its just a numbers game for some people. |
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"Some guys/couples just paste paste paste to every profile in their search no reading just going for as many as possible. Just talk to your friends locally you will find they have received the identical message its just a numbers game for some people. "
Had this happen so many times.
Sat with a friend/s, and bingo... We all get the exact same message.
What makes it even funnier... None of are alike physically, complete opposites.
Our profiles have very little similarities too.
We once all sent back an identical message... Took ages to write through our tears of laughter
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I fear only 1 percent read on here 48 percent copy and paste, 1 percent read write with notes to reference increasing there success rate by 99 percent. 50 percent are the nobs giving you arthritis in your delete finger |
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It's reasonable to expect people to read profiles, only if we also assume that these people are socially competent as well as understanding of Fab ways and how single men here can do well.
There's a proportion of men here who are fairly clueless and somewhat stupid, presumably believing that there are desperate people here who will let them shag them, however they behave.
We could educate the world of fab men, one at a time, though there will be new ones arriving immediately.
I think it's better to perhaps block the group causing the issue and find the people who you think could suit you op. It's hard sometimes to accept that people are very different to ourselves, when we don't understand them - when we're reasonable but they're not. They'll view us as unreasonable, limited in perspective and awkward.
Ultimately it's better to look after our own experience and journey - taking those decisions that lead to us getting what we want more effectively and losing the hassle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thoughts please
Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.
Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.
As if we’ve wasted their time?
So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "
Because people change their minds that's why. Yes some don't read a profile,and some do but chance it. So why haven't you blocked all singke guys if you don't want messages from them? Lexi |
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I always read a profile before messaging,I do find it annoying when I get a message and I can clearly see my profile hasn’t been read and I reply a polite no thank you I’m not interested and then get the messages back asking why lol .Just read a profile it’s not difficult |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wow that’s a great response to our post thankyou all and some good advice.
We’ve updated our profile to remove men from looking for but we haven't blocked single guys from messaging because we chat with a few guys on here about lots of things but we make clear we aren’t looking to meet
We will continue to ignore, delete, block single guys who message us for a meet confident that the kind of people who can’t take 30 seconds to learn a little about us aren’t the kind of people we’d ever want to meet 
Thanks for all your thoughts |
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"They must still be so busy reading our long drawn out profile that they’ve fell asleep before they get to message us!  "
Lol so that’s why we don’t get messages, they’re asleep because our profile is long and drawn out too! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"They must still be so busy reading our long drawn out profile that they’ve fell asleep before they get to message us!
Lol so that’s why we don’t get messages, they’re asleep because our profile is long and drawn out too! Lol"
_bsolutebeginners and _heekyflirtycouple you both have lovely profiles and well worth the read and browse |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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For me I do the following.
Step 1
First check photos that normally peaks my interest. Then check do they meet single guys.
This normally clears most people
Step 2
Then check where are they from.
Have a read of veris. do they meet in clubs or privately
What age range have they met
step 3
Then check to see if they bareback. This isn’t for me. But if I see photos that suggest they do. It will have an impact
Step 4
Will then have a read of profile
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"Wow that’s a great response to our post thankyou all and some good advice.
We’ve updated our profile to remove men from looking for but we haven't blocked single guys from messaging because we chat with a few guys on here about lots of things but we make clear we aren’t looking to meet
We will continue to ignore, delete, block single guys who message us for a meet confident that the kind of people who can’t take 30 seconds to learn a little about us aren’t the kind of people we’d ever want to meet
Thanks for all your thoughts "
I am going to be a bit of a devils advocate how are you both with single men looking at your photos
I know some couples that are not overly happy with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some guys/couples just paste paste paste to every profile in their search no reading just going for as many as possible. Just talk to your friends locally you will find they have received the identical message its just a numbers game for some people.
Had this happen so many times.
Sat with a friend/s, and bingo... We all get the exact same message.
What makes it even funnier... None of are alike physically, complete opposites.
Our profiles have very little similarities too.
We once all sent back an identical message... Took ages to write through our tears of laughter
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Brilliant |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's reasonable to expect people to read profiles, only if we also assume that these people are socially competent as well as understanding of Fab ways and how single men here can do well.
There's a proportion of men here who are fairly clueless and somewhat stupid, presumably believing that there are desperate people here who will let them shag them, however they behave.
We could educate the world of fab men, one at a time, though there will be new ones arriving immediately.
I think it's better to perhaps block the group causing the issue and find the people who you think could suit you op. It's hard sometimes to accept that people are very different to ourselves, when we don't understand them - when we're reasonable but they're not. They'll view us as unreasonable, limited in perspective and awkward.
