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Don't understand this place...

By *ano01 OP Man over a year ago

London

Is it just totally pointless for a single bloke or what? Because a legion of ugly socially retarded fuckwits have basically ruined it for the rest of us?

What the fuck exactly are you supposed to say? Obviously being crude and rude and forward and pushy are big no nos but being polite and respectful simply introducing yourself like a normal person is a fucking waste of time too apparently?

Seriously how the fuck does it work here? Can someone tell me what the secret handshake is please? I could stand in a pub tapping random women on the shoulder and inviting them back to mine and simply by the law of averages I'd get laid quicker than I would get even a reply on here. LOL.

Exactly how many message does the average single bird get on this site?

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"Is it just totally pointless for a single bloke or what? Because a legion of ugly socially retarded fuckwits have basically ruined it for the rest of us?

Exactly how many message does the average single bird get on this site?

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

you have more' fucks' in that post that most get on here in a year...

why so angst... do you look for sex elsewhere and supplement it on here... or is this it.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

Try tapping random girls in the pub on the shoulder...assuming you dont get glassed,punched or thrown out yes,you might get crappy d*unken sex.

Thats the major thing most men who complain don't get...yes i could get pissed and pull...i have in my youth,but the reason i,and many of the women are on here is because we want better than that.

If you are not succeeding you have to ask are you offering anything better than i/we could get any night of the week in nilla land?

As for messages...again i refer you to one of the first rules of swinging...if u cant pull out there,you wont in here. Anodyne dull approaches ,crude abusive approaches,would either work unless you are Brad Pitt/George Clooney?

i met the sexiest man possible because he made me laugh while i was masturbating on cam with a banana...be yourself...but honestly consider how much luck that bring u anyway.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple over a year ago

somewhere out there

we used to reply to every single message even when they went totally against what we said on our profile(takin off at min due to waste of time so called single guys) but most time when we would reply it's all on our profile(reason not here explained before) we would get a torant of abuse, but should any1 message and be polite we would always peply no matter what, not all people are the same but some here like the real world get up their own assholes, usually the type that would be timid and passed over in a bar

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OK I / we are not looking for single blokes anyway, so you never had a chance, but IF we were then you don't now!!!

One of my BIG turn off’ s is casual obscenity….. it’s one thing to swear when you hit your thumb with a hammer, quite another on a profile or forum message.

Five reasons why I would personally ignore you are in your message... actually six, I hate being refered to as a bird!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No point getting stressed about it. It takes patience and a very, very thick skin. I have mailed many couples and put loads of effort in thinking about what they want, how I might meet their criteria and my mails more often that not just get deleted and sometimes I even get blocked.

Just look at the numbers, there are loads of single men looking for 'consequence free' sex, far fewer couples (relatively) and even fewer single females. It's actually a snapshot of the way mother nature has, on average, moulded human sexuality. Men need to spread their gene pool far and wide, women, by virtue of giving birth, nuture and protect so are far more selective. There are individual exceptions, of course, but the ratio numbers speak for themselves.

Top tips are get some pics done, decent ones. Have a detailed profile page and be polite and patient. Personally I found that when the verifications start to build up life does become far easier. On any given Saturday night, and midweek come to that, I usually have 'meets' available.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest if that post is indictive of your attitude then it's probably not to difficult to work out why you aren't getting meets...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

oh well never mind

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it just totally pointless for a single bloke or what? Because a legion of ugly socially retarded fuckwits have basically ruined it for the rest of us?

Exactly how many message does the average single bird get on this site?

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

Im pretty forward!! lol. And sometimes crude...

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't get the 100 or so messages a day some women get on here, but I do get quite a lot! So the messgae does need to be a good 'un. But lately I have had a couple of meets based on noticing them on the forums. If they come across as amusing and friendly and they happen to be in my area then I may well drop them a message myself.

Unfortunately a couple of men have stood me up and several more have messed me about either trying to arrange a meet, or actually on the meet. So I tend to get my fun at my local club, where I've made some friends and get a chat as well as a night of naked fun. Much more reliable than having to swap messages with people who are basically on here to collect pics for their evening wank.

I like single men. If it wasn't for them I would have a boring time on here. But it has to be the right kind of guy. Whether a message grabs my eye depends on what mood I'm in, the phase of the moon, and blind luck. There is nothing I can tell you to increase your chances message wise so just keep plugging away. Good luck!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Im pretty forward!!"

That's one word for it.

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By *ano01 OP Man over a year ago

London

"Try tapping random girls in the pub on the shoulder...assuming you dont get glassed,punched or thrown out yes,you might get crappy d*unken sex.

Thats the major thing most men who complain don't get...yes i could get pissed and pull...i have in my youth,but the reason i,and many of the women are on here is because we want better than that.

If you are not succeeding you have to ask are you offering anything better than i/we could get any night of the week in nilla land?

i met the sexiest man possible because he made me laugh while i was masturbating on cam with a banana...be yourself...but honestly consider how much luck that bring u anyway."

Ok. But that's my point, I can pull 'out there'. Can't really even get anyone to reply to a polite 'hello' on here though lol.

Which is why I'm wondering how and why it works so differently on here? And why most other single fellas even bother with it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

dunno where the impression that its the ugly ones who do it...theres pretty boy muscley toned huge cocked guys who are here...somehow they get fuck all meets...posibly due to severe thickness (lets say social ineptitude rather than retarded)or lack of any balls to actually go thru with a meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"oh well never mind"

Haha!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like everyone else has said - there is no guarantee of sex on this site.

Single blokes do not have a god-given right to sleep with any "bird" on this site. And the ladies/couples on this site don't drop their pants to everyone and sundry (well... Most don't!

)

Patience and less whining will get you a long way. The best way to approach this website is to expect that you will NOT have sex... Then any you do get is a bonus! Like I said, you don't have a right to it!

Relax, take a deep breath and just enjoy the banter. The likelihood is you won't get a sexual meet for a very long time! But if you are here because you are a swinger it won't matter. It will only irritate you if you are just a single bloke who isn't getting any out in vanilla land!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Patience and humour, in equal measures.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im pretty forward!!

