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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have to say I'm lucky in the fact that I haven't had many meets where it's not gone well....I usually tend to chat and meet socially first which I find helps.
However there has been one occasion in recent months where things didn't go to plan.
I'll not mention profile name as I always respect privacy
I'd been talking to a couple for around 3 weeks. Both chatted and they seemed really nice. Plan was for female to meet me in a busy pub, we'd have a drink and we would see if their is an attraction.
There definately was. She contacted hubby and confirmed she was safe, happy and put hubby on phone to me.
Sound as a pound and he invited me round for a drink that night.
We had a social drink in the house and discussed turn ons etc. It has already been made clear they'd be no playing as it was wrong time of month but I was happy with this and we all got on great.
A week later we made arrangements to meet up on a Saturday afternoon. Plan was for me to arrive around two, me and wife would start playing and he'd walk in from work to find us at it.
all was going to plan he arrived. He watched for ten mins then joined us on the bed. He was struggling to get hard which at the time didn't seem a big deal to me or her. Just relax and carry on I thought.
The next thing they start arguing, he's having go at her for messing around saying she was gonna meet and then she wasn't gonna meet. She's shouting at him cause "it's just cause he's embarrassed"
Can honestly say it was one of most uncomfortable moments I've had for long time. He stormed out and took his work van back out whilst I was left to dress myself whilst she kept apologising. She kept saying it's fine and sorry but it wasn't a comfortable experience
Anyone else, couples/males/females had any awkward situations???? |
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"I have to say I'm lucky in the fact that I haven't had many meets where it's not gone well....I usually tend to chat and meet socially first which I find helps.
However there has been one occasion in recent months where things didn't go to plan.
I'll not mention profile name as I always respect privacy
I'd been talking to a couple for around 3 weeks. Both chatted and they seemed really nice. Plan was for female to meet me in a busy pub, we'd have a drink and we would see if their is an attraction.
There definately was. She contacted hubby and confirmed she was safe, happy and put hubby on phone to me.
Sound as a pound and he invited me round for a drink that night.
We had a social drink in the house and discussed turn ons etc. It has already been made clear they'd be no playing as it was wrong time of month but I was happy with this and we all got on great.
A week later we made arrangements to meet up on a Saturday afternoon. Plan was for me to arrive around two, me and wife would start playing and he'd walk in from work to find us at it.
all was going to plan he arrived. He watched for ten mins then joined us on the bed. He was struggling to get hard which at the time didn't seem a big deal to me or her. Just relax and carry on I thought.
The next thing they start arguing, he's having go at her for messing around saying she was gonna meet and then she wasn't gonna meet. She's shouting at him cause "it's just cause he's embarrassed"
Can honestly say it was one of most uncomfortable moments I've had for long time. He stormed out and took his work van back out whilst I was left to dress myself whilst she kept apologising. She kept saying it's fine and sorry but it wasn't a comfortable experience
Anyone else, couples/males/females had any awkward situations????"
Hopefully they’re not reading the forums op |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have to say I'm lucky in the fact that I haven't had many meets where it's not gone well....I usually tend to chat and meet socially first which I find helps.
However there has been one occasion in recent months where things didn't go to plan.
I'll not mention profile name as I always respect privacy
I'd been talking to a couple for around 3 weeks. Both chatted and they seemed really nice. Plan was for female to meet me in a busy pub, we'd have a drink and we would see if their is an attraction.
There definately was. She contacted hubby and confirmed she was safe, happy and put hubby on phone to me.
Sound as a pound and he invited me round for a drink that night.
We had a social drink in the house and discussed turn ons etc. It has already been made clear they'd be no playing as it was wrong time of month but I was happy with this and we all got on great.
A week later we made arrangements to meet up on a Saturday afternoon. Plan was for me to arrive around two, me and wife would start playing and he'd walk in from work to find us at it.
all was going to plan he arrived. He watched for ten mins then joined us on the bed. He was struggling to get hard which at the time didn't seem a big deal to me or her. Just relax and carry on I thought.