Ultimately it's better to look after our own experience and journey - taking those decisions that lead to us getting what we want more effectively and losing the hassle. "
Very good points.
The clueless really do spoil it for everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Wow that’s a great response to our post thankyou all and some good advice.
We’ve updated our profile to remove men from looking for but we haven't blocked single guys from messaging because we chat with a few guys on here about lots of things but we make clear we aren’t looking to meet
We will continue to ignore, delete, block single guys who message us for a meet confident that the kind of people who can’t take 30 seconds to learn a little about us aren’t the kind of people we’d ever want to meet
Thanks for all your thoughts
I am going to be a bit of a devils advocate how are you both with single men looking at your photos
I know some couples that are not overly happy with it "
Actually we really like it and the response. Attention junkies in a small way. Another reason we don’t block single guys from messaging but just because we enjoy hearing what they think of our pics doesn’t mean we want to meet them. Does that make us hypocrites? |
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"They must still be so busy reading our long drawn out profile that they’ve fell asleep before they get to message us!
Lol so that’s why we don’t get messages, they’re asleep because our profile is long and drawn out too! Lol
_bsolutebeginners and _heekyflirtycouple you both have lovely profiles and well worth the read and browse "
Why thank you xxx  |
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step 3
Then check to see if they bareback. This isn’t for me. But if I see photos that suggest they do. It will have an impact
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Most of our pics are bareback but that’s because we’re a couple, no bareback when playing with others but rarely have photos of that! |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
"Wow that’s a great response to our post thankyou all and some good advice.
We’ve updated our profile to remove men from looking for but we haven't blocked single guys from messaging because we chat with a few guys on here about lots of things but we make clear we aren’t looking to meet
We will continue to ignore, delete, block single guys who message us for a meet confident that the kind of people who can’t take 30 seconds to learn a little about us aren’t the kind of people we’d ever want to meet
Thanks for all your thoughts
I am going to be a bit of a devils advocate how are you both with single men looking at your photos
I know some couples that are not overly happy with it
Actually we really like it and the response. Attention junkies in a small way. Another reason we don’t block single guys from messaging but just because we enjoy hearing what they think of our pics doesn’t mean we want to meet them. Does that make us hypocrites? "
Your enjoying the ego boost. Think of the guys being turned down though. Some may not take it well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow that’s a great response to our post thankyou all and some good advice.
We’ve updated our profile to remove men from looking for but we haven't blocked single guys from messaging because we chat with a few guys on here about lots of things but we make clear we aren’t looking to meet
We will continue to ignore, delete, block single guys who message us for a meet confident that the kind of people who can’t take 30 seconds to learn a little about us aren’t the kind of people we’d ever want to meet
Thanks for all your thoughts
I am going to be a bit of a devils advocate how are you both with single men looking at your photos
I know some couples that are not overly happy with it
Actually we really like it and the response. Attention junkies in a small way. Another reason we don’t block single guys from messaging but just because we enjoy hearing what they think of our pics doesn’t mean we want to meet them. Does that make us hypocrites? "
Not at all. |
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"They must still be so busy reading our long drawn out profile that they’ve fell asleep before they get to message us!
Lol so that’s why we don’t get messages, they’re asleep because our profile is long and drawn out too! Lol
_bsolutebeginners and _heekyflirtycouple you both have lovely profiles and well worth the read and browse "
Thank you  |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
"Wow that’s a great response to our post thankyou all and some good advice.
We’ve updated our profile to remove men from looking for but we haven't blocked single guys from messaging because we chat with a few guys on here about lots of things but we make clear we aren’t looking to meet
We will continue to ignore, delete, block single guys who message us for a meet confident that the kind of people who can’t take 30 seconds to learn a little about us aren’t the kind of people we’d ever want to meet
Thanks for all your thoughts
I am going to be a bit of a devils advocate how are you both with single men looking at your photos
I know some couples that are not overly happy with it
Actually we really like it and the response. Attention junkies in a small way. Another reason we don’t block single guys from messaging but just because we enjoy hearing what they think of our pics doesn’t mean we want to meet them. Does that make us hypocrites? "
Nope not at all. Tbh I wouldn’t actually message you both to say I liked the photos because you don’t meet single guys (now I know it’s ok to message) |
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"Thoughts please
Our profile very clearly says we aren’t looking for single men yet we still receive offers to meet.
Rather than just deleting or blocking them we tend to reply politely asking them to reread the profile. Most times that does the trick, some even apologise but some, a small number, then give us abuse for not having stopped all single guys from messaging us.
As if we’ve wasted their time?
So my question is, is it unreasonable to expect people to at least quickly skim the words on our profile before they hit send on their message? "
Most men don’t read profiles at all |
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