That's one word for it.

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By *andKCouple over a year ago

Norfolk

I suppose if the OP has more luck in the local bar that is the right place for him, he may as well give up on here if we (the girls) aren't falling over themselves to meet him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We reply to 90% of the messages we get from single men. We point out that we aren't looking for single men but they persist to message again and again.

At least we do reply even to the disrespectful ones, which is more than most couples or single women do.

Look how many men are on the site compared to women and couples, odds are most women and couples get loads of messages each day with the same lines or copy and paste intros.

At some point a line will be drawn somewhere to reduce the amount of messages couples and women get, hence the option to filter or delete who they want contacting/meeting them.

At the end of the day its personal choice for each individual to choose what they want.

The banner at the top of the page says fabswingers.com not come in for a free shag and more women than you can shake a stick at

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To the OP

Try being 'interesting' ... I understand that's a difficult concept for some people to grasp, but most of us didn't join this forum to satisfy a penchant for tedium.

...yeah I'm grumpy today

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bravo that man, what a way to alienate people and destroy any chance of finding, arranging and having a meet. Stand up and take a bow my son ( actually not my son but you get the point)

Soak up the applause as you leave the site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OK I / we are not looking for single blokes anyway, so you never had a chance, but IF we were then you don't now!!!

One of my BIG turn off’ s is casual obscenity….. it’s one thing to swear when you hit your thumb with a hammer, quite another on a profile or forum message.

Five reasons why I would personally ignore you are in your message... actually six, I hate being refered to as a bird!!

Ditto from me too. The English language is beautiful. If someone can't convey what they feel/mean without effing and blinding every other word they wouldn't be for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Getting a meet's like waiting for a bus.

The only difference is one won't come any quicker if you light a fag

And then when you think, oh bugger it - three come along at once and make it all worthwhile.

Keep at it, what we get out of the scene is a lot of laughs aside from jumping off of wardrobes. It ain't the place for a quick fix though, unless ya drop lucky...

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i wish people would stop thinking a post on the forums is reflective of getting meets FFS, getta grip!(as Ive said in another post!)

maybe it takes someone to msg the guy and not belittle him, give him some experience in how they got started...

well fuck me Im patting myself on the back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly how many message does the average single bird get on this site?

I think that statement alone says a lot about how you _iew swinging in general and ladies that swing in particular (and not in a positive way)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suppose if the OP has more luck in the local bar that is the right place for him, he may as well give up on here if we (the girls) aren't falling over themselves to meet him"

wise advice methinks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i wish people would stop thinking a post on the forums is reflective of getting meets FFS, getta grip!(as Ive said in another post!)

maybe it takes someone to msg the guy and not belittle him, give him some experience in how they got started...

well fuck me Im patting myself on the back"

yer nominated prince charmin

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"well fuck me Im patting myself on the back"

Careful, you'll end up with whiplash

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Speaking of giving the rest of us a bad name is there any chance you could write without effing and blinding in every other sentence?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"oh well never mind"
pms

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We reply to 90% of the messages we get from single men. We point out that we aren't looking for single men but they persist to message again and again.

At least we do reply even to the disrespectful ones, which is more than most couples or single women do.

Look how many men are on the site compared to women and couples, odds are most women and couples get loads of messages each day with the same lines or copy and paste intros.

At some point a line will be drawn somewhere to reduce the amount of messages couples and women get, hence the option to filter or delete who they want contacting/meeting them.

At the end of the day its personal choice for each individual to choose what they want.

The banner at the top of the page says fabswingers.com not come in for a free shag and more women than you can shake a stick at

aye, who knows, perhaps some designer glass would help ...............

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try tapping random girls in the pub on the shoulder...assuming you dont get glassed,punched or thrown out yes,you might get crappy d*unken sex.

Thats the major thing most men who complain don't get...yes i could get pissed and pull...i have in my youth,but the reason i,and many of the women are on here is because we want better than that.

If you are not succeeding you have to ask are you offering anything better than i/we could get any night of the week in nilla land?

i met the sexiest man possible because he made me laugh while i was masturbating on cam with a banana...be yourself...but honestly consider how much luck that bring u anyway.

Ok. But that's my point, I can pull 'out there'. Can't really even get anyone to reply to a polite 'hello' on here though lol.

Which is why I'm wondering how and why it works so differently on here? And why most other single fellas even bother with it?

Then why not do just that?

When we were looking to meet, we used the site to get in touch with, meet and indulge in things you couldn't generally find out there...if all you're looking for is the same thing you can get in any local bar, maybe that's your best option...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We reply to 90% of the messages we get from single men. We point out that we aren't looking for single men but they persist to message again and again.

At least we do reply even to the disrespectful ones, which is more than most couples or single women do.

Look how many men are on the site compared to women and couples, odds are most women and couples get loads of messages each day with the same lines or copy and paste intros.

At some point a line will be drawn somewhere to reduce the amount of messages couples and women get, hence the option to filter or delete who they want contacting/meeting them.

At the end of the day its personal choice for each individual to choose what they want.

The banner at the top of the page says fabswingers.com not come in for a free shag and more women than you can shake a stick at

aye, who knows, perhaps some designer glass would help ..............."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i met the sexiest man possible because he made me laugh while i was masturbating on cam with a banana."

If Admin don't use that line in their marketing material, there's simply no justice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

think the swearing comments are maybe a bit blown out of proportion,considering they are aimed at, read here:-

fuckwits

then theres a fuck,and a fucking

if u were in glasgow we'd be conversing like this over dinner

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It irritates me when guys ask what they need to do in order to get a meet. There is no right or entitlement here. I don't have to have sex with anyone if I don't want to, I don't care how long someone has been on my friends list, how long we've been chatting, whether we winked them first etc. Its my body and my choice.

The problem is that guys join thinking all the single woman are sex starved nymphos who will shag anything and the female in a couple is not satisfied by her man and requires a young stud to satisfy her. Its a big wake up call isn't it when the realisation sets in that that isn't the case.