The next thing they start arguing, he's having go at her for messing around saying she was gonna meet and then she wasn't gonna meet. She's shouting at him cause "it's just cause he's embarrassed"
Can honestly say it was one of most uncomfortable moments I've had for long time. He stormed out and took his work van back out whilst I was left to dress myself whilst she kept apologising. She kept saying it's fine and sorry but it wasn't a comfortable experience
Anyone else, couples/males/females had any awkward situations???? Hopefully they’re not reading the forums op "
I've not mentioned their names and would tell them how uncomfortable I felt if they asked. I suppose these things happen between people and it's not likei felt threatened, just very awkward |
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One of mine was possibly my shortest meet ever . Arranged to meet a couple had done all the usual things beforehand as in messages and a phone chat to both but when I got there the guy opened the door he’s naked with gay porn on and he casually says mrs is running late can we start without her ....x |
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"One of mine was possibly my shortest meet ever . Arranged to meet a couple had done all the usual things beforehand as in messages and a phone chat to both but when I got there the guy opened the door he’s naked with gay porn on and he casually says mrs is running late can we start without her ....x "
Nooooooooo gutted for you |
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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago
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I’ve not known this happen at pre planned meets as, as you say, everything is discussed in advance.
It’s happened when I’ve been at a club as part of a couple. Another couple were on one of the beds too and the man was happy to play with my partner. As soon as I intimidated interest in his partner, she froze so I stopped. These things can happen but what really annoyed me, was that he was oblivious to his partner’s discomfort and wanted to carry on with us. It took myself and my partner to halt things and we “gently” suggested he talk (even look in her direction) to his partner. It made us feel uncomfortable yet happy that we had a better level of communication and care for one another whilst playing. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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Yes OP, these things do happen and aren't particularly pleasant, at the time. We met a couple socially and all got on fine, they invited us to there home, at a later date and when the lady saw me with her husband, she became extremely upset and went off. We obviously dressed and left, I found it a bit upsetting , but they obviously shouldn't be swinging as she was insecure. That didn't come across in the social, otherwise we wouldn't have gone. No they're not on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For sure it can be awkward but think you should all have commen ground and know what your letting your self in for or eat least be 100% in what you wanna be doing |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"For sure it can be awkward but think you should all have commen ground and know what your letting your self in for or eat least be 100% in what you wanna be doing "
You are right. In our case we had the social, got on well, had the same likes, she was very keen, but just got upset on the night, didn't see it coming. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"That is mad was it there first time I am guessing "
No it actually wasn't, they were more experienced than us at that time. It can be a minefield to get it right, which is why we don't meet of here anymore but go to clubs and parties, it is easier to tell if everyone is complicit and happier in those situations  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I am only saying what others are thinking "
Wasn't what I was thinking at all - my first thought was how awkward it must have been for the OP and that he did everything right and shouldn't feel bad about it!!
My second thought was for how distressing and embarrassing it must have been for the poor wife and that probably the last thing on her mind at the time was carrying on.
Believe it or not this life isn't *all* about getting your end away for some  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well why waste a meet might as well end it in a bang ha ha "
So basically what you're saying is don't bother having empathy for your playmates, just get what you can. If that's not what you're saying then that's how it's coming across. |
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"I am only saying what others are thinking
Wasn't what I was thinking at all - my first thought was how awkward it must have been for the OP and that he did everything right and shouldn't feel bad about it!!
My second thought was for how distressing and embarrassing it must have been for the poor wife and that probably the last thing on her mind at the time was carrying on.
Believe it or not this life isn't *all* about getting your end away for some "
Wise words as always Gemini
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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago
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"It was called a joke but you all taken it the wrong way of cause you would not play when sombody is clearly upset "
The trouble is that you said you would have carried on then compounded it by saying that it was what others were thinking too. The latter is possibly true for some and just because someone says yes to something, it does not take away their right to then say no.
In this case, it was awkwardness and respect. In another it may be personal consent.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"It was called a joke but you all taken it the wrong way of cause you would not play when sombody is clearly upset "
You might have got away with writing your first post suggesting the OP should have carried on off as a joke if you'd not followed it up with one stating you were only saying what others were thinking!! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"It was called a joke but you all taken it the wrong way of cause you would not play when sombody is clearly upset "
Also, is it a joke that your first public pic appears to be of a soldier KIA? |
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