If you have better look in a club on a Saturday night then go do it.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

"think the swearing comments are maybe a bit blown out of proportion,considering they are aimed at, read here:-

fuckwits

then theres a fuck,and a fucking

if u were in glasgow we'd be conversing like this over dinner"

sure Paddy, I agree. Dinner guests usually know each other, will have connected before.

Imagine someone you didn't know arrive, say Hi what the fucks for scoff then, I am hungy and where is the fuckwit who is cooking it... hurry the fuck up...

first impresssions may not lead to getting their leg over...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We reply to 90% of the messages we get from single men. We point out that we aren't looking for single men but they persist to message again and again.

At least we do reply even to the disrespectful ones, which is more than most couples or single women do.

Look how many men are on the site compared to women and couples, odds are most women and couples get loads of messages each day with the same lines or copy and paste intros.

At some point a line will be drawn somewhere to reduce the amount of messages couples and women get, hence the option to filter or delete who they want contacting/meeting them.

At the end of the day its personal choice for each individual to choose what they want.

The banner at the top of the page says fabswingers.com not come in for a free shag and more women than you can shake a stick at

aye, who knows, perhaps some designer glass would help ...............

??"
read the banners

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We reply to 90% of the messages we get from single men. We point out that we aren't looking for single men but they persist to message again and again.

At least we do reply even to the disrespectful ones, which is more than most couples or single women do.

Look how many men are on the site compared to women and couples, odds are most women and couples get loads of messages each day with the same lines or copy and paste intros.

At some point a line will be drawn somewhere to reduce the amount of messages couples and women get, hence the option to filter or delete who they want contacting/meeting them.

At the end of the day its personal choice for each individual to choose what they want.

The banner at the top of the page says fabswingers.com not come in for a free shag and more women than you can shake a stick at

aye, who knows, perhaps some designer glass would help ...............

?? read the banners

Having a blonde moment

Oh gawd! Now folks will think i'm having a go at blondes

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

Didn't realise there was birds on the site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why dont we all just get naked and have some great sex?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i met the sexiest man possible because he made me laugh while i was masturbating on cam with a banana.

If Admin don't use that line in their marketing material, there's simply no justice

pmsl!

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By *andKCouple over a year ago

Norfolk

"Didn't realise there was birds on the site

There are some Canary's

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Didn't realise there was birds on the site

didnt u read my cum tae glasgow post:

we've tonnes a burds up here

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"Didn't realise there was birds on the site

didnt u read my cum tae glasgow post:

we've tonnes a burds up here"

I didn't get passed the a's

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Didn't realise there was birds on the site

Shhhhhh!!!... there are some lemmings on here too

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"Didn't realise there was birds on the site

Shhhhhh!!!... there are some lemmings on here too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i havent had 1 meet yet and im never msged and im sexy as fook

go figure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OK I / we are not looking for single blokes anyway, so you never had a chance, but IF we were then you don't now!!!

One of my BIG turn off’ s is casual obscenity….. it’s one thing to swear when you hit your thumb with a hammer, quite another on a profile or forum message.

Five reasons why I would personally ignore you are in your message... actually six, I hate being refered to as a bird!!

Ditto from me too. The English language is beautiful. If someone can't convey what they feel/mean without effing and blinding every other word they wouldn't be for me.

oh man, hes only having a rant... give him a break!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

bitching about it wont make someone inbox you "fancy a fuck?"

just chat and have a laugh, if you dont get any meets then so be it. if your solely after sex why not go to a club?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

dunno about anything else.....but the OP has certainly left an impression on many after reading this lol

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By *obbytupperMan over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

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By *r-MissCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

As a couple who meet single guys we find that the profile needs to be pretty special for it even to be considered.

First of all a lot of guys don't read profiles, secondly a lot of messages we get just say 'hi how r u?' -which just get deleted. Try and look what couples / women are looking for and when composing a message include the fact that you have read their profile.

Above all just try and persevere and be positive in your messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

i think it was just single guys going on like you are right now with frustrated outbursts that ruined it for some lol

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Looking at your profile, I can see 2 possible problems, although in fairness others may see it differently.

1, you say you are shaven headed, dominant, etc, not every couple are looking for this. I my opinion I'd rather meet someone a bit more on the meeker side.

2, your pics are fine, but all 3 of them essentially show the same thing, nice as it is. A bit more variety might help people get a better appreciation for what you have to offer.

Good luck with this,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP - I'm not going to beat you up about moaning or using some expletives cos I can imagine it can be highly frustrating as a single bloke and I'd probably be feeling like that. Instead I'm going to give you a little advise if you ever do want to meet up with a couple. As a couple wanting single males we get up to 100 messages a day and therefore generally only respond to the very good ones. Here's the do's and don'ts.

1. Do not send one liner messages

2. Do not send a copy and paste message that can apply to everyone.

3. Do include a face pic. Ideally a natural looking one with you smiling.

4. Do show that you have actually read the couple's profile by telling us how u fit our needs.

5. Do explain a little about yourself. We dont want to be looking thru your profile to find out.

6. Don't bother replying to ads that you don't fit the description of what they are looking for.

7. Try to add a little humour.

Take my advice, don't take my advice, but trust me this is the only way you'll get a woman or couple to even blink your way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

forget all of that shit about writing the perfect profile/msg mate.

take some good pics of urself looking as good as poss. use the best 1 as ur pro pic

fact is for 95% the initial attraction will be a physical one. the pic will catch their eye, they`ll browse ur pro because of it and yadda yadda yadda

with ur pro and msgs just get to the point and move on from there accordingly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be honest if that post is indictive of your attitude then it's probably not to difficult to work out why you aren't getting meets..."

I agree with this and people wonder why single guys get bad press!! When I had a 'single bird' profile on here I'd get an average of 50 messages a day every day mainly from worms lol Ms

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I originally joined looking just for sex (OK I admit it!!!). Sent a few messages and quickly realised that it was not going to happen without putting some REAL effort in.

In the end I decided if it happens it happens, if not I enjoy the forums, the chat and the banter the site brings. I do not hold any grudges that the vast majority of my messages are deleted (I am always complimentary by the way!!) and just get on with it. I am sure that I will get my opportunity (eventually), until then enjoy the site!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"forget all of that shit about writing the perfect profile/msg mate.

take some good pics of urself looking as good as poss. use the best 1 as ur pro pic

fact is for 95% the initial attraction will be a physical one. the pic will catch their eye, they`ll browse ur pro because of it and yadda yadda yadda

with ur pro and msgs just get to the point and move on from there accordingly

Couldn't disagree with you more. We get TONS of hot guys messaging us but if they haven't put in a little effort in when they contact us, we skip over. That initial contact has to make us sit up and take notice. It's so mind numbingly boring getting one liner messges.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hi , i have been on 4 months,i am always without excetion polite and respectful,and had no luck ,but i work on the logic their will be some nice lady wanting a decent man ,but it might take me months at this rate.but i carry on because i feel that at least some of the people on here will be here to find a decent chap ,so good hunting ,until then my sexlife will be in hand lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hahaha .... mega tantrum alert!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

boring or not if i like the look of them ill dredge a lil deeper than judging them on a bog standard initial msg

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

look at those tits above

now thats got my attention

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

"forget all of that shit about writing the perfect profile/msg mate.

take some good pics of urself looking as good as poss. use the best 1 as ur pro pic

fact is for 95% the initial attraction will be a physical one. the pic will catch their eye, they`ll browse ur pro because of it and yadda yadda yadda

with ur pro and msgs just get to the point and move on from there accordingly

One thing wrong with this post....written by a guy, how would a guy know what a fem or couple are looking for in a profile?

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

"forget all of that shit about writing the perfect profile/msg mate.

take some good pics of urself looking as good as poss. use the best 1 as ur pro pic

fact is for 95% the initial attraction will be a physical one. the pic will catch their eye, they`ll browse ur pro because of it and yadda yadda yadda

with ur pro and msgs just get to the point and move on from there accordingly

Totally agree.......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"forget all of that shit about writing the perfect profile/msg mate.

take some good pics of urself looking as good as poss. use the best 1 as ur pro pic

fact is for 95% the initial attraction will be a physical one. the pic will catch their eye, they`ll browse ur pro because of it and yadda yadda yadda

with ur pro and msgs just get to the point and move on from there accordingly

Says the man that 7 months in also says this:

"i havent had 1 meet yet"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"forget all of that shit about writing the perfect profile/msg mate.

take some good pics of urself looking as good as poss. use the best 1 as ur pro pic

fact is for 95% the initial attraction will be a physical one. the pic will catch their eye, they`ll browse ur pro because of it and yadda yadda yadda

with ur pro and msgs just get to the point and move on from there accordingly

...and I couldn't agree with you more!!!

We have an unbelievably long list of hot looking guys on our block list. I ain't interested in them if they haven't got the brains or respect to at least compose a personal and interesting message.

It takes less than one minute to read our profile (on average brain speed lol)... if someone can't spare us a minute to see if they 'fit the bill' before messaging, we will block and delete in a split second

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Real life ah?

Bitch ain't it?

You only get out what ya put in

If ya work at it and think about it it will happen

If ya spend ya time moaning and expecting it to come to you ya barking up the wrong tree

My partner gets from fifty to one hundred plus messages a day

The ones that make her laugh get looked at

The ones with attitude or boring get binned

Making women laugh and being nice and friendly is half the battle

How the fuck do you think a short fat fucker with a little dick like me has been swinging fa thirty years lol? Xx

How th

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By *ild Bill Thickcock.Man over a year ago

Wet Beaver Creek

Just when you think you've seen it all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"forget all of that shit about writing the perfect profile/msg mate.

take some good pics of urself looking as good as poss. use the best 1 as ur pro pic

fact is for 95% the initial attraction will be a physical one. the pic will catch their eye, they`ll browse ur pro because of it and yadda yadda yadda

with ur pro and msgs just get to the point and move on from there accordingly

Says the man that 7 months in also says this:

i havent had 1 meet yet

being very honest i can count on 1 hand the number of fems that fit my pref`s that ive come across.

but hey im patient and im not desperate and i havent posted a rant thread yet

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"OP - I'm not going to beat you up about moaning or using some expletives cos I can imagine it can be highly frustrating as a single bloke and I'd probably be feeling like that. Instead I'm going to give you a little advise if you ever do want to meet up with a couple. As a couple wanting single males we get up to 100 messages a day and therefore generally only respond to the very good ones. Here's the do's and don'ts.

1. Do not send one liner messages

2. Do not send a copy and paste message that can apply to everyone.

3. Do include a face pic. Ideally a natural looking one with you smiling.

4. Do show that you have actually read the couple's profile by telling us how u fit our needs.

5. Do explain a little about yourself. We dont want to be looking thru your profile to find out.

6. Don't bother replying to ads that you don't fit the description of what they are looking for.

7. Try to add a little humour.

Take my advice, don't take my advice, but trust me this is the only way you'll get a woman or couple to even blink your way."

Obviously these are your do's and don'ts , others have different do's and don'ts for them..

The very first meet we ever had was from a man who mailed one line that got us laughing , we mailed a bit more, met up and had a great time.

We never ask for pics as we like to cam to show face and see face.

Your number 4 on your do list is a must...but I am wondering why you think you shouldn't be doing the same, as the number 5 on your Do's list says you won't be reading it and they have to explain themselves instead.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Is it just totally pointless for a single bloke or what? Because a legion of ugly socially retarded fuckwits have basically ruined it for the rest of us?

Exactly how many message does the average single bird get on this site?

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

Probably not what you are saying

The simple answer is...loads of single men, not so many couples and single ladies....it means you have to stand out with either pics/ profile or both.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"forget all of that shit about writing the perfect profile/msg mate.

take some good pics of urself looking as good as poss. use the best 1 as ur pro pic

fact is for 95% the initial attraction will be a physical one. the pic will catch their eye, they`ll browse ur pro because of it and yadda yadda yadda

with ur pro and msgs just get to the point and move on from there accordingly

One thing wrong with this post....written by a guy, how would a guy know what a fem or couple are looking for in a profile?"

The response someone gives to your message largely reflects how they feel on the day too, so if they don't want to party then the messager gets a wave-off. You've really not got to dredge too deep into the reasoning of yay's and nays sometimes, and certainly never look from within for an answer to someone else's response...

Wolf

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"Is it just totally pointless for a single bloke or what? Because a legion of ugly socially retarded fuckwits have basically ruined it for the rest of us?

Exactly how many message does the average single bird get on this site?

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

Why are you blaming others for your failings, the socially retarded I won't use the otherwords that form that part of your sentence... The messages that have gone before you should .. 'if you had the skills' no it would make your message stand out....no guarantee if it stands out because the message you send is (unless in response to a wink or other communication ) un-solicited , liken it to junk mail through your letter box , spam on your email, how much do you read , the bit you read how much do you respond to... same on here for the single ladies and the couples., you're spam, junk mail, I'm thankful for the socially inept, my unsolicited mail has a greater chance,,,

develop your own secret handshake mine is of no use to you..nor is anyone else's

From one single bloke , who's gorgeous, sexy humorous , Hung like a horse ( well 3 out of 4 are fibs ) Good luck,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

1. Do not send one liner messages

2. Do not send a copy and paste message that can apply to everyone.

3. Do include a face pic. Ideally a natural looking one with you smiling.

4. Do show that you have actually read the couple's profile by telling us how u fit our needs.

5. Do explain a little about yourself. We dont want to be looking thru your profile to find out.

6. Don't bother replying to ads that you don't fit the description of what they are looking for.

7. Try to add a little humour.

Take my advice, don't take my advice, but trust me this is the only way you'll get a woman or couple to even blink your way.

Obviously these are your do's and don'ts , others have different do's and don'ts for them..

The very first meet we ever had was from a man who mailed one line that got us laughing , we mailed a bit more, met up and had a great time.

We never ask for pics as we like to cam to show face and see face.

We never browse for people. We are only looking for singles, mainly single men, and they always come to us. We've made it pretty clear in our profile what we want from a meet so if they have already read our profile why would I go explaining myself again??

And them explaining a bit of what they're about in the initial message makes sure that we actually read what they're about rather than them taking pot luck on if we will click thru to their profile or not, and if it's a one liner we generally wont.

I do agree with you that sometimes a very funny one liner can get a response from us too, but they are highly rare!!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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I think you missed my point, I didn't say you had to explain yourself...but never mind x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think you missed my point, I didn't say you had to explain yourself...but never mind x"

What was the point then? x

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple over a year ago

somewhere out there

"i wish people would stop thinking a post on the forums is reflective of getting meets FFS, getta grip!(as Ive said in another post!)

maybe it takes someone to msg the guy and not belittle him, give him some experience in how they got started...

well fuck me Im patting myself on the back"
extra special pat for bein humane caring and showin sense xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try tapping random girls in the pub on the shoulder...assuming you dont get glassed,punched or thrown out yes,you might get crappy d*unken sex.

Thats the major thing most men who complain don't get...yes i could get pissed and pull...i have in my youth,but the reason i,and many of the women are on here is because we want better than that.

If you are not succeeding you have to ask are you offering anything better than i/we could get any night of the week in nilla land?

i met the sexiest man possible because he made me laugh while i was masturbating on cam with a banana...be yourself...but honestly consider how much luck that bring u anyway.

Ok. But that's my point, I can pull 'out there'. Can't really even get anyone to reply to a polite 'hello' on here though lol.

Which is why I'm wondering how and why it works so differently on here? And why most other single fellas even bother with it?

In all honesty, if I was a single guy the last place I'd try my luck is on a swinging site.

The odds are stacked far too high against you, just check out the new members or Introduction forum, hundreds of new single guys every day.

No, myself I'd just go to places where I'd hope to find women with similar interests to myself.

From reading the all too frequent disillusioned posts from single males there's no way I'd wish to add my disappointment to that rapidly growing pile.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Try tapping random girls in the pub on the shoulder...assuming you dont get glassed,punched or thrown out yes,you might get crappy d*unken sex.

Thats the major thing most men who complain don't get...yes i could get pissed and pull...i have in my youth,but the reason i,and many of the women are on here is because we want better than that.

If you are not succeeding you have to ask are you offering anything better than i/we could get any night of the week in nilla land?

i met the sexiest man possible because he made me laugh while i was masturbating on cam with a banana...be yourself...but honestly consider how much luck that bring u anyway.

Ok. But that's my point, I can pull 'out there'. Can't really even get anyone to reply to a polite 'hello' on here though lol.

Which is why I'm wondering how and why it works so differently on here? And why most other single fellas even bother with it?

Then why not do just that?

Exactly what i was going to say...what are you here for that you can't get out there...and what works out there that doesnt in here?

i would also be interested in the d*unk/sober aspect...

If you are interested in what for a want of a better word i will call the swinging lifestyle,get to socials.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't understand this place...

the problem is people don't take the time to look around and read other profiles forums before getting the hump

Attitude is key in aprroach etc

something for everyone just takes time.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"i met the sexiest man possible because he made me laugh while i was masturbating on cam with a banana.

If Admin don't use that line in their marketing material, there's simply no justice

If they do i want royalties...or at least a fuck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i met the sexiest man possible because he made me laugh while i was masturbating on cam with a banana.

If Admin don't use that line in their marketing material, there's simply no justice

If they do i want royalties...or at least a fuck

Brilliant!! Even though thats one fruit ruled out of my 5 a day after that mental picture!!! Ms

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By *ilkchocolate87Man over a year ago

sw london

I do tend to have more luck with people outside of London.. Despite living in London.. which is sometimes annoying

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"i met the sexiest man possible because he made me laugh while i was masturbating on cam with a banana.

If Admin don't use that line in their marketing material, there's simply no justice

If they do i want royalties...or at least a fuck

Brilliant!! Even though thats one fruit ruled out of my 5 a day after that mental picture!!! Ms

How did you know it developed into the 5 a day fridge raid...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I think he raises a few interesting points .

The thing is that in both online sites and indeed swinging clubs / parties, single blokes are the bottom of the food chain. Scavengers hoping to have a feel here , a stroke there, and joining the queue for the rare blowjob, and hoping the willing female hasn't got locked jaw by the time its your turn to have some fun.

There are some genuine people on here, but also a lot who play games.

I recently had a couple wink at me. On their status they had written ' looking to meet male today'.

Having had a wink I winked back, and so it went on, until I wrote to them. I wasn't being vulgar, just a regular mail, saying hi thanks for the winks, I see you're looking for a meet etc' .

They then sent me a friends request, which I accepted.

I asked them which part of London they were based, and they wrote back telling me, and also saying ' we want bareback. We see you have safe sex'.

When I tried to reply, I couldn't. They had blocked me.. all within the space of about 3 mins.

I often write a nice mail to a female or couple I think sound interesting, and more often than not the mail gets deleted. In the end you can understand why people just copy and paste rather than taking the time to write, because a lot of the time, you're totally wasting your time.

A polite no thanks or we're no longer looking goes a long way, but this obviously isn't the way things are done round here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lets be honest, we all think we're better and more respectful than the next man and in most cases maybe we are but thats neither here nor there.

The problem is the ratio of men to single women and to be honest I pity the single women on here because from the very moment they join they are bombarded with posts from single men, some respectful, some not, some full of shit and not an honest reflection of the person at all

Fact is women should be careful on sites like this, trouble is that they are careful and therefor don't reply to most men, so men increase their chances by Copying and Pasting messages to women, thereby increasing the number of messages a woman gets and reduces the chances even greater of a reply, not just for himself, but for everyone else too, sad fact but there isnt enough women on here to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" sad fact but there isnt enough women on here to be honest"

Gangbang shift rota then xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"sad fact but there isnt enough women on here to be honest"

Well I am trying to grace as many men with my presence, but I'm only human!

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Is it just totally pointless for a single bloke or what? Because a legion of ugly socially retarded fuckwits have basically ruined it for the rest of us?

Exactly how many message does the average single bird get on this site?

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

just as well i have just gotten in from work... i really can't be bothered and i am sure that people have said what i was going to say....

but heck... here is my rule of thumb..... its a simple one...

If the "whinge" is longer than "profile"... maybe that's a good place to start...

if "whinge" is longer than "profile"... sorry... no help from me...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you a classic case of ' Fabicide' where the unhappy moron has just killed all chances he had for getting a meet for himself. AH well another one bites the dust.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you a classic case of ' Fabicide' where the unhappy moron has just killed all chances he had for getting a meet for himself. AH well another one bites the dust.

Nah... this fella will be fine so long as he takes some of the feedback on board

...only 1% of the site users bother with the forums according to admin.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you a classic case of ' Fabicide' where the unhappy moron has just killed all chances he had for getting a meet for himself. AH well another one bites the dust.

I saw the word "fabicide" and shat myself then.... glad you clarified the meaning....

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By *arnayguyMan over a year ago

Durham Tees

If the "whinge" is longer than "profile"... maybe that's a good place to start...

Perfectly put and the best place to start in a place with so much competition.

Five line profile but a five paragraph whinge?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

he wants a meet ... wow, he must think it's xmas or something

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Personally I think he raises a few interesting points .

There are some genuine people on here, but also a lot who play .

I recently had a couple wink at me. On their status they had written ' looking to meet male today'.

Having had a wink I winked back, and so it went on, until I wrote to them. I wasn't being vulgar, just a regular mail, saying hi thanks for the winks, I see you're looking for a meet etc' .

They then sent me a friends request, which I accepted.

I asked them which part of London they were based, and they wrote back telling me, and also saying ' we want bareback. We see you have safe sex'.

When I tried to reply, I couldn't. They had blocked me.. all within the space of about 3 mins.

A polite no thanks or we're no longer looking goes a long way, but this obviously isn't the way things are done round here.

number 1...blocking isnt rude

number2...admin themselves say not to expect a no thanks reply.Consider the no reply all the info you need.Do you reply to every bit of junk mail you get?

number3...you didn't meet the couples criteria...what did you expect,that they would change just for you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you a classic case of ' Fabicide' where the unhappy moron has just killed all chances he had for getting a meet for himself. AH well another one bites the dust.

Nah... this fella will be fine so long as he takes some of the feedback on board

...only 1% of the site users bother with the forums according to admin."

I was going to say only with people in the forums

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you a classic case of ' Fabicide' where the unhappy moron has just killed all chances he had for getting a meet for himself. AH well another one bites the dust.

Nah... this fella will be fine so long as he takes some of the feedback on board

...only 1% of the site users bother with the forums according to admin.

I was going to say only with people in the forums

There are no stats on reading but not commenting...far more read ,as i know from chat and clubs.Sometimes i am surprised when ppl recognize me

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"Is it just totally pointless for a single bloke or what? Because a legion of ugly socially retarded fuckwits have basically ruined it for the rest of us?

Exactly how many message does the average single bird get on this site?

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

To be perfectly honest your post makes it absolutely clear that you really don't get what Fab is about - you're mistaken on so many levels it's difficult to know where to start

All you're after is to get some cheap and easy vanilla sex - and get it for YOU - you make that very clear.

But people don't come here for that - especially not single women who can get that anywhere they like any time they like and get it for THEMSELVES.

You're trying to sell apples to people who want oranges.

There's no harm in a bit of harmless shaghunting - but fab just isnt the best place for it - try regular dating sites - you'll get 10 times the action.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Is it just totally pointless for a single bloke or what? Because a legion of ugly socially retarded fuckwits have basically ruined it for the rest of us?

Exactly how many message does the average single bird get on this site?

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

To be perfectly honest your post makes it absolutely clear that you really don't get what Fab is about - you're mistaken on so many levels it's difficult to know where to start

All you're after is to get some cheap and easy vanilla sex - and get it for YOU - you make that very clear.

But people don't come here for that - especially not single women who can get that anywhere they like any time they like and get it for THEMSELVES.

You're trying to sell apples to people who want oranges.

There's no harm in a bit of harmless shaghunting - but fab just isnt the best place for it - try regular dating sites - you'll get 10 times the action.

Every post you make i want your strange location to include a via hexham

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

Every post you make i want your strange location to include a via hexham

I might ...... if I knew where the blinking flip Hexham was

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

Every post you make i want your strange location to include a via hexham

I might ...... if I knew where the blinking flip Hexham was

30-minutes from nowhere ,as far as you can go in engand

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

Well they start out by calling women "birds", then they use an expletive every other word, ignore the fact that there are about 100 single guys to every woman and couple and then moan a bit when even though they have had some meets in the short 4 months that they have been members, they think they deserve more....

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By *oournsMan over a year ago

Suck it up. If you get frustrated with the site, write them down, dont put them on the forum, ffs. It does not help.

Once a week im close too packing it in, and the first two weeks were hell. But you have two options. Quit or persevere, whining here wont do it.

I cant give advice, because im not sure what works, because people react differently

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it just totally pointless for a single bloke or what? Because a legion of ugly socially retarded fuckwits have basically ruined it for the rest of us?

Exactly how many message does the average single bird get on this site?

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

well for a start, and this had probably already been said but the threads to long to read thro lol stop swearing every other word, because you just come over as one of the 'fuckwits' your moaning about

you say your polite? really?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

give that man a gold star!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont think you would get laid by tapping women on the shoulder...more likely laid out!!

If your attitude is coming across as .. 'alright babe fancy a quick shag at mine' then it wont work!! As it sounds like your _iew of women is that they are objects, a piece of meat or as some men would say 'piece of ass'!!! You need to CHILL OUT!!!! Be yourself and just chat!!! Remember WOMEN HAVE BRAINS!!! Appeal to a womans brain and your half way there!!!!!

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By *itianmandyWoman over a year ago

london

"think the swearing comments are maybe a bit blown out of proportion,considering they are aimed at, read here:-

fuckwits

then theres a fuck,and a fucking

if u were in glasgow we'd be conversing like this over dinner"

..but we're not in Glasgow, the OP's audience is a universal one. He's complaining about his lack of success here, so won't improve his chances by adopting language that doesn't have a universal appeal.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also it helps if you are her 'type' and come across as genuine!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i think the problem a lot of people have on here is they try to hard to find meets

Because every time they log on they are focused on mailing every women they fancy and getting a meet they get disheartened when nothing comes of it

The amount of guys who mail me and simply put....what you lookig for? and its a question that always throws me because im not looking or anything, i never am, i log on when im bored and have hour or whatever to spare, to read mail, go thro the forums and if im really bored flash my tits on cam lmao but seriously never come on 'looking' if someone catches my eye i will mail them and if a meet comes from it all well and good but if not i'll be back on another day for another flash

I personally think its must easier to meet people you want to meet by not trying to meet them, if that makes sence, by chatting normally in the chat room, or having a laugh with them on here but not mailing them asking for a meet, it make take a little longer to get to meet them but if you get on on here the chances are they will mail you privately at some point and as soon as they do you know you have their interest

But thats just my opinion, everyone does things different

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

in fact to most of the above....who the FUCK are u arguing with??????-the original poster?...I mailed him very very early on, explaining alternatives(a received and noted response)... all U lot are doing is shoving in a tuppence worth.Ive seen worse 'attitude' come from various 'established' couples, who have been banned for posts etc etc etc

did he have chance to come back nd maybe say much...not really....because almost EVERYBODY turned into a nasty parade....basically the forums are for me getting out of hand by a minority type of user on the site, and yes its pretty much aimed at single men(see many thread opposite above below and sideways), now for a fact I dont give a fuck as I have my own playtime outwith the need for the forums like alot of u,(i really expected better from a group who basically are self defined as being in the educating side of the site?). I think I've traversed well enough through the forums and basically again I've said to many friends about using the forums(as i stopped using chat)and they have fuck all clue about the forums at all ,really FUCK all.its a MINORITY part of fab whether u like it or not!

so lets invite some new people here....what do you think they will see?

well I'm not going to answer it, you pretty much know yourself

and btw ive been in chat all nite having a good laugh mainly, really havent sat here thinking of some witty retorts ,facts and figures...i just came in and again like another post tonnes of comments saying this guys basically never getting any meets if others read this forum post.

grow up and look at the site properly, and think of ways to improve having more people here(forums) without the shite mongering comments.

I was converted to forumism, but sorta think its really become something of a trolling spectacle IMO

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lets be honest most of us guys want to be wanted by women sumtimes were lucky sumtimes we aint if you dont send messages you dont get that menny replies so we all seem like saddos but not all are

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By *itianmandyWoman over a year ago

london

"forget all of that shit about writing the perfect profile/msg mate.

take some good pics of urself looking as good as poss. use the best 1 as ur pro pic

fact is for 95% the initial attraction will be a physical one. the pic will catch their eye, they`ll browse ur pro because of it and yadda yadda yadda

with ur pro and msgs just get to the point and move on from there accordingly

..if the pics are perfect and the profile isn't..men come on here complaining about their lack of success yadda, yadda, yadda.

It's a free shop window, no man would ever lose points by having a well crafted profile, yet he's setting himself up for failure if he doesn't.

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By *itianmandyWoman over a year ago

london

"in fact to most of the above....who the FUCK are u arguing with??????-the original poster?...I mailed him very very early on, explaining alternatives(a received and noted response)... all U lot are doing is shoving in a tuppence worth.Ive seen worse 'attitude' come from various 'established' couples, who have been banned for posts etc etc etc

so lets invite some new people here....what do you think they will see?

well I'm not going to answer it, you pretty much know yourself

grow up and look at the site properly, and think of ways to improve having more people here(forums) without the shite mongering comments.

I was converted to forumism, but sorta think its really become something of a trolling spectacle IMO"

Posters are just adding their reflections, which are no more or less valuable than yours.

If women here are offended by colourful language and don't say so then the OP continues in that messaging style ad infinitum, unaware that a simple change of language might harvest more positive results.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"think the swearing comments are maybe a bit blown out of proportion,considering they are aimed at, read here:-

fuckwits

then theres a fuck,and a fucking

if u were in glasgow we'd be conversing like this over dinner

SEE this part about that being common place in glasgow....should I have added a LOL or a smiley face to make it sound like a joke....please

oops LOL

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

so lets invite some new people here....what do you think they will see?

well I'm not going to answer it, you pretty much know yourself

grow up and look at the site properly, and think of ways to improve having more people here(forums) without the shite mongering comments.

I was converted to forumism, but sorta think its really become something of a trolling spectacle IMO

Posters are just adding their reflections, which are no more or less valuable than yours.

Rflections?-I see target, target target, and I dont have any issues with my fab time....i have issues with people thinkng they can basically come ut with endless pish...there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lets be honest most of us guys want to be wanted by women sumtimes were lucky sumtimes we aint if you dont send messages you dont get that menny replies so we all seem like saddos but not all are

I do think single guys do have one thing in their favour tho

Because there are so many single guy from women and couple to choose from at least when a single guy does get a meet he knows that they want to meet him as apposed to any guy, that some woman/couple has gone thro their mail or looked thro profiles and chosen him to meet

Where as i get bloody hundreds of offers ever week, as do all women, how many guy who mail me do you think has picked me out as an individual that they want to meet compaired to the amount who just see me as a woman so i'll do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I might ...... if I knew where the blinking flip Hexham was

North(ish) East(ish)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Heres my twopeneth. This is a fantasy site. Guys do.you think that you are someones fantasy figure. if I am I'd really like to meet the sick bugger. Imagine you are 30,good looking abd a billionare. How many women on this site would you be interested in,a few maybe but not many. This is the posistion of the females and couples on here,as a rule they get to choose. So really,complaining makes as much sense as shouting at the weather. Its just how it is. Do what I do, enjoy the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Heres my twopeneth. This is a fantasy site. Guys do.you think that you are someones fantasy figure. if I am I'd really like to meet the sick bugger. Imagine you are 30,good looking abd a billionare. How many women on this site would you be interested in,a few maybe but not many. This is the posistion of the females and couples on here,as a rule they get to choose. So really,complaining makes as much sense as shouting at the weather. Its just how it is. Do what I do, enjoy the forums.

kind of agree besides the, they rule they get to choose bit

i get messages ignored too, i get guys turn me down, all because im female i can not meet anyone i like

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By *ust_for_laughsCouple over a year ago

Hinckley

Specifically says in our profile that we've got all the single guys we need and if you mall us, we probably won't reply, unless it's a general 'like the photos' type mall.

Doesn't stop the buggers though !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

give that man a gold star!!!!

Give him two

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By *kip123Man over a year ago

Barry

As a single guy myself i can understand the original writers frustration but. come on guys, take it like a man, ofcourse we will get rejected and kicked back. Thats life either on this site or in the big wide world. Writing or using The "f" word in normal conversation is not acceptable and only shows disrespect for other people. Be like the majority of men on this site, just keep trying. In the meantime just keep banging your head up the wall. Someone will come along one day and take pity on us (i hope)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Specifically says in our profile that we've got all the single guys we need and if you mall us, we probably won't reply, unless it's a general 'like the photos' type mall.

Doesn't stop the buggers though !

It doesn't. The latest message I got was from a black Dom, into gangbanging with his mates who wanted to meet me!

Now, if only he'd bothered to even read the first paragraph of my profile...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Every post you make i want your strange location to include a via hexham

I might ...... if I knew where the blinking flip Hexham was

You can drive via Nottingham to get there......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

not had any meets off here but have had meets at clubs and really enjoyed them and enjoyed socails i have attended through here so to OP relax and go with the flow and go to your local club and some socails and chat and be friendly and you might be surprised have fun

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Rflections?-I see target, target target, and I dont have any issues with my fab time....i have issues with people thinkng they can basically come ut with endless pish...there"

but then the problem is that it comes across that your "opinion" is more important that everyone elses "pish".... and that a lot of people took time to put across their opinion and for to just dismiss it comes across as really disingenuous... and condescending

but heck.. do you care what i think... nope.. wrong set of equipment! but a lot of women and couples have said the same thing, so you can't you the lets all jump on newbie line....

the fact is that forums are going to give a wide range of opinions... sometimes you are going to be in the majority... sometimes you are going to be in the minority... but half of the key to any forum is listening... you may not agree with any of it... but is calling peoples contributions "pish" constructive.... no!

do i think the OP has taken any of it in... well, he's not been back, but i am sure he's been reading.....

did he make a great 1st and 2nd impression... not really... but i hope that in a way he has learnt from what others have said... all that "pish" you were talking about!

he doesn't have to become a new man if that is not him... but maybe, just maybe this thread has opened his eyes a little, maybe shattered a few illusions, maybe made him think "what can i do to change my approach"

but in the end that has to come from him... lets see if OP does come back.. i hope he does... lets see if the next impression he makes is a better one, and not because he pandered to everyone... that he actually took in what was being said.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"forget all of that shit about writing the perfect profile/msg mate.

take some good pics of urself looking as good as poss. use the best 1 as ur pro pic

fact is for 95% the initial attraction will be a physical one. the pic will catch their eye, they`ll browse ur pro because of it and yadda yadda yadda

with ur pro and msgs just get to the point and move on from there accordingly

One thing wrong with this post....written by a guy, how would a guy know what a fem or couple are looking for in a profile?"

everyones different, for every couple and woman that goes off message content, im sure theres just as many who will let bog standard polite message slide if the profile is one that makes them go mmmmmmm yes please!

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

And what exactly are some of these single blokes on here saying and doing that's given the rest of us such a bad rep?

...."

Yadda yadda yadda... it's always someone else's fault isn't it

What another person (or people) send has feck all to do with whether I'll reply to the message I am currently reading.

If you get no joy it's down to you.

Whether that's because of your messages, who you are hitting on or whatever.

Dickheads don't make the good ones look bad.... they actually make them stand out more from the crowd.

God bless the dickheads for making choices easier.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

lets see if the next impression he makes is a better one, and not because he pandered to everyone... that he actually took in what was being said....."

Sadly that won't help him as people won't let others post without constant comments about previous posts / threads and then they leave , come back and it starts all over again when people realise they were here before.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

To the OP....hopefully some of what has been said helps you look at things in a way that will help you get what you are looking for.

I think this has run it's course now.

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